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00:00:01Previously on Before the 90 Days.
00:00:04We put it there?
00:00:06Oh, what?
00:00:09I may not be able to give you everything you want,
00:00:12but everything you need, you don't have to worry about.
00:00:15Do you think that I'm enough for you?
00:00:18Sure.
00:00:19That's what I need to feel, that I'm enough for her.
00:00:22I really do want this to work.
00:00:25You love me.
00:00:26Of course, baby.
00:00:29I just want the world for your daughter,
00:00:30and I was hoping I could get your blessing to marry her.
00:00:36Well, Forrest, you have my blessing.
00:00:39I'm really looking forward to meeting your parents tomorrow.
00:00:44I feel like Chena hasn't been 100% honest with me.
00:00:48Even though her family needs her help with money,
00:00:51what I've seen, the way they live,
00:00:54it's not the same as what I've been hearing
00:00:56for the last seven years.
00:00:58So I'm really worried that tomorrow,
00:01:00my mother is going to basically flip out.
00:01:05We had that argument, and you called my sister,
00:01:09and you were a little bit unhinged.
00:01:12I mean, you're upset with me, but you ran to other women.
00:01:17I mean, Anna, I love you, but you are a handful.
00:01:20Here we go again.
00:01:22Huh.
00:01:22Yeah.
00:01:23I thought the reason we were fighting so much
00:01:26was because we were in a long-distance relationship,
00:01:29but we're still fighting.
00:01:31What does it say about our marriage?
00:01:37I don't trust Michael.
00:01:39I want you to cut him out of your life.
00:01:42He's just my friend, and he's not trying to make me cut you out.
00:01:47I just get some air, maybe, or some peace.
00:01:54I am shocked that Birkon decides to walk out on me.
00:01:58It absolutely feels like a sight of him that I haven't seen yet,
00:02:02and I really don't like.
00:02:04F*** Michael.
00:02:06The blessing we are getting from my uncle is very important.
00:02:10If your uncle does not give you the blessing,
00:02:12does that mean that we are not getting married?
00:02:15How's this?
00:02:17I have to try to impress his uncle,
00:02:19but what kind of questions are going to be asked?
00:02:22I'm worried I may have to reveal things
00:02:23that I'm not ready to reveal.
00:02:25I don't want to lose Daniel.
00:03:01Yesterday, I arrived at Sheena's family home in the province,
00:03:04and even though the family accepted me,
00:03:08what I've learned is just leaving me confused and bothered.
00:03:17First off, I believed that the entire time I was coming here
00:03:21to save Sheena from horrific, evil monsters,
00:03:24and it turns out her family has this nice, beautiful home
00:03:27and are just normal, caring people.
00:03:30So last night, I tried to talk to Sheena.
00:03:33You have to be honest with me.
00:03:35You described your family as almost like terrible monsters
00:03:39that were stealing from you.
00:03:40Are they just, is this an act for me?
00:03:45No, they're not an act.
00:03:47They're great people.
00:03:48But they're not really great people
00:03:50if they're mistreating their daughter.
00:03:53You don't have to think anything about worry.
00:03:55They gave their blessings to you, even though it's the first meeting.
00:03:59So it's a good thing.
00:04:04I wish her answers were more, you know, answers and not more like dodging around.
00:04:11You know, now I'm left with more questions than what I started with.
00:04:17I feel like I know bits and pieces of the most important parts of the story,
00:04:22but there's still many other things that need to be uncovered.
00:04:26I do believe my mom is going to show up and she's going to see the nice place.
00:04:30She's going to see this, this, and she's going to say,
00:04:33why did you need a bunny in the first place?
00:04:35And she's going to express herself and say exactly what's on her mind.
00:04:40I'm kind of relieved that my mom is coming
00:04:43because she can get the third perspective and see what's really going on.
00:04:47Coffee time, gotta get my coffee time.
00:04:51Sheena's family seems to be under the impression
00:04:53that she's going to financially support them going forward.
00:04:56So I still want to tell Sheena's family that we are cutting them off.
00:05:00And hopefully my mom and Dev can back me up
00:05:03and kind of just get past the big hurdle that is impending.
00:05:10That's a strong cup of joe right there.
00:05:18Okay, Sheen, they should be here any second.
00:05:20Okay.
00:05:22Come on, babe.
00:05:23Okay.
00:05:24Yeah.
00:05:31Are you nervous, baby?
00:05:32Yeah, so nervous.
00:05:35I don't know what's going to happen today.
00:05:38I know Molly will bring up the finances.
00:05:41And it's a conversation that we need to have.
00:05:44But Forrest wanted to impress my family.
00:05:47So he is kinder.
00:05:49I'm quite worried Molly would act not as nice.
00:05:54Oh, yes.
00:05:56Moment of truth.
00:06:01Oh.
00:06:02Oh, boy.
00:06:04Wow.
00:06:06Hey, guys.
00:06:07Wow.
00:06:07Hi, Mom.
00:06:08Hi, Deb.
00:06:09Mm-hmm.
00:06:10This is so beautiful here.
00:06:12Well, thank you.
00:06:13Wow.
00:06:15Wow.
00:06:17Right off the bat, alarm bells are going off in my head.
00:06:24My family is out right now.
00:06:26So come here, guys.
00:06:27I'll give you a tour.
00:06:29Here's the garden and stuff.
00:06:30Man.
00:06:33Sheena's told me that her family runs this struggling bed
00:06:37and breakfast.
00:06:38So I'm expecting something kind of quaint and rough
00:06:41around the edges.
00:06:43We had different kinds of plants here.
00:06:45We have fruit-bearing trees, red palm, orchids.
00:06:48Huh.
00:06:49I don't know this plant, but this is very rare to have flowers.
00:06:53Oh.
00:06:54My first reaction, holy .
00:06:59Sheena, who did your grass?
00:07:01Actually, before when it got this place,
00:07:04it doesn't have anything.
00:07:06So you guys did all of this?
00:07:07Yes, from no scratch.
00:07:12Sheena's expecting me to believe that if they don't take her money,
00:07:16that they're going to starve.
00:07:18I mean, they're living better than Forrest and I
00:07:22back in the United States.
00:07:24This is not adding up at all.
00:07:29And this is the pool area.
00:07:31Oh.
00:07:32Then if it's around the night time,
00:07:34it would have different color, light color.
00:07:36Well, would you look at that.
00:07:40So when do I get to meet your family, Sheena?
00:07:42At dinner?
00:07:43Yes, Mom.
00:07:45OK.
00:07:47I'm definitely going to tell Sheena's family every single thing
00:07:51that Sheena has told me this whole story of the past seven years.
00:07:56And then I want to see how they react.
00:07:58I want to see if they're going to be shocked or if they're part of it or whatever.
00:08:05Yeah, thank you for giving me the grand tour.
00:08:07It's just beautiful.
00:08:08Yeah.
00:08:09Tonight, I will get the truth for Sheena.
00:08:12I think I'm just going to go put my legs up for a bit until dinner.
00:08:15OK, Mom.
00:08:30Is there upper?
00:08:32I wish I can tie it to my waist.
00:08:34You can.
00:08:34Show me.
00:08:36You have to spread your leg.
00:08:38You know, I don't have much waist, so...
00:08:40I don't.
00:08:41You're tight.
00:08:42OK.
00:08:43On the side?
00:08:43Yeah, on the side.
00:08:45I'm looking like a woman already.
00:08:46You look beautiful.
00:08:48Oh, la, la.
00:08:59You have to flourish a little bit.
00:09:01The first one, the inner one is shorter than the...
00:09:04The inner one is shorter?
00:09:06The outer one, yeah?
00:09:08OK.
00:09:12It's OK.
00:09:13It's all.
00:09:14Beautiful.
00:09:16Look at me.
00:09:17These other kids.
00:09:19Mwah.
00:09:21Daniel and I are going today to meet his uncle and get a blessing so we can get married.
00:09:25And I'm nervous.
00:09:28I don't know the traditions.
00:09:30I don't know the culture.
00:09:31And I don't know what his uncle is going to ask me.
00:09:33I'm scared I'm not going to get the blessing,
00:09:35and Daniel will blame me.
