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Ready to Love - Season 11 Episode 4
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00:00Previously on Ready to Love.
00:02It's time in Skate and Jam.
00:03Walking good.
00:05That ain't time for nothing.
00:07I'm manifesting that I came to the right place to meet my man.
00:10Cheers to that.
00:11Cheers to some alone time.
00:13Cheers to the alone time.
00:15This ain't long enough.
00:18I classified you as Jarre.
00:20But you didn't get to know him.
00:21A lot of women feel this way about you.
00:24That's ludicrous.
00:25Do you let your children just watch what they want without finding out what they're watching first?
00:28You can't control everything that they watch.
00:30You can't control everything that they see.
00:31Yeah, you gotta monitor some things, though.
00:33It was an awkward conversation with Emily.
00:36The fellas have some things to say.
00:37You have a barrier.
00:39They feel that you are not ready to love.
00:43No, it took me some time to get to the place that you wanted me to be.
00:50But now I'm ready.
00:53I'm ready to love.
00:58I'm feeling it.
01:01I won't stop this show when you don't ever know.
01:05When you can't tell me the end of life.
01:11Hi, Tommy.
01:12Miss Donna, how you doing?
01:14I'm doing well.
01:15Ashley.
01:15Miss Ashley.
01:16How are you?
01:17Walking into Tommy's Lounge, I was stunned.
01:20I was like, ooh, this is classy.
01:21It looked like a small winery where you just come in, relax, chill, and just have girl talk.
01:27I'm Monique.
01:28Tommy.
01:28How you doing?
01:29I'm amazing.
01:30I'm like, this is Tommy all day.
01:32But this is Detroit, too.
01:33So I'm ready.
01:34All right, ladies.
01:35Welcome to your first Tommy Lounge.
01:37Hey.
01:37Hey.
01:37This is my speakeasy while I'm in Detroit.
01:40Is it classy enough for you?
01:41Yes.
01:42It's my answer.
01:42I love it here.
01:43Great.
01:44This is the safe haven to talk about the connections that you're making and the ones you're not making.
01:50And do not forget the golden rule.
01:54What happens in the lounge stays in the lounge.
01:58We got it?
01:59Yes.
01:59Now, let's get to this week's assignment.
02:02Where you live and where you spend your time says a lot about who you are.
02:06So this week, you are taking your men to the Detroit spots that mean the most to you.
02:13Can you picture them fitting into your world long term?
02:17At the end of the week, we're going to meet back here, and you guys are going to decide who is and who isn't ready to love.
02:24Sound good?
02:25Yes.
02:25Yes.
02:26I think a lot of people know me to be a pageant girl.
02:29But I know how to get down and dirty.
02:32I know how to have a good time.
02:33So I'm excited for these guys to know I'm not just this.
02:36I can be a different type of person as well.
02:38All right.
02:39Now, listen.
02:40Clean these houses before they come over there.
02:43That's right.
02:45Take care of your day.
02:46All right.
02:46Guaranteeing.
02:47Y'all be good.
02:52Push, push with a new one.
02:54Level up for the homies for the true one.
02:56I don't quit.
02:57I got stamina in my blood.
02:58Don't trip.
03:00The women are in power this week, and Tommy's assignment for us is to bring them into our personal space.
03:06So I invited Devon, Christina, Chris, and Bello into my home.
03:12Hey!
03:12Hey!
03:13Girl!
03:16Oh, you look gorgeous.
03:17You too.
03:18I love this.
03:19All of it.
03:19You look great.
03:20Well, thank you.
03:22Long day.
03:23I'm ready.
03:24I'm ready.
03:24What's up?
03:25Hello.
03:25Smell something.
03:26All right.
03:27Oh, man.
03:28Oh, man.
03:29Don't you smell good?
03:30It always smells good.
03:31It always smells good.
03:32Mmm.
03:32Get it on the flow.
03:34Get it, get it on the flow.
03:35Dominique just invited me for a double date at her house, and she said she can make some
03:41oxtail.
03:42And I'm an oxtail connoisseur.
03:45So I'm excited to see what she whipped up, how it tastes, and give her a little critique.
03:50Woo!
03:52How you doing?
03:56Hi.
03:58Hi.
03:59Hi.
04:01I've wanted to kiss Bello since the first date we had, so it was natural to me.
04:05It felt real.
04:06I dreamed about that and he didn't disappoint.
04:09We're going to do a shot together?
04:11Maybe I'll lick it off you.
04:12Oh.
04:15My connection with Dominique is undeniable.
04:17There's like an electricity between the two of us.
04:19But Christina's somebody that I also have a connection with, so I felt like it was going
04:23to be awkward.
04:24The party is final now.
04:25There you go.
04:26Yes, sir.
04:27He took his title already, guys.
04:28Oh, we did.
04:29Nice.
04:30I'm like, why they got me doing a double date with my two people?
04:33I'm like, damn, I'm getting exposed here.
04:36We're going to try to finish this bottle, but I'm going to feed you first so we can be responsible.
04:41All right.
04:42Absolutely.
04:42Whose favorite food is Jamaican?
04:45I would assume it's you.
04:46My favorite food is Jamaican.
04:47Okay.
04:47I'm looking for the oxtail, so you guys can do whatever you want.
04:51I feel like Dominique catering the meal to Bello, I can definitely tell she is into him.
04:57It seems like we may like the same men.
04:59So it just let me know, bring your A-game, and I'm going to give the best.
05:06I'm so hungry right now.
05:07Serious.
