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Veteran journalist and writer Ashok Nilakantan Aiyer, also known as TN Ashok, has turned two profoundly wrenching tragedies caused by chronic kidney failure into an engaging fictionalized memoir titled ‘Borrowed Time, Borrowed Hope’.

Ashok’s first wife Usha died in 2002 at age 46 after a prolonged and harrowing ordeal brought about by renal failure. Some years later, Ashok remarried but by a cruel quirk of fate even his second wife Samantha developed kidney disease and passed away at age 59 in 2025.

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00:17Veteran journalist and writer Ashok Neelakintanayir, also known as T.N. Ashok, has turned to profoundly
00:25wrenching tragedies caused by chronic kidney failure into an engaging fictionalized memoir
00:32titled Borrowed Time, Borrowed Hope. Ashok's first wife died in 2002 at age 46 after a prolonged and
00:42harrowing ordeal because of her chronic renal failure. Some years later, Ashok remarried, but by
00:49a cruel quirk of fate, even his second wife, Samantha, developed a kidney disease and passed
00:56away at age 59 in 2025. The aftermath of his first wife's chronic renal problems was deeply
01:04traumatic since it seriously disrupted his career as a journalist as well as caused enormous financial
01:11challenges. Much against his professional instincts and passions, Ashok joined the corporate world,
01:17heading the public affairs division of a major multinational company. That also brought a
01:23different set of challenges for a former journalist. This is Ashok's fourth book, the other three being
01:29No Time to Hide in 2022, its update of the same name in the same year, and No Time to
01:37Escape in 2023.
01:39Ashok spoke to MCR from New Delhi. Welcome to Mayang Shah Reports. Ashok, it's a great pleasure to have you.
01:46Thank you so much, sir. And many congratulations on your book, Borrowed Time, Borrowed Hope.
01:54I'm delighted. You know, your novels, I mean, it's sort of a fictionalized version of your life.
02:03Yeah. It fictionalizes your life along with your late wife, Usha's real life together in a rather
02:10compelling narrative. I read quite a bit of it, and I think it's, it's, it is very engaging.
02:16Oh, thank you. Thank you so much.
02:19Since fiction offers creative freedom that honest biographies don't, how do you resist the challenge
02:27of not going overboard in terms of your narrating your life story? Why are this fictionalized versions?
02:34No, I fictionalized the version for two reasons. One was because it was narrating one half of the
02:42book in my life in the corporate sector. And I had a NDA with the corporate company. It was a
02:50$23 billion French company. So I didn't want them to get upset. So it took me about 23 years to
02:58publish the book because I left that company in 2008. And I wrote the book only in 2025. I wrote
03:06the
03:06book. So that makes it about nearly 17 years after which I've written the book. So the reason is,
03:14I didn't want too much of my personal life out in public. So I fictionalized the book and narrated
03:22the real life incidents and made it a little more dramatic to resonate with the people so that they
03:28understand the situation one goes through in such critical times, you know. You know, at one level,
03:35the book is about Ushad or her fictional avatar, Arushi's life upended by chronic renal failure and
03:44your tenacious battle against it. How was it on the pages of the book? I didn't get you. How was
03:54reliving the whole experience again via this book? Yeah, it wasn't emotionally not very tiring or
04:03exhausting because the actual incidents happened between 1998 to 2002. And I was writing the book 22
04:10years later and I got married a second time and I lost my second wife also to the same disease.
04:16So the death of my second wife was haunting me more than the death of my first wife. I don't
04:21know if
04:22people like me to say that or not, but that's the fact. That's the hard facts. So the sadness had
04:29receded into the background and I had found a new partner in my life. My son had got married.
04:34So it sort of receded into the background. So it wasn't very difficult to write the book.
04:41But after I wrote the book and I started reading it, I was in tears. I see. Since you mentioned
04:48your second wife, I was going to come to that a bit later, but I might as well now. It
04:53is quite striking
04:55that even your second wife fell victim to the same renal failure problems. I mean, I personally don't
05:03know if any case where something like that can happen. It must have been absolutely devastating.
05:09Yeah, I remember when I met one of my, I know him from childhood. He's a well-known
05:16film director in India. His name is Rajiv Menon. So I was just dropped into his studio and I was
05:22talking to him. He said, Ashok, I know him from his childhood. So he was saying, Ashok, you know, in
05:27our
05:30Malayalam myth, we have a saying that when a person is struck with the same tragedy twice,
05:39there is something wrong in his karma. I think there is something wrong in your karma and your
05:43previous janma, if you want to believe what I say. So in my state of mind, I was inclined to
05:49believe
05:49what he said. But that's not a very nice thing to say. Yeah. Are you still friends with him?
