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Heart Hustle Houston S01E06
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00:00Previously.
00:01You're not looking for anybody right now?
00:03No, I am.
00:04We got to hook you up with somebody.
00:05OK, who are y'all thinking?
00:06Latouria wants a man like she wants to be in a relationship.
00:09So maybe we can meet up for happy hour soon.
00:12Oh, yeah, for sure.
00:13What are you thinking?
00:14I just feel like she need one person to, like, bust her back
00:17out one good time, and Latouria going to be on her way.
00:20How you feel about me dating?
00:25You know, you always said, because I told y'all
00:27and maybe have a little brother for you.
00:30Why can I have a baby?
00:32Would you consider marriage counseling?
00:35For the past three years, I would say
00:38our marriage has been a little shaky.
00:40Trust is not there.
00:41And I just don't feel good in this space that I'm in.
00:44Let me focus on personal therapy.
00:57I love pole dancing.
01:09I want to invite my girls out to pole.
01:11It's going to allow them to just let their guard down
01:14and forget about everything they're dealing with.
01:16So let's just have fun.
01:17Well, hello.
01:20There she is.
01:20Oh, yeah.
01:21Baby, this is a bit much for me.
01:22I'm about to take them heels off of the parking lot.
01:27Because I am not getting to work on my sensuality
01:31in the bedroom with my husband,
01:33I need this to just recharge myself.
01:38Let's see what's going on in the pole room.
01:40OK.
01:41Woo!
01:42Yeah.
01:44Elena!
01:45What?
01:46Well, damn.
01:48I didn't know what Elena was thinking.
01:50Woo!
01:51What a way to show us all up.
01:53Because, honey, have you seen me dance?
01:55We're going to start off with a little warm-up.
01:57And you're going to airlock your legs.
01:59If you want to be spicy, you can pop out a quick ugh
02:02and come back together.
02:03Child, all I could do is the Cupid shell for it.
02:06And I could barely do that, OK?
02:09OK.
02:09I'm going to meet y'all down there.
02:11Latori, come on.
02:13Start at the top with us, girl.
02:14Look, if you're going to be down there on the ground,
02:16rub the pole behind you, move your legs, do something.
02:20Yeah, OK.
02:21Nisha, you nasty.
02:22Three, two, one.
02:25Float down, take my tie.
02:27Legs come up.
02:29Baby, the men don't leave the club when I come.
02:32Pole dancing is hard, y'all.
02:34Bring it up, grab left.
02:36Like what?
02:37OK, Elena, we get it, Superwoman.
02:39But this is not for me.
02:42Up.
02:43Then roll, right?
02:44Hey, hey, hey.
02:47This pole is working me harder than I have worked in a long time.
02:50Oh, that looks so good.
02:54Bro, honey, she's taking it serious.
02:57The hair's in the ponytail.
02:59The moves are swaying.
03:00The uh, uh, uh.
03:02Bring it up.
03:03The eight counts of Aiden.
03:05There we go.
03:06Yeah.
03:07Put that back.
03:08Rae Reed, where them dollars at?
03:11Two, three, four, and grab.
03:16Alaina looks good on the pole, y'all.
03:19She kind of, mm.
03:20It's giving a little freak in the streets and the sheets.
03:24Take some of those moves home, and maybe you and Josh could really rekindle something.
03:29Step, step, and roll that body down.
03:33Oh, we got the money?
03:35Yeah, I'm going to dance now.
03:36Yeah.
03:37And bring it up.
03:38Ready?
03:39Grab that pole.
03:40Left.
03:41Right.
03:42Right.
03:43Right.
03:44Yeah.
03:45You ready?
03:46All right, y'all.
03:47Y'all did it?
03:48Yes.
03:49I hope y'all feel proud.
03:50I hope y'all feel empowered.
03:51I hope y'all feel a lot of self-love coming off of you, because those are all the things
04:06that I try to teach when I teach pole.
04:08Thank y'all.
04:09Enjoy the rest of y'all day, OK?
04:11Girl, I wish this was some real money.
04:13Me too.
04:14Whew.
04:15OK.
04:16How'd y'all enjoy it?
04:17I'm glad I came.
04:19I just, you know, I was like, I didn't know what to expect, you know?
04:21I feel good.
04:22No, I feel good, too.
04:23It was cool.
04:24Nice little workout.
04:25So what is up?
04:27What's been going on?
04:29So what?
04:30Going on a date tomorrow.
04:33Labrina's hooking me up with her friend Banks.
04:35Capital B.
04:37Capital B?
04:38I thought you said capital D.
04:41Labrina has set me up on a blind date.
04:44I don't really know what to expect.
04:46All I know is that he's a cowboy.
04:49You need you a good old country man to go to one of these trail rides.
04:53Uh-huh.
04:54Do you know anybody's sequel, girl?
04:56Baby, let me find you one of these good old simple cowboys.
04:59Woo!
05:00Please.
05:01Can we get a yee-hi up in here, OK?
05:05Have you seen a picture of him?
05:06No, it's a blind date.
05:08I can see Latoria with a lot of different types of men.
05:11Like, I can see her with a grown man.
05:14How grown?
05:15Grown, grown.
05:16Like salt and pepper grown.