00:09:37You will be the one to hold the wine, okay?
00:09:40When you kneel down there, you give me the wine.
00:09:43I will be the one to present it to my uncle, okay?
00:09:45But I kneel with it first.
00:09:47Yes.
00:09:48I will be kneeling down with you, okay?
00:09:52Good, you give it to me.
00:09:53Then I will hand it to my uncle, okay?
00:09:58Lisa is from another country.
00:10:00She don't understand our culture.
00:10:02I have to instruct her on what to do
00:10:04so she doesn't offend my uncle.
00:10:07Headside, let's try.
00:10:12Sorry.
00:10:19Daniel wants me to have traditional attire
00:10:22to meet his uncle,
00:10:23and I'm expected to learn how to put it on myself.
00:10:26I think I'm going to look like a clown.
00:10:28I can't hear anything
00:10:30because the hair tie is like plastic,
00:10:32and it's rattling in my ears.
00:10:34But he's telling me this is Igbo traditional attire,
00:10:37and this is what I must wear.
00:10:38So this is going to be pretty interesting.
00:10:41Maybe my bangs should be back.
00:10:47I don't mean to laugh, honey.
00:10:49I just got cute.
00:10:53All right, let me try again.
00:10:54Oh, my gosh.
00:10:59What are you doing, baby?
00:11:01It doesn't look too bad.
00:11:03Oh, my God.
00:11:05All right, can you help me?
00:11:07But you were there when the woman was teaching you yesterday.
00:11:10I didn't have a mirror.
00:11:11Where was my mirror to watch her?
00:11:13I had my head, and I was holding it.
00:11:15You must help me.
00:11:21Oh, my God.
00:11:22Lisa doesn't know how to put on the attire.
00:11:25Thank God.
00:11:26All these things, I know them from when I was growing up,
00:11:29when my mom was alive.
00:11:30I used to see her when she started, and I remember.
00:11:34But I never knew that someday I would be the one
00:11:37to help my girlfriend to tie her up on.
00:11:41You have to make it tight, or it's going to fall off.
00:11:49You got this.
00:11:52OK.
00:11:53OK, how do I look?
00:11:54You look good.
00:12:07I'm nervous.
00:12:09Why are you nervous?
00:12:11Because I am.
00:12:13This is a big deal.
00:12:15I want to impress him.
00:12:16First of my uncle?
00:12:17Yes, I want to give a good...
00:12:19I want to put my best foot forward.
00:12:24I'm scared less, and you're not telling me anything
00:12:27except to kneel in front of him.
00:12:28I don't know what he's going to ask me.
00:12:31I will do my best.
00:12:32My uncle will not ask you what you don't know.
00:12:33So don't lie to him.
00:12:35I know, but what you're considering a lie
00:12:37and what I consider a lie might be two different things.
00:12:39I'm from America.
00:12:40My culture is different than yours.
00:12:41Baby, lie is lie.
00:12:47I want to show him that I am willing to go above and beyond
00:12:50to be a good...
00:12:54...wife.
00:13:06I'm trying to be positive about Lisa,
00:13:09meeting my uncle, but I'm nervous.
00:13:12I told my uncle a little bit about Lisa,
00:13:16but not only her weapon.
00:13:18There are some other things she told me.
00:13:21It is a big, big sin.
00:13:23She told me that she has changed for good,
00:13:25but I want to make sure she's being honest.
00:13:28And I am worried that my uncle will not give us the blessing
00:13:33if she cannot explain herself.
00:13:36And I will have to walk away.
00:13:45Remember what you promised me,
00:13:47that you're not going to talk to her again.
00:13:50Yeah.
00:13:50I need you to show me that you keep your promise.
00:13:54I've been very concerned ever since
00:13:57she's been watching all this masculinity podcast.
00:14:01They really encourage cheating.
00:14:03Can I see your phones now?
00:14:09So, we're going to go meet your friends.
00:14:12I do not think this is an ideal time
00:14:15to meet Memo and Tuba.
00:14:17But part of me really wants to ask them questions
00:14:20because there's a lot more I need to learn about BeerCon.
00:14:24Tell me something interesting about BeerCon.
00:14:26Can you tell me anything?
00:14:29The fact that my mama
00:15:12I've been in the Philippines for a couple of days now
00:15:14And me and Natalyn are on our way overdue honeymoon
00:15:20It's a strange feeling to have all these firsts with me and my wife
00:15:25After three years of being married
00:15:27First time sleeping together
00:15:29First time eating together
00:15:30First time waking up beside each other together
00:15:34And then we had our first in-person fight
00:15:39So right now it seems like I'm in the doghouse
00:15:47Okay, she made her side of the bed
00:15:51Anna
00:15:54Last night things got a little bit tense
00:15:56Because I told Anna not to call my sister and vent about our issues in our marriage
00:16:03Last night during our couples massage, I am trying so hard to show him a good time trying to be
00:16:12romantic
00:16:12But he's always trying to find ways to criticize me
00:16:18I would rather Anna come to me about our issues in our marriage
00:16:23Why can't I reach out to his sister, she's my family too
00:16:27So why can't I confide to her when he can confide to any bitch?
00:16:39What?
00:16:40Are you going to brush her teeth or are you just going to look at me?
00:16:44I mean, Anna, are we going to talk?
00:16:46Talk about what?
00:16:47I mean, about last night
00:16:49I mean, I apologize for, you know, bringing that up at the wrong time
00:16:57I want to enjoy the trip
00:16:58Okay, can we do that?
00:17:05Okay
00:17:08Okay
00:17:08All right, we're good?
00:17:09Okay, I hope
00:17:11It's all right
00:17:12I'm happy that he apologized
00:17:15But that doesn't mean all is good
00:17:19Last night, it wasn't just really about him criticizing me
00:17:25It's way deeper than that
00:17:29It's about him doing things that's giving me trust issues
00:17:36Now that I'm in person with my husband
00:17:39There are things that I question about him
00:17:41I noticed that it's beautiful out today
00:17:46Yeah
00:17:46You want to head to the beach?
00:17:48Yes
00:17:49Okay
00:17:55But I don't want to waste this moment
00:17:58Especially this is the last day of our honeymoon
00:18:05What's going on over there?
00:18:07Kayaking?
00:18:08Yeah, and this one is like a bicycle
00:18:11Yeah
00:18:12This one is so cool
00:18:14We're definitely going to do these
00:18:15Are we interested in renting this?
00:18:18Yeah, you can do it, sir
00:18:19Okay
00:18:20Have you been in one of these before?
00:18:23No
00:18:24Are you excited?
00:18:25I'm excited
00:18:27All right
00:18:28Woohoo! Bye-bye!
00:18:31We're going out this way
00:18:34Oh, it's so fun
00:18:36Yeah
00:18:39I just love this
00:18:41Just remember this moment
00:18:45Look at her face!
00:18:50It's so long
00:18:52You're like a stork
00:18:53It's pedaling
00:18:54It's pedaling, right?
00:18:57The aqua bike is a little bit uncomfortable
00:18:59Because I'm so tall
00:19:00I couldn't
00:19:01You have long legs
00:19:02Yeah
00:19:03This is difficult
00:19:06Yeah
00:19:09They're not built for people over six foot
00:19:13Maybe jet skis next time
00:19:18Thank you
00:19:19Oh my God, that was so fun
00:19:24Cheers
00:19:32It's pretty good
00:19:34Mm-hmm
00:19:39So
00:19:39You know this is the last day of our honeymoon
00:19:42Mm-hmm
00:19:43So we're about to go back home really soon
00:19:47And you're going to meet my mom
00:19:48But
00:19:50There's something I want to talk about
00:19:53Okay
00:19:55You know what we
00:19:57Argue about last night?
00:19:59That was about my sister
00:20:00Yeah, also because
00:20:02You remind me
00:20:03Why I did what I did
00:20:06Okay
00:20:07Because you talk to this person
00:20:08I don't want you to
00:20:12I need to make sure that
00:20:14You keep your promise
00:20:18Remember what you promised me
00:20:20When you were on the phone
00:20:21Before you
00:20:22You came down here
00:20:24That you're not going to talk to her again
00:20:27Yeah
00:20:27But I need you to show me
00:20:30Okay
00:20:31That you keep your promise
00:20:33Okay
00:20:33So
00:20:34So
00:20:34Can I see your phone?
