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Aiden was diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes which causes anxiety and fear in Tammy since her father passed away of diabetes at the age of 46 ): Supernanny will show this family how to handle this delicate and important situation
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00:00I'm in Hamley, New York because there's a family who have a unique situation and they say they need my help.
00:06So let's take a look.
00:08Hi, we're the McGrath family.
00:10I'm Tammy.
00:10And I'm Bill.
00:11And we have three kids.
00:12Paige is nine.
00:13Aiden is five.
00:15And Liam is four.
00:16Aiden, come get a shot real quick and then we can play, okay?
00:19Aiden was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes eight months ago.
00:22These are a little card, buddy.
00:24It's something no mother wants to hear.
00:25I happen to have a father who died of diabetes at age 46.
00:30So it's really all I ever feared as a mother is to have one of my children be diagnosed with diabetes.
00:37Didn't I do that one?
00:38It's completely life-altering.
00:40We have to prick his finger four or five times per day to find out if his sugar is high or low.
00:45You're low.
00:47Let's get something to eat.
00:48We calculate how many carbs he ingested.
00:52Hey, Tam, how many carbs in that pizza?
00:5325 at the most.
00:55And then we figure out how much insulin to give him.
00:58He's getting two units.
01:00Look at that little chappy.
01:02Very courageous.
01:03It's just very scary because it's life-threatening.
01:06I already checked your sugar.
01:07We have to go eat.
01:09Please, let's go eat.
01:10Do you want to get sick?
01:12You need to eat.
01:13Your body needs to eat.
01:14He knows that his parents are worried about him needing to eat.
01:19And now he's holding food to ransom.
01:22You do not hit.
01:24See, don't throw toys.
01:27Liam is an instigator.
01:29You don't say, I hate you.
01:31I'm stupid and I'm a sit.
01:33Liam knows how to push buttons in people.
01:36I just hate this family.
01:39Don't hit me.
01:40Do not hit me.
01:43Stop.
01:44Aiden is very sensitive.
01:47As soon as you stand up.
01:49If you tell him to do something, he pretty much has a meltdown.
01:54Aiden gets very frustrated and very upset over the diabetes.
01:58You better not spit on my floor.
02:00I know my dad is struggling with the diabetes, but that's no excuse for not disciplining their
02:07children.
02:12Liam and Aiden pretty much go toe to toe.
02:14They do a lot of fighting and I do a lot of the breaking up the fighting.
02:20It just seems like all day is just a screaming match.
02:23This is going in the garbage.
02:25Want me to call dad?
02:26Now you're here for the rest of the day.
02:27I'm hoping that we can find one form of discipline that works.
02:30You take a time out.
02:31You want to hit me?
02:32I didn't hit you.
02:33You hit me in the head, bud.
02:34No.
02:35Yeah.
02:36No.
02:36Yeah.
02:37No.
02:38Yeah.
02:38Oh my word.
02:40What a pathetic excuse for a time out.
02:44I have all this and I have that.
02:47No.
02:48Yes.
02:49I feel Paige is really frustrated.
02:51We ask a lot of her and I think she has a lot on her shoulders, a lot of responsibility
02:54that a nine-year-old shouldn't have.
02:56Stop following me, Liam.
02:59Can't you play together?
03:00She is suffering in ways that we probably don't know.
03:04I'm going to have to do something about that.
03:06We have to parent together.
03:08We have to be on the same team.
03:09How was work?
03:10It was work.
03:11We're not really fighting.
03:13We just don't talk.
03:14Our communication is like zero.
03:16You can't parent if you're not prepared to talk to one another.
03:21Why are you acting like this?
03:22You're on time out and I mean it.
03:24Sit.
03:25Aiden's diabetes has really taken a toll on her family.
03:28Sit.
03:28I've had it.
03:29I just want so much for this to be better.
03:33Why are you being so difficult?
03:35Super Nanny, we really are desperate for your help.
03:38Because we're fighting a losing battle.
03:40Please hurry and get here and help this family.
03:43Mom and Dad, I know things seem hopeless, but they're not.
03:47Hope's on its way.
03:48I'll be there soon.
03:49Hi.
04:05Hi.
04:05Pleased to meet you, Joe Frost.
04:06Bill McGrath.
04:07Nice to meet you.
04:07I was greeted by Bill.