05:08What?
05:10How's it tasting?
05:11You ate it cold, so it's good.
05:13It got to be.
05:14He ate it cold.
05:14He was in here by himself, just like, what else?
05:17As he should.
05:18I feel like I got to see how grounded Dominique really is.
05:23She cooked all that food.
05:25She put all the time and energy into making sure that her home was welcoming to us.
05:29That was dope, but I wish she had asked to cook my favorite meal.
05:33You can learn to make sushi.
05:34You could have done that for me.
05:36So sorry.
05:37You mind if I steal it for two seconds?
05:39Oh, don't steal it, man.
05:40You know what I'm saying?
05:41You mind if I come on?
05:42Go for it.
05:42Go for it.
05:43It's safe to say that Christina is probably my strongest connection.
05:50Her and I have, like, a really good chemistry, so I think it's just very easygoing with me
05:54and her.
05:55Wow, you are stunning.
05:57Oh, thank you.
05:58You know what's so funny?
05:59I grew up from a place where I thought I was fat and ugly, you know?
06:01Really?
06:02Being called pig and pudgy, and I felt bad for that little girl.
06:05Even though we've grown past those moments, those moments still, like, are there.
06:09I want to say I got teased a lot, but there was...
06:12There was teasing.
06:14I had a big gap before I had braces.
06:17I had hair issues.
06:18So what it did for me is I had to develop other skills to be able to compete with the
06:23guy that played football.
06:24I think that to be able to...
06:26It was needed.
06:26Yeah.
06:27Because you had to grow.
06:28I would say I'm grateful that I was able to go through that hardship because it humbled
06:31me.
06:33Chris and I have such a great connection when it comes to our upbringings and being able
06:38to relate to one another.
06:39He definitely made me feel like he was into me, even though there was another really
06:44beautiful woman around.
06:45I'm happy to be here.
06:47I'm happy to have you.
06:49Why are you looking at me like that?
06:50Because I want you.
06:52What?
06:52What?
06:53Mm-hmm.
06:54That's all.
06:55What about me do you want?
06:57All of you.
06:57Everything.
06:58At this point, my connection with Bello is pretty intense, but I want to pull back
07:04some layers with Devon.
07:06Thank you for letting me meet your mom, too.
07:08I'm FaceTiming yesterday.
07:09Yeah, yeah, yeah.
07:10If you FaceTime me, you'd be liable to meet anybody in my family because I'm always
07:13with my family.
07:14My kids.
07:15Mm-hmm.
07:15My mom, my daddy, my brothers.
07:17That's my tribe.
07:18I think about having a family like that.
07:20Yeah.
07:20Like, that's one of the main reasons I want to have kids.
07:23So if I don't have kids, is that a deal breaker for you?
07:25No.
07:27Who talked about those?
07:27Again.
07:28Mm-hmm.
07:29You just say you wanted many kids.
07:31Well, if I had kids.
07:32That's probably not going to happen for me.
07:34Would you ever consider adopting?
07:36Absolutely.
07:37Yeah?
07:37Yeah, I think that I am a dope enough person to do that because what was tooken from me,
07:42it was, you know, pretty painful.
07:45Yeah.
07:46So if I could experience loving somebody who needs that love, I would do that.
07:51I think it's a beautiful thing.
07:52So you open to that?
07:53Yeah.
07:54Experiencing two miscarriages, the pain that that put me through, I don't think I could
07:58go through that again.
07:59So the fact that Devon is open to adoption, I love that.
08:03You learn something every day, right?
08:05Mm-hmm.
08:05How you doing, Cece?
08:06I'm doing good.
08:07I'm doing good.
08:08I had this first time I've seen you tonight.
08:10It's been a minute since I've seen you.
08:11Yeah, I know.
08:13We had some phone conversations, though.
08:15Yeah, this is true.
08:15Some long ones.
08:16Yes.
08:17Yes.
08:17Like, I'm like, dang, we on the phone for, like, damn near two hours.
08:20I don't know.
08:21I feel like I should have had a two-hour conversation with someone else.
08:24Watching Bello and Dominique interact, it's very clear that he is into her.
08:28But even if that is the case, he can still make me feel special.
08:32So we definitely have to discuss the elephant in the room.
08:36Why?
08:36You know, I'm a sharpshooter, baby.
08:38I'm going to tell you how I feel.
08:39So you don't feel like I show you love?
08:40You have to be on the phone, like, two hours.
08:45In one of those conversations I told you, men care about their money, right?
08:49And in order for a man to show he really cares, he has to spend some money.
08:54So for me, I asked three different men.
08:56My body's so sore, I feel like I need a massage.
08:59One answer was, dang, I would love to, but I'm not in the position right now.
09:02I understand that.
09:04Oh, my God, you're used to a $300 massage?
09:06Let me send you $150.
09:08Matter of fact, here's $180, because that's what I have to offer.
09:10That's a real-ass answer.
09:12Not going to call your answer weak, but you didn't get one.
09:15Hmm.
09:15No, I did give an answer.
09:16You responded with, oh, you know, I didn't even see this.
09:20You said that you felt like you wanted a massage in the morning.
09:23I didn't get the message till 3 p.m.
09:25Do you think that I couldn't get a massage in the evening?
09:27If a man wants to come and take care of me, you got to understand what that entails, right?
09:31This situation made Christina drop on my list just because she just seems like she wants my money.
09:37And if that is the narrative of the relationship, you got to recalibrate.
