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Married At First Sight Au - Season 13 Episode 33

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00:00:00So excited to show David around, my hometown.

00:00:03We're here.

00:00:05When the couples took off across the country,

00:00:08they tasted married life beyond the experiment.

00:00:12You've always told me, don't come here to Sydney for me.

00:00:15Well, I'm open to moving now.

00:00:17And for Stephen...

00:00:18Must admit, I kind of like holding a rod and getting kissed.

00:00:21He gave Rachel the reassurance she needed

00:00:24to begin their next chapter together.

00:00:26What I see is a life outside the experiment.

00:00:30It really reaffirms the feelings are real, the feelings are neutral.

00:00:36My feelings are, like, they're pretty gone.

00:00:39Emotions ran high for some.

00:00:41You should be able to say something nice and be genuine about it.

00:00:45And despite winning over her nearest and dearest...

00:00:48David is everything that you've asked for.

00:00:50I don't know, I feel like I'm getting overwhelmed with it.

00:00:52David still felt he wasn't able to be the calm to Alyssa's storm.

00:00:57She still sees negatives.

00:00:59There's nothing else I can do.

00:01:00What's that?

00:01:01Mine's a pink.

00:01:02Is it your exes or something?

00:01:04And on the Gold Coast...

00:01:05I see you being pressured.

00:01:06Like, you need to be able to voice your concerns.

00:01:08Are you scared about her reaction?

00:01:09Pretty much.

00:01:10Scott struggled to voice his issues with Gia.

00:01:13I feel like sometimes I'm walking on eggshells.

00:01:15You know what I mean?

00:01:15No, no, no, what I'm saying is, like...

00:01:17I didn't know you wanted to argue today.

00:01:20Tonight...

00:01:22Now, in just a short time,

00:01:24you have one of the biggest decisions

00:01:25that you're going to have to make.

00:01:27Whether or not you can take this relationship

00:01:30into the real world

00:01:32and make it a success.

00:01:34Welcome.

00:01:35It's the last commitment ceremony of the experiment.

00:01:39This is a very pivotal night.

00:01:42And after two months of marriage,

00:01:44uncomfortable truths will be exposed.

00:01:46I want a partner who can have

00:01:49a constructive conversation with me

00:01:50about an issue.

00:01:51I can't mind-reading.

00:01:53It's not mind-reading.

00:01:53Oh, my gosh, I can't.

00:01:54I cannot...

00:01:55David reveals what's really going on

00:01:58in his relationship with Alyssa.

00:02:00You did mention I was a weak man.

00:02:01She called you a weak man?

00:02:03Yeah.

00:02:03So that's a problem.

00:02:05No, no, no, do not blame me.

00:02:07After weeks of giving her heart to Danny...

00:02:10I'm not going to walk down to final vows

00:02:13with someone that's a maybe about me.

00:02:15Is this the night Bec finally calls it quits?

00:02:19I'm not doing it.

00:02:21I'm not.

00:02:22And then...

00:02:23What I'm seeing here is fake.

00:02:25I'm going to call you out.

00:02:27I've seen it the entire experiment.

00:02:29If you don't let us in,

00:02:31you're not going to last.

00:02:33It's Scott's moment of truth.

00:02:35I'm getting a bit nervous.

00:02:40What I'm going to talk about tonight is

00:02:42I don't want you to be upset.

00:02:44What I'm going to talk about is feelings

00:02:47where I...

00:02:50Take breath.

00:02:52Breathe.

00:03:10It's the morning of the final commitment ceremony.

00:03:15Yummy.

00:03:16Get some caffeine.

00:03:18Cheers.

00:03:18Yeah.

00:03:19And after eight weeks in the experiment,

00:03:22tonight marks the last time

00:03:23the couples will come face-to-face

00:03:25with the experts.

00:03:27How'd you sleep?

00:03:28Yeah, I slept really well.

00:03:29Really, really well.

00:03:30I love our little midnight make-out sessions.

00:03:34Some people have chats.

00:03:35We have make-out sessions.

00:03:36We have make-out sessions.

00:03:37Yeah.

00:03:37I love it.

00:03:38This week, during homestays,

00:03:40the couples were tested

00:03:42as they prepare for a life

00:03:43outside the experiment.

00:03:45It was good.

00:03:46I'm just enjoying the last couple of weeks.

00:03:48Stella and Phillip continue to evolve as a couple,

00:03:51having said,

00:03:52I love you.

00:03:55Rachel and Stephen have been slower

00:03:57to open their hearts.

00:03:59But day by day,

00:04:01their connection grows.

00:04:02It was really good to tell everyone

00:04:04about our homestays

00:04:05and even reflecting on it

00:04:07like after last night's dinner party.

00:04:10Do I dare say that we're

00:04:12one of the strongest

00:04:14in the group now?

00:04:15Dare to say it, babes,

00:04:17because I've been saying it.

00:04:19Yes.

00:04:20Oh.

00:04:22For Alyssa and David,

00:04:25homestays has exposed cracks

00:04:27in their relationship.

00:04:30I feel like David and I

00:04:32have been a strong couple

00:04:34throughout this experiment.

00:04:35I still believe we are

00:04:37because we have each other's backs.

00:04:38It's just hard.

00:04:39Be careful.

00:04:39It's just...

00:04:40You know, we have been honest

00:04:40with each other about a lot of things.

00:04:42But since homestays,

00:04:44it's taken a turn.

00:04:46We have had deep conversations,

00:04:48big conversations,

00:04:49and David's maybe held back

00:04:51from saying what he really felt

00:04:53in that moment

00:04:53or questioning what I meant

00:04:54in that moment.

00:04:55And now,

00:04:56towards the end of the experiment,

00:04:58it's all coming out.

00:04:59how are you feeling?

00:05:02Um, I'm feeling...

00:05:06I'm feeling...

00:05:06like...

00:05:06we've got a lot going on

00:05:08right now at the moment.

00:05:09Just, uh,

00:05:10we're not really understanding each other.

00:05:13Yeah.

00:05:13I feel like we have a lot to unpack

00:05:14and a lot to, you know,

00:05:16break down,

00:05:17and, yeah,

00:05:18there are some cracks,

00:05:19and, you know,

00:05:20the pressure of the experiment ending,

00:05:22it's definitely

00:05:23taken its toll

00:05:25on me.

00:05:27I felt in homestay

00:05:28that I'm like,

00:05:30okay,

00:05:30he's keen to move to Adelaide,

00:05:31wait,

00:05:32haven't met his family,

00:05:33wait,

00:05:33haven't met his friends,

00:05:34oh, wait,

00:05:34I don't even know

00:05:35he's got multiple jobs,

00:05:36like,

00:05:36I don't know if he's stable,

00:05:37I want to have family,

00:05:38like,

00:05:38this is me spiralling

00:05:39because I'm like,

00:05:40this is too good to be true.

00:05:42Obviously,

00:05:43homestays is quite late,

00:05:44but it's brought up

00:05:44a lot of other things

00:05:45that we should have dealt with

00:05:47a long time ago.

00:05:48Like,

00:05:48have the conversations

00:05:49if you don't agree with something,

00:05:51or have the conversation

00:05:52or ask the questions

00:05:53when you don't understand

00:05:54something that I've said.

00:05:55Well,

00:05:55all I'm going to say is,

00:05:57I have...

00:05:57We should have gone there,

00:05:58but we haven't,

00:05:58and I haven't felt,

00:06:00like,

00:06:02challenged enough.

00:06:02I'm with you on that.

00:06:03You need to break through

00:06:03that softness

00:06:04and be strong with me

00:06:05because I want to be a team with you

00:06:06and talk things through

00:06:08and, um,

00:06:09you know,

00:06:10like...

00:06:11It's so frustrating

00:06:12to sit here

00:06:12trying to express

00:06:13my side of the story

00:06:15and I can hardly

00:06:16get a word in.

00:06:17I feel like there are holes.

00:06:18I think there was a...

00:06:19All I'll say is...

00:06:20There are cracks.

00:06:21There was a bit of,

00:06:22like,

00:06:24the last couple of days

00:06:25what I've been struggling with

00:06:26is I haven't been as,

00:06:28like,

00:06:28willing to have those...

00:06:30Hard conversations.

00:06:31Hard conversations with you

00:06:32about how I was feeling.

00:06:33But, babe,

00:06:34like,

00:06:34if you don't talk to me

00:06:35about your reservations,

00:06:37that's not healthy, babe.

00:06:39Yeah.

00:06:39Talk to me.

00:06:40We need to voice.

00:06:42And that's what I need

00:06:43in this relationship

00:06:44and that's...

00:06:45You're not fulfilling

00:06:45that need for me.

00:06:46And I believe that

00:06:48it's right

00:06:49to put it all out of the table.

00:06:51I don't ever want

00:06:51to have to hold back.

00:06:52I don't think it's that

00:06:53you hold back,

00:06:54but I think one thing

00:06:55about you is

00:06:55you hold on too much

00:06:57and then...

00:06:57Babe, I know, but...

00:06:58Babe, you say...

00:07:00Babe.

00:07:02You're spiralling

00:07:03within yourself.

00:07:04I know, I'm not.

00:07:05Are you done?

00:07:05I can't even get a word in.

00:07:08I feel like it's

00:07:09a slap in the face.

00:07:11Alyssa says she wants

00:07:13a hard, challenging conversation

00:07:14and she's wanted this

00:07:15for a long time,

00:07:15but it's not just like that

00:07:17with Alyssa.

00:07:18It's not.

00:07:19Respect is only

00:07:20on her terms

00:07:21and the relationship

00:07:22only goes her way

00:07:23or the highway.

00:07:24So that is a big deal break

00:07:26for me as well.

00:07:26It is the first time

00:07:27where I feel like

00:07:28both of us

00:07:30are very disconnected

00:07:32a lot more

00:07:33than we ever have

00:07:34going into

00:07:34a commitment ceremony.

00:07:36And tonight,

00:07:36I'm just going to be

00:07:37completely honest

00:07:38because I've hit my limit

00:07:40and I'm not going to

00:07:42like hold back.

00:07:43I'm just going to

00:07:43put it all on the table.

00:07:49As for Danny,

00:07:51his controversial views

00:07:53resulted in a tense

00:07:54argument with Bec

00:07:56at last night's

00:07:57dinner party.

00:07:59It makes you feel

00:08:00like a bit of a bitch

00:08:00moving in with a woman.

00:08:02What are you on about?

00:08:04He's talking about

00:08:05feeling emasculated

00:08:06if she was the one

00:08:08who owned the house.

00:08:10F*** me!

00:08:14And this morning,

00:08:15they are still struggling

00:08:17to resolve the issue.

00:08:18People can feel

00:08:19how they want to feel.

00:08:20You know what you mean?

00:08:21Whether other people

00:08:22agree with it or not,

00:08:24like, it's not up to them.

00:08:25This is how I feel.

00:08:26I feel like

00:08:27moving in with a woman

00:08:28just doesn't feel

00:08:30very manly of me.

00:08:31You know?

00:08:32Yeah.

00:08:33You don't understand.

00:08:34I do understand.

00:08:36I get what you're saying.

00:08:37But I suppose

00:08:40if we're talking about

00:08:41creating a life together

00:08:42after this experiment,

00:08:45then you're going to have

00:08:46to get over that.

00:08:49Am I right or am I right?

00:08:51The funny thing is with Bec,

00:08:53when she feels a kind of way,

00:08:55it's a completely valid feeling.

00:08:57That's how she feels.

00:08:58Well, when I say

00:08:59it makes me feel this way,

00:09:01oh, nah, but, nah,

00:09:02but that's not right.

00:09:03It's not actually to do

00:09:04with you being a woman.

00:09:05I wouldn't move in with anyone

00:09:07and just, like,

00:09:08freeload often.

00:09:09You pay the bills,

00:09:10I'll pay the mortgage,

00:09:10you'll be done.

00:09:11Easy.

00:09:12It's a neat tie.

00:09:14Other than that,

00:09:15we had a great night.

00:09:17Yes, sir, yeah.

00:09:18And whilst Bec and Danny

00:09:20continue to disagree,

00:09:22our other couples

00:09:23are preparing

00:09:24for the final commitment ceremony

00:09:26of the experiment.

00:09:29You look great.

00:09:30You too.

00:09:31Yeah.

00:09:32Yeah.

00:09:33Very pure, you know?

00:09:35Yeah.

00:09:36Yeah.

00:09:36Very appropriate.

00:09:37Very appropriate.