04:10He welcomed me into his home.
04:12Hi.
04:13Hi.
04:13How are you?
04:14Pleased to meet you, Joe.
04:14Thank you for coming.
04:15This is my wife, Tammy.
04:16When Joe first came, I kind of had mixed emotions.
04:19I wasn't really sure how it was going to go.
04:21This is Liam.
04:22Hello.
04:23Don't be shy.
04:24This is Aiden.
04:25Hi, Aiden.
04:26Say hi.
04:27Pleased to meet you.
04:28And then this is Paige.
04:29Hi, Paige.
04:30Pleased to meet you.
04:31How are you?
04:32Good.
04:32Good.
04:33How about doing what you're told, like a good boy, eating your lunch that's there right
04:37now, and maybe a sandwich will be in your future.
04:39It was lunchtime, and Liam didn't want to eat.
04:42I'm going to ask you one more time.
04:44If you don't, you're going to sit and time out.
04:47Oh, let's go.
04:48Don't hit.
04:49We don't hit.
04:50I saw Mom get him up from the table and place him into a timeout.
04:54And when you're done, you can come eat with your brother and sister.
04:58Liam.
04:59Stay.
05:00You only have to be here for four minutes.
05:02Sit.
05:03And then Dad got involved.
05:04Do me a favor.
05:05Eat half of the spaghetti, or maybe I'll get you half a sandwich.
05:08All right?
05:09Negotiating during a timeout.
05:13OK.
05:14Dad was undermining Mom's timeout, and I could see she was getting upset.
05:18What are you thinking?
05:21Tammy.
05:22Um.
05:23They were just, I don't know, different pages.
05:27Mom was clearly upset with Dad's interference, so I took her outside and she started to open
05:33up more.
05:33Have you sat down and actually spoke about this?
05:35Like, you're all frustrated, but have you actually sat down with Bill and said,
05:38We need to talk.
05:39I'm frustrated.
05:39He's not, he listens, but there's no, he doesn't really listen, you know?
05:44He stands there and listens with the remote or the TV on or something, you know, but I don't
05:50think he hears me.
05:51We have horrible, like, we've just kind of all shut down, like, there's no team playing
05:56going on here.
05:56When you've got two parents who are not communicating with one another, that's going to have an impact
06:03on how they parent together, because they're not going to be committed together in how they
06:08raise their children.
06:09After lunch, Mum and Dad gave five-and-a-half-year-old Aiden his insulin.
06:15In America alone, there are roughly 186,000 children under the age of 20 that have type 1 diabetes.
06:24Aiden, come here, bud.
06:26We need your shot.
06:26So, as you can imagine, for those parents, it's quite a complex routine.
06:33Where's your plate?
06:34I need to know how much you ate so I can adjust for your shot.
06:37What's that you're doing there, Bill?
06:39Um, figuring out the equation for his insulin, how much he has to get.
06:43Insulin is a hormone that's produced in the pancreas that helps the body process sugar in
06:48food.
06:49If you have type 1 diabetes, you can't produce your own insulin.
06:53So, what's...
06:54I add up the carbs.
06:55Right.
06:55Each, um, product that contains carbs, so we have to, a lot, we have to add all those
07:00together and get a total number, and then we have to, there's a process where we have
07:04to divide a certain number minus a certain number.
07:06They have to calculate so much.
07:08They have to work out Aiden's calorie intake, really, with regards to his carbs.
07:13That's a big responsibility.
07:16All right, don't tense up.
07:17No.
07:18Relax your leg.
07:19Relax your...
07:20No?
07:22Okay.
07:22Managing this medical condition is extremely difficult for this family, understandably,
07:28and it's taking its emotional toll.
07:31Every day is just such a challenge, and it's so different, and I think Aiden's truly angry.
07:36As a parent, what information have you given him?
07:38We have books, like they've given us books, and we've read books together, and I don't
07:42think he understands, you know, what his pancreas is, or, but he knows that the shots do help
07:48him survive, and I mean, the seriousness of it, we've tried to teach him, but in a positive
07:52way.
07:53I knew diabetes was a death sentence, it meant death to me, because I watched my father
07:58die of diabetes.
08:00Diabetes doesn't need to be seen as a death sentence.
08:04Aiden is five years old, and he's got his whole life ahead of him, so what I'm going
08:08to do is to help his mum and dad manage this.