06:04Yeah, we are very good friends. I'm just kidding.
06:08Yeah. You know, again, to elaborate a bit on having gone through twice the same medical condition,
06:19I think by the second time, obviously, you were very used to the challenges that came along with it.
06:26Was it easier for you to deal with it the second time around?
06:32Yeah, it was much easier for me to deal with it the second time because the first time there was
06:38no
06:38doctor in the family from the other side. So I had to take care of my wife in Delhi all
06:44alone by myself
06:45or my mother, my aging mother and my small child was going to school. But in the second case, what
06:51happened was my son had already gone to college and he was studying there and I was alone with my
06:59second wife. And my second wife went on a holiday to Bangalore, where her mother and her sister
07:05lives. Her sister is head of the brain bank of Nimhans in Bangalore. So she's a doctor herself.
07:11So when they discovered that she had a renal failure, she said, Ashok, I don't want you to go
07:20through this experience again. So you can come and visit her every month or whatever. But
07:26what I suggest is that since I am a doctor, I am well connected with all the hospitals here,
07:31I will be able to take care of her better than you. If it's agreeable to you, you can you
07:35shift
07:36her to Bangalore. I said, if you are comfortable treating her in Bangalore because of your connections
07:42with the community, medical community, I'll be too glad to bring her to Bangalore. So I brought her to
07:48Bangalore. I left her there. In 2017, I left her there. Eight years, we were separated. But every day,
07:55every hour, we used to text each other, we used to send jokes to each other. And then we were
08:02for eight
08:03years, believe it or not, every, almost every day or every other day, we used to be on phone talking
08:09to
08:09each other. So I did not miss her so much. I see. I want you to take me back to
08:14the sort of the
08:15inception of this memoir, fictionalized memoir. What triggered it? I mean, it's been in the making
08:22for quite some time. So tell me a bit about that. You want me to talk about actually what happened
08:29to
08:29her or what made me write the book? I'm trying to get you at the inception of the book. At
08:35what point
08:35you thought you should convert that into sort of a life story, somewhat fictionalized?
08:42Ah, that was, it was a sudden decision after I went to the US to stay with my son in
08:48Manhattan,
08:49New York, that I found that I was not having much to do. And then Tilly put me on Substack,
08:57and I started writing on Substack. I had nothing much to do. Then I reflected, I had already written
09:02three well researched books on COVID-19, which was inspired by the death of my two of my very close
09:08friends within 24 hours of each other. One is that Shillong Times special correspondent Mr. Baruwa
09:16and his wife Meenakshi Baruwa, who used to work in Times of India. And we were very good friends. I
09:22used
09:23to drop into their house for coffee or tea. And then I had a huge library of films and they
09:27used to borrow
09:28films from me. They had a young daughter. So we used to have a nice time over the weekends. And
09:32then when I
09:32found that they had been struck by COVID before the vaccines had actually rolled out. So she was,
09:40both of them died within 24 hours of each other. And that shook me up like anything. So I, then
09:46I said,
09:47I have never written a book, let me write a book on the chronology of the disease COVID-19 and
09:54what each country has done, what the WHO has done or how it broke out in China and all that.
10:00It took me about
10:00three volumes to finish. It took me about six months to write and I got no less than a vice
10:06president
10:07of India than Mr. Naidu to release the book. So it got good publicity, but it did not sell.
10:18Well, that's the story of a lot of books too. That's true.
10:22You know, one of the themes that you list early on in your book is, as you, as you write,
10:28love as both anger and unbearable weight. Yeah. That's a rather telling construct. Tell me a bit
10:36more about it since, precisely because anger has weight, it works.
10:42Yeah. You see, I had no support. My brother, my entire family had migrated to the U.S. My sister
10:49had gone to the U.S., settled down in Texas. My brother had gone down to Michigan and settled down
10:53in Michigan. And my father had died in 1996. And then only my mother was there and my small kid
11:00was there. We were the only three of us together bonding as a family. And it struck me like a
11:09lightning when I came to know that she is suffering from real failure. Actually, we all went out for a
11:15nice magic show in one of the Indira Gandhi stadiums. And there she complained she had a blurry vision.
