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00:00Live from New York City, Essence Live presents the 2015 Slade or Shade Awards, with special appearances by some of our favorite Slade or Shade also.
00:09Comedian, Michelle Bouteau.
00:12Essence Lifestyle and Relationship Editor, Sharia Jackson.
00:15Celebrity Stylist, Rory Weiss.
00:18Media Personality, Tony Anderson.
00:21Essence Relationships and Weddings Editor, Charlie Penn.
00:24Media Personality, Ray Holliday.
00:27Radio Personality, Tracy Jean.
00:30CNN Contributor, Sean Pierre Regis.
00:33And of course, your host, Dana Blair.
00:36Essence Live starts now.
00:44Welcome to Essence Live's inaugural Slade or Shade Awards, where we're recapping and awarding some of the shadiest and most slay-worthy moments of 2015 from Essence Live.
00:53So, let's take a quick look at what exactly goes down during Slade or Shade.
00:57I'm not doing no thought trial.
00:58It's just certain things.
00:59Show up and be slated.
01:01I like children.
01:02Come on, this low-budget character tower.
01:05I'm going to go because the shade was thrown all on me first.
01:09Shade.
01:09Shade.
01:10Shade.
01:11Shade.
01:11Shade.
01:12Shade.
01:12I want to know where are her people at.
01:13Don't put my hand through this.
01:14Oh, wow.
01:15It's a little too much shade down there.
01:17You know how this goes?
01:18You take all that.
01:19I don't care who you are.
01:20Michael Jackson back from the dead.
01:22Your father and your hymen do not belong in the same sentence.
01:25No, I'm joking.
01:26No, that was Shade.
01:28Okay, let's get right into it.
01:30Joining me for the first set of awards is Sean Pierre Regis, Tracy G, and Ray Holliday.
01:35Hey.
01:35Hi.
01:36I have to say it like that because he always causes trouble.
01:38Hello, everyone.
01:39Hello.
01:39How are you?
01:40Thank you for joining me, and I like your accessories.
01:42We like yours, too.
01:43My head being in.
01:44Keep my bangs back.
01:45I know.
01:45Before we get started, let me explain how this is going to work because it's a little different
01:48than our normal slate of Shade.
01:49For each category, there will be three nominees.
01:51Our stars will vote on which nominee they think deserves the award and why.
01:54The nominee that gets the most votes wins, and in the event there isn't a clear winner,
01:59because everybody up here is very opinionated, I will choose the winner.
02:03And at home, panelists, we always love to hear from you, too, so let us know your thoughts
02:06on this year's nominees using the hashtag EssenceLive or by emailing us at EssenceLive
02:10at Essence.com.
02:11Are you ready to hand out some awards?
02:13Yes.
02:14The first category is Like a Boss.
02:17Which nominee pulled the biggest boss move this year?
02:19The nominees are Jay-Z's launch of Tidal in April.
02:22Next nominee is Diner Owner Yells at Baby.
02:26Back in July, the baby had apparently been screaming and crying for at least 40 minutes
02:29in a Portland, Maine diner when the agitated owner clapped back yelling,
02:33need to shut the hell up, to the poor baby.
02:35And our last nominee is the one and only Sharae Whitfield of Real Housewives of Atlanta.
02:40Social media put her on blast in September after finding out she was charging fans $5 to
02:46take a photo with her.
02:47Okay, Ms. Whitfield.
02:48All right, panel, I want your initial thoughts, and Ray, I'll start with you.
02:52Anything that just kind of hits you about these subjects?
02:55Well, in real life, Jay-Z is probably the biggest boss as a whole, because Tidal is just
03:02amazing, just even putting that whole initiative together.
03:04However, when times are hard, and you have a big establishment like Chateau Sharae, and
03:13the checks aren't really coming in as they once were, I'm not against you charging a smooth
03:21$5.
03:22Could have been $10.
03:23Nah, she should be ejected from this category.
03:25You know, honestly.
03:26She's not a boss move.
03:27Nah, she's like invisible to me.
03:29So, since we're moving past sarcasm into seriousness, I'm really thinking it has to go to Jay-Z.
03:35Initially, I was super, like, all caps conflicted with Tidal, because it looked like an Illuminati
03:41induction.
03:42However, when I peel that back and just look at Hove as a human being, with the same red
03:48blood as we have, I'm like, you know what?
03:51He's killing it.
03:52I have to argue that the biggest entrepreneurial move was Sharae, because talk about a hustle.
03:58These people, these Elmo's and Snoopy's in Times Square are charging $5 for photos.
04:04And then they take their head off at lunch break.
04:07But they're making hundreds of dollars a day.
04:09Yo, there's that.
04:10I want y'all's vote now.
04:12So, who gets to like a boss award?
04:14Is it A, Jay-Z launching title, B, nobody even care about that poor diner owner yelling at
04:18The Crying Baby, or C, Sharae, who won't pay for these pictures, boo, Whitfield.
04:23One, two, three.
04:24C, A, C, O.
04:26Huh?
04:26You went with, you made up.