00:20:38Now?
00:20:43Okay
00:20:46I know that checking Yvonne's phone is bad
00:20:50I wish I don't have to do that
00:20:52But having an online marriage
00:20:54We are not together physically
00:20:56For me to know what he's really doing
00:21:01I have been very concerned
00:21:04Ever since
00:21:05Just been watching all this
00:21:06Masculinity podcast
00:21:08Because they really encourage cheating
00:21:13You okay?
00:21:15Yeah
00:21:16Are you nervous?
00:21:20They really say that
00:21:22If he cheats
00:21:23It's okay
00:21:23As long as he provides
00:21:26It really scares me a little bit
00:21:28So for my peace of mind
00:21:31I need to be totally sure
00:21:33That there's nothing going on
00:21:38Wow
00:21:57Just going to leave me?
00:22:00You're just going to leave me in a hut in a village
00:22:02And you are making conversation
00:22:04About Michael
00:22:05Person
00:22:06I hate
00:22:14I don't care about Michael
00:22:17You don't care about a lot, do you?
00:22:19No
00:22:23Birkan's plan for us today
00:22:25Was to make evil eye beads
00:22:27And then go meet his friends
00:22:29Memo and Tuba
00:22:30But I'm just really unsure
00:22:35Of everything right now
00:22:38After keeping some pretty big secrets from me
00:22:42Birkan has a lot of balls
00:22:44To try to tell me
00:22:46Who I can and can't be friends with
00:22:49I knew that Birkan had a lot of issues
00:22:52With my relationship with Michael
00:22:54But to tell me he wants me
00:22:56To cut my best friend out of my life
00:22:58This is a whole new controlling side of him
00:23:02And it's really concerning to me
00:23:06You left me sitting in a hut
00:23:08Alone
00:23:10Because I don't like him
00:23:12Actually, I have nothing in common with him
00:23:15Okay?
00:23:16You both care about me
00:23:17You have that in common
00:23:18I think he's more than caring about you
00:23:21But you always said you trust me
00:23:24Yeah
00:23:25You have to trust me on this
00:23:28Because
00:23:29Man knows man
00:23:31Okay?
00:23:33Step back and see your relationship with him
00:23:39And so you think he has some sort of
00:23:44Intention that's other than just being my friend?
00:23:46Yeah
00:23:47Exactly
00:23:48I don't agree
00:23:50Okay
00:23:53So
00:23:54We're gonna go meet your friends
00:23:56And I wanna do that
00:23:58I would like for you to give me that same respect
00:24:01So
00:24:02Could you at least
00:24:04At some point
00:24:06Be open to meeting him
00:24:08Or calling him?
00:24:11You are pushing
00:24:13My will
00:24:15I'm not trying to push your will
00:24:17I'm trying to make you see the
00:24:19Like the hypocrisy in it
00:24:21Because otherwise it feels like
00:24:23You just get to determine
00:24:24Who's important in our lives
00:24:26In our lives
00:24:27Okay
00:24:28I don't wanna talk about this discussion anymore
00:24:31So
00:24:32Okay
00:24:37I do not think this is an ideal time
00:24:40To meet Memo and Tuba
00:24:42But part of me really wants to take the opportunity
00:24:45To meet them
00:24:46To ask them questions
00:24:49Especially since the last few days
00:24:51Have proven that there's a lot more
00:24:54I need to learn about beer con
00:25:10So
00:25:10This is my usual table
00:25:12Maybe we should sit here
00:25:14Okay
00:25:14You know everyone
00:25:16Yeah
00:25:16I know
00:25:21So good to meet you
00:25:25I'm Laura
00:25:26I'm Tuba
00:25:27Nice to meet you
00:25:29I'm Laura
00:25:30Nice to meet you
00:25:32Even though
00:25:33I am feeling bad about the argument
00:25:36I think this is the best time
00:25:38For Memo and Tuba
00:25:39Meet Laura
00:25:40Because they're
00:25:42The best two people
00:25:44Can teach her
00:25:45That I'm not a bad guy
00:25:47I'm just trying to protect
00:25:49The one I love
00:25:52I will translate
00:25:53You guys are gonna mix up
00:25:56And I'm gonna ask lots of questions about you
00:25:59Okay
00:26:00Yeah this sounds like a threat
00:26:02It's not a threat
00:26:03It's not a threat
00:26:05Okay
00:26:14How long have you known
00:26:18Birkan
00:26:19Kaç yıldır beni tanıyorsunuz
00:26:203 sene
00:26:213 sene oldu
00:26:223 years
00:26:233 years
00:26:24Birkan'ın Laura'yı gerçekten
00:26:27Bir şeyler hissettiği için
00:26:29Birlikte olmak istediğini düşünüyorum
00:26:31Ve hala tam anlamıyla
00:26:32Hani bir şeyleri
00:26:33Laura'ya tam anlamıyla
00:26:35Anlatmamış olabilir
00:26:36Bu da beni korkutuyor
00:26:38Laura'yla problemler
00:26:39Çıkarması açısından
00:26:41Thank you sir
00:26:44Thank you
00:26:45Birkan'ın hayatı
00:26:48Şişe
00:26:49Life of Birkan
00:26:50He said
00:26:50No
00:26:50This is my life
00:26:51Actually
00:26:52Oh
00:26:53This is actually
00:26:54What I do
00:26:55Every day
00:26:55This is something
00:26:56For relaxing
00:26:57It's like medication
00:26:58I have my tea
00:26:59I have my şişe
00:27:00I will be fine
00:27:03While it's fun
00:27:04To see this side
00:27:05Of Birkan
00:27:06Hanging out
00:27:07With his friends
00:27:07It's also
00:27:08Kind of eye-opening
00:27:10He knew
00:27:11Everyone
00:27:12When we walked in
00:27:13He has a regular
00:27:14Table
00:27:15And now I'm hearing
00:27:16That he comes here
00:27:17Literally to smoke
00:27:19Şişe
00:27:19Every day
00:27:20I mean he just told me
00:27:22About this massive
00:27:23Amount of debt
00:27:24That he has
00:27:25I feel like
00:27:26He should be doing
00:27:27Something more productive
00:27:29With his time
00:27:31Tell me something
00:27:32Interesting about Birkan
00:27:33Birkan
00:27:34Birkan hakkında
00:27:34İlginç bir şey
00:27:35Söylemeni istiyor
00:27:36That's a new
00:27:37Translator here
00:27:38Heron
00:27:38Nice job
00:27:43İnsanlar buna
00:27:44Ulaşamadığı için
00:27:45Onu sert görüyorlar
00:27:46People can't reach
00:27:47The inside
00:27:48Inner me
00:27:48You know
00:27:49That's why
00:27:49People think
00:27:50I'm tough
00:27:51And I am
00:27:52Angry
00:27:5224-7
00:27:54Aslında içinde
00:27:55Çok yumuşak
00:27:56Bir insandır
00:27:57Inside
00:27:57I have a little
00:27:58Cheat
00:28:02But I also like
00:28:04The dark parts
00:28:06And the protective
00:28:07Nature
00:28:12It's a good combination
00:28:15Aslında
00:28:19Birkanın
00:28:20Bilinmeyen bir yanı var
00:28:27Ben söyleyeyim
00:28:30Çok da saklama ama
00:28:36What?
00:28:43You know that
00:28:44I want my own kids
00:28:45So this is the time
00:28:47To talk about it
00:28:48I can't put a time frame
00:28:49On that
00:28:50I'm 52 years old
00:28:52Getting up there in age
00:28:53So I don't think
00:28:55I'm ready to
00:28:56Have another child
00:28:57What do you want?
