00:00This year has been crazy for celebrity marriages, T.I. and Tiny are getting a divorce, can you
00:07believe it?
00:08Jesse Williams and his wife are divorcing, and y'all, Lala and Carmella Anthony are on
00:12the rocks.
00:13But even when you take out the celebrity factor, marriage is just tough.
00:16What do you guys think people get wrong about marriage?
00:20Going.
00:21Communication.
00:22Communication.
00:23Communication.
00:24I think that that is the biggest part of marriage.
00:29Once you have that nailed, then everything else kind of comes along a lot more easily.
00:36But when you mess up communication, then you're just setting yourself up with a lot of hurdles.
00:41Yeah.
00:42Right.
00:43Emby, what do you think?
00:44I mean, I agree.
00:45I think communication is the key when it comes to everything, whether it's something going
00:47on in a relationship, whether it's finances, whether it's sex, you know.
00:51I think women get a sex drive when they get a little older.
00:54Their sex drive increases.
00:55So, men have to make sure that we can match, whether it's, you know, like this weekend
01:01was our anniversary.
01:02Congratulations.
01:0316 years.
01:04Nice.
01:0516 years.
01:06Congratulations.
01:07So, you know, we had to have a lot of sex this weekend.
01:09We didn't have to have it.
01:10We didn't have to have it.
01:12We didn't have to have it.
01:13We didn't have to have it.
01:14It just turned out that way.
01:15I'm already sipping.
01:16That's a lot of sex.
01:17That's a lot.
01:18Now that we know about their sex lives, like we know how they've kept it hot for 16 years.
01:22What do you guys, how did people get it, how to get it wrong in their marriages?
01:25I think people think it's dating.
01:27Like, it's not dating.
01:28Like, once you stop being a boyfriend and girlfriend, it's not going to stay the same.
01:33Exactly.
01:34Like, this is, it becomes work.
01:35You have to really work at your marriage.
01:37It's not, you can't just like mail it in.
01:39There isn't a mail-in date like, oh, okay, I'm going to just take Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday,
01:43Friday, Saturday off.
01:44Every day, you got to check in.
01:45It is a job.
01:46It's a job.
01:47It is a job.
01:48You have to tend to love because sometimes there's kids involved.
01:51There's in-laws involved.
01:53You know, it's not just about you anymore.
01:54Right, yeah.
01:55It's a job.
01:56If you look at it as a job, then that sucks all of the fun out of it.
02:01It does, but you have to go into it with, I think, you have to go into it with an understanding
02:05that this is not, to your point, because it's not going to be like the way it was.
02:09The flowers may or may not keep coming, but if that was the impetus of why you married
02:14the man, then you might be in it for the wrong reasons.
02:17If you're expecting the gifts that came when he was courting you, that sometimes die
02:22because other priorities come into play.
02:24Things come, you know, things shift around.
02:26That's so interesting.
02:27And so it's kind of like if you then get, oh, he don't check for me, and ain't nobody
02:31calling me, and when I text him, he don't check, you know your husband got a job.
02:34Right?
02:35I mean, like, let's be realistic about it.
02:36But you know, the thing about marriage is-
02:37He should be.
02:38But we do, though.
02:39You know, the same things that we do when we date it is the same things that we do now,
02:42whether it is flowers.
02:43To the full level.
02:44Whether it's checking in.
02:45More.
02:46Really?
02:47More.
02:48Okay, was it all 16 years?
02:49Because I want to understand how-
02:50It wasn't all 16 years.
02:52Okay, all right.
02:53So what else?
02:54How about you learn?
02:55You know, because you start going through a part of your relationship where you take
02:59somebody for granted.
03:00Like, you don't-
03:01No, no, no.
03:02You don't take somebody.
03:03You took me for granted.
03:04All right.
03:05All right.
03:06Okay, right.
03:07Let's call it what it is.
03:08Tea.
03:09Tea is the same.
03:10I just want to jump in.
03:11What do you think?
03:12I took her for granted.
03:13So it was one of those things where it's your wife.
03:14You'd be like, oh, she's there.
03:15I can do what I want to do.
03:16She'll be there.
03:17She'll be there.
03:18I don't have to compliment her.
03:19We don't have to go out.
03:20We don't have to go on dates.
03:21We don't have to do those things.
03:22We'll have sex tomorrow.
03:23Right.
03:24And then you realize, nah, it's not working.
03:25We're not happy.
03:26Exactly.
03:27So we go back to what made us happy.
03:29Communication.
03:30Us going on dates.
03:31Us doing little things.
03:32Me sticking her head out the window while we're having sex.
03:34Right.
03:35All right.
03:36Not sticking out on her head, though.
03:37I think it's really interesting that you said that things change after you get married.
03:44That it's not the same, to Emby's point.
03:46Like, things fundamentally change for you and your wife once you got married.
03:49It's the same person over and over.
03:52She's wearing that headscarf again.
03:54You know, we're going to talk about that damn headscarf.
03:55So when you have a problem, you know the headscarf is not her.
03:58So you're going to wear the brown headscarf again?
04:01It's Tuesday again.
04:02You're going to keep wearing it over and over and over.
04:04Yes, because I'm going to keep my hair fresh.
04:06So I think, I think a lot of times you have to know going in that it's going to go,
04:11it's going to have its ebbs and flows.
04:12It's going to go up and down.
04:13It's like the stock market.
04:14It's not going to stay rosy and everything.
04:16Right.
04:17It's going to be good.
04:18The stock market has dropped itself to a silver tower.
04:19Okay.
04:20I think with the stock market, I think it does help us to the tree.
04:21And we're going to get them, they've gone through it.
04:26Back to the wall.
Comments