Make Dating Fun Again 💕🔥 PART 1
Tired of boring dates and awkward conversations? It’s time to bring the spark back! 💕 In this video, we explore fun, creative, and exciting ways to make dating enjoyable again. Whether you're single, talking to someone new, or in a relationship, these tips will help you connect better, laugh more, and create unforgettable moments.
Say goodbye to dull meetups and hello to meaningful, exciting experiences. From unique date ideas to simple mindset shifts, this is your guide to making dating feel fresh, natural, and fun again! ✨
#DatingTips #LoveLife #ModernDating #RelationshipAdvice #DatingFun #FindLove #DatingLife #CoupleGoals #Romance #LoveAdvice #DatingStruggles #SingleLife #Flirting #HealthyRelationships #LoveJourney
Tired of boring dates and awkward conversations? It’s time to bring the spark back! 💕 In this video, we explore fun, creative, and exciting ways to make dating enjoyable again. Whether you're single, talking to someone new, or in a relationship, these tips will help you connect better, laugh more, and create unforgettable moments.
Say goodbye to dull meetups and hello to meaningful, exciting experiences. From unique date ideas to simple mindset shifts, this is your guide to making dating feel fresh, natural, and fun again! ✨
#DatingTips #LoveLife #ModernDating #RelationshipAdvice #DatingFun #FindLove #DatingLife #CoupleGoals #Romance #LoveAdvice #DatingStruggles #SingleLife #Flirting #HealthyRelationships #LoveJourney
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00:01Daddy gang welcome back to another Sunday session I am feeling really really reflective heading
00:11into today's episode because fun fact tomorrow is Matt and I's two-year wedding anniversary which
00:17means we will have been together for a total of six years going on seven that is like insane to
00:25say out loud in some ways I feel like we've been together our whole lives but then another part of
00:29me is like still shocked that I'm married and I have a husband and I'm a wife but as we're
00:35entering
00:35into this third year of marriage I have been thinking a lot about the time before Matt and I
00:42ever met obviously I feel so grateful and lucky to be in this phase of my life with him but
00:50I'm also
00:50really grateful for the time that I gave myself to just be single and on my own before we ended
00:57up
00:57together because even though being single can of course be extremely stressful and disappointing
01:03at times it can also be one of the most transformative and empowering phases of your life and I am
01:10so happy
01:11now to be building this life with Matt but I was really happy when I was single too and yes
01:19I know
01:19like being single and being married are two wildly different experiences but what I really want to
01:26emphasize today is that one phase is not more meaningful or important than the other when Matt
01:35came into my life I was really enjoying dating I was meeting new people I was figuring out what I
01:41liked getting to know myself better was building my career and because of that I think Matt and I were
01:48able to take our time and not rush into anything and I think now looking back that was such a
01:54huge
01:55part of why our relationship worked so well like I didn't need Matt Matt didn't need me we were both
02:00so
02:01centered and working on ourselves that it kind of was like if this works out great but like don't really
02:07need ya and like I'm a very independent person and if our lives naturally come together great but like
02:13kind of doesn't matter if it doesn't work out because I'm good on my own and I think that was
02:20such a beautiful place to be in when I met Matt and because of that I do think that those
02:24early
02:25dating stages between us they got to just be really fun like they were low stakes and we just both
02:31got to
02:32kind of be along for the ride and just enjoy ourselves why I'm bringing this up is because lately
02:38when I talk to my single friends or when I'm reading um dms that you guys are sending me for
02:44questions of the week I feel like the experience that I got to have when I was single is very
02:49different from the experience of dating and trying to find your person in 2026 and weirdly like I know
02:55it wasn't that long ago that I was single like seven-ish years ago but a lot continues to change
03:00with
03:00social media and listen I know it's like not exactly a hot take to say that dating apps have completely
03:05changed the way that we meet people but for better or worse they have taken a lot of the curiosity
03:12and
03:13the spontaneity out of the process of meeting someone new there's obviously so many positives of dating
03:19apps but that is one of the cons right and I can totally see how people might feel like the
03:25only option in
03:26today's dating culture is to meet your person on an app but I also know that when you're single
03:36and your mentality is in that headspace where you're like oh I don't really want to be single
03:42anymore like I just want to find a partner like I don't want to be going out to clubs and
03:47drinking
03:47and going to the bars and all that like it's almost like you go on that drinks and you're like
03:51really
03:51hoping it's going to be amazing and then it's like and then like you go on the second date because
