00:00Your girl will always follow your lead, so if she's always poking at you, disagreeing with you,
00:04it's because you're doing the same to her. Your girl will mirror the behavior you show her. So
00:07if you are listening to argue, she will in tune start to listen to you just so she can argue back.
00:12But if you listen to understand through active listening while she's explaining, you say,
00:16hmm, makes sense. Can you explain more? Can you go more in depth? Because you're listening to
00:19understand where she is coming from, she will eventually do the same to you and you guys will
00:23have less arguments and more in-depth conversations. You'll be able to meet each other at common
00:27ground and move forward instead of consistently arguing. The problem in most relationships is
00:31that the man listens to the woman through a defensive frame. So when she says something,
00:36he's like, don't attack me. Don't speak to me like that. Why are you speaking like that? Why aren't
00:40you listening to me? And then both of them just end up attacking each other, arguing, and the
00:43argument never gets settled. But if he just listened and stopped being so defensive every
00:47time she opened her mouth, she would do the same and everything would be a lot more calm.
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