00:00 We have been together for 15 years.
00:03 We have been practicing domestic discipline for roughly 10 years.
00:07 You said you only use your hand. That's not true.
00:10 I would not have a similar relationship to my parents.
00:13 We're happier than we have ever been.
00:15 People can say, "Oh, you're abusing your wife," like calling the cops.
00:18 We get a lot of womanist brainwash.
00:21 So I asked her to write a line stating that being submissive is important.
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00:31 I love everything about my wife.
00:33 He is very, very loving.
00:36 Like he's sensitive and caring and just loving in general.
00:41 We have been practicing domestic discipline for roughly 10 years.
00:46 A domestic discipline relationship is a dynamic between two consenting adults
00:51 where you have a dominant and a submissive.
00:55 The dominant is usually referred to as the HOH, which is head of household.
00:59 The submissive is referred to as a sub or a TIH, which means taken in hand.
01:04 The dominant sets rules and expectations for the submissive to live by.
01:09 And there are consequences for not following the rules or not meeting those expectations.
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01:18 The four Ds are danger, disobedience, disrespect, and dishonesty.
01:27 Following up on consequences of being broken under the four Ds,
01:31 it could be from spanking or writing lines, corner time, or just a stern lecture.
01:40 It depends on which rule you broke.
01:44 They all suck.
01:47 [Laughter]
01:49 So I asked her to write a line stating that being submissive is important.
01:54 It was being submissive is very important.
01:57 It's a unique quality to have.
01:59 I will be submissive at all times to my HOH.
02:03 And I had to write 10 pages worth.
02:05 10 pages.
02:06 I don't find writing lines as demeaning.
02:11 It's, I guess, just like any other consequence.
02:14 It's not fun.
02:16 It's tedious, and it sucks, but that's about it.
02:21 Daily household chores would be dishes, cleaning the kitchen, doing the floors,
02:28 double-checking the bathrooms, make sure they don't need to be deep-cleaned.
02:32 That needs to be in the trash can.
02:34 Dining room, table, our bedroom, and usually two to three loads of laundry.
02:41 I do all of the cooking unless it's grilling.
02:44 He does the grilling.
02:50 When Brandi first brought Dee Dee Lifestyle to my attention, I felt kind of awkward.
02:56 I didn't really understand why.
02:59 I kept getting a book recommendation for a book called Spank Your Spouse, Avoid Divorce.
03:06 A lot of it surprisingly made sense, so I just decided to bring it up to him.
03:11 At first, I thought I was hurting my wife.
03:14 It's just a mind thing on that part where it feels awkward, but looking into it, I understood why.
03:24 I have never left a mark, considering a black and purple bruises or anything like that.
03:30 Why do you guys consider this non-abusive?
03:35 We don't consider it to be abusive, one, because it's consensual.
03:39 I don't think people consent to being abused.
03:42 Two, it was my idea, and I had to convince him to do it.
03:47 There's no long-lasting damage.
03:50 It hurts for a little while, and then it goes away.
03:53 Domestic discipline and BDSM are different because in BDSM, there's an enjoyment factor.
04:00 Either you enjoy getting spanked or you enjoy spanking somebody.
04:05 I don't enjoy being spanked.
04:08 He doesn't enjoy doing it.
04:10 There's really not much similarities.
04:12 It doesn't bother me that he doesn't get the same consequences that I do
04:17 because our situations are different and our roles are different, and it wouldn't work.
04:25 I just realized I have 827 member requests today.
04:29 I started the Facebook group with one of my friends who is also in the lifestyle.
04:34 This was a safe space where people can talk, people can vent without worrying about husbands seeing it.
04:42 I think most people choose to remain anonymous because they know that they will get judged for what they do.
04:49 The world sucks when it comes to judging things that they know nothing about.
04:53 People can say, "Oh, you're abusing your wife. I'm calling the cops."
04:56 We get a lot of, "The woman is brainwashed" and stuff like that.
05:00 What the hell was doing this?
05:02 Stop saying "hell."
05:04 Our kids pretty much know everything about domestic discipline,
05:07 more so than the people who be writing the negative articles about it.
05:11 Our kids know pretty much all the ins and outs of it.
05:14 Are you still reading?
05:16 Yeah.
05:18 Is there even questions at the end of this?
05:20 Nope.
05:21 I'm 13 years old. I understand quite a bit about domestic discipline.
05:24 I mean, there may be some things that people find iffy with the rules and how they have set,
05:29 but I don't think anything is too crazy.
05:32 I know some truths.
05:33 They're aware of the lifestyle, but they know it's a choice,
05:36 and they know it's not something that they need to do unless they just decide it's what they want to do.
05:41 I would not have a similar relationship to my parents as I just don't believe it would suit the type of person that I am.
05:46 It's not for everybody.
05:48 It's not for everybody. That is true.
05:50 I think the end's justified. It means because we're happier than we have ever been.
05:55 We get along better than most couples.
05:59 I don't think we could be happy without it anymore.
06:02 It is our life, basically.
06:04 You'd be amazed at how many people actually live this way.
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