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Shere Hite revolutionierte den Blick auf die weibliche Sexualität.
Ihr ʺHite-Reportʺ (1976) schockierte nicht nur die Männerwelt.
Die bahnbrechende Studie verbreitete sich weltweit, wurde in zahlreiche Sprachen übersetzt und gehört bis heute zu den meistverkauften Büchern.
Erstmals wurde der weibliche Orgasmus in der breiten Öffentlichkeit diskutiert.
Doch ihr Mut machte die Sexualforscherin zur Zielscheibe der damaligen Kulturkämpfe um die Frauenrechte.
Konservative Kräfte versuchten gezielt, sie zu diskreditieren.
Die Dokumentation ruft die Geschichte der unerschrockenen Pionierin in die Erinnerung zurück.
Tausende anonymisierte Fragebögen hatte sie eigenhändig verteilt, um den Frauen die Freiheit zu geben, ungefiltert über ihre Sexualität zu sprechen.
Der Dokumentarfilm folgt der Sexualforscherin von ihren akademischen Anfängen über ihre Model-Jobs – darunter die sexistische "Olivetti Girl"-Kampagne,
die sie geradewegs in die Frauenbewegung katapultierte – bis zu jenem Moment, als die Kritiker ihre Methode als unwissenschaftlich diffamierten.
Die Dokumentation zeigt eine faszinierende, selbstbewusste und doch verletzliche Frau, die unbequeme Fragen stellte,
lange bevor Begriffe wie "Empowerment" oder "Body Autonomy" im allgemeinen Sprachgebrauch angekommen waren.
Ihre Erkenntnisse wirken heute noch modern – und ihre Geschichte erzählt viel darüber,
wie weibliche Stimmen systematisch verdrängt wurden, sobald sie den Status quo infrage stellten.
Die Dokumentation erinnert auch daran, dass Kämpfe um sexuelle Selbstbestimmung keine Relikte vergangener Jahrzehnte sind. (18.05.2026)
Ihr ʺHite-Reportʺ (1976) schockierte nicht nur die Männerwelt.
Die bahnbrechende Studie verbreitete sich weltweit, wurde in zahlreiche Sprachen übersetzt und gehört bis heute zu den meistverkauften Büchern.
Erstmals wurde der weibliche Orgasmus in der breiten Öffentlichkeit diskutiert.
Doch ihr Mut machte die Sexualforscherin zur Zielscheibe der damaligen Kulturkämpfe um die Frauenrechte.
Konservative Kräfte versuchten gezielt, sie zu diskreditieren.
Die Dokumentation ruft die Geschichte der unerschrockenen Pionierin in die Erinnerung zurück.
Tausende anonymisierte Fragebögen hatte sie eigenhändig verteilt, um den Frauen die Freiheit zu geben, ungefiltert über ihre Sexualität zu sprechen.
Der Dokumentarfilm folgt der Sexualforscherin von ihren akademischen Anfängen über ihre Model-Jobs – darunter die sexistische "Olivetti Girl"-Kampagne,
die sie geradewegs in die Frauenbewegung katapultierte – bis zu jenem Moment, als die Kritiker ihre Methode als unwissenschaftlich diffamierten.
Die Dokumentation zeigt eine faszinierende, selbstbewusste und doch verletzliche Frau, die unbequeme Fragen stellte,
lange bevor Begriffe wie "Empowerment" oder "Body Autonomy" im allgemeinen Sprachgebrauch angekommen waren.
Ihre Erkenntnisse wirken heute noch modern – und ihre Geschichte erzählt viel darüber,
wie weibliche Stimmen systematisch verdrängt wurden, sobald sie den Status quo infrage stellten.
Die Dokumentation erinnert auch daran, dass Kämpfe um sexuelle Selbstbestimmung keine Relikte vergangener Jahrzehnte sind. (18.05.2026)
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00:08They say your book redefines sex in a certain way.
00:12There is a stereotype that women should only be able to reach orgasm through sexual intercourse, through thrusting.
00:19Millie, stop giggling.
00:22Cut, please.
00:26Today we will talk about sexual intercourse, masturbation, orgasm and other topics.
00:30which in an extraordinary survey on female sexuality entitled
00:33Hyde Report deals with the sexual life of women.
00:39Who is Cher Hyde? Her childhood was interrupted by three divorces.
00:43Sexologist, social researcher, and even cultural historian.
00:47Her research has made her a bestselling author.
00:50She has sold more than 20 million books worldwide.
00:53There is controversy surrounding their methodology.
00:56Do you believe that their work will lead to another sexual revolution?
01:00It will change the definition of sex between men and women.
01:05Is there a danger in this?
01:08Equality doesn't seem dangerous to me.
01:11This is what I'm talking about.
01:13The secret of the fullest of all organs, the vagina, the vulva, then the uterus and especially the clitoris.
01:19Information about these organs and their names has long been suppressed in Western history.
01:25For centuries, it was said that women had difficulty achieving orgasm.
01:29The men's orgasms are much stronger, and their sexual organs are larger.
01:33None of this is true.
01:49I lived here, in the basement of this building.
01:54Those were the windows and the door to my apartment.
01:57But I made it nice for myself.
02:00Inside it was beautiful.
02:09My grandfather sent me to college.
02:12I had gone to public schools, but now at Columbia the tuition fees were very high.
02:16And I took out a government loan.
02:19But how would I ever pay it back?
02:23I was one of the few women in the history degree program.
02:30Everyone thought I would become a teacher.
02:32But I knew I was studying history because I didn't understand the present.
02:42I had no money. None at all.
02:45As a student, I had to earn money on the side.