11:22I went to an ophthalmologist and then he examined her and then said, Ashok, I'm not very happy. There's
11:30a lot of activity in the fundus and I think better to get an MRI done. So I was scared.
11:36Are you suspecting
11:37a brain tumor? He said, maybe, maybe not. But what I want you to do is get an MRI done
11:43and tell me. So
11:44we got an MRI done and then everything was clear. And I said, no tumor, nothing. This is
11:52occasion to celebrate. We went and had a nice dinner outside and a nice restaurant in Conrad place.
11:57But then two days later, it hit me again. She had very high blood pressure. She could not move. It
12:02was
12:02200 by 100. And then I rushed to the local clinic and he put her down on the couch and
12:09then said,
12:09let me measure the blood pressure again. And the blood pressure slightly came down. And he was the
12:14first one to diagnose my local doctor in Mayur Vihar. He said, I have a feeling that her kidneys have
12:21been
12:21damaged. And maybe it is because of high blood pressure, but then it could be reversible also.
12:27But you take an expert's opinion. And then I went to another ophthalmologist and this is Dr. Madan Mohan,
12:33who was the vice president, was the president's physician. He was the head of AIMS
12:40ophthalmic division. So his son is a brilliant
12:44ophthalmologist and then eye surgeon. Rishi, very first part, he said, uncle, your wife has got
12:52kidney disease, get her kidney screened. And then we got it screened and we found out that 30% of
12:57the
12:59right kidney had shrunk. And then they were working at 30% efficiency. So that's when the whole
13:05rigmarole started, it took me about a month to find a good doctor in Apollo hospitals to fix the
13:12treatment. You know, I read that whole passage and what I found quite remarkable about the book is that
13:21it has a very matter of fact, but still very informative tone to it. I find that you have
13:29controlled your personal emotions rather well. Your narration is not very personalized and yet it
13:37tells a deeply, profoundly personal story. Thank you so much, sir. No, because especially when you mentioned
13:45the magic show and subsequent blurry vision and the whole series of events, it was quite cinematic to me.
13:54So I thought I should tell you that. Let me confess with you,
13:58I wrote the book like a cinema script because I had a fond hope that one day it could be
14:05made into
14:05a movie. I think it's ready for that. You know, there is a fundamental deviation between
14:13the real life of Usha and your protagonist, Arushi, in terms of what happens to both.
14:21I'm not going to spoil it for the viewers by saying what happens, but tell me
14:26how you made that literary choice without revealing what that choice is.
14:33I don't get you. What do you mean by literary choice?
14:36In a sense, like I said, I don't want to spoil it by revealing what the fate that
14:42Usha suffered and the fate that Arushi has because I want the readers to get into it themselves.
14:49So without anything, how did you decide to give them two different perspectives, very different
14:56perspectives? Yeah, I think somewhere in the introduction of the book, I have mentioned that in real life Usha died
15:03and then in the fictional book, I made her survive the...
15:12I could have asked you directly, but I thought you didn't want to reveal it.
15:16No, no, it's already revealed. It's already revealed in the introduction of the book.
15:19So I said I made her live to give hope to people who are suffering from the reason that you
15:25can survive the disease.
15:27I was thinking more in terms of readers coming and discovering themselves rather than me announcing it on the show
15:32anyway.
15:36Tell me a bit about how you chose that.
15:43As I told you earlier that I didn't want the book to have a sad ending. So I wanted to
15:49give hope to
15:50people who are suffering from the disease that modern medicine is there, technology is there, you can survive
15:56the disease and leave it a normal life. Because I remember one of my cousins in New York, I'm talking
16:03about somewhere in the 60s, he developed a kidney failure and then his wife donated the
16:09kidney to him. He lived for 30 years after transplant.
16:12That's amazing, yeah. Yeah, that's amazing.
16:16It is, it is. In real life Usha's kidney problems turn everything upside down for you.
16:23I'm interested in one particular aspect from being a passionate, committed journalist with limited salary,
16:33you had to change over to something most journalists scoff at people, vintage,
16:38old vintage like us, public relations. Yeah.
16:41How was that transition for you as a professional journalist to go on the other side?
16:45How did you navigate it? Did it affect your self-worth in any way at all?
16:51Yeah, it was, to confess, it was a very traumatic experience because in, you know, in journalism,
16:57the editorial rooms at five o'clock in the evening, the guy who breaks the news is the hero of
17:02the day. So there is no hierarchy in journalism, at least in the editorial meetings.