08:10I mean, did that leave you in a place of feeling very fearful because your family member had
08:14passed away?
08:15Yeah.
08:16Right, okay.
08:16Absolutely.
08:17I mean, emotionally, that was absolutely horrendous.
08:21Yeah.
08:22Eight months, nine months have gone past, and you're where now with that?
08:27I'm still really, really scared. His numbers are all over the place, and I blame everything
08:32on the diabetes.
08:34I know mum is very distraught in accepting the fact that Aiden has diabetes, but as a parent,
08:41she also needs to learn how to be able to discipline her son as well.
08:47No! Stop it!
08:56Later on in the day, Aiden and Liam started to argue with one another, and mum put them
09:02both in her version of Time Out.
09:06Why were you hitting on Aiden? What were you fighting over? The magazine or your puppy?
09:12Aiden, come say sorry to your brother, you can get out of Time Out.
09:16No, come say it to your brother like you mean it.
09:20For a Time Out, there was an awful lot of talking going on. I'm more curious as to how mum
09:25came across this version of my technique.
09:28Was that something you were taught or you read or...?
09:31I think it's almost something that I kind of self-taught.
09:34Are you confident with it?
09:35No.
09:36You're not?
09:37It doesn't seem to work. It doesn't... phase him.
09:40And dad wasn't kidding, because mum's version of Time Out didn't bother Aiden in the slightest.
09:46Oh, I told you you could get out of Time Out. Why are you still over here?
09:48It's not a joke.
09:50I want to still be...
09:52Why?
09:54Because you like it?
09:57Yeah.
09:58Clearly discipline is something that I need to work on with both these parents.
10:05I hadn't seen Paige, the oldest daughter, for quite a bit, so I went upstairs to check
10:09Connor.
10:14Hello?
10:16The door's locked.
10:17Paige let me in, but she told me the reason for the high security.
10:21You have to have a key to physically lock your room, because the boys go in.
10:26And they're not locked, and then I always have to clean up.
10:28Why not just tell the boys, stay out of my room, please?
10:32I do, but they don't listen.
10:34How does that make you feel, then?
10:36It makes me feel mad, because I always have to clean up after them.
10:40Kids shouldn't have to lock their doors under any circumstances.
10:44I'm going to have to work on this.
10:48Hot stuff, guys. Don't touch.
10:50Later on in the evening, I watched mum serve dinner.
10:54Five-year-old Aiden wasn't prepared to sit down and eat the food that was before him.
10:59The parents feel held to ransom, because they know that their son needs to eat in order to
11:04control his diabetes.
11:06Try this, buddy, right here.
11:07It's a little baby broccoli.
11:08Just try it.
11:09That one piece.
11:10No.
11:10You want some butter on your potatoes?
11:13No.
11:14No?
11:15At the same time, Aiden's using that against them.
11:19You want to stay here the rest of the night?
11:20No.
11:21Well, then start eating.
11:22Yeah.
11:24You're not getting anything later.
11:26No, you're not.
11:27I'm telling you right now.
11:28If he hasn't eaten his dinner, then he hasn't consumed the amount of carb necessary.
11:35Mm-hmm.
11:36We'd have to make him something that he'll eat.
11:38Right.
11:39So, what he's saying in that statement is a fact.
11:42He could get food later.
11:43Yeah.
11:43I don't think it's any coincidence that this little boy's sitting at the head of the table,
11:48do you?
11:48Aiden's got far too much say in this house.
11:52His parents need to learn how to manage his diabetes and at the same time not give him
11:56all the control, because at the end of the day, his health is at stake.
11:59I've had a good day just being able to watch the children, so there is stuff that I would
12:05love to talk to you about tomorrow morning in a family meeting, so that we can really
12:09just get to the bottom of all of this.
12:12Type 1 diabetes has rose over the last two years by 13.5%, and I know that it's been very,
12:20very difficult for the McGrath family, but that doesn't mean I'm going to hold back on
12:24letting them know what's necessary.
12:26I really hope that Joe can help us.
12:29I know what to expect.
12:31I'm ready for it, and I know I'm ready for it because I want to make this better.
12:46There's been some major disruption because one of your children has a serious medical
12:52condition.
12:53So why don't we get to the heart of those points?
12:56How much does Aidan know about his diabetes?
