00:00Naka-pressure mag-scroll sa social media lately, di ba?
00:04Pakiramdam mo lahat sila may bagong promotion,
00:07nag-a-abroad, may bagong sasakyan o properties.
00:10So, kaya naman, kinakasal na.
00:12Habang ikaw, parang stuck pa rin sa kung nasan ka ngayon.
00:15Tama ka dyan, Profi.
00:17Sa panahon ngayon, sobrang daling matrap
00:18sa feeling na napag-iiwan ang kaya ng mundo.
00:20Pero don't worry.
00:22Dahil today, hihinto na tayo sa pagkukumpara
00:24at magpo-focus naman tayo sa ating sariling growth.
00:27Makakasama po natin ngayong umaga
00:29ang isang transformational life and energy mentor
00:32na si Coach Libni Fortuna
00:33to help us rebuild our self-worth.
00:36Good morning, Coach.
00:36Good morning.
00:38Okay, Coach Libni, welcome to the show.
00:39Let's start with the hard truth.
00:42Bakit nga ba sobrang tindi ng pressure ngayon
00:45para maging successful ka?
00:48And how unti-unti nasisira nito yung confidence natin?
00:53Grabig kasi yung social media ngayon, no?
00:55Everyone's in their phones
00:57and comparing themselves towards others
01:00and grabe mag-update yung mga tao.
01:01So, here in the Philippine culture,
01:04pagalingan ng pagalingan yung mga tao
01:06na meron akong ganito, meron akong ganyan.
01:08So, the tendency ng mga tao,
01:10they tend to compare their life sa ibang tao
01:12na bakit wala pa akong ganito na meron naman sana akong...
01:16So, doon nagkakaroon ng comparison
01:18because of what they're seeing in social media.
01:20How bad comparing is?
01:22Comparing, it lowers your self-esteem.
01:24Because they say comparing is bad.
01:26But how bad?
01:27It lowers your self-esteem
01:29and it doesn't give you the confidence to go outside
01:31kasi you're not seeing what you have
01:34instead of,
01:34sana meron akong ganyan,
01:36hindi mo na nakikita yung anong meron ka.
01:38So, it's pretty bad,
01:39lalo na sa younger generation.
01:41That's how they grow up ngayon eh.
01:43Pero hindi ba siya case by case?
01:45Kasi,
01:45like,
01:46if I'm gonna compare myself
01:47to motivate myself even more.
01:50Depending on the age,
01:52of course,
01:52tayo,
01:53tumatanda na din tayo.
01:55Yes.
01:56Okay.
01:57Yes.
01:57But then,
01:58apparently,
01:58when some people,
01:59they don't have the sense of
02:01knowing who they are,
02:02yun,
02:02nagkakaroon sila ng comparison
02:03kasi hindi nila kilala yung sarili nila.
02:06Yes.
02:06Okay.
02:06Well,
02:06para sa mga ka-RSP natin ngayon
02:08na may left behind anxiety
02:10at mabigat ang loob,
02:11ano po yung very first mindset shift
02:14na kailangan nilang gawin?
02:15It's starting to pay.
02:16Gratitude.
02:17They should be grateful
02:18kung anong meron sila.
02:20Kasi,
02:20imposible kang magko-compare
02:22kung grateful ka
02:23kung anong meron ka.
02:24Diba?
02:24Sabi nga nila na,
02:25the more you're grateful,
02:27the more things you'd be grateful for.
02:29So,
02:29yun yung nakakalimutan ng mga tao.
02:31Lagi na lang,
02:31nakikita yung iba
02:32na nakakalimutan nilang
02:34meron din silang
02:35something sa life nila
02:36that they should be looking into.
02:39Eh,
02:39kasi,
02:39siguro,
02:40aside from that,
02:41parang,
02:41people tend to see
02:43the deadline.
02:43Kailangan at this age
02:45ganto na ako.