00:29:02Oh my mouth is watering
00:29:04Woo
00:29:07I don't know
00:29:08Which version
00:29:09Of my mom
00:29:09I'm going to get
00:29:10Am I going to get
00:29:11The nice sweet mom
00:29:12Or am I going to get
00:29:12Hard nose
00:29:13Rock hard
00:29:14Battle, battle, battle, battle
00:29:15I want to talk
00:29:16About Sheena
00:29:17There's been
00:29:18Quite a bit of confusion
00:29:50Baby I love to see
00:29:51That smile on your face
00:29:56The linguers here
00:29:57Are crying
00:29:57You just bring banana
00:29:59And you just give them
00:30:01And you're playing with you
00:30:02Sound like fun
00:30:04Do lemurs make good pets?
00:30:06You know like a cat
00:30:07Or a dog
00:30:08Oh no, no
00:30:11That's illegal
00:30:12Oh it's illegal
00:30:14Okay
00:30:16Today we're taking a boat
00:30:17To nosy coma
00:30:19To see some lemurs
00:30:21This is something
00:30:22That I've been looking
00:30:23Forward to
00:30:24Because I think
00:30:25That Madagascar
00:30:26This is the only
00:30:27Place that you can
00:30:28Find lemurs
00:30:30Here huh
00:30:33Also
00:30:34For a long time
00:30:35That's the only thing
00:30:36I knew about Madagascar
00:30:38From the movie
00:30:39So I'm really excited
00:30:41To see them in person
00:30:51So cute
00:30:53Look at the black one
00:30:55There's three of them
00:30:56So do they ever
00:30:57Come down
00:30:57Yeah
00:30:58They run like this
00:31:00A-V wave
00:31:00And what do they eat
00:31:02Whenever they see
00:31:04The fruits
00:31:05Like that
00:31:05They eat all of it
00:31:07Huh
00:31:08These lemurs
00:31:09They're cute
00:31:10And they're strange
00:31:11At the same time
00:31:13To me
00:31:14They act similar
00:31:16To monkeys
00:31:16But they're not
00:31:18As human
00:31:18As like monkeys are
00:31:20They look like
00:31:21Squirrel monkeys
00:31:26Right next to us
00:31:29Hey man
00:31:31What's that noise
00:31:32You're making baby
00:31:32Is that their language
00:31:36I can't do that
00:31:39I sound more like a big
00:31:41You close your mouth
00:31:42And do it like that
00:31:44Monkey
00:31:45Monkey
00:31:45Is it monkey
00:31:47Or what do you say
00:31:48Maki
00:31:49Maki
00:31:49Maki
00:31:50Maki
00:31:50Maki
00:31:50Maki
00:31:51Yes
00:31:51You see
00:31:52Oh he's looking around
00:31:54Let's get a picture
00:31:55Come on let's get one together
00:32:02Yeah the kids will love this
00:32:04Yeah
00:32:05My boys
00:32:07I miss them
00:32:08But it'll be worth it
00:32:10If I can bring a step mommy home
00:32:12Yeah
00:32:13I'll be there
00:32:15I envision
00:32:16That we can have this family unit
00:32:18Just the four of us
00:32:24You know that
00:32:25I love your kids right
00:32:27But
00:32:27I cannot just
00:32:29You know
00:32:29Being a step mom
00:32:31Like forever
00:32:35I want to have my own
00:32:39I mean I love kids
00:32:41But like right now
00:32:43I'm not in a position
00:32:45To have
00:32:46Another child
00:32:47What's the issue
00:32:51Well it's
00:32:53I know it's a hard time
00:32:55But I know what it is
00:32:57I know
00:32:58I took care of my
00:33:00Little brother and sister
00:33:01Without any help
00:33:02Like my dad going to work
00:33:04And only
00:33:06Them and me
00:33:07Was in the house
00:33:09And before
00:33:10When I told you that
00:33:11I want my own kids
00:33:12Then you say
00:33:13Oh
00:33:14We should talk about it
00:33:16When you're coming here
00:33:18So this is the time
00:33:19To talk about it
00:33:22You should decide
00:33:26You want what you don't want
00:33:30I don't know Trish
00:33:31I'm not ready to make that decision
00:33:33Right now
00:33:37At this point in my life
00:33:39I don't think
00:33:40I'm ready to
00:33:40Have another child
00:33:42I'm 52 years old
00:33:44And I'm getting up there in age
00:33:47So having another child
00:33:50Is going to be like
00:33:51Starting all over again
00:33:53And it's hard enough
00:33:56As it is dealing with
00:33:58With my two little ones
00:34:00And I haven't even told her
00:34:02About what I did in Columbia
00:34:07She might not even want
00:34:08A child with me
00:34:09After she finds that out
00:34:13What do you want?
00:34:16I mean
00:34:17I'm not totally
00:34:18Closing the door
00:34:19On the idea
00:34:21Of having a child
00:34:24For how long
00:34:25You'll be
00:34:26You'll decided
00:34:27Like
00:34:27Okay
00:34:28Now I want to have kids
00:34:29I can't put a time frame
00:34:31On that
00:34:34I wish
00:34:36He would stop
00:34:37Making excuses
00:34:38And tell me
00:34:39What he really wants
00:34:41I need to know
00:34:42And it's very important
00:34:44And not only for me
00:34:46But for my family
00:34:48In my culture
00:34:50It's very important
00:34:52To have kids
00:34:53And it's not a question
00:34:57I'm going to take Rick
00:34:59To my hometown
00:35:00In a few days
00:35:01And I'm worried
00:35:04If he decided
00:35:06He does not want
00:35:07To have kids anymore
00:35:08I'm not sure
00:35:09If I will be able
00:35:10To stay with him
00:35:19I had heard
00:35:21That you guys
00:35:22Had been
00:35:24Taking
00:35:25All of
00:35:25Sheena's earnings
00:35:26She told us
00:35:30If
00:35:30She didn't give
00:35:32The money
00:35:33To you guys
00:35:34That you would
00:35:35Threaten her
00:35:36And mistreat her
00:35:37You forced her
00:35:39You forced her
00:35:39Do you say that?
00:35:58I got
00:36:01I got
00:36:05I got
00:36:09Okay. Wow. It's not very ripe.
00:36:16Hello. Hello. Mom, Dev.
00:36:20This is my sister Katrina and my dad, Steve.
00:36:23Hello. Hello.
00:36:25This is my mom, Molly, and my dad, Dev.
00:36:27So very nice to meet you, sir.
00:36:29This is Dev.
00:36:30Hello. Good to meet you.
00:36:32Steve, Dev.
00:36:33Steve.
00:36:34Dev.
00:36:34Dev, yeah.
00:36:36Hi, I'm Molly. So very nice to meet you.
00:36:38It's a pleasure.
00:36:40I'm Katrina.
00:36:41Good to meet you, Katrina.
00:36:43Hi, Forrest.
00:36:44Hey, Pops. How's it going?
00:36:45Yeah.
00:36:47So, Mom, we're just trying to show you how we make jackboots.
00:36:50That is a knife.
00:36:51Yeah.
00:36:53Tonight, I'm worried about, you know, everything that's going to happen.
00:36:58Anyone want to try?
00:36:59Oh, I sure do.
00:36:59Oh, thank you.
00:37:02I don't know which version of my mom I'm going to get.
00:37:04Am I going to get the nice, sweet mom who loves and cares everybody?
00:37:08Or am I going to get hard-nosed, rock-hard, battle, battle, battle, battle?
00:37:12Want to go sit down for a while?
00:37:15Oh, yeah, that'd be great.
00:37:16That'd be great, yeah.
00:37:18But at the same time, I'm starting to get kind of tired and overwhelmed with learning
00:37:22new things every single time about Sheena.
00:37:25So I'm hoping that we can get the truth all out on the table.
00:37:31Oh, look at that.
00:37:34So these are banana leaves.
00:37:35We use this as a buddle fight.
00:37:37Very traditional.
00:37:39This usually was practiced in the military when they went up to the mountains.
00:37:44So no plates, just the banana leaves.
00:37:47Yes.
00:37:48All the food.
00:37:49All natural stuff.
00:37:50Yes, it's wonderful.
00:37:52A buddle fight is like a traditional Filipino culture of everyone to eat in one whole giant
00:38:00leaf.
00:38:00So it's like this.
00:38:01They have to do like this in a line.
00:38:04Ah.
