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Married at First Sight AU S13E34
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00:00:00So excited to show David around, my hometown.
00:00:05When the couples took off across the country,
00:00:08they tasted married life beyond the experiment.
00:00:12You've always told me, don't come here to Sydney for me.
00:00:15Well, I'm open to moving now.
00:00:17And for Stephen...
00:00:18Must admit, I kind of like holding a rod and getting kissed.
00:00:21He gave Rachel the reassurance she needed
00:00:24to begin their next chapter together.
00:00:26What I see is a life outside the experiment.
00:00:30It really reaffirms the feelings are real, the feelings are mutual.
00:00:35My feelings are, like, they're pretty gone.
00:00:39Emotions ran high for some.
00:00:41You should be able to say something nice and be genuine about it.
00:00:45And despite winning over her nearest and dearest...
00:00:48David is everything that you've asked for.
00:00:50I don't know, I feel like I'm getting overwhelmed with it.
00:00:52David still felt he wasn't able to be the calm to Alyssa's storm.
00:00:57She still sees negatives.
00:00:58There's nothing else I can do.
00:01:00What's that?
00:01:01Why is it pink?
00:01:02Is it your exes or something?
00:01:03And on the Gold Coast...
00:01:05I see you being pressured.
00:01:06Like, you need to be able to voice your concerns.
00:01:07Are you scared about her reaction?
00:01:09Pretty much.
00:01:10Scott struggled to voice his issues with Gia.
00:01:13I feel like sometimes I'm walking on eggshells.
00:01:15You know what I mean?
00:01:15It's not.
00:01:15No, no, what I'm saying is, like...
00:01:17I didn't know you wanted to argue today.
00:01:19Tonight.
00:01:22In just a short time, you have one of the biggest decisions that you're going to have to make.
00:01:27Whether or not you can take this relationship into the real world and make it a success.
00:01:34Welcome.
00:01:35It's the last commitment ceremony of the experiment.
00:01:39This is a very pivotal night.
00:01:41And after two months of marriage, uncomfortable truths will be exposed.
00:01:46I want a partner who can have a constructive conversation with me about an issue.
00:01:51I can't mind reading.
00:01:52It's not mind reading.
00:01:53It's not mind reading.
00:01:53I can't.
00:01:54I cannot.
00:01:55Boom.
00:01:55David reveals what's really going on in his relationship with Alyssa.
00:01:59You did mention I was a weak man.
00:02:01She called you a weak man?
00:02:02Yeah.
00:02:03So that's a problem.
00:02:05No, no, no.
00:02:06Do not blame me.
00:02:07After weeks of giving her heart to Danny...
00:02:09I'm not going to walk down to final vows with someone that's a maybe about me.
00:02:15Is this the night Bec finally calls it quits?
00:02:18I'm not doing it.
00:02:20I'm not.
00:02:22And then...
00:02:23What I'm seeing here is fake.
00:02:25I'm going to call you out.
00:02:27I've seen it the entire experiment.
00:02:29If you don't let us in, you're not going to last.
00:02:32It's Scott's moment of truth.
00:02:35I'm getting a bit nervous.
00:02:40What I'm going to talk about tonight is I don't want you to be upset.
00:02:44What I'm going to talk about is feelings where I...
00:02:49Take breath.
00:02:52Breathe.
00:03:10It's the morning of the final commitment ceremony.
00:03:14Yummy.
00:03:16Get some caffeine.
00:03:17Cheered.
00:03:18Yeah.
00:03:19And after eight weeks in the experiment,
00:03:21tonight marks the last time the couples will come face-to-face with the experts.
00:03:27How'd you sleep?
00:03:28Yeah, I slept really well.
00:03:29Really, really well.
00:03:30I love our little midnight make-out sessions.
00:03:33Some people have chats.
00:03:34We have make-out sessions.
00:03:35We have make-out sessions.
00:03:36Yeah.
00:03:37I love it.
00:03:38This week, during homestays, the couples were tested
00:03:41as they prepare for a life outside the experiment.
00:03:45It was good.
00:03:45I'm just enjoying the last couple weeks.
00:03:48Stella and Philip continue to evolve as a couple, having said,
00:03:52I love you.
00:03:55Rachel and Stephen have been slower to open their hearts.
00:03:59But day by day, their connection grows.
00:04:02It was really good to tell everyone about our homestays
00:04:05and even reflecting on it, like, after last night's dinner party.
00:04:09Do I dare say that we're one of the strongest in the group now?
00:04:15Dare to say it, babes, because I've been saying it.
00:04:18Yeah.
00:04:20Oh.
00:04:22For Alyssa and David, homestays has exposed cracks in their relationship.
00:04:30I feel like David and I have been a strong couple throughout this experiment.
00:04:35I still believe we are, because we have each other's back.
00:04:38It's just hard.
00:04:38Be careful.
00:04:39It's just...
00:04:39You know, we have been honest with each other about a lot of things.
00:04:42But since homestays, it's taken a turn.
00:04:46We have had deep conversations, big conversations,
00:04:49and David's maybe held back from saying what he really felt in that moment
00:04:53or questioning what I meant in that moment.
00:04:55And now, towards the end of the experiment, it's all coming out.
00:04:59How are you feeling?
00:05:01Um, I'm feeling...
00:05:06..like...
00:05:06..we've got a lot going on right now at the moment.
00:05:09Just, uh, we're not really understanding each other.
00:05:12Yeah.
00:05:12I feel like we have a lot to unpack and a lot to, you know, break down.
00:05:17And, yeah, there are some cracks.
00:05:19And, you know, the pressure of the experiment ending,
00:05:21it's definitely taken its toll on me.
00:05:27I felt in homestay that I'm like,
00:05:29OK, he's keen to move to Adelaide.
00:05:31Wait, I haven't met his family.
00:05:32Wait, I haven't met his friends.
00:05:33Oh, wait, I don't even know he's got multiple jobs.
00:05:36Like, I don't know if he's stable.
00:05:37I want to have family.
00:05:38Like, this is me spiralling, because I'm like,
00:05:40this is too good to be true.
00:05:42Obviously, homestays is quite late,
00:05:44but it's brought up a lot of other things
00:05:45that we should have dealt with a long time ago.
00:05:48Like, have the conversations if you don't agree with something,
00:05:51or have the conversation, or ask the questions
00:05:52when you don't understand something that I've said.
00:05:55Well, all I'm going to say is...
00:05:56We should have gone there, but we haven't,
00:05:58and I haven't felt, like, challenged enough.
00:06:02You need to break through that softness and be strong with me,
00:06:05because I want to be a team with you
00:06:06and talk things through and, you know, like...
00:06:10It's so frustrating to sit here trying to express
00:06:14my side of the story, and I can hardly get a word in.
00:06:17I feel like there are holes.
00:06:18I think there was a...
00:06:29to have those hard conversations with you
00:06:32about how I was feeling.
00:06:33But, babe, like, if you don't talk to me
00:06:35about your reservations, that's not healthy, babe.
00:06:38Yeah.
00:06:39Talk to me.
00:06:40We need to voice.
00:06:42And that's what I need in this relationship,
00:06:44and that's...
00:06:44You're not fulfilling that need for me.
00:06:46And I believe that it's right
00:06:48to put it all out on the table.
00:06:50I don't ever want to have to hold back.
00:06:52I don't think it's that you hold back,
00:06:54but I think one thing about you is you hold on too much,
00:06:57and then...
00:06:57Babe, I know, but...
00:06:58Babe, you...
00:06:58Babe.
00:07:02You're spiralling within yourself.
00:07:03I know, I'm not.
00:07:04Are you done?
00:07:05You know what I mean?
00:07:05I can't even get a word in.
00:07:08I feel like it's a slap in the face.
00:07:11Alyssa says she wants a hard, challenging conversation,
00:07:14and she's wanted this for a long time,
00:07:15but it's not just like that with Alyssa.
00:07:18It's not.
00:07:19Respect is only on her terms,
00:07:20and the relationship only goes her way or the highway.
00:07:24So that is a big deal break for me as well.
00:07:26It is the first time where I feel like
00:07:28both of us are very disconnected
00:07:31a lot more than we ever have
00:07:34going into a commitment ceremony.
00:07:36And tonight, I'm just going to be completely honest
00:07:38because I've hit my limit,
00:07:40and I'm not going to, like, hold back.
00:07:43I'm just going to put it all on the table.
00:07:49As for Danny,
00:07:51his controversial views
00:07:53resulted in a tense argument with Bec
00:07:55at last night's dinner party.
00:07:58It makes you feel like a bit of a bitch
00:08:00moving in with a woman.
00:08:02What are you on about?
00:08:04He's talking about feeling emasculated
00:08:06if she was the one who owned the house.
00:08:10F*** me!
00:08:14And this morning,
00:08:15they are still struggling to resolve the issue.
00:08:18People can feel how they want to feel.
00:08:20You know what I mean?
00:08:21Whether other people agree with it or not,
00:08:23like, it's not up to them.
00:08:25This is how I feel.
00:08:26I feel like moving in with a woman
00:08:28just doesn't feel very manly of me, you know?
00:08:31Yeah.
00:08:33You don't understand.
00:08:34I do understand.
00:08:35I get what you're saying,
00:08:36but I suppose
00:08:39if we're talking about
00:08:41creating a life together
00:08:42after this experiment,
00:08:44then you're going to have to get over that.
00:08:49Am I right or am I right?
00:08:51The funny thing is with Bec,
00:08:53when she feels a kind way,
00:08:55it's a completely valid feeling.
00:08:56That's how she feels.
00:08:58But when I say,
00:08:59it makes me feel this way,
00:09:01oh, no, but that's not right.
00:09:03It's not actually to do with you being a woman.
00:09:05I wouldn't move in with anyone
00:09:06and just, like,
00:09:07freeload often.
00:09:09You pay the bills,
00:09:09I pay the mortgage,
00:09:10you'll be done.
00:09:11Easy.
00:09:12Finito.
00:09:14Other than that,
00:09:15we had a great night.
00:09:17Yes, sir, yeah.
