00:00You don't have trust issues. Your nervous system will learn exactly when to stop trusting.
00:04Everyone's out here calling themselves bad at relationships or too guarded like it's a personality
00:07flaw. It's not. Your nervous system made a calculated decision based on real data.
00:12Your brain has a threat detection system called neuroception. It operates below conscious
00:17awareness, constantly scanning for safety or danger. And it learns. Every time you trusted
00:22and got burned, someone left, someone lied, someone made you feel like your needs were a
00:27burden. Your neuroception took notes. It didn't forget. So now when someone gets close to your
00:31body, sounds the alarm before your mind even knows why. That's not dysfunction. That's a system working
00:37exactly as it was designed. It's protecting you from a pattern it already has evidence for.
00:42But here's the problem. Your nervous system has no concept of time. It doesn't know that that was
00:47then and this is now. It just knows intimacy plus vulnerability equals pain. And it's not going to
00:52let you forget that no matter how many times you tell yourself this person is different. You're not
00:56bad at trusting your excellent pattern recognition. The issue isn't that you can't trust. It's that
01:00your body hasn't gotten the update that it's allowed to. The walls you built aren't character
01:04flaws. They were architecture. They kept you safe when nothing else would. But walls that were built
01:09for survival can become a prison if you don't know how to take them down. You don't convince your
01:13nervous system to trust by thinking about it. You give in new experiences, small ones. Moments where
01:18you let someone in just a little and nothing bad happens. The moment where you say the thing you're
01:22afraid to say and the person stays. When you ask for something and it doesn't get used against you.
01:26Your neuroception updates through experiences, not logic.
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