12:59He knows that he has to eat, or sugar will drop low.
13:05He knows that he has to have his shots.
13:07He knows that he has to have his shots and fingerprints every day for the rest of his
13:10life.
13:11All right, we're going to work on something that allows Aidan to become more aware of
13:15what he's got, explaining it in a much simpler way so that he can understand the concept of
13:20that.
13:21He sees that you have to eat that food, as if you're dictating, you have to have that.
13:24I think it would be a wonderful idea if what we saw was more incentive, almost a reward system
13:30in place, so that food for him didn't become something that he wanted to control.
13:36I want to talk about the communication between the pair of you.
13:42You haven't come to a place in recognizing the importance of talking to one another and
13:47making sure that you continue to do that.
13:50Now, why do you feel that you've got yourself in that place?
13:54Easier than arguing, I guess.
13:57What's been easier?
13:59Not arguing.
14:00Walking away.
14:01But the fact is, your whole family is going to pay the price if you guys don't start talking.
14:05Right.
14:05And you know that if you guys don't make that a priority, then everything's going to
14:08start to crumble anyway.
14:11Let's talk about discipline and boundaries.
14:14Aidan's a five-year-old little boy who likes to have his own way, and there's been no discipline
14:18in place because he's had this medical condition.
14:21Right.
14:22Because that word diabetes for you means death, because your father died of it.
14:27His rude attitude and the way he behaves has got nothing to do with the fact that he's
14:34got diabetes, but he needs to realize that you guys have got the upper hand and show him
14:39that you have the authority, that you are the disciplinarian, that he's to do as he's
14:43told full stop.
14:45The discipline that you are doing is not working.
14:48It's very true.
14:49It has no weight.
14:50It's got no clout.
14:51It means nothing.
14:53It's empty.
14:53So we're going to learn how to do discipline properly.
14:57Right.
14:58So are we ready?
15:00Are we truly ready to just start changing things now?
15:03Because I think it's certainly been long enough.
15:06Absolutely.
15:07Yeah.
15:08Dive in head first.
15:09Yeah.
15:09All right, good.
15:10So let's just jump into the deep end and go for it.
15:13All right.
15:13What about this little pinky finger?
15:20Aidan knows that he's got diabetes.
15:22He's not quite sure what it is.
15:24He knows that he needs to take insulin shots and he has to be tested, but he doesn't really
15:29understand the mechanics behind it.
15:31So what I've brought in is some finger puppets for both Bill and Tammy and a little story
15:36that they're going to read.
15:39The whole purpose is to be explaining a story about the importance of balancing carb and
15:45insulin.
15:46Carbohydrates raise blood sugar levels and that was represented with a puppet that had C on
15:51it.
15:52And for the insulin, there were puppets that had I on them.
15:55It's a serious issue.
15:56It doesn't mean it can't be fun when you're explaining it.
15:58There once was a seesaw named Sam.
16:04He was a happy chappy who had lots of friends.
16:07He has friends that have a cool C on their shirts.
16:12Hi.
16:13And he also has friends who wear a cool I on their shirt.
16:18Sam has lots of fun and is happy as long as he is balancing and his friends are on both
16:25sides of the seesaw.
16:26Aiden just had a smile on his face the whole time and it was really good for him and it's
16:31going to help him take ownership with his diabetes.
16:34When Sam is out of balance, he has too many friends on one side.
16:39He feels irritated, even angry sometimes.
16:43Rawr.
16:44Rawr.
16:44Rawr.
16:45I don't like you.
16:46Rawr.
16:47I don't think that we've ever talked to Aiden about diabetes laughing and today that proved
16:51that it could be done.
16:53Think about...
16:56Mommy and Daddy, what's the story we were talking about?
17:00Carbs and insulin balancing each other.
17:03We know that we can balance each other, right?
17:05It's been kind of hard to laugh and have fun with diabetes for my brother.
17:11He's my insulin friend.
17:13Looking at him and seeing him smiling and interacting with his brother and sister and they were smiling as well.
17:18It was great. It was wonderful.
17:20Which one is the insulin guy?
17:22The letter I.
17:23Look at the letter I on his shirt.
17:24He knew we were talking about carbs and he knew we were talking about insulin.
17:27He understood and I could tell he understood.
17:29I like to pop it.
17:31These go together.
17:33They do go together. That's right.