02:46Siguro,
02:47dahil din sa mga melancholya natin
02:49o mga bata tayo,
02:50nakita natin sa magulang natin
02:51na dapat,
02:52ah,
02:53hindi ko maranasan to
02:54or hindi ko maparanasan
02:55sa mga anak ko.
02:56Kaya naman,
02:56sana mabigay ko yung life
02:58na para sa mga magulang ko.
02:59So,
03:00you tend to pressure yourself
03:01if nagkakaroon ko ng deadline,
03:02kailangan at age of 30,
03:0340,
03:04whatsoever.
03:05Pero,
03:05is it like self-sabotaging?
03:08Yeah,
03:09they're not really appreciating
03:11what they have.
03:12Nakakalimutan nga.
03:13There's so much comparison
03:14that the only person,
03:17ito yung lagi kong tinuturo
03:18na if you're finding yourself
03:20comparing yourself
03:21to other people,
03:22you should start
03:23comparing yourself
03:24to the person
03:24you were six months ago
03:26rather than comparing it
03:27to other people.
03:28kasi you're seeing
03:30a life ng ibang tao
03:31na hindi mo nakikita
03:32yung buhay mo.
03:34It's really that.
03:35And the contentment
03:37of what you have,
03:38yun yung nakakalimutan
03:39ng mga tao.
03:40Sabi nga nila
03:41kung ano yung merong
03:41kay pinaghihirapan
03:43na makuha ng iba
03:44na hindi mo na-appreciate.
03:45Pero ito,
03:45coach,
03:46major trigger talaga
03:47ang social media
03:47sa ganitong feeling.
03:49So,
03:49should we do a
03:49total digital detox
03:51o may mas healthy na paraan
03:53para i-filter yung
03:54nakikita natin
03:55sa mga social media feeds natin?
03:57Yeah.
03:57If your work
03:58isn't related
03:59to social media,
04:01I highly suggest
04:01that really have
04:02a strict schedule
04:03on a social media detox
04:05kasi ang daming nangyayari.
04:07But if you're in social media,
04:09you should learn
04:10how to mute
04:10those things
04:11that doesn't help you.
04:12Lalo na
04:13if you're looking at it
04:14and there's a contraction
04:15na it's a yucky,
04:17parang yucky siya sa feeling.
04:19So,
04:19you have to also know
04:20when to stop scrolling
04:22and start looking
04:23on things
04:24that motivate you.
04:25Sabi nga nila na
04:26we are the summary
04:28or we are
04:29made up of pieces
04:30that we consume.
04:31So,
04:31dapat careful din tayo
04:33kung ano yung
04:34inaalaw natin
04:35sa space natin
04:36kasi yun lang naman
04:36yung kontrolado din natin.
04:38Hindi lang sa social media,
04:39pati sa pamilya.
04:40Kailang ka asenso,
04:42kailang ka magkakabahay,
04:43kailang ka mag-asawa,
04:44magkakaanap.
04:45Diba?
04:46People who are
04:46so insensitive
04:47asking dope questions
04:49na they thought
04:50it's just for the sake
04:51of banter.
04:51Wow,
04:52galit na ganit.
04:54For the sake of banter,
04:56pero they don't know
04:57the self-worth
04:59na itatanggal nito
05:00sa isang taong.
05:01Yung indications naman.
05:02Yeah,
05:02how do they,
05:03how are you going
05:04to handle
05:04those kinds of pressure?
05:05You have to be
05:06surrounded with people
05:07who motivate you
05:09and who inspire you
05:10kasi sabi nga nila
05:11that your environment
05:12really plays a huge role
05:14on your becoming.
05:15So,
05:15if yung reinforcement
05:17sa bahay,
05:17hindi ka magaling
05:18or mas magaling pa sa ganto,
05:20what do you expect
05:21when you come out?
05:22So,
05:22usually when you're
05:23in that space,
05:24I really tell people
05:25that you have to be careful
05:26what you listen to.
