How Play Parties Open Doors with Jasmine Sherni

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How Play Parties Open Doors with Jasmine Sherni  #JasmineSherni

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00:00Okay, so you got divorced. You have this friend who's starting to introduce you to play parties. Like, what was your first experience dipping your toe into, like, a sexual world after, you know, I'm assuming grew up in a very conservative household?

00:13I did. I did. It was, I think we love to say the word empowering. And yes, it was that, but it felt very electrifying, right? It was very much like, oh my God, this is so exciting. Nervous, but that excited nervousness of like, ooh, well, maybe I won't do anything tonight, but look at where I am. Look at this door I just opened or like this box, this like really sexy, hot Pandora's box.

00:40And wow, look, there's that guy that I've been crushing on for like 10 years. And oh my God, he's here. Can I have sex with a guy that I've been crushing on? I don't know, you know, stuff like that. And just kind of getting to finally feel like I can own it in a way.

00:55Was a play party your first like experience in that world?

00:59In like kink and BDSM. I think it was. Yeah. Yeah, it was. I went to a play party. I got sick that night. I don't know. I think I got a stomach bug in really quickly. Like, it wasn't like I was like, oh, I'm feeling bad. I was actually talking to that same guy that I mentioned.

01:14And we're waiting. They have like an icebreaker performance that starts and we're talking and all of a sudden I'm like, in my mind, I'm like, I have to vomit.

01:20And I look at him and I'm like, where's the bathroom? He's like, it's around the corner. I just really into my cup.

01:26Oh, no.

01:26And I was so embarrassed.

01:28Oh, no.

01:28So I just kind of sat outside by the pool.

01:32But it was nice. It was fun. And then, yeah.

01:34So for people in our audience who've never been to a play party, which I think there's probably a lot.

01:39That's fair. Super good.

01:40And people who may not even, this might be the first time that they've heard of such a thing. Can you explain what a play party is and maybe what it looks like?

01:48Okay. Yeah. I would say, one, every play party is going to be different. But in general, when you think of like a play party or a sex party, you're going to, again, they're different.

01:59So this one, it has a theme. There was no outside clothes, no ordinary clothes. This one, I think, was like gods and goddesses and mythical creatures. They had a section with like a big royal chair and a professional photographer to take your pictures or your solos or groups. And then they had, like I said, an icebreaker performance of a variety of acts.

02:20And these are like live sex acts?

02:22Not all sex acts. Some of them were comedy. Some of them were sex. Some of them were burlesque that were stripping down.

02:29I think the comedy was really funny. I think that came on first, you know?

02:32Yeah.

02:33And then sometimes like BDSM performances, but it kind of, just to warm everybody up to things and kind of, they also have a little bit of talk of like, hey, this is what we expect and how do you behave?

02:44Because there's got to be like consent involved and boundaries.

02:46Yes.

02:47Everyone's got to be on the same page about that.

02:49Very much so. And there were, I think, three levels to this play party. First floor was open play. There was a bar, a pool. Second floor.

02:58There were kind of more rooms and things like that that you could go off into. And then the third floor was the dungeon where they had like a BDSM master, if you will.

03:11Okay.

03:11Yeah.

03:12Oh, sounds fun.

03:13Yeah.

03:14Sounds elaborate too.

03:15A little pick your own adventure, you know?

03:19I've actually never been to one, I don't think.

03:22Is that something that you would like?

03:23No.

03:24There we go.

03:24Well, look at that. Look at that. You never have to.

03:29No, I'm actually, I'm pretty boring. I'm in a monogamous relationship with my husband and I, like, clearly I have no problem with sex and like non-monogamy and all that kind of stuff.

03:41But it's funny though, when I, because I have ended up at swingers parties and stuff like that and other similar things. But when I don't have a camera in front of me, like separating me from the sex, I actually give, I feel very weird.

03:58That's super fair.

03:58It feels super weird to me. It's like, I need to have a purpose there. Like my purpose was always, I'm directing, I'm shooting, I'm like trying to get that cum shot. But like, if I'm just sitting there watching with my hands on my lip, I'm like, I don't know what to do with myself.