17:37Aidan's recognised that when his mum and dad panic about him eating food,
17:41that really he has an enormous amount of power and control over them.
17:45So what I'm going to do is to bring in some dinner plates as a real incentive for Aidan to turn this around.
17:52Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday and Saturday.
17:58There are six sections to a plate.
18:00And when he shows you how well he behaves in sitting down as well as eating the food that's been prepared for him,
18:10you'll place one of these stars into that section.
18:14Once Aidan had got a star in each section of his plate and all of those plates were full, he would then be rewarded by his parents.
18:22Check this out. Come on in here.
18:24On each plate there's six sections. Breakfast, snack, lunch, snack, dinner, and then your bedtime snack.
18:34And every time you do a good job, you get a star. Once you do that whole, every single plate, you get something special.
18:40Aidan's reaction was very positive. I think that it gives him something to strive for.
18:46Do you think it would be fair if when he filled all the plates that we got to go to the train store and pick out a small train?
18:54Yeah. We didn't have to wait long to test the technique.
18:57All right, Mum and Dad, let's sit down at the table and have a nice lunch.
19:01Yeah.
19:02The technique was used to give Aidan real positive encouragement and focus on eating.
19:08How many carrots have you had?
19:10Don't mess around, please.
19:11That's five. That's a lot. That's awesome.
19:14You are doing fabulous.
19:16You're doing extremely well. And you see that plate up there? It's going to get a nice star, isn't it?
19:21But then Aidan decided he didn't want to eat anymore, and it was really important that he finish the food on his plate to keep his blood sugar level at the right range.
19:32So I had his mum sit down with him and persevere.
19:36Don't spit it out.
19:40I'm not seeing you swallow.
19:45Swallow it.
19:46Yeah, because just chewing it and not swallowing it.
19:48Aidan's move was a pure power play, and I didn't want Mum to panic but be in control of this, so I sent her into the kitchen to deal with the dishes.
19:56I'll be back. Let me know when you're done chewing. I'll be back.
19:59I'm going to throw a couple of dishes in the dishwasher.
20:01We must have sat there for about an hour, but at the end of the day, he did as he was told. He finished his food.
20:09It's all gone, isn't it? Yay!
20:12He's never sat at the table that long, you know, for over an hour chewing on food.
20:17Usually he would just, you know, melt down and he didn't.
20:20And that it is because he was striving towards something and he didn't have control.
20:25You did extremely well.
20:28Extremely well. You got the hang of it, right?
20:30So you know what you need to do.
20:32Mum recognised when you're patient, when you follow through,
20:35and when you recognise that actually you're going to deal with this and you're not going to give him the power,
20:41things happen and you get the results.
20:43Keep building on that because you'll see the time shorten, all right?
20:47From an hour, you'll start to see that become quicker and quicker.
20:50You did very good. You just persevered with it.
20:52Thank you. A little star.
20:54Green star.
20:56Aidan does understand his diabetes a lot better than what he did.
21:02But at the end of the day, if his parents don't get discipline under control,
21:07then he's going to use his food as control.
21:10And let's face it, the stakes are too high when it comes to this boy's health.
21:14So I'm going to teach mum and dad a discipline technique, diabetes or no diabetes,
21:19for whenever any of these kids misbehave.
21:22The naughty spot. Step one, a warning.
21:24The warning gives the kids a clear message by the tone and by your eye contact.
21:30The second, you will then take them to the naughty spot and you will explain why they're now in the naughty spot.
21:37Having Joe list the steps in the naughty spot was genius
21:43because even though we thought we knew how to do a timeout, we weren't doing it correctly.
21:50The family and I went for a walk and mum and dad got to see exactly the consequences
21:55that happen when you don't put discipline in place.
21:58Car coming. You need to look both ways. No, you didn't.
22:02I know you know how to do it. Same thing.
22:05This is... No, you didn't. Look both ways. I'll look with you. Come on. Look.
22:12Aidan became very obstinate and defiant. He didn't want to listen to mum.
22:16If you don't stop messing around and don't want to follow the rules, then we'll go home and we'll sit in a timeout.
22:22Are you giving him a choice? What are you doing there? Let him know. Stop giving him the control.
22:28Because this is where you got yourself into this pickle. Right.
22:31Gave him the control. Do as you're told. You know what, Aidan, you're going in timeout.