00:09:39As our couples face

00:09:41the experts

00:09:42for the last time,

00:09:44a defining choice awaits.

00:09:47Tonight,

00:09:48they must decide.

00:09:51Stay in the experiment

00:09:52through to final vows

00:09:54or walk away

00:09:56from their marriages

00:09:57for good.

00:10:01For Scott,

00:10:02the pressure is mounting.

00:10:04He feels it is now

00:10:06or never

00:10:06to reveal his true feelings

00:10:08to his bride, Gia.

00:10:10final commitment

00:10:12ceremony tonight.

00:10:13Crazy, isn't it?

00:10:16Yeah.

00:10:16Can you believe

00:10:17that we've made it

00:10:17this far?

00:10:20Yeah,

00:10:21I definitely

00:10:21didn't imagine it.

00:10:25I do think

00:10:26we had a great week.

00:10:28I don't think

00:10:29we're going to have

00:10:29too much feedback tonight.

00:10:30I think

00:10:32it was great.

00:10:33Like, I can't fault

00:10:33homestays.

00:10:34It went really well.

00:10:35Positive,

00:10:36good vibes,

00:10:37you know?

00:10:37So,

00:10:38hopefully not getting

00:10:39grilled hard tonight.

00:10:41I feel like

00:10:42I've been hit a bit

00:10:43throughout this experiment

00:10:44from the experts.

00:10:47Yeah.

00:10:48Yeah.

00:10:52What else?

00:10:56I get nervous

00:10:57going to the

00:10:58commitment ceremony

00:11:00because I still

00:11:01can't be 100%

00:11:02myself

00:11:03and I feel like

00:11:04I just can't

00:11:05have a voice sometimes

00:11:06because she thinks

00:11:06we're going to have

00:11:07an argument

00:11:07and I want her

00:11:08to be able to understand

00:11:08that we need to speak

00:11:09anecdotally

00:11:10knowing that

00:11:10if I have a concern

00:11:11or she has a concern

00:11:12we can talk

00:11:13and it's not going

00:11:13to lead to a disaster.

00:11:15You've got to be able

00:11:15to communicate.

00:11:16So you ready for tonight?

00:11:19I don't like

00:11:20commitment ceremonies,

00:11:21you know that.

00:11:22Yeah.

00:11:22I feel like

00:11:23we're at the point

00:11:24where, you know,

00:11:25we're almost

00:11:26falling in love.

00:11:27Yeah.

00:11:28Then I feel like

00:11:29if she feels more

00:11:30than me

00:11:30and she doesn't

00:11:31get anything back

00:11:32from me

00:11:32she'll start spiralling

00:11:33and start saying

00:11:34harshful things to me.

00:11:36Very harshful things.

00:11:39And so then

00:11:40I feel like

00:11:41I can't talk

00:11:42and I go quiet

00:11:44and I go flat.

00:11:47But that retracts

00:11:48me every time

00:11:48and that's what

00:11:49pushes me away

00:11:50from falling in love

00:11:50and I don't think

00:11:51she understands that.

00:11:52So you've just

00:11:53got to look at

00:11:53the positives,

00:11:54you know?

00:11:57Personally,

00:11:58I'd love to speak up

00:11:59and share everything

00:12:00because it's good

00:12:01to get feedback.

00:12:03But there's another

00:12:03side of me

00:12:04where I feel like

00:12:04I want to protect

00:12:06my wife.

00:12:06I don't want to feel

00:12:07unstable, upset

00:12:08or, you know,

00:12:09get nervous

00:12:09or have a breakdown.

00:12:11So, you know,

00:12:11I think how's she

00:12:12going to react

00:12:13if I say these things?

00:12:14Alright.

00:12:15See you in there.

00:12:18Bye.

00:12:19Sometimes I'm like,

00:12:19well, I'm just

00:12:20not going to talk

00:12:21about it.

00:12:22I'm just in the air.

00:12:23I don't know

00:12:24what to do.

00:12:25Bye.

00:12:26Bye.

00:12:27Bye.

00:12:46Hello.

00:12:47Hi.

00:12:48How are you guys?

00:12:49Very well.

00:12:50Welcome.

00:12:51Hello, guys.

00:12:52Hi.

00:12:53Hello.

00:12:54How are you?

00:12:54Welcome.

00:12:55Hi.

00:12:58Hi.

00:13:17Hello, ladies.

00:13:18Hello.

00:13:19And Chris.

00:13:20Hi.

00:13:30Welcome everybody

00:13:31to the very final

00:13:33commitment ceremony

00:13:35of this experiment.

00:13:37Now, this is a very,

00:13:38very pivotal night

00:13:40because it is the very

00:13:42last time that you get

00:13:43to sit in front of the

00:13:44experts and to hear

00:13:46the feedback that we

00:13:48have for you.

00:13:50Now, in just a short

00:13:51time, you have one of

00:13:52the biggest decisions

00:13:53that you're going to

00:13:54have to make.

00:13:55Whether or not you can

00:13:56take this relationship

00:13:57in the experiment

00:13:59into the real world

00:14:00and make it a success.

00:14:02And as we know as experts,

00:14:04if you are not

00:14:06completely vulnerable

00:14:07with your partner

00:14:08at this stage

00:14:10of the experiment,

00:14:11then your relationship

00:14:12will crumble

00:14:14on the outside.

00:14:15It will not last.

00:14:19Now, with that being said,

00:14:21let's get our first couple up.

00:14:28Alyssa and David.

00:14:39Hello.

00:14:40Hello.

00:14:43So, how are things?

00:14:46Um, you know what?

00:14:48Last time we were on the

00:14:49couch, things were moving

00:14:52in the right direction.

00:14:53They still are.

00:14:54But we do have some

00:14:55hiccups that we're trying

00:14:57to work through at the

00:14:58moment.

00:14:58Okay.

00:14:59Um, obviously,

00:15:01I'll start by saying,

00:15:02you know,

00:15:03Alyssa is an amazing girl.

00:15:05But personally,

00:15:06I feel like

00:15:08I have, you know,

00:15:10carried a lot of the

00:15:10emotional weight

00:15:11in the relationship.

00:15:13This is just how I feel.

00:15:15What do you mean

00:15:16when you say carry

00:15:17most of the emotional weight?

00:15:19I feel like there

00:15:20has been times where

00:15:21I personally put

00:15:23my emotions aside

00:15:25just to make sure

00:15:26that there was

00:15:27just peace.

00:15:30And this is a thing

00:15:31where, like,

00:15:32I have tried to bring

00:15:33something up

00:15:33at the start of the

00:15:34relationship to Alyssa

00:15:35and I felt like she

00:15:36was not receptive to it.

00:15:39So what that ended up

00:15:40doing for me

00:15:40was making me

00:15:41be more cautious

00:15:43of bringing stuff up to her.

00:15:44Mm-hmm.

00:15:48It was more the reaction of,

00:15:50is it going to become

00:15:51an argument

00:15:51that was going to go

00:15:53out of hand?

00:15:55So what happened

00:15:56with all of that

00:15:57emotion

00:15:58as you describe it?

00:15:59if you weren't

00:16:00expressing that

00:16:00to Alyssa,

00:16:01what were you doing

00:16:02with it?

00:16:06Well,

00:16:08anything little

00:16:09that I didn't really

00:16:10care about

00:16:10didn't really affect me

00:16:11so I'd brush over it.

00:16:12But what happened

00:16:13in Homestays was

00:16:15I feel like it

00:16:16triggered me.

00:16:17Okay.

00:16:17I was saying Adelaide

00:16:18is a livable place

00:16:19but I felt like

00:16:20Alyssa was being

00:16:21a bit negative

00:16:24about the move.

00:16:25I feel like she was

00:16:26pointing out all

00:16:27of the reasons

00:16:28why it won't work

00:16:28which are all valid.

00:16:29We all know

00:16:30that there is things

00:16:31to work out

00:16:31in the real world.

00:16:33But it felt like

00:16:34for me

00:16:34she was too

00:16:35in her head about it

00:16:36that it's affecting

00:16:37me right now.

00:16:42Do you know why?

00:16:44Because I'm feeling

00:16:44very frustrated

00:16:45at this part

00:16:46of the experiment.

00:16:47This is our

00:16:48last couch session

00:16:49and I'm feeling

00:16:50like there has been

00:16:51some hold back

00:16:52and some of our

00:16:53couch sessions

00:16:54could have been

00:16:54things that we

00:16:55could be working

00:16:55through if we had

00:16:56more open conversations.

00:16:58I feel like

00:16:59he doesn't want

00:16:59to have like

00:17:00conflict

00:17:01but I feel like

00:17:02there is healthy

00:17:03conflict resolution

00:17:04otherwise my

00:17:04relationship in my eyes

00:17:05this is too good

00:17:06to be true.

00:17:08Can I just

00:17:09stay?

00:17:10I want a partner

00:17:11who can have

00:17:13a constructive

00:17:14conversation with me

00:17:15about an issue

00:17:17but a partner

00:17:17that shuts you

00:17:18down and tells you

00:17:19what they're saying

00:17:20is Bible

00:17:22it is an issue.

00:17:23actually spoken

00:17:23down on you

00:17:24in a bad way

00:17:25like I don't

00:17:25know there's

00:17:26things you've

00:17:26said you

00:17:27I don't want

00:17:28to I don't

00:17:29want to like

00:17:29well an example

00:17:30could be helpful

00:17:31for Alyssa here.

00:17:33Well she has

00:17:34you did mention

00:17:35I was a weak man

00:17:36at one point.

00:17:37She called you

00:17:38a weak man?

00:17:39Yeah.

00:17:42So that's a problem.

00:17:58Well she has

00:17:59you did mention

00:18:01I was a weak man

00:18:01at one point.

00:18:03She called you

00:18:04a weak man?

00:18:06Yeah.

00:18:08So that's a problem.

00:18:15What was the

00:18:16context around that?

00:18:18It was in one

00:18:19of our talks

00:18:20about like

00:18:20she's got assets

00:18:21she's ahead in life

00:18:23and she wants a guy

00:18:24that can match that

00:18:25in life.

00:18:26So financially weak?

00:18:27Yeah.

00:18:28How did it feel

00:18:28when she said that?

00:18:29Well I just thought

00:18:30where's this coming from?

00:18:32And the thing about me

00:18:33is like I pick

00:18:34what I want to

00:18:34like get upset about

00:18:36and I didn't.

00:18:37Maybe I should have

00:18:39combated that

00:18:39at the time.

00:18:44Alyssa what was

00:18:45going on for you?

00:18:46What did you want

00:18:46to achieve

00:18:47from saying that

00:18:48to him?

00:18:49I was getting

00:18:50frustrated because

00:18:51I'm wanting more

00:18:52from David.

00:18:53I'm wanting to see

00:18:54more from him

00:18:55and I feel like

00:18:56I want to be strong

00:18:57together as a couple.

00:18:59I think where

00:18:59I'm struggling is

00:19:00it's she wants me

00:19:01to be strong

00:19:02on her timeline

00:19:03and that's where

00:19:04it feels like

00:19:05it is your way

00:19:07or you're not happy.

00:19:10David do you feel

00:19:11like you're enough

00:19:12for Alyssa?

00:19:13I feel like

00:19:13I'm 100% enough.

00:19:17Do you think

00:19:18she thinks

00:19:19you're enough?

00:19:19I think she does

00:19:21but the questions

00:19:21that I'm getting

00:19:22are like

00:19:23they are confusing me.

00:19:24So what are these

00:19:25questions that are

00:19:26confusing you?

00:19:28Well the first thing

00:19:29is she's wondering

00:19:30like you know

00:19:31energy like

00:19:32in five years

00:19:33or whatever

00:19:33is that going to be

00:19:34enough to sustain her

00:19:35and she has said to me

00:19:36if I'm not getting

00:19:38the fix I need

00:19:39I'll go look elsewhere.

00:19:41No I didn't say that.

00:19:43She said I'm hungry

00:19:44you need to feed me

00:19:45you need to feed me

00:19:45I've taught you more

00:19:46in this relationship

00:19:47than you've taught me.

