Advice For Any Situation With "The Map That Leads to You" Cast

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From romance to friendships, there's always room for some good advice. 'The Map That Leads To You' stars Madelyn Cline, KJ Apa, Sofia Wylie and Madison Thompson spin the wheel of situations to share some solid pieces of advice for one another.  Director: Noel Jean Editor: Jordan Calig Talent: Madelyn Cline; KJ Apa; Sofia Wylie; Madison Thompson Producer: Lauren Alberti; Sydney Malone Line Producer: Jamie Rasmussen Production Manager: Melissa Heber Production Coordinator: Jeanne Tirro Talent Booker: Meredith Lee; Katie Pearce Post Production Supervisor: Jess Dunn Supervising Editor: Rob Lombardi Assistant Editor: Justin Symonds Senior Director, Creative Programming and Development: Natalie Campbell Associate Director of Programming &amp; Development: Logan Tsugita Special Thanks: Prime Video Filmed on Location at: The Dewberry Charleston

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00:00See, I couldn't do this because I'm a girl's girl, and he's clearly with her, so I just...

00:05You missed your opportunity.

00:05Clearly.

00:06Do you want one more chance?

00:07Hi, I'm Madeline Klein.

00:09We are the cast of The Map That Leads To You, and this is Seek Counsel.

00:26Okay.

00:27No.

00:28Yes, ask me next Tuesday.

00:29What's a travel partner, red flag, I should never ignore?

00:34Nap time.

00:35If nap time is not included in travel, red flag.

00:39Oh, I completely agree.

00:41I think that's great.

00:42I think the whole thing should be nap time.

00:43Yeah.

00:44Is that the name of the movie now?

00:46The Map That Leads To Nap Time.

00:48Exactly.

00:49Come on.

00:50Oh, are we doing musical chairs?

00:52Let's go.

00:52Okay.

00:56Oh, romance.

00:57Press the button.

00:58Oh, yeah.

00:59Come on.

01:00Come on.

01:02Oh, come on.

01:04Okay.

01:05I want to explore my spontaneous side.

01:10What is a good way to improve that?

01:12I want to explore my spontaneous side?

01:14You're super spontaneous.

01:16I'm like, I gave this to you.

01:18Ask a stranger where they're going, and then go with them.

01:21Yeah.

01:21You know, ask them, can I join?

01:23What are your guys' thoughts on that?

01:26Actually, I realize that might be a bad idea.

01:28Something about that feels a little dangerous.

01:31I think if you're over 18, that's fine.

01:33That's coming from a man.

01:34But if there's anyone under 18, I would not take that advice.

01:36Please actually don't take my advice.

01:38That's what I was going to say.

01:39Maybe not a good idea.

01:40Maybe not the first advice I would take.

01:43Guys, it's an easy answer.

01:44Okay.

01:45I feel like, yeah, you were ready.

01:46Throw your calendar away.

01:47Oh.

01:48Yeah.

01:48Throw your phone away, actually, too.

01:50Chuck it in the water.

01:50Oh.

01:52Oh.

01:58Oh.

01:59Friendship.

02:00Friendship.

02:04What's one nice thing you think I forget about myself?

02:09How should I remind myself?

02:10Oh.

02:11I think that you forget about how good of a listener you are.

02:16You should remind yourself of it more by surrounding yourself with people who are

02:20as good of listeners as you.

02:22Maybe you don't get that back, so I feel like surrounding yourself with good listeners is important.

02:27She's feeding my delusion.

02:30Did you mean that?

02:32Yeah.

02:32Wow.

02:33From the depths of my heart.

02:34Thanks.

02:36Madison Thompson.

02:37You're up.

02:38Come on, Madison.

02:44Oh.

02:45Oh.

02:45Yeah.

02:47Deep.

02:47What is the best, non-creepy way to let someone know that you are attracted to them?

02:56Make out with them.

02:58Oh, wait.

02:59Sorry.

03:01I'm not ready.

03:02I would say just be like, oh, I really like you.

