00:00I'm Onami, this is my wife Mia.
00:03People think I paid for her, but this is real love.
00:05My mom literally said, check her birth certificate.
00:08Is that legal there?
00:09As long as she can go to America.
00:10Very original.
00:19People judge our relationship and they think I married him for a green card.
00:26I was like, is this his girlfriend's daughter or something?
00:29My son thinks that she only married me for the green card.
00:32So you get papers and then we'll see.
00:34Is there anything I can do to convince you to come to our renewal?
00:37It's the 10-year renewal, it's kind of a big deal.
00:39Um, no. I don't think I could do that.
00:45Can you get that up there please?
00:47I'm Onami, I'm 6 feet tall, 270 pounds.
00:50I'm Mia, 4 feet 7, 95 pounds.
00:53There's a big height difference, about a foot and a half.
00:55Put me down!
00:56You can reach it, come on, jump shorty.
00:58How long have you been married?
01:0010 years.
01:01Kids?
01:02What we got here.
01:05What do you think I'm going to wear?
01:07Ah, that's a good question.
01:09We do this every time we go out.
01:11I have no taste, so I always beg him to pick clothes for me.
01:15This is my view today in Thailand.
01:19One of the presumptions people have about us
01:21is they assume that the age difference is a lot bigger than what it actually is.
01:25And she looks youthful, so people assume she's way younger than she is.
01:29And when I don't dye my beard, I have natural grays.
01:31So the assumptions are always kind of off.
01:34There we go.
01:35What about this one?
01:36Uh, you can put it in the trash.
01:38He's the one who likes to make me wear sexy.
01:42Oh yeah.
01:43If she was the one picking out her clothes,
01:45she'd look like a nun from the 18th century.
01:48There, you can wear that then.
01:50Kobe!
01:52I was 28 when I first met her.
01:54I was 19 when I met him.
01:55I traveled to her place, which is a remote part of the Philippines.
01:58It's in the province.
01:59The second I saw her, I was kind of attracted to her.
02:02When they say I married her for her looks.
02:06Perfect.
02:07We talked for a little while, for like a day or two.
02:09I asked her parents if she can come back to Manila with me,
02:11and we've been together ever since.
02:12My first impression?
02:14He looked okay for me.
02:16I don't know. I don't know what to say.
02:18What was your first thought?
02:19Because I've never seen a black American before.
02:22The blue top and this one.
02:24You're welcome.
02:25Okay.
02:26Thank you for making my life easier.
02:31My son thinks that she only married me for the green card,
02:34to become a citizen and for papers.
02:42Just because that's kind of the stereotype that Asians get in America.
02:47There he is.
02:49Our buddy, Michael.
02:50I want to ask him a few questions about our relationship and what he thought.
02:55I met Mia and Manami in the building.
02:57We've been friends ever since.
02:59I want to get his first impression so that I can kind of understand my son better.
03:03And we're going to do a valve renewal over in the Philippines.
03:05Oh, nice.
03:06Trying to get my son to come, but he's still kind of on the fence.
03:09He's on the fence?
03:10Yeah.
03:11You guys' energy, everything's great and perfect.
03:12I don't see why your son would have an issue.
03:15It's been kind of a challenge.
03:17I hope to have a conversation with him heart to heart and just get his opinion.
03:21But I can understand the questions and concerns that your son has.
03:25I think a visit would help.
03:26You just need to try to come here.
03:29So what about you?
03:30What about me?
03:31What do you think about our relationship?
03:34I was a little confused.
03:36Like, what's going on?
03:38Can I be honest?
03:40When we first met, I was like, is this his girlfriend's daughter or something?
03:44It just seemed like such an odd type of couple.
03:47So I was like, what's going on?
03:48And I'm thinking, is that his girlfriend?
03:50Or is that some, you know, is this Thailand?
03:52I don't know.
03:53Because it was such an opposite.
03:54And then, you know, I was looking at like...
03:57You were trying to flirt on me, huh?
04:00I was looking.
04:02And he kept kind of like lifting you up.
04:05But it was like he was lifting up a kid.
04:06I didn't realize how tall and how short you were.
04:09The first time I sent the photo of my wife to my mom,
04:12she literally said, check her birth certificate.
04:15Is that legal there?
04:17Imagine, we've been together for 10 years.
04:2010 years.
04:21I was 19 back then.
04:23And I was no baby yet.
04:26So I was so small and skinny.
04:28Maybe I looked like 14 back then.
04:30I don't know.
04:31That's what my mom said.
04:32My mom said she looked like she was 14.
04:34For Americans who've never traveled, like my mom,
04:36she looked too young to her.
04:40My son was like 8 or 9 years old when we started our relationship.
04:42As he got older, especially once he turned like 14 or 15,
04:45he wasn't living with me anymore.
04:46I could see that he was getting kind of upset.
04:48Sometimes he would go a month or two without even speaking.
04:51So I think me relocating and not being with him,
04:53he feels like some kind of negative way about that.