09:41And I'm just giving you where my perspective is so that you can either align with what you really want or gracefully bow out, because I don't play games.
09:49I feel like if you are unable to make me feel special, like I stand out from the bunch, then I don't know if I'm yours.
09:57So it's not a competition, baby.
09:59And if you ain't him, I understand, because I'm her in my world.
10:02The assignment this week is to invite guys into our personal spaces.
10:17So I invited Yvonne to the batting club today, and I am super excited because today we're going to do something fun.
10:23We're playing cricket.
10:24Hey.
10:24Hey.
10:25How are you?
10:26I'm good.
10:27How are you doing?
10:28Ever since skating, me and him have been talking on the phone every single night.
10:32So I'm really looking forward to seeing if that chemistry can translate in person.
10:37So we are going to play some cricket.
10:39Okay.
10:40Have you ever played?
10:41Never.
10:41Do you know what it is?
10:42It's kind of like tennis, right?
10:44Tennis, baseball, Greek life.
10:47I mean, some all of the above.
10:50Dominique is my boo.
10:52Every time me and Dominique are around each other, we got this flirtatious energy.
10:55But I like Nicole.
10:58She is very easy to talk to, down to earth, smart.
11:02We had a strong connection right from the very first mixer.
11:06And now it's time to see where we can take that.
11:09Woo!
11:11All right, here we go.
11:12Okay.
11:14Wow.
11:15Strike one.
11:15Okay.
11:19Woo!
11:20Woo!
11:20My cricket skills, for this being the first time I've ever played it, it's pretty nice.
11:29I was knocking them out of the park.
11:30All right, they coming fast.
11:31Be ready.
11:32Ah!
11:34Sometimes.
11:35You ready?
11:36Yes.
11:38Woo!
11:39That's one.
11:40Oh, okay.
11:41This is hard.
11:43I love competition.
11:44I'm in it to win it.
11:45But it was so hard.
11:46I was just freaking out.
11:47It's heavy.
11:48You need some strength to do this.
11:51Okay, now I feel bad that I talked to Matt because that was way harder than I worked.
11:54It's very hard, right?
11:56Yes.
11:57You did a great job.
11:59Now, I do want to ask you, what's an ideal woman for you?
12:04I need someone who's smart.
12:05Okay.
12:05I need someone who's kind and thinks about the world.
12:08Okay.
12:09Beyond themselves.
12:10I would say something very similar.
12:12I feel a strong sense of responsibility in a lot of areas.
12:16And I tend to step up in, like, leadership roles when I feel like change needs to happen
12:21in different spaces.
12:22I want to make a change.
12:24Me too.
12:25Yes.
12:25I think if I find the right partner, someone who supports me, encourages me, like, I think
12:30that, you know, we can do this thing together.
12:32That's core to who I am.
12:35I do think that we have a lot in common.
12:37We share a lot of similarities.
12:39And nothing else.
12:39You have a vibe.
12:40I know we can have a good time together.
12:42I'm excited to see, like, where this goes and, you know, what happens in this journey.
12:47I think the date went really, really well.
12:48We surprisingly had a lot in common.
12:50And I feel like I am starting to see who he is as a person.
12:53So I think that we can blossom into something more.
12:56What a great first date.
12:57I know.
12:58I'm so excited.
12:59I know.
13:00I like to rendezvous.
13:02Name a better girl that's me plus you.
13:05Oh, you like to wear them hoops.
13:07You can get the rock like I am.
13:08This week, we're supposed to be inviting the men into our personal spaces.
13:12And I invite Ed, Donna, Xavier, and Darius to my humble abode.
13:17Hey, what's going on here?
13:18How you doing?
13:19How you doing?
13:20What I've asked them to do is bring something meaningful to them or something that they
13:24feel comfortable sharing with the group.
13:27So I know that everyone brought their personal item.
13:31And I think that we should all share them.
13:34I'll go first.
13:35Hold on.
13:36Hold on.
13:36Hold on.
13:37I have a joyful feeling every time I see Shannon.
13:40So to spend time with her and getting to know her, I mean, it makes me happy.
13:44This is a dilation wheel.
13:48And it's used to help students or just any practitioner who is doing cervical checks for when people are in labor.
13:58Yeah, basically, if you, what are you doing?
14:02I'm just making sure you dilated.
14:06The best part of this triple date was the show and share.
14:10Do it like me, can't do it like me, no, no.
14:13The personal idol I'm bringing is a rose that my grandmother gave me at her homegoing service.
14:19I appreciate her every bit that she gave to me.
14:24And I miss her dearly, even as a grown-ass man.
14:27I spent 10 years coaching dance.
14:29When I retired, I passed it off to some of the young ladies who I coached originally.
14:34And this was just one of the things that we got for ourselves and for the girls,
14:39like just to have around our house in kind of memory of the Zames.
14:44This was sent to me from my cousin slash brother.
14:48A couple weeks later, he was sent on a tour, and he was killed in active duty.
14:53Everybody dug deep, sharing things that were very personal to them.
14:57And I think it helped bring us all closer together.
15:01So this is an outfit, actually, when I had my firstborn, that my mother, you know,
15:05she decided to sew and give it to my daughter as a gift.
15:09Wow.
15:10So she's 20 now, so I still have this outfit.
15:12My mother used to actually sew my clothes for me.
15:16She ended up passing away in 2012.
15:20So I got my passion for fashion for my mother.
15:24Oh, man.
15:25Yeah.
15:25She lives on.
15:27Oh, man.
15:28Hold on.