03:55you're like come on like maybe there's like something I missed like maybe he is better on
04:00the second date than the first and then you're like oh my god this is worse than the first date
04:03and then you end up ghosting each other and like then the worst part you're like I have to start
04:06all
04:07over again because I just spent so much time in the apps and then I got out of the apps
04:13and we started
04:14texting and then I met him on the date and it was horrible and now I'm back to the apps
04:17like
04:17that whole process I do want to acknowledge can make you feel a little numb it's just the truth you
04:24start to
04:24become numb to dating and if you're anything like a lot of my single friends then you're probably
04:30also at a place where like you know exactly what you're looking for your standards are probably
04:35really high you've done a lot of work on yourself but every date you go on just feels like another
04:40disappointing job interview another waste of time and I think when dates start to feel like this chore
04:47that you have to check off your list I think that we really then start to strip ourselves from the
04:52potential to actually have a lot of fun in the process of getting to know someone and being
04:58single and dating and so I am here today daddy gang to try to bring a little fun back for
05:07you okay
05:07we're gonna try to make dating feel fun again and that is my mission for today's episode if you have
05:13been feeling hopeless or overwhelmed with your dating life then this episode is for you I have not
05:19forgotten my single girls let's get into it the whole point of any romantic experience whether
05:24it's a first date or a 50 year marriage is that it's supposed to make us feel good right like
05:31why do
05:32any of us want to partner at all why do we deal with the ups and the downs of relationships
05:37it's because
05:37at their core they're supposed to make our lives more enjoyable than they would be just being on our own
05:46right and if you're single today that means that all of the best relationship milestones are still
05:51ahead of you the first sleepover the big first I love you's the first trips together like all of it
05:58meeting the parents meeting the friends like there are so many firsts ahead of you that I promise you
06:04your friends and long-term relationships are probably jealous that you still get to look forward to
06:09like if I could rewind and relive some of the early dates that Matt and I went on and some
06:14of those
06:14early moments like I would because you can't recreate that feeling right the early dating stages can be
06:19truly the best time of your life if you do them right and yes I obviously know that dating intentionally
06:27means you probably feel the pressure and the timelines and expectations that I am not ignorant to but I also
06:36know that like anything in life when you get so fixated on the outcome it can completely negate the
06:43enjoyment that we get to feel along the way we're putting too much pressure on ourselves and so I think
06:50it's time
06:51to lean back into those you know the warm easy middle school feelings when all it took to make your
07:01entire day
07:01was just like your crush complimenting your ugly gauchos and being like damn Becca you looking good in those and
07:09you're like rolling your windows down blasting what is the song like suddenly I see and you're like hey
07:17oh things are turning around like you're so happy I think that's the energy we need to start to channel
07:24being in this year if you are single we are going to that is what we're gonna do so I
07:30want to start
07:31at the very beginning you're like what do you mean we're starting at the beginning I'm not abandoning you
07:35guys like we're getting into the weeds here today okay so we are gonna start with flirting I'm not
07:40gonna teach you how to fucking flirt today you all know how to flirt but I think in my opinion
07:45as a
07:46society we are losing the art of flirting and I refuse to let that happen okay flirting has turned into
07:57story likes fire emojis swiping right maybe a dm if we're getting a little crazy no okay in person
08:06somehow flirting has become a rare art form I literally was reading please guys let me read this
08:12to you a recent study at date psychology found that 45 percent of men ages 18 to 25 have never
08:22approached
08:23a woman in person for a date I just like I don't understand what what like I remember stories like
08:38my mom being like oh my god your dad would like call my home phone and like my parents would
08:43pick
08:43up being like hi who are you calling for like you like you had to call home phones okay to
08:49like get
08:49your day and like the like this is like people would be there and listening and like the you have
08:55to like go to their house like knock on the door bring the boom box meanwhile it's like double winky
09:02face sexy oh you're so fucking done you're so fucking done I think this is what we're gonna have to
09:10do
09:10listen we could do a whole episode on how depressing it is and how men have just like shriveled up
09:14to like
09:14almost nothingness right that can be another episode but that's not for today we're trying to save
09:19fucking positive here so if the men are going to be annoying losers we need to take matters into our