00:38:05I just thought Molly would really enjoy this because she's interested in learning about
00:38:10my culture, especially when it comes to food.
00:38:14Oh, my mouth is watering.
00:38:16Oh.
00:38:16I hope that the buddle fight is the only fight that would happen tonight.
00:38:23Next batch.
00:38:24Next batch, the whole thing.
00:38:26Seafood.
00:38:27Oh, my gosh.
00:38:29Those look delicious.
00:38:31Mussels.
00:38:32The big fish goes in the middle.
00:38:34Yes.
00:38:35My first impression of Sheena's family was they're hospitable.
00:38:39They're very welcoming.
00:38:42I mean, I've never quite seen a spread as nice as this.
00:38:45Usually, uh, make a rice ball.
00:38:48Just pick around.
00:38:50Scoop it in your mouth.
00:38:51Shove it in your mouth.
00:38:52Shove it up.
00:38:53Shove it up.
00:38:54There you go.
00:38:55Shove it up.
00:38:55Shove it on up.
00:38:57Mmm.
00:39:00That be told, that does not line up at all from what I heard about them from Sheena.
00:39:06God, the flavors that just come through.
00:39:09Mmm.
00:39:10Mmm.
00:39:11Mmm.
00:39:13I was under the impression that they were these money-grubbing, cruel people that pretty
00:39:21much locked Sheena away and wouldn't let her out only to go to work and then to hand over
00:39:26her check.
00:39:27That's what I was led to believe.
00:39:32I just want to say, this meal that you prepared is just incredible.
00:39:37I'm just so grateful.
00:39:39And you have created such a beautiful home, I must say.
00:39:45It must have been so expensive.
00:39:50But, um, I was actually quite surprised to see how, how it really is.
00:39:57Um, I expected something very different.
00:39:59But you guys made us feel very, very welcome and I appreciate that so much.
00:40:06Uh, so I wanted to ask, um, are you guys okay with Sheena moving to the United States?
00:40:15Uh, actually, uh, that is already her dream years ago, to work there in the U.S.
00:40:22Oh.
00:40:24Okay.
00:40:25That's interesting.
00:40:29Yes.
00:40:30But, uh, yesterday, uh, Forrest made it clear that, uh, he's a little low on budget also
00:40:38and, uh, so I, I don't know what the situation is, you know, so, uh...
00:40:43Actually, let's put Forrest's finances to the side and I want to talk about Sheena.
00:40:52There's been quite a bit of confusion.
00:40:56And I, I, um, had heard that you guys had been, um, taking the, all of Sheena's earnings.
00:41:08Um, and she told, uh, told us that, um, if she didn't give the money to you guys,
00:41:22that you would threaten her and be cruel to her and mistreat her.
00:41:31That you forced her.
00:41:37No?
00:41:38Did you say that?
00:41:49If he doesn't give me the blessing, I will have fierce words.
00:41:54You, Dan, don't you know your culture?
00:41:57I'm here to make sure that Lisa is a good woman.
00:42:01It is our tradition.
00:42:03You are not an Igbo woman.
00:42:06Tell me, do you drink?
00:42:08Do you smoke?
00:42:09Are you a practicing Christian?
00:42:11I have not always been a very good Christian.
00:42:31God bless you.
00:42:36Wow.
00:42:45Wow.
00:42:46A lot of photos here.
00:42:49It's all Zoey's photo.
00:42:54My dog.
00:42:57Mm-hmm.
00:42:59I was ready to find something to prove that I can't trust him.
00:43:04And instead, I found a bunch of cute photos of his dog.
00:43:12And photos of me that I sent him.
00:43:15Actually, lots of photos of me.
00:43:18I'm realizing that maybe I should cut him some slack.
00:43:24But I guess I'm still learning how to trust him.
00:43:31Well, for now, I don't see any red flag, honestly.
00:43:37You know, I told you I was going to stop talking to that person.
00:43:42And I did.
00:43:46I mean, did you think I wasn't telling the truth?
00:43:48I think I never know.
00:43:52So.
00:43:53Well, now you know.
00:43:57It's a little bit offensive that she feel like she needs to look through my phone in order to feel
00:44:03comfortable.
00:44:05Anna's supposed to trust me regardless.
00:44:08She's actually supposed to trust me before, you know, we got married, you know.
00:44:14But at the same time, I watch a lot of relationship podcasts.
00:44:19And one of the hosts, he sometimes makes good points about little paranoia is healthy.
00:44:27I mean, most women only act right when they feel like they could be replaced.
00:44:33So I'm not saying go out and cheat.
00:44:37But a little bit of paranoia, a little bit of fear is healthy.
00:44:42Are we good?
00:44:43I do want to trust you, but I'm not going to lie.
00:44:46I am not still like 100%.
00:44:55Mm-hmm.
00:44:58And if you talk to her again, I'm going to break this phone.
00:45:02I don't care.
00:45:06I mean, Anna, just look at it this way.
00:45:08I mean, I passed all your tests.
00:45:10For now.
00:45:12Okay, for now.
00:45:13For now.
00:45:13For now.
00:45:14Do you want to go through my luggage up in the room?
00:45:16Yes, I will.
00:45:17All right.
00:45:20Do you have extra phone?
00:45:22I'm just kidding.
00:45:23Not at all.
00:45:24I'm with you.
00:45:25I'm with you.
00:45:25I'm with you.
00:45:49As soon as I go in, do I kneel down before him?
00:45:55Okay, that's...
00:45:56Stop being nervous, okay?
00:45:57Okay.
00:46:00I am in a very uncomfortable situation.
00:46:03I'm sitting next to the man I love and he doesn't know about me.
00:46:10He doesn't know that I'm still married.
00:46:12He has no idea I've only been with women for 21 years.
00:46:16And right now, I'm feeling scared because I don't want to lie to his uncle, but I don't
00:46:21want to tell him any of my secrets.
00:46:23I want us to have this blessing more than anything in the world.
00:46:27I want to be with Daniel.
00:46:35We're going to do this.
00:46:37If he doesn't give me the blessing, I will have fierce words.
00:46:55Hey!
00:46:57Uncle.
00:46:59You're there, dad, son.
00:47:04Come on.
00:47:06What happened there?
00:47:23I'm here to make sure that Issa is a good woman, before I give them the approval to
00:47:32go ahead and fire it.
00:47:35It is our tradition.
00:47:38Stand up, come and have your seat.
00:47:43Come on.
00:48:00This is the wine.
00:48:07This is the wine.
00:48:13My good lady, how are you?
00:48:15Nervous uncle, I'm very nervous today.
00:48:23Yes, you are not an Igbo woman.
00:48:28I want to know you more.
00:48:29I will ask you some pertinent questions.
00:48:37Tell me who are you.
00:48:40I am Native American.
00:48:43I am part Irish also.
00:48:46I come from a mother who gave me up for adoption at a very young age.
00:48:51I have a family that adopted me and they took very good care of me.
00:48:56I am a hard worker.
00:48:59I make sure I take care of my household.
00:49:01I make sure when Daniel needs money that I take care of his household.
00:49:07Are you a practicing Christian or Christian by name?
00:49:12I am a practicing Christian.
00:49:15I have not always been a very good Christian, but Daniel makes me into a better woman.
00:49:22He makes me into a stronger Christian.
00:49:27Do you drink?
00:49:30I do drink very, not a lot, but I do drink some, yes.
00:49:35Do you smoke?
00:49:37I do not smoke.
00:49:39I have smoked in the past.
00:49:41I have given it up.
00:49:49Are you or were you a lesbian?
00:49:53Do you practice lesbianism?
00:50:00I don't want to make things bigger.
00:50:03Laura is already worried about my finances and my debt.
00:50:09I don't want to make things bigger.
00:50:19Wait.
00:50:20What did she say?
00:50:32Well, you are all over the world of this...
00:50:33Actually…
00:50:35Birka'nın bilinmeyen bir yanı var.
00:50:39This is difícil of being volatile.
00:50:43I need to give you force on what you should swim.
00:50:47You should do very, but...
00:50:53What?
00:50:55Go.
00:51:03Because I'm still in debt, we always have to try to find a new way to find money.