04:28So that means Sharae won.
04:30How is a peddler, yo, being a peddler, being an entrepreneur are not synonymous, boy.
04:35The votes have spoken.
04:36She's a hustler.
04:36We have to move on now.
04:37The votes have spoken.
04:38Our next category is going to be a pretty interesting one.
04:41It's, girl, it's not worth it.
04:43Or is it?
04:44We're going to award the strangest beauty trend.
04:46The nominees are No Soap on the Vajayjay.
04:50This piece of advice came from reality star Dr. Jacqueline Walters, aka Dr. Jackie, who
04:55said back in May that we ladies should stop cleaning our hoo-hahs with soap, okay?
05:00That's number one.
05:01The second nominee is Semen Facials.
05:03Yes, you heard me correctly.
05:04I said Semen Facials.
05:06You might remember this story from November where one writer said that she had her friend
05:09freshly deliver his semen to her in a takeout container so she could immediately rub it
05:14into her face.
05:14And last, we can't forget about the other wacky facial trend from April 2015, baby foreskin
05:20for everything.
05:21Apparently, it fights acne, treats hyperpigmentation, and reduces wrinkles.
05:25Hide your kids.
05:26Just go on hide your kids.
05:28All right.
05:28So, panel, what are your initial thoughts?
05:30Tracy, I'm going to start with you.
05:32And yes, I'm being serious.
05:34Okay.
05:34Well, the foreskin, like, that joint has been around for a long time.
05:37And that's a nice, like, reciting.
05:38No pun intended.
05:39Bye, girl!
05:45But seriously, like, you know, that's, like, a nice human recycling system, in a sense.
05:51Like, where else is the foreskin going to go?
05:52Into our soil?
05:53So, if you can use it.
05:55Tracy, I can't.
05:56Sean, your face is in shock.
05:58What are your thoughts?
05:58This whole segment is just a lot.
06:02Even our foreskin.
06:03I didn't know that my new year was going to be started off like this.
06:05This is what we do.
06:06My God.
06:07Well, I would say, I would have to agree that I think the foreskin thing is probably the most natural.
06:11I'm not trying to run anywhere to put semen on my face to keep it youthful.
06:16Even if it's freshly delivered?
06:17Even if it's freshly, especially if it's freshly delivered.
06:20Fresh dirt.
06:20Oh, I mean, it's just all too much.
06:23It's just too much.
06:24You need a moment.
06:24Yes.
06:25That's right, too.
06:25Ray, thoughts?
06:26Now, I don't have a vagina, but if I did have one, I'd want a fresh one.
06:34And so, I guess my question is, if we're not using soap, what are we using?
06:40She was trying to say it's like a self-cleaning oven.
06:42Exactly.
06:44So, all you need is water and a nice pan.
06:47Okay, so we're going to vote.
06:49Which trend gets the girl it's not worth it?
06:51Or is it?
06:52Award for the strangest beauty trend is it A, no soap to clean your vagina,
06:55B, semen facials, or C, baby foreskin treatments?
06:59One, two, three.
07:00I know this is hard.
07:01Oh, we have a B.
07:02Oh, my gosh.
07:03Come on, y'all.
07:05All right.
07:05Come on, y'all.
07:05Three, two.
07:07Oh, B.
07:07Oh, so B, semen facials.
07:11That's the winner.
07:12So, we're going to move on to our third category.
07:14Okay.
07:14The hashtag PettyWap Award.
07:16The award is going to the one Slater Shade topic that was just straight up petty.
07:21The nominees are Petty Child Support Check.
07:23After dealing with what she said was her fiance's meddlesome baby mama in November,
07:27one woman came up with a rather unique solution.
07:30She created custom personal checks with pictures of herself and her hubby-to-be
07:34with a caption that read,
07:37We're getting married.
07:38Why?
07:38So the baby mama would be reminded of her wedded bliss every time she got her child support.
07:42Check.
07:43That really did happen.
07:45Next up is 50 Cent filing for bankruptcy.
07:47Now, bankruptcy isn't uncommon with celebrities,
07:50but 50 is up for a PettyWap Award because he only filed to avoid paying money for lawsuits.
07:55And finally, Diddy's infamous love contract from May 2015.
07:59When Bravo's Andy Cohen asked Mr. Combs about marriage,
08:02Diddy said he wasn't ready for marriage, but was all for a love contract.
08:06Whatever that is.
08:08Okay.
08:08So initial thoughts.
08:09Sean, you look at...
08:10I think Diddy is brilliant.
08:12I'm trying to get into love contracts.
08:13Oh, okay.
08:14I'm protecting my money.
08:15He is a businessman.
08:16It doesn't matter if you're married or not.
08:18People are coming for your money.
08:20You need to make sure they sign a non-disclosure agreement.
08:23You need to make sure that they sign, like,
08:25you're not taking any of my money.
08:26You don't speak ill of me.
08:27I do this now with my friends.
08:29With your friends?
08:30So, I'm not surprised.
08:31Absolutely.
08:31You are not dragging my face in the mud when I make it.
