00:00 This is Ayla. She fell in love with David.
00:04 He gets judged because I am his trans Barbie fiancé.
00:08 Since transitioning, Ayla's obsession with plastic surgery has concerned friends.
00:14 A little bit worried about how it could have a negative impact on the health further down the line.
00:18 And in the past, Ayla's family have expressed doubts about David's intentions.
00:23 I'm a straight guy. I never set out to date a trans person.
00:27 Nothing positive from family. Yeah, just horrific.
00:30 I'm Ayla. This is David. He gets judged because I am his trans Barbie fiancé.
00:38 David and I met on social media.
00:40 He messaged me. Here we are, 16 months later, engaged.
00:44 I was attracted to her the second I seen her.
00:47 And I knew she was attracted to me too.
00:49 [Laughs]
00:50 With her reaction.
00:51 [Laughs]
00:52 Used to be a scaffolder. Now I'm a content creator.
00:56 Joining the forces.
00:58 I knew Ayla did solo adult content. We wanted to move into the world of doing it together.
01:04 It gave us more flexibility, more time together, more in our life.
01:07 And we love doing it.
01:09 We look good together too, so, you know, why not?
01:12 Me and David had done a couple of videos.
01:15 I didn't want to do any more until I'd had my surgery.
01:19 There's many parts to getting my boobs bigger.
01:22 For me, it's something that I've been kind of attracted to since I was a kid.
01:27 Like, my favourite thing was I remember getting like a real life-sized Barbie.
01:30 And I was so, so excited for that.
01:33 Because I was able to more like visualise myself a bit rather than a small little doll.
01:37 So I've always been kind of drawn to the plastic look.
01:40 It's definitely gone further than I thought it would.
01:44 It's felt like life or death. It's felt like I need to have this surgery done.
01:48 It's about Ayla being who she wants to be.
01:51 That's what's the most important thing.
01:53 I'm still a good, genuine, authentic, real person.
01:56 Then I can be as fake on the outside as I want.
01:58 Before we met, she says, "I need to tell you something."
02:01 I was like incredibly nervous to tell David that I was trans.
02:04 What I expected from him was to get some aggressive messages.
02:08 It got to the stage where he told me. I was like, "I know."
02:10 It was never anything to me. I've only ever seen Ayla as a woman. And that was it.
02:14 I still have that fear that like someday you're going to wake up and you're going to be like,
02:19 "Sorry, Ayla, like it's too much. I'm going to be with cis girl and have kids."
02:24 I'm with a normal woman. I'm with a normal woman. I'm with my wife.
02:28 We are going to have kids. We are going to have a family.
02:32 Did I ever imagine dating a trans person? No.
02:36 Because a woman's a woman to me.
02:39 No one's ever suggested I was gay. Not to my face anyway.
02:44 I'd love to see that.
02:46 No, I'm not attracted to men. I'm attracted to women.
02:49 She's a woman. And that's it. I'm a straight guy. I never set out to date a trans person.
02:54 I always knew I was different to my brothers growing up.
02:58 My family knew that too.
03:01 Growing up on Sky, I was homeschooled for primary school
03:04 and I was very much allowed to just be myself.
03:07 So it wasn't until I went to high school that things changed.
03:12 I remember always kind of joking to my family that I'm a girl,
03:16 but it sounds bad to say it, but I'm a girl, but I'm an ugly girl.
03:18 I began my transition socially when I was 24,
03:24 then surgically when I was 26.
03:28 I was performing in drag for maybe a couple of years.
03:31 At that point, this guy came up to me who I didn't know at the time was a trans guy.
03:36 We had this instant connection and he was like, "You should transition.
03:42 You'd be so much happier."
03:43 The next day, I didn't take the drag off.
03:45 I remember going out into public with my wig on and that was it. I was Ayla.
03:51 Then I went to see my family on Sky, showing up as Ayla.
03:56 And my mom was great about it. And my brother was fantastic.
04:00 He was like, "What's wrong with her showing up as she is right now?"