00:19:48I'm wanting to

00:19:49like open end

00:19:50to conversations

00:19:50and stuff

00:19:51I'm wanting to

00:19:52go deep

00:19:52like I'm putting

00:19:53all my cards

00:19:53on the table

00:19:54I'm very direct

00:19:55like I'll talk

00:19:56about stuff

00:19:57I need some sort

00:19:58of fuel

00:19:59like that

00:19:59it's just

00:19:59it's what I like

00:20:01but I don't know

00:20:02if our relationship

00:20:04is going to

00:20:04last in the real world

00:20:06if this is the gap

00:20:10I don't know

00:20:11if we're going to be

00:20:11a good match

00:20:12long term

00:20:12if this is the energy

00:20:13because I need to see

00:20:15David in his element

00:20:16I need to see David

00:20:17with his family

00:20:18I need to see David

00:20:18with his friends

00:20:19I need to see what he does

00:20:20like I want to have

00:20:21a family in the next few years

00:20:29and like if

00:20:29if we want to talk

00:20:30about me seeing things

00:20:31work in the real world

00:20:32what I need to see

00:20:33as well is

00:20:34if someone says

00:20:35they want to have

00:20:35open ended conversations

00:20:36that has to be it

00:20:37what's happened

00:20:38in this relationship

00:20:39if I've done a lot

00:20:40of listening

00:20:40Alyssa has done

00:20:41a lot of talking

00:20:44that's the fact

00:20:44you need to speak up

00:20:45no no no

00:20:46but like it's

00:20:47I don't

00:20:47one thing about me

00:20:48is I think

00:20:50we're both adults

00:20:50and I want to see

00:20:52that in her

00:20:52that she has the ability

00:20:53to listen

00:20:54I can't mind read

00:20:55it's not mind reading

00:20:56oh my gosh

00:20:56I can't

00:20:57I cannot

00:20:57I know

00:20:58I can't mind read babe

00:20:59you're frustrating me

00:21:00because I can't read your mind

00:21:02when something

00:21:02when she

00:21:03when I start saying something

00:21:04that she's not getting

00:21:05I'm frustrated

00:21:06I don't want to deal

00:21:07with this anymore

00:21:07no I'm not dealing with it

00:21:08I'm just saying

00:21:09you're now talking in circles

00:21:10so I'm going to

00:21:11I'm going to pull you up there

00:21:13I mean this has been

00:21:14very enlightening

00:21:16I think

00:21:17for us to get a glimpse

00:21:18inside

00:21:19what's really

00:21:20going on

00:21:20in the relationship

00:21:22so an observation

00:21:23from

00:21:24from us here

00:21:25is that

00:21:26you've both

00:21:28made missteps

00:21:29I think

00:21:30in terms of your communication

00:21:31and what you've brought

00:21:32to the couch here

00:21:34because

00:21:35Alyssa

00:21:35you were aware

00:21:36that he was withholding

00:21:37you knew he was not

00:21:38being up front with you

00:21:40so you could have

00:21:41brought that up

00:21:41and so David

00:21:42for you

00:21:43you were choosing

00:21:44not to speak up

00:21:47you haven't arrived

00:21:48at an outcome

00:21:49no

00:21:50but you've helped us

00:21:51see

00:21:52what's going on inside

00:21:53so thank you for that

00:21:54to this point

00:21:56so now let's look forward

00:21:58because as you know

00:21:59this is the last

00:22:00commitment ceremony

00:22:01this is

00:22:02almost the end

00:22:03of the experiment

00:22:04for you two

00:22:05where to from here

00:22:14well I'm sitting here

00:22:16because I want that help

00:22:18I guess what we need

00:22:19to do is look

00:22:20beneath

00:22:21the arguments here

00:22:22because

00:22:23there's a reason

00:22:25that you have

00:22:26been

00:22:26avoiding

00:22:27bringing these issues up

00:22:29here's an opportunity

00:22:30to now say

00:22:31okay

00:22:32we're going to come

00:22:33at this as equals

00:22:34not one putting

00:22:34the other down

00:22:35not one avoiding

00:22:36and running away

00:22:37we are coming here

00:22:38together

00:22:39to have this

00:22:40open

00:22:40honest

00:22:41mature conversation

00:22:42about what you both want

00:22:44post experiment

00:22:45because otherwise

00:22:46the last

00:22:47couple of months

00:22:48has been a waste of time

00:22:50you've got that opportunity

00:22:52now

00:22:52it's not too late

00:22:55can you do that

00:22:57yeah

00:23:06I do believe

00:23:10that the things

00:23:11we have gone through

00:23:12are significant

00:23:13and I believe

00:23:14that there are

00:23:15genuine feelings here

00:23:16I do feel

00:23:17strong feelings

00:23:18towards Alyssa

00:23:19that's why I'm still here

00:23:20okay

00:23:22alright

00:23:22well on that note

00:23:23we're going to go

00:23:23to a decision

00:23:25Alyssa

00:23:26we'll start with you

00:23:28I didn't come here

00:23:29for three months

00:23:30to waste it

00:23:31and like

00:23:32I came here

00:23:33to

00:23:34find my person

00:23:36I want to settle down

00:23:37I want to have a family

00:23:37I want the happy ending

00:23:39and

00:23:40that is why

00:23:42I want to move forward

00:23:43as a team

00:23:44and

00:23:45no holding back

00:23:47and

00:23:48because

00:23:48there's so many

00:23:49feelings involved

00:23:50and like

00:23:51I really care about

00:23:52this relationship

00:23:52so much

00:23:53I have decided

00:23:54to stay

00:23:56okay

00:23:56thank you

00:23:58and to you

00:23:58David

00:24:01yeah

00:24:01um

00:24:07I'll take your advice

00:24:08on board

00:24:09and yeah

00:24:09I'll roll to stand

00:24:15pleased to see that

00:24:17this could be

00:24:18make or break

00:24:19for you guys

00:24:21you're about to make

00:24:22the decision

00:24:23of this experiment

00:24:24the thing that is

00:24:25going to determine

00:24:26which way you go

00:24:27in your future

00:24:29good luck guys

00:24:30thank you

00:24:31thank you

00:24:57coming up

00:24:58you do not have to tell me

00:24:59you love me

00:24:59but I'm not going to

00:25:01walk down to final vows

00:25:03with someone that

00:25:03I may be

00:25:05Beck hits her limit

00:25:06I'm not doing it

00:25:07and

00:25:10I

00:25:11take a breath

00:25:11a minute

00:25:13breathe

00:25:14will Scott speak up

00:25:19when I care about someone so much

00:25:20I feel like I can't speak my voice

00:25:22when I'm ever concerned

00:25:23and it's a weakness of mine

00:25:36all right

00:25:36let's have our next couple up

00:25:41Rachel and Stephen

00:25:42hey

00:25:46hello

00:25:47hello

00:25:48hello

00:25:49how are you

00:25:50hiya

00:25:51I love this energy

00:25:53can I just say Steve

00:25:54oh you got a bit of a swag

00:25:55oh

00:25:56he sure does

00:25:57oh don't flatter me John

00:26:00especially coming from you

00:26:05where do you two want to begin

00:26:07homestays

00:26:08I guess

00:26:08I mean it seems like

00:26:09it's had a big impact

00:26:10on the two of you

00:26:11yeah

00:26:14homestays was

00:26:15a big success for me

00:26:16and I believe Rachel as well

00:26:19it's

00:26:19sort of changed the relationship

00:26:21in many ways

00:26:22oh

00:26:23in what way

00:26:24for me

00:26:25Rachel is fantastic

00:26:26she

00:26:27I showed her my passions

00:26:28and

00:26:29she went out on the boat

00:26:30and she enjoyed herself

00:26:31a smile ear to ear

00:26:33and we had lots of banter

00:26:34laughing

00:26:35it was a really super sweet time

00:26:37but it's not that she's in the fishing

00:26:40it's the independence

00:26:41I can go

00:26:42I feel like I can rely on Rachel

00:26:44if something happens in the well

00:26:46where I'm like

00:26:46jeez can you

00:26:47you know

00:26:47help me out with this

00:26:48Rachel's gonna go

00:26:49got your back

00:26:49and she's just gonna get it done

00:26:51so as a result of that

00:26:53how do you feel about her

00:26:56well

00:26:58I feel like I can see myself

00:27:00falling in love with Rachel

00:27:02woohoo

00:27:04that's massive

00:27:07hmm

00:27:09Rachel

00:27:12you do the easy tears of happiness

00:27:13I swear

00:27:14let's just take a moment shall we

00:27:16just a little bit overwhelmed

00:27:18in a good way

00:27:21so I feel the same

00:27:23you know

00:27:23I can definitely see myself

00:27:25falling in love with you too

00:27:28there's something going on

00:27:29for you right now Rachel

00:27:30what is it

00:27:31this is a very significant moment for you

00:27:33yeah

00:27:34um

00:27:35I think I shared with you John

00:27:36before I came in here

00:27:38the last time

00:27:40someone told me that they loved me

00:27:41the very next day

00:27:43they told me

00:27:44they don't remember saying it

00:27:47um

00:27:48that was after seven years

00:27:50of a

00:27:51a toxic situation

00:27:53shit

00:27:53and so

00:27:54um

00:27:56it's

00:27:57it's a hard thing

00:27:58my barriers go up

00:28:01and so

00:28:03having

00:28:03this journey

00:28:04with Stephen

00:28:05and knowing

00:28:06you know

00:28:07how he feels about vulnerability

00:28:09and when he says something

00:28:10he means it

00:28:11so

00:28:12for him to be sitting here

00:28:14and saying that to me

00:28:15it

00:28:16yeah

00:28:17bam

00:28:17right in the feels

00:28:18in a really beautiful way

00:28:19because I'm like

00:28:20yeah

00:28:22I believe him

00:28:25and

00:28:25I

00:28:26don't think that I thought

00:28:27that I would believe

00:28:29a man again

00:28:30in that way

00:28:31thank you

00:28:32you're welcome

00:28:35and you know what

00:28:36he said that

00:28:37holding your hand

00:28:38sitting next to you

00:28:39yeah

00:28:39and

00:28:40showing you

00:28:41his family

00:28:42yeah

00:28:43all the things

00:28:44that signal

00:28:45yep

00:28:46he's not going anywhere

00:28:47yeah

00:28:49it's different

00:28:50it is very different

00:28:52is it scary

00:28:53it's

00:28:54petrifying

00:28:58what are you scared of

00:28:59the most

00:29:02I'm scared that Stephen

00:29:03will go back to his life

00:29:04in Sydney

00:29:06and it's just going to be

00:29:08easier for him to let me go

00:29:11because he is time poor

00:29:12and he has his business

00:29:14and so

00:29:15it might be a burden

00:29:18to try and maintain

00:29:19our relationship with me

00:29:22so he might just let me go

00:29:25so

00:29:26yeah

00:29:28that's

00:29:29that's my fear

00:29:31I feel like I'm hurt

00:29:33well how does that land for you

00:29:35Stephen

00:29:35when you hear her say that

00:29:37um

00:29:37yeah it makes me feel helpless

00:29:39at times

00:29:40and I just don't know what to say

00:29:42because I

00:29:42when I see Rachel in these

00:29:44states

00:29:45the first thing I want to do

00:29:46is try and comfort her

00:29:47and try to fix the situation

00:29:49or reassure

00:29:50at least

00:29:50at least take the edge off

00:29:52a bit

00:29:54so if you don't have to fix it

00:29:55and you just sit with it

00:29:56and validate it

00:29:57can you do that

00:29:58I can do that

00:29:59I can't say I'm

00:30:01happy with that