15:28Give me a second.
15:30Seeing Darius be vulnerable about his mother, it actually just confirms to me the type of man
15:35that he is.
15:36He's very caring, and he does things, like, with a purpose.
15:40So I appreciate it.
15:41I didn't want to bring the mood down.
15:42You're not.
15:43Hey, you brought the mood up, brother.
15:45Yeah.
15:45Yeah, that's my baby question.
15:47My first impression of Darius was not the best, but he was extremely vulnerable.
15:53He told his story from his heart, and I was surprised.
15:57The story helped me create some more understanding around who he is.
16:02So maybe we might finally get a chance to talk tonight.
16:06I know.
16:06Because you know every time we're about to have a conversation, you're interrupted.
16:09I've said that, like, three times.
16:12It's a thing at this point.
16:14Getting a chance to sit down and have a conversation with Donna is a long time coming.
16:19I definitely have some interest, so I hope we have a great conversation that would allow
16:25for a deeper connection.
16:27So do you feel like you've made a connection?
16:29With a couple people, I have interest, but I can't really call it a connection.
16:33Okay.
16:34Because I think it would be, I'm really slow to move.
16:36Oh, okay.
16:37Have you tried to contact any of the ladies outside of, like, seeing them in these more
16:44organized spaces?
16:45I've talked to one person, and that wasn't the vibe.
16:49And that's no jab at anybody, but that's just a nod to how I prefer to live.
16:54So has this experience made you reconsider not how fast, necessarily, you need to move,
17:04but how you approach dating?
17:06Not at all.
17:07So this was the most I've spoken to Xavier.
17:10I did appreciate the conversation because I got at least a little bit more insight,
17:15but he didn't really seem into the process.
17:19This is, like, the first date?
17:21Well, I've been on a one date, a group date, so, yeah.
17:25So you haven't had any one-on-ones?
17:27I haven't.
17:28Yeah.
17:29I'm trying to make this a one-on-one right now.
17:32We definitely can make this a one-on-one.
17:34When I see Shannon, she has, like, an upper echelon, very polished vibe, sort of like Michelle Obama, first lady of the city type of thing.
17:43So there's definitely attraction.
17:46So it's a school over here.
17:49I was over here recently because I had one.
17:51The mathematics and science one?
17:53Yeah.
17:53Yeah, so I had a speaking engagement there.
17:56I speak to the kids about my path of life, of having an opportunity.
17:59So, you know, kids are like, why did you start boxing?
18:03And then you get the, um, have you ever been knocked out?
18:07You know, you get...
18:07Wait, have you been knocked out?
18:08Never.
18:09Oh, okay.
18:10But, you know, these hands aren't just made for her, you know, protection as well.
18:14Okay.
18:15You know, I enjoy cooking, too.
18:17You know, so nourishment.
18:18Yeah.
18:19The physicality between me and Ed is just superb.
18:23It's comforting.
18:24It makes me feel protected, and I just love that.
18:32And, you know, these hands give some of the best massages.
18:36Okay.
18:37You know, this is north of the Mason-Dixon.
18:40You like that?
18:41I like that a lot.
18:42It makes me feel protected, and I look on you.
18:48Life moves fast like a new rollercoaster.
18:51So, Tommy's assignment this week is allowing the guys to come into our personal space.
18:56So, I decided to put together a nice little cooking class for a few of us.
19:02Show them what you got.
19:02Show them what you got.
19:04Why not show it off for the catwalk?
19:08Oh, cute.
19:10Hi.
19:10How are you?
19:12I'm good.
19:13I'm so excited for today.
19:15Obviously, I am a private chef, and I wanted to give everybody a little taste of what I do all the time.
19:20Perfect.
19:22Welcome, family.
19:23How are you?
19:24Good to see you.
19:26Come on, cutie.
19:27Hey.
19:28I am super excited that Ashante invited myself, Cardi, and Vince out today.
19:33Hey, Vince.
19:34Hello.
19:35What up, y'all?
19:36Hey.
19:37How are we?
19:38I'm looking forward to chatting it up with Vince, because he seems like a good guy.
19:42So, I'm excited to see what the chemistry is like in a more intimate setting with him.
19:47Take your stations.
19:48Let me tell you what we're going to do first.
19:49In the kitchen, when you pick up a knife, we all say sharp.
19:52So, I pick up a knife, you say what?
19:53Sharp.
19:53Sharp.
19:54Nice job.
19:54So, for you guys, the first thing you guys are doing, we're chopping.
19:57That's what you're doing.
19:58When you're done, we're going to put it inside of the pan.
20:00Love it.
20:00So, y'all, step over here.
20:01Get to chopping.
20:02Okay.
20:03Okay.
20:03You know how to hold a knife?
20:05No, wait a second.
20:06How are you?
20:06Go.
20:07You're like, you're going to cut yourself.
20:09No.
20:09Okay.
20:10Don't put that on me.
20:11Hold it like this.
20:12Okay, yeah.
20:13You got more control.
20:15And then, yeah, hold it like, yeah, yeah.
20:19Okay.
20:20For your mushrooms.
20:22The easiest way for you to cut mushrooms is if you cut it in half.
20:27I can literally.
20:28Oh, my goodness.
20:29Ooh.
20:29Boom.
20:30Got it.
20:31Look at that.
20:31All right.
20:32Your turn.
20:34Get in there.
20:35Get on that mushroom.
20:37Get in there.
20:38Sharp.
20:39Okay.
20:40Stop.
20:41You want to try something?
