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00:00Roooooooooow
00:04urr curlr
00:08Yooooooooo
00:10Cr wy!
00:10What's wrong with you?
00:11You are the reason
00:12You are the reason for everything, Psalm
00:14Khalaftalli for Armour
00:15Huh?
00:16By God, my son, we were free and your mother
00:17And he doesn't know how to play backgammon.
00:19I hate you
00:20I didn't want him to come
00:21My life is messed up
00:22But I love you
00:23any?
00:23Heev kedah
00:24Countries, oh you who make me hate you
00:26She said, "The night
00:27Leave them alone, they're just passing through.
00:28Ah
00:29Mashhad Fayeh, this is me wanting to sing
00:31What's up, Sotek?
00:32This method of reprimanding children is counterproductive.
00:35What children? This is a joke.
00:38Hajj, he'll hit my son with a slipper
00:41Leave him alone and let him look inside.
00:42Suppressing this child's feelings is not good for their mental development.
00:45Tell me, my darling, what's on your mind?
00:47Okay, by God, if you said what was on your mind, it would turn out to be her uncle.
00:50Don't threaten the child; if you threaten the child, he will become a coward, afraid of faces.
00:54Therefore, everyone will come after us, and I won't let anyone come after my son, for God's sake.
00:57Okay, I'm the one who's wrong.
00:59Please, my son, tell me what you want to do?
01:02Do you want to spit in my face?
01:04I didn't ask to come to this world
01:06My life is messed up, I'm not happy at college.
01:09I don't know, Abd, what?
01:10That's right and excellent, my dear. Didn't you ask to come?
01:13So tell me, how can I get you back?
01:15And Asaad worked at this college, I'm supposed to be the one begging you for help
01:17My dear, I love you, respect you, and I see that you are clever, smart, and a genius.
01:22And anything you want to do, you'll know how to do it.
01:25That's wrong, don't praise the spittle, you'll do the same thing.
01:28If you convince him of things that aren't true, he'll blame you.
01:31And he'll still blame me, that's a head that floats on me
01:34You're neither a failure nor an animal, and I didn't tie you up.
01:37And don't tie me up
01:44okay?
01:45That's right, get your act together
01:47See? See your positive upbringing?
01:49Are you happy that he's acting crazy with us like this every night?
01:51The bucket of water first?
01:53No, my dear, your only concern was to humiliate me, and that's over now.
01:56Good luck
01:58music
02:05Dear viewers, peace, mercy and blessings of God be upon you
02:07Welcome to a new episode of the show "Al-Taheeeh"
02:10This episode, my dear, is not just for fathers, nor just for mothers, nor just for children.
02:13This episode is for all family members.
02:16It's an opportunity to see if you're raising children correctly or incorrectly, and an opportunity to see if they're being raised correctly or incorrectly.
02:19According to a survey conducted by a children's hospital in collaboration with Laurie Childens Hospital
02:23The Servite Millilils follow their lineage after they become parents.
02:26People born in the eighties and nineties, after the Copts and mothers
02:29What will they do?
02:30Millies, my dear, according to some sources
02:32People born from 1981 to 1996
02:36I was born in '94, so I'm a Millilili
02:38These countries, my dear, are represented by the current generation of parents.
02:40People aged 28 to 43
02:43And stop being so impressed with me, brother, by saying that the nineties were 30 years ago.
02:46And the thousands of years old, you delusional one, you son of a delusional woman
02:49And she says the new generation, the new generation, are three generations
02:52You don't know anything except that every time someone is grilling something, they'll be surprised on Facebook, like that, guys.
02:55The nineties, 30 years ago
02:57Man, people stop to talk to you like it's not even on the subway.
02:59Let's go back to the survey.
03:00The survey revealed that 73% of milliliters are certain
03:03If the parents are satisfied, they will raise their children differently.
03:06In a better way than their fathers
03:08According to Miller Schaevers' psychology
03:10The parents of the Millieles generation didn't think much about parenting methods.
03:13They neither plan for it nor focus on it.
03:15Look at yourself, and you'll see the result.
03:17My dear son, I hope it was a joke with you, don't get upset, okay? And you too, my dear son?
03:19You might think, my dear, that this is nice.
03:21Or later, now a generation that focuses on raising children
03:23The problem, my friend, is that it appeared from the same server.
03:2583% of milliliters admit they were very short on the stock
03:30While they were searching for the right way to raise children
03:33And 85% feel trapped in idealistic expectations.
03:37Ideal expectations regarding this upbringing and its outcomes
03:40These predictions, my dear, are being spread like wildfire on social media and everywhere else.
03:43Moms' groups, Dads' groups, and football groups
03:45And all the groups you can imagine
03:47People are always comparing themselves
03:49She compares her upbringing to that of other people she watches.
03:52Why do I want my son to have a crown like his mother, Khaled?
03:54Malouq will end up with a nutritional deficiency.
03:56Thank God, and when do we ask social media?
03:58And why don't we include it in our sources? Why don't we ask the experts?
04:00Oh, my dear Karam, that's very beautiful, and it takes us back to the topic.
04:02If you were a parent, open Amazon right now and search for "parenting".
04:05You will find more than fifty thousand books on education.
04:07This is in addition to the thousands of studies it publishes annually.
04:10The first book will give you advice
04:12Another book will tell you that this is wrong.