04:11You know what? That's so fair. I mean, on camera and off camera sex for me feel very different. So in a sense, I get it.

04:17Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So let's talk about your move into on-camera sex. So how did you end up in the porn industry?

04:24So I, I'm like, well, where do you want me to start on this journey? How did I move from nursing into sex work?

04:31Oh, right. Because you were an ICU nurse first, which is an intense job. My sister's an ICU nurse.

04:37It is very intense.

04:38And it is intense. I used to come home and cry a lot.

04:41Yeah. Yeah.

04:43Sorry, that's not a sexy thing to say. Sorry.

04:44That's okay. We don't, we don't have to be sexy. I mean, that's like, yeah, I, I, I mean, that's got to really like toughen you up.

04:52It does.

04:53Yeah.

04:53It does.

04:54It's so interesting to me too, that a lot of sex workers were either nurses before or become nurses later. And I think there's like a nurturing thing there.

05:03I think there is.

05:04You know, like a common thread.

05:05I believe that very much so. Because I've definitely seen, yeah, both sides, people going into nursing, people coming out into sex work.

05:12Um, yeah, I never, I never wanted to be a nurse. And I knew that going into nursing, um, slightly longer story about me and my ex, but, um, just to get into it, I knew that I was going to get into nursing and eventually want to go do something else.

05:26And for a while I thought maybe I wanted to go and get my doctorate and become a nurse anesthesiologist. And when that didn't work out, I was like, well, I don't know what I want to do, but I'd always kind of had this calling.

05:36And while I was doing that, like, and exploring, you know, my kinkier, more sexual side, um, you know, a little, but, uh, I did food blogging.

05:46And then I, from that got into lifestyle modeling and got connected with more creatives and had friends in burlesque and always kind of looked at that side.

05:55And I was like, wow, I really wish I could do a little more, but didn't feel like I could because of like the ethics clause and like the nursing practice.

06:03Right. You thought that you figured you'd lose your job.

06:05Yeah.

06:05Right.

06:05Yeah. Or have at least some kind of fines or things that would come to me if anyone reported that.

06:12So when push finally came to shove and I was miserable enough, I was like, I got to get out of this.

06:18I left it all behind and I was like, well, what do I want to do?

06:22And I had a friend and she was like, well, you really like, you know, being on Instagram and modeling.

06:27Why don't you try that?

06:28Like, I've been watching you do this and you love it.

06:31Well, that's not a real job.

06:33Oh, yes, it is.

06:35Look at me.

06:38I also, I didn't know anyone who actually did it.

06:40Right.

06:40And I was like, I don't know, I guess I could try it.

06:43So I started a modeling page on Instagram and that quickly took off.

06:46And I had people who were like, hey, like, is there, can I see more of you?

06:50Like I, there, I had a few of them that were like, hey, I would sponsor you, whatever that meant.

06:55And so I was like, you know what?

06:57I think I can start an OnlyFans.

06:59Let me, let me try that out.

07:00I'll dip my toe in that water.

07:02And that kind of really quickly started paying my bills.

07:06And not even to say that I was making, you know, millions or anything crazy.

07:10But I think it's still impressive that I was able to pay my bills with it.

07:14And so it's like, hey, I enjoy this.

07:17And it was, again, it was a lot of like genuine connections.

07:19Like I got to talk to people who are my fans.

07:21I would wake up and do like these really, they're so silly now, but like I do these videos where I'm just like coming in my little robe and slip and drink my coffee.

07:30And I message people and be like, what is your intention for the day?

07:34I love that.

07:35I remember my friend who was also, and it was like, oh my God, my fans would never, they'd be like, shut up and show me your butthole.

07:42I was like, I don't know.

07:43Sometimes I just read poetry to them.

07:45But there's like, that's a great thing about platforms like OnlyFans.

07:49There's all different kinds of people.

07:51Like there's definitely guys on there.

07:52And I'm sure you have this experience now that like they really want to talk and they want to talk about their lives.

07:57They want to know what's going on in my life.

07:58And they like care about those things.

07:59And then there are other guys who are like, just show me your butthole and shut up.