20:41You need the first one.
20:44Sharp.
20:44He screamed shark one more time with that knife.
20:47I'm going to run up out of here.
20:49Sharp.
20:52It's giving, yeah.
20:52Sharp.
20:54It's driving me crazy.
20:56Sharp.
21:02Y'all did a good job.
21:03This is, it's giving what it's supposed to give.
21:05Awesome.
21:06I'm going to let y'all sit it on down so you can enjoy your drink.
21:09So, uh, how have you been?
21:11I, I.
21:12I've been good.
21:12I'm good.
21:13I've been enjoying texting you.
21:14It's been insightful conversation.
21:16Yeah.
21:17I think Lauren is beautiful.
21:18We have chemistry there.
21:19So, I'm really excited to talk more one-on-one and have good conversations.
21:24Your kids are really, I think, important to you, I can tell.
21:26Mm-hmm.
21:27Mm-hmm.
21:27Do you have any other passions that you aren't doing now?
21:30That I am not?
21:31No, that you aren't doing.
21:32That you want to do?
21:32No, I'm doing everything.
21:33That you want to do?
21:34Yeah.
21:34Mm-hmm.
21:35A lot of times people have kids and they get lost in having a kid.
21:38They do.
21:38They do.
21:39And that's never been me.
21:40If you're not fulfilled as a mom, your kids know it.
21:42I'm able to show up for them because I'm able to show up for myself.
21:46So.
21:46There you go.
21:47Yeah.
21:48Exactly.
21:49Me, I would say the only thing that I'm not doing right now that I want to, I want to get
21:52my, finished on my pilot license.
21:53Oh my gosh, are you serious?
21:56I'm dead serious, yeah.
21:57That's cool.
21:58I've got about like 60 hours now, which is not a lot.
22:00But, you know, sometimes when you have kids, you got to do other things to take a step back.
22:04So it's like, that's what I really want to like, focus up and then, and then do.
22:08I appreciate Cardi because he's funny, he's sweet, and confident.
22:13So I'm looking forward to growing our bond together.
22:16You are definitely a different vibe than anything that I, thank you.
22:23So, we haven't spoke much to each other.
22:27If you could categorize some things that you may say that Vince has to work on.
22:34Remember we asked you the question about like, oh, how do you want your woman to contribute
22:37to the household?
22:37And you was like, well, if she's not satisfied with what I'm contributing to the household,
22:42then maybe she needs to contribute to the household.
22:44How do you feel about 50-50?
22:45Would you be paying 100%?
22:47It depends on the lifestyle that whoever I'm with wants to live.
22:52And we make 150.
22:53If that's fine with you, then that's fine.
22:55But if you're saying, I think that we need to be up to 250, then you go get you 100,000.
23:01You know what I'm saying?
23:01It's whatever you're comfortable with.
23:03Let me say what was said, because I don't want you to like, miss.
23:08What you meant?
23:09No, I'll tell you what I actually said.
23:11Okay.
23:11What did you say?
23:12If I have, you know, a $150,000 job and I'm providing a lifestyle, if she's okay with
23:21that, she don't got to work at all.
23:23Right.
23:24But if she's like, well, less I want to do this or I want to do something different,
23:29then either she would say I'm going to do this to contribute or she would help me and
23:36my business to grow for more than what we have.
23:39Does that make sense or does it not make sense?
23:41It makes a lot of sense.
23:41Okay.
23:41I'm talking to Vince and the energy just seems a little bit combative.
23:47What I just said right now, did you hear that?
23:49Right this second?
23:50Yeah.
23:50Yeah.
23:50I'm sorry, but did you hear that then?
23:53No.
23:54Okay, so that's what I'm saying.
23:55I don't have it in me to go back and forth with a man.
23:59So I'm realizing that I'm not connecting with Vince.
24:02That's why I'm saying you didn't hear me, because if you did, then this is what you
24:07would have heard.
24:07I tried.
24:21Tommy's assignment was to bring the guys into my personal space, so I invited Ed out to
24:26a date at Barkside.
24:28I love my dog, Duchess.
24:29She's 10 years old, and I just wanted him to get to know Duchess, because who's ever in
24:32my life have to be in Duchess' life?
24:35Hi.
24:36Hey.
24:37How are you?
24:37Good.
24:38How are you?
24:39Who's this?
24:40This is Duchess.
24:41Say hi, Dad.
24:42Dutch.
24:43What's up?
24:44Going into this date, I'm excited.
24:46I'm liking the vibes that Ashley's giving out.
24:48I'm liking our interaction, so I want to get a little deeper.
24:52I was like, I haven't really got a chance to talk to Ed.
24:54I know he's my type, but is he my type personality-wise, too?
24:58Like, are we even compatible?
25:00So what's your personality type?
25:01Honestly, I just like for somebody to just be themselves.
25:05No, I know what you mean.
25:06Yeah, so that's what I like.
25:07A person that just knows themselves, you know?
25:10I think I know myself pretty well.
25:12I can tell.
25:20This is cute.
25:21The women are in power this week, but I haven't had a lot of time to spend with Ashante, so I invited her out for a very fun date.
25:30We're going to tie-dye some stuff in downtown Detroit.
25:33Hey!
25:34How you doing?
25:35All right.
25:36How you doing?
25:37Good.
25:38How are you?
25:39How are you?
25:40Good.
25:40Going into this date, Steven and I are cool, but I still feel like I don't really know him that well, so hopefully today I can figure out if we could be a vibe or not.