02:49The people around me advised me to use my looks to earn a living.
02:58What alternatives did I have to make ends meet?
03:01To become a prostitute?
03:02Secretary?
03:03To get married?
03:05Of all forms of prostitution, that is, of any work within the system, I preferred this one.
03:11Modeling allowed me the greatest independence with the least personal involvement.
03:19I had a Rollerflex, the best camera there is.
03:24It had an automatic trigger; you simply set it.
03:28Cher stood to my left and right, and I just stood there with a pistol.
03:39I owe my career to her.
03:41She posed for illustrators because she wasn't getting enough work as a fashion model.
03:49The paperback cover wasn't exactly well-regarded.
03:52That was considered trash.
03:56But that's what I did.
04:00We worked together on all of these covers.
04:03We were a team.
04:09She was always broke, couldn't pay the rent, and had nothing to eat.
04:13She had this tiny apartment.
04:15When we came in and she turned on the light, the cockroaches ran around in a race.
04:22During my studies, my main areas of focus were the French Revolution, classical music, and agriculture in the Balkans.
04:30But I tended to take the historical facts presented to me with a grain of salt.
04:38It was really difficult to complete a university degree as a woman back then.
04:42It was perfectly fine to write dissertation number 3483 on Shakespeare's Hamlet.
04:50But if you wanted to write about sex or sexology, they went ballistic.
04:56They told me I should transfer to the Women's Studies department.
05:01There weren't any.
05:04They tried to get rid of us.
05:06And Cher had the same experience.
05:12The Columbia was a failure.
05:14Women were not included.
05:16I took a leave of absence.
05:18Furthermore, I was annoyed by the passivity that was demanded of women.
05:21That made me angry.
05:23So what then?
05:25I spend my days one after the other as a photo model.
05:29Trapped in such a terrible trap.
05:32Incredible.
05:36False eyelashes were absolutely necessary for modeling.
05:39Every morning I stand in front of the small bathroom mirror, stick them on, and think, "You're wasting your life."
05:47At that time I took some photos with my friend, the photographer Michael Wilson.
05:53I see this photo as a kind of self-portrait.
05:56I am confronting myself.
06:00It's so simple.
06:02Know yourself, not your role.
06:06It's incredibly difficult.
06:24I made a commercial for a typewriter company.
06:28They put me in front of the machine and then they said, look into the camera, flirt with the camera.
06:34I asked why.
06:37They said, because the punchline will be, the typewriter that is so smart that it doesn't have to be.
06:46I found that quite strange.
06:50Then I read in the newspaper that a group of women would be demonstrating in front of the headquarters of this company.
07:01I thought it sounded interesting.
07:03Should I go or not?
07:05Finally, I went.
07:08Initially, I didn't tell anyone that I was in one of the spots they were protesting against.
07:13But as I followed the lively discussion, I gained confidence and finally whispered it to Joyce, whom I had just met.
07:19had only just met.
07:20She blurted out, "Listen up, everyone!"
07:22You'll never guess who's here.
07:24Everyone turned around and stared at me.
07:27Then they said, "See, even the models don't like the commercials."
07:31And they immediately plunged into new discussions.
07:33I loved it.
07:40I was very involved in the group.
07:43I met women who are still my friends today.
07:49It was new for me to have a place where I fit in so well.
07:53The intellectual debates of the movement made Columbia University look pale and bloodless.
07:59Brilliant ideas were flowing freely.
08:04We wanted to shake up the male-dominated institutions, to see if we could bring about a cultural change.
08:11We chose the Natural History Museum.
08:14We called it the Museum of Unnatural History.
08:18The exhibitions featured men hunting, fishing, and building houses.
08:25Every woman on every continent had a pot in front of her.
08:29Each woman carried one baby in front and one in back.
08:32Or like Moses in a small basket.
08:37We were not only concerned with women, but also with how indigenous peoples were portrayed.
08:46I was standing at the confluence of three movements.
08:49One of them was the second phase of the women's movement.
08:52The second was the rise of cognitive behavioral therapy and finally the sexual revolution.
08:59So I was in the right place at the right time.
09:01Fortunately.
09:02I met Cher around the same time.
09:06We are driven by the desire to help women.
09:08Especially after my experience during my internship, when I was the only woman on the ward and had no cases of my own.
09:14was allowed to treat.
09:16Furthermore, the head psychiatrist liked to comment on the length of my skirt.
09:44We asked the women to go home and look in the mirror.
09:47and to examine their genitals, something many of them had never done before.
09:52And very few had ever seen their clitoris.
09:56She went to this self-discovery meeting and started a conversation about masturbation.
10:08She asked the group, "Do you masturbate?"
10:12No.
10:13Those who do so raise their hand.
10:15Most were too shy and didn't do it.
10:17That's how they came up with the idea of creating an anonymous questionnaire.
10:26I was one of the helpers.
10:30I had a motorcycle.
10:31Cher had a large box of surveys with her, which we attached to the back of the motorcycle with rubber bands.
10:38She put on her helmet and jumped up.
10:42We drove across the city to where the surveys were to be distributed.
10:47Not just Uptown or Downtown, but everywhere.
10:51In the Bronx, Williamsburg, Brooklyn, Chinatown.
10:58Then I started distributing questionnaires to women all over the country.
11:02To women's groups, church groups, to all kinds of groups.
11:06I sent out entire stacks and placed advertisements in magazines.
11:13I learned how to operate a printing press.
11:16I had to pay for ink and electricity and bring my own paper.
11:20I created the design, using colored ink.
11:23I wanted the women to feel that this was something very personal.
11:28It was as if they were writing in their diary or talking to themselves.
