00:00Hey, really fast, when was the last time you said yes while deep inside you were saying
00:05no, you feel tired, angry, and slightly annoyed with yourself, is that you now, stay, because
00:11today, you're going to stop being a people pleaser forever, what's up, everyone, welcome
00:15back to the channel, if we are new here, then hit the subscribe button right away because
00:20we are going to set your life afire, in the most wonderful way, let's face it, trying
00:24to be that nice guy or sweet girl has cost you a lot, time, energy, chances, and even
00:30your own dreams, there is nothing wrong with wanting to stop, you have just simply had it
00:34with being a human doormat, I have got 7 super simple steps that truly work, each and every
00:39one of them has been my practice from being a chronic yesman to being an owner of my own
00:42life, step 1, call it what it is, no more, I'm just helpful, people pleasing is when you
00:48completely deny yourself just to keep others at ease, say it aloud right now, I'm a people
00:52pleaser, feels disgusting, doesn't it, good, it is the first fracture in the prison wall,
00:57step 2, spot your triggers in real time, the next time you are asked for a favor, slow
01:02down and ask yourself this one question, if I knew they would be perfectly fine with a
01:06no, what would I say, the space between your response and what you really say, that's your
01:10people pleasing nature working, acknowledging it is the way to overcome it, step 3, learn the
01:15magic 3 word sentence, can't at this moment, that's all, you don't have to write a book, keep
01:21on practicing it at the mirror until it actually does not feel rude anymore, because it is not
01:25rude, it's respect, for yourself, step 4, begin with the smallest possible, no, whenever you
01:31feel like staying home and lying on the couch, say no to the group chat that is asking, who's
01:35free Saturday, when you want to stay home and rot on the couch, say no to the addition
01:40of, just let me know if you need anything else, on every email, tiny, nose, help to strengthen
01:45the muscle, step 5, make your default answer, I'll let you know, this is the ultimate power
01:50move, it buys you time so you don't reflexively say yes anymore, people who please others
01:5599% of the time will be saying yes within the first 3 seconds, end that habit and you
01:59will be halfway to freedom already, step 6, stop overexplaining yourself, you don't have
02:04to justify with a good enough reason to say no, saying, no, I don't want to, is a complete
02:09sentence, once you justify, you give the other person your power back, keep it short, can you
02:15cover my shift, nope, can't, good luck though, step 7, treat every single boundary like you
02:20just won the lottery, saying no, and the other person looking disappointed, yes, indeed, give
02:26yourself a high five, that little pain means you did it correctly, write it down in your
02:30notes app, March 15th, told Sarah I can't help with her move, it was hell for 30 seconds,
02:35then I felt like a king, keep stacking those victories, here is a truth no one else speaks
02:40out loud, the ones who get angry when you start saying no, they were not your friends
02:44at any, point, they only found, it easy to take advantage of you, release them, your true
02:50ones will surely support you, you are not turning into a jerk, you are just taking the lead of
02:54your own damn life, now, what is your task, do it today, select one thing that you have
02:59been avoiding saying yes to and say no, text it, say it out loud, whatever, afterwards,
03:04come back here and comment, I did it so that we can all celebrate you, if this resonated
03:08with you, please hit the like button, it really helps me to reach out to more people who are
03:12stuck just like you were 5 minutes ago, also, leave a comment about the toughest no, you've
03:17ever said, I read each and every one, you have only one life, do not throw it away for free,
03:23see you next time, now go treat yourself a little, you earned it.
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