09:24own hands okay I remember back when I was single I used to go up to seriously like any guy
09:32that my
09:33friends or I thought was hot at the bar and I would just start flirting with him and listen yes
09:39sometimes
09:40it didn't go exactly as I planned but like there were so many instances where I immediately walked right
09:47back to my friend group and I was like okay that that he's not the vibe he looked hot but
09:51he's
09:52actually a fucking loser on to the next but like who cares if you go up and you got rejected
09:56who cares
09:56like I let me just tell you this story okay take me back to Brahmin oh my god I wonder
10:03if it's still
10:03open okay we're in like 2016 the year is 2016 I am in college and I am at a bar
10:12in the peak
10:13of winter with a bunch of my girlfriends on the soccer team and we are in tiny little bodycon dresses
10:21with thick heels and we have like shawls on like we don't even have fucking coats because we're like
10:28I can't afford to lose my fucking coat because like I can't pay for another coat so you just freeze
10:32your ass off in line okay we get inside of Brahmin and it is just heaven there's men everywhere and
10:39all
10:39of us are like giddy we're like who should we go up to like who should we like try to
10:43like make friends
10:44with and make out with and get guys should buy us drinks and all of a sudden this is like
10:48kind of
10:48never happened to me in my life but all of my friends and I see this man across the bar
10:54and it literally
10:54felt like there was like a shimmering light above his head it was like a movie moment we were all
10:59like
10:59genuinely that is one of the hottest men I've ever seen he had like kind of longish hair with like
11:05a beard
11:05beard and he had like big muscles but he was like wearing like a beanie and like he had a
11:11suit on and
11:12I was like he's either like a surgeon or an athlete like I can't tell which one like he either
11:17just
11:17like finished a game or like finished open heart surgery either one let's bang and so all my friends
11:23are like that's literally the hottest guy and everyone's like who's gonna go up to him who's gonna
11:26go up to him like someone has to go up to him like what if he has friends what if
11:29it's a connection and
11:30we're all sitting there and all of my friends are like no like we're too young like we're just like
11:35fucking losers in college like don't eat I'm not even and I just leave my friends because we don't
11:41have time to worry what people are gonna think about us I go up to the bartender I say do
11:46you have a pen
11:48she's like bitch do you want a tequila shot I'm like a pen honey I get a pen I take
11:52this napkin I
11:54write my number and my a fake name because at the time I was thinking that every single person was
11:59an
11:59underage cop that was like a little trigger of mine because I was obviously underage I was like oh like
12:03don't want to like fully give my name because if they asked for my ID my name was Catherine I
12:07had
12:07my sister's ID it's a whole thing whatever so my name was Catherine I'm at the bar I write Catherine
12:13I write my number I go up to this man I just beeline it he's under his glimmering light looking
12:17sexy oh so
12:19gorgeous let's fuck and I say to him hi and he looks at me like who is this girl and
12:24I go I just want
12:25to let you know and I just like would kick myself if I didn't say this I just saw you
12:30from across the
12:31bar and you're so fucking hot and I need to introduce myself no pressure here you go call
12:36me I start walking away he grabs my arm oh yeah if you haven't had a hookup just close your
12:45eyes sit
12:45back relax and just let this one pretend it's you okay he grabs my arm I turn around this man
12:52is
12:52looking at me he goes what are you doing you can't open with that and then just walk away from
12:58me I'm
12:59like oh oh my god like oh so excited it's working he's like what's your name I'm like Catherine I'm
13:07like oh I'm gonna have to fix that later if this ends up going anywhere we start flirting oh my
13:11god
13:11are you here with friends yeah oh my five girls over there in the corner we turn they're all like
13:16pretending to not be staring at us slurping their drinks I'm like you here with any friends he's like
13:21yeah my two boys I'm like oh what do you do he's like we just got back from our game
13:26I'm like
13:29I was like an athlete hunter back then it's since obviously passed but back then oh I could get a
13:36rush I could get a rush it didn't matter really what you did if you threw the ball if you
13:40caught
13:41the ball if you hit the ball anything with the ball I was in and this happened to be a
13:46puck okay
13:47oh you guys know what I felt for hockey players back in the day those butts and so I then
13:53I'm like oh my
13:53god do you want to come meet my friends great boom done his professional hockey player friends come
13:59over by all of my friends drinks at Brahmin we hang out I get his number he gets my number
14:06we exchange we
14:07text we're good to go and then I have a date with him then I obviously can spare you the
14:11details of
14:12then when I showed up and he was like continued to call me Catherine and I awkwardly had to tell
14:15him
14:16like I'm not 21 years old he still was interested in me is that weird maybe but we'll get into