11:43It is not a multiple-choice questionnaire because we did not want to provide the answers.
11:50So we are asking open-ended questions.
11:53Should I read a few aloud?
11:57It starts innocently enough.
12:00Is one orgasm sexually satisfying for her, and if not, how many?
12:03How do their thoughts and feelings influence their desire for orgasms?
12:08If I read them all aloud, it will take the whole time.
12:13I am 21 years old, of Hawaiian-Jinese descent.
12:17I've been married for two years.
12:19We belong to the lower middle class.
12:21My husband is a student and I am an unemployed secretary.
12:2523, Jewish woman from New York.
12:2647, raised in a strict Methodist manner.
12:3032, college dropout.
12:32I turned 75 in September, live alone and don't miss anything.
12:36I can always tell whether my partner wants me for who I am or because of my body.
12:40I didn't even tell my mother when I started menstruating.
12:43I then used Planned Parenthood to prevent pregnancy myself.
12:47I would like to thank them at this point.
12:49For many years I thought I was different from other women.
12:52That bothered me for a long time.
12:56I didn't know their names, but I knew where they came from and how old they were.
13:02I had never read in such detail how women think about all sorts of intimate and private things, and I thought
13:09that is very important.
13:15I thought every woman would want to read this, and men should too.
13:19Masters and Johnson had just published their study, and there was also the Kinsey Report.
13:24My husband said there is only one title for the book, the Hyde Report.
13:31She gave me these oversized sheets of graph paper with columns for orgasm, masturbation, sexual intercourse, clitoral stimulation, miscellaneous, and notes.
13:45I grew up in a family where sex was treated very clinically, like something to be handled with tweezers.
13:51picks it up and then puts it away.
13:53In any case, nothing that could ever be fun.
13:56I was 18 and in my second year at Barnett College.
14:02I went to this Now conference simply out of curiosity and saw this stunning woman behind a table,
14:08which was loaded with these very interesting, daring, somehow forbidden questionnaires.
14:17I asked if I could work for her; I'd do it for free.
14:20She said, "Of course I'll pay you, I just can't pay much," and that was it.
14:23It just clicked.
14:26Do you have orgasms?
14:28Yes.
14:29Yes, but too few in my rather long life.
14:31I'm not sure if what I think is an orgasm really is one.
14:35I don't know what causes it.
14:37I don't feel free enough for that.
14:40Please describe what an orgasm feels like to you.
14:44A fluttering feeling, almost as if my body weren't there.
14:47You can't move anymore, you're simply trapped.
14:50Waves flood my body, starting at my clitoris and spreading further and further.
14:57It's like any feeling.
14:59What does cold feel like?
15:00How does anything feel?
15:02We had to translate these mini-stories into categories like "always" or "normally".
15:10Do you experience orgasms during cunnilingus, manual clitoral stimulation, sexual intercourse, or other activities?
15:16Sometimes, rarely, never.
15:18I have never had an orgasm through sexual intercourse.
15:21Every time I masturbate.
15:23I only slept with a woman once. I was too nervous to die.
15:26Then we counted them. Always the number 1a, followed by T and a circle, for apart.
15:33My legs usually fall apart afterwards. And that's how I fall asleep.
15:37Open, open, closed, apart.
15:40We tried to create an overall picture.
15:43I love vaginal penetration, accompanied by clitoral foreplay.
15:47A circle with an X means manual stimulation plus sexual intercourse equals orgasm.
15:53I prefer purple with penetration.
15:55It was above the embroidery, lots of little stitches that eventually formed a pattern.
16:04Many women don't really enjoy sexual intercourse.
16:07They have someone lying on top of them, they can't breathe.
16:10They lie there and cannot move.
16:12They are laughing.
16:16The woman just wants him off her.
16:19It's terrible when it comes to that.
16:23We have adapted our bodies to male sexuality for centuries.
16:28And now we should free ourselves from this situation and see ourselves.
16:33In order to then enter into relationships with other people, regardless of gender,
16:36but doing things that are right for us.
16:49That became my life for five years.
16:52And in many ways it was more fulfilling than a relationship.
16:56So many women told me so many things that I felt like I had 3000 girlfriends.
17:06We wanted to celebrate the book's release.
17:11Several years later I learned that the sales manager had given instructions to
17:15not to accept more than 4000 pre-orders.
17:20That would have meant a tiny print run and the book would have disappeared into obscurity.
17:26They hated it and tried to sabotage it, to keep it small.
17:31They only wanted to print 4000 copies and not do any advertising.
17:35After five years of work, it shouldn't just go down the drain like that.
17:40We talked about how the book could be presented and she said it was something for the news.
17:46I said, why don't we hold a press conference?
17:49It was like a lightning bolt striking two heads at once.
17:52And within a few days, we had the whole thing set up.
17:56I am Sherry Haidt, the author of the Haidt Report, which is a study of 3000 women.
18:01Can you hear me? Can you hear everyone?
18:04We thought it would be best if she had a platform so that she wasn't the only one presenting the book.
18:09but others could support them.
18:12Several people spoke out, all of them respected sex educators and researchers.
18:18I was kind of like the young punk in the group.
18:29When I received a copy of Share's book, I just thought, holy shit, this is incredible.
18:41The Haidt Report doesn't fall prey into dividing people as society does.
18:47Some people's reaction was, that it sounded very radical.
18:51To me it doesn't sound radical at all.
18:53The most important finding in my study is that a majority of women don't orgasm from intercourse.
18:58That's what we're here to talk about today.
19:00Sherr broke a systemic silence.
19:03That was so brave it took my breath away.
19:07What influence does the level of recognition that the Haidt Report has already achieved have on you?