00:51:10When I'm not working and I can't find a job, the gambling comes in here.
00:51:16I gamble every day, every opportunity I have.
00:51:21It's what I do for a living.
00:51:24Laura is already worried about my finances and my debt.
00:51:29I don't want to make things bigger.
00:51:37But what?
00:51:40We are in trouble.
00:51:45Birkan'un kumara olan düşkünlüğü diyelim.
00:51:49Birkan boşluktayken bir kumar bağımlısı.
00:51:51Birkan boşlukta kaldığı zamanlarda kumar oynayan bir insan.
00:51:56Orayla bu konuda konuşması gerekiyor.
00:52:19I don't like pressure, I hate it.
00:52:29We can don't do this.
00:52:32Good to know.
00:52:36This is really awkward because the three of them are just having this conversation in Turkish
00:52:42and nobody is translating for me or filling in any of the gaps.
00:52:48This definitely feels kind of off and a little shady.
00:52:53I'm already feeling unsure.
00:52:55And now I definitely think it's possible that he's hiding something else that his friends
00:53:01know about and for whatever reason, no one's telling me.
00:53:06And I don't like that.
00:53:31So we're having a picnic.
00:53:33Is that the blanket we're laying on?
00:53:36Your splash pad.
00:53:37I mean, it's kind of...
00:53:40That would have been better.
00:53:43The splash pad would have definitely been better.
00:53:52Is this what we're going to eat?
00:53:53Yeah.
00:53:55Wow.
00:53:56Fried fish.
00:53:58They put some garlic and ginger and a little salt.
00:54:03And that's what they're stirring in now?
00:54:05Yeah.
00:54:06The ginger and the salt.
00:54:07They mix it up like this.
00:54:09It makes me miss home because we are doing the same thing like this when we are home.
00:54:15Got some nice big ones in here, babe.
00:54:17Mm-hmm.
00:54:18So whatever you catch is on the menu.
00:54:21Yeah.
00:54:23Yeah.
00:54:26Yeah.
00:54:30This type of food stands on the beach are very common in here.
00:54:35I love them since they have fresh seafood.
00:54:39This is how my family prepare food also, lighting a fire and making a barbecue or frying something.
00:54:49So it's nice to have a reminder of home.
00:54:55You want to try?
00:54:56Try what?
00:54:57How to cook it.
00:54:59I don't know anything about...
00:55:00You've never done that?
00:55:01Nah.
00:55:02I've never been fishing either.
00:55:03So I've never dealt with, you know, live fish.
00:55:06I'm going to teach you.
00:55:08And when you are in my hometown, you can do the same thing to impress my family like you know
00:55:12how to do it.
00:55:13I mean, that sounds like kind of a good idea.
00:55:17I'm nervous that Rick is going to meet my family.
00:55:21I hope they will love him.
00:55:24But the conversation we had earlier about kids is making me doubt that it's possible.
00:55:31And also, there are other things working against us that Rick doesn't know about.
00:55:41Is Zoma using it?
00:55:43Yeah.
00:55:46We used to squatting like this for long periods of time.
00:55:50Yeah.
00:55:52What's your problem, Rick?
00:55:53You don't even help.
00:55:55I mean, I'm old.
00:55:56I'm not used to being in this type of position for long periods of time.
00:56:00In my home, you will sit on the ground.
00:56:03Like this.
00:56:04I'm a city boy, baby.
00:56:06You're a village girl.
00:56:08You want to sit on a chair?
00:56:10If there's a chair available, yeah.
00:56:12That'd be nice.
00:56:13What?
00:56:14You complains a lot.
00:56:18So what can I expect when I meet the family?
00:56:21I will ask you some questions.
00:56:23Who are you?
00:56:24What do you want from my daughter?
00:56:27What's your plan for her?
00:56:31I know that this is a big step, and I feel honored that you want to introduce me to your
00:56:38family.
00:56:42And when I'm about the same age as your dad, right?
00:56:45You're older than my dad.
00:56:48How old is your dad?
00:56:50Fifty.
00:56:53But your father does know how old I am, right?
00:56:57Yeah.
00:56:58You haven't told your dad my age?
00:57:01No.
00:57:04Good.
00:57:05I didn't say that you already married twice.
00:57:10I didn't say that you have kids.
00:57:12Oh, strange.
00:57:15My dad, he doesn't want a man older than me, and a man who have a lot of kids, and
00:57:23a man who
00:57:24already been married, divorced.
00:57:28So that's why I didn't tell my dad much about rape.
00:57:33Otherwise, I think my father would just refuse to meet him.
00:57:38But blessing for my dad, it means a lot for me.
00:57:42So what's going to happen to us if your dad doesn't accept?
00:57:49My dad would say, oh, you have to choose then between you and my dad.
00:57:57And if you don't have kids, they won't give the blessing.
00:58:03It's really important to my family.
00:58:08I'm being put in such a disadvantage.
00:58:12She hasn't given her family any information about me.
00:58:16They don't know my age.
00:58:18They don't know that I've been married, have kids, nothing at all.
00:58:22I'm just getting thrown into the lion's den.
00:58:26They really want Trish to have a baby, and that's the part that I'm most worried about.
00:58:33Because at this point, I don't know if I'm ready to make that decision.
00:58:41I just want to go in there and be as open and honest as I can.
00:58:48And, you know, show them that I'm a good person, that I'm a loving father.
00:58:54And then I'm here for their daughter, and I'm going to treat her well and do the best that I
00:59:01can to make you happy.
00:59:06I mean, hopefully that's enough for him to accept me.
00:59:12I know that this trip is very important.
00:59:16I know that I need to meet her family, get to know them, and get to know more about Trish
00:59:21through her family.
00:59:23But I feel even worse about not telling Trish about spending time with my ex in Colombia.
00:59:33I have to tell Trish before we meet her family, and I just don't know how she's going to take
00:59:39it.
00:59:46Welcome to the Alo Alo Bar.
00:59:48We have sweet potato and gulaman, some cheese and corn.
00:59:52I've never had a dessert with cheese and corn in it.
00:59:55Most Americans will find that very weird.
00:59:59This is just a very delicious dessert.
01:00:02It's not like an execution.
01:00:06There's Vianisi.
01:00:08It's an aberration.
01:00:10And it is not in our blood.
01:00:12Uncle.
01:00:13She told me this was one-time sin.
01:00:17You lie.
01:00:20Is she saying the truth?
01:00:32It's a nice night.
01:00:34Yeah.
01:00:40Do you hear those waves?
01:00:42Yeah, I do.
01:00:43It seems like they're louder at night.
01:00:45Oh!
01:00:46My shoes.
01:00:48Ah, f***.
01:00:49Did they break?
01:00:50They break.
01:00:51Ah, f***.
01:00:59Well, you can be my Trish Charming and carry me.
01:01:03In your dress?
01:01:05Like, oh, if you don't want to, that's fine.
01:01:08I mean, I want to, but it's like you're in a dress, though.
01:01:13Well, you're just so, you're the most unromantic I've ever met.
01:01:17Okay.
01:01:18It's like you've never been with a woman before.
01:01:21Tonight is the last night of our honeymoon.
01:01:24And I'm glad that we were able to work through some trust issues.
01:01:28Because after this, we're going to Cavite, where Anna Lynn lives.
01:01:34And while I'm there, we're going to have our vow renewal with our family and friends.
01:01:38And hopefully, that'll be good.
01:01:40Well, I can still walk with one straw, but it's just...
01:01:43You sure?
01:01:44Yeah.
01:01:45I'm not really unhappy that our honeymoon is ending.
01:01:48Because I think the real test for us is day-to-day life.
01:01:54Are we able to live in the same space for long periods of time without trying to kill one another?
01:02:01You know, we'll see.
01:02:03Hey.
01:02:04Is that a hola hola?
01:02:06They have a hola hola set up.
01:02:08Okay.
01:02:09Welcome to the hola hola bar.
01:02:11We have the sweet potato and gulaman.
01:02:15We have purple yam and some cheese and corn.
01:02:19So, okay.
01:02:21Okay.
01:02:21Halo hola is a popular Filipino dessert.