05:18Yeah, your type.
05:20Yeah, come on.
05:21Yeah, cop that water up, baby.
05:22Wait.
05:23Yeah.
05:24A pop-up?
05:25Girl, like salt and pepper beard.
05:27I know, but what's the age?
05:28That don't mean pop-up.
05:29That's sexy.
05:30Do you like salt and pepper?
05:31Yeah, it's sexy, but how's the...
05:33We are at the age where you're going to see a lot of salt and pepper.
05:36But salt and pepper is sexy.
05:37It is not unsexy.
05:39It's definitely a vibe.
05:41I'm thinking, baby, what in the high cholesterol is going on here, OK?
05:47I think you're going to like him.
05:50I pray you're going to like him.
05:50OK, yeah.
05:51Yeah.
05:52Well, that'll be nice.
05:53I think they have another class coming in, so we got to wrap it up.
05:58Next time we going to be playing pickleball, I'll be on the golf course, baby.
06:02Yes, this tall stuff is a bit much.
06:04Yes.
06:05And I don't want to sweat, you know?
06:17OK.
06:18OK.
06:19Oh, my God.
06:22She did so good.
06:25Yes, I love the bass.
06:27OK.
06:28I feel so good having my studio space finally finished.
06:33This is my chapter.
06:35I'm able to focus on myself, hone into my craft and my brand.
06:40This feels so good.
06:42Well, hello.
06:43Hi.
06:44Oh, this is nice.
06:46Oh, this is nice.
06:47I am taking my first client in Colored Azur makeup lounge, Latoya Luckett of Destiny's Child.
06:53I'm really proud of you.
06:55I've been doing her makeup for a while.
06:57Latoya has been a sounding board and an armchair therapist during our makeup sessions.
07:02She has been like a big sister to me lately.
07:05I'm excited to just chat it up with her.
07:08Listen, you have been on a journey this last year and some change.
07:13Am I wrong or right?
07:14You're right.
07:15I'm actually in the season of realizing that pouring into myself is necessary.
07:20You know, I know we talked about, like, Josh and I sleeping in separate rooms.
07:24Are we still doing that?
07:26Yes, we're still doing that.
07:28Why?
07:29Because it's necessary in this season.
07:32But y'all ain't rubbing feet?
07:34We hug.
07:35We from Houston.
07:36We hug everybody.
07:37Do y'all talk?
07:38Um, not enough.
07:39Josh and I are sleeping in separate rooms because he did something that really fractured us.
07:44I'm questioning whether or not I can trust him.
07:47What did Josh do?
07:49I'm not ready to publicly talk about that yet.
07:53What I'm hoping to see is the work being done.
07:56And are y'all doing that?
07:58I am.
07:59And he's not?
08:00He said he's starting.
08:01Now, why do you feel y'all can't do both at the same time?
08:04Um, because I asked him to do couples therapy and he said he wanted to do individual therapy first.
08:10You're both operating with single-minded mentality trying to make a marriage work.
08:17How, Sway?
08:19I challenge you to ask your husband for a couple session.
08:27Just ask.
08:28You want me to ask again?
08:29Ask again.
08:30Okay.
08:31I'll ask again.
08:32It's hard to hear the truth sometimes.
08:33It's even harder to admit the truth to myself.
08:36But LaToya is right.
08:37We need to be actively working on our marriage together.
08:4015 years of marriage can be happy.
08:43And it carries a lot of hurt.
08:45I want you to be happy and I want you to be in a happy, healthy marriage.
08:48But you also ain't gonna sit here and talk to me in my chair.
08:51And I not tell you the truth about what's going on.
08:56Coming up.
08:57I'm LaToya.
08:58I'm LaToya.
08:59Nice to meet you.
09:00I'm scared of horses.
09:01Nah, we wouldn't make it.
09:04I want you to want it.
09:06To want it to work.
09:07And that's why I was pushing couples therapy.
09:09No.
09:11I haven't.
09:12I just been stressed.
09:13I've been doing so much.
09:14And you know we've been having so much going on lately.
09:15I am very late.
09:16My period has not come yet.
09:18I have no idea.
09:19Don't you ever give up.
09:20You got it.
09:21You got it.
09:22You got it.
09:23Raise your red chin up.
09:25You got it.
09:26You got it.
09:27Don't you ever stop trying.
09:29Hey, you got it.
09:30You got it.
09:31You got it.
09:32You got it.
09:33Hi, Miss Sylvia.
09:34How are you?
09:35I'm OK.
09:36Thank you so much for this house call.
09:39Yeah, it's been a while.
09:40It's definitely been a while.
09:42I appreciate it.
09:43Sorry, my dog is going through stuff too.
09:46On average, me and Miss Sylvia do virtual sessions.
09:49But she's told me before, if I need her, call her and she's coming.
09:55This session, I needed her.
09:57I recently just had a one year anniversary of my dad's death.
10:02I needed to be at home.
10:04So she came.
10:05She came to my rescue.
10:07So how are you?
10:08I'm hanging in there.
10:10So the last time we met, it was close to your dad's anniversary date.
10:14How did you maneuver?
10:16How did you do?
10:17I struggled.
10:18That morning, I got up.
10:20I didn't really know how to feel.