22:35Mum can't give Aidan a choice because there's too much at stake. So when he decides that he doesn't want to, mum's got to persevere.
22:44You weren't listening. So we'll go take our timeout. In five minutes you can come out.
22:50What's going to be important is that mum follows through. So he realises that she's going to put her foot down and make those changes,
22:56and that he's not going to be able to have that control.
23:06There you go. Remember your voice. Okay, Tammy? Remember. Firm voice.
23:12Your timer went off. Time's up. You were in timeout because you didn't listen and you broke the rules. Okay?
23:18Now give me a hug. Don't look at the steps. I need you to apologize. Because breaking the rules is not okay. Stand up.
23:28Can you apologize? You need to apologize. Give me a hug.
23:34The way Aidan responded today does prove to me that you don't have to worry about your kids not loving you by disciplining them.
23:42It's okay to be stern. It's okay to be the mom. It's okay to be in control. So it was really nice.
23:47All right, that was better. So the steps. Key. Okay? That's about you having ownership of it, okay?
23:59Like dealing with all of this diabetes wasn't enough, I had noticed that mum and dad's communication was certainly slacking,
24:07and I wanted to improve that, so I brought in a technique that I felt would really help them to become much closer.
24:14What you're going to do throughout the day is when there is something that you need to talk to each other about,
24:19you're going to write it and then put it in to the box. And then you're going to create that time in your day,
24:25and you're going to pull a couple of things out of that box and discuss it.
24:29So let's start off with writing a few things to put in the box.
24:36It was very hard at first to write the questions that we had on paper.
24:41It forced us to look at ourselves and look at each other and ask those pointy questions.
24:47Okay, you wrote. What can I do to show you I truly do care? Communication is so big with me.
24:56I need you to look at me when I talk to you and act like you want to talk to me.
25:02Could you do that?
25:04Yes, I can. When will you take time out to think about and answer one of my questions?
25:12Well, we'll have to make time.
25:14Right. And are you going to help make that time?
25:16Absolutely. When we put the kids to bed, as soon as they go to bed, that'll be our time.
25:22Eight o'clock.
25:24Eight it is.
25:26The talking box gave them both an opportunity to clean the slate.
25:31It's not just about us. It's actually about parenting.
25:34We are absolutely going to use this box as long as we need to until the communication just comes by itself.
25:41We have committed to that.
25:43Love you. Love you.
25:46The last member of the family who needed my help was Paige.
25:49She didn't want the boys coming in her room all the time, so I simply gave her a sign that said,
25:54do not enter. And I left it up to her to explain to her younger brothers what that was all about.
25:59If you see this green up, facing this way, that means you can come in.
26:05But if you see it this way, it's red, you can't come in. I'm doing something, okay?
26:12How do you know what happens if you disobey?
26:15Why?
26:16You get a warning.
26:18I get a sense that Paige feels great about it. Gives her time to just relax and be a little nine-year-old girl.
26:23And not worry about having her brothers coming in.
26:26What color do you want to put up right now, Paige?
26:33Does that mean we all have to get out?
26:35Yeah.
26:36Yeah.
26:37Oh, there you go. The finger's pointing to the door. We all have to leave.
26:40It's very important that she has that space, and it's to call her own. It's hers. It's no one else's.
26:46I am going away for three days. Aidan, when I come back, the first thing I want to see are stars on your dinner plate, okay?
26:59Joe will be back in three days, and she will bring the cannons with her, and then, you know, all guns blazing, so we better hold up our end.
27:08What I'm really hoping is going to happen is this family is going to grasp all the techniques they've been taught,
27:14and just keep moving and making progress forward because there's too much at stake.
27:26It's been three days since I've been gone. I really hope this family have kept themselves on track.
27:32Let's take a look at exactly how well you did and what we need to learn today.
27:39I'm actually going to start with Aidan's eating.
27:43We're going to have lunch in about an hour.
27:46I won't be hungry at lunch.
27:50I know. He's got to act better if he's going to get a start.
27:54We're going to have lunch in an hour. End of discussion.
27:57Can I just stop that there?
27:58It's not his behavior that warrants the star.
28:03It's about his eating the right amount, all right?
28:06So just be very careful.
28:10If I look over again and you're not eating, it is your warning, and you will go to timeout.
28:15Start eating.
28:21You got to find that balance.