17:06Right. So even the junior most reporter who broke the news is the hero of the day. That's not so
17:11in the corporate circle.
17:12So when I joined the corporate first, I joined Burson and Marstella, which is a New York based company. I
17:18joined the daily branch and I was given a very heavy portfolio because the boss trusted me that I could
17:25deliver.
17:25So Tata Motors were fighting a battle against the environmentalists. And I had to tell people that diesel is not
17:33bad for you, short of saying that you can drink diesel from a cup of tea and nothing will happen
17:39to you.
17:39That's the kind of bluff I was telling the people all the time. The conscience was rebelling saying what I'm
17:44doing is not good. But then I also had to satisfy my conscience and say, look, I need the money.
17:50So I don't care a damn for my conscience right now. I need the money to treat my wife. So
17:57it was a very traumatic experience at a personal level.
17:59And then submitting to hierarchy was another big problem. I want an absolute freedom to work and the hierarchy would
18:06not allow me give me a free hand to work.
18:08So it cramped my work style and I brought out the journalist in me and rebelled and went directly to
18:14the bosses and said, give me a free hand to work.
18:16And they removed the head who was controlling me and I got direct access to Tata's and I was able
18:22to work freely.
18:22I saw that. That's fascinating. You know, I can imagine how stifled you must be feeling during the transition.
18:30Yeah. Yes. It took me about six months to settle down to corporate hierarchy.
18:35I'm sure. I'm sure. Just a, by the way, piece of information.
18:40You mentioned that in the novel that Arushi is a sort of a polyglot speaking Pashto, Bengali, Tamil, English and
18:49German.
18:49Yeah. Was that true of Usha too?
18:54Usha was, she used to speak German. So part of that is true, but I borrowed it a little from
19:01my second wife.
19:02She, she's a polyglot. So she spoke about seven European languages, including Russian, and then she could read and write
19:09about seven European languages.
19:10So I combined the two ideas. How come? How come was she professionally doing it or she was just interested
19:18in languages?
19:20No, no, no, no, no. She was professional. She was actually, she got a degree. I'm talking about my second
19:26wife.
19:27She was, she is a degree holder in catering science from Bangalore. And then she found that all the cuisines
19:36are all written in French.
19:38She said, unless I learned French, there is no point in being a catering science specialist. So she got her,
19:47she got her master's degree in French and then she got her MPhil in tourism and things like that.
19:53And then, and then she said, then the hunger for learning other languages grew. Then the profession center, she was
20:01working also for a French company like me, then they were dealing with Russians.
20:06So first she was a French translator because the medium of communication was French. So she used to sit at
20:14all the conference tables and translate in French to English, English to French.
20:18And then with the Russians, she used to do it with Russian, Russian to English, English to Russian. And my
20:24first wife, she knew German as a passion. She took it, but she was basically a clinical psychologist.
20:30So she knew how to handle her own crisis. She knew how to handle my mother. She knew how to
20:35handle me. And then she gave me full freedom.
20:37She gave me instructions on how to handle my mother and how to handle my child, which was very, very
20:42useful to me.
20:44Indeed, indeed. You know, I noticed that you kept your, a lot of your chapters are rather short, which is
20:50good. Was that a conscious choice or it just happened that way?
20:55No, no, no. It was a conscious effort. And if I wrote a long chapter, I would break it into
21:00two so that, you know, the readers don't get bored by reading a long chapter.
21:05So they go, it should be a seamless flow of ideas and experiences. And then if broken into chapters, you
21:13can always stop at one chapter, go have a cup of tea, watch some TV, whatever, and then come back
21:17and read the book. That's the whole idea.
21:20Tell me by now, are you yourself sort of a kidney specialist?
21:25Sort of. If anybody wants to consult me on renal diseases, I can tell you from step one to step
21:3423, how to go about, how to navigate, how to navigate your personal life, how to handle your emotions, how
21:41to handle your family, how to handle your children, all that.
21:47I can give a huge lecture. I've got a lot of gyan. I can do a promotion on that.
21:54Speaking of which, your epilogue talks quite a bit about some of those details, right? I read the part of
22:01your epilogue too.
22:02Yeah, I wanted to bring a lot of drama. So actually, I'm not a surgeon, so I don't know how
22:10it, now this is where I found AI technology so useful that
22:16I would feed all the inputs I wanted to dramatize and tell AI, reconstruct a complete operation theatre scenario, reconstructed
22:27completely an ICU melodrama.