10:22I didn't really know how to process everything.
10:25I recently just lost my dad.
10:27He was my best friend.
10:28My eyes and my ears, he was my protector.
10:31He was a single father.
10:32He was my biggest supporter.
10:34We talked all day, every day.
10:36And nobody in this world showed up for me like my dad.
10:40My dad was my best friend.
10:42Of course.
10:43My dad was the one person that, he cheered for me the loudest.
10:48Right.
10:49I think about not just, not just him being gone, but the fact that I found him dead.
10:58I walked in the house and I went to his room and he was, he was laid on his bed.
11:07His eyes were open and he was deceased.
11:11He had had a heart attack.
11:13So, finding my dad dead, having to figure out life without my dad has been like the hardest thing of my life.
11:26I feel like I'm in this big world all by myself.
11:30I come home and I'm alone.
11:33I get up and I'm alone.
11:35I'm taking care of my household, taking care of my dad's household and his estate.
11:41So, I have to work harder.
11:43I have to bring in extra revenue.
11:45I got to make sure my staff is good.
11:47I got to make sure all 20 clients are good.
11:50I deal with everybody's issues and I deal with it alone.
11:54Where are you as far as wanting to be in a relationship?
12:00Yeah.
12:01How is that going?
12:02I always wanted to be in a relationship.
12:04You know, I, I feel like there's a huge part of me that's a lover, that's a nurturer, that's, you know, I feel like, I feel like I'm wifey material.
12:15I feel like you are too.
12:17And it's never too late to be a wife.
12:19Right.
12:20Exactly.
12:21What stops you from just dating, going on dates?
12:24I have not had the luxury of being courted and being dated properly.
12:30Right.
12:31I've met the guys that everything about me is intimidating to them.
12:35I always get the guys that they're intimidated, not because of who I am or what I do.
12:42So, a lot of them can't see past the fact of, oh, you are with this celebrity who makes this much, or you are with this person that, you know, we just saw on TV.
12:51And it's like, yeah, but that's my job.
12:53Like, I don't go down to the bank where you work and categorize everybody that's counting money.
13:00So, why are you doing that to me?
13:01My friend has set me up on a blind date.
13:05And I'm open to a blind date, you know?
13:07That, that's perfect.
13:09That's a good way to find out if that's someone you...
13:12Yeah.
13:13Yeah.
13:14I mean, I'm open to it.
13:15I've never shunned away anything, you know?
13:18Right.
13:19I'm more so seeking something that has substance.
13:24I've been so focused on my healing journey since my dad passed.
13:28Dating hasn't been on my mind.
13:30But, you know, I'm open to getting out there and trying new things.
13:33So, what I always hear and see about you is that you're constantly wanting to grow.
13:39Maybe now is the time to go ahead and grow.
13:42Yeah.
13:43So, you can have, you can settle down and have a relationship.
13:46Yeah, I appreciate you for coming.
13:47You're welcome.
13:48Thank you so much.
13:49I appreciate you.
13:50No homework this week.
13:51Okay, no homework this week.
13:52Okay, no homework this week.
13:53Okay, I did my homework last week, too, though.
13:54No homework this week.
13:55Okay.
13:56Okay.
14:16Hello.
14:17Hi.
14:18You look good.
14:19Hi.
14:20I'm finally catching up with Lelaina.
14:22It's been a minute since we caught up.
14:23I love this.
14:24Yes, housewife and mommy.
14:26Um, every, the house is quiet.
14:28Everybody's gone.
14:29The kids are at school.
14:30Okay, cool.
14:31Lelaina invited me to pole dancing.
14:33And although it sounds fun, I did decline on it because I was working.
14:38And I think our schedules just haven't aligned to where we meet up.
14:41I'm just excited to spend some time with my girl.
14:44We're not the same people we were when we first got married.
14:47But how are you feeling now, like today?
14:50It's almost like a waiting game.
14:52Waiting for him?
14:53Yeah.
14:54Just trying.
14:55So you feel like you're at one level.
14:56Uh-huh.
14:57And he's at a different level and you're trying to get him to meet you at that level?
15:00Yeah.
15:01There has just been like a total disconnect.
15:03And then when you're not seeing the steps being done, it's hard to...
15:07What steps do you think will help you get to that point?
15:10The initial steps were just individual therapy and then couples therapy.
15:14Which he's working on that, right?
15:15And he's done a session.
15:16Mm-hmm.
15:17I feel like if he does more of those sessions, I will see huge changes for sure.
15:23I really need to see more effort from Josh when it comes to the individual therapy sessions.
15:28I just really want him to take accountability for violating my trust.
15:33I know with us, it's not perfect.
15:36It's not perfection.
15:37We have our own issues and struggles.
15:40And something that I want to incorporate more, even with my content,
15:44is showing the vulnerable side a little more on there.
15:47Because I'm sure that I'm not the only person struggling with trying to be strong all the time
15:52and trying to keep everything in.
15:54So maybe if I put myself out there a little more and express that other people would...
15:59You should. Everybody loves vulnerable posts.
16:01I think with Minera being an influencer, she has this guard up, these walls up.
16:06And I understand that because I know at times I do as well.
16:11I think we both have to realize that it's okay to be vulnerable.