04:14The third book will tell you that we thought this was wrong
04:17This is wrong, and if I were to say both are correct
04:19But let me tell you, what's a maze? A maze, my dear.
04:21And you haven't even looked at the sources, so how can you look at fifty thousand books?
04:23For the sake of education
04:24For example, you might find an expert who tells you
04:26If the child does something wrong
04:27I tell him, "You upset Dad and Mom."
04:29So that you provide empathy for the child
04:31And he understands that his actions affect other people.
04:33Come on, my dear, put this advice into practice
04:35You'll find another expert who tells you
04:36Wait for me, Abu Jarm
04:38This way, the child will be more considerate of other people's feelings than his own.
04:40You're raising a bull blazer in him.
04:46In the second example, an expert will appear and tell you
04:48If the child accomplishes something, encourage him and say "Bravo!"
04:50To add to his own downfall
04:52Another expert will appear, like Alf Kon in his book.
04:54One day they'll tell you, "You son of a bitch, you got used to this here."
04:58You're the one carrying it.
04:59You were, my son
05:00Do you want your son to rely on external incentives?
05:02Without motivating himself
05:04Your son will live and die searching for other people's children.
05:07Okay, Abu Hamid, what should we do?
05:08Turn the pot upside down
05:09She looked forward to her mother's house
05:10And whoever resembles her and her father
05:11So why not bring back the classics with me?
05:12The Shibshi with the belt
05:13My dear, they didn't use it on the belt.
05:14They use them on the suicide belt
05:16Of course, my dear, if you go back to the old way of raising children
05:18You are essentially running away from the old-fashioned upbringing.
05:20And it appears on an alternative
05:21You have a psychological problem
05:22What makes you want to look for an alternative?
05:24For your children whom you love
05:25Despite the experts' differences, my dear
05:27Opinions clashed
05:28Everyone agrees
05:29The method you choose
05:30So you can raise your children with it
05:31It has a significant and important impact.
05:33On your children's mental health
05:34Their view of the world
05:35And their success in relationships with people
05:37No, my dear, research has been going on for 50 years.
05:39She's trying to tell him
05:40He tells him that some parenting practices
05:41It leads to better results than others.
05:43And achieving the ideal style
05:44Not a luxury
05:45Because it results in happier children.
05:47Asians and their beards generally perform better
05:49That makes me happy, my dear.
05:50Mohammed, I'm spitting on you.
05:51I want you to tell me
05:52How did he become a good father?
05:53In the middle of all the different roads
05:55Perhaps, my dear
05:56The best in this case
05:57We are conducting a process of inventory and determination.
05:58If we don't know the truth first
06:00And we always strive
06:01Let me show you my efforts, my dear
06:03We are trying to create a complete and integrated model
06:06To explain the best methods of raising children
06:11In the sixties, my dear
06:12Clinical psychologist
06:14religion of Bamran
06:15It will analyze all methods of parenting
06:16Locals use it
06:17And they are confined to three routes
06:18Permissive or tolerant parenting
06:20Strict or authoritarian parenting
06:22Ethnobotanical education
06:23responsible or firm parenting
06:25So, my dear, are we still going to see how every method works?
06:27We begin with neglected parenting
06:28Countries, my dear, families
06:29They didn't just choose a suitable parenting method.
06:32These countries aren't even taking responsibility for the necessary education.
06:35Like a mother who smokes while pregnant
06:37And the father of Ramadan Al-Sukari
06:38The one who suddenly discovers his youth
06:39He wants to get married, leave his home, and leave his children.
06:42Countries that don't even respond to the basic needs of their children
06:45There is no emotional connection with their feelings.
06:46And there is no supervision over their behavior
06:47Not even healthcare
06:49This low parenting style
06:50The parents offer little support.
06:52They rarely care about the children.
06:53They rarely expect anything from the kids.
06:56Of course, my dear, unfortunately
06:57Sometimes it creates a dysfunctional child
06:59He has growth problems
07:00Because he lacks sufficient support and love for his health and needs.
07:03Consequently, his psychological, mental, and sometimes physical capabilities are lower.
07:07Because his self-confidence might already be low.
07:10He advises you, my dear, under any circumstances.
07:12And this translates itself
07:13Either in his book or not
07:15Or in an aggressive way that hides his weakness
07:16And sometimes he might resort to addiction as an escape from these problems.
07:19The second style is strict parenting.
07:21or authoritarian upbringing
07:23For example, Professor Ashour Salah El-Din in the view
07:25Atherite education
07:27Because parents have complete authority over their children.
07:29They set rules for them and you breathe in the house with an iron fist.
07:32Without further ado, we need to make contacts to explain why there's an iron fist.
07:36Why did you do that? Because I said so.
07:38Feel it, my dear, you follower of the manager
07:39Strict parents have no regard for their children's feelings.
07:41And that's because they see all children as lazy and sluggish by nature.
07:45If we leave them to their own devices and their own minds
07:47Answer us, shame!
07:48They need to attend lectures all the time.
07:50They live under threat for twenty-four hours a day so they are afraid to listen.
07:53Even if they turn out to be good, I mean
07:55This is definitely due to our strict upbringing of them.
07:57What's this? Are you deformed?
07:59Just a second, Professor
08:01Are you coming to prison?
08:02Why do you like children so much?
08:03And what if he were to change his mind?