05:27You listen to podcasts
05:28or sometimes
05:29you go out of the house
05:31and be exposed
05:32with people
05:32who are,
05:34whose idea,
05:35whose mind
05:35you want to consume.
05:37Parang ganun.
05:37So,
05:38surround yourself
05:39with a good circle
05:39of people
05:40or friends.
05:41Pero,
05:43sabi nga nila,
05:44I mean,
05:44comparison is a thief of joy.
05:46Tapos,
05:47minsan,
05:48it will end up to envy.
05:49Ano ba yung mga daily exercise
05:51na pwede natin
05:51ibigay sa ating mga karyos
05:52para matigil nila
05:53yung comparison
05:54sa araw-araw nila?
05:56Can that be removed?
05:57Well,
05:58gratitude is always the key.
06:00You have to be grateful
06:01on what you have.
06:02Second,
06:03you have to be careful
06:04what you consume
06:05kasi just because
06:06it's presented
06:07doesn't mean
06:07it's real.
06:08You can always say
06:09na it doesn't sit well
06:10with me,
06:10feeling free to reject.
06:12Kung baga,
06:12problema sa Pilipino,
06:13hindi marunong ng boundaries eh.
06:15So,
06:15dapat tayo mismo
06:16yung nagdi-disciplina
06:17sa sarili natin
06:18if this is something
06:19that we want to consume
06:20and really being careful
06:21sa mga tao
06:22that we surround ourselves
06:23with.
06:24Parang ganun.
06:25And,
06:25be careful with the words
06:26that you say to yourself.
06:28Kahit akala mo
06:28na wala lang yan,
06:29it affects your day-to-day life.
06:31Yeah.
06:32Be careful of the words.
06:32So,
06:32kahit sa sarili ko lang,
06:34dapat pinipili ko rin
06:35yung sinasabi ko sa sarili.
06:36Yes,
06:36yes,
06:36yes.
06:37Kasi sometimes,
06:38ano eh,
06:39no man is an island.
06:40Talagang kahit na you
06:41feel like it's all on you,
06:43you will always need
06:44other people.
06:45Yes.
06:45Pero,
06:46hanggang kailan dapat natin
06:48i-make sure na
06:50we always,
06:51we always build our confidence
06:53by not depending
06:54to other people.
06:55And when can we ask
06:57for like empathy,
06:57we can ask for support
06:59sa mga tao sa paligid natin.
07:01And of course,
07:01siguro,
07:02overall message nilang din
07:03sa ating mga ka-RSP
07:05who are going through
07:06with this kinds of
07:07lack of confidence.
07:09Yeah.
07:09I feel like
07:10one message that I really share
07:12is to just go and do it
07:13because once you do it,
07:14you see evidences
07:15kasi na kaya ko naman pala.
07:17Because,
07:18lack of confidence
07:19means lack of trust
07:20and lack of trust
07:21means lack of execution.
07:22Diba?
07:23So,
07:23I guess like,
07:24people just need
07:25to have the courage
07:26to actually take the action
07:28because through the action,
07:29dun sila natututo
07:30and they stop
07:31the comparison
07:32kasi nakikita na nila
07:33yung evidence
07:33of what they have done.
07:35I think it's just really
07:36letting people
07:37experience life
07:38para makita nila
07:39na hindi naman pala
07:40nakakatakot,
07:41hindi naman pala
07:41totoo yung nasa isip ko.
07:42They just have to do it
07:43and to see for themselves.
07:46Well,
07:47and that's what
07:47maraming maraming salamat
07:48Coach Libney
07:48para sa mahalagang
07:49o sa mahalagang
07:51payo mo sa amin
07:51ngayong araw.
07:52Tandaan mga ka-RSP,
07:53take a deep breath,
07:55iwanan ng pressure
07:56at yakapin
07:56ng sariling simula.
07:57Maraming salamat Coach.
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