16:16And it's okay to not have it all figured out.
16:18And that's a part of life.
16:20What is it? What is it that you feel like you have to be strong about?
16:24Carrying the burden of a lot of other people.
16:27Me growing up, I lived overseas for a while.
16:31And my mom and my dad ended up getting separated and divorcing.
16:35We came to the States by ourselves.
16:37And my mom had to be a single mom.
16:41She had to do everything on her own.
16:43She's the only person in this country.
16:45Y'all came overseas because of what?
16:47She didn't want to raise me there, so she left.
16:49My mom raised me.
16:50She was a single mom.
16:51She's from India.
16:52And my dad is African American.
16:55She lived overseas with my dad.
16:57Ended up moving because things didn't work out with them.
16:59They got divorced when I was really young.
17:01So we lived in India before moving to the States.
17:04And she had to realize and learn how to be a single mom.
17:08So seeing her struggle honestly motivated me
17:11and molded me into the woman that I am.
17:13We lived in the basement with another family for, like, six, seven years.
17:18You know, I'm in elementary and I'm coming back
17:20and I'm seeing her, like, breaking down, crying,
17:22because she's trying to figure out, like, how do I get out the situation?
17:25That's probably why I am so hard.
17:28So for me, I'm just like, okay, well, I'm going to just keep all this stuff in.
17:31I'm not going to talk about it.
17:32My mom had to grind.
17:34She had to struggle.
17:36She came here with nothing to raise me.
17:39And I love her for that.
17:40I thank her for that.
17:42But it was difficult.
17:44And it really changed my perspective on a lot of things.
17:47Being strong and suppressing is all I know how to do.
17:51Looking at Moneris open up and cry,
17:53I see a lot of myself in her and I want to open up as well.
17:57Seeing her let go and sharing her truth,
18:00it makes me feel like me sharing my truth may be worth the risk.
18:04I do appreciate you allowing me to open up, even though I don't like opening up.
18:09Well, I think you should definitely allow yourself to figure out how to get that pressure off of you
18:14and allow yourself to have those vulnerable moments.
18:18Typically, I'm the person that's always listening and providing advice.
18:22So right now, it really feels good for the roles to be flipped and for me to be the person that expresses how I feel and things that I'm going through.
18:30So I do feel a lot better just releasing some of that that I've been holding on to.
18:34Maybe a pole class will help.
18:36A pole class would not help.
18:38Do you know my daughter's room used to be my pole room?
18:41Oh, so you know to be the pole mom.
18:45Yeah, no.
18:47Coming up, I feel like I'm constantly fighting, fighting for us.
18:51I want it to work, but I also want you to want it to work.
18:55If your ass pregnant, we got a baby shower to plan.
18:59What is that?
19:22Hey, Rummy.
19:27Come on.
19:29We should have put your bow tie on.
19:31She likes young men.
19:34Hello.
19:35Hey, mama.
19:36How are you?
19:37Hey, girl.
19:38You look beautiful as well.
19:41What's been up?
19:42What's wrong with you?
19:43You look sad.
19:44I'm meeting up with Chloe today because I have some relationship issues.
19:47I got some problems.
19:48And Chloe's the only person I feel like I can really honestly talk to her.
19:52What's wrong?
19:53Girl, I was done a long day and I just took forever to get up here.
19:55You look like you've been crying.
19:56I feel like me and Chloe can talk about anything and everything and there's no judgment.
20:01I really do value our friendship that we have.
20:04So she knows how to console me correctly and I know she'll give me some good advice.
20:08You want wine or water or juice or what?
20:11I don't have any tequila.
20:12Some water cool or some juice.
20:14Damn.
20:15You not drinking either?
20:16Not right now.
20:17Oh, you must be mad about something.
20:19This one is cool.
20:20Very little.
20:21You look pretty.
20:22No, let's get...
20:23What's wrong with you?
20:24What happened?
20:25Nothing.
20:26Come on.
20:27Let's sit on the couch.
20:28Come here.
20:29Cause you...
20:30Uh-uh.
20:31Come on.
20:32I'm always happy to see Ro.
20:33Her energy is just contagious.
20:34So when she walks in my house and looking all crazy, you are not your usual self.
20:38I'm confused.
20:39Girl, what's wrong with you?
20:40Got like a little situation that been going on or whatever that I've been dealing with.
20:43Which situation?
20:44You got a bad situation.
20:45You want it junker than me?
20:46Boo thing.
20:47So I'm currently in a relationship off and on with somebody.
20:50It's been going on four years now.
20:52He's in the NBA.
20:53And I love him to death, but I just want more out of a relationship right now.
20:58And he's not on that.
20:59So I need to make some decisions.
21:01Like we had...
21:02We ain't really been talking lately cause we kind of got into it or whatever.
21:04And I haven't...
21:06I just been stressed.
21:07I've been doing so much.
21:08And you know we've been having so much going on lately.
21:10I am very late.
21:11My period has not come yet.
21:13Girl, this is a lot.
21:17I absolutely have mixed feelings about this.
21:20Because it's like...
21:21Of course I do want to be pregnant and I do want to have another kid.
21:24But I just didn't plan on it being like this.
21:26I am taking dating serious now.