00:09:18And whilst Bec and Danny
00:09:20continue to disagree,
00:09:22our other couples
00:09:23are preparing
00:09:24for the final commitment ceremony
00:09:26of the experiment.
00:09:29You look great.
00:09:30You too.
00:09:31Yeah.
00:09:32Yeah, very pure, you know?
00:09:35Yeah.
00:09:36Very appropriate.
00:09:37Very appropriate.
00:09:39As our couples face the experts
00:09:41for the last time,
00:09:43a defining choice awaits.
00:09:47Tonight, they must decide.
00:09:50Stay in the experiment
00:09:52through to final vows
00:09:54or walk away
00:09:56from their marriages
00:09:57for good.
00:10:01For Scott,
00:10:02the pressure is mounting.
00:10:04He feels it is now or never
00:10:06to reveal his true feelings
00:10:08to his bride, Gia.
00:10:10Final commitment ceremony tonight.
00:10:13Crazy, isn't it?
00:10:15Yeah.
00:10:16Can you believe
00:10:16that we've made it this far?
00:10:19I, yeah,
00:10:20I definitely
00:10:21didn't imagine it.
00:10:25I do think
00:10:26we had a great week.
00:10:28I don't think
00:10:29we're going to have
00:10:29too much feedback tonight.
00:10:30I think
00:10:31it was great.
00:10:32Like, I can't fault
00:10:33homestays.
00:10:34It went really well.
00:10:35Positive,
00:10:36good vibes, you know?
00:10:37So,
00:10:38hopefully not getting
00:10:39grilled hard tonight.
00:10:41I feel like I've been
00:10:42hit a bit
00:10:43throughout this experiment
00:10:44from the experts.
00:10:46Yeah.
00:10:52What else?
00:10:56I get nervous
00:10:56going to the
00:10:58commitment ceremony
00:10:59because I still
00:11:00can't be 100%
00:11:02myself
00:11:02and I feel like
00:11:03I just can't
00:11:04have a voice sometimes
00:11:06because she thinks
00:11:06we're going to have
00:11:07an argument
00:11:07and I want her
00:11:07to be able to understand
00:11:08that we need to speak
00:11:09anecdotally
00:11:09knowing that
00:11:10if I have a concern
00:11:11or she has a concern
00:11:12we can talk
00:11:12and it's not going
00:11:13to lead to a disaster.
00:11:14You've got to be able
00:11:15to communicate.
00:11:16So, you ready
00:11:17for tonight?
00:11:18I don't like
00:11:19commitment ceremonies,
00:11:20you know that.
00:11:21Yeah.
00:11:22I feel like
00:11:23we're at the point
00:11:23where, you know,
00:11:25we're almost
00:11:25falling in love.
00:11:27Yeah.
00:11:28Then I feel like
00:11:29if she feels
00:11:29more than me
00:11:30and she doesn't
00:11:31get anything back
00:11:31from me,
00:11:32she'll start spiralling
00:11:33and start saying
00:11:34harshful things to me.
00:11:36Very harshful things.
00:11:39And so then I feel
00:11:40like I can't talk
00:11:42and I go quiet
00:11:44and I go flat.
00:11:47That retracts me
00:11:48every time
00:11:48and that's what
00:11:49pushes me away
00:11:49from falling in love
00:11:50and I don't think
00:11:50she understands that.
00:11:52So you just got to
00:11:53look at the positives,
00:11:54you know?
00:11:57Personally,
00:11:58I'd love to speak up
00:11:59and share everything
00:12:00because it's good
00:12:00to get feedback.
00:12:02But there's another
00:12:03side of me
00:12:03where I feel like
00:12:04I want to protect
00:12:05my wife.
00:12:06I don't want to feel
00:12:07unstable, upset
00:12:08or, you know,
00:12:08get nervous
00:12:09or have a breakdown.
00:12:11So, you know,
00:12:11I think how's she
00:12:12going to react
00:12:12if I say these things?
00:12:14All right.
00:12:15See you in there.
00:12:17Bye.
00:12:18Sometimes I'm like,
00:12:19well, I'm just
00:12:20not going to talk about it.
00:12:22I'm just in the air.
00:12:23I don't know what to do.
00:12:25Bye.
00:12:25Bye.
00:12:46Hello.
00:12:47Hi.
00:12:48How are you guys?
00:12:49Very well.
00:12:50Welcome.
00:12:51Hello, guys.
00:12:52Hi.
00:12:53Hello.
00:12:53How are you?
00:12:54Welcome.
00:12:54Hi.
00:12:58Hi.
00:13:17Hello, ladies.
00:13:18Hello.
00:13:19I'm Chris.
00:13:19Hi.
00:13:28You OK?
00:13:29Yeah.
00:13:30Welcome, everybody,
00:13:31to the very final
00:13:33commitment ceremony
00:13:34of this experiment.
00:13:36Now, this is a very,
00:13:38very pivotal night.
00:13:40because it is the very
00:13:41last time that you get
00:13:43to sit in front of
00:13:44the experts and to hear
00:13:46the feedback that we
00:13:47have for you.
00:13:50Now, in just a short
00:13:51time, you have one of
00:13:52the biggest decisions
00:13:53that you're going to
00:13:54have to make, whether
00:13:55or not you can take
00:13:56this relationship in
00:13:57the experiment into
00:13:59the real world and
00:14:00make it a success.
00:14:02And as we know as
00:14:03experts, if you are
00:14:06not completely vulnerable
00:14:07with your partner at
00:14:09this stage of the
00:14:10experiment, then your
00:14:11relationship will
00:14:13crumble on the
00:14:14outside.
00:14:15It will not last.
00:14:19Now, with that being
00:14:20said, let's get our
00:14:22first couple up.
00:14:27Alyssa and David.
00:14:38Hello.
00:14:40Hello.
00:14:43So, how are things?
00:14:45Um, you know what?
00:14:48Last time we were on
00:14:49the couch, things were
00:14:51moving in the right
00:14:52direction.
00:14:52They still are, but we
00:14:54do have some hiccups
00:14:55that we're trying to
00:14:57work through at the
00:14:57moment.
00:14:58Okay.
00:14:59Um, obviously, I'll
00:15:01start by saying, you
00:15:02know, Alyssa is an
00:15:04amazing girl, but
00:15:05personally, I feel like
00:15:08I have, you know,
00:15:09carried a lot of the
00:15:10emotional weight in the
00:15:12relationship.
00:15:12This is just how I
00:15:13feel.
00:15:15What do you mean when
00:15:16you say carried most of
00:15:17the emotional weight?
00:15:19I feel like there has
00:15:20been times where I
00:15:22personally put my
00:15:23emotions aside just to
00:15:25make sure that there
00:15:26was just peace.
00:15:29And this is a thing
00:15:30where, like, I have
00:15:32tried to bring something
00:15:33up at the start of the
00:15:34relationship to Alyssa,
00:15:35and I felt like she was
00:15:36not receptive to it.
00:15:38So what that ended up
00:15:40doing for me was making
00:15:41me be more cautious of
00:15:43bringing stuff up to
00:15:44her.
00:15:44Mm-hmm.
00:15:48It was more the
00:15:49reaction of, is it going
00:15:50to become an argument
00:15:51that was going to go out
00:15:52of hand?
00:15:54So what happened with
00:15:56all of that emotion as
00:15:58you describe it?
00:15:58If you weren't expressing
00:16:00that to Alyssa, what were
00:16:02you doing with it?
00:16:07Well, anything little
00:16:08that I didn't really care
00:16:10about, didn't really
00:16:10affect me, so I'd brush
00:16:11over it.
00:16:12But what happened in
00:16:13Homestays was I feel like
00:16:15it triggered me.
00:16:16Okay.
00:16:17I was saying Adelaide is
00:16:18a livable place, but I
00:16:19felt like Alyssa was being
00:16:21a bit negative about the
00:16:24move.
00:16:25I feel like she was
00:16:26pointing out all of the
00:16:27reasons why it won't work,
00:16:28which are all valid.
00:16:29We all know that there is
00:16:30things to work out in the
00:16:31real world.
00:16:32But it felt like, for me,
00:16:34she was too in her head
00:16:36about it, that it's
00:16:36affecting me right now.
00:16:42Do you know why?
00:16:43Because I'm feeling very
00:16:44frustrated at this part of
00:16:46the experiment.
00:16:47This is our last couch
00:16:49session, and I'm feeling
00:16:50like there has been some
00:16:51holdback.
00:16:52And some of our couch
00:16:53sessions could have been
00:16:54things that we could be
00:16:55working through if we had
00:16:56more open conversations.
00:16:58I feel like he doesn't want
00:16:59to have, like, conflict.
00:17:01But I feel like there is
00:17:03healthy conflict resolution.
00:17:04Otherwise, my relationship
00:17:05in my eyes, this is too
00:17:06good to be true.
00:17:08Can I just stay?
00:17:10I want a partner who can
00:17:11have a constructive
00:17:13conversation with me about
00:17:15an issue.
00:17:16But a partner that shuts you
00:17:18down and tells you what
00:17:19they're saying is Bible, it is
00:17:22an issue.
00:17:22I haven't actually spoken
00:17:23down on you in a bad way.
00:17:25Like, I don't...
00:17:25Well, there's things you've
00:17:26said.
00:17:27I don't want to, I don't
00:17:28want to, like...
00:17:29Well, an example could be
00:17:30helpful for Alyssa here.
00:17:32Well, she has...
00:17:34You did mention I was a
00:17:35weak man at one point.
00:17:37She called you a weak man?
00:17:39Yeah.
00:17:42So that's a problem.
00:17:58Well, she has...
00:17:59You did mention I was a
00:18:01weak man at one point.
00:18:03She called you a weak man?
00:18:05Yeah.
00:18:08So that's a problem.
00:18:15What was the context
00:18:16around that?
00:18:18It was in one of our talks
00:18:19about, like, she's got
00:18:21assets, she's ahead in life
00:18:23and she wants a guy that
00:18:24can match that.
00:18:25So financially weak.
00:18:26Yeah.
00:18:27How did it feel when she
00:18:28said that?
00:18:29Well, I just thought,
00:18:30where's this coming from?