19:14My main problem is making sure that the things written about the book accurately reflect what the book says.
19:21That it's about women speaking up and it's a collective discussion, not about...
19:26something that has to do with me.
19:28Were you satisfied with...?
19:29Pretty much everything that was written was good and serious. I am very satisfied.
19:35The book received good press from the beginning, mainly from women.
19:43The time span between publication and the fact that the book became a phenomenon,
19:52It was so short that Sherr was simply swept away.
19:56She barely had time to realize the book was a success.
20:04The consequences of the publication were a real culture shock for me.
20:09It seems strange to me that penetration is not supposed to satisfy a woman.
20:13Are we women built wrong, or is this a joke?
20:16I found the reactions in the press and on television confusing.
20:21What does your study tell us about how women truly define sex?
20:26Women place great importance on intimacy, closeness, touch, and the expression of feelings during sex.
20:35This is nothing new. We've always known that women...
20:38You see, I can't do that in the...
20:40You see, I find myself saying something when I said that, but it didn't quite add up.
20:44I must phrase my words in such a way that they correspond to the content of my study.
20:48They said I'm redefining sex, but I don't know what the new sex will be like.
20:54I didn't know how to react.
20:57The articles often didn't seem to reflect what I wanted to convey.
21:02Is there a political agenda behind this, implying that women don't need men?
21:07Why would I want that?
21:09If there has been a reaction among men to your report, it is due to fear...
21:14Did they exist?
21:15...that female masturbation becomes the ultimate sexual act and men become irrelevant in the process.
21:21That's terrible.
21:22All it takes is one super stallion to serve the entire nation.
21:25What about the men in your life?
21:27Are they intimidated because you are now such an expert in this field?
21:32No, I don't believe that.
21:34Every man I know has agreed with the gist of this study.
21:39Everyone is so excited about the changes that are opening up and is working on themselves.
21:44No, I didn't notice that at all.
21:55She moved into the Hotel Orden, something completely different from the basement apartment.
22:03When the book became a success, Cher threw a party to celebrate everyone who had answered the questionnaire.
22:10And she now had enough money to pay back everyone who had lent her money during the course of the project.
22:21Perhaps she was happiest during that time.
22:24Her smile was simply endless.
22:29Have you received any interesting letters yet?
22:32I have been working on a questionnaire for men for two years.
22:36Is your next book titled, "Do Men Need Sex?"
22:40That's not what it will be called. It will be about how men think about sex.
22:47I had a few male friends during those years. I liked one of them very much. A young artist who had to make ends meet.
22:54I moved to New York in January 1977, into an empty loft in Chelsea.
23:00I was living out of a suitcase. I didn't even have a chest of drawers to put my things in.
23:04I got a job as a painter at the Alden Hotel, where I was supposed to decorate the hallways.
23:10One day a door opened and a woman with bright orange hair came out.
23:16She said, "Hello, would you be interested in designing my windows?"
23:21I didn't know who she was. I noticed boxes and boxes of books titled The Hyde Report, in all sorts of places.
23:28Languages, even Hebrew.
23:32We hit it off immediately. She gave me a copy, and I think that was my baptism of fire.
23:39I learned a lot about her ideas, became more aware of my feelings, and understood how my behavior affected her and others.
23:46Women were affected.
23:47She was so interesting and charming. I was fascinated.
23:57While working on the book about men, she also conceived a follow-up survey for women about their emotional lives.
24:04Although she had a completely different background than many of the women who filled out the questionnaires, she experienced the same things that it
24:11means being in a relationship.
24:13She was one of them.
24:16The purpose of this questionnaire is to learn about women's perspectives on issues that remained unanswered in the original Hyde Report.
24:24Due to lack of funds, the discussion did not cover how women think about love, relationships, marriage, and monogamy.
24:30Some recorded their answers on cassette tapes.
24:38She listened to them and said how lovely these women sounded, how friendly and caring they were, and how many
24:44They had dreams.
24:47Wouldn't it be nice if that were the case?
24:49She drew strength from these voices, and this reinforced her in her work.
25:11A large women's conference is taking place in Houston.
25:15This assembly will adopt a national plan to improve the status of women.
25:21On the other side, the state had an even larger assembly.
25:25Many here are fundamentalist Christians.
25:28They are against the constitutional amendment for equal rights, against abortion on request, and against laws that favor homosexuals.
25:35This shows that many people in this country fear the changes that the women's movement is striving for.
25:40Shear knew that sexuality was one of the things that could most easily be used as a weapon by the right wing.
25:50with fatal consequences.
26:00Anita Bryant appeared in Florida in 1977.
26:05With religious fervor, their movement campaigns for the repeal of a new law that discriminates against homosexuals in the allocation of
26:12Protects jobs and homes.
26:16At that time, a right-wing movement solidified and became a political force.
26:24Billy Graham, Pat Robertson, Jim Dobson's focus on family, Jerry Falwell and his moral majority.
26:35As with every culture war, the argument of the seduction of innocent children was central.
26:48In the streets, a parade of homosexuals, embracing other men and playing with little boys.
27:02A spokesman for the gay rights movement had his car set on fire.
27:06The war goes on to save our children, because the seed of sexual sickness that has germinated in Dade County
27:14already been transplanted by misguided liberals in the US Congress.
27:21Cher passionately advocated for a better world for everyone, without prejudice, without oppression.
27:27It cannot be overstated how revolutionary this was at the time.
27:36Here is the long-awaited companion volume to Cher Heid's bestseller on female sexuality.
27:42Welcome, Cher Heid.
27:46The Heid report on male sexuality has once again sparked controversy.