21:28And I do want to get married and have a real relationship with someone.
21:32But me and my boo are like not in a good space right now.
21:35I've been pregnant and I've been pregnant alone already.
21:37I don't want to go through that again.
21:39I just feel like where we at right now is just awkward as hell.
21:41And for me to want to be pregnant and all this time.
21:43And all of a sudden it's like you got to be careful what you ask for type of thing.
21:46What do you think Sophia is going to say?
21:48You want to know what happened?
21:49You told her?
21:50I got the Uber.
21:51You know you Uber pregnancy test.
21:52You can Uber like all kinds of stuff right?
21:53Oh, you can.
21:54So I got the test Uber to the house right?
21:56And I was getting ready.
21:57You're not Ubered it to the house.
21:58I'm getting ready to see I stopped playing basketball.
22:00So I hear her go, uh-uh.
22:01So I was like.
22:02Girl, she got the package.
22:03Girl, she walked there.
22:04She said, what is this?
22:05I know you ain't got something.
22:06You got something you need to tell me.
22:07Like yelling.
22:08Oh my God.
22:09She's holding a bag like this.
22:10She's older so she know what's up.
22:11I said, oh no.
22:12I said, I'm about to go with my friend.
22:13That's her stuff.
22:14She told me to get her one.
22:15She go, mm-hmm.
22:16And she walked out the room.
22:17Girl, let's take it.
22:18You want to take it?
22:19I mean, I brought it.
22:20We're going to take this .
22:21Come on, open it up.
22:22Like if I am pregnant, this could change my life.
22:25And where I'm at in my life right now,
22:27this wasn't the expectation.
22:28All right.
22:29I'm going to let you know.
22:30Whoo.
22:32OK, I'm done.
22:33So if.
22:34Huh?
22:35Let me refill my wine a little bit more to the top because if your ass is pregnant,
22:46like we've got a baby shower to plan.
22:48And then, I'm not going to say you need to talk to him, but.
22:49I'm not telling him.
22:50What if he be like, I don't want no baby.
22:51He doesn't know if I don't.
22:52He's not a bad guy.
22:53He would support your life right now.
22:54This wasn't an expectation.
22:56All right.
22:57I'm going to let you know.
22:58Whoo.
22:59I'm done.
23:00So let me refill my wine a little bit more to the top,
23:03because if your ass is pregnant, we got a baby shower to plan.
23:04He would support your decisions, like, if you didn't want it or wanted it.
23:08Like, how do you think that would go?
23:09Yeah, he's not.
23:10I would never be nobody who wouldn't support if I got pregnant
23:12and was, like, going to tell me to have abortion or something like that.
23:13You know what I'm saying?
23:15What does that say?
23:16You see it?
23:19You sure you peed on that?
23:21Let me see.
23:22See, but this one is electronic.
23:24It says not pregnant.
23:27We're going to go with this one anyway.
23:28Yeah, not pregnant, electronic.
23:30This is bittersweet.
23:31I'm relieved I'm not pregnant.
23:33But at the same time, I do want to have a family.
23:35I just didn't want to have it like this.
23:38I'm a grown-ass woman.
23:39I'm not some little girl chasing clout trying to have a baby by Abilene.
23:43This wasn't the right way for me and Sophia.
23:45You might have just saved yourself from a lot of unnecessary drama.
23:49Well, let's cheers to somebody out there with my water.
23:54Thought I was pregnant, but I'm not.
23:56So we got to drink tequila next time I see you.
23:59Well, baby, I'm ready.
24:00You ain't pregnant.
24:01Let's turn up.
24:03Coming up.
24:04Hi.
24:05I'm looking forward to meeting the cowboy that Labrina set me up with.
24:09So how many horses do you have?
24:11Five.
24:12Ooh.
24:12I've been single for some years now.
24:33I haven't really had the luxury of going on a lot of dates.
24:38The guys that do approach me in my DMs, I just be like, where's your teeth?
24:44Where?
24:45But I'm looking forward to meeting the cowboy that Labrina set me up with.
24:50I ain't, whoo, in a minute, okay?
24:54Saddle up.
24:57Hi.
24:57Hello, hello.
24:58How are you?
24:59I'm all right.
24:59How are you?
24:59I'm Latoria.
25:00I'm a hugger.
25:01Nice to meet you.
25:02Latoria, how are you?
25:03Good, good, good.
25:03Did I pronounce your name right?
25:05Latoria, like Victoria, but la.
25:07La-toria.
25:08Yeah.
25:09So what did Labrina tell you about me?
25:11Labrina said there's somebody that I think you might be potentially into.
25:15Okay.
25:15She said, I can't guarantee you nothing of blasee, blasee, but y'all might kick it off.
25:20Sometimes God put out stuff for you, man.
25:22How'd y'all meet?
25:23Horses.
25:23Yeah, but horses got us all.
25:26Wow.
25:26Horses turned into, horse folks turned into family people.
25:28Oh, wow.
25:29So that's what it turned into.
25:30Yeah, I love that.
25:31So you mentioned God, so you're a believer.
25:33I'm definitely about that.
25:35Good.
25:36Born, bred, raised, and a believing world.
25:37Yes, absolutely.
25:38I think I was riding my horse one day.
