00:00My boyfriend and I decided to stop having sex a year into our relationship and decided to wait
00:06until marriage instead. So I'm going to share just a little bit about my experience and just what God
00:11calls for marriage and how it's worked out for us. This is one of those things that you realize God
00:16has rules for a reason. So when we first met, I was not a Christian. He was. However, he was not
00:23as deep in his faith as he is now. And part of why he and I fell for each other was because we were
00:28so attracted to each other, like an insane amount. Our relationship was heavily revolved around the
00:38physical, if you know what I mean. And as time went by, our relationship with God just started to grow
00:44at a very rapid pace and the tiniest bits of conviction would start to come in. But if I'm
00:49being completely honest, we stopped doing it before I felt fully convicted. I was at a place in my faith
00:57where I wanted to be obedient to God despite how I felt about a certain situation. A lot of people
01:03base their faith off of feelings and convictions and we need to stop doing that and just go directly
01:08to what God calls us to do regardless of if we feel the conviction or not. Like if you're not picking
01:14up some kind of cross and carrying it, if not multiple crosses, you're not following Christ. Anyways,
01:20when we first made the decision, we obviously had some slip ups. He and I went from doing it
01:26a lot to not at all. And it was a big change in our relationship. But the gaps did get longer and
01:34longer. And I will admit, I was so nervous that he and I would not have a relationship if we took that
01:42out of the equation. But it has been such the opposite experience and honestly say it has brought
01:49us so much closer to each other and obviously so much closer to Christ. But know if you fully fully
01:55love someone, you need to know that you love them without that. Like he and I not only love each other,
02:02but we just genuinely like each other. Like he's my best friend. And your ability to have this type of
02:09control before you say I do to somebody is your first test of if you're going to be able to commit
02:15to somebody for the rest of your life. Just some of the benefits that I have found throughout this
02:21journey. Number one is we have such a strong foundation. We truly have God as our foundation
02:27of our relationship. But not only that, it just builds so much discipline, so much trust within each
02:32other. Emphasis on discipline. Not many men can go without, you know. Now I know that my man can
02:40resist temptation before marriage and that he does not require that to love me. So if we ever were to
02:47go through a hard phase, I know that he's not looking elsewhere. Same goes for me. Second benefit was
02:52obviously having a deeper intimacy with God. Intimacy just comes with knowing him and by knowing him means
02:58to also obey him even when you don't feel like it. Thirdly. Thirdly, he and I also have emotional
03:06clarity. Next clouds judgment. Like let's just be real. We've all been in a relationship that we've
03:11stayed in way longer than we should have because you have such a strong soul tie to that person.
03:17And there are so many spiritual reasons behind this rule that God has for us, which I can talk about in
03:24another video. But I think we've all probably experienced a heartbreak where we've like
03:29literally wanted to. Anyways, once we stopped, we were really able to see each other for who we are
03:35and know that we just love each other and just genuinely really like each other. Bottom line is if
03:40you know someone is loyal to you without having sex and just knowing that they are so in love with
03:47you and so committed to you without it, not only that, and then you also get to build such an intimate
03:53relationship with God. Why wouldn't you at least just try it out? Not only that, if you want to
04:02stay lukewarm as a Christian, your relationship with God is not going to get as intimate as you
04:06want it to be. I have people asking me all the time how I can hear God's voice, this, this, and that,
04:11to the point where they think I'm in a religious psychosis and I take that as a compliment. By the
04:16way, the comments that I get on that, I'm like, thank you. Build your intimacy with God by being obedient
04:22despite how you feel. Anyways, true love waits.
04:26So...
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