00:18:31And the thing about me is,
00:18:33like, I pick what I want to,
00:18:34like, get upset about and I
00:18:36didn't.
00:18:37Maybe I should have combated
00:18:39that at the time.
00:18:44Alyssa, what was going on
00:18:45for you?
00:18:46What did you want to achieve
00:18:46from saying that to him?
00:18:49I was getting frustrated
00:18:50because I'm wanting more
00:18:52from David.
00:18:52I'm wanting to see more
00:18:54from him.
00:18:55And I feel like I want to
00:18:56be strong together as a
00:18:58couple.
00:18:58I think where I'm struggling
00:18:59is it's...
00:19:00She wants me to be strong
00:19:02on her timeline.
00:19:03And that's where it feels
00:19:05like it is your way or
00:19:07you're not happy.
00:19:10David, do you feel like
00:19:11you're enough for Alyssa?
00:19:12I feel like I'm 100%
00:19:14enough.
00:19:17Do you think she thinks
00:19:18you're enough?
00:19:19I think she does, but the
00:19:21questions that I'm getting
00:19:22are, like, they are
00:19:23confusing me.
00:19:24So what are these questions
00:19:25that are confusing you?
00:19:27Well, the first thing is
00:19:29she's wondering, like, you
00:19:30know, energy, like, in five
00:19:32years or whatever.
00:19:33Is that going to be enough
00:19:34to sustain her?
00:19:34And she has said to me,
00:19:35if I'm not getting the fix
00:19:38I need, I'll go look
00:19:40elsewhere, essentially.
00:19:41No, I didn't say that.
00:19:43She said, I'm hungry.
00:19:44You need to feed me.
00:19:45You need to feed me.
00:19:45I've taught you more in this
00:19:46relationship than you've
00:19:47taught me.
00:19:48I'm wanting to, like,
00:19:49open-ended conversations
00:19:50and stuff.
00:19:51I'm wanting to go deep.
00:19:52Like, I'm putting all my
00:19:53cards on the table.
00:19:54I'm very direct.
00:19:55Like, I'll talk about stuff.
00:19:57I need some sort of fuel,
00:19:59like, it's just, it's what I
00:20:00like.
00:20:01But I don't know if our
00:20:02relationship is going to last
00:20:05in the real world, if this
00:20:06is the gap.
00:20:10I don't know if we're going
00:20:11to be a good match long-term
00:20:12if this is the energy, because
00:20:14I need to see David in his
00:20:15element.
00:20:16I need to see David with his
00:20:17family.
00:20:18I need to see David with his
00:20:18friends.
00:20:19I need to see what he does.
00:20:20Like, I want to have a family
00:20:21in the next few years.
00:20:28And, like, if we want to talk
00:20:30about me seeing things work in
00:20:31the real world, what I need to
00:20:32see as well is if someone says
00:20:34they want to have open-ended
00:20:35conversations, that has to be
00:20:37it.
00:20:37What's happened in this
00:20:38relationship is I've done a lot
00:20:39of listening.
00:20:40Alyssa has done a lot of
00:20:41talking.
00:20:44That's the fact.
00:20:44You need to speak up.
00:20:45No, no, no.
00:20:46But, like, it's, I don't, one
00:20:47thing about me is I think
00:20:49we're both adults, and I
00:20:51want to see that in her, that
00:20:52she has the ability to
00:20:53listen.
00:20:54I can't mind-read.
00:20:55It's not mind-reading.
00:20:55It's not mind-leasing.
00:20:56Oh, my gosh.
00:20:56I can't.
00:20:57See?
00:20:57Boom.
00:20:58I know.
00:20:58I can't mind-read, babe.
00:20:59You're frustrating me because
00:21:00I can't read your mind.
00:21:01When I start saying something
00:21:04that she's not getting, I'm
00:21:05frustrated.
00:21:06I don't want to deal with
00:21:06this anymore.
00:21:07No, I'm not dealing with
00:21:08it.
00:21:08I'm just saying.
00:21:09You're now talking in
00:21:09circles.
00:21:10So I'm going to pull you up
00:21:12there.
00:21:13I mean, this has been very
00:21:16enlightening, I think, for us to
00:21:17get a glimpse inside what's
00:21:19really going on in the
00:21:20relationship.
00:21:22So an observation from us
00:21:24here is that you've both made
00:21:28missteps, I think, in terms of
00:21:31your communication and what
00:21:32you've brought to the couch
00:21:33here.
00:21:34Because, Alyssa, you were
00:21:36aware that he was withholding.
00:21:37You knew he was not being up
00:21:39front with you.
00:21:39So you could have brought that
00:21:41up.
00:21:41And so, David, for you, you
00:21:44were choosing not to speak up.
00:21:47You haven't arrived at an
00:21:49outcome.
00:21:50No.
00:21:50But you've helped us see what's
00:21:52going on inside.
00:21:53So thank you for that to this
00:21:55point.
00:21:56So now let's look forward.
00:21:58Because, as you know, this is
00:22:00the last commitment ceremony.
00:22:01This is almost the end of the
00:22:03experiment for you two.
00:22:05Where to from here?
00:22:14Well, I'm sitting here because I
00:22:16want that help.
00:22:18I guess what we need to do is
00:22:19look beneath the arguments here
00:22:22because there's a reason that you
00:22:25have been avoiding bringing these
00:22:28issues up.
00:22:29Yeah.
00:22:29Here's an opportunity to now say,
00:22:31OK, we're going to come at this as
00:22:33equals.
00:22:33not one putting the other down,
00:22:35not one avoiding and running
00:22:36away.
00:22:37We are coming here together to
00:22:39have this open, honest, mature
00:22:41conversation about what you both
00:22:43want post-experiment.
00:22:45Because otherwise, the last couple
00:22:48of months has been a waste of
00:22:49time.
00:22:50You've got that opportunity now.
00:22:52It's not too late.
00:22:55Can you do that?
00:22:57Yeah.
00:22:58Lisa?
00:23:00Yeah.
00:23:04You OK?
00:23:06I do believe that the things we
00:23:11have gone through are significant
00:23:13and I believe that there are
00:23:15genuine feelings here.
00:23:16I do feel strong feelings towards
00:23:18Alyssa.
00:23:19That's why I'm still here.
00:23:20OK.
00:23:22All right.
00:23:22Well, on that note, we're going to
00:23:23go to a decision.
00:23:25Alyssa, we'll start with you.
00:23:27I didn't come here for three months
00:23:30to waste it.
00:23:31And, like, I came here to find my
00:23:35person.
00:23:35I want to settle down.
00:23:36I want to have a family.
00:23:37I want the happy ending.
00:23:39And that is why I want to move
00:23:42forward as a team and no holding
00:23:46back.
00:23:47And because there's so many feelings
00:23:50involved and, like, I really care about
00:23:51this relationship so much, I have
00:23:53decided to stay.
00:23:55OK.
00:23:58And to you, David.
00:24:01Yeah.
00:24:07I'll take your advice on board.
00:24:09And, yeah, I'd like to stay.
00:24:15Pleased to see that.
00:24:17This could be make or break for you
00:24:19guys.
00:24:20You're about to make the decision of
00:24:23this experiment, the thing that is
00:24:25going to determine which way you go in
00:24:27your future.
00:24:29Good luck, guys.
00:24:43Good luck, guys.
00:24:45Good luck.
00:24:56Coming up...
00:24:57You do not have to tell me you love me,
00:24:59but I'm not going to walk down to
00:25:02final vows with someone that's a
00:25:04maybe.
00:25:05Bec hits her limit.
00:25:06I'm not doing it.
00:25:09And...
00:25:10I...
00:25:11Take a breath for a minute.
00:25:13Breathe.
00:25:14Will Scott speak up?
00:25:18When I care about someone so much,
00:25:20I feel like I can't speak my voice
00:25:22when I have a concern.
00:25:23It's a weakness of mine.
00:25:36All right, let's have our next couple
00:25:37up.
00:25:41Rachel and Stephen.
00:25:42Hey.
00:25:46Hello.
00:25:47Hello.
00:25:48Hello.
00:25:49How are you?
00:25:50Hiya.
00:25:51I love this energy.
00:25:53Can I just say, Steve, are you
00:25:54got a bit of a swagger?
00:25:55Oh, he sure does.
00:25:57Oh, don't flatter me, John.
00:26:00Especially coming from you.
00:26:05Where do you two want to begin?
00:26:07Homestays, I guess.
00:26:08I mean, it seems like it's had a big
00:26:09impact on the two of you.
00:26:11Yeah.
00:26:14Homestays was a big success for me,
00:26:16and I believe Rachel as well.
00:26:19It's sort of changed the relationship
00:26:21in many ways.
00:26:22Oh, in what way?
00:26:24For me, Rachel was fantastic.
00:26:27I showed her my passions, and she went
00:26:29out on the boat, and she enjoyed
00:26:31herself, a smile ear to ear, and we had
00:26:33lots of banter, laughing.
00:26:35It was a really super sweet time.
00:26:37But it's not that she's in the fishing.
00:26:40It's the independence.
00:26:41I can go, I feel like I can rely on
00:26:44Rachel.
00:26:44If something happens in the well where
00:26:45I'm like, geez, can you help me out
00:26:47with this?
00:26:48Rachel's going to go, got your back.
00:26:49Yeah.
00:26:50And she's just going to get it done.
00:26:51So as a result of that, how do you feel
00:26:54about her?
00:26:57Well, I feel like I can see myself falling in love
00:27:01with Rachel.
00:27:02Woo-hoo!
00:27:04That's massive.
00:27:07Hmm.
00:27:11Rachel, uh...
00:27:12Yeah.
00:27:12These are two's a happiness, I swear.
00:27:14Let's just take a moment, shall we?
00:27:15Just a little bit overwhelmed.
00:27:17In a good way.
00:27:21So...
00:27:22So I feel the same.
00:27:23You know, I can definitely see myself
00:27:25falling in love with you too.
00:27:27There's something going on for you right
00:27:29now, Rachel.
00:27:30What is it?
00:27:31This is a very significant moment for
00:27:33you.
00:27:33Yeah.