08:36So, we go over to your house, we're going to be like,
08:37Oh, sorry.
08:37Yes, sign of the contract or don't step in.
08:39What?
08:39Friendship prenup?
08:40Yes.
08:42Dang.
08:42I would say, from the last time I was here,
08:47old girl that writes,
08:48and we getting married.
08:49Initially, I was like,
08:51come on.
08:52This is too petty.
08:54Like, not in a retweetable way.
08:56Yeah.
08:57It was really cute.
08:58But now thinking back on it,
09:00it leaves a very last, good, lasting impression in my mind.
09:03Mm-hmm.
09:03I'm, like, rather entertained.
09:05Ray?
09:05I love petty people.
09:07And, um, I'm just so intrigued,
09:11and I really want to be her friend.
09:13Because could you imagine how petty her life is?
09:15Like, if she took the time to photograph pictures of, like, rings and being like,
09:21Hey, boo, here's your money, girl.
09:23Uh-huh.
09:23You always going to get it from me, no matter what.
09:26I think that's just so amazing.
09:28Yeah.
09:28I can't even talk to you.
09:29I just...
09:29Okay, so who's going to get the petty wife award?
09:31Is it the petty child support check, 50-cent filing for bankruptcy, or Diddy's love contract?
09:37Oh, it's unanimous here.
09:38Hey.
09:39Whoa.
09:39Gotta love them checks.
09:41All right.
09:41So thank you, everyone, for joining me.
09:43We're going to see you all a little bit later on in the show.
09:45You're sticking around.
09:46We're not done yet.
09:46Coming up is the Slashade Award.
09:48You know that one hot topic that you can't quite figure out, if it's a sleigh or a shade?
09:52Well, we'll be handing out a word out a little bit later on in the show.
09:55Don't move.
09:56More Essence Live when you get back.
09:58This is Kirk Franklin.
10:00This is my music.
10:01This is my life.
10:05There's a song on the album called Intercession, and it was during the month where I was really
10:12in a financial crunch with my company.
10:14And being a small businessman, when you can't pay payroll bills, you have to, you know, you
10:20got to pay it from your pocket.
10:21And it was a month where a lot of bills hit at one time, and it was really, really, really
10:27scary.
10:28It was embarrassing.
10:29It was hard.
10:29And my CPA and my wife were at the table, and my CPA was going over the bills with me,
10:34and I started having anxiety attacks and, you know, feeling really, you know, just feeling
10:40out of control, feeling really, really, I mean, really discouraged and defeated.
10:44And my wife was holding my hand because she could tell I was bugging out.
10:47And something rare really happened at the table.
10:52God just dropped a song in my heart.
10:54Like, sometimes he'll give me ideas for a song or the melody or the lyrics, but he dropped
10:59like a whole complete song.
11:01And I jumped from the table and ran to the piano.
11:05And the song's called Intercession.
11:08I'm not that good, yet I'm amazed you get me through.
11:16It just all came at the same time.
11:18It was really very weird and compassionate and very loving for God to be that kind and
11:27such a father to me in that very moment because I was really, really, really having a very,
11:33very hard moment right there at the table.
11:35Because, you know, as a man, you want to look strong for your girl and, you know, you're
11:40a provider and at that minute I was, you know, very insecure.
11:44But out of the darkest pits come some of the most beautiful melodies and it turned out
11:49to be a really beautiful song.
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12:20Welcome back to Essence Live Slade or Shade Awards.
12:23As we say goodbye to 2015, we're handing out awards for the most buzzworthy topics from Slade
12:28or Shade.
12:28Joining me for these next categories are Michelle Buteau, Sharia Jackson, and Woody Vise.
12:33Go team!
12:35Woo!
12:35So corny.
12:36But we're going to jump right in.
12:39Our next award is the Culture Vulture Award.
12:41Which white person appropriated Black culture the most this year?
12:44And the nominees are Kylie Jenner, Tyga's now legal boo, posted a pic of herself back
12:49in April on Instagram that had millions of her followers saying she was in blackface.
12:53Now, she did try to clear the air, claiming that her photographer used a black light and
12:57neon lights to get the effect, but she still got dragged.
13:01The next nominee is N-word loving Chet Hayes.
13:04Tom Hanks' rapper son faced a flurry of criticism in June when he wrote in an Instagram post that
13:08he said he used the N-word freely and was proud of it.
13:12I mean, for real, Chet.
13:14And who could forget our last nominee, Ms. Rachel Dolezal, the former NAACP president
13:18who lied about her racial identity.
13:21Oh, Rachel.
13:22Here's hoping we just don't have to drag you and nominate you again in 2016.
13:25So, initial thoughts, Michelle?
13:28Well, you know, I feel like when entitled white kids try to do something, you know, sassy,
13:35it's like, mm, no.
13:37But even, like, it doesn't matter if they're, like, white or white.
13:40Like, even if Will Smith's kid used the N-word, I'd be like, boo-boo, you don't know anything
13:44about that life.
13:44Right, right.
13:45So, I'm going for Rachel because she lived it.
