how to stop being a people pleaser

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Are you constantly nodding in agreement when your heart actually wants to say "no"? Or do you think that you are the one, whose needs are always being neglected in this world? With the help of today's stick figure animation, learn how to be your own master and no longer be at the mercy of others.  Being a people pleaser is not merely about being "nice"; it is a symptom of trauma or a deeply ingrained habit developed through fear of rejection, conflict avoidance, or a quest for external validation. If you are feeling exhausted, resentful, or overlooked, then this video is a visual guide for you to regain your time and your self-esteem.  👇 IN THIS VIDEO, YOU WILL LEARN:  The Psychology of People Pleasing: Why do we do it? We take a look at the root causes, from childhood conditioning to the fear of abandonment.. Signs You Are a Pushover: pinpointing the subtle red flags that indicate you are lacking in healthy boundaries. The Art of Saying "No": Getting practical with scripts and mental adjustments to help you decline requests without the baggage of guilt weighing on you. Setting Boundaries: Simple, strong communication is the best way to enlighten people as to what treatment they should give you. Reclaiming Your Identity: A guide to begin putting your needs, interests, and mental health ahead of others. 🎨 WHY WATCH THIS ANIMATION? Through the use of engaging stick figures and other visual elements, we make learning about complex psychological concepts very simple and straightforward. Not only those who suffer from social anxiety, have low self-esteem, or just simply can’t express themselves will find this educational animation very helpful and entertaining.  Self-improvement is not just the process of making oneself better but also the drivers and means of making oneself better. Stop using all your energy just to keep others happy. It is time to transition from being a "nice guy" or "nice girl" to a genuine, powerful person. The first step to your personal liberation is through this video.  📣 SUPPORT THE CHANNEL: Should this video speak to you, kindly give it a thumbs-up, express your thoughts, and subscribe.  Comment Question: What is a recent "yes" that turned out to be a mistake and you would rather have said "no"? Let's talk in the comments! 💬 The more this video gets shared, the larger the audience that will reap the benefits of our high-quality animations and at the same time, help us to produce more such animations.  🔎 RELEVANT KEYWORDS: how to stop being a people pleaser, people pleasing psychology, setting boundaries, learning to say no, take control of your life, stop seeking validation, overcome fear of rejection, self love journey, personal growth animation, stick figure animation, whiteboard animation, mental health awareness, how to be assertive, social anxiety tips, stop being a doormat, self improvement cartoon, psychology of saying no, nice guy syndrome, codependency recovery.

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00:00Hey, really fast, when was the last time you said yes while deep inside you were saying

00:05no, you feel tired, angry, and slightly annoyed with yourself, is that you now, stay, because

00:11today, you're going to stop being a people pleaser forever, what's up, everyone, welcome

00:15back to the channel, if we are new here, then hit the subscribe button right away because

00:20we are going to set your life afire, in the most wonderful way, let's face it, trying

00:24to be that nice guy or sweet girl has cost you a lot, time, energy, chances, and even

00:30your own dreams, there is nothing wrong with wanting to stop, you have just simply had it

00:34with being a human doormat, I have got 7 super simple steps that truly work, each and every

00:39one of them has been my practice from being a chronic yesman to being an owner of my own

00:42life, step 1, call it what it is, no more, I'm just helpful, people pleasing is when you

00:48completely deny yourself just to keep others at ease, say it aloud right now, I'm a people

00:52pleaser, feels disgusting, doesn't it, good, it is the first fracture in the prison wall,

00:57step 2, spot your triggers in real time, the next time you are asked for a favor, slow

01:02down and ask yourself this one question, if I knew they would be perfectly fine with a

01:06no, what would I say, the space between your response and what you really say, that's your

01:10people pleasing nature working, acknowledging it is the way to overcome it, step 3, learn the

01:15magic 3 word sentence, can't at this moment, that's all, you don't have to write a book, keep

01:21on practicing it at the mirror until it actually does not feel rude anymore, because it is not

01:25rude, it's respect, for yourself, step 4, begin with the smallest possible, no, whenever you

01:31feel like staying home and lying on the couch, say no to the group chat that is asking, who's

01:35free Saturday, when you want to stay home and rot on the couch, say no to the addition

01:40of, just let me know if you need anything else, on every email, tiny, nose, help to strengthen

01:45the muscle, step 5, make your default answer, I'll let you know, this is the ultimate power

01:50move, it buys you time so you don't reflexively say yes anymore, people who please others

01:5599% of the time will be saying yes within the first 3 seconds, end that habit and you

01:59will be halfway to freedom already, step 6, stop overexplaining yourself, you don't have

02:04to justify with a good enough reason to say no, saying, no, I don't want to, is a complete

02:09sentence, once you justify, you give the other person your power back, keep it short, can you

02:15cover my shift, nope, can't, good luck though, step 7, treat every single boundary like you

02:20just won the lottery, saying no, and the other person looking disappointed, yes, indeed, give

02:26yourself a high five, that little pain means you did it correctly, write it down in your

02:30notes app, March 15th, told Sarah I can't help with her move, it was hell for 30 seconds,

02:35then I felt like a king, keep stacking those victories, here is a truth no one else speaks

02:40out loud, the ones who get angry when you start saying no, they were not your friends

02:44at any, point, they only found, it easy to take advantage of you, release them, your true

02:50ones will surely support you, you are not turning into a jerk, you are just taking the lead of

02:54your own damn life, now, what is your task, do it today, select one thing that you have

02:59been avoiding saying yes to and say no, text it, say it out loud, whatever, afterwards,

03:04come back here and comment, I did it so that we can all celebrate you, if this resonated

03:08with you, please hit the like button, it really helps me to reach out to more people who are

03:12stuck just like you were 5 minutes ago, also, leave a comment about the toughest no, you've

03:17ever said, I read each and every one, you have only one life, do not throw it away for free,

03:23see you next time, now go treat yourself a little, you earned it.

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