27:51Dear Heid, why are people so fascinated by all of this?
27:55There are many books about sex that don't sell at all.
27:59So the idea that people are fascinated by sex itself might not be correct.
28:04I am trying to paint a bigger picture and show how people feel within society.
28:11How has the women's movement influenced men's attitudes towards sex?
28:18I believe that the women's movement can only help men.
28:21Because in my study, men repeatedly complained, and this certainly wasn't the first time they had felt this way.
28:26felt under great pressure to perform.
28:29They must get an erection, they must have sexual intercourse until the woman has an orgasm.
28:34My study shows that most women can easily reach orgasm through clitoral stimulation and not so much through...
28:40Sexual intercourse.
28:41I know many women who...
28:46Never mind, keep talking.
28:47No, please, David.
28:48No, I didn't mean to interrupt.
28:50That's fine.
28:50David, we don't want to let the audience down.
28:53So, you know many women who...
28:57The ones that don't...
28:58My God, how can anyone talk about something like that?
29:00Not having orgasms.
29:01Those who don't...
29:02Not in the usual way.
29:03Exactly.
29:05They have orgasms when they...
29:10Those who are also embarrassed by clitoral stimulation.
29:13Do you understand?
29:14Understand.
29:15She didn't smoke when we were together.
29:18She was a bad girl when she wanted to be a bad girl.
29:22I am Betty Davis, I am Marlene Dietrich.
29:25She practically blew in Mike Douglas's face.
29:29Excuse me.
29:30That's a bad habit.
29:31You are right.
29:34The adjective I would apply to Cher is extravagant.
29:38That's what she wanted to be, and that's how she came across.
29:44Not that she was frightening, but you had to be on your guard.
29:48I knew, of course, that the book would generate great interest, because the first Hyde Report was such a sensational success.
29:56I think Cher wanted the men's book to learn more about men's problems and their inability to communicate.
30:05Men's book. Why so angry? Too many demands.
30:09Men don't feel free to be themselves.
30:12What are the values that men are taught?
30:15Why do men want sex?
30:16What do men think about women and themselves?
30:20Age 50, profession university professor.
30:22Born and raised in a small town in Schwarz.
30:25I work in a seepage mill for a mining company.
30:29These guys didn't write about their sex lives, their fantasies, or their frustrations.
30:35When I got to the answers about her emotional life, I haven't had many sadder experiences as an editor.
30:48What did your father say a man should be like?
30:52I've always been emotional.
30:54As a child, I cried very easily.
30:56Not because I was physically injured, but emotionally.
30:58My father would sometimes tell me to be quiet.
31:01And I tried, but it was difficult.
31:03I never had a close relationship with my father.
31:06We only talked about things like football scores and government measures.
31:09He was the tough parent and I respected him, but I was afraid of his anger.
31:16They kept saying the same thing.
31:20We have no one to talk to.
31:23We can't share anything with others, not even with our wives.
31:29The book did well, but not as I had imagined.
31:34Did you recognize yourself in the book?
31:37Neither myself nor anyone else I know.
31:41No, that doesn't mean anything to me.
31:43I disagree with many of the things written there.
31:46The men were not ready, you can see it.
31:48Not only do they understand nothing about intimacy, they also don't want to know anything about it.
31:54I believe that it is difficult for men to question the idea of masculinity.
31:59When a man criticizes the idea of masculinity, whether in terms of sexuality or the job one has to do
32:03has,
32:04He runs the risk of other men thinking he's not up to the task as a man.
32:10It's very difficult for men to talk about it.
32:13People criticized her methodology because they didn't understand what it was about.
32:18And so they were able to ignore Share's results.
32:22They simply didn't read the material.
32:25They didn't really understand their methodology.
32:30Of the approximately 400,000 people, women and men, to whom they distributed the questionnaires, 8% responded.
32:38And from that they made two books that are almost...
32:41Warning signs apply.
32:43Like those of Kinsey, Masters, and Johnson.
32:45Masters and Johnson had 700 subjects, Kinsey 11,000.
32:49All we can do is extrapolate to the total population.
32:53I often read that my work is unscientific, which drives me crazy.
32:57Because what they mean is whether it is representative.
33:00Scientifically, it can mean many things.
33:04A perfect study has never existed in sex research and will not exist in the near future.
33:08If you conduct a normal survey, most people would not respond because it would not be anonymous.
33:16I know nothing about methodology.
33:18She got out what she could.
33:21And that was effective and, in my opinion, useful.
33:25I'm not trying to say that one should be one way or another.
33:28And if you aren't, something's wrong with you.
33:30That's the exact opposite of what I do.
33:34The reactions were intense.
33:36They received incredibly nasty letters, even phone calls.
33:43They didn't understand why their book provoked so much rejection and hatred.
33:49I felt naked, under observation.
33:52So many inaccurate and strange things were said about me in the press.
33:57As a model, it was always a matter of honor for me to use my own full name.
34:03Then it was discovered that I had been photographed naked in Playboy a few years earlier.
34:13Being photographed for Playboy meant immediate disrespect and disregard for my work.
34:19I couldn't be a good researcher because I was a bimbo who had posed naked.
34:26Not that she hadn't expected it, but she hadn't anticipated that it would continue like this.
34:31She probably thought it would all be over eventually and the media would move on to the next target, but she stayed for
34:36Long time in the firing line.
34:39Don't plan to be a stereotypical creature.
34:411. Spend 3 days alone
34:492. Take yourself seriously
34:533. Whenever you find yourself in a situation where you are made to feel girly, helpless, bitchy, aggressive, or
35:01otherwise being stereotypical,
35:03Go immediately and do something you enjoy and that suits you.