08:04This is a child
08:05He will escape container from Egypt
08:07child
08:08Parents provide support
08:10But it is not enough
08:11And this insufficient support system leads them to make very, very high demands on the children.
08:15They follow them, my dear, and they put him in his place, and the doctor is at the door of his power.
08:17He's still in second grade, my friend.
08:18What is this, Dr. Bodi's stomach and tummy?
08:20Raising a child like this, my dear, will make them well-mannered and obedient.
08:22His academic performance, if not outstanding, is at least acceptable.
08:25If he is a subordinate or employee, he will most likely be committed to his work.
08:28Someone who doesn't cause any problems
08:30Well, that's not nice, Abu Hamad. He's a respectable person.
08:31He said, "If I had a daughter, I would have come and given her what she deserves."
08:32Please, my dear, be hasty
08:34All of this, my dear, I see as positive.
08:35It may be in the son's best interest at some point.
08:37His copy may be useful even though he is old.
08:39This is what makes raising a child so difficult.
08:41Because of the beautiful advice you liked now.
08:43On the other hand, it has many disadvantages.
08:45Because the model of the overlooks that you see in front of you
08:47Based on the foundations of a difficult childhood and upbringing
08:50A child raised for years to believe that what burns him is the fear of punishment.
08:54His moral behavior has weak roots.
08:56He might stay well because he's under the watchful eye of his mother or father.
08:59They see him and are watching him, and he will be punished if he does something wrong.
09:02But also, when he becomes like Saheb Ashour and possesses freedom
09:05The one who imprisoned you is dead.
09:06The first thing he does is go to the Prophet and tell him, "Make me a fool."
09:08This child is prone to rebellion
09:11Do not engage in aggressive behavior within the community without a set time limit.
09:14As a result of all the repressed emotions during childhood
09:17And even my dear son, when he leaves the authority of those who are derived from it
09:20He would be a person who lacks happiness and self-confidence.
09:23His social skills are lower and his level of depression is much higher than his colleague's.
09:27Simply put, dear children's lives in a strict environment
09:29Keep the tomato centers in their brains active all the time.
09:32And a continuously responsive reactor, the Fate or Flight
09:34Are we going to flee? Or are we going to fight?
09:36Abu Hamid, our child, was subjected to both an oppressive and a compliant upbringing.
09:40What's gone is gone.
09:42He became very eager to read scientific books.
09:45Sishan Therapy is watching your episodes
09:47He dreams like that and hides himself
09:49B B Pranoia Teh Trama and Thieh Therapy
09:53He prefers to walk through the alphabet until he reaches the letter "yaa" and says, "What about Abu Al-Aisha and the one who lives with us?"
09:57Zizi, unfortunately, let me tell you, it's not that simple.
10:00It's not fixed by manufacturing and it will go back to how it was before.
10:02Focusing on education is important not only for children's rights
10:04But it is simply important because education shapes effectively and influentially.
10:08Not just your personality, but also your physiology and biology
10:12The shape of your brain that you will continue with
10:14It's not software, and we'll do URISAT.
10:15The hardware itself changes, my dear; education changes the hardware.
10:19If we say that childhood is called the period of rapid brain growth
10:23Rapid Brain Development
10:25A baby is born with more than one hundred billion nerve cells.
10:28Contact between them, my dear, will be minimal.
10:30This is because the nerve fibers have not yet formed.
10:33In the early years, when a child learns about life little by little
10:36A large amount of contact occurs between the cells.
10:38A process called synaptic froning
10:40A process of stabilization of certain nerve pathways begins.
10:43And cancel the expenses that he won't need.
10:45Khalifa, my dear, who is stressed and under a lot of pressure, and all his smallness
10:48It will have a significant impact on the coat.
10:50And it creates in the Magh and Masarat, which are very likely to be harmful.
10:53She will stay with him for the rest of his life
10:55Everything your son or daughter wants to share with him
10:57There are connections inside his brain
10:58And although the brain, God willing
11:00Designed to adapt and adjust to any surrounding environment
11:03This brain of mine, my dear, thrives in a harsh, remote environment.
11:07Here, my dear, the brain is still functioning and adapting.
11:09Although he lives in a hostile world
11:11He was always afraid, watched, and took precautions.
11:13He is suspicious of the people around him.
11:15He is unable to make relationships, believe them, and fall in love with them
11:17Always pull the safety button
11:1990% of brain development occurs in the first 5 years
11:22They call them, my dear, the crucial years.
11:24Up to approximately 7 years old
11:25This process is slowing down
11:26It slows down and stabilizes neural pathways.
11:28Which is formed and coated with a substance called
11:30Mylene
11:31To isolate, strengthen, and stabilize these pathways
11:33That's how a brain is formed, my dear.
11:35Childhood problems will continue to affect your relationships throughout your life.
11:38Because the child whose childhood was devoid of all forms of tenderness and empathy
11:42Previously under tyrannical or neglectful fathers
11:45He will have a very good relationship with someone who can regulate his emotions.
11:48Why is it an essential part of its composition?
11:50Ignoring these feelings, my dear, makes the son or daughter feel that there's always something wrong.
11:54His life paths confirm this.
11:56We talked about many of these details in the "Big Kids" episode, please go back and watch it.
12:00And of course, if you want to know more, the sources are available, please.