00:27:34Um, I think I shared with you, John,
00:27:36before I came in here the last time
00:27:39someone told me that they loved me.
00:27:41The very next day they told me that I
00:27:44don't remember saying it.
00:27:47Um, that was after seven years of a...
00:27:51..a toxic situationship.
00:27:53And so, um, it's a hard thing.
00:27:58My barriers go up.
00:28:01And so, having this journey with Stephen
00:28:05and knowing, you know, how he feels
00:28:08about vulnerability and when he says
00:28:10something, he means it.
00:28:11So, for him to be sitting here and
00:28:14saying that to me, it, yeah, bam, right
00:28:17in the feels in a really beautiful way.
00:28:19Because I'm like, yeah, I believe him.
00:28:25And I don't think that I thought that I
00:28:27would believe a man again in that way.
00:28:32You're welcome.
00:28:34And you know what?
00:28:36He said that holding your hand, sitting
00:28:38next to you...
00:28:39Yeah.
00:28:39..and showing you his family.
00:28:42Yeah.
00:28:43All the things that signal...
00:28:45Yep.
00:28:46..he's not going anywhere.
00:28:47Yeah.
00:28:49It's different.
00:28:50It is very different.
00:28:52Is it scary?
00:28:53It's petrifying.
00:28:58What are you scared of the most?
00:29:02I'm scared that Stephen will go back
00:29:04to his life in Sydney.
00:29:06And it's just going to be easier
00:29:08for him to let me go.
00:29:10Because he is time poor
00:29:12and he has his business.
00:29:14And so, it might be a burden
00:29:18to try and maintain our relationship with me.
00:29:21So he might just let me go.
00:29:26So, yeah.
00:29:28That's...
00:29:29That's my fear.
00:29:31I feel like I'm hurt.
00:29:33Well, how does that land for you, Stephen,
00:29:35when you hear her say that?
00:29:37Um, yeah, it makes me feel helpless at times.
00:29:40And I just don't know what to say
00:29:41because when I see Rachel in these states,
00:29:45the first thing I want to do is try and comfort her
00:29:47and try to fix the situation.
00:29:49Or reassure or at least take the edge off a bit.
00:29:54So, if you don't have to fix it
00:29:55and you just sit with it and validate it,
00:29:58can you do that?
00:29:58I can do that.
00:29:59I can't say I'm happy with that,
00:30:02but, I mean, it is what it is.
00:30:04It makes you feel a bit uncomfortable?
00:30:05It does.
00:30:06Yeah, good.
00:30:06It does.
00:30:07Good?
00:30:07It does.
00:30:08And the only thing I can say to her is
00:30:10that the only thing that I feel like
00:30:11that's going to fix this
00:30:12is actually go out there in the real world
00:30:14and put it into practice
00:30:15and prove it wrong, pretty much.
00:30:19Well, haven't you changed?
00:30:20Ooh.
00:30:21You know, all the both of you
00:30:22sitting in front of us today.
00:30:24This was all done at homestays.
00:30:27It was amazing what homestays did for us.
00:30:29We love it.
00:30:30We love it.
00:30:31All right.
00:30:32Let's go to the decision.
00:30:33Start with you first, Stephen.
00:30:36There was a big question mark with me
00:30:38before homestays.
00:30:39I'm like, this could make or break us.
00:30:41But it's just only brought me closer to Rachel.
00:30:45So I'm going to, uh, yeah, stay.
00:30:48Beautiful.
00:30:49Brilliant.
00:30:51And what about you, Rachel?
00:30:52What do you got?
00:30:53Stay or leave?
00:30:54I know this is going to shock everyone,
00:30:57but I wrote stay,
00:30:59and that's us on a boat fishing.
00:31:02Beautiful.
00:31:05We have loved watching you
00:31:07through this experiment.
00:31:08You've had some difficult moments
00:31:10along the way,
00:31:11but you've grown, you know,
00:31:13and, uh, the way in which
00:31:15you're together now,
00:31:16uh, really,
00:31:17it's on display.
00:31:19Everyone sees it.
00:31:20Uh, you're a unified couple.
00:31:22It's fantastic.
00:31:23What I would say to you
00:31:24in this final week,
00:31:25uh, is don't get inside your head too much.
00:31:29You need to be enjoying
00:31:32this, this final week
00:31:34rather than thinking too far ahead,
00:31:37um, because that's something
00:31:38that I think in the past
00:31:40you've, you've been a bit guilty of doing.
00:31:43And on that,
00:31:44you can go back to your group.
00:31:49Good stuff.
00:31:52Woo-hoo!
00:31:54Oh!
00:32:00You make me cry.
00:32:02Oh, you're welcome.
00:32:03Yeah.
00:32:16Let's get our next couple
00:32:18up on the couch.
00:32:21Beck and Danny.
00:32:22Ooh!
00:32:25Hey, guys.
00:32:26Hello.
00:32:27How are you?
00:32:28Good, good, good.
00:32:29Very well.
00:32:29Good, good, good.
00:32:32Homestays.
00:32:32Let's start with you, Beck.
00:32:34What were they like?
00:32:35They were great.
00:32:37I was in my own estate.
00:32:39I was in my own home
00:32:40with my dog.
00:32:42We saw my family
00:32:43at my auntie's beach house
00:32:45and that was great.
00:32:47Um, Dad and Daniel
00:32:48get along really well,
00:32:49which is great.
00:32:51So, good start.
00:32:52Great start.
00:32:56What else happened
00:32:57at the homestay?
00:32:59We met Beck's friends.
00:33:01That went pretty good,
00:33:02didn't it?
00:33:02Like, just, like,
00:33:03the tough questions.
00:33:04And then that night
00:33:06we went back to Beck's
00:33:08and we were sitting around,
00:33:10like, having a fire.
00:33:13And then I cracked a joke
00:33:15like about her cousin
00:33:17fancying me.
00:33:20And it landed poorly.
00:33:24What did he say with the joke?
00:33:26Can you just tell us?
00:33:28We were having a bit
00:33:29of an emotional moment
00:33:30with one another
00:33:31talking about our feelings
00:33:32and how it's been
00:33:33on homestays
00:33:34and Daniel said,
00:33:35if all else fails,
00:33:36at least Daniel fancies me
00:33:38type thing.
00:33:42And I lost it.
00:33:46And why?
00:33:48Because it makes me feel
00:33:50like when we're having
00:33:52this conversation
00:33:53that means so much to me
00:33:54that it diminishes it
00:33:56and it makes it a joke.
00:33:59I get it.
00:34:00I shouldn't have said it.
00:34:01But I feel like our fight styles
00:34:03don't really match too well.
00:34:06What scared me was
00:34:08we couldn't rectify it
00:34:09too quickly.
00:34:11And where I'm sort of
00:34:12holding back a little bit
00:34:13is I don't,
00:34:16I wouldn't want to move
00:34:17and then we have
00:34:18an argument like that
00:34:19and I feel really isolated
00:34:20and alone.
00:34:21I don't want to do that.
00:34:22So, arguing is something
00:34:24that scares you
00:34:25when it comes to Beck.
00:34:26Why?
00:34:28I think for both of us
00:34:29it just doesn't work.
00:34:34Wow.
00:34:34Okay.
00:34:35What am I saying wrong?
00:34:37Just to use the words
00:34:39for both of us
00:34:39it doesn't work.
00:34:44I'm not saying
00:34:45we don't work.
00:34:46I'm saying our fight style
00:34:47doesn't work.
00:34:48Oh yeah, that,
00:34:48no, okay.
00:34:50So this is what happens
00:34:52sometimes.
00:34:52I try and say something
00:34:53and Beck takes it
00:34:54in completely the wrong way.
00:34:58Beck, what's going on
00:34:59inside of you right now?
00:35:01Um, I suppose I'm fearful
00:35:03because I've let
00:35:04every wall down.
00:35:06So what happens to you
00:35:07when he says that?
00:35:08Just
00:35:10kills my soul a little bit
00:35:12to be honest with you.
00:35:16Because I'm like,
00:35:17well,
00:35:19why haven't you said this to me?
00:35:22Because I've been fearful
00:35:23to say it
00:35:24because I don't want
00:35:25to upset you.
00:35:28No, no, no.
00:35:29Do not blame me.
00:35:30I'm not blaming you.
00:35:31Don't say
00:35:32you're fearful
00:35:33to tell me
00:35:33because you're going
00:35:33to upset me.
00:35:35I'm here
00:35:36in love with you.
00:35:38We're at the end
00:35:38of this experiment.
00:35:42You're making it seem
00:35:43like I've been
00:35:44holding on to this
00:35:44for six months.
00:35:45Honestly,
00:35:46I noticed it in Adelaide
00:35:47when I felt isolated.
00:35:48Up until then,
00:35:49I haven't noticed it.
00:35:53Beck,
00:35:54I look at your face.
00:35:56You seem very concerned.
00:36:03I think he's got
00:36:04more reservations
00:36:04than he lets on.
00:36:05Oh, really?
00:36:06I do, yeah.
00:36:08I do.
00:36:09I do.
00:36:10I do.
00:36:15Danny, Danny,
00:36:17look at me.
00:36:18There really is no time
00:36:19for you to make light
00:36:20of the situation
00:36:22because when you
00:36:23add things up, Danny,
00:36:25it's not making
00:36:26her feel secure.
00:36:27You know,
00:36:28you haven't said
00:36:28your feelings back
00:36:29to her.
00:36:30You've gone to the family
00:36:32and they've validated you
00:36:34and then you're not
00:36:35bringing up issues
00:36:36because you're afraid
00:36:37of the fight style.
00:36:38It starts
00:36:39to add up
00:36:41and it makes her
00:36:42feel what, Beck?
00:36:48Like he's just
00:36:48not that into me.
00:36:54So that's a problem
00:36:57because this far
00:36:58into the experiment,
00:36:59you don't want
00:37:00your partner
00:37:00to be thinking,
00:37:03he's just not
00:37:04that into me.
00:37:07Yeah, but I am.
00:37:09I've told you that.
00:37:10I am.
00:37:11You know I am.
00:37:14So why is she
00:37:15not believing it?
00:37:17I don't know.