28:23Carbs and the who?
28:25Insulin.
28:28Are they balanced out now?
28:34Yeah.
28:35Now you can reach them.
28:36There's right there.
28:40Very smart.
28:42Very smart.
28:43What did he do that was a smart move?
28:45The puppets.
28:47Yeah.
28:49He made it fun, and what he did was distract.
28:52He took the focus off of that negativity again with that power play.
28:57Okay, timeout with Liam.
28:59Liam, you did help make the mess, and I want you to help clean it up.
29:03That's your warning.
29:04Either you walk over here and start cleaning up, or you're going to the timeout.
29:07I gave you enough warnings, you're done now.
29:11Okay, I'm out.
29:12Okay, sit.
29:13No, it's too late.
29:15You need me to do anything?
29:17Where's Liam?
29:18I don't know.
29:19Don't say nothing, just go get him, and bring him back.
29:22Don't say, don't even say anything.
29:26He's trying to help you.
29:27I know, and I said thank you.
29:28That's enough.
29:31What were you receiving there, Bill?
29:33Why are you questioning me, more or less?
29:36I certainly feel there's more room for receiving objective, constructive criticism about techniques.
29:46You're on the same team, all right?
29:48Mm-hmm.
29:51What do you think you're doing?
29:52It's timeout.
29:53No.
29:54No.
29:55Do not hit!
29:59Wait a minute!
30:02I'm sorry.
30:07Can you tell me what was going wrong there with the naughty spot?
30:12I feel bad that it turns into that.
30:16Like, I feel sorry for him, I just said I'm sorry.
30:18I know, why?
30:19I'm heading him to timeout saying I'm sorry, I don't know.
30:21You feel sorry that you have to give him a discipline because he made a choice to kick you and not listen and do as he was told.
30:28Right.
30:29It's part of parenting because that's how they learn to grow up to be the young adults that you want them to be.
30:35Let's take a look at Aiden's diabetes.
30:38So everybody thinks about it because Aiden has diabetes.
30:43That's right.
30:44So you don't have to worry about it?
30:47I don't?
30:48That's comforting words.
30:50No, I'm just saying you don't have to if you don't want to.
30:54Really?
30:55I really don't have to worry.
30:56It's going to be okay, isn't it?
30:58Those are comforting words coming from you.
31:02I think I went somewhere and hid and cried for a little while.
31:05That was really, that was really good stuff to hear him say that.
31:10Wow.
31:12And he's right.
31:14He's feeling really good about it.
31:15So hey, Mum, don't worry.
31:18It's all good.
31:19So take heed from your son's words.
31:22Yeah.
31:24Okay.
31:25So we are feeling so much more confident about living with diabetes.
31:29There is still some more work to do with regards to the discipline.
31:34It's a little bit apologetic there when it comes to that.
31:37Let's move on.
31:42I saw on the DVD that Mum's still a bit shaky when it comes to giving timeouts.
31:46I gave you enough warnings. You're done now.
31:49And very touchy when it comes to listening to constructive criticism from Dad.
31:54Just trying to help you.
31:55I know, and I said thank you. That's enough.
31:57If Mum's not going to receive any help from Dad when it comes to disciplining the boys,
32:02then really how are they going to communicate with one another in dealing with a much bigger issue,
32:07which is Aiden's diabetes?
32:09I thought it was time to give Mum a little exercise.
32:11And so as Paige has been so considerate throughout this whole process,
32:16I gave her the starring role of being a naughty child.
32:20And guess what? She jumped to the chance.
32:22You're going to drop something on the floor like this.
32:25And then Mum, she's going to give you a warning.
32:28And you know what the warning's going to be all about, right?
32:31What you're going to do then, Bill, is step in and go over the steps with her.
32:36Yeah.
32:37All right? Okay.
32:40I want the...
32:45Paige!
32:47Paige, what are you doing?
32:50Stop!
32:52Paige absolutely loved playing the naughty child, but Mum took it serious too.
32:57What are you doing?
33:00Give her a warning.
33:02Follow the steps.
33:03Paige, this is your warning.
33:04No warning.
33:06We don't act like that.
33:08Go sit down, please.
33:12You got to set a timer?
33:13Oh, yeah.
33:17What are you doing?
33:21Tan, make sure you...
33:23Can we just put her back?