13:48She was, like, into the wild, but instead, but, yeah, but into, like, the black wild,
13:53you know what I mean?
13:54So, say, say, say all the way.
13:55That's where you're going?
13:56Yes.
13:57I'm not really, like, doing the vote just yet.
13:58Oh, we're not?
13:59But I like what you're, you're, you're sorry.
14:01I'm so bad with direction.
14:02It's okay, it's okay, you're cute.
14:03I'm lost in your eyes.
14:03You're cute and you're serving me a lot.
14:04You're cute with it.
14:05Sharia?
14:05I'm so glad we have this category because these culture vultures need to be called out,
14:10and there is a full range in this category.
14:12You have a dabbler like a Kylie who's like, you know, I'm going to pretend with my black boyfriend,
14:16but when it's convenient, I get pulled over, I'm black to being a white girl.
14:19And then you have the I'm all in Rachel who's on IG with her new kinky curly.
14:23Give the hair to her.
14:24I love, you know, next year we might have to have a varied one because we have such a range of vultures here,
14:28so I can't wait to tear them all apart.
14:30Oh, okay.
14:30Well, honestly, this is so sensitive for me because I get really offended.
14:38No, I get really offended when people try to take away from our culture.
14:41I feel like we kind of work hard to be who we are, even though it does come naturally.
14:46It's like you have to fight to keep what's yours.
14:48What's yours?
14:48Yeah.
14:49And then it so easily becomes the other's thing because it's cool,
14:54but when we do it, it's demeaned and turned into a whole other thing.
14:59I don't know.
15:00You don't know?
15:01Okay, well, then we'll vote it.
15:02It's an iffy one.
15:03We'll do a quick vote.
15:04It's an iffy one for me because I really want to go or.
15:07Vulture Award.
15:08I do, but I'm being good for you.
15:10It's going to be A, Kylie Jenner, B, Chet Hanks, or C, Rachel Dolezal.
15:14A, B, C, one, two, three, thoughts?
15:16Clearly.
15:17Oh, we got C, C, and B.
15:19Well, you lost.
15:20Wow.
15:20And Rachel Dolezal wins.
15:23Our next award is called, I'm sorry, what?
15:27This award goes to the most outlandish story.
15:29Okay, the nominees are R. Kelly for kind of, sort of, maybe, but not really addressing
15:34his alleged sex crimes in a November interview with New York Magazine.
15:37When asked if he was attracted to underage girls, Kells responded,
15:42that's a rumor that comes from the earth.
15:44Like all rumors.
15:45I don't know what that was supposed to mean.
15:47The next nominee is Keisha Cole.
15:49She got dragged for filth when she posted a picture of her, quote,
15:52bikini line tattoo on Instagram.
15:54However, social media thought the tattoo looked like a plain old hairline and not in a good way.
15:59And our final contender is James.
16:01Winner, winner, no chicken dinner.
16:03Miner.
16:03Miner found $4,500 in cash in his dinner order from Bojangles' restaurant, and he returned it.
16:09But what did he get for his good deed?
16:12Just a free meal and a $100 gift card from Bojangles.
16:14Sharia, start us off.
16:16Well, I feel like, let's start with Mr. Bojangles here, because R. Kelly's too heavy for me.
16:19But I'm like, if you gave the money back, you really can't be that mad with the reward.
16:23Because if you wanted to have your full reward, you would have kept that daggone money.
16:27And Keisha, Lord Jesus, we're just going to continue to...
16:30She's the queen of I'm sorry, what?
16:32So I send her the best.
16:33And R. Kelly, I wish he wasn't on the earth that he speaks of.
16:37Oh, dang it.
16:38Oh.
16:38Oh, Worry.
16:39Wow.
16:40Unclutch your pearls and tell me your thoughts.
16:41Oh, my God.
16:42Can you unclutch your pearls?
16:45Do you even know what to...
16:46It's not coming out.
16:47It's not coming out.
16:48Oh, my God.
16:49God.
16:51Jeez.
16:51That's almost as bad as me throwing my cards on the floor.
16:56I have one word for this whole category, and it's just how.
17:00How is that your bikini line?
17:04How?
17:05How?
17:05Like, how is it that you gave back $4,500 cash from a Bojangles body?
17:10How?
17:11Talk about it, Worry.
17:13Talk about it.
17:14How did the earth grow these rumors that you speak of, Robert?
17:17Robert Kelly.
17:18Robert Kelly.
17:19Robert.
17:20Now.
17:21Wow.
17:21How?
17:22Yes.
17:22Okay, Michelle.
17:23No, I'm on the how train.
17:25You're on the how train?
17:26I'm on the how train.
17:27It seems like everybody's on the how train.
17:28So now I guess it's time to vote on these.
17:30Now I'm supposed to believe it.
17:31How?
17:31I'm sorry.
17:32Wait.
17:32What?
17:33Is there an H for how?
17:34Okay, is it R Kelly, B, Keisha Cole, or C, James, Winner, Winner, No Chicken, Dinner,
17:40Miner?
17:41Oh.
