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You were never taught real love—only survival.
This is for the ones who learned to shrink, silence themselves, and disappear just to keep the peace.
But love that demands your disappearance… isn’t love. It’s codependency in costume.
And here’s the truth:
✨You were made to be seen, held, and loved without vanishing.
Watch this and let your nervous system feel the truth of corrective love.

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Transcript
00:00Because somewhere along the way, you learn that love is conditional.
00:07You learn to scan for moods, tiptoe around needs, and earn your worth by making yourself small.
00:15You weren't taught love. You were taught survival disguised as sacrifice.
00:21So when someone gets close, you instinctively disappear, shape-shift into who they need,
00:27suppress what you want, and slowly vanish behind the curtain of, quote-unquote, keeping the peace.
00:35But here's the truth.
00:38Love that demands your disappearance is codependency in costume.
00:47You weren't made to be consumed.
00:51You were made to be met and loved without needing to vanish to do it.
01:00You weren't made to be consumed.
01:02You were made to be met.
01:05Can you write that on your bathroom mirror?
01:07I think so many of us feel like we disappear in relationships and we wonder why.
01:18And it's because it's how we were trained.
01:22It's how we were wired.
01:23It's been our positioning since we were young, right?
01:28And so logically, we know what we're doing and we know we need to stop.
01:32But our body is in a different gear.
01:34So the goal is to give your body a different experience where you don't vanish in a relationship
01:42and that relationship actually holds you, your existence.
01:48Your partner embraces, champions, supports, and sees you.
01:52That's going to convince your body that this is different, that this love is corrective.
01:59And that is the goal.

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