12:02This particular issue
12:03So he praised
12:04I've already reviewed the episode and the sources.
12:06Honestly, I didn't source the information, but I confirmed that it exists.
12:08I made sure it was there and that the lines were working
12:10The team's preparation is frankly present and respectful.
12:12But I have another question
12:13This cycle will continue forever.
12:15So, I'm going to be harsh on my son?
12:17My son will be harsh and unable to regulate his emotions.
12:19He will remain harsh, like a father to his son.
12:20His son will be harsh on his son.
12:22And his son will be harsh on his son
12:24So my father Joseph is in my Lord Abiozd
12:26Here, my dear, a new generation of parents will come.
12:30Now, my dear, we have an opportunity with a new generation of parents.
12:34These parents don't want to repeat the cycle of pain they suffered in their childhood.
12:38And this generation, as you know, according to statistics
12:40It is the generation of billionaires
12:41The generation that has a crisis with the way they were raised
12:43Therefore, he wants to improve how he raises his children.
12:46It is according to modern standards
12:47The most anxious and focused generation in Takbir
12:50Almost from the time we started the world
12:52These are the first fathers who will start thinking and wondering how to raise their children.
12:56According to the author in the field of parenting
12:59Sarah O'Kwell Smith
13:00The generation of millionaires was enlightened because of Wajih
13:02This generation is the first to witness the digital age.
13:04And he sees all the sciences of education
13:06This generation is following the example of Refain
13:08They are afraid that their children will experience the same thing that happened to them.
13:12This isn't good, this is Abu Hamad, this is a generation trying to learn from its mistakes
13:15And this generation isn't just trying to correct what it's been through.
13:17He's also trying to be right about what he's getting.
13:19He may sometimes try to fix it
13:21Therefore, the type works
13:22Exactly, my dear, the exaggerated correction
13:24Keep a sturdy metal stick with you.
13:26If you bend it in the opposite direction, bend it even more and it will break.
13:28This is the first thing that comes to the mind of the elderly father.
13:31If it does the opposite
13:33Everything I was raised on, I now see as bad.
13:35I will do the opposite with my son.
13:36My father used to beat me, but I will pat my son on the back and never hit him.
13:39This, my dear, is like saving children from neglect or tyranny.
13:43But it creates entirely different problems.
13:45According to Dr. Bamran, she called this approach "easy, gentle, and lenient parenting."
13:50God, what is this, Abu Hamad? Human kindness
13:53Not what they were doing there
13:54My dear child, in this type of upbringing, all of the child's desires are fulfilled.
13:58God wants the sweetest chocolate for your eyes
14:01Two guys in a game, I'll get you two so you don't feel deprived
14:04If you want the phone, take it and look at it with your fingers.
14:07I don't want peace right now, I'll make you work, George and Souf
14:09I respect your choice as a man.
14:11Parents here avoid boundaries and conflict with their children
14:14We don't want them to be upset or made to cry
14:16Let them make their own decisions freely.
14:18Nothing will spoil our relationship with our children.
14:21They offer nothing but warmth and love.
14:23In short, my dear, this is a network-based, crying-like upbringing.
14:26Just like the genie of the lamp
14:28But even the genie of the lamp tells you
14:30You have seven wishes to make.
14:31And it's not between them that they want to keep the house of wishes
14:33So that I can understand this movement well
14:34Ask and you shall receive
14:35While it remains that parents in this type of upbringing
14:37They don't even set a number of wishes.
14:39Education here has no structure or rules
14:41The father and mother here, my dear, have transformed from caregivers
14:43For older friends who have money and a nice promise
14:47This tolerant parenting style is characterized by
14:49With very high support and low requirements
14:51And the child is forced to be happy and relaxed
14:53Because he gets everything and is used to taking everything.
14:55My dear, the idea is that it's a little easy for you to control a house.
14:58And the child achieved everything he wanted in the house.
15:00But when that child becomes a human being
15:02And this house is the world
15:04It's natural that he'll be shocked to discover that not everything
15:06Bish, everything he needs from the world
15:08He deserves it and he'll get it
15:09With time, my dear, these children grow up
15:11They produce confident people with high self-esteem.
15:14They have a love of exploration because they are not afraid.
15:16Because there was no authority, they responded to their environment.
15:18Their social skills are better because they weren't raised in fear.
15:20And don't be fooled by nonsense
15:22Therefore, the level of depression is much lower.
15:24From their peers
15:25By God, Abu Ahmed, I'm facing millions.
15:27This generation is better than Hassan Shahin's generation
15:29You, as a father, can make the house a safe place.
15:31Provide your son with everything he needs
15:33But when this son grows up
15:35The world will be his home
15:37And the world, my dear, isn't that generous.
15:39The world is Biggles
15:41The world also has risks.
15:43Not harmful in the way the other child might see it.
15:45But he's also not beautiful, kind, or gentle.
15:47And this house has everything we want.
15:49It's easy to fulfill a child's wishes at home.
15:51But when that child becomes a human being, his dreams grow with him.
15:53And this house is the world
15:55It's difficult for him to have everything he needs.
15:57Because it's impossible for a person to take everything they want from the world.
15:59Unless you're a Mbappe fan, and that shows up in our upbringing.
16:01Unfortunately, this child is the first to fall into the trap of his parents.
16:03He goes out into the world, which will certainly not treat him the same way.