04:57I want to give him a call and just try.
04:59We'll see.
05:00Let's see. Hopefully he will.
05:01Hopefully.
05:02We want to know what he's thinking about us.
05:04Because maybe he's thinking that he chose me over him.
05:09There he is.
05:11Hey.
05:12Hey, what's up?
05:13Hey, Eli.
05:14What's up, man?
05:15So we had something we wanted to ask you about.
05:18Okay.
05:20I know you haven't been too fond of our relationship.
05:24Our 10-year anniversary is coming up.
05:26And we're doing a vow renewal.
05:28And I would like you to be there this time.
05:32You know how I feel about the relationship.
05:34So why would I do that?
05:36Because, one, it would give me a chance to travel.
05:38And, two, I've only been asking for maybe nine, ten years.
05:41Just a little while.
05:43Yeah.
05:47No.
05:49I don't think I could do that.
05:51You're all the way across the world.
05:53It's been forever.
05:54Now it's got to be supporting a relationship I don't.
05:57It's like, I don't know.
06:06So, yeah.
06:08What did you think when we first got together?
06:10First red flag.
06:12It's just a different country.
06:13So how are you going to know whenever she gets all the papers,
06:16she's still going to be there?
06:19I understand that in the beginning.
06:20That was kind of a long time ago.
06:22But, yeah, I can understand from, you know,
06:24people worry about the Philippines and, you know,
06:26green cards and all that stuff.
06:28Like, besides the initial red flag,
06:32because we never had this conversation.
06:33It's been a long time,
06:34but we never actually talked about anything.
06:36Yeah.
06:38It's like everything was good, and then you meet her,
06:40and now it's like half a million miles away.
06:43What if something happens, and then, like, you got to be there?
06:46Yeah, it's called a plane ticket, man.
06:49It's only kind of a short flight.
06:50It only takes me, what, 24 hours to get there?
06:53So that was not too big of a deal.
06:56So, Eli, what did you think about what I wanted with your dad?
07:00The citizenship.
07:02It's been a long time, but you hear these stories all the time.
07:06And so you get papers, and then we'll see what happens.
07:09And I don't mean to throw that stereotype on you, but...
07:12Yeah.
07:13It's a possibility.
07:14I totally understand your feelings.
07:18She did get your papers, like, a year ago.
07:20I did.
07:22I thought she was still waiting for...
07:25Oh, no, we just never announced it.
07:27Yeah, I don't really care about it, though,
07:29as long as I'm with him.
07:31You ever change your mind a little bit?
07:34Well, this is the first time I'm hearing about it, so...
07:37I mean, I'm sure other people are asking the same thing, aren't they?
07:40Yeah.
07:41Yeah, pretty much.
07:42Especially TikTok.
07:43Yeah, TikTok.
07:44People in TikTok be judging.
07:47Ow, I wasn't ready yet!
07:51Instead of getting upset or being negative about the things that people say...
07:54Here's 10 tips for dating a short Filipina.
07:57We just embrace it and turn it into fun and comical content.
08:00Number one, embrace the height difference.
08:02All right, while that video is processing,
08:04let's check out the comments from our last video.
08:06I found her in the middle of the forest, and I put her in my bag,
08:08and then we walked back home.
08:09Someone says that's kidnapping.
08:11You can already tell that the future baby is going to be bigger than her.
08:14Oh, yes.
08:15She almost is.
08:16She's almost your height now, and she's seven.
08:18I love you!
08:19Oh, look, you're taller than Mommy.
08:20No!
08:21Oh, wait, everyone's taller than Mommy.
08:23As long as she can go to America...
08:25Very original.
08:26...donate her to me, please.
08:30Donate.
08:3310 reasons why our relationship survived.
08:36We responded with positivity.
08:38That's all.
08:39Follow me for more relationship advice.
08:42Thank you!
08:43And how does it feel with my judgment as your son?
08:48For me, that's the hardest one.
08:49Now that it's been, like, a whole decade,
08:51and you've seen that she's literally been right by my side,
08:54like, at every moment of the day.
08:55Do you have a different opinion on our relationship?
08:57Do you still have concerns?
08:58I mean, considering she got her papers, like, a year ago,
09:02and that she's still there,
09:06I guess now I can start trying to trust the relationship more.
09:10So, yeah, I can come.
09:13Yeah, I'd appreciate it.
09:14One, I just want you to be there because you're my son,
09:16and then two, I just want you to experience things outside of America.
09:19All right, cool. Peace.
09:21Bye.
09:22Bye.
09:26The thing I love most about my wife,
09:28she's always there when I need her,
09:30her unwavering support,
09:32and the way she motivates me is endless.
09:35He's very considerate, and he also makes me feel safe.
09:40I'm fully happy in my life.
09:43I found my life partner.
09:47To the people that judge us, I say, keep doing what you do.
09:52It doesn't faze us, and we're going to keep on going.
Comments