00:00ambition we all got it we're all pretty assertive and you have to be especially
00:08if you're an entrepreneur or freelancer but there's the word bitch or being
00:13bitchy if you're a little too assertive or asking for what you want how do you
00:18handle that because gentlemen they don't seem to have that problem they're
00:21considered go-getters being in business for yourself I had to do it this week
00:26mm-hmm somebody tried to mess my time and my money in my context things that I
00:30mess with that assert myself and the next day I was second-guessing myself and I
00:34talked to my mother and my boyfriend they were like no you did the right thing and
00:38I thought why am I second-guessing myself so I feel like yeah you're called the
00:42B word when you're a woman when you're a man you're called assertive and it's just
00:45about if you are gonna be an entrepreneur your own brand nobody's gonna hustle for
00:48you like you never apologize for doing the right thing I think you're a B when
00:52you backstep other women yeah when you when you mess with somebody else's money
00:55or time that's when you're B mmm I agree church every day I'm told I mean like
01:01every night every day but mostly I mean most of the time I have an attitude and I
01:11am a bitch mm-hmm and they'll tell you that and be comfortable telling you of
01:15course of course because they think that I'll take it lightly and I'll be like yeah
01:20all right you know I guess and try to change my attitude which only makes me
01:23want mm-hmm to be more ambitious right and only you know I think there there's
01:28sometimes people get upset that you believe in your vision yeah way more
01:33than what they see and you try to explain to them and continue you know and they'll
01:38try to fix your vision and try to tell you how to do things you're like no no I
01:42I know what I see I said what I said right this is what I'm going to do and if you're
01:49gonna ride with me cool if you're not gonna ride with me you can fall off it's
01:52cool don't like that they don't like that that line for yourself they're like I
01:55don't care how much I'm gonna struggle going through whatever if I see the
02:00vision and I know that it's gonna work for me it's gonna work for me you know so
02:04that that word bitch you can call me bitch all day I'll be bitching to the bank but
02:09they often say that too though to make you power down to make you like you said to be
02:13like oh no I don't want to be perceived yeah I don't care I actually had to tell a co-worker
02:17one time I was like if I was a Caucasian male we wouldn't be having this conversation I've
02:22said that before I was like we're having this conversation and that's the sad part about it is
02:26that you know you get that categorization and I think for me especially for all of us as
02:30women of color we have a lot of hurdles to get over when it comes to being in the
02:34workplace being an entrepreneur exactly before you get there because of how
02:38people perceive you and so I never feel bad about having to stand up for myself
02:42or be assertive about something because at the end of the day I know that's what
02:45I'm owed and that's what I deserve and people actually respect you more when you
02:49stand up for what you believe in and you don't take BS from them they're gonna talk
02:54about you the whole uber subway ride home but yes but you check on me
03:00you
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