16:05He gets into more trouble here
16:07He has a problem with any existing authority.
16:09He doesn't want to be an employee or subordinate.
16:11Because he's used to being the one who takes the readings
16:13Sometimes he's used to staying spoiled
16:15Spoiled, or according to psychological terminology
16:17I'm waiting for the world to give special treatment.
16:21Therefore, this will make him less happy.
16:23Because the world's knee
16:25Are you against capitalism? Well, go ahead and talk to yourself.
16:27You go to the world and tell it
16:29I don't want this and I want that, but I don't want this
16:31The world tells you what it wants and what it doesn't want, it's all the same.
16:33At Dad and Mom's
16:35Come here, come here
16:37You'll be getting toxic relationships, jazz lighting, and everything else.
16:39So you can cheat in a relationship
16:41Because there's no relationship, there's no such talk.
16:43You'll need to work and accept capitalism.
16:45Otherwise you won't be able to eat
16:47And you will live with discrimination against you
16:49Because we live in a society with racism and a colonial history.
16:51These are all facts you need to deal with.
16:53You are in circumstances that you mostly didn't choose in the first place.
16:55And the ivory you're deceiving yourself with will not come true
16:57Even if it happens, it won't turn out well for you at all.
16:59Swallow your saliva and calm yourself and your soul.
17:01The shock for people in countries
17:03The world simply tells them
17:05Whatever you put in front of you, you eat it.
17:07We do more than that
17:09We shower them with love, care, and iPads.
17:11International Schools
17:13I'm going to kill you, Taya
17:15Raising a tolerant child, my dear, has three main problems.
17:17Lack of boundaries and rules
17:19Which we are supposed to put for children
17:21And its purpose shouldn't be to harass him.
17:23I don't support his freedom, but this is one form of
17:25The training and rehearsal is real
17:27A child who was raised to believe that everything is available
17:29Don't you dream about how he sets boundaries for himself?
17:31How to face temptations in his life
17:33How to balance his needs and desires
17:35Don't you dream of him making well-considered and conscious decisions?
17:37Because every action here has consequences
17:39Every choice he makes affects him and those around him.
17:41This lenient parenting, my dear, harms the child.
17:43It's very possible that it's from the same source.
17:45Almost the one about harsh parenting
17:47Actually, my dear, easy parenting is the opposite.
17:49Positive parenting, because that's the definition.
17:51Parenting can actually be negative.
17:53Now, my dear, let me tell you something that experts and sources say about it.
17:55Children feel safe
17:57When their families are in control, they become the ones who control them.
17:59According to research, children are more comfortable.
18:01When there are clear boundaries
18:03This kind of makes them wonder how the world works.
18:05The boundaries you're setting fill a space
18:07The child's brain is still empty, and she
18:09The world's problems and the needs the world will face.
18:11When he grows up, you compensate him for a part
18:13His mind is still immature
18:15Taman, my dear, the absence of boundaries makes skill very important.
18:17When a child is involved in solving problems
18:19If there are no limits, we won't be able to maneuver.
18:21And you need the idea of evasion.
18:23I need the Problem Solving Skills that the boy needs to learn.
18:25He can deal with problems and he can avoid problems
18:27Boundaries in education are a factor like
18:29Simulation of world problems
18:31Also, my dear, you might think that this is something that harms the child, but
18:33But actually, she's also destructive.
18:35Parents are suffering from poor mental health.
18:37According to author Dara Katz
18:39The one who describes herself as Millennial Piran
18:41When her child cried out to him one day, the day had come
18:43She is in psychological agony as she imagines her child.
18:45When he grew up and sat on the chaise lounge
18:47The therapist tells him that this is the moment
18:49What didn't destroy my child when she upset me
18:51The mother said that today she caused her daughter trauma
18:53Parents are often very afraid to set boundaries.
18:55Let them remain tough and feel the passage of time.
18:57They are forced to completely disguise themselves
18:59For the sake of their high status, my dear
19:01They might then turn out to be level characters
19:03So they don't stand up easily with their fathers
19:05Those who were easygoing with them when they were young
19:07But my dear, you are unable to raise your children properly.
19:09Unless you are a good person to begin with.
19:11It's important for you, my dear.
19:13As a father and mother, to raise your children well
19:15I hope you all stay well too.
19:17Be good to yourselves and be good to each other
19:19The study was conducted in 2010.
19:21One of the most important indicators of good child-rearing
19:23The parents should know
19:25They control stress levels
19:27And the pressure levels, and they know how themselves
19:29They manage their negative emotions
19:31Dr. Robert Epstein, who oversaw the study, says
19:33Your children benefit not only from the way you treat them
19:35But they also see how you treat your partner.
19:37And how do you deal with yourself?
19:39This is what the data from the other study indicates, namely that
19:41Depressed mothers who can't cope with children
19:43And they respond to their behavior by ignoring them
19:45Or Bird is really exaggerated
19:47And there is definitely a relationship between the mother's psychological state
19:49And the method of raising them
19:51The third problem, my dear, and the most important one, is in easy parenting.
19:53It deprives the child of something very important.
19:55It is the feeling of boredom
19:57What is Abu Hamad's position? Yes
19:59Do you remember me, my dear? What did I sit with you for? With your smile
20:01Because of the extended period of easy parenting, parents think
20:03How can they be entertained by them?