00:37:18I can't speak for Beck.
00:37:22I'm asking
00:37:24for you
00:37:25to sit there
00:37:26and say to me,
00:37:28Beck,
00:37:28this is how I feel
00:37:29about you
00:37:30just once.
00:37:33You know how
00:37:34I feel about you.
00:37:35You know I care
00:37:36about you so much.
00:37:37I do know you care
00:37:38about me,
00:37:39but where is the passion?
00:37:42I see tiny glimpses
00:37:43of it,
00:37:46but I feel like
00:37:47you are holding back.
00:37:49You said to me once
00:37:50at the beginning
00:37:51of this experiment,
00:37:52and I'll never forget it,
00:37:53and it's probably
00:37:54ruined me.
00:37:56Daniel's like,
00:37:57well,
00:37:58when you are obsessed
00:37:59with each other,
00:38:00you're all over each other,
00:38:01and I don't have that.
00:38:02I just don't get it
00:38:03from him at all.
00:38:05He doesn't want
00:38:06to hold my hand
00:38:07walking down the street.
00:38:07That's not your style,
00:38:08no worries.
00:38:09Whenever we have a kiss,
00:38:10I'm the one going
00:38:11to kiss you.
00:38:12You never,
00:38:12ever,
00:38:12ever go to kiss me.
00:38:14You don't compliment me.
00:38:15Hardly ever.
00:38:18So for me,
00:38:19it's like,
00:38:19well,
00:38:20I'm this fool
00:38:21that's allowed my heart
00:38:22to get to this point,
00:38:23and he's not there,
00:38:24and he's not going
00:38:25to feel that way.
00:38:28I don't think
00:38:29that's a fair assumption.
00:38:38The thing that's
00:38:39important here,
00:38:40Danny,
00:38:40is that she's just
00:38:41told you
00:38:42in a very clear-cut way
00:38:44why she doesn't
00:38:46feel like you're
00:38:47interested.
00:38:52Your reaction is,
00:38:53well,
00:38:53that's not fair.
00:38:54No,
00:38:55but like...
00:38:56Yes,
00:38:56that's exactly
00:38:57what we just heard.
00:39:01Even,
00:39:02like,
00:39:02all of the husbands
00:39:03walk past us
00:39:03sitting at the
00:39:04commitment ceremony,
00:39:05and they all
00:39:05acknowledge their wives,
00:39:06and you never do.
00:39:07You ignore me.
00:39:11And I don't know
00:39:12how I've gotten
00:39:13to this point
00:39:14of these feelings
00:39:15with that.
00:39:19I'm so worried.
00:39:24I'm actually
00:39:25so worried.
00:39:30I just don't feel
00:39:31like you have
00:39:32any desire,
00:39:33and I just...
00:39:34Yeah,
00:39:35I'm just nervous.
00:39:37The reality is
00:39:39is that
00:39:39how can you
00:39:41move to Adelaide,
00:39:42and how can
00:39:43we live
00:39:44this life together
00:39:45if this is
00:39:45how it's gonna be?
00:39:47I can't be the one
00:39:48going to kiss you
00:39:51just so that
00:39:52there's a level
00:39:52of affection.
00:39:53I can't.
00:39:56I'm not doing it.
00:39:57I've done it.
00:39:58I did it.
00:39:58I nearly married it.
00:40:00I'm not doing it.
00:40:02I'm not.
00:40:04I'm not doing it.
00:40:05You're either
00:40:06into me,
00:40:06you have had
00:40:07enough time
00:40:08to know
00:40:09if I am
00:40:09the type of person
00:40:10you would want
00:40:11to be with.
00:40:11You do not have
00:40:12to tell me
00:40:12you love me,
00:40:13but I'm not
00:40:13going to
00:40:14walk down
00:40:15to final vows
00:40:16with someone
00:40:17that's a maybe
00:40:18about me.
00:40:19I'm not doing it.
00:40:20I'd rather be
00:40:20heartbroken now
00:40:21than heartbroken
00:40:22in six months' time.
00:40:37You have had
00:40:38enough time
00:40:39to know
00:40:39if I am
00:40:40the type of person
00:40:41you would want
00:40:41to be with.
00:40:42You do not have
00:40:42to tell me
00:40:43you love me,
00:40:43but I'm not
00:40:44going to
00:40:45walk down
00:40:46to final vows
00:40:47with someone
00:40:47that's a maybe
00:40:48about me.
00:40:49I'm not doing it.
00:40:50I'd rather be
00:40:51heartbroken now
00:40:52than heartbroken
00:40:52in six months' time.
00:41:15How does that
00:41:16land for you,
00:41:17Danny?
00:41:22Well,
00:41:23obviously it hurts
00:41:23to see Beck like that.
00:41:25What is she saying
00:41:26to you
00:41:28that you've done
00:41:30to get her
00:41:31to this point?
00:41:32Well,
00:41:32just not
00:41:35be passionate
00:41:36and not
00:41:36be the man
00:41:37she needs me
00:41:38to be.
00:41:41I've had my guard up,
00:41:42essentially.
00:41:43That's what...
00:41:44Yeah.
00:41:52When she lays
00:41:54this out
00:41:54on the table,
00:41:55no compliments,
00:41:57very few,
00:41:59lack of intimacy,
00:42:01not making her
00:42:02a priority,
00:42:03not saying
00:42:03how you feel
00:42:04about her,
00:42:07what do you
00:42:07think that does
00:42:08to her?
00:42:11Yeah,
00:42:12it would destroy her.
00:42:15What do you think
00:42:15it does
00:42:16to the relationship?
00:42:17It destroys
00:42:18the relationship
00:42:18as well.
00:42:21Why?
00:42:22Because you
00:42:23can't have...
00:42:24You can't build
00:42:25a relationship
00:42:25on, like,
00:42:26sand foundations,
00:42:28do you know
00:42:28what you mean?
00:42:28So help us
00:42:29understand why
00:42:31you're not
00:42:32doing these
00:42:33things
00:42:33to bring her
00:42:34close.
00:42:39just...
00:42:41Obviously,
00:42:41we've talked
00:42:41about the five
00:42:42star,
00:42:43that's the bit
00:42:43where I've
00:42:43been holding
00:42:44back.
00:42:47But I guess
00:42:48after my last
00:42:49relationship,
00:42:50I haven't felt
00:42:50this strongly
00:42:51towards a woman
00:42:52or been this
00:42:52close with a
00:42:53woman in years.
00:42:56But of course,
00:42:57I still have
00:42:57a bit of a guard
00:42:58up because
00:42:59last time,
00:43:00when it didn't
00:43:01work out,
00:43:02it destroyed
00:43:02my life.
00:43:05How nice
00:43:05would it be
00:43:06to have heard
00:43:06that?
00:43:07Well, you
00:43:07just did.
00:43:08I know,
00:43:09but why do I
00:43:09have to go to
00:43:10this length
00:43:11to hear that?
00:43:11Because I'm
00:43:11not no good
00:43:12at this shit.
00:43:14Well, I've
00:43:15been begging
00:43:15you for this
00:43:16level of openness
00:43:17for nearly
00:43:19three months.
00:43:20And so hearing
00:43:21that makes
00:43:23me feel like
00:43:25there's hope,
00:43:26you know?
00:43:31Why does
00:43:32that make
00:43:32you feel
00:43:32hopeful?
00:43:33Because if
00:43:34he hasn't
00:43:34felt like
00:43:35this in
00:43:35years,
00:43:36then that
00:43:37means that
00:43:40it's real
00:43:43and you
00:43:43might be
00:43:44into me,
00:43:45but you
00:43:46need to
00:43:46open yourself
00:43:47to me.
00:43:48Yeah, I
00:43:48guess like
00:43:49this has
00:43:49been a
00:43:50problem in
00:43:50the past
00:43:50that I
00:43:51am just
00:43:52a shit
00:43:52boyfriend,
00:43:53to be honest.
00:43:54I am.
00:43:55I don't believe
00:43:56that.
00:43:57To be honest.
00:43:57But that
00:43:58is a very
00:43:59easy way
00:43:59of getting
00:44:00out of it.
00:44:01Don't hold
00:44:02me accountable.
00:44:02I'm just
00:44:03a shit
00:44:03boyfriend.
00:44:04No, I'm
00:44:04not saying
00:44:04it like
00:44:05that.
00:44:05But you
00:44:05are.
00:44:07And that's
00:44:07what she's
00:44:08hearing.
00:44:11What she
00:44:12wants right
00:44:12now from
00:44:13you, Danny,
00:44:13is for you
00:44:14to step
00:44:15into this
00:44:15and go,
00:44:16you know what?
00:44:17yeah, I've
00:44:17dropped the
00:44:18ball.
00:44:19And I've
00:44:20sent you
00:44:20the wrong
00:44:22signals and
00:44:22I'm accountable
00:44:23and I'm
00:44:24going to do
00:44:24different.
00:44:25But I'm
00:44:25not getting
00:44:26that from
00:44:26you.
00:44:28No, I,
00:44:29Bec, I
00:44:29want to say
00:44:30I am.
00:44:30And I'm
00:44:30sorry if,
00:44:31like, it's
00:44:32for making
00:44:33you feel
00:44:33like that,
00:44:33genuine,
00:44:34from the
00:44:34bottom of
00:44:34my heart.
00:44:35You know
00:44:35I'd never
00:44:35want to
00:44:36upset you.
00:44:36You mean
00:44:37the world
00:44:37to me.
00:44:41And I'm
00:44:41sorry if,
00:44:42if I've
00:44:43dropped the
00:44:43ball.
00:44:43It was
00:44:44never my
00:44:44intention.
00:44:49I like
00:44:49hearing it
00:44:50but I
00:44:50need to
00:44:51see it.
00:44:51Yeah,
00:44:51and I'll,
00:44:52I'll try.
00:44:52I can't
00:44:52keep on
00:44:53hearing it
00:44:54and then
00:44:55nothing changes.
00:44:56Well, let
00:44:56me show
00:44:56you then.
00:44:59Okay.
00:45:03Let me
00:45:04show you.
00:45:08Now with
00:45:09that we're
00:45:09going to
00:45:09go to
00:45:10the
00:45:10decision.
