00:00I transitioned and now I'm helping my wife do the same.
00:04He helped me get there and make that decision
00:07and actually gave me my first hormone shot.
00:10A lot of people don't even assume that I'm trans.
00:13This is true.
00:14What the f*** is it?
00:15I'm human just like you.
00:17When you came in, it was just like full force.
00:20I didn't have time to computer put two and two together.
00:23I didn't know you were ever here about you
00:25and then you were always there.
00:29I didn't have that person of understanding
00:32when I went through my transition
00:34and to be able to be that person for her.
00:40Hi, my name is Malika and this is my husband Sam
00:43and people judge our relationship because we are both trans.
00:47I think I'm going to pull her out tonight.
00:49Welcome to Cardi's glam room.
00:52This is where I become my alter ego, Cardi Red Diamond.
00:55We met nine years ago at a nightclub.
00:59Yeah, I was performing that night.
01:01I just got residency there.
01:03I'm a lady of options, I'm a lady of stones,
01:05glam, sequin, shine, you name it.
01:08I was drawn to her confidence.
01:11There wasn't much conversation until he asked me
01:14to come smoke with him after the bar closed
01:16and the rest is history.
01:20I have been performing now for ten years.
01:23I started in the scene when I was 18 years old.
01:27We started off in another relationship dynamic.
01:32She was in an open relationship.
01:34I was the third person that came into that open relationship.
01:38This is not even a quarter of what I have.
01:42This is one of my favorites.
01:44I love this outfit, obviously because of the drama.
01:48That first relationship ended
01:50and we just continued to date after that.
01:53Yep. Way to go, babe.
01:56That was a great explanation.
01:58My favorite color is pink.
02:00This is also one of my favorites.
02:02Catwoman is my team and I have acrobatic skills
02:06so this is one of my favorite characters to cosplay.
02:10I kind of took on an assistant role, so to say.
02:15He typically carries the bags.
02:17I got the look under control.
02:19Chauffeuring.
02:21Helping her get to her gigs.
02:23Helping her with the bookies.
02:28We got married the same day that we got engaged.
02:33So I planned out a photo shoot for our date
02:37and made it seem like we were taking family photos.
02:42Turn around and look at Sam.
02:45And I popped the question and then we went downtown
02:49and filed for the marriage license.
02:53You made the ring box yourself in my favorite color.
02:57She walked into a bouquet of flowers
03:01and an officiant standing in the living room next to me.
03:06And the officiant looks at me and she goes,
03:08you're getting married today.
03:11And I couldn't even get words out.
03:13I was so like, how I am now? Speechless.
03:18I bawled like a baby. I was sobbing.
03:21I was like so overwhelmed.
03:23She looked absolutely beautiful.
03:26Probably one of the best days of my entire life.
03:29The effort that she put into that is like unmatched.
03:35Okay, get ready. Are you ready?
03:37I don't know what I'm supposed to be doing.
03:38Just stand there.
03:40You get those comments online like, is that a man?
03:44Is that a man in a dress?
03:46Is that a man in a dress?
03:47I'm confused.
03:48I'm confused.
03:49Our engagement video went viral.
03:51And I think that was the first time
03:53that I personally experienced the negativity.
03:57She's kind of had more exposure to that.
03:59I think there were maybe three that popped off
04:02before I told her to shut it off.
04:04What the f*** is it?
04:06I'm human just like you.
04:08Just stuff like that. Dumbass stuff.
04:10You're wasting your time judging other people.
04:13The biggest blessing in life is that we all have our own past.
04:17We both had several people come to us
04:19and thank us for just being visible.
04:22Why do you worry about how my life will look?
04:24Go figure out yours.
04:28I started my transition in 2015.
04:33I lived a very, let's say, sheltered life.
04:36Looking back at my childhood, had I known the terminology,
04:39I would have been able to determine
04:41who I was at a much younger age.
04:44I have had my top surgery.
04:47And I also had a hysterectomy.
04:49I started my transition in February of 2023.
04:54I realized that I was a girl
04:56when I was like four or five years old.
04:58Growing up was difficult for me.
05:01When Christmas time came around, it was depressing
05:03and I had to pretend that it was a happy time
05:05because while I wanted a Barbie or a Bratz doll,
05:08I got an action figure and a WWE wrestler.
05:12I didn't want that for Christmas.
05:14I hit 29 and I was like, enough is enough.
05:17Like, I'm not living for nobody else anymore.
05:19I know what's going to make me happy.
05:21And he helped me get there and make that decision
05:24and actually gave me my first hormone shot.
05:27I've been doing mine for over ten years,
05:30so it's like nothing.
05:32But now we do each other's.
05:34I do his and he does mine.
05:36I haven't had any surgeries yet, no.
05:38No surgeries yet.
05:40A lot of people don't even assume that I'm trans.
05:43So they're just mind-blown.
05:45And they're like, well, how do you have a better beard than I do?
05:49How do I grow a beard like yours?
05:55SJ is my drag daughter.
05:57I'm a showgirl and I'm a mentor to her.
06:00I have known Malika for seven years now.
06:03I became her drag daughter and I met Sam through her.
06:07It's been a minute since I've seen her,
06:09so she's going to come over and visit.
06:11Daughter!
06:12Hello, mother!
06:14At first, I was pretty apprehensive about the whole thing.
06:19I was like, I'm not sure how I feel about this man.
06:22When it comes to dating as a trans woman,
06:25it's already hard because people look at it as,
06:28oh, you're dating a trans woman.
06:30You're gay, automatically, no matter what.
06:33How did you feel walking in and seeing a wedding that you didn't know about?
06:37Honestly, it was a bit of a shock.
06:40I was not prepared for that.
06:42I thought y'all were going to get engaged that day, not get married.
06:46Well, I thought I was just going to be engaged that day, too.
06:49So we were all a bit surprised, except for you.
06:52I think a lot of people also think that it was quick.
06:57Were there questions? Did you not agree?
07:00There was so much going on in that.
07:03I know you were in an open thing.
07:05I wasn't expecting for you guys to get so serious.
07:09Did you feel as though I was someone that was coming in
07:13and kind of stepping on toes of your parents' relationship?
07:17I mean, yes.
07:18When you came in, it was just like full force.
07:21I didn't have time to computer put two and two together.
07:24Y'all were just together by the time I knew y'all were together, if that makes sense.
07:28I get that.
07:29It makes sense.
07:30I feel like in the beginning, it was a little hard for me.
07:33I didn't really care to get to know you, if I'm being honest.
07:36Then I realized you truly cared about her deeply.
07:40It would go to the ends of the earth for her.
07:42Honestly, the fact that a trans person could find another trans person
07:45to help them on the journey in itself is very special.
07:49Having a partner that goes through the struggles and things that you go through
07:52and can understand them, it means the world.
07:55I want to know, why her?
07:58Why do you care so much about her?
08:00And how do you know that this is what you want for the rest of your life?
08:05Nine years ago, I saw the girl that was hiding in drag.
08:09I saw the girl that was driven to the bars to try to be seen.
08:14And I get to help her do that.
08:16I didn't have that person of understanding when I went through my transition.
08:20And to be able to be that person for her...
08:29It just solidified everything for me.
08:32For the first time in my entire life, I felt unconditional love with somebody.
08:39I've become the person that I'm supposed to be because of him.
08:44She has brought a new light to my drive.
08:48She makes me want to achieve more.
08:51The way that he looked at me when he first laid his eyes on me,
08:54he has not stopped looking at me that way.
08:57And that, to me, is more impactful and powerful than anything else.
09:01Go find your person, b****.
09:04I got mine. He got his.
09:18I got mine. He got his.
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