25:41I had to think about that stuff for a second and just stop and fight with it.
25:45Banks isn't typically the guy I would go for.
25:48Definitely older, a little bit more salt and pepper,
25:51but he seems to be a nice guy.
25:55I'm a horseman through and through.
25:57I have one that's bred.
25:59Mm-hmm.
26:00Name's Six, meaning she due to have a baby at the end of the month.
26:03That's my horse of all horses.
26:04That's probably my favorite horse I've ever had in the whole 27 years of me dealing with horses.
26:09Wow.
26:09Mm-hmm.
26:10She's special, man.
26:12Wow.
26:13You ride her?
26:13Yeah.
26:14Okay.
26:14If I had to break my cup down, it'll be 60% horses,
26:1820% 18-wheelers.
26:22Okay.
26:2220% motorcycle.
26:24Okay.
26:25And 10% personal.
26:28Okay.
26:29So you seem to have good qualities,
26:32but baby, that's 110%.
26:36You like 18-wheelers.
26:39Yeah, I drive an 18-wheeler every day.
26:41Okay, nice.
26:42Yeah.
26:42So that's your 9-to-5?
26:43It's not a 9-to-5 when you're working for yourself.
26:45When you're working for yourself, you don't have no cutout.
26:50Okay.
26:51He's an entrepreneur, so he's a hustler.
26:54That's cool.
26:55Bree had a horse pretty palomino.
26:57I've turned down 60K for her.
27:00Why?
27:01Because I love him.
27:0460K?
27:0560K.
27:06I would have to give her a hug and say it's been nice.
27:08Banks' love for horses is a little abnormal.
27:17So how many horses do you have?
27:18Seven.
27:19Got a horse named Six.
27:20Uh-huh.
27:21Got a horse named Waterboy.
27:22Okay.
27:23Got a horse named Chance.
27:24I kind of think he should have went on a date with the horse,
27:27not me.
27:28I don't know if LaBrina told you, but one of my fears, I'm scared of horses.
27:35Now, we wouldn't make her.
27:36Ooh.
27:39Child, you ain't even heard me out.
27:42Hell no.
27:43Oh.
27:45So when was your last date?
27:48It's been a while.
27:50Been divorced since 2007.
27:53Man, I was f***ing bitter.
27:54I didn't want love.
27:55I gave up on love.
27:56I'm on f***ing love.
27:58You know what I mean?
27:59Like, I don't...
28:00That's where I was at with it.
28:01And I'm just not getting to the point where you just kind of step outside a little bit
28:06and get outside a little bit.
28:07So what's your aspirations?
28:08Like, are you dating to just kind of have a good time, meet with people?
28:13You scared of horses?
28:18I'm not a person that...
28:19When was the last time you went to the ranch?
28:22Do you normally date women your age?
28:24I don't want to look like the grandpa.
28:27No, I ain't going to date no...
28:27I never date nobody younger than my daughter.
28:3031.
28:31I never...
28:31I never go younger than 31.
28:33I'm just a few years older than your daughter.
28:35So would you date an older guy?
28:37Um, yeah, I would.
28:39Yeah, I would.
28:40Well, it really depends on if he wants kids.
28:43Because I want kids.
28:44I don't have kids.
28:45So, right.
28:47I see your eyebrows going up.
28:50I get it.
28:51For me, I want kids.
28:52And I want several.
28:53Several kids?
28:54Yeah.
28:59How old are you?
29:0035.
29:0135.
29:02And how many kids you want to have?
29:03I want, like, three.
29:04But twins is a possibility.
29:08Who are you stressing?
29:10Get this man a drink.
29:11No, no, no, no, no, no.
29:12You can have a rest of the time.
29:13No, because...
29:14No, I only did it because I'm like, you want three kids at 35?
29:18There's nothing wrong with that.
29:19I commend you to the point where you took care of yourself, took care of your business.
29:23That's interesting.
29:23Yeah.
29:24That's interesting.
29:25That's good for you.
29:26Yeah.
29:27I ain't going to say it's good for me.
29:29I'm open to dating someone that's a little bit older than me.
29:35Banks is a lot a bit older than me.
29:37And having kids is at the top of my list.
29:41I want to be a mom.
29:42When I mentioned that to Banks, he seemed like I had just said the worst thing in the world.
29:48Well, I've enjoyed our time.
29:50The conversation.
29:52Conversation is...
29:53Yeah.
29:53It was amazing.
29:54It was great.
29:55If you can sit there and converse with somebody, it's just like nobody in there with me and you,
29:59just like a me and you type vibe.
30:01You can't beat that.
30:02I love that.
30:03He talked about horses 80% of the time.
30:08Banks, thank you.
30:10But I'm going to withdraw from this.
30:14It's giving overdraft.
30:16We had a great conversation.
30:17You scared of horses?
30:18You got to work on that horse situation, man.
30:20Like, I'll come over and help y'all if I need to.
30:22Okay.
30:23Well, I enjoyed our time together.
30:25I enjoyed it too.
30:26Yes.
30:26I'm going to head out.
30:28Okay.
30:28Coming up, I don't want to be in a situation where I have to cover up how I feel or I'm
30:35scared to tell you that I might be pregnant because I don't want to bother you.