20:05And games they participate in at clubs
20:07He takes courses that will do whatever he wants.
20:09According to a study of work conducted in 2014
20:11For children who are six years old, all the activities are part of his system.
20:13More like football games or head lessons
20:15Everything that reduces the number of direct executive functions
20:17Like a process that helps a child regulate their emotions
20:19He achieves his goals, which are defined.
20:21He knows how to achieve it himself, and on a long journey.
20:23You're making us an adult with mental health issues.
20:25A more stable psyche, of course.
20:27Physical health too, Abu Ahmed, you're the one who's been through it with me.
20:29What should we do? Hit him with a shoe.
20:31We didn't leave him alone and he did what he wanted.
20:33Are you implying from your words that we should leave the child to suffer?
20:35I feel bored and he explores science on his own.
20:37Exactly, my dear, according to some reading.
20:39Psychologist, Ms. Nickel Ungar, Co-Director
20:41For the Abahus Resilience Center at Dalhousie University
20:43He says that boredom in a hyper-stimulation context
20:45Children have opportunities to practice creativity
20:47The child is constantly watching content while on the mobile phone.
20:49He's always playing, there's no chance for him to shine.
20:51He explores, he knows, needs
20:53He's not in front of her and doesn't always interact with her.
20:55All the time there are inputs entering and gnawing at him
20:57He's not looking for new inputs
20:59According to research, the more parents prepare
21:01The way to their children is through protection and the garage.
21:03Removing obstacles reduces the feeling
21:05The father, with his competence and independence, and also
21:07Life even in adulthood
21:09Dr. Holly Shiffrin from Mary Washington University
21:11She says if the parents don't participate enough with their son
21:13That's not a good thing
21:15And also, if they participate too much, that's not a good thing.
21:17Because the situation ends with the children being
21:19They don't have the skills they need as adults.
21:21Reda was similarly pleased with the parents who were talking to her at the university.
21:23They arrange something beneficial for their children or talk to her.
21:25Because of their grades, she was telling them to leave the kids alone.
21:27She comes and speaks for herself, as you can see.
21:29Parents are comfortable, but the children don't know how to turn out worse.
21:31They don't have space to relax and contemplate.
21:33Unfortunately, my dear, experimentation was the only solution.
21:35So that parents realize that easy parenting
21:37We fix the broken spoon by breaking it.
21:41That's why we see over time that the trend
21:43The trend towards lax parenting in the world is declining.
21:45This is according to the website.
21:47Easy parenting is back in a big way
21:49In the value of educational trends in 2024
21:51That's not how it is, my dear, parents in their rebellion
21:53They're back to this easy parenting again.
21:55For easy breeding, two loads like a pendulum
21:57Two pregnant camels, one leaning to the right and the other to the left, don't know how to stop in the middle.
21:59And like any pendulum, the time has come for it.
22:01Stop in the text
22:03Responsible parenting and discipline
22:05And that, my dear, remains the ideal point.
22:07Between harsh parenting styles
22:09and the easy parenting style
22:11This approach, my dear, combines two things
22:13A strong bond develops between you and the child
22:15You communicate with him, you listen to him, and he trusts you.
22:17You do activities together
22:19You take your feelings together
22:21It focuses more on good behavior than punishment.
22:23But it also has its limits.
22:25It is not without discipline and guidance.
22:27My dear, it's called the style of a caring teacher.
22:29Because limits are necessary in it
22:31As we said, so that children feel safe.
22:33This approach is characterized by supporting the children's families.
22:35High demands to be able to perform it
22:37A style that sees outbursts of anger and bad behaviors
22:39Not a force from the children, nor a means of exerting pressure
22:41So that children get what they love
22:43Here, neither harsh firmness nor excessive leniency is required.
22:45Of course, the parents were left to wander about.
22:47In Daz, how and when does it happen?
22:49And when it doesn't happen, that's what's important in this case.
22:51You're dealing with these bad behaviors as a message.
22:53And she tries to understand your child's needs from her
22:55The best way to teach him is to be near him.
22:57No matter what happens, I still won't give up.
22:59And you will not compromise on the boundaries you set.
23:01And don't try to replace your love of power with your son.
23:03These boundaries are meant to be comfortable and not create a strong time barrier.
23:05Those who have tried this method, my dear, are the ones who evaluate themselves.
23:07And they are being evaluated, which is very important, my dear.
23:09The limit here is not that you suppress the child's feelings
23:11The child's feelings are genuine; he doesn't like studying.
23:13This is something to be respected and important.
23:15The child will reconcile with him and understand that these are feelings.
23:17Natural and understandable, nobody likes studying
23:19Even now, Ali and I do food reviews.
23:21Honestly, we just need to get to know each other. What do you say?
23:23Candle, what do you suggest?
23:25You're burning, my dear, don't lie.
23:27The idea that I now have feelings against studying is normal.
23:29But does that mean I shouldn't study? That's not normal.
23:31This means how he can learn the right way
23:33It's important, my dear, that we acknowledge these awful feelings.
23:35We cannot deny it to the child
23:37The child doesn't like studying, so that's okay.
23:39The child doesn't like studying, but
23:41What are we going to do next?
23:43What we'll talk to the child about is, "Yes, I don't like studying."
23:45But I have to study, yes, I don't like it
23:47Swimming exercises, but I have to go to the training and exercise.