04:04 I feel like I'd wasted so much time already trying to keep family happy
04:08 that as soon as I made that decision, it was booking a surgery.
04:12 That was it. I was off.
04:13 My first surgery would have been 2018.
04:16 And I had my face done for the first time.
04:20 So I had like a wee jaw shave. I had my chin shaved.
04:23 My nose done. Then I had five boob jobs, two facial surgeries,
04:26 and then my reassignment surgery.
04:28 I'll do my nose again and I'll do my jaw again and then my boobs again.
04:32 It's always going to be my boobs.
04:35 Family has always been the one and it doesn't make you feel great
04:38 because you're so happy to finally be in a normal relationship.
04:43 It's not met by family with the same shared excitement.
04:47 It was really hard for me.
04:49 Nothing positive from family.
04:51 Everything was suspicious in terms of, "He's trying to use you.
04:55 He'll just be wanting to get into the industry that you're in."
04:58 Suspicions of, you know, why he'll be with you
05:01 and probably saying that to Emily and other girls.
05:04 My family were positive,
05:06 which I've never had any negative comments from anyone.
05:09 My mum's quite a simple person.
05:11 The way I was when Ayla messaged me that she had something to tell me
05:15 is the way that my mum reacted when I told her to.
05:18 She was like, "So, are you happy?"
05:21 "Yeah." "Is Ayla happy?" "Yeah."
05:23 "Do you make each other happy?" "Yeah."
05:25 "Through time, they'll see you happy and they'll know that yous are serious."
05:28 I do understand Ayla's family's worries.
05:31 Family's worries. Of course I do.
05:33 Friends like Thomas have usually fought with guys like Dave.
05:37 And is the guy a chaser? Is he after you purely because you're trans?
05:41 So, Ivy, what do you think about me being a surgery-obsessed diva?
05:47 I've known you for so many years and I've seen how much you've grown with him.
05:51 Screaming.
05:52 I'm very much a little bit worried about how it could have a negative impact on the health
05:56 further down the line there for you.
05:57 I know the effect that people who are not as open-minded or as understanding of these things
06:02 are just going to see visually and make a really negative and wrong visual assumption.
06:07 Yeah.
06:07 Ayla's always been very much the biggest personality in the room.
06:11 But you don't see how much she's struggling and suffering with the recovery
06:16 and the rehabilitation afterward and how much it affects her mentally and physically.
06:20 Being the biggest personality in the room, that's all very well and good.
06:24 But do I have the biggest boobs in the room?
06:26 That's the real question, Ivy.
06:28 Always have the biggest boobs in the room.
06:30 Yeah!
06:31 You always have the biggest boobs in the room, girl.
06:33 You walk into a room and your boobs walk in five minutes before you do.
06:38 I leave with my chest, Ivy, and also my boobs.
06:42 Just... I just don't want you to have to feel like any problems can be fixed with surgery.
06:47 You're such a beautiful woman inside and out.
06:50 It's just an honest reflection on what an important person in Ayla's life thinks.
06:54 The way I see these two together is perfect. It's beautiful.
06:58 If I'm being real, I'm jealous.
07:00 [Gasps]
07:01 Like, I...
07:02 Watch it!
07:02 Their relationship is so beautiful.
07:04 It really is! I'm stealing your man!
07:06 It's such a supportive relationship.
07:09 And within our community, that is so important,
07:12 that you have a rock and a guide and everything.
07:16 Thank you. Mother approves.
07:18 Mother approves. Mother approves.
07:20 [Laughs]
07:21 Doing content with David, honestly, it's one of those things I would want to show someone in the pub.
07:27 Like, I'm so proud of it. I want everyone to see it.
07:29 And I literally feel no shame or embarrassment or anything.
07:33 The reason that this relationship works for me is because everything that I've ever looked for is in it.
07:38 Nothing's forced. Nothing's tried. I can be completely myself.
07:42 I'm forever, like, grateful to David for giving me, like, normal things I always dreamed of,
07:47 but, like, never thought that I would ever get.
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