08:03Just show me your butthole.

08:04And it's fair.

08:05And I do, I have those people too, love them.

08:07But I do still actually read poetry to them.

08:10Well, here's my, what can I say about a butthole?

08:16Just do a poem about buttholes.

08:18You're right.

08:18I should write a poem about buttholes.

08:20You should.

08:21You're welcome.

08:21You're coming up with great stuff.

08:23You're welcome.

08:23I'm just.

08:24You've been on it.

08:25Just the ideas are just flowing.

08:27You have been on it ever since I walked through this door, but I feel like you're always on it.

08:31Again, accolades to you.

08:34Um, but yeah, from there, I, I was with someone and we were kind of in the process of breaking

08:39up and I remember being like, he was the only person I'd phoned with.

08:41I was like, oh my God, what am I going to do?

08:43How, how am I going to have tapes?

08:45Like, and then I was like, wait a second.

08:46I'm a hot girl and I'm a sexpert.

08:49Lots of people want to have sex with me.

08:50I was like, no, that was like crazy to me.

08:52I was like, whoa, whoa, whoa.

08:54People want to have sex with me.

08:55Hot guys want to have sex with me.

08:57Hot girls want to have sex with me.

08:58Hey, let me, uh, let me, hold that phone.

09:02Would you like to work together?

09:05And so I got my first collab with someone.

09:09I came out to LA.

09:10I stayed with Sarah Arabic.

09:11And during that trip, I was kind of in this point of like, yes, I was doing this collab,

09:15but I also wasn't sure as I continued to blow up, do I want to go more mainstream modeling?

09:21Do I want to keep doing this?

09:22And I was like, you know what?

09:24I do because I saw so many people being really authentic and living this life and loving it

09:30and being successful.

09:31And I was like, you know, I could go this other route and I could do, be more mainstream,

09:35more clean, more sweet girl.

09:37But I am a slut.

09:39Like, and I love being a slut.

09:41And like, I don't want to have to act like I'm not.

09:45Like, what?

09:46I love that.

09:48Please.

09:48I love that.

09:49Please, you know.

09:50Well, sluts are welcome here.

09:52We embrace you with open arms.

09:54So, you know, that's what I was doing.

09:58And so I was like, you know what?

09:59I am going to do this.

10:00Yeah.

10:00And I remember this is even to the point where I didn't even show nudity on Twitter.

10:05And I, when I finished my first collab, because I told him, I was like, hey, I think our advertising

10:09is a little different.

10:10Yeah.

10:10And I was leaving.

10:11He was like, okay, so I'll clip it up and I'll send you stuff for Twitter.

10:14And I was like, I don't show nudity on Twitter.

10:15And like, his whole face was like, how do you promote?

10:18Yeah.

10:19Yeah.

10:20And I remember when he sent me a clip, I was just like, I started pacing.

10:24I paced around my house for like 20 minutes.

10:26And I was like, hey, it's not that I don't like the clip you sent me.

10:28It's just that I don't know because I've never done this.

10:31Yeah.

10:31You don't have to.

10:32And I was like, no, I want to.

10:33And I had then made the decision that if I was ever approached to do something mainstream,

10:40that I would do it.

10:41And I was like, yeah, I'm going to do that.

10:43And I was like, I'm sure.

10:44And like, the next five years, someone might ask me.

10:47Yeah.

10:48And lo and behold, it took a few months.

10:52Yeah.

10:53On that same trip, I met Marvin Love, who is my friend, my agent, a director, over dinner

10:59with Sarah Arabic, who I was staying with.

11:01And we realized that we were going to be traveling through Europe together.

11:05And while we were in Europe, he asked me if I would ever consider shooting for Brazzers.

11:12And now I'm here.

11:14And you're shooting for Brazzers.

11:15And I'm shooting for Brazzers.

11:16Yeah.

11:17Yeah.

11:17And you're shooting for Brazzers.

11:17And you're like, no, no, no.

11:18Yes.

11:19Yes.

11:19You're in Europe.

11:19And I'm here.

11:20I'm here.

11:21Yeah.

11:21Yes.

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