23:49Yes, I don't like to sleep early, but I have to.
23:51I go to sleep early so I can wake up early.
23:53Because the problem at school is that the tolerant father
23:55The child's feelings are the focus of completion
23:57On the other hand, a lazy father wants to relax.
24:00The father's feelings here are the focus of the father's attention.
24:02His son's feelings here are quite the opposite.
24:03Therefore, he also avoids any conflicts with the child here.
24:06Neither of these methods leads to good results.
24:08We need to focus on something different.
24:09My dear, we should focus on what needs to be done.
24:12What is it that we want?
24:13Or what do our children want?
24:14Well, now, Abu Ahmed, I've had a baby, thank God.
24:17And I applied some rules to it that I think are fire
24:20And his feelings tell him that he doesn't feel that these rules are fire
24:23He doesn't like studying
24:24And I learned in the last self-awareness session that feelings are not up for discussion.
24:27But on the other day, Abu Ahmed, I want to apply the rules and I want to raise [the children/children ...
24:30How do I do this? How do I raise him while at the same time letting him know that I respected his feelings?
24:34The solution here, my dear, is to abandon disciplinary punishment methods.
24:37We were all raised to believe that discipline comes through punishment.
24:40In T My youngest
24:41In Tanapatra, the responsible party, dear, the matter is different.
24:42I accept feelings along with the torture of the cellulite
24:44Who is the one who is talking and talking to everyone?
24:45I know that playing in the garden is very fun
24:47I'll make him understand, my dear, that you are antidote to these feelings.
24:49I know that studying is boring
24:51But we don't have to study
24:53I know the game is fun
24:55But we need to sleep
24:56I know you like this
24:57And I know you hate this
24:58I know you hate this, but we have to do what we're supposed to do, with a smile of course.
25:02Because of the psychology of the hoard
25:03Normally, my dear, when we set boundaries for children, they rebel, throw a tantrum, and break their plates.
25:07This is supposed to be a normal type of thing.
25:08My dear, we can't just leave them with boundaries, but we can give them space to express their feelings.
25:14As long as you abide by the rules, don't worry, I'll tell you to gossip, no problem.
25:18And these are things that don't warrant punishment.
25:20This emotional bonding is a child's right, just as we provide it by telling them the rules to follow.
25:24My dear son received a message from his mother saying, "Mom, I don't like studying."
25:27So she says, "You love studying, and you'll study against your will so you can succeed and not be left behind."
25:33This is the hall's corset.
25:34This negative reaction will only serve to worsen the feelings.
25:37A lack of understanding of feelings makes the child feel like he'll do that every time.
25:41Every time he expresses his feelings, every time he admits that he has certain feelings and expresses them, he will be punished.
25:47If this is wrong
25:48It's wrong of me to have feelings that people see as a problem.
25:51So, my dear, you'll learn that doing something very bad is hurting his feelings. It's perfectly normal for us as individuals to change.
25:56That's normal, but everyone will find themselves acting in roundabout ways because they're afraid to admit to themselves and the people they love that they're changing.
26:03It's normal for us to be afraid.
26:04But some people feel that these feelings shouldn't be expressed; they can't feel fear right now. So they start acting differently. They might become irritable and clumsy so no one notices they're scared because they can't control themselves. But they accept that they are actually scared and try to get used to being afraid.
26:18My dear, you're revealing defense mechanisms, and people don't understand why you're doing that.
26:21Discipline, my dear, in positive parenting is different from punishment.
26:23Punishment is based on the idea that the child suffers and adapts, whether psychologically or physically, while discipline focuses on teaching and guidance to help the child solve a problem, because the ultimate goal of proper upbringing is not simply to impose our opinion.
26:35We're all in the same boat; we all want our children to grow up to be well-adjusted, respectful, and capable of solving their own problems and taking responsibility for their actions.
26:41Although this is difficult to implement, it requires patience and understanding the child's needs without anger, but in the long run it strengthens the relationship between parents and children.
26:49Instead of punishment, which gives you immediate results but only builds up shame and resentment in your child, destroying their self-esteem through training and reducing their ability to understand their mistakes and solve their own problems in the future.
26:59In the future, setting boundaries doesn't mean there's no consequence. Firm limits are an essential part of setting boundaries. For example, you might use a certain look to say that you don't approve of that behavior. Try this, my friend.
27:08Brother, are you not happy with me, or is this something you're ashamed of? I feel like you need a Tetonin injection. I mean, you don't have to take that look from him, do you?
27:14The important thing is that you use a non-harmful approach with the child that conveys firmness, or if they do something you don't like, ignore it intentionally.
27:19Yes, you know, my dear, children are like, "They're dying to get your attention," so they might not do anything just to get your attention. If you show them you're not interested, they'll stop misbehaving without any confrontation.
27:28Dear Qaw'a, this works with the technique.
27:30Abu Ahmad, I know when you're weak, my dear Qaw'a
27:33my dear
27:34Wait, the episode isn't over yet. Okay, I'll eat everything, please. I don't want it used up in the blogger. I'm just kidding.
27:39On another note, it's important to reward positive behavior. If you want to praise him, go ahead, but of course, don't turn it into a constant stream of compliments. Reward him for his hard work and effort, or he'll become spoiled and go to another level, becoming overly permissive. I won't be able to keep up with you then.