25:50Push down and twist.
25:51Push down and twist.
25:52Yeah, just keep going.
25:53That's right.
25:54Yeah, that's great.
25:55I like to make art, music, I like to create, and I want somebody who appreciates that stuff, so to do something like tie-dye, I love it, you know what I'm saying?
26:05You can't go wrong with the yellow, that's all I gotta say.
26:07I love yellow.
26:08You see me with the yellow on it?
26:09I knew.
26:10You knew something.
26:11I listen.
26:12I knew something.
26:13You remind me 100% of like when I was growing up in Flint, the girls I was around, which I liked.
26:21So I'm saying that, that's super positive.
26:23I'm like, man, she make me feel like when I was a kid again or whatever, like you got such a good personality.
26:28Thanks.
26:29So how do you, like, how is your date in life?
26:32Like, do you date often?
26:34It's just like based upon what's going on, time, life, work.
26:38How long would you be in a relationship with somebody before you marry them?
26:41I don't put time on things like that.
26:44Like, I was married briefly, but we got a divorce.
26:46I mean, we were together, though, since like 15.
26:49Okay, so your high school sweetheart.
26:50High school sweethearts, playground sweethearts, you know, all of that.
26:55Why didn't it work out?
26:56We grew apart.
26:58Ultimately, we got together so young.
27:00Once we became older, kind of views weren't always the same.
27:03It's usually like that.
27:04Yeah.
27:05But y'all get along?
27:06Yeah, we cope very well.
27:07That's good.
27:09Like, what do you have in mind when it comes to dating and your future?
27:13I want to have a wife.
27:15Like, I want my wife to do stuff.
27:17Right.
27:18I don't want her to be someone who's just like, mm, just hurting the kids.
27:20No, no, no, no.
27:21I want her to have, like, some sort of a passion.
27:24So, like, I do like that you got passions already on your own.
27:27So I'm somebody that, like, I kind of get off on that.
27:29Like, yo, that's dope.
27:30My girl did that.
27:31That's cool.
27:32That's cool.
27:33I like that.
27:34What about you, though?
27:35My vision is having enough freedom to where, like, we could travel everywhere.
27:38Yeah.
27:39Right?
27:40Let the world be the main school for the kids.
27:43Share new experiences.
27:45Go new places.
27:46Just that's kind of how I see it.
27:48Hey, we found we got a lot in common already.
27:50Yeah.
27:51So I expressed to you that I was interested, you know, a few times.
27:56But you are interested, though, right?
27:57I am.
27:58Okay.
27:59I like for the dialogue to be, like, both ways.
28:01Even though I know you were busy and you did apologize to say that.
28:04But it's just, I like to feel like the person is interested in me, too.
28:07So what does that look like to you?
28:09Just here and there, like, texting, like, good morning.
28:11Like, just show me you're interested.
28:13Like, communicate.
28:14Ed does have a very soft spirit.
28:17He's very mysterious.
28:18He's very laid back.
28:19He's very chill.
28:20That's why I was attracted to his spirit.
28:23But I do want to peel back more layers and see why he's the way he is,
28:27because maybe there's a wall up.
28:29Duchess, I'm ready.
28:31You ready to love?
28:32Yeah, I'm ready to love.
28:37Well, since we have one on a date now, it's only right.
28:42It's past you.
28:44I should have been got the phone number.
28:46I'm gonna give you a fake one.
28:47No, I'm sorry.
28:49I'm gonna give you a fake one.
28:50Okay, we'll say one.
28:51My connection with Steve is definitely way stronger after our date.
28:55I called it.
28:56Oh, good.
28:57Yeah.
28:58I shined out.
28:59You said it right.
29:00I know how to say your name.
29:01What I like most is the fact that he wants to be a family man,
29:05and he want to do all the cute little corny stuff.
29:08And, like, I'm kind of excited to see if we can get to that point.
29:12But, um, I'm ready for my second date with Steve.
29:15I can get dressed right now.
29:17All I want to do is that when you're all in love.
29:21All I want to do is, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh.
29:26Hey, Tommy.
29:27It's Shannon.
29:28Wine, water, beverages.
29:29Hi.
29:30Hi.
29:31Ashley in the coat.
29:32Christina.
29:33Hello.
29:34Walking into Tommy's Lounge, I am extremely interested to start hearing some tea.
29:41Because, baby, I would love to see how all these other women are interacting with my connections.
29:58So, I'm excited.
30:00Welcome back, ladies.
30:01I know it is an eventful week.
30:04We probably gonna need some more wine, huh?
30:06Yes.
30:07No, for real.
30:08As y'all know, your assignment for the week was to take the men to your favorite spots.
30:14That's got some meaning to you.
30:16So, let's get into it.
30:18Who are we connecting with?
30:20Positive vibes on.
30:22Ashanti.
30:23I gotta go first.
30:24What?
30:25Set it up first.
30:27Steven is really well put together, really cool.
30:30We went to a tie-dye shop.
30:31We made T-shirts.
30:33I feel like we had a good time.
30:34He laughed.
30:35We laughed.
30:36A lot of green flags.
30:37And I also like Cardi.
30:38I'm a vegan chef.
30:39So, I invited a few of us out to see Cooking with Q.
30:43And we had a good time.
30:44When he first sat down with me and looked at me and smiled.
30:49His face is so bright.
30:51And I just couldn't help but to smile.
30:54But that baby couldn't cut a carrot.
30:56I just couldn't help.
30:57I just couldn't help.
