00:01get those fingers ready we need your opinions we need your thoughts with three calls and it all
00:09because miranda has something on her mind shannon are you able to read it to the people
00:14uh yes i can do that okay so miranda writes hey guys hope everyone had a good fourth of july
00:21weekend our oldest son age 17 had a couple friends over and the morning after i found some
00:28empty hard seltzer cans back behind our shed my son when i asked what were those he said oh those
00:37were jimmy's that's not jimmy's real name right right um jimmy's and i didn't have any okay so now
00:44miranda's wondering uh like i will be honest obviously i don't condone underage drinking
00:49but i absolutely cannot stand lying because that can be more dangerous my plan is to ask one more
00:55time and threaten to call jimmy's mom if he doesn't tell the truth do i take him at his word
01:01and still call the mom or just leave it be help in all caps okay miranda we are gonna help
01:08you out
01:08so i mean i think the threat to call jimmy's mom is good that is good parenting yeah because if
01:18i was
01:1817 and my mom made that threat to me that's kind of like embarrassing between your friends
01:23but i think as a parent you need to like put aside being your child's friend in this moment right
01:31and
01:31just be that strict stern person for them because it can be dangerous you're right miranda like the
01:38lying and and the drinking can be dangerous yeah and shannon i completely agree with you and i think
01:44something that miranda wrote which is she was insinuating the lying is worse than the underage
01:51consumption of alcohol which respectfully i don't want to upset people obviously underage drinking
01:56is dangerous especially if anyone's getting behind the wheel which you absolutely should not do
02:00but the lying is even scarier because they can be up to that and other things it's important to have
02:07that mode of communication with your child even if they are going to a party that might have
02:13something unsavory you want them to be like hey mom can you come get me dad can you come get
02:18me hey
02:18there's something here that communication is so important it's something i had with my parents that
02:22that was they said hey listen we'll never get mad at you you just call us like we would rather
02:28you
02:29call us than try to be sneaky yes so i think miranda my my advice would be now granted i
02:34have a three
02:35year old and a newborn so i'm not even close to these days you're not but i would say okay
02:40i think
02:41you've already asked him you've already given him a chance to be honest but i would call jimmy's mom
02:46today and i'd say hey listen this is what happened this is what i found you might be able to
02:51find out
02:51more about jimmy and the situation not saying it is jimmy's fault i mean that's the age old excuse
02:58it's not i was holding it for a friend it's not him yeah it's not me it's him right but
03:03maybe they'll
03:03say oh yeah you know we've been struggling with jimmy a lot lately he's been sneaking out drinks of
03:08our fridge or whatever it might be yeah and you might think okay but i think the return to your
03:14son
03:15you can sit down and be like listen whether you did or you didn't this is our home right you
03:20brought
03:20this on to our property yeah right you're responsible for the kids that are at our house
03:24as am i as mom right as dad and mom if they're on your property in theory that you're responsible
03:31for them and so just i think pushing too hard to get the truth when he could be telling the
03:37truth
03:38yeah go on the angle of whether jimmy brought them and you didn't have any or not
03:42you it was behind our shed it was at our house yes so maybe there are parents who are uh
03:49have 17 year
03:50olds or have been through this and they can help us out
03:54yeah
03:55yeah
03:55yeah
03:55You
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