03:05Like, you're so cute that you don't need to worry about being creepy.

03:08So, like, just be forward.

03:09Like, say how I feel.

03:10Be yourself and be forward and do not be scared.

03:13Thank you for that advice.

03:15Okay, practice it.

03:15On me.

03:17I have to be forward?

03:19Yeah.

03:19And don't be scared.

03:20No, no, no.

03:20Come on.

03:20I'm not looking at you.

03:22And then get my attention and I'll look at you.

03:25What?

03:25Oh, wait, wait.

03:26Hey.

03:27Hi.

03:28What's your name?

03:30My name's KJ.

03:31F***ing, I guess.

03:32So, what are you doing in Charleston?

03:33Another shot, please.

03:35I'm here for work and I've got a few days off.

03:37See, I couldn't do this because I'm a girl's girl and he's clearly with her.

03:40So, I just, clearly.

03:44Do you want one more chance?

03:45I think I'm okay.

03:47Okay.

03:47Was that good?

03:47Wait, so was that advice good?

03:49I don't know from that.

03:50What did you think of her advice?

03:53I thought it was good.

03:54I liked it.

03:55I liked it a lot.

03:57Okay.

04:02Okay, perfect.

04:07Oh, shoot.

04:09She has a really good track record.

04:11Is ghosting ever a good idea when dating?

04:13No.

04:14No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.

04:16Just be honest.

04:17If you don't like them, just say,

04:18hey, I just think we're better off as friends,

04:21but I really respect you as a person.

04:24Just leave it there.

04:25That's why I'm not.

04:26Do you guys think that that's good advice?

04:27Yeah, I don't think ghosting is a good idea at all.

04:30I'm going to take devil's advocate on this one

04:32because I think that assumes that the person

04:35might not pick up when you're walking away.

04:37So I feel like sometimes you have to have it

04:39as a last resort if they're not picking up

04:41that things aren't going the right way.

04:43As a last resort.

04:44That's emergency exit.

04:46Should we practice it?

04:47Should we practice it or not?

04:47Yes, practice it.

04:49Hey, listen, babe.

04:51Hey, excuse me.

04:52Hi, KJ.

04:53Hey, I just want to let you know

04:54that I have thoroughly enjoyed my time with you,

04:56but, you know, my heart's not really in the right place

04:58and it's nothing to do with you.

05:00You're incredible.

05:01I think it's time for us to go our separate ways.

05:03Thank you for being so honest with me.

05:05I accept.

05:06Cool.

05:07Perfect.

05:07See, that's a perfect example of how

05:09communication is way better than ghosting.

05:11It's like a dating advice show.

05:13I know.

05:15Oh.

05:15Oh, sorry.

05:26Ah.

05:26I don't like that.

05:28I knew I was going to get this one.

05:29If I'm feeling down and need a song to pick me up,

05:32what song would you recommend?

05:34Van Halen, Jump.

05:39Go ahead and jump.

05:41Jump.

05:42Jump.

05:43My suggestion was Hot To Go by Chapel Rome.

05:45Yes.

05:50Yes.

05:51Both are valid.

05:52Was it good advice?

05:53I think it was great advice.

05:54Yeah, it's a fun song.

05:55I accept it.

05:56You're up.

05:57I'm lost.

06:02Oh.

06:03Romance.

06:04Wait.

06:06Why am I attracting all this love?

06:11Uh.

06:11Yay.

06:12Uh-oh.

06:12If I were dating someone that I was really into,

06:16how long should I wait to introduce them to my family?

06:20Immediately.

06:21To me, dating means you're not a situationship,

06:24you're dating.

06:25Yes, you're official.

06:26So, like, you know, whenever you want.

06:28As soon as you can.

06:28Who cares?

06:29It's your parents.

06:30I am very close with my parents.

06:31They're very involved in my life,

06:33and I would want them to meet anyone

06:35that I know, love, and care about.

06:38But it also is situational.

06:39You know, it depends.

06:40What if you have a child?

06:42If you're a single parent, you have a child,

06:44how long do you wait before they meet your child?