33:25I didn't talk to her. I said Paige.
33:27When I tried to help her, she got a little testy.
33:31Yeah, me neither.
33:35Sit.
33:37Don't talk to her. Just put her back. Remember the steps.
33:41Just walk her back and walk away.
33:44Bill kept telling me, don't talk to her, don't talk to her.
33:47And I wasn't, like, having a conversation, but I was, like, getting all defensive.
33:50I thought this exercise has gone far enough, and now I wanted to know exactly what she'd learned from this.
33:59Number one, that she could be in a timeout.
34:01All right.
34:02Number two, not to talk to them when they get out of timeout, just to put them back.
34:06Yeah.
34:07Reset the timer and walk away.
34:09All right, and three...
34:11I did realise that we are a team, and it's not going to get accomplished alone.
34:15We have to do it together.
34:16Mum has learnt a lot from this exercise, and so when it comes to disciplining, she is going to remember this.
34:23And I know for a fact that Paige certainly loved helping her mum.
34:26It is important to recognise that going through those steps and receiving the support is what gets you the results at the end of the day.
34:36Paige gave her mum a big squeeze, and it was a very sweet, tender moment.
34:43Before I leave this family, I want to shed some information that allows them to accept that diabetes is a medical condition
34:51that they will live alongside, and that it never has to restrict Aidan and what he chooses to do in his life.
34:59Aidan, you see this list?
35:01It's a whole list of people who have and live with diabetes.
35:10Type 1, like you.
35:12I want to remind this family that there are people that are very well known in society who have type 1 diabetes
35:20and who are living fruitful lives.
35:23Halle Berry.
35:25Mary Tyler Moore as an actress.
35:29Nick Jonas.
35:31It was really cool to know that a lot of people live with it, famous people.
35:35Jay Cutler.
35:36It never stops them from anything, and it just helps encourage being able to live alongside diabetes.
35:42Sean Busby.
35:43We have released Sean Busby, professional snowboarder, 21 years old, and who has sent a very special message for Aidan.
35:54Hi, Aidan. My name is Sean Busby, and I'm a professional snowboarder.
35:58You and I have a lot in common, Aidan. We're both pretty adventurous, we both love sports, and we both have type 1 diabetes.
36:03I looked at Aidan. He was just beside himself. He goes, Daddy, he's talking about me.
36:09Check this out. It's a special snowboard that I ride.
36:12I run snowboarding camps every year for diabetic children.
36:15At each of these camps, I have the kids sign this board.
36:18And if you haven't noticed, I've even signed your name right over here on the front of my board.
36:25So every time that I look down while I'm racing down the slope, I'll remember you and everyone else.
36:30So welcome to the team, Aidan. Keep up the good work.
36:35Did you see your name on that snowboard? That's cool, right?
36:41I think Aidan absolutely got the message that it was okay that he had diabetes, and he told me that. He said, Mom, it's okay.
36:47Just a reminder, really, for all of you as a family, this shouldn't be a major hurdle that is used as an excuse to set him back from anything that he wants to do in his life.
36:58Diabetes is okay.
37:00Wow, this family have come a really long way.
37:08Fun!
37:10We have parents who are confident and have accepted that they are a proud family who will be living with diabetes.
37:17Right, I really am going now, though.
37:20Bye-bye!
37:21My family is doing much better now, and thanks, Joe, for straighting out my mom and dad.
37:28Hi, can we hug you?
37:29Listen, you're welcome.
37:30Keep up your work, okay? That talking box.
37:33Family, it's all about family.
37:35It's definitely a happier family.
37:37Liam, you're going to have to save me!
37:38The kids are more secure, Tammy's more secure, and we're just having fun.
37:43I have an opportunity of a lifetime to have Joe come into my home and give me all these tools I need.
37:49This is the beginning for you, this is not the end.
37:52To make this all work, and I am going to be a new Tammy, I will never give up.
37:57Mwah!
37:59Bye-bye, sweetie.
38:00Bye.
38:01I'm super nanny.
38:03Bye-bye.
38:04Bye-bye.
38:06I hope everyone is happy Easter.
38:10Take care.
38:11Bye-bye, darlings.
38:13They've done extremely well, and the future is incredibly bright for this family, it really is.
38:27I love you.
38:28Bye-bye.
38:29Bye-bye.
38:30Bye-bye.
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