00:01How much do you tell your family when you're going through stuff and you and
00:04your partner have issues? Do you tell them all the details? Nothing. You don't tell them anything?
00:08No. Unanimous. Alright, why is that? Why do you think?
00:11I think, one, I don't want anybody in our business. Two, because, you know, we could be mad at each other.
00:17And make up. They want to kill each other. But when we make up, it's my business.
00:20And then, a week later, we're happy, holding hands, loving each other. So I don't want to put my family in that process of
00:26being in the middle of, well, they're beefing. Should I talk to Ghia or should I talk to Mershon?
00:30You know, it's the same thing with the kids. We kind of keep it away from all of us.
00:33And what also happens is when you bring your mother, your sister, your aunt into your family beef,
00:39oh, he just called me a this or he just did this, he just did that, they get offended.
00:45They get offended and they get well into it and they create a bigger, it's almost like it becomes what started off as a little
00:52little issue has now escalated into this whole family.
00:55Exactly.
00:56I see you nodding.
00:57And here's another thing.
00:58I'm married to Africans. We are not getting them involved.
01:01My wife, I'm not, how I shouldn't say this, but my wife.
01:03Oh, careful now. We don't get you in trouble.
01:05No, we don't ask this. Let's do it.
01:07No, we don't ask this. Let's do it. Let's do it.
01:09Let's do it.
01:10My wife's mom, right?
01:11Uh oh.
01:12I'm not, I'm not her dad. They broke up.
01:14Don't bring that, that baggage into my relationship.
01:17Early on in our relationship, it's like she would go tell her mom and her mom's like, oh yeah, Quincy just like your dad.
01:23No, I'm not. No, I'm not. Don't do that.
01:26And then people bring in other baggage from their experiences.
01:29I don't need to know what happened in your life because I'm not the same thing.
01:32I'm not the same person.
01:33So has that changed with your wife though?
01:34Hell yeah.
01:35So this is something that you're still currently going through.
01:37No, no, no. See, I don't even talk to my mother-in-law. That's a whole other thing.
01:40Is that the biggest sacrifice that you've made in your marriage? Not talking to your mother-in-law?
01:52No, I mean, I like, when I say I talk to her, like I see her, I'm like, hi.
01:56Hi.
01:57You say yo.
01:58You give her a yo.
02:01What's up?
02:02Because if I get too nice, then she starts getting crazy.
02:06And I've been burned too many times.
02:08So I'll stay away from her.
02:09And you know, it's cool.
02:10It's made our relationship better, me and my wife.
02:12You don't even talk to your mother-in-law.
02:13Speaking of what she said, what's the biggest L that you've taken in your marriage?
02:17Or biggest sacrifice, rather.
02:19Let's not use L.
02:20The biggest sacrifice, I would say, would be the fact that I didn't chase my career when I graduated from college.
02:29What did you want to do?
02:30I have a communications degree, so I was going to go into maybe hosting or anchoring or something like that.
02:37That's always been the lane I wanted to take.
02:40But when we graduated, there was only about a year in between that time that we spent before we got married.
02:50So we got married right away.
02:51We had our first child that same year.
02:54Right away.
02:55And he wanted an at-home wife.
02:57Wow.
02:58And we butted heads constantly about it throughout the years because I always wanted to chase my career, and it's not really what he wanted.
03:08And the reason was is at the time I was DJing and I was starting to get successful, so money was starting to come in.
03:15And we didn't live in Queens.
03:17We lived in Jersey, which was far out.
03:19And for her to have a career and for me to have a career, we would both have to work in Manhattan.
03:23Right.
03:24Which means a nanny would have to raise our child.
03:26Yeah.
03:27And that was more important.
03:28I've seen so many kids where the nanny raises the child and the kid has no respect and the kid has no this.
03:33And I wanted our children to have the mom there, a solid foundation.
03:38Yeah.
03:39And, you know, we have five kids and it worked out well.
03:41Cool.
03:42Yeah.
03:43The hair around the在地-
03:47Right.
03:48It's really good.
03:49Some of theità around the street, we , we've got nothing whatsoever.
03:51Thank you very much.
03:54Isn't it a very intelligent plan?
03:55But the family who's been and the family who doesn't do that, where my friends and the grade is...
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