Second Date Update - Show Me The Money
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00:00All right, Connor is, uh, it sounds pretty depressed, to be honest with you.
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00:07We want to set him back up with Rebecca.
00:09So we're going to give Rebecca a call right now and see if we can get her on the phone.
00:12Hello?
00:30Hi, good morning.
00:30Is this Rebecca?
00:32This is Chief.
00:33Hey, Rebecca, this is actually JR, Lana, and Kevin over here at 99.5 QYK.
00:37How are you doing?
00:39I'm good.
00:40How are you?
00:41We're doing great.
00:42Random phone call, um, but we want to see if we could talk to you on the air for a minute.
00:47Actually, about a date you went on.
00:48Would that be okay if we just asked you a few questions?
00:50I know that's weird.
00:52Uh, sure, I guess.
00:54Okay, cool.
00:55So we want to talk to you about this guy, Connor.
00:57Uh, we heard you guys went out and had a great time.
00:59He felt like the feelings were mutual, where you guys were both into each other, you guys
01:04were hitting it off, and he thought for sure he'd be seeing you again, and you guys would
01:09be going on another date, but that hasn't happened yet, and we want to see if we can make it happen.
01:13So what's going on?
01:15Why are you not getting back to, uh, Connor?
01:17Oh, okay.
01:19So, him and his ex split up.
01:24He was divorced, and we were open about that, and that was good and everything, but he told
01:29me that he has to give her a lot of money in alimony, and, like, like, a lot of money,
01:37like, over half his paycheck, a lot of money.
01:39Oh.
01:40Oh, wow.
01:40That's nice.
01:41And that just, like, I don't know, it took, like, me off my game.
01:47It made me uncomfortable, and, and I don't know, like, it just, it kind of made me question,
01:53like, how we would make dating work, if, like, he can barely, like, pay for stuff himself,
02:00because he has to give all this money to this woman who he doesn't even, like, want in his
02:06life anymore, and I don't, yeah, I just, I don't like it.
02:12Well, I mean, obviously, this is a court decision, so he doesn't have a whole lot of
02:15say in it now.
02:16I mean, did you, I mean, can you really hold it against him?
02:20I mean, no, I understand that, but I just, I guess that, like, I'm at a point in my life
02:27where, like, I, I can provide for myself, and, and I want other people to be able to
02:32provide for themselves as well, and, and if they can, if we can't provide for each other
02:37either, then what's the point?
02:39Did he pay for the date?
02:42He did.
02:42Okay, so, so he has money, but you're saying majority of his paycheck goes to his ex?
02:48Yeah, and, like, and, and he has to, every time he, like, makes this financial decision,
02:55or a financial decision, he has to think about her, and how much money he has to give her,
03:01and how much he has for himself, and I just, I don't like that it's, that she's that, like,
03:07involved in, in control of his life and what he does.
03:10It just makes me uncomfortable.
03:11Okay.
03:12All right, well, I can see that.
03:13All right, well, I want to tell you this, Rebecca, we actually have Connor on the phone
03:17with us, and he got to hear what she had to say, and there's a lot there, and I want
03:21to bring him back on.
03:21Is that okay if we bring him back into this conversation?
03:24Yeah, I guess.
03:26Sorry.
03:27Connor, is that kind of accurate about your situation?
03:29I mean, it, it is accurate.
03:32Um, unfortunately, you know, I, I got screwed pretty hard in the divorce, and, um, that,
03:39it just is the way it is, the way it played out.
03:42Um, I just didn't see Rebecca as someone that was, like, you know, kind of after my money
03:50or something.
03:51Like, I just, you know, I didn't think she was greedy.
03:54She didn't seem greedy when we talked.
03:56I'm, I'm definitely not after your money.
03:58I don't want it to seem like that, but it's the fact that you don't have any.
04:04Like, well, you, you have money for you, but how can you be in a relationship if you
04:11can't, like, provide for the relationship?
04:13And it would definitely be, like, a split thing, but it's definitely not fair for one
04:17party to be more responsible than the other.
04:21And I don't know, like, we're not kids.
04:24We're not teenagers.
04:24I'm not, like, a little teenager who expects you to pay for everything, but it would, it
04:29would be nice to have you contribute, and it, it doesn't seem like you can.
04:33I mean, you're not, like, wrong.
04:37I can, I can cover myself, like you said, but, um, bringing in another factor into the
04:43budget would be tight, but, I mean, I, I figured out, navigate it, um, and, you know.
04:51How much longer do you have to pay, just out of curiosity?
04:53Like, five more years.
04:55Five more years.
04:55Oof.
04:56Wow.
04:56You know, and then, but then, like, my income more than doubled, so.
05:03That's one way to look at it.
05:04Yep.
05:04It's a positive way.
05:05Yeah.
05:07Yeah.
05:08Okay.
05:08Well, listen, the, the facts are kind of just a facts when it comes to this.
05:12I mean, it is what it is.
05:13Did you have a good time, though, Rebecca, with Connor?
05:16I mean, I did, but, like, when we were talking about it, I already felt myself getting,
05:22like, mad and, and, and upset and uncomfortable, and, you know, we aren't even, like, dating
05:29yet, and I, I just, I don't want to resent him for this thing that he can't really control.
05:34Like, that's not fair.
05:35So, you're not looking for another date?
05:37I'm not.
05:39Okay.
05:39All right.
05:40That stinks.
05:41That's tough.
05:42Whew.
05:42Well, Connor, like I said, man, I'm sorry that you're in this situation, and, like, it
05:47just, it is what it is, and, uh, it's not going to be for Rebecca, so I'm sorry we
05:51can't make another date happen, man.
05:53It's all right.
05:54I'll, uh, I guess after hearing that, I'm going to have to, like, find a, a sugar mama
05:58or something.
06:00Maybe.
06:01Well, they're out there.
06:02All right, man.
06:03Have a great day, Connor, and Rebecca, thanks for your time.
06:06Thank you, I guess.
06:08I mean, that's kind of a stalemate there.
06:11I mean, you, you, you're just in a situation like that.
06:14I mean, he can't do anything about it now.
06:16I understand what she's thinking, though, because for the next five years, it's going to be
06:20like this, and he's giving money to another, another woman.
06:23It stinks for both of them.
06:25Right.
06:26But, um, yeah, that's really sucks for him.
06:28All right, I'm interested to see what you have to say about this one.
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