00:30:02but I mean

00:30:02it's

00:30:03it is what it is

00:30:04makes you feel a bit uncomfortable

00:30:05it does

00:30:06yeah

00:30:06good

00:30:06it does

00:30:07good

00:30:07it does

00:30:08um

00:30:08and the only thing I can say to her

00:30:10is is that the only thing

00:30:11that I feel like that's going to fix this

00:30:12is actually

00:30:13go out there in the real world

00:30:14and put it into practice

00:30:15and

00:30:16yeah

00:30:17prove it wrong pretty much

00:30:19why haven't you changed

00:30:20you know

00:30:22all the both of you

00:30:23sitting in front of us today

00:30:25this was all

00:30:25all done at homestays

00:30:27it was amazing what homestays did for us

00:30:29we love it

00:30:30we love it

00:30:31all right

00:30:32let's go to the decision

00:30:33let's start with you first

00:30:35Steven

00:30:36there was a big question mark with me

00:30:38before homestays

00:30:39I'm like

00:30:40this could make or break us

00:30:41but

00:30:42it's just only brought

00:30:43me closer to Rachel

00:30:46so I'm going to

00:30:47yeah stay

00:30:48beautiful

00:30:49brilliant

00:30:51and what about you Rachel

00:30:52what do you got

00:30:53stay or leave

00:30:54I know this is going to shock everyone

00:30:57but I wrote stay

00:30:58and that's us on a boat fishing

00:31:03beautiful

00:31:05we have loved watching you

00:31:07through this experiment

00:31:08you've had some difficult moments

00:31:10along the way

00:31:11but you've grown

00:31:13you know

00:31:14and the way in which you're together now

00:31:16really

00:31:17it's on display

00:31:19everyone sees it

00:31:20you're a unified couple

00:31:22it's fantastic

00:31:23what I would say to you

00:31:24in this final week

00:31:26is don't get inside your head too much

00:31:29you need to be

00:31:31enjoying

00:31:33this final week

00:31:34rather than

00:31:36thinking too far ahead

00:31:37because that's something that

00:31:39I think in the past

00:31:40you've been a bit guilty of doing

00:31:43and on that

00:31:44you can go back to your group

00:32:00you make me cry

00:32:02you're welcome

00:32:03yeah

00:32:16let's get our next couple

00:32:18up on the couch

00:32:21Bec and Danny

00:32:25hey guys

00:32:26hello

00:32:27how are you

00:32:28good home

00:32:29very well

00:32:30good good

00:32:32homestays

00:32:32let's start with you

00:32:33Bec

00:32:34what were they like

00:32:35they were great

00:32:37I was in my own

00:32:38estate

00:32:39I was in my own home

00:32:40with my dog

00:32:42we saw my family

00:32:43at my auntie's beach house

00:32:45and that was great

00:32:48dad and Daniel

00:32:49get along really well

00:32:49which is great

00:32:51so good start

00:32:52great start

00:32:56what else happened

00:32:57at the home stay

00:32:59we met

00:33:00Bec's friends

00:33:01that went pretty good

00:33:02didn't it

00:33:02like just like the tough

00:33:03questions

00:33:04and then

00:33:05that night

00:33:06we went back

00:33:07to Bec's

00:33:08and we were sitting

00:33:09around like having a

00:33:11having a fire

00:33:13and then

00:33:13I cracked a joke

00:33:16like about her cousin

00:33:17fancying me

00:33:20and it landed poorly

00:33:25what did he say

00:33:25what did he say with the joke

00:33:26can you just tell us

00:33:28we were having a bit

00:33:29of an emotional moment

00:33:30with one another

00:33:31talking about our feelings

00:33:32and how it's been

00:33:33on homestays

00:33:34and Daniel said

00:33:35if all else fails

00:33:36at least Daniel fancies me

00:33:38type thing

00:33:42and I lost it

00:33:46and why

00:33:48because

00:33:49it makes me feel like

00:33:51when we're having

00:33:52this conversation

00:33:53that means so much

00:33:54to me

00:33:55that it diminishes it

00:33:56and it makes it a joke

00:34:00I get it

00:34:00I shouldn't have said it

00:34:02but I feel like

00:34:02our fight styles

00:34:03don't really match

00:34:04too well

00:34:07what scared me was

00:34:08we couldn't rectify it

00:34:09too quickly

00:34:11and where I'm sort of

00:34:12holding back

00:34:13a little bit

00:34:14is

00:34:15I don't

00:34:16I wouldn't want to move

00:34:17and then we have

00:34:18an argument like that

00:34:19and I feel really

00:34:20isolated and alone

00:34:21I don't want to do that

00:34:22so

00:34:23arguing is something

00:34:24that scares you

00:34:25when it comes to big

00:34:26why

00:34:28I think for both of us

00:34:29it just doesn't work

00:34:34wow

00:34:34okay

00:34:35what am I saying wrong

00:34:37just to

00:34:38use the words

00:34:39for both of us

00:34:40it doesn't work

00:34:44I'm not saying

00:34:45we don't work

00:34:46I'm saying

00:34:46our fight style

00:34:47doesn't work

00:34:48oh yeah

00:34:48no okay

00:34:50so this is what

00:34:52happens sometimes

00:34:52I try and say something

00:34:53and Bec takes it

00:34:55in completely

00:34:55the wrong way

00:34:58Bec what's going on

00:34:59inside of you right now

00:35:01um I suppose

00:35:02I'm fearful

00:35:03because I've

00:35:04let every wall down

00:35:06so what happens to you

00:35:07when he says that

00:35:09just

00:35:10kills my soul

00:35:11a little bit

00:35:12to be honest with you

00:35:17because I'm like

00:35:17well

00:35:19why haven't you

00:35:20said this to me

00:35:22because

00:35:22because I've been

00:35:23fearful to say it

00:35:24because I don't

00:35:25want to upset you

00:35:28no no no

00:35:29do not blame me

00:35:30I'm not blaming you

00:35:31don't say

00:35:32you're fearful

00:35:33to tell me

00:35:33because you're

00:35:34going to upset me

00:35:35I'm here

00:35:36in love with you

00:35:38we're at the end

00:35:39of this experiment

00:35:42you're making it seem

00:35:43like I've been

00:35:44holding on to this

00:35:45for six months

00:35:45honestly

00:35:46I noticed it

00:35:47in Adelaide

00:35:47when I felt isolated

00:35:48up until then

00:35:49I haven't noticed it

00:35:54Bec I look at your face

00:35:56you seem very concerned

00:36:03I think he's got more

00:36:04reservations than he lets

00:36:05on

00:36:05oh really

00:36:06I do yeah

00:36:07I do

00:36:09I do

00:36:16Danny Danny

00:36:16look at me

00:36:18there really is no time

00:36:20for you to make light

00:36:20of the situation

00:36:22because when you add

00:36:24things up Danny

00:36:25it's not making her

00:36:27feel secure

00:36:27you know you haven't

00:36:28said your feelings

00:36:29back to her

00:36:30you've gone to the

00:36:31family and they've

00:36:33validated you

00:36:34and then you're not

00:36:35bringing up issues

00:36:36because you're afraid

00:36:37of the fight style

00:36:38it starts to add up

00:36:41and it makes her

00:36:42feel what

00:36:44Bec

00:36:48like he's just

00:36:49not that into me

00:36:55so that's a problem

00:36:57because this far

00:36:58into the experiment

00:36:59you don't want your

00:37:00partner to be thinking

00:37:03he's just not that

00:37:04into me

00:37:07yeah but I am

00:37:09I've told you that

00:37:11I am

00:37:11you know I am

00:37:14so why is she not

00:37:15believing it

00:37:17I don't know

00:37:19I can't speak for Bec

00:37:22I'm asking

00:37:24for you

00:37:25to sit there

00:37:27and say to me

00:37:28Bec this is how

00:37:29I feel about you

00:37:30just once

00:37:34you know how

00:37:34I fear the Bec

00:37:35you know I care

00:37:36about you so much

00:37:37I do know you care

00:37:38about me but

00:37:39where is the passion

00:37:42I see tiny glimpses

00:37:44of it

00:37:45but

00:37:46I feel like

00:37:47you are holding back

00:37:49you said to me

00:37:50once at the beginning

00:37:51of this experiment

00:37:52and I'll never forget it

00:37:53and it's probably

00:37:54ruined me

00:37:57Daniel's like

00:37:57well

00:37:58when you are

00:37:59obsessed with each other

00:38:00you're all over each other

00:38:01and I don't have that

00:38:03I just don't get it

00:38:04from him at all

00:38:06he doesn't want to

00:38:06hold my hand

00:38:07walking down the street

00:38:07that's not your style

00:38:08no worries

00:38:09whenever we have a kiss

00:38:10I'm the one going to kiss you

00:38:12you never ever ever

00:38:13go to kiss me

00:38:14you don't compliment me

00:38:15hardly ever

00:38:18so for me

00:38:19so for me it's like

00:38:20well

00:38:20I'm this fool

00:38:21that's allowed my heart

00:38:22to get to this point

00:38:23and he's not there

00:38:25and he's not going to feel

00:38:25that way

00:38:29I don't think

00:38:30that's a fair

00:38:31assumption

00:38:38the thing that's important

00:38:39here Danny

00:38:40is that she's just

00:38:41told you

00:38:42in a very

00:38:43clear cut way

00:38:44why

00:38:45she doesn't

00:38:46feel

00:38:47like you're interested

00:38:52your reaction is

00:38:53well that's not fair

00:38:54no but like

00:38:56yes

00:38:56that's exactly

00:38:57what we just heard

00:39:01even like

00:39:02all of the husbands

00:39:03walk past us

00:39:04sitting at the

00:39:04commitment ceremony

00:39:05and they all

00:39:05acknowledge their wives

00:39:06and you never do

00:39:07you ignore me

00:39:11and I don't know

00:39:13how I've gotten

00:39:13to this point

00:39:14of these feelings

00:39:15with that

00:39:19I'm so worried

00:39:24I'm actually so worried

00:39:30I just don't feel

00:39:31like you have

00:39:32any desire

00:39:33and I just

00:39:34yeah I'm just nervous

00:39:38the reality is

00:39:39is that

00:39:39how can you move

00:39:41to Adelaide

00:39:42and how can

00:39:43we live

00:39:44this life together

00:39:45if this is how

00:39:46it's going to be

00:39:47I can't be the one

00:39:49going to kiss you

00:39:51just so that

00:39:52there's a level

00:39:53of affection

00:39:53I can't

00:39:56I'm not doing it

00:39:57I've done it

00:39:58I did it

00:39:58I nearly married it

00:40:00I'm not doing it

00:40:02I'm not

00:40:04I'm not doing it

00:40:05you're either

00:40:06into me

00:40:06you have had

00:40:08enough time

00:40:08to know

00:40:09if I am the type

00:40:10of person

00:40:11you would want

00:40:11to be with

00:40:11you do not

00:40:12have to tell me

00:40:12you love me

00:40:13but I'm not

00:40:14going to

00:40:14walk down

00:40:15to final vows

00:40:16with someone

00:40:17that's

00:40:17a maybe

00:40:18about me

00:40:19I'm not doing it

00:40:20I'd rather be

00:40:21heartbroken now

00:40:21than heartbroken

00:40:22in six months time

00:40:37you have had

00:40:38enough time

00:40:39to know

00:40:39if I am the type

00:40:41of person

00:40:41you would want

00:40:42to be with

00:40:42you do not

00:40:42have to tell me

00:40:43you love me

00:40:43but I'm not

00:40:44going to

00:40:45walk down

00:40:46to final vows

00:40:47with someone

00:40:47that's

00:40:48a maybe

00:40:49about me

00:40:50I'm not doing it

00:40:50I'd rather be