35:064. Always rely on your own financial resources.
35:11She had to sue her publisher to receive her full royalties, as they had set a cap on her annual income.
35:24A tax-free, interest-free, long-term loan. And with that, I'm also supporting this stupid company.
35:31A settlement was reached and she received an advance payment.
35:35Suddenly she had $250,000 and wanted to buy something of her own. She was so excited.
35:45I bought an apartment.
35:51I was the first resident in the former Hardfund building at the corner of 5th Avenue and 64th Street.
35:59I walked through the lobby and her door was open.
36:02I don't remember if I said Shea Hyde or if she said Jean.
36:08Hey, what do you do?
36:09I stick my tongue out. And you?
36:11I'm writing a book. Come, I'll show you where I live.
36:20Shea moved into the first apartment on the first floor facing 5th Avenue.
36:24It could have been a small palazzo in Europe, with beautiful vases and works of art everywhere.
36:30Very ornate.
36:35I needed beauty around me to forget the painful images from the press.
36:41Fifth. Have fun.
36:49I threw many parties.
36:57She invited lots of people, including women from Coyote, the organization for the rights of sex workers.
37:04Flo Kennedy, Swiftie Lazare, me with my new wife Sibyl.
37:08Julian, the power porter.
37:09People from all sorts of backgrounds.
37:14She chose this part of New York, the district of creatives and movement.
37:21I worked for the Village Voice.
37:24We met because I photographed her.
37:26I liked her style, the way she dressed.
37:31I could see that she enjoyed working.
37:34I held back as a photographer.
37:36I showed more the way she worked than herself, her personality.
37:41It was as if you couldn't really get close to her.
37:45Then I saw a picture of her as a child and asked, can I take a picture of it?
37:54She was about six or seven.
37:58But very self-controlled.
38:01I thought this child looked very lonely.
38:07And when I met her, I found out that this child was indeed lonely.
38:11I grew up in a very small town and was a regular churchgoer.
38:19I grew up with my grandparents, so with even older people than would otherwise have been the case.
38:29There were no conversations about sex, menstruation, or anything like that.
38:34The only talk was about the need to get married, that men married nice girls, and that one should always do...
38:41as is proper.
38:43She didn't want to talk about it, even when I asked.
38:48Mother and father.
38:51I was a mistake.
38:54He left after about a year.
38:57She had just finished high school.
39:00I was an obstacle and made her feel too old.
39:02A nuisance and in the way.
39:05Worthless.
39:06A piece of dirt.
39:08Then she left.
39:19How do you define love?
39:22Is it something that takes a long time to work on?
39:26Or is it the strong feeling one has for someone from the very beginning, without any apparent reason?
39:33Does your relationship fulfill your deepest need for closeness to another person?
39:39Or do you prefer not to reveal every part of yourself?
39:44She could seem a little cold.
39:47One reason why I liked photographing her was that it allowed me to break down her image in a way.
39:54Obviously, her image was very important to her.
39:57I wanted her to feel comfortable in her own skin.
40:02But she carried the burden of criticism with her the whole time.
40:07I wanted to show her as happier than she was.
40:16Many people simply couldn't take her seriously because of the way she presented herself.
40:21But this kind of self-presentation was what defined her.
40:28It was really important to her to be a Playboy girl and write a doctoral thesis at the same time.
40:36She needed to see herself this way.
40:38We all need to see each other in a certain way.
40:41And she stood out because of her extravagance.
40:44She wanted to be seen.
40:50New York, summer 1988.
40:54Hörige and Heid in their apartment on 5th Avenue.
40:58The German-born concert pianist and the bestselling author married three years ago.
41:09Sherhide's books have sold five million copies.
41:12They have been translated into 14 languages and banned in eight countries.
41:18Heid's latest book, Women and Love, has already caused a stir weeks before its release.
41:25The press conference took place on the day the book was released.
41:29It was packed.
41:31I thought, wow, that's really great.
41:33All these people want to hear Cher.
41:35But then I heard some people say, let's see what she does.
41:39She is difficult and quite strange.
41:42Good morning
41:43Thank you for coming.
41:49This study made me realize that when women talk about love, it's about much more than that.
41:55Love has been trivialized for so long.
41:57Also, what women feel about love.
42:00It is not trivial.
42:04Are you in love with someone right now?
42:06I don't know if I'm even capable of doing that.
42:09I've had so many bad relationships that had nothing to do with love.
42:12I love my children.
42:13I don't think I love my husband.
42:15Have you had or are you having sex outside of your relationship?
42:18I had an extramarital affair.
42:21I was looking for validation as a woman.
42:25The vast majority of women say they are frustrated and emotionally dissatisfied with their relationships with men.
42:31They want things to change and have tried repeatedly, but without much success.
42:39Heid's most shocking statistic states that 70 percent of women who have been married for more than five years have extramarital affairs.
42:48When Women and Love came out, I was called into my boss's office.
42:52He knew that I knew Cher.
42:55He asked, "Do you know this book?"
42:57Yes.
42:58Have you read it?
43:00Yes.
43:01The book is grotesque.
43:03I said, well, your book about men says that men are unfaithful to their wives within the first five years of marriage.
43:10And this statistic didn't shock anyone.
43:13Who do you think the men slept with?
43:18His jaw dropped, because what this meant forced him to think about his marriage.
43:26Heids says that only 13 percent of women who have been married for more than two years love their husbands.
43:32Their questionnaire is as biased as a questionnaire can be.
43:36When you have pages and pages of statistics, no matter how you analyze them, you're pretending it's science.
43:41And that's not it.