17:42C?
17:43Oh.
17:44C?
17:45I can't.
17:46I can't.
17:47I can't.
17:48I can't.
17:49You know what?
17:50My vote is how.
17:51That's my vote.
17:52How.
17:53So our next category is one that comes up almost every week during Essence Live's Slate
17:58of Shade segment.
17:59It's that one hot topic that our panelists can't quite figure out whether to slay or
18:04shade it.
18:05Introducing the Slushade Award.
18:07The nominees are Mr. Zoe Saldana.
18:10That's Zoe Saldana's husband, Marco Perego, who decided in June 2015 to take her surname,
18:15Saldana.
18:16Sierra!
18:17Baby Future and Russell Wilson's family photos, the infamous pictures hit the net in August
18:21and showed the singer's new boo hugging and playing with affectionately Baby Future at his
18:25football practices.
18:26Meanwhile, the singer's baby daddy, Future Senior, put both Sierra and Russell on blast,
18:31calling the photo ops staged and disrespectful.
18:34And our final nominee is Amber Rose's Slut Walk, which doesn't really need any explanation.
18:39All right.
18:40Let's start with some initial thoughts.
18:41Worry.
18:42Okay.
18:43So when the Slut Walk happened.
18:47Why do you look scared?
18:49Because I was scared of the Slut Walk, so I'm trying to figure out what exactly is...
18:54I thought that was the walk of shame.
18:56Oh, no.
18:57She's trying to take back the power.
18:58She's taking back the power.
18:59She's taking back the power.
19:00So take back your power.
19:01And also take back the morning.
19:02And the morning after.
19:03And the morning after.
19:04And the morning after.
19:05Do you know what I mean?
19:06So you're just taking it back.
19:07Fine.
19:08It's interesting.
19:09It's the one that you're most confused about, so...
19:11Yeah.
19:12I...
19:13I don't know.
19:14Okay, okay.
19:15I really don't...
19:16The morning is speechless.
19:17You know, it's not a speechless thing.
19:18It's just like, but what are you proving?
19:20What's happening with this Slut Walk?
19:21So now you've called yourself a Slut, so no one else can?
19:24Right.
19:25Is that how that goes?
19:26What are they all proving?
19:27Like, Zoe Saldana's husband.
19:29Like, I understand that, you know, you're European.
19:32And you're cute.
19:33And you have foreskin.
19:34And, you know, everyone's equal.
19:36And there's probably no prenup.
19:37It might not be no prenup, but like...
19:39That's that kind of move.
19:40Like, I took her name.
19:41You will be.
19:42But the thing is...
19:43Just saying.
19:44But I feel like he's like, I'm sorry.
19:46I can never make the amount of money you make, so I'll take your name and I'll be your...
19:49I think it's powerful.
19:50I have the least amount of shade for...
19:52Really?
19:53For how many millions, billions of women have taken a man's name and still made more money?
19:57So I'm excited.
19:58I wish more men would join him and be open.
20:00Or we can make a new name together.
20:02But I think it's very modern, like in a patriarchy society.
20:05I feel like it's a lot.
20:06Like, we just got gay marriage.
20:07We're just like trying to do one thing at a time.
20:09Well, I have to ask you...
20:10Caitlyn Jenner's Woman of the Year was a lot this year.
20:12That was a lot.
20:13That was a lot.
20:14But which of these topics confuse you the most?
20:16The world is confused.
20:17So what do we say now?
20:19You know what?
20:20Where do we go with that?
20:21Where do we go with that?
20:22No!
20:23Is it A, Mr. Zoe Saldana?
20:25B, Sierra's Baby Daddy Drama?
20:27Or C, the Amber Rose Slut Walk?
20:30For Slushade.
20:31We have an A, a C, a B.
20:33Ooh!
20:34Yeah.
20:35So I get to be a tiebreaker.
20:36Oh, my God.
20:37Oh, my God.
20:38Oh, my God.
20:39I've always wanted to do this.
20:40I think I'm going to have to go with...
20:43I know where you're going.
20:44We know where you're going.
20:45Y'all don't know me.
20:46See?
20:47Y'all don't know where I'm going.
20:48I think I'm going with Zoe Saldana, Mr. Zoe Saldana.
20:50What?
20:52I do.
20:53Thank you to my all-stars.
20:54I'm going to see you a little bit later on in the show.
20:56We've given out six prestigious awards, and we have three more to go.
21:00Find out which celebrity is getting their black card revoked.
21:03I said it.
21:04We're going there.
21:05Essence Live Slater Shade Awards 2015 continues next.
21:10This is V. Bozeman, and this is my hair story.
21:15In my career, I had a season of girl groups.
21:18And, you know, I dyed, fried, cut, weaved, everything.
21:22So when that era was over, I was like, you know what?
21:25Let me just start over.
21:26It's way easier.
21:27Trust.
21:28I'm just a regular girl from South Central LA that's just comfortable in her skin.
21:34I'm still the round-the-way girl, and I can still be my full self.
21:38I'm not neo-soul.
21:40I'm not, you know, prior to the people.