00:40:51heartbroken now

00:40:52than heartbroken

00:40:53in six months time

00:41:16how does that land

00:41:17for you

00:41:17Danny

00:41:22well obviously

00:41:23it hurts

00:41:24it hurts

00:41:24to see

00:41:24Bec like that

00:41:25what is she

00:41:26saying to you

00:41:28that you've

00:41:29done

00:41:30to get her

00:41:31to this point

00:41:32well just

00:41:33not

00:41:34be

00:41:35passionate

00:41:36and not

00:41:37not be

00:41:37the man

00:41:38she needs

00:41:38me to be

00:41:41I've had

00:41:42my guard

00:41:42up essentially

00:41:43that's

00:41:43that's what

00:41:44yeah

00:41:52when she

00:41:53lays this

00:41:54out on

00:41:54the table

00:41:55no compliments

00:41:57very few

00:41:59lack of

00:42:00intimacy

00:42:00not making

00:42:02her a priority

00:42:02not saying

00:42:04how you feel

00:42:04about her

00:42:07what do you

00:42:08think that

00:42:08does to her

00:42:12yeah

00:42:12it would

00:42:13destroy her

00:42:15what do you

00:42:16think it does

00:42:16to the

00:42:16relationship

00:42:18destroys the

00:42:18relationship

00:42:19as well

00:42:21why

00:42:23because you

00:42:24can't have

00:42:24you can't build

00:42:25a relationship

00:42:25on like sand

00:42:27foundations

00:42:28do you know

00:42:28what you mean

00:42:29so help us

00:42:30understand why

00:42:31you're not

00:42:32doing these

00:42:33things

00:42:33to bring

00:42:34her close

00:42:39just

00:42:41obviously

00:42:41we've talked

00:42:42about the

00:42:42five star

00:42:43that's the

00:42:43bit where

00:42:43I've been

00:42:44holding back

00:42:47but I guess

00:42:48after my last

00:42:49relationship

00:42:49I haven't felt

00:42:50this strongly

00:42:51towards a woman

00:42:52or been this

00:42:53close with a

00:42:53woman in years

00:42:56but of course

00:42:57I still have a

00:42:58bit of a

00:42:58guard up

00:42:59because last

00:43:00time when it

00:43:01didn't work out

00:43:02it destroyed my

00:43:03life

00:43:05how nice

00:43:06would it be

00:43:06to have heard

00:43:06that

00:43:07you just did

00:43:08I know

00:43:09but why do I

00:43:10have to go to

00:43:10this length

00:43:11to hear that

00:43:12because I'm not

00:43:12no good at

00:43:12this shit

00:43:14well I've been

00:43:15begging you for

00:43:16this level of

00:43:17openness

00:43:18for nearly

00:43:19three months

00:43:20and so hearing

00:43:21that

00:43:22makes me feel

00:43:23like

00:43:25there's hope

00:43:26you know

00:43:32why does that

00:43:32make you feel

00:43:33hopeful

00:43:33because if he

00:43:34hasn't felt

00:43:35like this in

00:43:35years

00:43:36then

00:43:37that means

00:43:38that

00:43:40it's

00:43:41real

00:43:43and

00:43:43you might be

00:43:44into me

00:43:45but you need

00:43:46to open

00:43:47yourself to me

00:43:48yeah I guess

00:43:49like this has

00:43:49been a problem

00:43:50in the past

00:43:51that I am

00:43:52just a shit

00:43:53boyfriend

00:43:53to be honest

00:43:54I am

00:43:55I ain't that good

00:43:57to be honest

00:43:57but that is a

00:43:58very easy way

00:44:00of getting out

00:44:00of it

00:44:01don't hold me

00:44:02accountable

00:44:02I'm just a

00:44:03shit boyfriend

00:44:04no I'm not

00:44:04saying it like

00:44:05that

00:44:05but you are

00:44:07and that's

00:44:08what she's

00:44:08hearing

00:44:11what she wants

00:44:12right now

00:44:13from you Danny

00:44:13is for you to

00:44:15step into this

00:44:16and go

00:44:16you know what

00:44:16yeah I've

00:44:17dropped the ball

00:44:19and I've

00:44:20sent you the wrong

00:44:21signals

00:44:22and I'm

00:44:23accountable

00:44:23and I'm

00:44:24going to do

00:44:25different

00:44:25but I'm not

00:44:26getting that

00:44:26from you

00:44:28no I

00:44:29I want to

00:44:30say I am

00:44:30and I'm

00:44:31sorry

00:44:31if like

00:44:32it's for

00:44:33making you feel

00:44:33like that

00:44:34genuine

00:44:34from the

00:44:34bottom of

00:44:35my heart

00:44:35you know

00:44:35I'd never

00:44:36want to

00:44:36upset you

00:44:37you mean

00:44:37the world

00:44:37to me

00:44:41and I'm

00:44:42sorry

00:44:42if I've

00:44:43dropped the

00:44:43ball

00:44:44it was

00:44:44never

00:44:44my

00:44:45intention

00:44:49I like

00:44:50hearing it

00:44:50but I need

00:44:51to see it

00:44:51yeah

00:44:52and I'll

00:44:52try

00:44:52I can't

00:44:53keep on

00:44:53hearing it

00:44:54and then

00:44:55nothing changes

00:44:56well let me

00:44:56show you

00:44:57then

00:45:00okay

00:45:04let me

00:45:04show you

00:45:08now with

00:45:09that

00:45:09we're going

00:45:10to go

00:45:10to the

00:45:10decision

00:45:13Beck

00:45:14what have

00:45:14you got

00:45:14for us

00:45:15stay or

00:45:15leave

00:45:16well

00:45:17you

00:45:17you have

00:45:18my heart

00:45:19and like

00:45:20you are

00:45:21the most

00:45:22special person

00:45:23I've never

00:45:23met anyone

00:45:24like you

00:45:24right

00:45:25and I feel

00:45:26really really

00:45:26lucky

00:45:27that we

00:45:28were matched

00:45:28and we get

00:45:28to go on

00:45:29this journey

00:45:29together

00:45:30um

00:45:32but

00:45:33I need

00:45:35you

00:45:36to give

00:45:37me

00:45:39half of

00:45:40what I'm

00:45:40giving you

00:45:40at least

00:45:49we

00:45:49have

00:45:50overcome

00:45:51so many

00:45:51hurdles

00:45:51together

00:45:52and

00:45:52we've

00:45:53made it

00:45:53this far

00:45:54so

00:45:57I said

00:45:59stay

00:46:00and then I

00:46:01said proud

00:46:01of us

00:46:03love it

00:46:04love it

00:46:05and

00:46:05Danny

00:46:06yeah

00:46:07obviously

00:46:07I want to

00:46:08apologise

00:46:09again

00:46:09I'm so

00:46:09sorry

00:46:10you know

00:46:11you mean

00:46:11the world

00:46:11to me

00:46:12and I'll

00:46:12this week

00:46:14I'll try

00:46:14and prove

00:46:15that to

00:46:15you

00:46:16I'm here

00:46:17for love

00:46:17and I

00:46:18think I

00:46:18can find

00:46:19that with

00:46:19you

00:46:19so

00:46:19that's

00:46:20why

00:46:20I

00:46:20wrote

00:46:21stay

00:46:21good

00:46:32Danny

00:46:33from where

00:46:33we're

00:46:33sitting

00:46:34this week

00:46:35is on

00:46:35you

00:46:37you have

00:46:37to do

00:46:38the heavy

00:46:38lifting

00:46:38you've

00:46:39got a

00:46:40partner

00:46:40here

00:46:41with you

00:46:41who's

00:46:42put her

00:46:43heart

00:46:43out there

00:46:44and said

00:46:44I'm in

00:46:45love

00:46:45I want

00:46:46this

00:46:46you need

00:46:47to step

00:46:48up

00:46:51and if

00:46:52you are

00:46:53feeling

00:46:53these strong

00:46:55emotions

00:46:55for her

00:46:56then you've

00:46:57got to start

00:46:57showing it

00:46:58yeah

00:47:02with that

00:47:02you can

00:47:03go back

00:47:03to the

00:47:03group

00:47:04thanks

00:47:05well done

00:47:06thanks

00:47:08thanks

00:47:09for all

00:47:09your support

00:47:10thanks

00:47:10good work

00:47:11you two

00:47:14oh

00:47:16battered

00:47:21communicate

00:47:22with me

00:47:23my wife

00:47:24hates

00:47:24me

00:47:25and so

00:47:25wants

00:47:25for us

00:47:26as well

00:47:28I don't

00:47:28hate

00:47:28you

00:47:29boo

00:47:29I just

00:47:30can't

00:47:30keep

00:47:30on

00:47:31asking

00:47:32it's

00:47:33either

00:47:33there

00:47:33or

00:47:34it's

00:47:34not

00:47:34and if

00:47:35it's

00:47:35not

00:47:35you've

00:47:36got to

00:47:36walk

00:47:36away

00:47:36now

00:47:38right

00:47:38okay

00:47:40still

00:47:44to come

00:47:45I haven't

00:47:46been able

00:47:46to address

00:47:47her concern

00:47:47without

00:47:48Gia

00:47:48and I

00:47:48having

00:47:49an

00:47:49argument

00:47:49or her

00:47:50spiralling

00:47:51what kind

00:47:51of things

00:47:52could she

00:47:52say

00:47:52in a

00:47:53moment

00:47:54that

00:47:54demands

00:47:55honesty

00:47:55things

00:47:57that can

00:47:57make

00:47:58someone

00:47:58feel

00:47:59pretty

00:47:59defeated

00:48:00and let

00:48:00down

00:48:02Scott

00:48:03hesitates

00:48:05if you

00:48:06can't

00:48:07speak

00:48:07honestly

00:48:08in front

00:48:08of

00:48:08Gia

00:48:09then I'm

00:48:09really

00:48:10concerned

00:48:10about

00:48:11the

00:48:11possibility

00:48:11of this

00:48:12relationship

00:48:13surviving

00:48:13outside

00:48:14the

00:48:14experiment

00:48:24next

00:48:25on

00:48:25the

00:48:25couch

00:48:28Chris

00:48:29and

00:48:29Sam

00:48:34hello

00:48:35hi

00:48:41body

00:48:42language

00:48:42says a

00:48:43lot

00:48:44yeah

00:48:44it's

00:48:45been

00:48:45tough

00:48:46yeah

00:48:51what

00:48:51happened

00:48:52last

00:48:53time

00:48:53we

00:48:53sat

00:48:53here

00:48:54I

00:48:55wrote

00:48:55leave

00:48:55in

00:48:55the

00:48:55moment

00:48:57and

00:48:57then

00:48:57I

00:48:57kind

00:48:58of

00:48:58regretted

00:48:58it

00:48:59we

00:49:00decided

00:49:00to

00:49:00go to

00:49:00homestays

00:49:01and

00:49:02I

00:49:02thought

00:49:02okay

00:49:02I'm

00:49:02really

00:49:02going

00:49:03to

00:49:03try

00:49:03and

00:49:03turn

00:49:03this

00:49:03around

00:49:04and

00:49:04I

00:49:04bought

00:49:04him

00:49:05some

00:49:05flowers

00:49:05and

00:49:05got

00:49:05him

00:49:05a

00:49:06card

00:49:06and

00:49:06made

00:49:06him

00:49:06went

00:49:07to

00:49:07the

00:49:07shop

00:49:07and

00:49:07got

00:49:07groceries

00:49:08and

00:49:08made

00:49:09dinner

00:49:09and

00:49:09we

00:49:10had

00:49:10a

00:49:10day

00:49:13I

00:49:13thought

00:49:13that

00:49:13was

00:49:14really

00:49:14fun

00:49:15and

00:49:16then

00:49:16we

00:49:16had

00:49:17a

00:49:17bonfire

00:49:20Sam

00:49:20pulled

00:49:21out

00:49:21a

00:49:21journal

00:49:22with

00:49:22some

00:49:23questions

00:49:23in

00:49:23it

00:49:24hand

00:49:24on

00:49:24heart

00:49:25I

00:49:25was

00:49:25answering

00:49:25them

00:49:25the best

00:49:26that I

00:49:26could

00:49:27and

00:49:27then

00:49:28Sam

00:49:28decided

00:49:29to

00:49:29leave

00:49:30the

00:49:30farm

00:49:31and

00:49:32I

00:49:33thought

00:49:33look

00:49:33I've

00:49:33really

00:49:33tried

00:49:34to

00:49:34turn

00:49:34this

00:49:34around

00:49:35I

00:49:35really

00:49:35took

00:49:35on

00:49:36all

00:49:36of

00:49:36your

00:49:36guys

00:49:36feedback

00:49:37and

00:49:38yeah

00:49:38I

00:49:38just

00:49:39feel

00:49:39like

00:49:39I've

00:49:39shut

00:49:39down

00:49:40now

00:49:43yeah

00:49:44I

00:49:44just

00:49:44felt

00:49:44like

00:49:45he

00:49:45was

00:49:45saving

00:49:45face

00:49:47especially

00:49:47like

00:49:48the

00:49:48flowers

00:49:48and

00:49:49dinner

00:49:49thing

00:49:50it

00:49:50felt

00:49:51very

00:49:51like

00:49:51I

00:49:52need

00:49:52to

00:49:52do

00:49:52these

00:49:52things

00:49:52to

00:49:52show

00:49:53that

00:49:53I