00:45:13Bec, what
00:45:14have you
00:45:14got for us
00:45:14stay or
00:45:15leave?
00:45:16Well, you,
00:45:17you have
00:45:18my heart
00:45:19and like
00:45:20you are
00:45:21the most
00:45:22special person.
00:45:23I've never
00:45:23met anyone
00:45:24like you,
00:45:24right?
00:45:25And I feel
00:45:25really, really
00:45:26lucky that
00:45:27we were
00:45:28matched and
00:45:28we get to
00:45:28go on this
00:45:29journey together.
00:45:33But I
00:45:34need you
00:45:36to give
00:45:37me
00:45:39half of
00:45:39what I'm
00:45:40giving you
00:45:40at least.
00:45:49We
00:45:49have
00:45:50overcome
00:45:50so many
00:45:51hurdles
00:45:51together
00:45:52and
00:45:52we've
00:45:53made it
00:45:53this far
00:45:54so
00:45:57I said
00:45:59stay
00:45:59and then
00:46:00I said
00:46:01proud of
00:46:01us.
00:46:03Love it.
00:46:04Love it.
00:46:05And
00:46:05Danny?
00:46:06Yeah, obviously
00:46:07I want to
00:46:08apologise again.
00:46:09I'm so sorry.
00:46:10You know, you
00:46:11mean the world
00:46:11to me and
00:46:11this week
00:46:13I'll try and
00:46:14prove that
00:46:15to you.
00:46:16I'm here for
00:46:17love and I
00:46:18think I can
00:46:18find that
00:46:19with you so
00:46:19that's why
00:46:20I wrote
00:46:20stay.
00:46:21Good.
00:46:32Danny, from
00:46:33where we're
00:46:33sitting, this
00:46:34week is on
00:46:35you.
00:46:36You have to
00:46:37do the heavy
00:46:38lifting.
00:46:39You've got a
00:46:40partner here
00:46:40with you
00:46:41who's put her
00:46:43heart out
00:46:43there and
00:46:44said, I'm
00:46:44in love, I
00:46:45want this, you
00:46:47need to step
00:46:47up.
00:46:51And if
00:46:51you are
00:46:52feeling
00:46:53these strong
00:46:54emotions for
00:46:55her, then
00:46:56you've got to
00:46:56start showing
00:46:57it.
00:46:58Yeah.
00:47:01With that, you
00:47:02can go back
00:47:03to the group.
00:47:04Thanks,
00:47:05guys.
00:47:05Well done,
00:47:06guys.
00:47:08Thanks for
00:47:09all your
00:47:09support.
00:47:10Thanks.
00:47:10Good work,
00:47:11you two.
00:47:14Oh,
00:47:16battered.
00:47:21communicate
00:47:21with me.
00:47:23My wife
00:47:24hates me
00:47:24and so
00:47:25do
00:47:25one
00:47:25as
00:47:25as
00:47:25well.
00:47:27I don't
00:47:28hate you,
00:47:29boo.
00:47:30I just
00:47:30can't keep
00:47:30on asking
00:47:31at the
00:47:31minimum.
00:47:33It's either
00:47:33there or
00:47:33it's not.
00:47:34And if
00:47:35it's not,
00:47:35you've got to
00:47:36walk away
00:47:36now.
00:47:38Right.
00:47:39Okay?
00:47:39I hate you.
00:47:40Great.
00:47:44Still to
00:47:44come...
00:47:45I haven't
00:47:46been able
00:47:46to address
00:47:46her concern
00:47:47without
00:47:47Gia and
00:47:48I having
00:47:48an argument
00:47:49or her
00:47:50spiralling.
00:47:51What kind
00:47:51of things
00:47:51could she
00:47:52say?
00:47:53In a
00:47:53moment that
00:47:54demands
00:47:55honesty...
00:47:56Things that
00:47:57can make
00:47:58someone feel
00:47:58pretty defeated
00:48:00and let
00:48:00down.
00:48:00Such
00:48:01us?
00:48:02Scott
00:48:02hesitates.
00:48:05If you
00:48:06can't speak
00:48:07honestly in
00:48:08front of
00:48:08Gia,
00:48:09then I'm
00:48:09really concerned
00:48:10about the
00:48:11possibility of
00:48:12this relationship
00:48:12surviving outside
00:48:14the experiment.
00:48:24Next on the
00:48:25couch...
00:48:28Chris and
00:48:29Sam.
00:48:34Hello.
00:48:35Hello.
00:48:36Hi.
00:48:41Body language
00:48:42says a lot.
00:48:44Yeah, it's
00:48:44been tough.
00:48:46Yeah.
00:48:51What happened
00:48:52last time we
00:48:53sat here, I
00:48:54wrote leave in
00:48:55the moment and
00:48:57then I kind
00:48:57of regretted
00:48:58it.
00:48:59We decided to
00:49:00go to
00:49:00homestays and
00:49:01I thought,
00:49:02okay, I'm
00:49:02really going to
00:49:02try and turn
00:49:03this around and
00:49:04I bought him
00:49:04some flowers and
00:49:05I got him a
00:49:05card and
00:49:06went to the
00:49:07shop and got
00:49:07groceries and
00:49:08made dinner and
00:49:09then we had a
00:49:10day with my
00:49:10cattle.
00:49:11You know, we
00:49:11were outside and
00:49:12I thought that
00:49:13was really fun.
00:49:15And then we
00:49:16had a bonfire.
00:49:20Sam pulled
00:49:21out a journal
00:49:21with some
00:49:22questions in it.
00:49:24Hand on heart,
00:49:24I was answering
00:49:25them the best
00:49:25that I could.
00:49:27And then Sam
00:49:28decided to
00:49:29leave the
00:49:30farm.
00:49:31And I
00:49:32thought, look,
00:49:33I've really
00:49:33tried to
00:49:34turn this
00:49:34around.
00:49:35I really
00:49:35took on all
00:49:35of your
00:49:36guys'
00:49:36feedback and
00:49:38yeah, I
00:49:38just feel like
00:49:39I've shut
00:49:39down now.
00:49:42Yeah.
00:49:43I just felt
00:49:44like he was
00:49:45saving face.
00:49:47Especially like
00:49:47the flowers and
00:49:48dinner thing.
00:49:50It felt very
00:49:51like I need to
00:49:52do these things
00:49:52to show that I
00:49:53put in effort.
00:49:54For me, it was
00:49:55genuine.
00:49:55I was trying to
00:49:56be as genuine as
00:49:57I could and I
00:49:57thought that was
00:49:58a way to try and
00:49:59make you feel
00:50:00welcome at the
00:50:00farm.
00:50:00I feel like
00:50:01your effort was
00:50:02like to push
00:50:03forward and there
00:50:04was effort for
00:50:05you to grow.
00:50:05But it was
00:50:05never like I
00:50:06need to grow
00:50:07for us and I
00:50:08want to grow
00:50:08to be a better
00:50:09partner for you.
00:50:16Where did the
00:50:17relationship go
00:50:18wrong for you
00:50:19both?
00:50:24I feel like Chris
00:50:25never really fully
00:50:26forgave me for
00:50:27calling him out
00:50:28on like
00:50:29behaviours.
00:50:31From then on,
00:50:33especially after
00:50:33you guys gave him
00:50:34feedback, it was
00:50:35like a no return
00:50:36point from then.
00:50:40Where did it go
00:50:41wrong for you?
00:50:43I feel like
00:50:45after the retreat,
00:50:47that chemistry,
00:50:47it was lacking
00:50:48for me.
00:50:49We were intimate
00:50:50a second time and
00:50:51I just felt like
00:50:51that wasn't there
00:50:52for me.
00:50:55Was it the
00:50:56quality of the
00:50:56interaction?
00:50:57Was it him as
00:50:58a person?
00:51:00What was it that
00:51:01felt off for you?
00:51:03If I'm being
00:51:04honest, it was
00:51:04just the quality
00:51:05of the interaction.
00:51:06I just, I don't
00:51:06know, it just
00:51:07wasn't there for
00:51:08me.
00:51:15Is that
00:51:15something that
00:51:16you spoke to
00:51:16Sam about?
00:51:18No, I didn't
00:51:18want to hurt his
00:51:19feelings.
00:51:24How are you
00:51:24feeling about
00:51:25that, Sam,
00:51:26to hear this?
00:51:27Oh, yeah.
00:51:28Like, I guess
00:51:29a surprise.
00:51:31And like, I guess
00:51:33what really sucks
00:51:34is that I was
00:51:35out on the farm
00:51:35and I was like
00:51:36herding cows
00:51:37and I was like,
00:51:37this is so good
00:51:38and the kids
00:51:39thing never
00:51:40bothered me.
00:51:41Like, it's
00:51:41always something
00:51:41that I've
00:51:41wanted in my
00:51:42life.
00:51:43Then I was
00:51:44just like,
00:51:44it was so
00:51:45annoying that
00:51:45everything else
00:51:46would have
00:51:46worked.
00:51:52This is really
00:51:53disappointing for
00:51:53us because we
00:51:55had so much
00:51:56hope for the
00:51:57two of you.
00:51:59It's just so
00:52:00unfortunate that
00:52:01along the way,
00:52:02with all of the
00:52:03pressure that the
00:52:03experiment brings,
00:52:05that the wheels
00:52:05have fallen off.
00:52:09It is
00:52:09disappointing I
00:52:10came here to
00:52:11find love and
00:52:12find love and
00:52:12I know that I'm
00:52:13a slow burn and
00:52:14I know that I
00:52:15get anxious once
00:52:16I do get feelings
00:52:17for someone because
00:52:17it takes me so
00:52:18long to build
00:52:19feelings for
00:52:19someone.
00:52:21And yeah, it's
00:52:22just really
00:52:23disappointing that
00:52:23it all ended up
00:52:24like this but
00:52:25you know, high hopes
00:52:28for the future.
00:52:30Yeah.
00:52:32What about you,
00:52:33Chris?
00:52:33Yeah, and I said
00:52:34to Sam that I want
00:52:35to be really good
00:52:35friends with him.