30:58I just couldn't help.
30:59What?
31:00Nicole.
31:01Devine and I, we had a date.
31:02And we played cricket.
31:03And it was a lot of fun.
31:04Conversations have always been great.
31:06They've been natural.
31:07I think he's an awesome person.
31:08Ed is definitely a manly man.
31:11He, like, holds my hands when he's talking to me.
31:14And, like, physical touch is one of my love languages as well.
31:17So, I really, really appreciate it.
31:19He's a nice guy.
31:20I like that he's very chilled and laid back.
31:22The only problem with that is I like people that like me.
31:25And he shows it a bit.
31:27Like, he kind of, like, throw a little sprinkle in there and then bag away.
31:31And me and Darius literally be on the phone for hours.
31:34He is definitely a masculine provider.
31:37He know his words.
31:38And I love that.
31:39I like that.
31:40Mm-hmm.
31:41Dominique, you invited some people to your home.
31:43How was it having Bello in your space?
31:45I was like, welcome home, baby.
31:48Hey!
31:49And when he came in, you know, we had a special greeting that nobody else got.
31:53I felt that the spirit led me.
31:55The spirit led you to do what?
31:57What happened?
31:58What y'all doing at this door?
31:59Well, a lady never kisses the tail.
32:00But I received it.
32:01And it was received back.
32:02So that's all that needs to be known.
32:04All right, all right.
32:06All right.
32:07Now comes the tough part.
32:09Who are you ladies not feeling?
32:11Well, from jump, I've been telling everybody, like, I want a kind man.
32:15But Vince and I, we just don't click.
32:17The energy just seems combative.
32:19Why are you being so feisty?
32:21Like, you just, ah!
32:23I'd like to add to what you're saying.
32:25Yeah.
32:26He was physically aggressive.
32:28The comedy, it was intense.
32:30He's very vocal and very in-your-face type of thing.
32:34Even how he refers to some of the women, like.
32:36Mm-hmm.
32:37How does he refer to some of the women?
32:38Now, granted, this is pillow talking.
32:41It's like, oh, he's referring to, oh, that bee thought I would like her because of it.
32:45Whoa, so we're already done.
32:46So we're already done.
32:47He is the B word?
32:48We're saying the B word?
32:49Yeah, okay.
32:50He is the B word.
32:51Like, did anybody actually hear him call somebody a B word?
32:53Because I would like to give him the benefit of the doubt.
32:55I heard he said it.
32:56And it was said about you.
32:57Yeah, it was.
32:58Say what now?
32:59I'm sorry.
33:00He called you.
33:01Yeah, girl, what's about you?
33:02You was the tall bitch.
33:03I was the bitch.
33:04You were the B word.
33:05I've been to hear that B word.
33:06Mm.
33:07At all.
33:08And if you hear it, I want to know you heard.
33:10Okay.
33:11All right, Christina.
33:12Anybody else?
33:13Not a connection.
33:14Bello, for me, I asked three of my interests.
33:17Yeah, I would love to go to a spa.
33:18It would make me feel so special.
33:20Chris gave me an understanding answer.
33:22I would love to, but I'm not in a position right now.
33:25The second one, he ended up, um, spending money.
33:28Put your cash at.
33:29Absolutely.
33:30Who did that?
33:31Devon.
33:32Devon?
33:33Yes.
33:34So the thing is, when Bello didn't respond, I felt like you fell into the weak category.
33:38And at that point, you're not interested in me, and that's fine.
33:40I felt like Christina was messy.
33:43To me, it was, like, very na-na-na-na-na.
33:45He did this for me.
33:46And I thought it was very classless and tacky.
33:50Shannon.
33:51Xavier, he gives me uncle vibes.
33:54Big unk.
33:55Big unk.
33:56Like, he's very wise.
33:58He has...
33:59Ready to love 65.
34:00Very much so, yes.
34:01It's just not a connection, no.
34:03I just feel like he's just old acting.
34:06Like, you can still be fun and spontaneous, and I just feel like he can't keep up with me.
34:11And I want to have fun with my guy, you know?
34:13We finally got a chance to talk at Shannon's house.
34:16He said, well, I'd like to move slow.
34:18And I said, well, it hasn't worked in the past.
34:21Has this process made you reconsider the way that you are going to approach love, relationships, women?
34:28And he said no.
34:29Oh.
34:30And so for me, I was like, okay.
34:33All right.
34:34So now comes the hard part.
34:36I want you to take these guys out on a date and let them know if they are just not ready to love.
34:45Mmm.
34:46Y'all got it?
34:47Yeah.
34:48All right, ladies.
34:49Y'all sit here and chill.
34:50Think about it.
34:51Talk about it.
34:52And I'm gonna, um...
34:53Yeah.
34:54All right.
34:55Bye.
34:56Bye.
34:57Woo!
35:00I don't want to send anybody home because I feel like we all came here with a purpose.
35:04But it is a relief that now I'm getting closer to the person that I need to be with.
35:08Everybody get prepared.
35:09Put your big girl boots on.
35:10I got mine on right now, so...
35:12Let's go do that.
35:13Yes, let's go do it.
35:14Let's go do it.
35:15Let's go do it.
35:16Cheers.
35:17Rain of love.
35:18Rain of love.
35:34So the women are empowered this week and Donna has invited me out.
35:38Hey, baby.
35:41How you doing?
35:42I am a little nervous and a little anxious about why I'm invited out,
35:47but I am optimistic and I'm ready to hear what, you know, what Donna has to say.
