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00:02 Hey Psych2Go family, welcome back to our channel.
00:09 Thank you all so much for the love that you've given us.
00:12 Your ongoing support has helped us make psychology
00:14 and mental health more accessible to everyone.
00:16 So thank you.
00:18 As a quick note, we wanted to say that this video
00:20 is for educational purposes only.
00:22 And we're not suggesting that you need
00:23 to end your relationship if you're familiar
00:25 with any of these reasons.
00:27 What's important is to sit down with your partner
00:30 and talk about any issues first.
00:32 We also encourage you to speak with somebody you trust
00:34 who can provide support.
00:36 With that said, let's begin.
00:38 Being in love can feel like one of the most amazing feelings
00:42 in the world.
00:43 Even though you and your partner are very much in love
00:46 with each other, it doesn't necessarily mean
00:49 that they'll stick around.
00:50 Sometimes you can be in a relationship
00:52 with someone who loves you,
00:53 and that person can still wind up leaving you.
00:56 That feeling of abandonment can really hurt.
01:00 And it does because you know that you had love
01:03 within your grasp and you still let it slip away.
01:06 It can make you question your entire relationship.
01:09 Like why would they so willingly walk away from love?
01:12 To help you get some closure,
01:15 here are six common reasons why people choose
01:17 to leave the ones that they love.
01:19 Number one, they don't feel respected.
01:23 Do you respect each other in your relationship?
01:26 At the foundation of any kind of relationship is respect.
01:29 Your partner may love you,
01:31 but they will never allow themselves
01:32 to stay in a relationship that didn't have mutual respect.
01:36 A person's dignity is always going to come first,
01:39 and it's best to stay mindful of that notion.
01:42 Number two, they don't feel emotionally supported.
01:45 Are you able to be vulnerable and open around each other?
01:49 The bulk of what makes up a good relationship
01:51 is the emotional support between two individuals
01:54 who love one another.
01:55 Neither one of you wants to feel slighted or cheated.
01:59 Rough patches are common,
02:00 and having to be vulnerable can be difficult.
02:03 Vulnerability opens up the possibility of pain.
02:06 And if your partner doesn't feel
02:08 that they're being supported emotionally,
02:10 it's less likely that they will allow themselves
02:12 to be vulnerable with you.
02:13 Number three, your relationship has experienced
02:16 a loss of physical intimacy.
02:18 Have you ever been in a situation
02:20 where you still love and care for your partner,
02:23 but you're not attracted to them anymore?
02:25 Physical affection is much more than sex
02:28 and is part of the glue that holds a relationship together.
02:31 Research has found that non-sexual physical intimacy
02:34 is key to long-term happiness in a relationship,
02:37 and that held close, skin-to-skin contact
02:40 releases the same bonding chemicals in your brain
02:42 as sex would.
02:43 Research has found that humans have an innate ability
02:46 to interpret emotional messages through touch alone.
02:49 In a 2009 study conducted by Hertenstein,
02:52 blindfolded people were able to correctly interpret
02:55 eight distinct emotions, such as anger, fear, disgust,
02:59 love, gratitude, sympathy, happiness, and sadness,
03:03 solely through the touch of a stranger, with 78% accuracy.
03:08 Loss of physical intimacy is often the first step
03:10 towards a loss of emotional intimacy.
03:13 It's such a critical part of a relationship
03:15 that when it's gone, you or your partner
03:18 may be tempted to look for it somewhere else.
03:20 Number four, they don't feel adequate.
03:23 Believe it or not, a person is always at risk
03:26 of leaving the relationship whenever they don't feel
03:28 like they're enough for somebody.
03:30 In a relationship, your partner wants to feel validated
03:33 by you and desires to be appreciated.
03:36 Over time, if they don't get the appreciation they deserve,
03:39 they may feel inadequate
03:40 and choose to leave the relationship.
03:42 Number five, they don't feel listened to.
03:46 One tip you always get is that communication
03:48 is very important in a relationship.
03:51 However, we might take that to mean
03:53 that we need to be doing a lot of talking
03:55 in the relationship, but it's more than just talking.
03:58 It's also about listening.
04:00 Do you truly listen to what your partner has to say?
04:03 Or do you listen just for the sake of responding?
04:06 Healthy communication consists
04:08 of both listening and speaking.
04:10 If your partner doesn't feel properly listened to
04:13 and like they don't have much of a voice,
04:15 they may feel that they can't express themselves
04:17 in the way that they'd like to.
04:19 And number six,
04:21 they no longer feel an emotional connection.
04:24 Studies have shown that the love and passion
04:26 that comes with the initial boost of marriage
04:29 have a tendency to wear off after about two years.
04:32 This is why the best relationships are the ones
04:34 that have genuine friendship at their core.
04:37 Emotional connection is often what sustains
04:39 a long-lasting relationship.
04:41 And if that is no longer there,
04:43 this may be another reason why people choose
04:46 to leave the person they love.
04:48 Did this video help you find closure?
04:51 Or if you've left someone you loved,
04:53 did you relate to any of these reasons?
04:55 Let us know in the comments below.
04:58 It can be difficult and overwhelming,
05:00 especially when making the decision
05:01 to leave a relationship that you're invested in.
05:04 We hope this video was able to provide some insight for you.
05:08 Please like and share this video if it helped you
05:10 and you think it could help someone else too.
05:12 The studies and references used
05:14 are listed in the description below.
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