06:46What would you say to that?

06:47I personally would take much longer.

06:51Yeah.

06:51You don't just introduce anyone to your children.

06:53No, you do not.

06:54That's a big no-no.

06:56But also, your parents should be full-grown people.

07:01So, you know, it's one thing,

07:05but, like, a child is different.

07:07It's a whole nother story.

07:08It's a whole different story.

07:10I feel like that would work for you

07:11than that was for me,

07:12but I like that.

07:13It's for all of our future.

07:15Should we taste it out?

07:16Where is he?

07:18I got a point.

07:19Madison Thompson.

07:26Ooh, romance.

07:28It's like we're in a romance movie.

07:29Something.

07:32Okay, Sophia.

07:33Yes.

07:34How do you deal with a workplace crush,

07:37and do you think it should be pursued?

07:39In our industry...

07:40In our industry,

07:42I think workplace crushes are a little different,

07:45but also, like,

07:46isn't there an HR thing about workplace crushes?

07:49Yeah, I think, like,

07:50literally in every other industry,

07:51it's like a big no-no.

07:52You have to disclose them.

07:53I would say just don't do it

07:54because that makes things messy,

07:57and we don't need that.

07:58We want business to be business

08:00and home to be home.

08:02Let me throw a code bullet.

08:04Because these things are circumstantial.

08:07In our industry,

08:09we get to know people.

08:11We really get close to people.

08:12We become intimate.

08:13If you're falling hard for someone

08:15that you're working with,

08:17what do you do to abstain?

08:19You just tell your heart.

08:20Zone zoe it.

08:21Zone zoe it.

08:22Say a girl, don't do it.

08:23Discipline it, yes.

08:24Okay.

08:29Zone zoe it.

08:34Life.

08:39Oh, hell.

08:41I never have time

08:42to talk to my therapist.

08:44What do I do?

08:45Make time.

08:46Ooh.

08:49Make time.

08:50I've got too much work.

08:51I've got five kids.

08:52I'm cleaning up after them everywhere.

08:54I don't know what to do.

08:54I don't have time

08:55to talk to my therapist.

08:56My wife doesn't talk to me anymore.

08:58She's out.

08:59Out.

09:00She's always out.

09:01What do I do?

09:02I hear you.

09:03What do I do?

09:03I totally hear you.

09:05Call a friend.

09:06Phone a friend.

09:07I don't have any friends.

09:09Is that good advice?

09:10Do you guys have advice?

09:11Make time.

09:12Absolutely.

09:13Yeah.

09:13I think we all have

09:1424 hours in a day.

09:15Okay.

09:16No.

09:23Life.

09:24Oh.

09:25Ha.

09:27How should I balance

09:29my personal life

09:30when work is intense?

09:32I'm the worst person

09:32to ask about this question.

09:35You get a calendar

09:37and you carve out

09:38your personal time

09:39with friends.

09:40I think that's good advice

09:41that I won't do it.

09:42Quit your job.

09:43Apparently neither.

09:43I can't take my own advice.

09:45I'm really bad at that.

09:46My mom tells me

09:47to do the same thing.

09:48That was me telling

09:49you my mother's advice.

09:51I've got an idea for you.

09:52Right.

09:53Most people work

09:54the weekdays.

09:55Right.

09:56What are you doing

09:56with your weekend?

09:57Hmm.

09:57Sleep.

09:58Sleep.

09:59Spend the weekend time

10:00with your friends

10:01and family.

10:02What if I...

10:02I think that's great advice

10:04but what if I work night?

10:05Okay.

10:05Well, do you want to hang out

10:06with your friends or not?

10:06I want to nap.

10:08Why don't you nap

10:08with your friends?

10:09She's not equipped.

10:10They gave me this question.

10:11I didn't want it.

10:12I want to sleep.

10:16Oh my God,

10:16you actually are working night.

10:17Yeah!

10:18We found night juts.

10:20F***!

10:23I've got to sit down.

10:25Yeah.

10:27That was a strong spin.

10:29Yeah, that was good.

