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Ready to find out which types of men to avoid for a happy relationship? In this video, we break down 6 types of guys you should steer clear of—using real-life stories and Biblical wisdom! Want to know if you've dated one of these? Tune in, laugh, reflect, and get empowered! Don't forget to subscribe for more advice and tell us in the comments which type surprised you most! #relationships #dating #advice #bible #love
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0:00 - Introduction: Relationship Warnings
0:37 - Unequally Yoked Relationships
2:00 - The Immature Man
5:13 - The Jealous Man
7:37 - The Passive Man
9:39 - The Womanizer and Relationship Foundations
14:43 - The Lost Man: Lack of Direction
18:01 - The Liar: Dangers of Dishonesty
👉 This channel was created in collaboration with https://www.youtube.com/@prantoniojunior
0:00 - Introduction: Relationship Warnings
0:37 - Unequally Yoked Relationships
2:00 - The Immature Man
5:13 - The Jealous Man
7:37 - The Passive Man
9:39 - The Womanizer and Relationship Foundations
14:43 - The Lost Man: Lack of Direction
18:01 - The Liar: Dangers of Dishonesty
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00:00Let's go everyone, so I'm going to tell you.
00:03The 6 types of men that women should stay away from, you should never go after this
00:08type of men, because you'll end up suffering, unfortunately.
00:12We have to understand one thing.
00:14When you're starting a relationship, everything seems perfect brothers.
00:18Everything is perfect, everything is beautiful.
00:20You just go to the ice cream shop, you go for a walk in the square, everything is beautiful,
00:25but there is no conflict.
00:27Sometimes, there aren't any difficulties yet, or you don't bring them into your relationship,
00:31because you are at the beginning.
00:33But later on, that's when things start to get tough.
00:36And there was a video I recorded on my YouTube channel, talking about this, about being unequally
00:41yoked.
00:41And I said, guys, let's be careful with being unequally yoked.
00:45It's not me saying this, it's the Bible itself, the word of God.
00:49And then many women, brothers and sisters, said the following, oh pastor, that's prejudice
00:54against other religions, because in this video I explained that being unequally yoked,
00:59it's about the religious aspect.
01:01Yes, if you are a Christian dating someone from another religion.
01:05In the beginning, as I said, there won't be any difference, because you won't go deep
01:10in the relationship.
01:12But over time, this will get in the way.
01:16Because the other person won't want you to go to church.
01:19One day, you'll want to go to a prayer vigil, the other person won't want to.
01:24Then it will start to get complicated.
01:26The other person will start to think that you're taking God too seriously, as if that's
01:31a bad thing.
01:31You know?
01:32So, let's be careful with being unequally yoked, okay?
01:36But now, I'm not going to talk about that.
01:38I want to talk about these types of men.
01:41And I'm going to mention men of God from the Bible.
01:43But I want to make it very clear here.
01:45I'm not speaking badly about them.
01:47Alright, I'm talking about the wrong choice they made.
01:50So my criticism isn't against the person.
01:54In fact, we can never judge people.
01:56We have to judge people's actions.
01:59Okay?
02:00So, the first man every woman needs to run away from, she needs to stand her ground,
02:06is the immature man.
02:07It's the man, that man-child, you know?
02:10The man who hasn't learned to take responsibility.
02:13He was spoiled his whole life.
02:15Maybe he was an only child.
02:17And this man now, he runs away from responsibilities.
02:20I remember that once, a young woman came to me at a church retreat during carnival, and we
02:25were there seeking God.
02:26And she said, Pastor, I really, really need to talk to you.
02:30You know what it is?
02:31I just got married, and ever since we got back from our honeymoon, my husband won't stop
02:36playing video games.
02:39He stays holed up with that video game.
02:41He won't let go of it at all.
02:42He doesn't help me with the house chores, and he's not showing up for me either.
02:47Brothers, do you know what that is?
03:15So brothers, you who are listening to me, you men.
03:19Then, let's leave childish things behind, okay?
03:22It's time to take responsibility.
03:25We are the heads of our households, and we need to understand our role.
03:32Because marriage, brother, only works when both fulfill their roles.
03:36The man has to be the head, has to take the lead.
03:39The man has to be responsible, has to take care of his wife, just as Jesus takes care
03:44of the church.
03:45That's what is written in the Bible.
03:46And the woman, she has to support the man.
03:49The woman has to respect the man.
03:52And guys, there is a man in the Bible who became a great man, who was the prophet Jeremiah.
03:59But when God called him for a great work, I want to show you that he made excuses to God.
04:05And that's something we shouldn't do, make excuses, okay?
04:09Jeremiah 1 verse 6.
04:11Look at what is written.