14:21that
14:21later anyways the point is okay shots drinks athletes fun men dicks vaginas everyone was happy
14:32that night because I was like if this man rejects me who cares who fucking cares if this man rejects
14:39me because I went up to a couple other guys at the bar realized they were freaks and kept it
14:43fucking
14:43moving but this man ended up giving my friends and I plans and although it didn't work out with him
14:49we only had a couple dates still was so fun still made me feel alive still got me a little
14:55oof down
14:55there so I think the moral of the story is I could have given a napkin to 15 guys that
15:02night and been
15:02rejected by 14 but that is okay it just takes one oh my god what is that fucking quote from
15:09Cinderella
15:10story like something of like don't let the shot keep you from playing the game or so I don't that's
15:14not
15:15the quote but you guys know what I'm talking about don't stop yourselves from believing in
15:19yourselves that who cares if you embarrass yourself it's embarrassing for them to be so socially awkward
15:24that they can't like engage in a conversation with you and not be a fucking dick right you know
15:29what I mean I know you're all looking good you're feeling good go for it daddy gang and when it
15:34does
15:34click with someone and you go up and you flirt with a guy let me just tell you and he
15:38flirts back and
15:38you just like allow like that chemistry to flow and the banter is bantering you're touching his arm
15:44he's touching your arm buying you drinks you're getting his number it is so much fucking fun like
15:49that thrill in your body you're like I am on fire I'm on fire like even if nothing comes after
15:57that
15:57night it's also just so much for you right like that energy of like giving yourself confidence of
16:04like oh my god I can totally do this and the only thing between you and having that moment with
16:09a hot
16:09guy at the bar is just one getting over the fear of rejection two getting the fuck out of your
16:14house and three getting off your phone and actually being down to like go up to someone and be like
16:19if they reject me it's fine but I'm gonna just go for it okay okay are you with me are
16:25you gonna
16:25think about me and brahmin with the man under the sun okay guys I also know it's like a lot
16:30easier said
16:30than done and also like weirdly why did I have so much confidence in college but like I get it
16:34like
16:34now when you're out of college it's like you overthink things I get it um but I do think we
16:40need to
16:41start just like if you have wherever you were your highest peak in confidence get back to that stage
16:46I found an article okay guys we are we're not only talking about dicks over here we're educating the
16:55masses here on call her daddy and don't you ever fucking forget it I found an article on NPR called
17:01the key of flirting it's not about you by andrew andrew limb bong and andy taggle I want to share
17:12their advice okay let's read this one way to ease the fear of rejection is to view flirting as being
17:18more about the other person than about you we get a much better result if instead of trying to get
17:25others to make us feel good we actually concentrate on making them feel good this takes care of
17:31lingering self-doubt that actually presents itself as questions such as what if they don't like me
17:37a lot of flirting is driven by a focus on the end game maybe trying to get someone's number or
17:42buying
17:42someone a drink this goal-oriented way of viewing flirting isn't that helpful but we're so used to
17:48flirting as a means to an end to the relationship escalator which is the idea that you date someone
17:54enter into a relationship get married have kids live happily ever after etc but if you remove that
18:00goal you'll hopefully instead just be looking to create a mutually pleasant experience instead of
18:05any preconceived goals aim for a few minutes of pleasant conversation that's much more manageable
18:11and can help ease the pressure of any possible rejection if all you're hoping to do is make someone
18:17else feel special for a bit you really realize you actually can't lose open with a question then
18:24test and assess how they're reacting to you remember that flirting isn't about hitting any preconceived
18:29target other than helping someone else have a good time okay I agree and disagree with this article
18:36like I don't want you guys going in there being like Todd tell me everything oh my god Todd that's
18:43amazing okay wait Todd tell me more like and you're like okay I literally just had the worst fucking date
18:48of my life but I agree in the sense of like stop getting in your own head like just try
18:53to connect
18:54with the person and what I love about that advice is that it completely takes the pressure off of
18:58this big moment with someone like maybe they flirt with you or maybe they don't but it doesn't actually
19:05matter if you reframe the interaction as just being about having a nice conversation like shift the
19:13flirting mentality from worrying like do they like me do they think I'm hot are they having a good time
19:17like that is going to be such a game changer for your headspace when you are approaching someone
19:22rejection is going to happen it is inevitable it comes with the territory but like everything in
