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WE CHOSE TO STOP ROMPING A YEAR INTO OUR RELATIONSHIP

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By Todd Sasin

A couple have revealed the bold decision they chose to take in their relationship as they became celibate after a year together, despite initially fears for her relationship.

Throughout their year-long relationship, Giavanna Cummings revealed how the pair became very physically rampant with each other, before opting to completely let go of their bedroom antics.

Since dating, Giavanna gradually became very dedicated to her faith, Christianity, alongside her partner, Noah Sousa, who was already partially religious, the couple wanted to be ‘obedient to God’.

The 27-year-old from Los Angeles, California, USA, said: “My boyfriend and I decided to stop having sex a year into our relationship, and decided to wait until marriage instead.

“When we first met, I was not a Christian, he was, however. He was not as deep in his faith as he is now and part of why he and I fell for each other was because we were so attracted to each other an insane amount.”

Becoming celibate was something Giavanna initially never saw herself doing after their relationship was previously heavily involved around the physical aspect.

However, she did admit to some concerns that going celibate was the wrong decision. The social media influencer had concerns that her relationship would break down if their time in the bedroom was wiped out.

Despite this, the couple are now happier than ever while any concerns she did have, have now been disregarded as it has brought them ‘much closer to each other’.

Revealing all about the couple’s decision, Giavanna explained: “Our relationship was heavily involved around the physical and as time went by, our relationship with God just started to grow at a very rapid pace.

“The tiniest bits of conviction would start to come in, but if I’m being completely honest, we stopped doing it before I felt fully convicted.

“I was at a place in my faith where I wanted to be obedient to God, despite how I felt about a certain situation.

“When we first made the decision, we obviously had some slip-ups. He and I went from doing it a lot to not at all and it was a big change in our relationship.

“And I will admit I was so nervous that he and I would not have a relationship if we took that out of the equation; but it has been such the opposite experience.

“I can honestly say it has brought us much closer to each other and obviously much closer to Christ. He and I not only love each other, but we genuinely just like each other – like he’s my best friend."

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00:00My boyfriend and I decided to stop having sex a year into our relationship and decided to wait
00:06until marriage instead. So I'm going to share just a little bit about my experience and just what God
00:11calls for marriage and how it's worked out for us. This is one of those things that you realize God
00:16has rules for a reason. So when we first met, I was not a Christian. He was. However, he was not
00:23as deep in his faith as he is now. And part of why he and I fell for each other was because we were
00:28so attracted to each other, like an insane amount. Our relationship was heavily revolved around the
00:38physical, if you know what I mean. And as time went by, our relationship with God just started to grow
00:44at a very rapid pace and the tiniest bits of conviction would start to come in. But if I'm
00:49being completely honest, we stopped doing it before I felt fully convicted. I was at a place in my faith
00:57where I wanted to be obedient to God despite how I felt about a certain situation. A lot of people
01:03base their faith off of feelings and convictions and we need to stop doing that and just go directly
01:08to what God calls us to do regardless of if we feel the conviction or not. Like if you're not picking
01:14up some kind of cross and carrying it, if not multiple crosses, you're not following Christ. Anyways,
01:20when we first made the decision, we obviously had some slip ups. He and I went from doing it
01:26a lot to not at all. And it was a big change in our relationship. But the gaps did get longer and
01:34longer. And I will admit, I was so nervous that he and I would not have a relationship if we took that
01:42out of the equation. But it has been such the opposite experience and honestly say it has brought
01:49us so much closer to each other and obviously so much closer to Christ. But know if you fully fully
01:55love someone, you need to know that you love them without that. Like he and I not only love each other,
02:02but we just genuinely like each other. Like he's my best friend. And your ability to have this type of
02:09control before you say I do to somebody is your first test of if you're going to be able to commit
02:15to somebody for the rest of your life. Just some of the benefits that I have found throughout this
02:21journey. Number one is we have such a strong foundation. We truly have God as our foundation
02:27of our relationship. But not only that, it just builds so much discipline, so much trust within each
02:32other. Emphasis on discipline. Not many men can go without, you know. Now I know that my man can
02:40resist temptation before marriage and that he does not require that to love me. So if we ever were to
02:47go through a hard phase, I know that he's not looking elsewhere. Same goes for me. Second benefit was
02:52obviously having a deeper intimacy with God. Intimacy just comes with knowing him and by knowing him means
02:58to also obey him even when you don't feel like it. Thirdly. Thirdly, he and I also have emotional
03:06clarity. Next clouds judgment. Like let's just be real. We've all been in a relationship that we've
03:11stayed in way longer than we should have because you have such a strong soul tie to that person.
03:17And there are so many spiritual reasons behind this rule that God has for us, which I can talk about in
03:24another video. But I think we've all probably experienced a heartbreak where we've like
03:29literally wanted to. Anyways, once we stopped, we were really able to see each other for who we are
03:35and know that we just love each other and just genuinely really like each other. Bottom line is if
03:40you know someone is loyal to you without having sex and just knowing that they are so in love with
03:47you and so committed to you without it, not only that, and then you also get to build such an intimate
03:53relationship with God. Why wouldn't you at least just try it out? Not only that, if you want to
04:02stay lukewarm as a Christian, your relationship with God is not going to get as intimate as you
04:06want it to be. I have people asking me all the time how I can hear God's voice, this, this, and that,
04:11to the point where they think I'm in a religious psychosis and I take that as a compliment. By the
04:16way, the comments that I get on that, I'm like, thank you. Build your intimacy with God by being obedient
04:22despite how you feel. Anyways, true love waits.
04:26So...
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