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A polyamorous couple share a boyfriend and are now in a three-way relationship - and they all encourage each other to sleep with strangers too.

Florence Bark, 32, started dating her partner, Callum, 39, at the beginning of 2024.

Callum shared with Florence that he was polyamorous - having romantic or sexual relationships with multiple partners at the same time

He had already been seeing Annie, 40, casually for a month - so the three of them formed a triad.

Annie is now Florence's girlfriend, Callum is partner to both of them and Florence says it's the first time she has felt "secure" in a relationship.

The trio don't have restrictions and are all able to date other people outside of the relationship but Florence says "communication is key".

Florence, a podcaster and author, from London, but living in Los Angeles, California, US, said: "I started dating Callum because he was into rope play and I wanted to try being tied up.

"He was also seeing someone else casually - who is now my girlfriend.

"He said he was seeing this other girl, they had spoken about me and she thought I was really hot.

"I was scared as I hadn't really dated women before but I knew it was something I wanted to do.

"From there, I started dating her as well and it turned into proper dating and then liking each other.

"I liked both of these people, they also liked each other and we are now in this triangle relationship."

Florence hasn't always been polyamorous but after getting out of a "toxic" monogamous relationship she wanted to explore her sexuality.

She said: "I had been in a very restrictive relationship where I was having bad sex and wasn't happy.

"Now I'm in a new relationship where I was like this is really great, I really love him but there are some other parts of myself that I don't want to cut myself off from.

"I didn't want to cut myself off from exploring things.

"I always thought that I would just be monogamish, open relationship - maybe sleep with someone when my partner was on tour and I was on holiday."

At the start of 2024, Florence started dating Callum who told her he was dating another girl called Annie.

The women decided to meet up and their relationship blossomed from there.

Florence said: "I feel so secure for the first time, I don't have any anxious feelings about whether I am good enough or if this is the relationship for me.

"I don't have that anymore, I feel settled and secure. They show up in a way I hadn't experienced any more.

"They communicate, they look after everyone's needs."

Despite the trio being in a loving and secure relationship they don't tie themselves down to each other and will often go on dates with other people.

Florence said: "All of us use Field as our main dating app which is full of non-monogamous people.

"Personally, I have that I am in a throuple on my profile and I think we are all pretty communicative about it upfront.

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00:00 I went through a really, really, really bad relationship.
00:05 I basically ended up in an abusive relationship because I was feeling so low, so down on myself,
00:15 so like, why won't anyone choose me?
00:19 Why?
00:20 Like that need, that longing for partnership and love was so strong within me that I ended
00:29 up putting that before my own happiness and my own wellbeing, which kind of sent me to
00:39 rock bottom, to be honest, and pretty much despairing.
00:45 I'm pretty much in this horrible longing for something that I don't have.
00:50 I was going to the grocery store one day and I was just like, "What if I never find love?
00:55 What if?"
00:56 It's a possibility.
00:57 It's a low possibility, but what if I never find love?
01:00 Am I just going to be longing for something every single day that might not even come
01:03 to me?
01:04 Because at the end of the day, finding a partner that matches you in all the ways that you
01:08 want is luck.
01:09 And I thought to myself, "No, I don't want to do this anymore."
01:13 I think I'm finally ready to just be independent and be happy by myself and put all of that
01:21 shit behind me and be like, "You know what?
01:23 Maybe it's just me."
01:24 So I got back on field and I started dating, but in a different way.
01:29 Firstly, I was like, "Push the fucking boat out.
01:33 Don't go for your type.
01:35 Don't go for people that look nice, like genuinely good people."
01:43 It's like I was pushing away what I actually wanted and needed.
01:47 I have no idea why, but I was seeing it in a totally different way before show-offs and
01:54 you're not showing your face, you're showing something else, which means you're probably
01:59 not someone that I would look for usually.
02:01 But this person had a face pic and some rope pics.
02:05 And I was like, "You know what?
02:08 He doesn't look half bad.
02:10 Let's see where this goes."
02:12 And I went on a couple of dates and very much started getting my needs met in a way that
02:18 was very different to what I was used to.
02:21 I was someone that was actually caring.
02:23 I also did a very big vibe check.
02:26 We went on a date in a cafe first and I was like, "Does this man feel safe?"
02:33 Because I was not feeling safe with men at this point after my last relationship.
02:36 I was like, "Could I even be near a man?
02:39 Do I even want to be near a man?"
02:41 Because men felt unsafe to me since the last one.
02:47 But this guy, this cowboy, just had this aura of being safe.
02:55 And I was suddenly at ease.
02:58 And I was like, "You know what?
03:00 We're sitting here casually chatting about the things that we want to do and explore
03:03 and he seems like a nice guy and someone that I'd want to do that sort of stuff with."
03:07 I wasn't going into it with any intention.
03:12 We had spoken about going into dating with zero expectations.
03:16 And this means never forcing or projecting your idea of what the future could be on this
03:20 person.
03:21 And I'm in a throuple now with two beautiful partners.
03:30 And there's no expectation of what that's going to be in the future.
03:34 We just like to exist together and explore each other and explore the world together
03:39 as well.
03:41 No expectations needed for it to feel secure.
03:47 It's actually the most secure attachment I've ever had in my whole fucking life.
03:50 I've never felt more secure.
03:51 But yeah, if you have any questions, this is a fucking long video, but I just didn't
03:56 even know how to even explain this whole thing.
04:01 There's so probably a few follow-ups to this.
04:05 But yeah, let me know if you've got any questions and I'll be happy to answer them in the comments
04:09 below.
04:10 And let me know if you want to know anything else so I can make more little weird, rambly
04:14 videos.
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