00:00 Hey Psych2Go family, welcome back to another video.
00:02 Do you have an overwhelming fear of losing your loved ones? Do you distrust other people or have anxiety about being abandoned?
00:11 Abandonment issues typically arise in childhood, but can develop later on in life as well.
00:17 The fear of abandonment is a serious type of anxiety that often stems from a traumatic experience.
00:24 Some aren't even aware of their own repressed emotional trauma, but it can manifest into unhealthy behaviors over time.
00:31 So here are seven signs you may have abandonment issues.
00:35 One, you're a people pleaser.
00:38 Do you want to impress everyone you meet? Whether it's your friends, acquaintances, or family members, you try to meet their expectations
00:46 to get on their good side.
00:48 You're the one who tries harder in your relationship,
00:51 and you're willing to put everyone else's needs ahead of yours as long as it gets them to stay.
00:55 If you have a strong need to please people and gain their approval, you may still have some unresolved abandonment issues.
01:02 Two, you struggle with insecurity.
01:05 Do you sometimes think that someday the people closest to you will get sick of you and leave?
01:11 People who are afraid of being abandoned often struggle with feelings of insecurity and inadequacy.
01:17 Because someone you loved has walked out on you in the past, you've internalized the emotional trauma.
01:22 You may have wrongly believed that it was your fault that they left. This can result in low self-esteem and a need for constant reassurance.
01:29 Three, you find it hard to trust people.
01:33 Do you find it hard to trust others to keep their promises or to be there for you?
01:38 You want to be in control of your relationships and know everything that's going on with your loved ones.
01:42 Because you've been hurt in the past, you have a strong fear of being left alone.
01:46 In certain cases, it can lead to feelings of unreasonable jealousy, suspicion, and possessiveness over your friends and romantic partners.
01:54 Four, you're afraid to be vulnerable.
01:57 Do you feel uncomfortable during moments of emotional intimacy and honesty?
02:03 Are you scared of getting close to someone or needing them too much?
02:06 Your deep-seated fear of abandonment may manifest into a fear of intimacy and emotional vulnerability.
02:13 You may unconsciously sabotage your relationships by pushing people away just as you start to care for them.
02:19 You may struggle with commitment and act detached and indifferent when you really do care.
02:25 Five, you look for reasons to leave.
02:29 Do you always look for reasons to leave in fear of getting too attached to someone? You hold your loved ones to
02:36 unrealistically high standards and you only focus on their flaws.
02:40 You don't give them any room for mistakes. You do this knowing that they're bound to disappoint you and when they fail to meet your
02:46 expectations, you use it as an excuse to give up and leave.
02:49 Six, you move on too quickly.
02:53 Do you have difficulty forming meaningful relationships that last because of deep-seated fear of abandonment?
02:59 When you cycle through relationships one after another and move on too quickly,
03:04 you're not allowing yourself the time and space to deal with the emotional fallout.
03:09 Instead, you dive into something new and exciting to distract yourself.
03:13 You never want to be alone because it would force you to confront the personal issues you've been repressing for so long.
03:19 And number seven, you cling to unhealthy relationships.
03:23 Do you find yourself gravitating towards all the wrong people? Have you stayed with someone knowing that they're bad for you?
03:30 The trauma of being abandoned, especially at a young age, can stay with you for a long time.
03:35 And since we're all hardwired to recreate our early childhood experiences for the comfort and familiarity,
03:40 your childhood taught you the wrong things about love. It's not uncommon for you to be drawn to people who treat you poorly.
03:47 Do you relate to any of the signs mentioned here?
03:50 I know I did. Is the fear of abandonment harming your relationships and keeping you from being happy?
03:56 Let us know in the comments below.
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