30:40I'm a winner, I'm a winner, I'm a boss, I'm a boss.
30:46I'm a winner, I'm a winner, I don't care what it costs.
30:49I'm a winner, I'm a winner, I'm a boss, I'm a boss.
30:52I'm a winner, I'm a winner, I don't care what it costs.
30:57Hello.
30:58Bro.
30:59How you doing?
31:00Hey.
31:01I need a hug.
31:01All right.
31:02You get a hug.
31:02I need a hug today.
31:05Hey, sometimes we need hugs.
31:07I'm happy to give.
31:08How you doing today?
31:10I'm good.
31:11Welcome back.
31:12I'm happy you came back.
31:14I feel I haven't seen you since my life has did a shoot.
31:17Your life.
31:18Oh my gosh.
31:19OK.
31:20This is my second session with Dr. Angela.
31:22And my first one went great.
31:24I can feel it right now.
31:26I can feel that your energy is like,
31:27I compartmentalize my life like over here.
31:30This is work.
31:31This is, you know, motherhood.
31:33This is being a family.
31:35You are trying to break what has happened to you
31:37as best as you can.
31:39Me talking to her was like talking to one of my friends
31:41rather than me sitting down with somebody
31:42who's way older than me.
31:43And I feel like they're judging me.
31:45So I'm looking forward to it because some things came up
31:47that we need to talk about.
31:49Last time we didn't really talk too much about work.
31:51And so what's been going on at work?
31:54It's just been a lot of like, I've been,
31:57I've given myself so much to so many different people
31:59for so long, right?
32:00And that whether it's through work or family or friendship
32:03or loyalty, right?
32:04But now it's time for me to be giving back to myself now.
32:08And it's hard for me, but just because,
32:10it's just not naturally who I am.
32:12So if you feel like you're giving so much
32:13and you're not receiving, there's a boundary issue.
32:17It is ideally, it's like, okay, I'll just start saying no.
32:20Boundaries is way more than that.
32:22It's not just saying no to people.
32:24You're teaching people how to love you so you can love them.
32:27I need boundaries so I can love you the right way
32:30and I can love myself at the same time.
32:32I don't even like talking about it because it just blows me,
32:34but I've been dealing with somebody
32:35for like two or three years, like three years or more.
32:38And he played basketball, right?
32:39So like I said, I always put my feelings behind
32:42because of him.
32:43I'm more worried about him than I'm worried about myself.
32:45I actually put my family and my friends
32:47and the men I date in front of me too.
32:49I feel like times like they may have a game
32:52and it's like, I can't have my emotions in that moment
32:55because they have something going on that's more important
32:57than my emotions in the moment.
32:58That's how I feel.
32:59I date and I've dated basketball players.
33:02I know how they are during the season.
33:03Their brains are wrapped around work.
33:05You damn near can't even bother them
33:07when it comes to certain stuff.
33:08It's like you have to cover your own feelings
33:09because of what they got going on, right?
33:11And I know that, but we know where we,
33:13my homegirl said something the other day
33:15because I went out and I was talking to her about it.
33:16That's why I thought I was pregnant.
33:17And I done got to the point in my life
33:19where I don't have to date a man because he gives me stuff
33:22because he does something or because his motion.
33:24I got my own motion.
33:25I got my own person and I'm proud of who I am.
33:29And I don't need a man for none of that.
33:31But I feel like a lot of stuff that he does for me financially
33:34and like gifts and stuff like that
33:35is because he's making up for not being able to give me love
33:38or like time or stuff like that.
33:40And the situation is, I've been in a situation before.
33:42It's like I'm numbing how I feel and what I have going on
33:48to keep him from having to deal with what I got going on
33:51because I know he got so much going on.
33:52Like everything he got going on
33:53is so much more important than what I got going on.
33:54So what did you teach him?
33:55What are you teaching him?
33:56That he's more important than me.
33:58What's weird is that it's easy for me to be loud
34:00about the little things that bother me.
34:02But when it comes to bigger situations
34:04like my work and my relationships,
34:06I tend to hold back my feelings.
34:08It's like, I don't want to be in a situation
34:11where I have to cover up how I feel
34:12or I'm scared to tell you that I might be pregnant
34:15because I don't want to bother you.
34:19Or inconvenience him.
34:22Yeah, or like me being more public
34:24about what we got going on
34:25because I want it to affect him.
34:27Mm-hmm.
34:29But I just, thank you.
34:32Mm-hmm.
34:35It's like I put everything and everybody above my own self.
34:42And I don't want to feel like that no more.
34:44When I thought I might be pregnant,
34:46all I could think about is like,
34:47how is this going to affect him?
34:49How's it going to affect Sophia?
34:52How's it going to affect my job, you know?
34:57I can't even really even be happy about it
35:01or sad about it in the moment
35:02because I'm never really ever able to have
35:05my own feelings about things
35:07when I have to think about other people.
35:08You are dealing with issues of worth
35:13and you have carried that into your love life,
35:17friendships, business.
35:18You are constantly thinking of another person before yourself.
35:23That's exhausting.
35:24You're carrying other people's burdens
35:27and then swallowing your own.
35:29But you're also breaking the cycle
35:31by coming here and saying,
35:33I am tired.
