00:00A lot of men on the backside of a divorce will sort of give the same reasons as to why
00:06they left the relationship.
00:08And it's, I didn't feel appreciated.
00:10I didn't feel loved.
00:11I didn't feel admired.
00:12I didn't feel desired.
00:13Who doesn't want to feel appreciated, desired, admired, respected?
00:19That is normal for every human in the entire world.
00:21But I don't know why we think that those things are givens and that you don't have to show
00:27up and earn that because you do.
00:29You absolutely do.
00:30If you want to be admired, do admirable things.
00:33You want to be respected, be respectable, be respectful to other people.
00:38If you want to be desired, do things that would lead one to be desired.
00:43Standing up in the face of fear and doing something even when you're scared, for instance.
00:48Doing something selfless for once, not selfish.
00:52These are things that are attractive to all people, dude.
00:54I watch Superman and I'm like, I want to be like that guy, right?
00:58Because he's respectable, he's admirable, he's honest.
01:02These are qualities that would elicit the kind of responses that would get someone that
01:06would want to be with you anyway.
01:08It's not a given.
01:10You got to earn it.
01:11And at some point, I feel like as a whole, a lot of guys stopped trying to earn this kind
01:16of stuff and they felt like they were just, it was owed.
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