43:44It is a scientific survey.
43:48She insisted that her studies were scientific.
43:52That was important to Scheer.
43:55I always thought that she wore herself down against her opponents.
44:00Perhaps it would have been better to simply say that the work speaks for itself.
44:04It is a creative project that is constantly evolving.
44:09She was very sensitive to criticism, and that was perhaps her Achilles' heel.
44:14Today, the author of this highly acclaimed book has agreed to face an audience consisting exclusively of men.
44:21exists, with the exception of me.
44:23Hello!
44:26Their study states that all problems, everything that goes wrong in relationships, is the fault of men.
44:30You are the guilty ones.
44:32I say we are all guilty, society as a whole.
44:36It's not entirely true that we have the same problems.
44:40Look at our body language.
44:42They live in a world that gives them the right to sit with their legs spread wide.
44:45And you do it this way and that way.
44:47Now you are looking at me.
44:49This shows that there is a big difference between men and women.
44:55This is the first time I've heard that sitting with your legs spread is a privilege.
45:00Now you've heard it.
45:03Have you read your report about men?
45:05I've only heard about it.
45:07But everything I've heard about her has been negative.
45:10She only sees the side she wants to see.
45:15After working on these projects for years,
45:18and considering all the effort involved in being treated this way by so many people,
45:23It was as if someone was stabbing her in the back again and again and again.
45:27She was at her wit's end.
45:43Sally Jessie Raphael had a show that was very popular at the time.
45:46Performing there was a really big deal.
45:52On the morning of the appointment, the driver came to pick her up.
45:56And she wasn't quite finished yet.
46:00I picked up Mrs. Hyde yesterday morning to take her to a broadcast.
46:05She made him wait until they said,
46:07Okay, we can't do it live anymore, we have to record it.
46:10Then it got so late that they said, okay, forget it.
46:15I went to the other side of the street to tell her, I'm sorry, love, I can't take her with me, I
46:20Drive back alone.
46:21They said, "I'm sorry, love."
46:23When I said that, she freaked out.
46:25She grabbed me by the throat and tried to dig her fingernails into my windpipe.
46:31What happened with the chauffeur in New York yesterday?
46:34Did you attack him?
46:36No.
46:37No?
46:39I felt like it, but I didn't.
46:41Don't you?
46:43As it happens, we have the driver with us, Frank Nicoletti.
46:47If that's the reason for this interview, then you lied to me.
46:54No, I have...
46:55I asked beforehand what the interview would be about.
46:58They are doing exactly what the women in my book say about men.
47:01They don't want to listen.
47:04I have...
47:05They don't want to talk about the book, but about something else.
47:09You are a public figure.
47:11So you lied to get this interview.
47:14And that's why I unfortunately can't continue.
47:17Just because we invited a chauffeur?
47:19I would have liked to tell the women watching on screen what this book is about.
47:23I'm just trying to make peace between the two of them.
47:25They are like the men who describe the women in my book.
47:28I?
47:29If you'd like to talk about the book, please do.
47:31Let's find out what happened yesterday.
47:34Frank Nicoletti is here and we want to give him the opportunity to speak.
47:38Sherry, I don't know why you say you didn't attack me.
47:41I certainly did not attack you.
47:43They tried to disfigure me.
47:45It is enough.
47:46Just like yesterday.
47:47Are you trying to stop me?
47:49I have the right to stand up and leave the broadcast.
47:52Sure you can, but we'd like to hear what happened yesterday and...
47:56Not us, you.
47:56Mr. Nicoletti is here.
47:58I don't know why you're lying.
47:59I don't see what women...
48:00That's why I asked for it to be clarified.
48:02Don't try to change me.
48:03No!
48:04I don't want to...
48:05I'm sorry.
48:06No.
48:06They are live.
48:08I do not care.
48:09I'm leaving now.
48:10Are you intending to forcibly keep me here?
48:12I go.
48:15The next day, the avalanche came down.
48:20Yesterday on Current Affair.
48:22It is enough.
48:23No more kid gloves.
48:25It just kept going and going and going.
48:27This is happening on New York television.
48:29No!
48:29Just like yesterday.
48:31Cher Hyde, the bestselling author, has earned millions by criticizing men.
48:36When it comes to accepting criticism oneself, the situation is quite different.
48:40A caller from Texas.
48:41Hello.
48:42Miss Hyde, I have read all your books and my biggest criticism of you is,
48:46that you seem to have the attitude that just because women disapprove of something a man does...
48:52I saw the Larry King interview with her and was simply shocked.
48:56Her eyes seemed dead.
48:58Even when she was angry about something, there used to always be a twinkle in her eye.
49:04I felt as if the Cher I knew had gone out.
49:09I thought, my God, I had no idea what a toll this had taken on her.
49:14Why is Cher Hyde so sensitive when people criticize her book?
49:18You know, you're doing exactly the same thing.
49:20May I end my question?
49:22No, because I believe you will continue in this way.
49:25Do you know what you're doing?
49:26I don't want any filming taking place here.
49:29They do exactly what the men in the book do.
49:33Next thing you know, they'll accuse her of defaming men.
49:36They were accused.
49:37Turn that damn thing off.
49:39And that was the last we saw of Cher Hyde.
49:44That means any publicity is good publicity.
49:48At least in principle.
49:52This case was probably the exception to the rule.
49:55Not exactly good publicity.
49:57And it pretty much stopped everyone at Nopf from continuing to work on the book.
50:05Watching Cher's reputation in the USA plummet was painful.
50:10I was traveling in New York with my wife.
50:12We passed her apartment on Fifth Avenue and I said, let's stop by.