04:13Before I formed you in the womb, I chose you.
04:16Before you were born, I set you apart and appointed you as a prophet to the nations.
04:21That's what God said.
04:22But I said, Sovereign Lord, I don't know how to speak, for I am too young.
04:28But the Lord said to me, Do not say you are too young.
04:32To everyone I send you to, you will go and say everything I command you.
04:36Amen?
04:37So, that was Jeremiah's excuse.
04:40He said, I'm still too young.
04:43So, girls, women, be very careful with these boys out there.
04:48Because when you want a man, maybe they won't be ready.
04:52And remember that anyone can change.
04:56If you're a wife and you're already married, pray for your husband.
05:00Show him the attitude he should have.
05:02And as I said, right?
05:03Have wisdom.
05:05Be a wise woman, a prudent woman, because she builds up her home.
05:10Amen?
05:11So, this is the first type of man.
05:13The second man that every woman needs to get away from as quickly as possible is the jealous
05:19man.
05:19He's the man who is excessively jealous.
05:23Of course, having a little bit of jealousy shows care, attention, love and affection.
05:28But when it goes beyond the limit, then it starts to get complicated, right?
05:33And these can have serious consequences.
05:36Brothers, folks, the man who is extremely jealous is a violent man.
05:41How many out there are so jealous that they resort to physical aggression?
05:47So, be careful with this man, the extremely jealous man.
05:50And of course, you'll only find this out over time.
05:53And that's why I'm in favor of dating seriously and intentionally, alright?
05:57I'm not talking about the physical side, ok brothers?
06:00I'm saying this.
06:01Get to know the person well.
06:04Involve them with your family.
06:05Because a person doesn't just marry their spouse.
06:08They marry their spouse's family too.
06:12So, see how they are, how this person is, when you get together with a friend, with a
06:17female friend.
06:18Of course, now you have to make a relationship a priority.
06:21I remember that when I met Thais, there was a time she didn't like it because I was used
06:26to hanging out with some female friends.
06:28There was nothing wrong with it.
06:30I saw them and I still see them as sisters in Christ.
06:34Because we used to pray together before.
06:36We used to seek God.
06:37But Thais, she felt jealous about that because I went to meet those girls at the beauty salon
06:42and there were only women there.
06:46In short, I had to give it up brothers.
06:48I had to renounce that out of love for Thais, out of respect for her.
06:53I know that for me it was nothing.
06:55But for her, it was something that hurt.
06:58And I usually say that the best way to say I love you is to stop doing what displeases
07:02the other person.
07:04That's the best way to say I love you.
07:06Alright?
07:08So, lack of trust can cause fights.
07:11And if there's one thing that's the foundation of a relationship, it's trust, alright?
07:16Look at what is written in Proverbs, chapter 6, verse 34.
07:21Jealousy stirs up a husband's fury and he will show no mercy when he takes revenge.
07:26So it's just like I said, be very careful with this kind of man.
07:31Of course, anyone can change.
07:33So if there is hope, pray for this person, show them their mistake.
07:37But if this person doesn't want to change and you aren't married yet, you...
07:43I believe you have to get out, ok?
07:45And let's go guys.
07:47This...
07:47The third type of man that every woman, this one, let me tell you something, this type
07:52of man, he ruins everything, destroys the relationship.
07:57It's the passive man.
07:59In other words, the man who doesn't know how to stand up for himself.
08:03You know?
08:03That man who's always on the defensive, doesn't do anything.
08:07He doesn't defend his wife, doesn't defend his girlfriend.
08:09This man, he... he's that guy who stays quiet.
08:14He doesn't argue.
08:16I know women like to talk about the relationship, right?
08:18I'm a very calm, very quiet person.
08:21And I'll confess something to you.
08:23One time, Thais argued with me so much that I ended up falling asleep, guys.
08:29It wasn't out of spite at all, but it's just that I don't like arguments.
08:34And I'm a calmer person, but at the same time, thank God, I've always had this sense
08:39of responsibility and of taking charge.
08:42Of standing up, taking the lead, you know?
08:45And an example of a man in the Bible who failed to act was Adam.
08:50The Bible says that Eve was walking in the garden and Adam was there near her.
08:55And the serpent tempted Eve.
08:57The serpent deceived her, made her eat the fruit.
09:01And Adam, he didn't take on his role of leadership.
09:04And at that moment, he failed to act.
09:07He simply did nothing and he even fell into the hole along with her.
09:13So we must be very careful because this man, he did nothing to stop it.
09:19And when the person doesn't do anything to try to save the relationship, to take the lead,
09:26to make decisions, they start letting things go wrong.
09:32So you, as a man, you can avoid a lot of suffering when you step up as a man, got
09:37it?