19:28dating that's just a numbers game okay you also never know what's going on in a person's head
19:34and rejection usually isn't even about you like you have to keep in mind maybe this guy is out
19:41drinking because his fucking dog just died and he's really sad so you hitting on him being like
19:45come here often he's gonna be like no but my fucking dog said in his head but he's not gonna
19:51say that and then he's just gonna be a dick to you okay that's the reason he was dick but
19:55you would
19:55never know that like if the person you go talk to isn't into it then just move along to the
20:01next like
20:02all you're looking for here is just like a fun chat and if someone can't provide that then goodbye to
20:07them we're moving on to the next okay let's just have fun no stakes no nothing like enjoy yourself
20:14what a concept let's start there because clearly we are we are bare fucking minimum right now guys
20:19these men are giving us nothing and if you're like Alex no that is it's just too scary like I
20:25just
20:25you know I want to sit in the corner and like wait for a man to come up to me
20:29then maybe let's start
20:31with a lower stakes situation okay I want you to just start by engaging with other normal human
20:40beings everywhere you go I understand again this is like what do you fucking mean Alex like of course
20:46I interact with human beings on a daily basis do you though like I'm not saying I want you guys
20:52out
20:53there flirting with everyone in the world I just mean truly practicing being more open in the mundane
20:59daily moments of your life when's the last time you complimented someone in line at the coffee shop
21:05when's the last time you striked up a conversation with your co-worker in the kitchen okay while they're
21:10toasting their bagel chat with the person sitting next to you on the airplane okay I already regrets
21:16giving that example not for too long okay read the fucking room to chat to them before takeoff and
21:22then shut the fuck up because it's my worst nightmare someone's trying to talk to me while I'm on a
21:25plane
21:25I'm like oh you're gonna be chatty today headphones on shut the fuck up but you know what I mean
21:30like I'm saying that you need to build up that social muscle when you're in situations with zero
21:35stakes so that when you meet someone you're actually interested in it's not as intimidating to get the
21:41ball rolling and let me be so clear I know this sounds maybe so fucking stupid and simple but I
21:49promise
21:49you it's not at this point because social skills have become something that we do need to practice at this
21:55day and age okay social media has completely taken over all of our brains all of our world we
22:00literally sit there and scroll and we feel like we know people and we feel like we understand people
22:04and we're like oh I know her oh I follow her you don't know any of these people even if
22:08it's your
22:08friend no did you call her have you texted her in a while if not you don't know any of
22:13these people
22:14and you're just like playing a video game okay I feel like we used to be able to actually talk
22:19to a wall I guess I am still sitting here alone talking to a wall right now but you guys
22:24know what
22:25I mean like I feel like I could back in the day make small talk with anyone but even now
22:30I realize
22:30like I'm out in the world sometimes and I'm like oh my god am I being awkward like I'm having
22:35like weird
22:36like is that a weird interaction because I'm on my fucking phone all the time like even just with a
22:41barista or something like I find myself being so in moments awkward and I'm like Alex I need to put
22:47my
22:47phone away I need to stop being obsessed with social media and watching everyone's lives
22:51like touch grass or I don't know go talk to someone face to face okay like close enough that you
22:58can see
22:58the pores in their face I just think technology has changed the way that we interact with the world
23:03around us and it's it's not our fault because that's just what's happening around us but it is
23:08then truly on us to retrain our brains of how to engage with someone face to face especially
23:15when it comes to dating and I know it sucks trust me like I'm so jealous of my parents I'm
23:21like the
23:22way that your generation had it like the romance and the build and the in-person meetings and the
23:28oh oh oh yeah take me back to the notebook days like their biggest problem was like they couldn't get
23:34in touch with each other oh oh little mystery a little oh like it's not even ghosting it's just
23:43distance oh like yeah yeah and now it's like we're on snapchat talking to each other we're on
23:51snapchat but we'll never meet up we're just gonna snapchat until this whole thing fucking lingers and
23:56then dies out no if you are messaging a man on snapchat knock it off we're done we're fucking done
24:03okay
24:05I think it's just helpful to work on that social muscle so that you're ready when there is someone
24:11that you're actually interested in you're like oh my god here we fucking go so let's say you do meet
24:15someone in person let's let's start there okay what a concept we meet someone that we actually like
24:20and they're not a complete loser and they're not a complete psychopath
24:23you