50:18We went to the doorman, could we call Cher?
50:21She no longer lives here.
50:24He said she simply disappeared over the course of a few nights.
50:27She was gone.
50:28And she was gone.
50:55I saw them at the presentation.
50:59of women and love in London.
51:03I was there as a journalist and I interviewed her.
51:07That's how we got talking.
51:10She had such bad experiences in the USA that she was constantly nervous.
51:15She was very withdrawn.
51:19Do you live in Europe now? Where?
51:22Hard to say.
51:24I don't have a permanent address.
51:25Do you move a lot?
51:26Yes.
51:27In which cities do you live?
51:28London is my publishing base and I am often in Germany because my husband is German.
51:33And we spend a lot of time in Paris.
51:36It is said that they went into a kind of self-imposed exile, leaving the United States.
51:41left in protest.
51:43My books are also very well received in many other countries.
51:46There was so much hysteria in the US about my last report that I... I just didn't have the time.
51:52The need to be there again.
51:55She lived in my apartment in London for a while.
52:00Before that, she commuted between the Hilton and this... Actually, it was a squat.
52:06She only had a tiny room with a futon on the floor.
52:13Dear Sonny, I have a terrible money problem.
52:17There were no offers for the paperback rights to Women and Love.
52:22No offers for the publication of future books by me either.
52:27I had to sell my apartment to pay off the research debts.
52:35You have three new books out?
52:37Yes.
52:38The novel revolves around you.
52:40Well, an allegory of your life.
52:43The main character is a dog and the second character is like me.
52:47A woman who asks too many questions and gets into a lot of trouble as a result.
52:52The book about the nuclear family is currently unavailable in the USA.
52:57No, why not?
52:59I wish I knew the answer.
53:01You'll have to ask the publisher about that.
53:03I start to stutter.
53:05Do you believe that your personality, your appearance, your lifestyle could get in the way of the messages in your book?
53:11Yes, maybe I should write anonymously.
53:15What do you think about Sharehide not having a publisher for their latest report?
53:20It makes no sense.
53:22Sharehide's books sold like hotcakes.
53:25Over and over again, book after book.
53:27She has made a lot of money for her publishers and she is very famous.
53:31How can someone like you be silenced?
53:34That's outrageous.
53:37I can understand why she doesn't want to live here.
53:40The last time I spoke to her, she said that she couldn't make a living in the USA.
53:47If she can't publish here, she can't live here.
53:51It is censored.
53:53Not only criticized, but also censored.
53:57Silenced.
54:05Do you only say things that people disagree with?
54:09I believe one reason why my work is controversial is that I combine it with politics.
54:14The atmosphere of violence against what was known as feminism justified those who carried out attacks on abortion clinics.
54:22And also those who left messages on my answering machine, stood in front of my house, and showed my address on television.
54:28It even makes me nervous to talk to them here, even though we're not in the USA.
54:41I came to Paris as a young photographer to take a portrait of her for a German illustrated magazine.
54:49I thought she was stunning and beautiful, but I noticed she was checking me out.
54:56This is from the first photo session with her.
54:59If you look closely, you can see in her eyes that she doesn't know if she can trust me.
55:04can.
55:07When she saw the first picture and liked it, I think she started to trust me.
55:16A really close friendship developed between Iris and me.
55:22It was a dialogue.
55:28I am on a journey.
55:32As I traveled, the landscapes I saw suddenly seemed to match an inner landscape I had been searching for.
55:45I have a strong memory of my bedroom at my grandmother's house.
55:50It was so simple that one might consider it plain, but it had a special atmosphere.
55:56I lay in bed listening to the trains in the distance or the song of the last birds.
56:02It was one of those evenings when I was overcome by a strange longing, a deep longing.
56:10I learned that the sensations could be intensified by moving my legs and pressing my body against the mattress.
56:19One day, I felt a wonderful explosion deep inside my body.
56:25The pleasure was like an electric shock.
56:28I always wanted to do it again.
56:31And that's exactly what I did.
56:32Again and again.
56:35But I soon became worried.
56:37Is something wrong with my body?
56:39No one had ever told me about such an experience.
56:43Perhaps it was unnatural.
56:47With this one, we were thinking about ecstasy, joy, and pleasure for women.
56:54How can one portray a female body with strength, spirituality, beauty, and eroticism?
57:03The visual representation of the woman.
57:06We felt something was missing.
57:08You never see an intelligent portrait of a woman, an intelligent face and a vulva at the same time.
57:16A complete picture of a woman always includes sexuality.
57:26Taking photos and talking to Iris about sex was another way to get permission to have a
57:33to have a sexual body.
57:35This time from the female world.
57:39Women who are reclaiming themselves from culture.
57:45When I told a group of young feminists that I was going to give this interview about Cher, they asked, "Who is that?"
57:52I said, is this supposed to be a joke?
57:54She was in the media the whole time.
57:57Back then, it was impossible not to know about her work.
58:00But who's talking about it now?
58:03Feminist knowledge was suppressed, systematically, decade after decade.
58:08According to Newsweek, The Hyde Report is the 30th best-selling book of all time.
58:13Really? How wonderful.
58:15I can hardly believe it.
58:18That's quite extraordinary.
58:22But I would be surprised if many young women knew about it.
58:26I don't hear anyone talking about it anymore.
58:29As women, we deserve the right to own our own bodies.
58:35It worries me that younger women may have to fight the same battles again.
58:40That's always the first thing.
58:44Then it will be first again.
58:57This is a reality.
59:16And that's the end. It was enlightening for me to answer the questions and reveal all my secrets.
59:22tell.
59:23Now I have to feed my daughter. Good luck.
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