10:30Friendship!

10:31Friendship!

10:31If I wanted to break up

10:35with a friend

10:36that I've outgrown,

10:37what would I do?

10:38Oh, that's easy.

10:39Depending on the circumstance,

10:41I don't know how often

10:41you talk to this person.

10:42Let's say they're

10:43my best friend.

10:44You give them a call

10:45and you say,

10:47hey,

10:47I have something on my heart

10:49that I really need

10:50to talk to you about.

10:50Are you around this week

10:51for a coffee?

10:52Let's meet up on Wednesday

10:53at 5 p.m.

10:54for a coffee.

10:54Maybe not 5 p.m.

10:55because you won't get any sleep.

10:56Because you're working nights.

10:5712, exactly.

10:58Simply tell them,

10:59look, I think that,

11:00um,

11:00I don't think

11:01this friendship

11:02is working for me anymore.

11:03And they say,

11:04why?

11:04Well,

11:04I don't think

11:05we have much in common anymore.

11:06And they say,

11:07oh, you think

11:07you're better than me?

11:08No, that's not what I said.

11:09Are you deaf?

11:11And that, by the way,

11:12that is why

11:13you're not friends

11:13with that person

11:14because of their response

11:15that they just said.

11:16Yeah, just hold

11:16a mirror up to them.

11:18What if you just

11:18showed up to coffee

11:19with a mirror?

11:22You say,

11:22why?

11:23You say,

11:24Is that good advice?

11:26Diabolical.

11:27Did I give good advice?

11:28The best.

11:28I loved it.

11:29Especially the part

11:30where you said the mirror.

11:32That was you.

11:34If you say so.

11:36I think

11:37if someone did that

11:38to me,

11:39when I'm thinking

11:40of how I want

11:40to treat someone,

11:41I think about

11:41how it would feel

11:42if they treated me that way.

11:43Like, would you like that

11:44if I said,

11:45KKJ, like,

11:46oh, I've outgrown you

11:47and you say,

11:48why?

11:48And then I hold

11:48a mirror up to your face?

11:49Are you asking

11:50me genuinely?

11:50Yeah, if you would like that.

11:51I would be fine with it.

11:53I personally

11:53would be fine with it.

11:54Mom and dad

11:55are fighting.

11:56I'd be confused.

11:57Yeah, you'd be confused.

11:58I'd be sad.

11:58And you'd probably be like,

11:59oh my gosh,

12:00the fear is so mean.

12:01Not if you said it

12:02the way that I said it.

12:03Okay.

12:04I loved,

12:06I loved this debate.

12:08Let me just say,

12:08though,

12:08none of these conversations

12:09are easy conversations

12:10to have.

12:10It's true.

12:11That is a hard conversation.

12:13Friend breakups

12:13are a real thing.

12:15And they're the worst.

12:16And they are the worst.

12:17I fear they're

12:18more painful.

12:19Mm-hmm.

12:20I think.

12:20when I'm back on top.

12:24Travel.

12:29Oh,

12:30I'm scared.

12:31What's your advice for me

12:32if I was traveling

12:33with a group of friends

12:34and everyone's

12:35on a different budget?

12:35I think when you're traveling

12:37with a group of friends

12:38and you know

12:39everyone's on

12:40a different budget,

12:41I think things

12:42should be discussed

12:42beforehand.

12:43And what you want

12:44to do together,

12:45where to stay,

12:46where to eat,

12:47what to do,

12:48how it fits

12:49into everyone's budget,

12:50that should all

12:50just be laid out

12:51on the table beforehand.

12:53Madeline,

12:53I think you gave

12:54great advice.

12:55Thanks.

12:56I think a point

12:57to Madeline.

12:58Yeah.

12:58I agree with that advice.

12:59That was so much fun.

13:01Good.

13:02Awesome.

13:02Yeah.

13:03Good advice.

13:04Okay, guys.

13:04Well, that's us for today.

13:06We're the cast

13:06of The Map That Leads to You

13:07coming out on Amazon Prime.

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