21:45It's just a stereotypical type of, you know, point of view.
21:50I feel like it's the history.
21:51It's the culture.
21:52You know, my family, we grew up, the women grew up feeling like, you know, grow her hair out, you know, and it was a big deal when I cut my hair.
22:03I mean, my grandmother didn't talk to me for months because she felt so betrayed because I had a lot of hair.
22:09So I just feel like they think it's easier for you to, you know, get by because, you know, in their era, it was, you know, it was hard to be black, walking in, you know, black shoes.
22:22So I think hair kind of made it more easier, but it doesn't.
22:28It really doesn't.
22:30My dating life is also much more interesting than it was before because I feel like men are more attracted to me because they feel like I have a sense of confidence that they're not always engaging with.
22:47And I always tend to say, you know, when I embrace my full self, that's when I feel like the whole world kind of embraced V Bozeman, you know, more.
22:55So when I cut it off, I just really saw myself for the first time and I just decided that I liked what I saw.
23:04I was like, oh, yeah, I like that girl.
23:06I'm enough.
23:07This is cool.
23:08Essence has always supported you and what you stand for.
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23:18So you can see what's fresh, try samples before you buy, so you know what works for you.
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23:36Welcome back to Essence Live Slater Shade Awards.
23:38If you're just tuning in, you've missed a whole lot.
23:41But we're honoring the biggest and buzziest Slater Shade topics of 2015 and there are only three categories left.
23:47Joining me for this final segment are Tony Anderson, Charlie Penn, and because he still has more to say, per the usual, Mr. Ray Holiday.
23:54Welcome, welcome, welcome.
23:56Hello.
23:57How are you doing?
23:58I see you.
23:59I see you.
24:00We're going to jump right into it.
24:01Drake has had quite the year, so it's only right we give Champagne Poppy his own category.
24:06We call this one, what else, the Drake Award.
24:09So what do you think was the Drake-iest story of 2015?
24:12Was it Drake's beard?
24:13The ladies loved it.
24:14The fellas kind of imitated it.
24:16Drake versus Meek Mill beef?
24:18The biggest beef maybe, I don't know, since Nicki versus Miley.
24:21Or was it one of the hottest songs of 2015?
24:24Drake's hotline bling.
24:25All offbeat.
24:26Boom.
24:27Gonna give you a little something.
24:28All right, panel.
24:29What are your initial thoughts, Tony?
24:31As a Philadelphia native.
24:32Oh lord.
24:33Seeing Meek Mill get eviscerated in such a way.
24:37You like that?
24:38I went to college.
24:40I went to college.
24:41Eviscerated.
24:42Educated.
24:43I'm a little smart sometimes.
24:44You educated.
24:45Uh huh.
24:46But seriously.
24:47Yes.
24:48He ain't have to do my man that way.
24:49But he got nominated for a Grammy for that.
24:51Which is even more adds to the evisceration of Meek Mill.
24:56But Meek had a really good year.
24:57It just, you know, was also a bad year because he made a lot of money.
25:00He has Nicki Minaj.
25:01But just Drake just used every opportunity to slaughter.
25:04You wouldn't have had to come for him if he didn't sin for him.
25:07Charlie?
25:08You know, I feel great.
25:09Mm-hmm.
25:10Um, I just, I wasn't trying to be here for the beef.
25:13Mm-hmm.
25:14But it was everywhere.
25:15They made me care.
25:16Mm-hmm.
25:17And then I'm still listening back to back.
25:19You know what I mean?
25:20Back to back.
25:21But I'm over the beef and I'm still enjoying the music.
25:24So I have to say that for me that was Drake's moment.
25:27And Ray?
25:28You know.
25:29Not since Ja Rule and 50 Cent have we been so infused in this.
25:36Um, I think that the real thing, Meek threw it out there.
25:40And Meek is a bully.
25:41And Meek has bullied several people.
25:42Mm-hmm.
25:43And I think he was just expecting that.
25:45I remember he bullied Wale.
25:46Mm-hmm.
25:47And Wale got in his comment section and wrote an essay.
25:49And I think what he thought was that was going to happen again.
25:52I think the great part about this beef is we didn't expect Drake to really go in like that.
25:56Not once or twice.
25:57Twice.
25:58Boom.
25:59So hard.
26:00That's a girl's tune.
26:01And it's just like, and now it's like on iTunes.
26:05It was like in Stop Shop the other day when I was in it.
26:08And I was on the line like, no.
26:10It's a number one hit.
26:13So, while we're going to talk about you at the Stop and Shop doing the Milly Wap, I want
26:17y'all to make this vote happen right now.
26:19So, which story saw Drake in his moat with Drake-tastic?
26:22I can't with y'all.
26:23Is it A, Drake's beard, B, Drake's beef with Meek Mill, or C, Drake's hotline bling song?
26:28A, B, or C?
26:29Oh, B, B.
26:30Whoa.
26:31All right.
26:32Well, that was quick and easy.
26:33Okay.
26:34Next up is the Happily Ever After Award.