00:52:37We've been on this
00:52:37journey for eight
00:52:38weeks so yeah, I
00:52:40hope that we can
00:52:41stay in each other's
00:52:41lives outside of
00:52:42here.
00:52:43Yeah.
00:52:46All right, well we're
00:52:47going to go to a
00:52:47decision.
00:52:49Chris, we'll start
00:52:50with you.
00:52:52I've obviously
00:52:52learned a lot about
00:52:53myself and I hope
00:52:54you have too and
00:52:55you know, I'm sorry
00:52:56that it didn't work
00:52:57out for us.
00:52:58My time has
00:52:59unfortunately run
00:53:00out so yeah, I
00:53:03have to leave.
00:53:04Okay, thank you.
00:53:07And to you, Sam.
00:53:08It's been a journey.
00:53:09I've learned a lot.
00:53:1090% of our time
00:53:11together was awesome.
00:53:13Yeah, but you know,
00:53:14it's come to the time
00:53:15to pack it up and
00:53:18leave.
00:53:22I'm sorry you've
00:53:23both landed here but
00:53:25hopefully you have
00:53:27learned some lessons
00:53:28along the way that you
00:53:30can take into your next
00:53:31relationships and
00:53:33parenthood.
00:53:34You know, this is all
00:53:34about that self-development
00:53:36as well as couple
00:53:38development.
00:53:40Thank you both so
00:53:41much.
00:53:42Well done, you two.
00:53:52Well done, guys.
00:53:54We're going to miss
00:53:54you.
00:53:57Our next couple up
00:53:58on the couch, Stella
00:54:01and Phillip.
00:54:05Hello.
00:54:06Hello there.
00:54:09How are we doing?
00:54:11Well, we're more
00:54:12interested in how
00:54:12you're doing.
00:54:14Yeah.
00:54:15Coming into
00:54:15homesteads was very,
00:54:16very important for me.
00:54:18I was always open to
00:54:19moving so it was a
00:54:20really big deal to go
00:54:21into Stella's space.
00:54:22I was just really keen
00:54:24to see what it would
00:54:25look like.
00:54:27I just tried to
00:54:27envisage everything,
00:54:29like how I'd live there,
00:54:30the vibe, the energy
00:54:31and all that kind of
00:54:32stuff.
00:54:33After the experiment,
00:54:35Stella's going to come
00:54:36back for my mum's
00:54:37birthday, celebrate
00:54:39that.
00:54:39We're going to spend
00:54:40a few days in Melbourne
00:54:42and then I'll pick my
00:54:43car up and drive up
00:54:44to Cronulla.
00:54:47Just move again.
00:54:48Yeah.
00:54:50Yeah.
00:54:50Straight in.
00:54:51Yeah.
00:54:51Oh.
00:54:53Moving in.
00:54:53That's a plan.
00:54:55Yeah.
00:54:56So it is a plan.
00:54:58We got there.
00:55:00Here's the thing.
00:55:01When I first met you,
00:55:02you loved control.
00:55:03Yeah.
00:55:04You mapped out, you
00:55:06know, what you wanted
00:55:07to do during the day,
00:55:08your fitness, your
00:55:09health, your sleep,
00:55:11everything on point.
00:55:14And you, without a plan,
00:55:16there was a part of you
00:55:17that wasn't committing.
00:55:19And now you've come up
00:55:21with a plan, you've got
00:55:23certainty, and now
00:55:24you're on the same
00:55:25track.
00:55:26Because I want this
00:55:27relationship to work.
00:55:29Yeah.
00:55:30Yeah.
00:55:31And I feel like every
00:55:34woman can agree with
00:55:35that.
00:55:36When you don't understand
00:55:38your man's intentions,
00:55:39that's when you get
00:55:40frazzled, that's when
00:55:41you overthink, that's
00:55:42when you're in your
00:55:42head.
00:55:43When you know that the
00:55:44man is like, okay,
00:55:46let's do this, I think
00:55:48you really settle in to
00:55:49get that heart.
00:55:50You really do.
00:55:52Philip, I want you to
00:55:53turn to Stella and tell
00:55:55her how you feel.
00:55:56You're going to make
00:55:56me cry.
00:56:05You know.
00:56:06You know.
00:56:08You know.
00:56:11We can't cope.
00:56:12You know my dance,
00:56:13for you.
00:56:15You know.
00:56:17Stop it.
00:56:20I.
00:56:24You 100% know that I am
00:56:26in love with you.
00:56:27I know, baby.
00:56:28And that you shouldn't
00:56:29doubt anything.
00:56:30There's a lot of unknown
00:56:31and stuff like that.
00:56:32It's okay, we've got this.
00:56:33But, you know, we're a
00:56:34team.
00:56:35Yeah.
00:56:36So.
00:56:36I love you too.
00:56:37Okay.
00:56:38Yeah.
00:56:42So, Stella, how does
00:56:44that feel when he says
00:56:47that, knowing that he's
00:56:48got a plan and he's
00:56:50moving in?
00:56:51Again, like, I really
00:56:52could go from the two
00:56:53weeks of the conversation,
00:56:55like, this man makes me
00:56:56feel safe.
00:56:57I don't think I have
00:56:59experienced love before
00:57:00meeting him because, oh,
00:57:03he shows up for me.
00:57:05Yeah.
00:57:07Thanks, baby.
00:57:08Yeah.
00:57:08Can I just ask you,
00:57:09Stella, what's getting you
00:57:11upset right now?
00:57:11Why is this so important?
00:57:14Yeah, I feel quite lucky
00:57:16in the sense that if this
00:57:19works out, it means that
00:57:20everything that was in the
00:57:22past, all those learning
00:57:23curves, all those
00:57:24relationships, all was
00:57:27worth for this moment.
00:57:28You know, because I do,
00:57:30I think, at the stage of my
00:57:33life where I do truly want
00:57:35this to be my forever
00:57:36person and I do see, I do
00:57:39see that.
00:57:40Yeah.
00:57:42Pleasure.
00:57:46Well, you got real on this
00:57:48couch tonight.
00:57:49It was great.
00:57:52And on that note, we're going
00:57:53to go to a decision.
00:57:54Stay or leave, you're up
00:57:55first, Stella.
00:57:57Obviously not a surprise
00:57:58and I think I drew a love
00:58:00heart from very early on.
00:58:03Nice.
00:58:04And what about you,
00:58:05Philip?
00:58:06I'm not going anywhere.
00:58:08I just started.
00:58:09We're staying.
00:58:10That's what we like to see.
00:58:14Thanks for being here.
00:58:16Thanks for being here.
00:58:17You are a team and you've got
00:58:19this.
00:58:20Yeah.
00:58:21I really, really appreciate
00:58:22this whole thing.
00:58:24Well done, you two.
00:58:26Great work.
00:58:30Hi, thanks.
00:58:37Trimming.
00:58:39Our last couple up on the
00:58:41couch, Gia and Scott.
00:58:48Good evening.
00:58:49Hello.
00:58:50Hello.
00:58:50How are we?
00:58:51Good.
00:58:51Hi, Gia.
00:58:53Hello.
00:58:56So, how are you guys?
00:58:58All right.
00:59:00Um, I'm getting a bit
00:59:02nervous.
00:59:14So, you know, I care so
00:59:19much about Gia.
00:59:20What I'm going to talk
00:59:21about tonight is I don't
00:59:23want you to be upset.
00:59:25Okay.
00:59:25What I'm going to talk
00:59:26about is feelings where I...
00:59:30Take a breath for a minute.
00:59:33Breathe.
00:59:42So, I think for me to leave
00:59:44escorting, the dream would
00:59:45be obviously going to
00:59:46modeling.
00:59:48So, you keep saying that
00:59:49you want to be a model, but
00:59:50what are you actually doing?
00:59:53To make that happen.
00:59:55I don't really know if
00:59:56I'm going to speak.
00:59:57I think I need to make a
00:59:58portfolio.
00:59:59Um, I think that's the
00:59:59first step in being a model.
01:00:00Make a portfolio and then
01:00:02you just fire it at people
01:00:03and hope that they like you.
01:00:05Trying to advance onto this
01:00:07world of modeling, right?
01:00:08Made absolutely no progress.
01:00:10Right.
01:00:10What am I doing wrong?
01:00:11Do you think it's tattoos?
01:00:13Probably.
01:00:18I think what we could do is
01:00:20maybe have it where we...
01:00:23Whenever there's a play, you
01:00:25have to stop.
01:00:28It's a fucking nightmare.
01:00:29I think it's just the way we're
01:00:30marketing it.
01:00:31I think we lean into it heavily
01:00:32with the look of the suit, where
01:00:34it covers up the tattoos, but
01:00:35still shows a tiny bit.
01:00:37So, there's a bit of mystery there.
01:00:38Not even having an
01:00:39acceptance email, like, thanks
01:00:41for your application.
01:00:42Like, nothing.
01:00:43I don't know if it's tattoos.
01:00:44Probably.
01:00:45Don't think that you're screwed.
01:00:47We can't hide.
01:00:48They can't hide the tattoos,
01:00:49right?
01:00:49We're not going to hide it.
01:00:50We're just going to show it in
01:00:51a way that it's versatile.
01:00:52I think that's the main thing.
01:00:54We lean really heavily into the
01:00:56tattoos, but in a casual way to
01:00:59show, hey, I know I've got lots
01:01:00of tattoos, but I can also look
01:01:02really good in casual wear.
01:01:04If I thought you had no hope, I
01:01:05wouldn't be wasting my time
01:01:06coming here to take photos.
01:01:07Just wasting your time?
01:01:09The world needs to sort of
01:01:10change the way that people
01:01:11look at tattoos.
01:01:12There's this huge prejudice
01:01:13against people who tattoo.
01:01:14Hopefully, today, what we can
01:01:15do is we can sort of show that,
01:01:16yes, this guy's heavily
01:01:17tattooed, but he's actually a
01:01:19normal human being and not a
01:01:20criminal.
01:01:23Here he is.
01:01:25Hey, it took him time.
01:01:35What I'm going to talk about
01:01:36tonight is I don't want you to
01:01:38be upset.
01:01:39Okay.