27:51When you confront your child, whether positively or negatively, remember that you love them. And of course, my dear, no parents in the world are perfect. All fathers and mothers lose their temper sometimes, if not all the time. All parents lose their temper, and all parents, out of frustration, want to leave the house and walk away.
28:04We won't have another place to go, but any threat, you know, won't last. I've decided on the standard, my dear.
28:10I'm okay with it, we might fail this time, but we'll try to fix it next time. It's like your relationship with the gym; we might go once, get a gym membership, and then not go, but every time we try to go, and every time the number increases. That's life, attempts and challenges, my dear. Honestly, when I was looking at you, I thought, "Wow, when I was talking to you, you were busy with kids, and now you're taking care of them!" Of course, my dear, one of the most important things for parents is coordination between them. The mother, God bless her, shouldn't just be sitting there forbidding and punishing and...
28:40The kids are growing up, running to you, "Daddy's here, Daddy's here!" And you go in with all sorts of treats, sweets, toys, and fun. Then they come complaining, and you appease them, saying, "No, my dear, it's okay, we'll let you off this time. We have no one else but Hamada." "Sorry, Mama, we'll forgive you this time." "No, you're disrupting the system, my dear. There has to be coordination. It's not right for one person to be punished while another is the one who gets to be the kind, affectionate one who goes with you." "No, you see, some mothers aren't pious. You go and talk in front of everyone."
29:10You have to do something, you have to act, you have to do something! Your son is slipping away from us and it's your fault! Of course, the father is furious, furious! What did that son of a bitch do? He goes to the boy and finds her holding him, hugging him, and trying to hurt him. You were going to tell him, "I'm just being silly, Abu Hamad, you're exaggerating. The time has changed, and he's a young child, it's not right to treat him like that. You'll scare him, his mental health will suffer, woman! You're the one who saved me from this ordeal. Stop this nonsense! Stop trying to make the child pay for each other's sake!"
29:40We talk to the children to understand what happened, to understand if they deserved the punishment or not. Maybe they have a problem, maybe they are being wronged. This will always give them the ability to express themselves, to speak up and say what the problems are, without being ashamed or afraid of you.
29:53Honestly, Abu Hamad, from what you've said, I feel that I'm exactly like that with my son. My parenting is responsible; I manage time gently, lovingly, and also set boundaries and punish him for a problem. He's a dear friend, and this whole thing makes sense from the outside, like my situation. Because if you ask any parent what kind of parenting they see in their son, they'll choose the positive kind we mentioned: that he's got the upper hand, that he's smart, and that he loves children.
30:23Whether we actually apply this parenting style or not depends on the writer. Dara Katz is the first step to describing parenthood before choosing and applying a parenting style. We should describe her life as imperfect parents because that's just how the world is. No one has seen this show perfectly, just so we know. Millennials can be described as the first generation to realize they're not perfect and that their relationship with their abilities and feelings isn't ideal. Back in the day, my friend, you would ask any father or mother...
30:53What should I do about parenting? I'll tell you, honestly, raise them and teach them the best way possible. This is the first generation to have genuine doubts, and we've seen, my dear, that the reasons are social media. We've become people who talk and talk about parenting, people appear on TV programs, people write posts about their children doing this and that, and the whole moms' group is constantly comparing themselves to others. This feeling of fear that exists among millennials will start to be passed on to the next generation, like the...
31:23As we discussed, it's normal to feel shame or guilt, to feel like you've fallen short in your duties towards your child. So what do we do about this? That's another question, and we must understand this so we don't get carried away by it. My dear, our important task is to raise our children well; it's far more important than fixing past mistakes. That's why the first step is to understand our past burdens and our situation before we became parents.
31:53He emphasized that parenting is a process of continuous correction of ongoing mistakes. The child is a realistic metaphor for fatherhood and motherhood and the challenges that fathers and mothers face. The Japanese kensuji is a ceramic plate that broke, but it was repaired by gluing its cracks with gold, making it much more beautiful than it was when it was whole. To achieve this, it had to be broken so it could be reattached. Perhaps, my dear, this plate has reflected cracks and flaws in us, but instead of compensating for them with disastrous questioning of children...
32:23Our point here is that we are dealing with it with a golden moderation that doesn't erase its existence, doesn't deny it, and doesn't leave it as persistent scars and wounds that look frightening. Parenting, my dear, is not complete questioning nor absolute tyranny, but rather a middle ground where we acknowledge that we, as parents, are imperfect. This is a very important point, my dear; it might be the most important point in this episode because, as we said, you will never be able to completely correct yourself, you won't be able to see which one you are. But if you are aware that you, before, might always make mistakes, will always try to correct them.
32:53He recycles his past and its flaws, learns from them, and transforms them into something more beautiful and balanced in his approach to dealing with his children.
32:59The thing I want to emphasize to you, my dear, in this episode is that resources are extremely important. There's no easy answer to how to truly raise our children, and no one will agree on which type of parent they are objectively. One of the things we've tried to convey in this episode is that you realize you're a parent who develops over time, a parent who still has a long way to go, a parent who doesn't know the answer now and doesn't necessarily know it later, but this parent and mother should still try.
33:23Remember, my dear, that parents educate themselves before they educate their children. Finally, the children of Zar, finally! Come on!
33:53I swear I'll walk