00:49:53put

00:49:53in

00:49:53effort

00:49:54for

00:49:55me

00:49:55it

00:49:55was

00:49:55genuine

00:49:55I

00:49:56was

00:49:56trying

00:49:56to

00:49:56be

00:49:56as

00:49:56genuine

00:49:57as

00:49:57I

00:49:57could

00:49:57and

00:49:57I

00:49:57thought

00:49:58that

00:49:58was

00:49:58a

00:49:59way

00:49:59to

00:49:59try

00:49:59and

00:49:59make

00:50:00you

00:50:00feel

00:50:00welcome

00:50:00at

00:50:00the

00:50:00farm

00:50:01I

00:50:01feel

00:50:01like

00:50:01your

00:50:02effort

00:50:02was

00:50:02to push

00:50:03forward

00:50:04and

00:50:04there

00:50:04was

00:50:04effort

00:50:04for

00:50:05you

00:50:05to

00:50:05grow

00:50:05but

00:50:06it

00:50:06was

00:50:06never

00:50:06like

00:50:06I

00:50:07need

00:50:07to

00:50:07grow

00:50:07for

00:50:07us

00:50:08and

00:50:08I

00:50:08want

00:50:08to

00:50:08grow

00:50:09to

00:50:09be

00:50:09better

00:50:09partner

00:50:10for

00:50:10you

00:50:16where

00:50:17did

00:50:17the

00:50:17relationship

00:50:18go

00:50:18wrong

00:50:18for

00:50:19you

00:50:19both

00:50:23I

00:50:24feel

00:50:25like

00:50:25Chris

00:50:25never

00:50:25really

00:50:26fully

00:50:26forgave

00:50:27me

00:50:27for

00:50:27calling

00:50:28him

00:50:28out

00:50:28on

00:50:29like

00:50:29behaviors

00:50:32from

00:50:32then

00:50:32on

00:50:33especially

00:50:33after

00:50:34you

00:50:34guys

00:50:34gave

00:50:34him

00:50:35feedback

00:50:35it

00:50:35was

00:50:35like

00:50:36it

00:50:36was

00:50:36like

00:50:36a

00:50:36no

00:50:36return

00:50:36point

00:50:37from

00:50:37then

00:50:41where

00:50:41did

00:50:41it

00:50:41go

00:50:42wrong

00:50:42for

00:50:42you

00:50:43I

00:50:44feel

00:50:44like

00:50:45like

00:50:46after

00:50:46the

00:50:46retreat

00:50:46that

00:50:47chemistry

00:50:47it

00:50:48was

00:50:48lacking

00:50:48for

00:50:49me

00:50:49we

00:50:50were

00:50:50intimate

00:50:50a

00:50:50second

00:50:50time

00:50:51and

00:50:51I

00:50:51just

00:50:51felt

00:50:51like

00:50:52that

00:50:52wasn't

00:50:52there

00:50:52for

00:50:53me

00:50:55was

00:50:56it

00:50:56the

00:50:56quality

00:50:56of

00:50:56the

00:50:57interaction

00:50:57was

00:50:57it

00:50:58him

00:50:58as

00:50:58a

00:50:59person

00:51:00what

00:51:00was

00:51:01it

00:51:01that

00:51:01felt

00:51:01off

00:51:02for

00:51:02you

00:51:03if

00:51:04I

00:51:04being

00:51:04honest

00:51:04it

00:51:04was

00:51:04just

00:51:05the

00:51:05quality

00:51:05of

00:51:05the

00:51:05interaction

00:51:06I

00:51:06just

00:51:06I

00:51:06know

00:51:07it

00:51:07just

00:51:07wasn't

00:51:07there

00:51:08for

00:51:08me

00:51:15is

00:51:16that

00:51:16something

00:51:16that

00:51:16you

00:51:16spoke

00:51:17to

00:51:17Sam

00:51:17about

00:51:18no

00:51:18I

00:51:19didn't

00:51:19want

00:51:19to

00:51:19hurt

00:51:19his

00:51:19feelings

00:51:24how

00:51:24are you

00:51:25feeling

00:51:25about

00:51:25that

00:51:25Sam

00:51:26to

00:51:26hear

00:51:26this

00:51:27oh

00:51:27yeah

00:51:29like

00:51:29guess

00:51:29a

00:51:30surprise

00:51:32and

00:51:32like

00:51:32I

00:51:33guess

00:51:33what

00:51:33really

00:51:34sucks

00:51:34is

00:51:34that

00:51:34I

00:51:35was

00:51:35out

00:51:35on

00:51:35the

00:51:35farm

00:51:36and

00:51:36I

00:51:36was

00:51:36like

00:51:36hurting

00:51:37cows

00:51:37and I

00:51:37was

00:51:37like

00:51:38this

00:51:38is

00:51:38so

00:51:38good

00:51:39and

00:51:39the

00:51:39kids

00:51:39thing

00:51:40never

00:51:40bothered

00:51:40me

00:51:41like

00:51:41it's

00:51:41always

00:51:41something

00:51:41I've

00:51:42wanted

00:51:42in my

00:51:42life

00:51:44I

00:51:44was

00:51:44just

00:51:44like

00:51:45it

00:51:45was

00:51:45so

00:51:45annoying

00:51:45that

00:51:45everything

00:51:46else

00:51:46would

00:51:47have

00:51:47worked

00:51:52this

00:51:52is

00:51:53really

00:51:53disappointing

00:51:53for

00:51:54us

00:51:54because

00:51:55we

00:51:55had

00:51:56so

00:51:56much

00:51:56hope

00:51:56for

00:51:57the

00:51:57two

00:51:57of

00:51:58you

00:51:59it's

00:51:59just

00:51:59so

00:52:00unfortunate

00:52:01that

00:52:01along

00:52:02the

00:52:02way

00:52:02with

00:52:02all

00:52:03of

00:52:03the

00:52:03pressure

00:52:03that

00:52:03the

00:52:04experiment

00:52:04brings

00:52:05that

00:52:05the

00:52:05wheels

00:52:06have

00:52:06fallen

00:52:06off

00:52:09it

00:52:09is

00:52:09disappointing

00:52:10I

00:52:10came

00:52:10here

00:52:11to

00:52:12find

00:52:12love

00:52:12and

00:52:12you

00:52:13know

00:52:13I

00:52:13know

00:52:13that

00:52:13I'm

00:52:14a

00:52:14slow

00:52:14burn

00:52:14and

00:52:14you

00:52:14know

00:52:15I

00:52:15know

00:52:15that

00:52:15I

00:52:15get

00:52:16anxious

00:52:16once

00:52:16I

00:52:16do

00:52:17get

00:52:17feelings

00:52:17for

00:52:17someone

00:52:17because

00:52:18it

00:52:18takes

00:52:18me

00:52:18so

00:52:18long

00:52:18to

00:52:19build

00:52:19feelings

00:52:19for

00:52:19someone

00:52:21and

00:52:22yeah

00:52:22it's

00:52:22just

00:52:22really

00:52:23disappointing

00:52:23that

00:52:24it

00:52:24all

00:52:24ended

00:52:24up

00:52:25like

00:52:25this

00:52:25but

00:52:25you

00:52:26know

00:52:27I

00:52:28hope

00:52:28it's

00:52:28the

00:52:28future

00:52:31yeah

00:52:32what about

00:52:33you Chris

00:52:34yeah

00:52:34and I

00:52:34said to

00:52:35Sam

00:52:35that I

00:52:35want to

00:52:35be

00:52:35really

00:52:35good

00:52:42outside

00:52:42of

00:52:43here

00:52:44yeah

00:52:46all right

00:52:46well

00:52:47we're

00:52:47going to

00:52:47go to

00:52:47a

00:52:47decision

00:52:49Chris

00:52:49we'll

00:52:50start

00:52:50with

00:52:50you

00:52:52I've

00:52:52obviously

00:52:53learned a lot

00:52:53about myself

00:52:54and I

00:52:54hope you

00:52:54have

00:52:54too

00:52:54and

00:52:56you know

00:52:56I'm

00:52:56sorry

00:52:57that it

00:52:57didn't

00:52:57work

00:52:57out

00:52:57for

00:52:58us

00:52:58my

00:52:59time

00:52:59has

00:53:00unfortunately

00:53:00run

00:53:00out

00:53:01so

00:53:02yeah

00:53:03I

00:53:03have

00:53:04to

00:53:04leave

00:53:04okay

00:53:05thank

00:53:05you

00:53:07and to

00:53:07you

00:53:08Sam

00:53:08it's

00:53:09been a

00:53:09journey

00:53:09I've

00:53:10learned

00:53:10a lot

00:53:1090%

00:53:11of our

00:53:11time

00:53:11together

00:53:12was

00:53:12awesome

00:53:13yeah

00:53:14but you

00:53:14know

00:53:14it's

00:53:15come to

00:53:15the time

00:53:15to

00:53:16pack it

00:53:16up

00:53:17and

00:53:18leave

00:53:22I'm

00:53:23sorry

00:53:23you've

00:53:23both

00:53:23landed

00:53:24here

00:53:25but

00:53:25hopefully

00:53:26you have

00:53:27learned

00:53:27some

00:53:28lessons

00:53:28along

00:53:28the

00:53:28way

00:53:29that

00:53:30you

00:53:30can

00:53:30take

00:53:30into

00:53:31your

00:53:31next

00:53:31relationships

00:53:32and

00:53:33parenthood

00:53:34you know

00:53:34this is

00:53:34all about

00:53:35that

00:53:35self

00:53:36development

00:53:36as

00:53:37well

00:53:37as

00:53:38couple

00:53:38development

00:53:40thank

00:53:41you

00:53:41both

00:53:41so much

00:53:42well

00:53:43done

00:53:43you

00:53:43too

00:53:50well

00:53:53done

00:53:54guys

00:53:54we're

00:53:54gonna

00:53:54miss

00:53:55you

00:53:57our

00:53:58next

00:53:58couple

00:53:58up

00:53:59on the

00:53:59couch

00:54:01Stella

00:54:01and

00:54:02Philip

00:54:05hello

00:54:06hello

00:54:07there

00:54:10how

00:54:10we

00:54:10doing

00:54:11well

00:54:12we're

00:54:12more

00:54:12interested

00:54:12in how

00:54:13you're

00:54:13doing

00:54:14yeah

00:54:14coming into

00:54:16home

00:54:16stable

00:54:16was very

00:54:17very

00:54:17important

00:54:17for me

00:54:18I was

00:54:19always open

00:54:19to moving

00:54:19so it was

00:54:20a really

00:54:20big deal

00:54:20to go

00:54:21into

00:54:21Stella's

00:54:22space

00:54:23I was

00:54:23just

00:54:23really keen

00:54:24to see

00:54:24what it

00:54:25would

00:54:25look

00:54:25like

00:54:27I

00:54:27just

00:54:27tried

00:54:28to

00:54:28envisage

00:54:28everything

00:54:29like how

00:54:29I'd live

00:54:29there

00:54:30the vibe

00:54:31the energy

00:54:31and all

00:54:31that kind

00:54:32of stuff

00:54:33after the

00:54:34experiment

00:54:36Stella's

00:54:36gonna come

00:54:36back for my

00:54:37mum's

00:54:38birthday

00:54:38celebrate

00:54:39that

00:54:39we're gonna

00:54:40spend

00:54:41a few

00:54:41days in

00:54:42Melbourne

00:54:42and then

00:54:43I'll pick

00:54:43my car up

00:54:44and drive

00:54:44up to

00:54:45Cronulla

00:54:47just moving

00:54:48in

00:54:48yeah

00:54:49yeah

00:54:50straight in

00:54:51yeah

00:54:51oh

00:54:53moving in

00:54:54that's a

00:54:54plan

00:54:55yeah

00:54:56so it is a

00:54:57plan

00:54:58we got

00:54:58there

00:55:00here's the

00:55:01thing

00:55:01when I first

00:55:01met you

00:55:02you loved

00:55:03control

00:55:03yeah

00:55:04you

00:55:05mapped out

00:55:06you know

00:55:07what you wanted

00:55:07to do during

00:55:08the day

00:55:08your fitness

00:55:09your health

00:55:10your sleep

00:55:11everything

00:55:11on point

00:55:12and

00:55:14you without

00:55:15a plan

00:55:16there was a

00:55:17part of you

00:55:17that wasn't

00:55:18committing

00:55:19and now

00:55:20you've come

00:55:21up with a

00:55:21plan

00:55:22you've got

00:55:23certainty

00:55:23and now

00:55:24you're on

00:55:25the same

00:55:25track

00:55:25because I

00:55:26want this

00:55:27relationship

00:55:27to work

00:55:29yeah

00:55:31and I

00:55:32feel like

00:55:33every woman

00:55:34can agree

00:55:35with that

00:55:36when you

00:55:37don't

00:55:38understand

00:55:38your man's

00:55:39intentions

00:55:39that's when

00:55:40you get

00:55:40frazzled

00:55:41that's when

00:55:41you overthink

00:55:42that's when

00:55:42you're in

00:55:43your head

00:55:43when you

00:55:44know that

00:55:44the man

00:55:45is like

00:55:46okay

00:55:47let's do

00:55:47this

00:55:47I think

00:55:48you really

00:55:49settle in

00:55:49until you

00:55:50get that

00:55:50heart

00:55:50you really

00:55:51do

00:55:52Philip

00:55:53I want

00:55:53you to

00:55:54turn to

00:55:54Stella

00:55:55and tell

00:55:55her how

00:55:56you feel

00:55:56you're going

00:55:57to make

00:55:57me cry

00:56:05you know

00:56:23you know

00:56:23you 100%

00:56:25know that

00:56:25I am

00:56:26in love

00:56:27with you

00:56:28and that

00:56:29you shouldn't

00:56:29doubt anything

00:56:31there's a lot

00:56:31of unknown

00:56:32and stuff

00:56:32like that

00:56:33it's okay

00:56:33we got

00:56:33this

00:56:34but

00:56:34you know

00:56:34we're

00:56:34teams

00:56:35so

00:56:36I love

00:56:37you too