09:39So let's go guys, this is the third type of man, it's the passive man that every woman
09:44should avoid.
09:45The fourth man, I wrote down here, is the womanizer.
09:49This one is complicated, huh?
09:51And let me tell you, there are a lot of womanizers in the church.
09:55So be very careful if you're a woman and want to find a man of God.
09:59Pay close attention to his past relationships, to how often, you know.
10:06Like every week he's got a new girlfriend.
10:08And it's really important for you to look at his history too, right?
10:13And a womanizer is a man who doesn't have any commitment.
10:17So usually he's that guy who is a smooth talker.
10:21He knows how to seduce.
10:23How to use the right words.
10:24He is used by the devil to make a lot of sisters fall into sin and then he just walks
10:30away.
10:30So, be very careful with this kind of man.
10:33And an example of this in the Bible was Solomon.
10:36The Bible says that this man married a thousand women.
10:39Can you imagine that, guys?
10:41Imagine a thousand mothers-in-law nagging you.
10:45I'm just kidding, guys.
10:47I always joke about mothers-in-law.
10:49But I have no reason to say anything bad about my mother-in-law, Lucimere.
10:53Because she takes care of me.
10:55Look, even my friends say, Juninho, man, God blessed you.
10:59Because when I get there, she already prepares a box of chocolates for me.
11:03She asks what I want for dinner.
11:04So I just have to thank my mother-in-law.
11:07But getting back to talking about womanizing men, right?
11:11In Solomon's time, polygamy, that is, being able to have several women, was a common practice.
11:18It never had God's approval.
11:20God never allowed that.
11:22Never.
11:22Sorry.
11:23God was never pleased with that.
11:25And in the New Testament, the Bible says that the man must be the husband of only one woman.
11:31But nowadays, brothers, we know that unfortunately, right?
11:35It's very hard to find men who are committed, who are truly faithful.
11:39But they do exist, you know?
11:42You who are betrayed, you who are very disappointed, know that there are men of God who are praying
11:49every day, wanting to find a woman of God.
11:52Maybe there isn't one in your church.
11:54Maybe you'll have a bit of difficulty finding someone like that, but there definitely is.
12:01And the hope I had when I was single was that God had someone for me.
12:05I didn't know where she was, but I trusted and I believed against hope.
12:10And that has to be your decision.
12:13I will wait on the Lord.
12:14Of course, you can't completely close your heart.
12:17Because if an opportunity comes up, sometimes it won't be the way you expected.
12:22But God, He knows what's best for us, right?
12:26So God, He can put people in front of you.
12:29He can show you options that are a good match for you.
12:33The Bible says in Psalm 25 that God instructs us in the way we should go if we fear God.
12:42So God won't choose for you, but He will instruct you.
12:46He might sometimes put someone there in the church.
12:49Or you will have to go after it and you will find people who match your profile.
12:54Then you will analyze the characteristics and you will see if it works out or not, okay?
12:59I usually say that a relationship needs to have three things, revelation, emotion and it
13:08also has to involve reason.
13:10Pay attention, emotion, reason and revelation.
13:15Emotion because you...
13:16I'm not sure if I said it right, I don't know if I got confused here, but emotion first because
13:21you have to see if you feel something, okay?
13:24You have to pay attention to whether there are feelings.
13:26It doesn't help if the person is godly, but you don't feel anything for them.
13:30And I say this because a lot of people make mistakes in this.
13:33The woman who wants so much a man of God, that when she finds one, she doesn't even think
13:38if that man really attracts her, if...
13:41If she feels anything for him, you know?
13:43So pay close attention to your emotions.
13:46The second thing is reason.
13:48You also have to act rationally.
13:50You have to think, is this the man I want in my life?
13:54Is this the woman I want for myself, you know?
13:56Because if you don't act with reason, you might get hurt.
14:00So you have to think about how he treats my parents, how he treats my siblings, my family,
14:06other people.
14:08He also has desires.
14:10Let's suppose that your dream is to live in the United States, for example.
14:13Sometimes he doesn't want to leave Brazil at all.
14:15So you both end up frustrated unless you give that up.
14:19If you're willing to do that, that's fine, you know?
14:22And the third thing is revelation.
14:24You have to pray.
14:26You have to ask God to show you.
14:27Is this really it?
14:29God, give me signs.
14:30If it's not your will, Lord, remove it from my path.
14:33Brothers, this is the bravest prayer and the one that works best.
14:37Trust me.
14:37You're going to pray like this.
14:39God, if it's not your will, remove it from my path.
14:42Come on guys, the fifth man every woman needs to stay away from is the man who is completely
14:48lost in life.
14:51This man has no direction.
14:53He has no focus.