26:36This honor goes for the most egregious wedding story the nominees for.
26:40Miss Purity Papers.
26:41This is Marilyn's Breland Bowman, who thought her wedding day was the perfect time to present
26:45her father with a certificate of purity, signed by her doctors, which stated that her hymen
26:50was still intact.
26:51You're welcome, Dad.
26:52Or is it Brittany Griner's annulment?
26:54The WNBA star wanted to get her marriage to fellow WNBA star, Glory Johnson, annulled.
26:58So, just one month after tying the knot, calling the marriage a huge mistake.
27:03Or, lastly, is it RSVP or Pay Me?
27:07This is for the Minnesota couple who received an $80 bill from a bride and groom for RSVPing,
27:12yes to their wedding, but not showing up.
27:14All right, panel.
27:15Charlie, I gotta start with you.
27:16What are your initial thoughts?
27:17You don't have feelings.
27:18I know you got feelings, girl.
27:19I have so many feelings right now.
27:20I mean, I wouldn't even know where to start, but let me just first and foremost say,
27:24bridezilla behavior, we all know it, we've seen it, whatever.
27:27For you to be so awful that you make the national news because you sent someone a bill after your wedding,
27:34like, that's awful.
27:35So, shame on them.
27:36But, you know, I don't know, Dana.
27:38This is going to be a tough decision for me.
27:40This is going to be a tough one?
27:41Yeah, I mean, because the bride who gave her father the purity thing, like, that was amazing.
27:46Not only was that special, but she got famous for that.
27:49Like, what?
27:50That was a little too much.
27:51That's TMI.
27:52What is that?
27:53But it's TMI, and I'm kind of uncomfortable, but at the same time, I saw her on every morning news show for a week.
27:59Okay.
28:00So, she won.
28:01She won.
28:02Okay, right, boy.
28:03Weddings are very expensive, and if I got to pay $175 per plate for you, you're going to give it back to me, too.
28:10Because it takes five seconds to say, hey, we on a call, we really didn't want.
28:15But you accepted that RSVP, knowing that you wasn't coming.
28:18You know how that goes.
28:19You doing it right now.
28:20Tony, help ease the tension in the room, Tony.
28:22I'm sorry.
28:23I'm so upset.
28:24I mean, somebody almost got slapped for not coming to that wedding.
28:28They almost caught the red.
28:30His pimp hand was tingling.
28:32But, no, first of all, I don't know what a hymen is.
28:36Is it Phyllis Hymen?
28:37Is it, I mean, what hymen?
28:39I don't know what none of that is, though.
28:42You're about to get your phone.
28:43Listen, I'm just saying, I'm just saying, I know context clues, but I had to whip out my phone and get to Google.
28:51You know, application.
28:52Apparently, things weren't being whipped out prior to her being married, which is beautiful.
28:56And you know what?
28:57Now we're about to vote.
28:58No, no, no.
28:59We got to vote.
29:00Let me say, I think that's a beautiful thing.
29:01However, I think that is weird.
29:02It is.
29:03I want to have a daughter.
29:04I don't want to know if she was knocking the boots and not knocking the boots.
29:09That's all I'm saying.
29:10I don't need a PowerPoint presentation about what's going on at the wedding.
29:15Now I don't want my cake.
29:16This is awkward.
29:17Stop it.
29:18We have to vote.
29:19So which hot mess wedding story deserves the Happily Ever After Award?
29:22Is it A, the Purity Papers Bride?
29:24B, Britney, I can't be married to you no more, Reiner?
29:27Or is it RSVP or pay me?
29:30What you got?
29:31One, two, three.
29:32AAC.
29:33Oh.
29:34Oh, you just out there alone.
29:35You just out there.
29:36He said, I want my money.
29:37I want my money.
29:38Okay.
29:39I work hard.
29:40Now our last award is very near and dear to our hearts.
29:44We take this category very seriously, ladies and gentlemen.
29:46Our final honor is the Black Card Revoked.
29:49Yes, the Black Card Revoked Award.
29:51It's sad, but Essence Live is snatching someone's card.
29:53Like Rose said, we do it for the culture, okay?
29:56Alright, here we go.
29:57I'm going to drop me some bars today.
29:59All Stars, it's time to decide which Black celebrity has repeatedly let us down.
30:03And the nominees are Don Lemon.
30:05While we'd love to give Don many awards in this category,
30:08the ultimate shade to his race came in June,
30:10when the CNN Tonight host held up a large sign with the N-word
30:13and asked his audience, does this offend you?
30:15I mean, come on, really, Don?
30:16Next up, everybody's favorite, our girl Raven Simone.
30:19In October, the View co-host sided with South Carolina's school officer
30:22whose violent arrest of a young Black girl went viral.
30:25Raven suggested that Officer Fields and the student he slammed were both at fault.
30:29And our final nominee is Raven Simone for throwing major shade at FLOTUS.
30:33In March, when a former Univision host said Michelle Obama should be on the cast of Planet of the Air
30:37Raven sided with the host saying that the First Lady does look like an ape.
30:42Really, Olivia?