35:34I'm tired.
35:36I'm tired of being second fiddle to everyone,
35:39even if it's because I made it that way.
35:42Right.
35:42You almost thought you were pregnant.
35:44That's a big deal.
35:46Especially if it was unexpected
35:48because you're now thinking,
35:49I don't want to burden him.
35:53Him.
35:53So damn dumb.
35:55It's not dumb.
35:56That is the empathic part of you.
35:59Right.
36:00It's your gift.
36:01It's also your curse.
36:03And being able to create better boundaries
36:06with yourself and other people
36:07is going to help you see.
36:09It's going to help you listen to your intuition
36:11much better.
36:13So this is going to be a journey.
36:16It is say, okay,
36:17how am I teaching this person to treat me?
36:19And it's also going to be very vulnerable for you.
36:22But that's what you need.
36:23I don't want to feel like I got to suppress my feelings
36:25for somebody else.
36:26So it's all about me now,
36:28about me loving myself,
36:29about me caring about my own feelings
36:31and putting them before anything else.
36:33You're entering a new chapter in your life.
36:34Baby, can we fix this right now?
36:41Ooh, baby, can we work it out?
36:44Baby, can we work it out?
36:48Josh.
36:49Yeah, what's up?
36:50Can I speak to you for a second?
36:53Yeah.
36:54I found out from Josh
36:56that the individual therapy is not taking place.
36:59So I feel very stuck.
37:01And it's very suffocating.
37:03I've been thinking about what Latoya has told me
37:04about couples therapy.
37:06And this is why I'm checking in with him.
37:08So I do want to just talk about, like, us.
37:12How are you experiencing everything?
37:16How are you feeling about everything?
37:17I don't want to be in another room.
37:21I don't.
37:21You know what I mean?
37:22I don't want our kids to see that.
37:25Do I think that was the better step
37:27than any other step we could have taken?
37:30It's yet to be seen.
37:32But I do hope I would...
37:33I do think it was the better step.
37:36And I don't enjoy this space either at all,
37:40but I'm in this space for a reason.
37:44There's things that have been done to me
37:45that I would never do to you, ever.
37:49I can't negate my feelings
37:52and what I'm dealing with at the moment.
37:54Baby, I'm not asking you to.
37:56I feel like I'm constantly fighting, fighting for us.
37:59I want it to work,
38:01but I also want you to want it to work as well.
38:05I do.
38:05I don't think you always show it.
38:07I do.
38:08I don't think you always show it.
38:11So I want you to want it to work.
38:16And that's why I was pushing couples therapy.
38:18I'm like, that's an easy first step
38:20of things that I need in this marriage.
38:24I've never been opposed to couples therapy.
38:27Yes, you have.
38:27I just, no, no.
38:29Yes, you have.
38:29No, I've never been opposed.
38:32Would you consider marriage counseling?
38:36Couples counseling ain't gonna maximize its potential.
38:39Let me focus on personal therapy.
38:42There's been instances where I said,
38:45hey, let's do couples therapy,
38:46and you brush it off.
38:48Okay.
38:49At this moment,
38:51I am extremely frustrated with Josh,
38:54and I know what's necessary
38:56for me to keep going in this,
38:59and I'm just not seeing it.
39:01You don't feel like I've made efforts?
39:03You've made efforts,
39:04but there's been a lot of steps backwards.
39:08I just feel like there needs to be
39:10just a lot more action
39:11and not just words.
39:14I'm really proud of myself
39:16for telling Josh exactly what I need.
39:20I got everything out.
39:22I don't want to sit in the same space for so long.
39:26That's exhausting.
39:28I'm sure we want to see both of us, like,
39:31look happy and be content within this marriage,
39:33and I do think it's possible.
39:35But also, I feel like there are conversations
39:39that need to be had,
39:41healing that needs to be had
39:42to be in that space.
39:45And I'm trying to get there,
39:46so that's why I was like,
39:47hey, I just want you to do couples therapy,
39:49and that's going to help heal those spaces
39:52of where you hurt me.
40:02Okay.
40:04I'm trying.
40:05All right?
40:06Okay.
40:07Trying from this point on
40:08is what you're saying.
40:11I'm trying.
40:12So, would you be comfortable
40:15with doing a couple's therapy?
40:16Yeah.
40:19I want you to be happy.
40:21Whatever I can do
40:22to help you do that,
40:24I will.
40:26Josh has agreed
40:27to do couples therapy.
40:29There's a little bit of relief,
40:31but I just want to see more projection.
40:34I need to see the energy,
40:35and I don't know
40:37if I'm seeing any of it.
40:38Never know
40:39when the chip's gonna fall.
40:48Next time,
40:50it's things that have happened
40:51up until this point.
40:53Josh, tell me,
40:53what is the thing?
40:54I messed up.
40:58How do you feel?
40:59Thought I was a burden.
41:00I just started, like,
41:02removing myself.
41:05I feel much thought,
41:07prayers, and evaluation.
41:10Okay, Napa and Texas.
41:13Elena.
41:13That's all.
41:14You know my heart.
41:15You don't know my heart?
41:16I have to get to know you.
41:18That was a stab
41:19in the damn heart.
41:20I'm sorry.
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