00:56:38yay

00:56:42so Stella

00:56:43how does

00:56:44that feel

00:56:46when he

00:56:46says that

00:56:47knowing that

00:56:48he's got

00:56:49a plan

00:56:49and he's

00:56:50moving in

00:56:51again like

00:56:52I really

00:56:52go from

00:56:53the two

00:56:53weeks

00:56:54conversation

00:56:54like

00:56:55this man

00:56:56makes me

00:56:56feel safe

00:56:57I don't

00:56:58think I

00:56:59have

00:56:59experienced

00:56:59love

00:57:00before

00:57:00meeting

00:57:01him

00:57:01because

00:57:03he shows

00:57:04up for

00:57:04me

00:57:05yeah

00:57:08can I

00:57:09just ask

00:57:09you Stella

00:57:10what's getting

00:57:11you upset

00:57:11right now

00:57:12why is this

00:57:12so important

00:57:14yeah I feel

00:57:15quite like

00:57:16key in the

00:57:16sense that

00:57:18if this

00:57:19works out

00:57:20it means

00:57:20that everything

00:57:21that was

00:57:22in the past

00:57:23all those

00:57:23learning curves

00:57:24all those

00:57:24relationships

00:57:25all was

00:57:27worth

00:57:27for this

00:57:28moment

00:57:29you know

00:57:29because

00:57:30I do

00:57:30I think

00:57:32at the stage

00:57:33of my life

00:57:33where I do

00:57:34truly want

00:57:35this to be

00:57:36my forever

00:57:36person

00:57:36and I do

00:57:37see

00:57:38I do

00:57:39see that

00:57:41thank you

00:57:42pleasure

00:57:46well you

00:57:47got real

00:57:48on this

00:57:48couch

00:57:48tonight

00:57:49it was

00:57:50great

00:57:52and on

00:57:52that note

00:57:53we're going

00:57:53to go to

00:57:54a decision

00:57:54stay or

00:57:55leave

00:57:55you're up

00:57:56first

00:57:56Stella

00:57:57obviously

00:57:58not a

00:57:58surprise

00:57:59and I

00:57:59think

00:57:59I drew

00:58:00a love

00:58:00heart

00:58:00from

00:58:00very

00:58:01early

00:58:01on

00:58:03nice

00:58:04and what

00:58:04about

00:58:05you

00:58:05Philip

00:58:07I'm not

00:58:07going

00:58:08anywhere

00:58:08just started

00:58:09we're staying

00:58:10and what

00:58:11we like

00:58:14thanks for

00:58:15being in

00:58:16you are a

00:58:18team

00:58:18and you've

00:58:19got this

00:58:20yeah

00:58:20thank you

00:58:21I really

00:58:21really appreciate

00:58:22really appreciate

00:58:23this

00:58:23well done

00:58:25you two

00:58:25thank you

00:58:26great work

00:58:31thanks

00:58:38our last couple

00:58:40up on the couch

00:58:43Gia and Scott

00:58:48good evening

00:58:49hello

00:58:50hello

00:58:50how are we

00:58:51good hi Gia

00:58:52hello

00:58:56so how are you guys

00:58:58all right

00:58:59um

00:59:01get a bit nervous

00:59:14so you know

00:59:18I care so much

00:59:19about Gia

00:59:21what I'm going to

00:59:21talk about tonight

00:59:22is I don't want

00:59:23you to be upset

00:59:24okay

00:59:25what I'm going to

00:59:26talk about is

00:59:27feelings

00:59:27where

00:59:30I

00:59:30take a breath

00:59:31for a minute

00:59:33three

00:59:42so I think

00:59:43for me to leave

00:59:44escorting the dream

00:59:45would be

00:59:46probably to go

00:59:46into modelling

00:59:49so you keep

00:59:49saying that you

00:59:50want to be a

00:59:50model but what

00:59:51are you actually

00:59:52doing

00:59:53to make that

00:59:54happen

00:59:55I don't really

00:59:56know

00:59:56I think I need

00:59:58to make a

00:59:58portfolio

00:59:59I think that's

01:00:00the first step

01:00:00in being a

01:00:00model

01:00:00make a portfolio

01:00:02and then you

01:00:02just fire it

01:00:03at people

01:00:04and hope

01:00:04that they

01:00:05like you

01:00:05trying to

01:00:06advance onto

01:00:07this world

01:00:07of modelling

01:00:07right

01:00:08made up

01:00:09so no

01:00:09progress

01:00:09right

01:00:10what am I

01:00:11doing wrong

01:00:11do you think

01:00:12it's tattoos

01:00:13probably

01:00:18I think

01:00:24whatever's a

01:00:25play

01:00:25you have to

01:00:25stop

01:00:28it's a

01:00:28fucking

01:00:29nightmare

01:00:29I think

01:00:30it's just

01:00:30the way

01:00:30we're

01:00:30marketing

01:00:30it

01:00:31I think

01:00:31we lean

01:00:32into it

01:00:32heavily

01:00:33with the

01:00:33look of

01:00:34the suit

01:00:34where it

01:00:34covers up

01:00:35the tattoos

01:00:35but still

01:00:36shows a

01:00:37tiny bit

01:00:37so there's

01:00:38a bit

01:00:38of mystery

01:00:38there

01:00:38not even

01:00:39having an

01:00:39exceptions

01:00:40email

01:00:40like thanks

01:00:41for your

01:00:41application

01:00:42like nothing

01:00:42I don't know

01:00:43if it's tattoos

01:00:44probably

01:00:45don't think

01:00:46that you're

01:00:47screwed

01:00:47we can't hide

01:00:48they can't hide

01:00:49the tattoos

01:00:49we're not gonna

01:00:49hide it

01:00:50we're just gonna

01:00:51show it in a way

01:00:52that it's versatile

01:00:52I think that's the

01:00:53main thing

01:00:54we lean really heavily

01:00:55into the tattoos

01:00:57but in a casual

01:00:58way to show

01:00:59hey

01:00:59I know I've got

01:01:00lots of tattoos

01:01:01but I can also

01:01:02look really good

01:01:03in casual wear

01:01:04if I thought you had

01:01:05no hope

01:01:05I wouldn't be

01:01:05wasting my time

01:01:06coming here

01:01:06to take photos

01:01:08wasting your time

01:01:09the world needs

01:01:10to sort of

01:01:10change the way

01:01:11that people

01:01:12look at tattoos

01:01:13there's this huge

01:01:13prejudice against

01:01:14people who tattoo

01:01:14hopefully today

01:01:15what we can do

01:01:16is we can sort of

01:01:16show that yes

01:01:17this guy's heavily

01:01:17tattooed

01:01:18but he's actually

01:01:19a normal human

01:01:20being and not

01:01:20a criminal

01:01:23here he is

01:01:25hey

01:01:25took him time

01:01:35what I'm gonna

01:01:36talk about

01:01:36tonight is

01:01:37I don't want

01:01:37you to be

01:01:38upset

01:01:40what I'm gonna

01:01:40talk about

01:01:41is feelings

01:01:42where

01:01:44I

01:01:44take a breath

01:01:45for a minute

01:01:47breathe

01:01:54it's a weakness

01:01:54of mine

01:01:57when I care

01:01:57about someone

01:01:58so much

01:01:58I feel like

01:01:59I can't speak

01:02:01my voice

01:02:01when I have a

01:02:02concern

01:02:03it's a weakness

01:02:04of mine

01:02:06what I find

01:02:07so far is

01:02:07I haven't been

01:02:09able to address

01:02:09a concern

01:02:10without Gia

01:02:10and I having

01:02:11an argument

01:02:11or her

01:02:12spiraling

01:02:14let's say

01:02:15that you want

01:02:15to bring

01:02:15something up

01:02:16and Gia

01:02:16is not in

01:02:17the mood

01:02:17to hear

01:02:18for whatever

01:02:18reason

01:02:20you find

01:02:21yourself

01:02:21simply

01:02:22cowering

01:02:22away from

01:02:23that

01:02:23and not

01:02:23returning

01:02:23to that

01:02:24topic

01:02:27pretty much

01:02:29what have

01:02:30you observed

01:02:30about Gia's

01:02:31behavior

01:02:32that leads

01:02:32you to

01:02:32have that

01:02:33reaction

01:02:35what kind

01:02:36of things

01:02:36could she

01:02:37say

01:02:44can I

01:02:45please

01:02:46just say

01:02:46things that

01:02:47can make

01:02:48someone feel

01:02:48pretty defeated

01:02:50and let down

01:02:50such as

01:02:56honestly

01:02:58if you can't

01:02:59speak

01:02:59honestly

01:03:00in front

01:03:00of Gia

01:03:01about the

01:03:01things that

01:03:02she does

01:03:02and say

01:03:03that hurt

01:03:03you

01:03:03or scare

01:03:04you

01:03:04or make

01:03:05you feel

01:03:05off

01:03:05what he

01:03:06has

01:03:10then I'm

01:03:11really

01:03:12really

01:03:12concerned

01:03:12about

01:03:13the

01:03:13possibility

01:03:14of this

01:03:14relationship

01:03:15surviving

01:03:16outside the

01:03:16experiment

01:03:17you

01:03:30when

01:03:31Scott

01:03:31yeah

01:03:32we've got

01:03:34all night

01:03:34I know

01:03:35we're not

01:03:35going

01:03:35anywhere

01:03:36we're going

01:03:37to sit

01:03:37here and

01:03:37ask you

01:03:38uncomfortable

01:03:38questions

01:03:39until you

01:03:39come clean

01:03:41okay

01:03:42I just

01:03:42so

01:03:44if you

01:03:44don't let

01:03:44us in

01:03:45I know

01:03:46you're not

01:03:47going to

01:03:47last

01:03:49what I'm

01:03:50seeing here

01:03:50is fake

01:03:52I'm going

01:03:53to call

01:03:53you out

01:03:53I've seen

01:03:54it the

01:03:54entire

01:03:55experiment

01:03:56you talk

01:03:57about

01:03:57things

01:03:58in a way

01:03:59where

01:03:59you don't

01:04:00give us

01:04:00any

01:04:01of the

01:04:01information

01:04:02you skirt

01:04:03around the

01:04:03issues

01:04:04I get it

01:04:05you're trying

01:04:06to fly

01:04:07under the

01:04:07radar

01:04:08but what

01:04:08we're saying

01:04:08tonight

01:04:09is that

01:04:09ends

01:04:10yeah

01:04:10okay

01:04:12you sat

01:04:13down here

01:04:13you're

01:04:14petrified

01:04:14of Gia

01:04:15and you're

01:04:16not answering

01:04:17the questions

01:04:22so I'm

01:04:22going to

01:04:23ask you

01:04:23again

01:04:23Scott

01:04:24what kind

01:04:25of things

01:04:26could Gia

01:04:27say that

01:04:27would make

01:04:28you feel

01:04:29fearful

01:04:29of speaking

01:04:30up

01:04:31so this

01:04:32is probably

01:04:32the most

01:04:33magic concern

01:04:35it could

01:04:35happen

01:04:35probably on

01:04:36average

01:04:36once a

01:04:36week

01:04:37I feel

01:04:38like there's

01:04:38a bit

01:04:38of pressure

01:04:38of me

01:04:39to say

01:04:39I'm

01:04:39in love

01:04:39and when

01:04:40I don't

01:04:40say it

01:04:42Gia will

01:04:42tend to

01:04:43spoil

01:04:43and say

01:04:43things

01:04:44like

01:04:45you're

01:04:45a crime

01:04:45you're

01:04:46not a

01:04:46man

01:04:46you're

01:04:46not a

01:04:46provider

01:04:47you don't

01:04:48give me

01:04:48reassurance

01:04:51pretty much

01:04:52every name

01:04:52under the sun

01:04:52right

01:04:54every name

01:04:55under the sun

01:04:55is wild

01:04:56Gia

01:04:57babe

01:04:58the reason

01:04:59why I'm

01:04:59here is

01:05:00because I

01:05:00know she

01:05:00doesn't

01:05:01intentionally

01:05:01mean it

01:05:02it's because

01:05:02it comes

01:05:02from a

01:05:03place of

01:05:03her

01:05:03I'll

01:05:04explain

01:05:04that you

01:05:04talk for

01:05:05yourself

01:05:05and I

01:05:06just

01:05:07will

01:05:08explain

01:05:08babe

01:05:09listen

01:05:10to what

01:05:10you're

01:05:10saying

01:05:11I

01:05:11know

01:05:12you

01:05:12don't

01:05:12mean

01:05:12it

01:05:12like

01:05:12where's

01:05:13this

01:05:13coming

01:05:13from

01:05:13and

01:05:14I

01:05:14don't

01:05:14know

01:05:14what it

01:05:14is

01:05:14I

01:05:15just

01:05:15don't

01:05:15know

01:05:17when you're

01:05:18having that

01:05:18situation

01:05:19and there are

01:05:20things that are

01:05:20being said

01:05:21how do you