30:44Alright, so I'm going to start with you, Ray.
30:47Um, I don't know if Raven has a card, though.
30:52Oh, she may not.
30:53Because if you, if you, if, take, let's go back.
30:56Um, at some point she said she wasn't Black.
30:59Do you remember?
31:00Yes, but you know the continents.
31:01And she didn't really identify with Black people.
31:03Mm-hmm.
31:04I don't know who or what she identifies with.
31:06Clearly, um, no brains there.
31:08Mm-hmm.
31:09Um, so I don't know if it's right to take something that she doesn't have.
31:12Mm-hmm.
31:13Um, I'm, it's, um, it's, Don, on the other hand.
31:17So, first of all, Don is Raven Simone.
31:19They're secretly the same person.
31:21At the same time.
31:22They really, really are.
31:23At the same time.
31:24They should, do they know each other?
31:25They probably, they probably do.
31:26You know what, Essence?
31:27Let's, let's take a moment.
31:28That's a 2016 idea.
31:29To put those two tragedies together.
31:30That's a segment.
31:31That's a segment.
31:32That's a segment.
31:33Tony?
31:34Um, I have to agree with you.
31:35First of all, fist bump on that right there, my brother.
31:37Um, I'm gonna say a banging show is if we get Raven, Don Lemon, and Stacy Dash.
31:44Ooh!
31:45Together on the show.
31:46Did I just.
31:47Stacy!
31:48Did I just.
31:49You just, you just dropped it.
31:50Did I just.
31:51Boom!
31:52If you have them three on a Fox News show.
31:54Just like my brother said, you've never seen them in the same room.
31:57It's kind of like Little Bow Wow and Little Momma.
32:00You've never seen them in the same room.
32:01It's kind of like Kirk Franklin and Clyde.
32:03I can't.
32:04You've never seen them in the same room.
32:05I can't.
32:06That's all I'm saying.
32:07I can't.
32:08I can't.
32:09A lace front.
32:10Done.
32:11Charlie, as our editor and our voice of reason, please give us a final word.
32:13I'm here for you.
32:14Lord Jesus.
32:15We bring this home.
32:16Not that I don't feel my brother.
32:17A little.
32:18I'm inclined often to at least pretend, at least in my head, that Don doesn't know
32:23better.
32:24Right?
32:25Like he's trying.
32:26No, no, no, no.
32:27It doesn't make it right.
32:28But I mean, I just think he doesn't know better.
32:30I really don't.
32:31I think he's just trying to be a star, trying to get a check and he's lost his way.
32:34I really do.
32:35However.
32:36Bound himself on CNN.
32:37Yeah.
32:38But I mean, he's at least trying to be a journalist.
32:40Even Simone.
32:41Like she, I don't know if she's black, if she's, I don't know what she is, but I think
32:45she knows what she's doing.
32:46And embarrassing our people for a check is unacceptable.
32:50Oh, okay.
32:51That was a good close.
32:53So, who is getting their black card revoked?
32:55Is it Don Lemon's in-word poster?
32:57Raven Simone supporting the South Carolina officer or Raven Simone, again, for shading
33:02Michelle Obama.
33:03A, B, or C.
33:05Oh, B, C.
33:06B, C.
33:07B, C.
33:08Well, it's fair to say that it's Raven.
33:10Okay.
33:11It's there for full price.
33:12There you have it.
33:13Congratulations to all of tonight's winners or losers.
33:16Well, there's always next year.
33:17Keep those juicy stories coming.
33:19But wait, there's much, much more.
33:21Up next, our slate of shade all-stars helping me to toast the new year.
33:24Stay tuned.
33:25Essence has always supported you and what you stand for.
33:29Now imagine Essence could be even more, offering a selection of new beauty products
33:34specially curated every month, so you can see what's fresh, try samples before you buy,
33:39so you know what works for you.
33:40You're getting the essentials from name brands and up-and-coming black-owned businesses.
33:45Go ahead.
33:46Be bold.
33:47Be confident.
33:48Be you.
33:49Become a member.
33:50Guys, guys, guys.
33:51I know we're having a very good time.
33:52It's the new year.
33:53Tony's a little too close to my head here.
33:54But it's time for us to wrap up the show.
33:55Aww.
33:56I know.
33:57I know.
33:58I know.
33:59I know.
34:00I know.
34:01I know.
34:02It's been so much fun.
34:03We here at Essence Live want to thank all of you for tuning in each and every Thursday
34:10at 4pm.
34:11And make sure that you join us right here on January 7th for an all-new Essence Live.
34:15We're going to make sure that 2016 U is the best U. What?
34:20To my Slater Shade all-stars, there is no one else I'd rather bring in the new year with.
34:24Even you, Tony.
34:25Thanks so much for joining me.
34:26Here to a wonderful 2015 and an even better 2016 that boils everyone's potatoes.
34:32Eww.
34:33Happy New Year, everybody.
34:34Happy New Year, everybody!
34:39.
34:41.
34:42.
34:43.
34:44Who?
34:46.
34:47.
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