01:02:25Halo hola in English means mix-mix.
01:02:27So, you have to mix all the ingredients together with the milk and ice.
01:03:03It doesn't count unless I put the cheese in it.
01:03:04I wish you will be more open-minded that when I suggest something, you will try it at least once.
01:03:10Just once.
01:03:12I mean, I try almost anything just once.
01:03:15But cheese and corn and ice cream and jelly?
01:03:18Really?
01:03:20Yeah.
01:03:21But I'm willing to accept the challenge.
01:03:23Yeah.
01:03:26So cold.
01:03:28Is it?
01:03:28Uh-huh.
01:03:29But you enjoying it, though.
01:03:31Enjoy it.
01:03:36So we just mix it, right?
01:03:38Uh-huh.
01:03:39All right.
01:03:41Mmm.
01:03:43Oh, my God.
01:03:45Do you realize this is our first hola hola together?
01:03:48Yes.
01:03:49Really nice.
01:03:53All right.
01:03:54I mean, Anna, there's a lot going on in here.
01:03:59But it is good, though.
01:04:01Excuse me, ma'am.
01:04:02Sir, do you need anything else?
01:04:04Ah, yeah.
01:04:05Can we just take a photo of us?
01:04:06Sure, ma'am.
01:04:08We're on honeymoon.
01:04:10It's okay.
01:04:10Is that okay?
01:04:11Yes, ma'am.
01:04:13And one, two, three.
01:04:17There you go, ma'am.
01:04:20I hope you enjoy your hallo hallo, ma'am, sir.
01:04:22Look at that.
01:04:23Yeah.
01:04:24Oh, yeah.
01:04:25That's a good photo.
01:04:28I don't think so, but okay.
01:04:31What's wrong?
01:04:34You know, the face that you're giving me, you look miserable.
01:04:42You know I don't mean to, though.
01:04:44But I don't believe.
01:04:45You don't believe?
01:04:46This is your thing.
01:04:48Whining and being unromantic.
01:04:51Uh-huh.
01:04:52I mean, how am I unromantic, though?
01:04:56Like the faces that I make?
01:04:58Yeah, and then, you know, how you say things.
01:05:04Okay.
01:05:21I mean, I work 15 hours a day, so it's kind of a luxury that you can, you know, keep
01:05:29up with days like that because you're just sitting at home.
01:05:32I don't have that luxury, and I'm just so drained all the time.
01:05:39Some other people are working too, but they don't do that.
01:05:43They still have time to be sweet to their wives.
01:05:47Well, I'm sorry.
01:05:50Maybe I'm just not a good husband.
01:06:01It's frustrating because, for me, this is love.
01:06:04I'm showing up.
01:06:05I'm providing.
01:06:06I mean, I thought that meant something.
01:06:09But Anna, seeing it through the female lens, she has this perception built up in her head that I have
01:06:16to be just over-the-top romance for her living in a fantasy.
01:06:20I don't know.
01:06:21My love language is physical touch and words of affirmation.
01:06:26I always make sure that my partner knows that I find him attractive.
01:06:31But just because you are supposed to provide and protect doesn't mean you always have to have this machismo energy,
01:06:39like you can't show vulnerability.
01:06:41You're still a human being.
01:06:44I am afraid that Jubon is never going to understand me and my needs.
01:06:49He hears me, but he doesn't really listen.
01:06:54I just want you to have just more understanding because what I do is not easy.
01:07:00I mean, is that not romantic?
01:07:02Like, making sure your lights is on because, you know, you're at home and then I'm working.
01:07:08I'm getting tired of this.
01:07:09Yeah.
01:07:12Every time you do something for me, you throw it to my face because you have to remind me that
01:07:17you're the man.
01:07:19That's what man does.
01:07:21I'm not trying to, Anna.
01:07:23I'm just trying to get you to understand, like, what I do is just not easy and I can't remember
01:07:28everything, you know?
01:07:36Anna, why are you so emotional?
01:07:39Something you will never understand because you don't have that.
01:07:46Well, I mean, I'm sorry, Anna.
01:07:49It seems like I can't do anything right around you, so.
01:07:53From now on, I don't want you to give me anything anymore.
01:08:03I will never miss any of my children.
01:08:06Why did you say that, Sheena?
01:08:08Sorry.
01:08:11Your lies are just taking our perfect, happy relationship and just, like, throwing it in the trash can.
01:08:30She told us, if she didn't give the money to you guys, that you would mistreat her.
01:08:41No.
01:08:43Did you say that?
01:08:44No.
01:08:44No.
01:08:45Did you say that?
01:08:48She said that you guys mistreated her if you didn't give her the money.
01:08:53I don't know how to mistreat her.
01:08:55Well, that you called her names and you threatened to throw her out and make her homeless.
01:09:04What?
01:09:08You sure you didn't say anything that would have been...
01:09:12I will never mistreat any of my children.
01:09:16Well, why did you say that, Sheena?
01:09:19Sorry.
01:09:24Why do you feel like you have to lie all the time?
01:09:33I want to admit that I lied.
01:09:39Just to cover things up so I don't want to lose for us because it is hard for me to
01:09:45save money.
01:09:48I'm trying to help you guys because you need all the help, but every time that I want to save,
01:09:53it's not even enough for me to get the visa.
01:09:56I cannot save enough.
01:09:57Yours is so hard for me.
01:10:02It is absolutely insane that Sheena would lie about her family in the first place.
01:10:07It makes no sense, and the hysterical theatrics aren't helping at all to clear any of this up.
01:10:17I'm just disappointed that we got told that we were kind of abusing you.
01:10:22I'm sorry, Bill.
01:10:23I do.
01:10:25And I do awfully apologize.
01:10:34I just don't understand why she would tell us stories that she's given every penny to you guys.
01:10:43Well, actually, she gave it to us, and it's all listed, you know?
01:10:49So when the time she needs it, we can give it back to her.
01:10:56Really?
01:10:58Of course.
01:10:59She's always alone.
01:11:09Sheena, I'm really kind of surprised.
01:11:13Here I thought they were mistreating you and taking all your money, and finding out that they were just borrowing
01:11:19it.
01:11:20It's a way different story than everything you told me.
01:11:24No, I'm sorry.
01:11:28My family need all my help.
01:11:31Thinking of being breadwinner is hard for me.
01:11:35And I don't want to lose you.
01:11:37Because, of course, you told me that they have to save money, that you shouldn't give money to your family.
01:11:44But now I'm feeling even worse, because your lies are just taking our perfect, happy relationship and just, like, throwing
01:11:54it in the trash can.
01:11:55I haven't told you the right things, because I'm worried that you might give up on me.
01:12:08Sheena Brave, I know that you've been trying hard.
01:12:12I don't approve of the stories and keeping everything hidden from everybody.
01:12:16That's not something that was cool, but for years you've been fighting for yourself and sort of, unfortunately, got all
01:12:26mixed up.
01:12:26We knew that she was trying to save up for a visa, but we didn't know how would she even
01:12:32acquire that.
01:12:33She doesn't tell us what's the process.
01:12:37We're not going to guess it.
01:12:39She wasn't really telling us the real truth, you know, what's really happening.
01:12:49Sheen, you need to make sure to say, I'm never going to lie to anybody again, and I will be
01:12:55open with everybody.
01:12:57To everyone, I promise I would never lie again for whatever I said to you guys.
01:13:07I regret for doing everything.
01:13:09I'll do my best to be much more open up to you guys.
01:13:14It hurts to find out that for the last seven years, Sheena had, you know, lied about everything with her
01:13:21family and the money situation.
01:13:23I thought she had more faith in me.
01:13:26But I'm glad that everything is out of the open now.
01:13:29And I hope that we can finally work towards our future.
01:13:36I think I'm going to jump in here, Pops.
01:13:40Let me understand here.
01:13:41So you mentioned that you're borrowing the money, right?
01:13:46Yes.
01:13:48So, how long would it take to provide, you know, if she asked for her money back?
01:13:56You haven't given us, asked us for a certain amount.
01:13:59So we don't, we don't know.
01:14:02I'd say about maybe $4,000.
01:14:09We'll have to check our finances.