22:29It was doing it beautifully for me. All I had to do was edit it and cut out whatever I
22:34thought was not necessary, which was too dramatized.
22:37Right. You know, in chapter 12, there's a rather interesting passage which brings alive your protagonist or rather your personality
22:48type quite well, and I'm going to read that little passage.
22:51Okay.
22:52It says, I held the empty box in my hands, marvelling at the chain of human ingenuity that had led
23:00to this moment. The research, the manufacturing, the coal chain logistics that had brought these precious wild across continents and
23:09oceans to save my wife, unquote.
23:10Now, for a character in the midst of such a life-threatening crisis, to think of this is quite revelatory
23:21to me that is it you or is it your character or is it a combination of the two?
23:26I think it's a combination of the two. And then sometimes, you know, when you're depressed, a lot of ideas
23:31come out. And sometimes when I get up in the morning and have my cup of tea, so many ideas
23:36bristle in my mind for writing an article on that day. I should do this. I should do that. People
23:41have never written about this.
23:42So I would get down to it. And then when I was writing the book, all these ideas came to
23:47me seamlessly saying, let's put this idea into the book. Let's put this chapter. Let's put this text into the
23:54book to make it more interesting.
23:57Right. How long did you actually take to write from start to finish? I'm not talking about what preceded your
24:07struggles. I'm talking about the actual process of physical writing. How long did you take?
24:13Physical writing. You see, I didn't have much to do in New York. You know, see, in New Jersey, I
24:18and my son used to loaf around in the car. We used to go into the wild. So we had
24:22a lot of time for ourselves. In New York, it's a concrete jungle. You know, it's difficult to go out.
24:27And then my son would go to office. My daughter-in-law would go to office. I was alone at
24:31home, either watching CNN or BBC or I would be watching BBC or I would be watching
24:42some television network. But that would be for an hour or so for drinking a cup of tea. But then
24:49the whole I had six, seven hours how to kill it, you know. So I had a lot of time
24:54for six, seven hours to sit and write at least two, three chapters a day. That's what I was doing.
24:59Now that's remarkable because two, three chapters a day is excellent speed. I mean, I do that too. But I'm
25:06very glad to know that you've done that too. It's the very, you know, this is the training of a
25:11journalist.
25:13Yes, true.
25:17Yeah, your bingo, bingo on the spot.
25:21How is the book doing generally? Have you had any response yet? Have you heard from any readers so far?
25:32No, look, I have a lot of readers. I have a lot of people who have purchased the book in
25:36the US. Very surprisingly, my Corona book sold more in the US than in India.
25:41Same way, I find this book has sold, I've sold about 100 books so far, which is, which is, I
25:47think, a big achievement for me as a debut fictional writer.
25:51But then I want to reach at least 10,000 books before the year end. And I'm doing and, you
25:57know, we are all journalists. We don't have, we are not a corporate guy to hire a PR company to
26:03promote our book.
26:04So we have to promote it ourselves. So I'm doing my best to promote it across various channels. And I
26:11got, I was very successful in getting the book listed on Barnes & Noble, which I think is a big
26:15achievement for me.
26:16But then how many people will actually go through the list and buy it as a million dollar question.
26:21Indeed. You know, that's why I thought it's important that fellow journalists should always reach out to others too. I
26:28mean, I'm part of the reason why you reached out to me, but I was always very keen to have
26:34you at some point soon.
26:35And I'm glad that in whatever little way I can help through this platform. Speaking of which, why don't you
26:42tell my viewers where it's available and what kind of pricing are we talking about?
26:48Oh, the book is listed on Barnes & Noble in the US. And then it is not a physical display
26:54of the book. So in Barnes & Noble, a lot of people want to know what are the upcoming books
26:59up for sale.
27:00So they go to the librarian or the bookstore manager and ask him what are the future books that are
27:05coming up. So there I found, I was surprised to find my book, Borrowed Time, Borrowed Hope by Mr. Ashok
27:12Neelokunton on top of the upcoming Easter sale.
27:16So that would, maybe out of 10 people who see it, at least two will buy it.
27:23Right, right. And Amazon, it's available everywhere, right?
27:30Yeah, it's available. I went through Notion Press and they have put it up. I paid money to the publisher.
27:36So they have put it on Amazon. It will be on Amazon India, Amazon UK. They have put it on
27:41the Indian online shopping center, Flipkart and Walmart. All of them are selling my books.
27:49All of them are selling books.
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