01:01:40What I'm going to talk about is
01:01:41feelings where I...
01:01:44Take a breath for a minute.
01:01:47Breathe.
01:01:53It's a weakness of mine.
01:01:56When I care about someone so
01:01:58much, I feel like I...
01:02:00I can't speak my voice when I
01:02:01have a concern.
01:02:03It's a weakness of mine.
01:02:05What I find so far is I haven't
01:02:08been able to address a concern
01:02:09without Gia and I having an
01:02:11argument or her spiralling.
01:02:14Let's say that you want to bring
01:02:15something up and Gia is not in
01:02:17the mood to hear for whatever
01:02:18reason.
01:02:20You find yourself simply cowering
01:02:22away from that and not returning
01:02:23to that topic?
01:02:27Pretty much.
01:02:29What have you observed about Gia's
01:02:31behavior that leads you to have
01:02:33that reaction?
01:02:35What kind of things could she say?
01:02:44Can I please just say things that
01:02:47can make someone feel pretty
01:02:49defeated and let down?
01:02:51Such as.
01:02:57Honestly, if you can't speak
01:02:59honestly in front of Gia about the
01:03:01things that she does and say that
01:03:03hurt you or scare you or make you
01:03:04feel off...
01:03:05What he has.
01:03:10Then I'm really, really, really
01:03:12concerned about the possibility of
01:03:14this relationship surviving
01:03:15outside the experiment.
01:03:30Scott?
01:03:31Yeah?
01:03:33We've got all night.
01:03:34I know.
01:03:35We're not going anywhere.
01:03:36We're going to sit here and ask you
01:03:37uncomfortable questions until you
01:03:39come clean.
01:03:41Okay?
01:03:42I just...
01:03:42I care about it so much.
01:03:44If you don't let us in...
01:03:45I know.
01:03:46...you're not going to last.
01:03:49What I'm seeing here is fake.
01:03:52I'm going to call you out.
01:03:53I've seen it the entire experiment.
01:03:56You talk about things in a way where
01:03:59you don't give us any of the
01:04:01information.
01:04:02You skirt around the issues.
01:04:04I get it.
01:04:05You're trying to fly under the radar.
01:04:07But what we're saying tonight is that
01:04:09ends.
01:04:10Yeah.
01:04:11Okay?
01:04:12Okay.
01:04:12You sat down here.
01:04:13You're petrified of Gia.
01:04:14And you're not answering the questions.
01:04:21So I'm going to ask you again, Scott.
01:04:24What kind of things could Gia say that
01:04:27would make you feel fearful of speaking up?
01:04:31So this is probably the most magic concern.
01:04:34It could happen probably on average once a week.
01:04:37I feel like there's a bit of pressure of me to say I'm in love.
01:04:39And when I don't say it, Gia will tend to spoil and say things like,
01:04:45you're a crime, you're not a man, you're not a provider.
01:04:47You don't give me reassurance.
01:04:51It's pretty much every name under the sun, right?
01:04:54Every name under the sun is wild.
01:04:56Gia, babe, the reason why I'm here is because I know she doesn't intentionally mean it.
01:05:02It's because it comes from a place of hurt.
01:05:03I'll explain that you talk for yourself.
01:05:05And I just will explain, babe, like, listen to what you're saying.
01:05:11I know you don't mean it.
01:05:12Like, where's this coming from?
01:05:13And, like, I don't know what it is.
01:05:14I just don't know.
01:05:16When you're having that situation and there are things that are being said,
01:05:21how do you feel in that moment?
01:05:23In these moments that you're describing now where she's coming at you personally?
01:05:28I just feel like when it's her, I just feel completely destroyed, like I'm worthless.
01:05:34That's pretty major.
01:05:36But I just want Gia to know that I care so much about her.
01:05:40My feelings are strong.
01:05:41I'm falling for her.
01:05:42But when these things happen, it pulls me back and it holds me back.
01:05:47And so, Gia, why do you think when you're feeling threatened or not happy with what Scott says that you
01:05:56attack him?
01:05:58What is that about for you?
01:06:00This is a man that you're falling in love with from every indication I've had.
01:06:06Well, I'll just say it out loud.
01:06:11This wasn't on camera.
01:06:12I told him I'm in love with him yesterday.
01:06:16So this is a man you love.
01:06:19So where does that come from?
01:06:20So, for me, I've felt this way for Scott for the last few weeks.
01:06:28And there's been so many moments where, like, I've wanted to say it.
01:06:32And I'm like, you can't be the girl who says it first.
01:06:35Usually it's been the guy who said it first.
01:06:37So this is weird for me.
01:06:38And I've wanted him to know why I've been spiraling.
01:06:41It's because of this.
01:06:42Like, I've been wanting to say it.
01:06:43And I know he's not there.
01:06:44And it's frustrating for me because I feel rejected, to be honest.
01:06:48The leading up to where you're having these big feelings.
01:06:50And that's what's making you feel like, oh, my God, he's going to reject me.
01:06:54Why go hurt him?
01:06:57Because I felt hurt.
01:06:59And I was like, let me hurt him.
01:07:02That's the truth.
01:07:07That's a pretty big revelation and also a hurdle for Scott to have to handle
01:07:14and walk around eggshells trying to not have you have this reaction.
01:07:20I just think this is very new for me.
01:07:21I haven't ever been in this situation before.
01:07:24But in this situation of saying that you're hurt and therefore you're choosing to hurt back,
01:07:30is that the way that you normally are?
01:07:37I'm going to insist and underline this because I really want you to take in Gia.
01:07:43That we can absolutely see how strong your relationship with Scott is.
01:07:47But it is a pattern that you're bringing to the table that you need to break.
01:07:51Because it will be the thing that makes him run the other way.
01:08:08The leading up to where you're having these big feelings and that's what's making you feel like,
01:08:12oh, my God, he's going to reject me.
01:08:15Why go hurt him?
01:08:17Because I felt hurt.
01:08:20And I was like, let me hurt him.
01:08:23That's the truth.
01:08:26I'm going to insist and underline this because I really want you to take in Gia.
01:08:32It is a pattern that you're bringing to the table that you need to break.
01:08:36Because it will be the thing that makes him run the other way.
01:08:46Do you feel secure in your relationship with Scott?
01:08:56Like, yes and no.
01:08:59Why no?
01:09:02I don't know, because, like, sometimes I can't bring something up because I'm argumentative.
01:09:08So I don't feel like I'm secure with him and I can be myself.
01:09:11So that and, like, he doesn't feel as strong as I feel.
01:09:15Like, well, he could just leave.
01:09:19Am I going to move for like?
01:09:21Am I going to take my daughter out of her school in Melbourne and move to the Gold Coast if
01:09:24he just likes me?
01:09:27Just don't feel as secure as maybe I could in the relationship.
01:09:32So there's still room there for you to grow in terms of security in the relationship.
01:09:39How does it make you feel to hear Gia say that she doesn't feel secure in the relationship?
01:09:47I'm confused because Gia tells me that she feels secure.
01:09:51I try and tickle the boxes to make her know and reassure her that I'm all in on this.
01:09:57And, like, when we have tough times, like, I just keep telling you I'm here for you.
01:10:00I want you to be the shoulder to cry on.
01:10:02And, like, you know, whenever there is bad things, maybe sometimes I say, oh, like, I don't want to hear
01:10:07it or something like that.
01:10:08But, you know.
01:10:09Well, that's why I don't feel secure.
01:10:13Because I'm like, well, I can't bring that up.
01:10:16So, like, how do I, how can I be vulnerable and feel safe?
01:10:19Because it's swept under the rug, you know.
01:10:22Do you shut down my feelings a lot of the time?
01:10:24I'm going to say myself, I've never shut down your feelings, Gia.
01:10:26Never.
01:10:27Well, that's my perception and I feel like sometimes we'll talk about something and you just don't listen.
01:10:33And so then I just stop talking about it because he says I'm arguing and I'm like, okay, well, I
01:10:38just, like, I'll just forget my feelings.
01:10:40Let's just leave it.
01:10:41Because then my brain is like, oh, my God, you're arguing again.
01:10:45He's not going to fall in love with you.
01:10:46And it's like, it's like I can't win, to be honest.
01:10:50That's how I feel.
01:11:05That's how I feel.
01:11:21I couldn't breathe tonight because he was so scared about bringing an issue up with you, Gia.
01:11:27That's not healthy.
01:11:30So, it comes down to the two of you.
01:11:33Are you prepared to do the work?
01:11:35Hear things you might not like, but know that when you hear those feelings, you get closer, not further away.
01:11:44But you've got to be real over this next week.
01:11:47Otherwise, it is going to slip through your fingers.
01:11:54We're going to go to the decision.
01:11:56Stay or leave, and we'll go with you first, Gia.
01:12:00Um, yeah.
01:12:03I think we needed to have this conversation tonight because we're at the end.
01:12:07I don't want to have any questions unanswered.
01:12:10And that's the same with me saying that I love him.
01:12:13And I just wanted to just be fully in.
01:12:17So, anyways, with that, we'll take on your advice this week, and I'm going to stay.
01:12:24Mmm.
01:12:25Love that.
01:12:26What have you got, Scott?
01:12:28Stay or leave?
01:12:29Obviously, we've come so far this experiment, and I honestly appreciate the three of you for what you've done for
01:12:34us and how you've paired us.
01:12:36And I was nervous walking in here tonight, and I don't get nervous.
01:12:39And I feel so light right now because we can both have our say.
01:12:45And I can tell you right now, this is going to help us so much.
01:12:50So, I'm excited for this week because I just feel so happy just after this conversation.
01:12:54So, I'm staying in the sun because we're going to sunny Gold Coast.
01:12:59All right, you two.
01:13:02So, it's a big week coming up for the two of you.
01:13:05And I know it's hard for you as a couple, but when issues get brought up this week, when you
01:13:10talk about the big stuff, try and be curious as opposed to defensive.
01:13:18All right.
01:13:19Good luck.
01:13:20Good luck.
01:13:26Come on, man.
01:13:33Yeah.
01:13:34And always?
01:13:35Mm-hmm.
01:13:36Mm-hmm.
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