00:00My name is Tomi and men pay me thousands of dollars to submit to me.
00:05Men love to worship me.
00:08On a yearly basis, I make a high six figures.
00:11I think there is a wide variety of criticism.
00:13There might be something a little bit threatening about a powerful woman.
00:18Get on your hands and knees.
00:20I'm going to be mixing brown and white rice together.
00:24He has to separate the two colors.
00:26Did you already drop it?
00:27Oh my gosh, I knew you were going to mess up on this so quickly.
00:30It's entertaining for me to watch someone struggle.
00:34Do you date or have a partner?
00:38Hi, I'm Tomi and this is my office.
00:41This section is a lot of my tools and toys.
00:46So we have some headgear, lots of gloves, alcohol prep pads and things like that so that we can play safely.
00:54Rope section, I have some of my duct tape here too.
00:57One of my clients gifted me a porcelain replica of myself.
01:05I've been dominant my entire life.
01:08That scene in the Matrix where Neo is on his back, his mouth disappears and then the metal bug goes into his belly button.
01:16The scene always stood out to me.
01:18My previous career was in the anti-trafficking policy space and in that space oftentimes intersects with sex workers rights.
01:26I met a lot of the New York City community through that work and decided to jump right into it.
01:31I remember the first encounter just felt electric.
01:36You know, like, oh, I'm called to do this thing.
01:39It's just so gratifying for me to be the most intense, powerful version of myself.
01:45Alrighty, I think Zero is on the way and I'm going to start prepping.
01:49Zero's been my client since 2019.
01:52He's my first ever client.
01:54I'm going to be mixing brown and white rice together and then he has to separate the two colors.
02:01And if he messes up, there's going to be some kind of punishment.
02:05I already know he's going to struggle, which is going to be fun to look at.
02:08Alrighty, get on your hands and knees.
02:11Crawl out.
02:12Come, come, come.
02:13I've been seeing Mistress Tony for about five years.
02:16He had a list of books that he liked in his profile and there was just this overwhelmingly clear feeling in me that,
02:23Oh, I want to own this man.
02:26She's very intelligent and creative and sometimes can be very intense, yet is also a very compassionate and ethical person.
02:34No matter how strange or scary the situation may seem, I always feel safe with her.
02:40So when we started, it was a very classical client dynamic and COVID happened.
02:46So I installed cameras in his home.
02:50He had absolutely no privacy, you know, looking through his phone, through a remote controlled app.
02:56Once COVID was over, we can resume play.
02:59We decided to get into a ownership contract where it lined out my responsibility, my roles.
03:06And then there was the one big tribute that he gave me.
03:11It was a comfortable six figures.
03:13All righty.
03:14Come up here.
03:15Crawl, crawl, crawl, crawl over here.
03:17Okay.
03:18On the other end of the hall is a small pile of white rice mixed with brown rice.
03:26You have exactly five minutes to pick white rice all here.
03:34If you mess up, you will be punished.
03:36If you don't make it in five minutes, you'll be punished.
03:39If you drop one grain of rice during the crawling, you will be punished.
03:44Got it?
03:45Yes, mistress.
03:46Ready, set, go.
03:49Right now my current rates are 1k an hour starting.
03:56There is no typical session because every individual is different.
04:01I see their psychological profile.
04:04I then tend to get on a console call to talk a little bit more about why they're doing this.
04:09From there, I craft the session.
04:12Did you already drop it?
04:13Oh my gosh, I knew you were going to mess up on this so quickly.
04:16None of my friends and family know about this part of my life.
04:20I was quite shy when I first started off.
04:23But now that I'm five years into this, whatever room I walk into, I want everyone to know that this is what I do.
04:30People tend to be curious about it.
04:32They tend to ask some questions.
04:33You know, they may have some preconceptions.
04:35There's been times where I've interacted with people in social settings where they were defensive around it.
04:41But it's also very clear that they're defensive around their own insecurities and shame.
04:48Three, two, and one.
04:52Couldn't even get five and you dropped it.
04:55Pathetic.
04:56So pathetic.
04:57Did you learn anything from that?
04:59No?
05:00He learned nothing.
05:02I think for me, I like sessions like this because it's entertaining for me to watch someone struggle.
05:11How does it feel for you to do something difficult just to please someone?
05:16Well, of course I want to please you, mistress.
05:19Yeah.
05:20I'm going to punish Zero.
05:21Are you looking forward to the punishment, sir?
05:23Yes and no.
05:25Tommy is the person who has most met my needs but also has been a very powerful influence and a very positive influence.
05:33My life has been enormously improved because of our influence.
05:37Good boy.
05:38Okay.
05:39Time for your punishment.
05:40I'm going to be using rice again.
05:42Congrats.
05:45Faster, faster, faster.
05:47Come on.
05:48I know that judgments and criticisms exist unless it's impacting my day to day in a very practical way.
05:55I don't quite pay attention to it.
05:57I don't read any comments online.
06:00I have a small but incredibly loyal following and I feel so grateful every single day that I have them in my life.
06:07For close, regular clients, I would say six to like eight that's, you know, seeing me consistently.
06:17And for online fans, I have around 2k.
06:21And all of this doesn't include people who just consume my content.
06:25On a yearly basis, I make a high six figures.
06:29I don't ask for gifts.
06:32I do have a wish list.
06:34So these are some of the jewelry that's been gifted to me over the years.
06:40The best advice I got was never spend your own money on luxury goods.
06:46This is the Cartier love lock in gold.
06:50Vivienne Westwood pearl earrings.
06:52Tiffany gold necklace.
06:55Matching Cartier ring.
06:57I think there is a wide variety of criticisms.
07:00I think a big bulk of it is rooted in patriarchal ideas around what a woman is allowed to demand.
07:06I think in general there might be something a little bit threatening about a powerful woman.
07:12The kinds of criticisms they get is unique.
07:15And I think there is a duty to try to destigmatize the work for other people.
07:20Do you date or have a partner?
07:24I find that I get a lot of my needs fulfilled through my clients.
07:31A lot of my emotional energy goes into these relationships.
07:36There is no other industry where women have a gross and unfair advantage.
07:43And there is also no other industry where I can have as much freedom as I want.
07:49I think socially women are so conditioned to not rock the boat.
07:55To give and give and give at the expense of themselves.
07:59I feel so lucky and I want to pursue what I want.
08:02What do I want to say to people who are critical or judgmental?
08:06I don't think absolutely everyone needs to agree, right?
08:10And I think that's okay.
08:11But you should know why you don't agree.
08:13And I think that will shine a light on your own values.
08:16And that's okay too.
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