35:52I did order for her, so...
35:54I appreciate that.
35:55Something should be coming.
35:56Yeah, just, you know, I'd like to knock that edge off.
35:58I want you to...
35:59There's no reason for you to see that today.
36:11Oh, perfect.
36:12Dominique.
36:13Hi.
36:14How are you?
36:15I'm good.
36:16Dominique set up a date with us at the Syndicate, and he looks great.
36:20Well, you smell good.
36:22Thank you, thank you.
36:23I do know that the ladies met with Tommy today, so that's likely someone's going home,
36:28but I don't really have any nerves.
36:30Tonight felt like date night.
36:32How'd you know?
36:34Look like that's what you like to me, an old-fashioned.
36:37You look a little old-fashioned to me.
36:39Ah, I mean...
36:40Oh, we got a pretzel. Can I have one?
36:40A pret...
36:42What?
36:43You stepped my hand like my grandma.
36:46I did, I did.
36:48So, um, the ladies met with Tommy today.
36:51Mm-hmm.
36:52And there was some feedback that, um, could be worked through.
36:56You referred to at least one of the ladies as a bitch.
36:59Oh.
37:00So, there's a question mark about you using that language.
37:05Obviously, we were having a joking conversation.
37:08You and the guys?
37:09Yeah, me and the guys.
37:10And I did use the word, but I wasn't calling the, you know, I wasn't calling the lady of, you know.
37:17Well, that is a concern.
37:18Okay, okay.
37:19Um, is that something that you are willing to, to work on?
37:24I feel like that is something that I probably need to work on because the first thing I think about is my daughter.
37:30Mm-hmm.
37:31It's the first thing I always think about.
37:33So, I wouldn't want her to feel like, you know, are you dad?
37:38I wouldn't want her to feel like that.
37:40And so, I don't want to do that.
37:42So, I had a conversation with the ladies, and they felt some kind of way.
37:46It feels like you're not taking an initiative to actually make a connection.
37:50There's a, uh, verse to not cast your pearls amongst swine.
37:55Mm.
37:56And I've learned to be somewhat guarded in what I allow people to see in myself.
38:01So, if I'm with the, with someone that I don't think can value certain aspects of me, I would try to keep it surfaced.
38:11The last point of concern, a few ladies mentioned your bluntness, and some people took it as these two opinions they did.
38:18Well, it's, it's challenging to not always speak my mind.
38:23I don't want to be a politician.
38:25I don't want to leave anybody guessing as far as what I feel and what I think.
38:31And if somebody can't understand that, they can get going.
38:37Every lady was like, no one's talked to Xavier.
38:40Why do you never ask me for my number? You can ask nobody.
38:43So, like, you are all beautiful women.
38:46But I did not want to act too quickly.
38:49In my opinion, up to this point, it was still early.
38:52Now, we've been here long enough.
38:55Yes.
38:56And I am going to start being more intentional.
38:59So, you do know you laid, you laid to the curb.
39:01I feel like if I was to be less passionate, it's going to hurt other parts of my life.
39:08So, I understand that.
39:10But a few ladies felt like it was just too strong for them.
39:13The ladies feel like...
39:14Um, well, ultimately, the ladies did decide that...
39:15Unfortunately, Xavier...
39:16You are still ready to love.
39:17Cool.
39:18Um, which I am personally happy about, because I still look forward to really connecting with you.
39:23Well, I'm happy about that also.
39:24It feels really good to hear feedback.
39:25I don't know how people take me or how people take what I say.
39:30And so, I could work on some things, and I can, um, correct some things.
39:45And this is technically our first date?
39:46Technically, this is the first time me and you've got one on one.
39:48Which is heavy?
39:50It's not that heavy.
39:51It's heavy for a first date.
39:54It's heavy for a first date.
39:55It's not that heavy.
39:56It's heavy for a first date.
39:57It's not that heavy.
39:58What?
39:59It's heavy for a first date!
40:00I'm appreciative of the understanding that Donna had.
40:04I'm appreciative to still be a part of this experience.
40:07I didn't think it was that heavy.
40:08OK.
40:09If you're OK, then I'm OK.
40:12You're not ready to look.
40:14OK.
40:15The journey don't stop.
40:16No, it doesn't.
40:17It doesn't.
40:18And your person is out there.
40:19You just got to attempt to move forward and do the work.
40:22I get that.
40:23I expected to be here longer.
40:25I wanted to be here longer.
40:26But I brought myself, and that wasn't enough.
40:30I came in open-hearted, open-minded.
40:32And this is where it ends.
40:34So no love lost.
40:36I think the feedback that the ladies gave was very valid.
40:39And I accepted for what it is.
40:41So for that, I continue to be a student of life,
40:44and I hold my head high.
40:52Next time on Ready to Love.
40:54I am hosting a throwback 70s Motown Dance Park.
41:03You ever get overwhelmed by a presence of a person?
41:05Even with this wig on?
41:07the wig.
41:08I was receiving that man.
41:10I liked him.
41:11A friend of mine has been called a bitch.
41:14You using the B word?
41:15That's crazy.
41:16If you can't take care of me as well as my daddy
41:19take care of my mama for 39 years, I don't want it.
41:22I don't want it.
41:23Maybe.
41:24Maybe.
41:25Maybe.
41:26You're welcome.
41:27Maybe.
41:28Maybe.
41:29Maybe.
41:30Maybe.
41:31Maybe.
41:32Maybe.
41:33Maybe.
41:34Maybe.
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