14:54He doesn't know where he wants to go.
14:56And more than that, he has no commitment to God.
15:01He's a man who's always running away from a relationship with God.
15:07He might even go to church sometimes, but that doesn't fool me anymore.
15:10There are a lot of people who go to church and it doesn't mean anything, alright?
15:15A man who is lost in life has no purpose.
15:18Maybe he doesn't have the will to build the future and this man plays the victim.
15:23It's very common nowadays to find people who play the victim, right?
15:27Like, I can't get a job because so and so didn't want me to.
15:31Brothers, I'm not saying that if you're unemployed, you're doing something wrong.
15:35No, sometimes you're doing everything right.
15:38You're a hardworking person and you just haven't found anyone yet.
15:42But unfortunately, there are a lot of lazy men out there.
15:45There are a lot of men who could be working.
15:48Go ahead, have some made.
15:49Or you can even make stuffed cheese bread yourself.
15:51I have a cousin who used to go out to sell cheese bread.
15:55He would put it on a little tray, like this, on a, sorry, in a styrofoam box.
16:00Cheese bread, stuffed with chicken, with beef, and he would go out selling it and made a
16:05good profit from that.
16:06And there is an example, right, in the Bible, of a great man of God, who at first relied
16:11on excuses, which was Gideon.
16:13And I want to read to you what is written in Judges, chapter 6, verse 15.
16:19Look at what it says.
16:22Lord, Gideon replied, how can I deliver Israel?
16:26My clan is the least important in Manasseh, and I am the least in my family.
16:31So brothers, at that moment, Gideon wanted to run away from God's calling to raise a great
16:37army to fight for the people of Israel.
16:41So, God, obviously, did not accept that excuse, and surely if God had accepted it, or if he
16:47had relied on that excuse the whole time, he wouldn't have become the great man of God
16:52that he became.
16:54Alright?
16:54So, pay close attention to those people who don't want to build anything in life, who
16:59have no focus, who have no goals.
17:02Of course, as I said, anyone can change.
17:05Anyone can.
17:08Out of nowhere, right?
17:10A person might want to achieve something.
17:13Maybe the person doesn't enjoy their work, but it's not because there's something wrong.
17:17Sometimes, it's simply because that job isn't the place where the person should be, you know?
17:23If I were, for example, a store manager, it would be a disaster.
17:27I would bankrupt the store because I don't like it, it's not my thing, you know?
17:32So, today, I do what I like.
17:34I'm not saying that we should only do what we like in this life.
17:38No.
17:39Sometimes, you'll have to do a lot of things you don't like.
17:42But always thinking, I want to enjoy my work too.
17:45I want to build something.
17:47I want to be able to make more money.
17:49So, all of this is important, right?
17:52We do need to want to get ahead in life.
17:54We need to have ambition.
17:55Not selfish ambition, but healthy ambition that helps us get ahead in life, okay?
18:01Are you enjoying it, everyone?
18:03And now, I'm going to talk about the last example.
18:06Of course, there are many, right?
18:08But this one I think is unacceptable.
18:10Which is the man who lies.
18:13A liar is someone who...
18:17Unfortunately, you can't trust.
18:19And as I said, trust is the foundation of a relationship.
18:22For it to work, trust is everything.
18:25And there are two men of God.
18:27But they failed in this matter, right?
18:29The first was Peter.
18:31Of course, there were others.
18:33But I remembered Peter.
18:34Because Peter lied when he said he didn't know Jesus.
18:38Exactly at the moment when Jesus needed his help the most.
18:43He was a coward.
18:44So, he lied at that most crucial moment.
18:47And the other man was Jacob.
18:49Who, as everyone knows, before he became a man of God, he was a deceiver and he lied to
18:55his own father.
18:57So, pay close attention to the details, to the little lies and be very firm in saying
19:02that you do not accept lies.
19:04Be very firm.
19:06Because if you tolerate this, it will grow.
19:08It won't stop, alright?
19:12Lying is something very dangerous.
19:13Because these men, they can ruin your whole life and your entire family.
19:18Let's reflect on the life of Jacob.
19:21The Bible says that he lied to his father.
19:23He stole from his brother, the blessing of the birthright.
19:26And he was on the run from his brother for more than 20 years.
19:31Brothers, imagine the suffering of his wife, his children, his servants, because he had
19:36to live on the run.
19:39So, that caused pain, suffering that lasted for years and years because of a mistake he
19:45made back then.
19:47So, be very careful with that kind of attitude, because it can make the whole boat sink and
19:53you'll suffer the consequences, alright?
19:57Glory to God.
19:57Guys, this was the message I wanted to bring today.
20:00God bless you everyone, big hug, go in the Lord's peace.
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