01:05:21feel in that

01:05:21moment

01:05:23in these

01:05:23moments that

01:05:24you're describing

01:05:24now that

01:05:25where she's

01:05:26coming at

01:05:26you

01:05:27personally

01:05:28I

01:05:29just

01:05:29feel like

01:05:29when it's

01:05:31I just

01:05:31feel

01:05:31completely

01:05:31destroyed

01:05:32like I'm

01:05:32worthless

01:05:34that's

01:05:35pretty

01:05:35major

01:05:36but I

01:05:37just

01:05:37want

01:05:38Jia

01:05:38to

01:05:38know

01:05:38that

01:05:39I

01:05:39care

01:05:39so

01:05:39much

01:05:39about

01:05:40her

01:05:40my

01:05:41feelings

01:05:41are

01:05:41strong

01:05:41I'm

01:05:42falling

01:05:42for her

01:05:42but when

01:05:42these

01:05:43things

01:05:43happen

01:05:43it

01:05:44pulls

01:05:44me

01:05:44back

01:05:44and

01:05:45it

01:05:45holds

01:05:45me

01:05:45back

01:05:47and

01:05:48so

01:05:48Jian

01:05:49why

01:05:50do

01:05:50you

01:05:50think

01:05:50when

01:05:51you're

01:05:52feeling

01:05:52threatened

01:05:53or

01:05:54not

01:05:54happy

01:05:55with

01:05:55what

01:05:55Scott

01:05:56says

01:05:56that

01:05:56you

01:05:56attack

01:05:57him

01:05:58what

01:05:59is

01:05:59that

01:05:59about

01:05:59for

01:05:59you

01:06:01this

01:06:01is

01:06:01a

01:06:01man

01:06:02that

01:06:02you're

01:06:02falling

01:06:02in

01:06:02love

01:06:03with

01:06:03from

01:06:03every

01:06:03indication

01:06:04I've

01:06:04had

01:06:06well

01:06:06I'll

01:06:07just

01:06:07say

01:06:07it

01:06:07out

01:06:07loud

01:06:11if

01:06:11this

01:06:12wasn't

01:06:12on

01:06:12camera

01:06:12I

01:06:12told

01:06:13him

01:06:13I'm

01:06:13in

01:06:13love

01:06:13with

01:06:13him

01:06:13yesterday

01:06:16so

01:06:17this

01:06:17is

01:06:17a

01:06:17man

01:06:17you

01:06:18love

01:06:19so

01:06:19where

01:06:20does

01:06:20that

01:06:20come

01:06:20from

01:06:21so

01:06:21for

01:06:22me

01:06:22um

01:06:24I

01:06:24felt

01:06:25this

01:06:25way

01:06:25for

01:06:26Scott

01:06:26for the

01:06:26last

01:06:27few

01:06:27weeks

01:06:28and

01:06:28there's

01:06:29been

01:06:29so many

01:06:30moments

01:06:30where

01:06:31like

01:06:31I've

01:06:32wanted

01:06:32to say

01:06:32it

01:06:33and I'm

01:06:33like

01:06:33you

01:06:33can't be

01:06:33the girl

01:06:34who says

01:06:34it first

01:06:35usually

01:06:35it's been

01:06:36the guy

01:06:36who said it

01:06:37first

01:06:37so this is

01:06:37weird for me

01:06:38and I wanted him to know

01:06:40why I've been

01:06:40spiraling

01:06:41it's because of this

01:06:42like I've been wanting to say it

01:06:44and I know he's not there

01:06:44and it's frustrating for me

01:06:45because I feel rejected

01:06:46to be honest

01:06:48the leading up to where you're having these big feelings

01:06:51and that's what's making you feel like oh my god he's gonna reject me

01:06:54why go hurt him

01:06:57because I felt hurt

01:06:59and I was like let me hurt him

01:07:02that's the truth

01:07:07that's a pretty big revelation

01:07:10and also a hurdle for Scott to have to handle

01:07:14and walk around eggshells trying to not have you have this reaction

01:07:20I just think this is very new for me

01:07:22I haven't ever been in this situation before

01:07:24but in this situation of saying that you're hurt

01:07:27and therefore you're choosing to hurt back

01:07:29is that the way that you normally are?

01:07:37I'm gonna insist and underline this

01:07:39because I really want you to take in Gia

01:07:43that we can absolutely see how strong your relationship with Scott is

01:07:47but it is a pattern that you're bringing to the table

01:07:50that you need to break

01:07:51because it will be the thing that makes him run the other way

01:08:08the leading up to where you're having these big feelings

01:08:11and that's what's making you feel like oh my god he's gonna reject me

01:08:15why go hurt him

01:08:17because I felt hurt

01:08:20and I was like let me hurt him

01:08:23that's the truth

01:08:26I'm gonna insist and underline this

01:08:29because I really want you to take in Gia

01:08:32it is a pattern that you're bringing to the table

01:08:35that you need to break

01:08:36because it will be the thing that makes him run the other way

01:08:46do you feel secure in your relationship with Scott?

01:08:52um

01:08:56like yes and no

01:08:59why no?

01:09:03I don't know because

01:09:04like sometimes I can't bring something up

01:09:06because I'm argumentative

01:09:08or so I don't feel like I'm secure with him

01:09:11and I can be myself

01:09:12so that and

01:09:13like he doesn't feel as strong as I feel

01:09:16like well he could just leave

01:09:19am I gonna move for like?

01:09:21am I gonna take my daughter out of her school in Melbourne

01:09:23and move to the Gold Coast if he just likes me?

01:09:27just don't feel as secure as maybe I could

01:09:30in the relationship

01:09:33so there's still room there for you to grow

01:09:35in terms of security in the relationship

01:09:39how does it make you feel to hear

01:09:42Gia say that she doesn't feel secure in the relationship?

01:09:47I'm confused because Gia tells me that she feels secure

01:09:51I try and tickle the boxes to make her know

01:09:55and reassure her that I'm all in on this

01:09:57and like when we have tough times

01:09:59like I just keep telling you

01:10:00I'm here for you

01:10:01I want you to be the shoulder to cry on

01:10:02and like you know

01:10:03whenever there is bad things

01:10:05maybe sometimes I say

01:10:06oh like I don't want to hear it

01:10:08or something like that

01:10:08but you know

01:10:09well that's why I don't feel secure

01:10:13because I'm like

01:10:14well I can't bring that up

01:10:16so like how do I

01:10:17how can I be vulnerable and feel safe

01:10:19because it's swept under the rug

01:10:21you know

01:10:22you shut down my feelings a lot of the time

01:10:24I'm going to pretend myself

01:10:25I've never shut down your feelings Gia

01:10:27never

01:10:27okay well

01:10:28that's my perception

01:10:29and I feel like sometimes

01:10:30we'll talk about something

01:10:32and you just don't listen

01:10:33and so then I just stop talking about it

01:10:36because he says I'm arguing

01:10:37and I'm like

01:10:38okay well I just like

01:10:38I'll just forget my feelings

01:10:40let's just leave it

01:10:41because then my brain is like

01:10:43oh my god

01:10:44you're arguing again

01:10:45he's not going to fall in love with you

01:10:46and it's like

01:10:48it's like I can't win

01:10:49to be honest

01:10:50that's how I feel

01:10:56well at last

01:10:58we've got the real

01:10:59Scott and Gia sitting in front of us

01:11:01and isn't it interesting

01:11:04that week after week

01:11:06you guys have sat here

01:11:07and said everything's fine

01:11:08we're a great couple

01:11:11tonight

01:11:13you're exposing yourselves

01:11:16and everything isn't great

01:11:17between the two of you

01:11:20Scott nearly couldn't breathe tonight

01:11:22because he was so scared

01:11:24about bringing an issue up with you Gia

01:11:27that's not healthy

01:11:30so it comes down to the two of you

01:11:33are you prepared to do the work

01:11:35hear things you might not like

01:11:37but know that when you hear those feelings

01:11:40you get closer

01:11:41not further away

01:11:44but you've got to be real

01:11:46over this next week

01:11:48otherwise

01:11:48it is going to slip through your fingers

01:11:54we're going to go to the decision

01:11:56stay or leave

01:11:57and we'll go with you first

01:11:59Gia

01:12:01um

01:12:03yeah

01:12:04I think we needed to have this conversation tonight

01:12:06because

01:12:06we're at the end

01:12:08I don't want to

01:12:08have any questions unanswered

01:12:10and that's

01:12:10the same with

01:12:12me saying that I love him

01:12:13and I just wanted to

01:12:15just

01:12:15be

01:12:16fully in

01:12:17so

01:12:18anyways

01:12:19with that

01:12:20we'll take on

01:12:20your advice this week

01:12:22and I'm going to

01:12:23stay

01:12:25love that

01:12:27what do you got Scott

01:12:28stay or leave

01:12:29obviously we've come so far

01:12:31this experiment

01:12:31and I honestly appreciate

01:12:33the three of you

01:12:34for what you've done for us

01:12:35and how you've paired us

01:12:36and

01:12:37I was nervous walking here tonight

01:12:38and I don't get nervous

01:12:40and I feel so light right now

01:12:42because

01:12:43we can both

01:12:44have our say

01:12:45and I can

01:12:46I can tell you right now

01:12:47this is going to help us so much

01:12:49so

01:12:50I'm excited for this week

01:12:51because I just feel so happy

01:12:53just

01:12:53after this conversation

01:12:54so I'm staying

01:12:55in the sun

01:12:56because we're going to sunny Gold Coast

01:12:59alright you too

01:13:03so it's a big week

01:13:04coming up for the two of you

01:13:05and I know it's hard for you

01:13:07as a couple

01:13:08but when issues get brought up

01:13:10this week

01:13:10when you talk about

01:13:11the big stuff

01:13:13try and be curious

01:13:14as opposed to defensive

01:13:18alright

01:13:19good luck

01:13:19thank you

01:13:20good luck

01:13:28thank you

01:13:31thank you

01:13:33thank you

01:13:33yeah

01:13:33always

01:13:34mm-hmm

01:13:36mm-hmm

01:13:37you know

01:13:56tomorrow night

01:13:58what is going on here

01:14:00Chanel

01:14:00Shannon

01:14:01oh no

01:14:02what

01:14:04James

01:14:05Antoni

01:14:06what

01:14:07during the matchmaking process

01:14:09there was more than one person

01:14:11that our participants

01:14:12were compatible with

01:14:13the unforgettable final test

01:14:16is back

01:14:17oh my god

01:14:18it is the ultimate test

01:14:19of trust and security

01:14:21and this season

01:14:22the experts have upped the ante

01:14:24like never before

01:14:26we are removing the element of choice

01:14:28from the final test

01:14:29over two incredible nights

01:14:32I feel sick

01:14:33I feel like I'm going to pass out

01:14:36all our participants will make their alternative matches

01:14:41there's only Dave men that pay for everything

01:14:43let's get married then

01:14:44some will more than enjoy the fresh perspective

01:14:47why do I always get the young ones?

01:14:49I like it

01:14:51you've got to stop touching me

01:14:52because if my wife sees this

01:14:53she's going to go

01:14:55before

01:14:58the biggest twist

01:15:00the experiment's ever seen

01:15:04Instagram screener

01:15:06are you serious?

01:15:09that is disgusting

01:15:11oh

01:15:13you're serious

01:15:14you're serious

01:15:15you're serious

01:15:16you're serious

01:15:18you're serious

01:15:19you're serious

01:15:21you're serious

Married At First Sight Au - Season 13 Episode 33

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