00:00 - Hey Psych2Goers, can a narcissist fall in love?
00:05 The short answer is yes.
00:07 However, it's probably not the type of love
00:09 you're thinking of right now.
00:11 Love is different for everybody.
00:12 This applies especially well in the case of narcissists.
00:16 Since they have psychological deficits
00:18 that impact emotional assessment,
00:20 they tend to show their love in a weird, selfish way.
00:24 So if you're an average person who sees love
00:26 as something along the lines of understanding,
00:28 acceptance and compromise,
00:30 then you're in for a surprising ride
00:33 because this is what truly happens
00:35 when a narcissist falls in love.
00:38 Before we begin, this video is for educational purposes only
00:41 and is not intended to be a substitute
00:43 for professional advice or diagnosis.
00:45 With that said, here is what happens
00:47 when a narcissist falls in love with you.
00:49 (gentle music)
00:52 Number one, they won't change.
01:02 You may think that when a narcissist truly falls in love,
01:06 they change for the better.
01:08 Unfortunately, in most situations, that is not the case.
01:11 Research shows that they have structural abnormalities
01:15 in brain regions associated with emotional empathy.
01:18 And because of that, they tend to turn abusive
01:20 or remain self-absorbed.
01:22 Number two, they're turbulent in their ways of affection.
01:27 Narcissists can be extremely warm one second
01:30 and cold the next.
01:31 It's also common for them to love bomb their partners.
01:35 Since they're playing a game of wanting to receive praise
01:38 and admiration, they know exactly which buttons to push
01:41 to elicit a good reaction.
01:43 However, since the act of receiving pleasure
01:45 is somewhat like a game to them,
01:47 they naturally lose interest once they win it
01:49 or receive the prize.
01:51 So it won't be a surprise when one moment
01:53 they're buying gifts and booking honeymoon tickets
01:56 for their partners and breaking up with them the next.
01:59 Number three, they prefer casual dating or long distance.
02:04 Commitment is a difficult thing to expect from narcissists.
02:07 Since they're sponges of attention,
02:09 a single person's appreciation will tire them out quickly.
02:13 For them, the more people to receive praise from,
02:16 the better.
02:17 This is why they're especially comfortable
02:19 with casual dating or being in long distance relationships.
02:22 In these types of setups,
02:23 there are low expectations for intimacy,
02:25 but enough opportunities to satisfy their desire.
02:29 Do any of these ring a bell so far?
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02:44 Number four, they're passionate at first.
02:47 Narcissists are supposed to be vain, selfish people, right?
02:51 Well, while it's true
02:53 that a sense of entitlement characterizes them,
02:56 narcissists have also been proven
02:57 to possess emotional intelligence.
02:59 This means that they're highly capable
03:01 of showing their interest,
03:03 especially to gain what they want, adoration.
03:06 For this reason, they may act all lovey-dovey
03:08 during the early stages of a relationship.
03:11 They may be touchy, generous, dreamy,
03:14 and all the good things, but don't be fooled.
03:16 A narcissist's love also means
03:18 putting themselves first, always.
03:20 Number five, they won't know how to resolve conflicts.
03:24 Disagreements and arguments are common in relationships.
03:27 If handled well, they may even promote growth
03:30 and closeness between partners.
03:32 But since narcissists always want to seem perfect,
03:35 they tend to avoid things
03:36 that may make them seem like a bad person.
03:38 This means that when there's conflict,
03:40 they're highly expected to ship the blame,
03:42 point fingers, and use manipulation tactics
03:45 to get the upper hand.
03:47 And number six, they may commit narcissistic abuse.
03:51 Narcissistic abuse is defined as a type of emotional abuse
03:54 where the abuser only cares about themselves
03:57 and may use words and actions
03:59 to manipulate their partner's behavior and emotional state.
04:03 Since narcissists tend to see themselves
04:05 as superior beings,
04:06 they often forget about the needs of their partners.
04:10 They do everything for themselves first.
04:12 And this behavior can be especially damaging
04:14 to the person they're in a relationship with.
04:17 Victims of narcissistic abuse may experience anxiety,
04:20 depression, post-traumatic stress,
04:23 loss of self-worth, and more.
04:26 So did anyone come to mind when you heard these signs?
04:29 Narcissists can often make life difficult
04:31 for who they love and vice versa.
04:33 There isn't a cure for narcissistic personality disorder,
04:36 but therapy can help.
04:38 If this video is relevant to you or someone you know,
04:42 please don't hesitate to reach out for guidance or help.
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