01:14:16I was surprised because if they plan to get married, it's a guy who should provide for her.
01:14:24We didn't expect she'd be asking us for that amount, no?
01:14:27Yeah, I was surprised when she said that, when she said that, when she said that, it's painful for us.
01:14:39First impressions, Molly and the stepfather, first impression of us is, of course, it'll be fine soon, no?
01:14:50If she came and said, hey, I can't keep, you know, giving you guys a loan, would you guys not
01:14:56be taking the loan?
01:15:04I think if it's, you know, if it's feasible, you know, that for us not getting any help, we would
01:15:15do that, you know?
01:15:18But I just wish that she talked to us and explained it to us more.
01:15:25See, after all these years, Sheen, we could have just came and did this.
01:15:29Instead of going and, you know, making stories, putting things around about.
01:15:33I lied because I fear of losing him.
01:15:38Sheen, you're going to lose me if you don't.
01:15:40Stop lying.
01:15:42You got to be honest with us.
01:15:43Yes.
01:15:46I'm very, very sorry.
01:15:48And I'm trying to strive my best to work hard for me to save.
01:15:52That's all I wish.
01:15:57I'm relieved that the truth is out.
01:15:59But I'm afraid that Forrest is taking everything he heard tonight at face value.
01:16:05Now, it's just to the point where I got to just say, you need to think about what's happening in
01:16:12this relationship, that all she's doing is lying.
01:16:14And maybe someday, she'll come down the road and tell us some other secret that we don't know.
01:16:19That will tear the relationship apart.
01:16:21I don't trust her as far as I could throw her.
01:16:24But time will tell.
01:16:37If she wants to live with my nephew, she must abide by our culture.
01:16:44There are things we don't practice in our place.
01:16:47Please, tell me the truth.
01:16:50I am so guilt-ridden.
01:16:53I just want to be open and honest and see if he'll take me for who I am.
01:16:57Are you okay?
01:17:10Are you okay?
01:17:11Do you practice lesbianism?
01:17:19Daniel told me that Lisa protested lesbianism in the past.
01:17:25I know lesbianism is rampant in America.
01:17:30Here, we don't do it at all.
01:17:33If she wants to live with my nephew, she must abide by our culture and tradition.
01:17:42Please, my young lady, don't be offended.
01:17:47I'm not insulting you.
01:17:50But lesbianism, it's an aberration.
01:17:53And it is not in our blood.
01:17:57There are things we don't practice in our place.
01:18:03Please, please, tell me the truth.
01:18:07What the f*** is happening?
01:18:10I am shocked by the question.
01:18:16I don't know what to say about it.
01:18:18My sexuality, being called an aberration, hurts me a lot.
01:18:24I am who I am.
01:18:26And I'm not ashamed of it at all.
01:18:28And I just want to be honest and tell the truth.
01:18:30But I'm struggling inside with what's right and what's not right and what I want to do and what I
01:18:35don't want to do.
01:18:36It's an inner battle.
01:18:41I have been with a woman before, yes, sir.
01:18:54You don't practice it anymore?
01:18:57No, sir.
01:19:01It was a fling.
01:19:02It was one time.
01:19:07Do you lie?
01:19:12I think everybody says a fib once in a while.
01:19:15That doesn't make it right.
01:19:18I have lied in the past, but I am not a liar.
01:19:28Is she saying the truth?
01:19:31Tell me.
01:19:32Yes, uncle.
01:19:33She's telling the truth.
01:19:38I am not a liar, uncle.
01:19:41Okay.
01:19:42What I will tell Daniel to monitor you.
01:19:45You make sure you never do that again.
01:19:52Why is your uncle asking me if I partake in lesbianism?
01:19:56Why would he ask me that?
01:19:57I told him that you have done it before, but it was a mistake.
01:20:02Yeah, you told him everything.
01:20:05You told him everything.
01:20:06That wasn't for you to tell anybody.
01:20:07That was between us.
01:20:09No, no, no, no.
01:20:09Yes.
01:20:10I have to.
01:20:10You're wrong.
01:20:11It's my uncle.
01:20:12I don't care if it's the Pope of the Catholic Church.
01:20:14You don't tell anybody.
01:20:15Are you trying to insult him?
01:20:16I'm not insulting anybody.
01:20:17I'm telling you, you don't tell people certain things.
01:20:19My uncle is like father to me, so I have to discuss everything with him.
01:20:23You don't even tell me what you've already spoken to your uncle about.
01:20:26I ask you what kind of questions he's going to ask me, and you're like, I don't know.
01:20:30I don't know.
01:20:31I don't have to tell you.
01:20:32You don't want me to know, but you want him to know everything.
01:20:36Oh, my God.
01:20:37Yes.
01:20:37Oh, my God.
01:20:40Are you okay?
01:20:43Yes, uncle.
01:21:03Yes, uncle.
01:21:04I don't care about my mom because my house
01:21:09I'm sure I'm not a guy I can't
01:21:12I can't have a loan yet.
01:21:14I'm going to go see a woman.
01:21:16I'm going to go along.
01:21:19Be cool.
01:21:21I mean, you know, I'm going to be here.
01:21:23Need you in a jet.
01:21:27So.
01:21:38I've been hearing from you, and I will give you guys my blessing.
01:21:51Thank you, son.
01:21:54Thank you, uncle.
01:22:10I am thrilled I have the blessing, but I feel guilty as all hell, because he kept bringing
01:22:17up the fact, are you a liar?
01:22:20We do not lie.
01:22:22We do not, and that's making me feel guilty, because I am lying.
01:22:32Go, it shall be well with you.
01:22:35In the name of Jesus Christ, our Lord.
01:22:37Amen.
01:22:39It shall be well with you.
01:22:42I want Daniel, but I have the secret that I've been with women for the past 21 years.
01:22:48I have the secret that I'm married still to a woman, but it's 21 years.
01:22:54It's not a mistake.
01:22:55It's who I am.
01:22:56And I'm so scared he's not going to understand that.
01:22:59Stop crying.
01:23:01Daniel is yours.
01:23:02You are his girl.
01:23:06I am so guilt-oriented, because I love this man.
01:23:10And I just want to be open and honest and get this over with and see if he'll take me
01:23:14for
01:23:14who I am.
01:23:15But it's getting harder and harder as the time goes on.
01:23:19I don't know how I'm going to tell him.
01:23:32Next time on Before the 90 Days, I get to be the princess and now in the castle.
01:23:38Now I'll always be a princess.
01:23:39We're on this surprise romantic getaway, but I'm honestly having mixed feelings about it.
01:23:45I'm worried he's hiding more secrets.
01:23:48Can you tell me where your debt came from?
01:23:50Do you want the truth?
01:23:53Yeah.
01:23:54When the COVID hits, I bankrupt.
01:23:57I find another way to pay that debt.
01:24:03Do you realize everything you said about me since I got here has been negative?
01:24:07It makes me feel like we're never going to get married.
01:24:10We're never going to get engaged.
01:24:11This whole trip was a waste of my time.
01:24:15I'm just at my breaking point.
01:24:17I deserve some answers.
01:24:19Am I the girl that you want to be with?
01:24:23It's glued on to the point where my wig is like bubble gum right now, stuck to my head.
01:24:28I have to take it off.
01:24:30Oh, my God.
01:24:31I've been keeping my wig on because I know Daniel loves me with my long hair.
01:24:37I have no idea what he's going to think, but if he's going to marry me, he has to get
01:24:42used to it.
01:24:43Hey.
01:24:47All I hear is like you're just constantly complaining about me all the time.
01:24:57I mean, you tell me I'm a downer.
01:25:00You tell me I'm not romantic.
01:25:02Sometimes I feel like I'm stepping on landmines, and I don't know how to navigate around the landmines.
01:25:09I mean, Anna, do you regret, like, marrying me?
01:25:16Baby, there's something I've been keeping from you.
01:25:20Explain yourself.
01:25:22In those five days, when you weren't talking to me, I decided to book a trip to Colombia to be
01:25:30with my ex.
01:25:32Shut up.
01:25:33It was a mistake.
01:25:34Shut up.
01:25:37Jesus.
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