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00:02 What is covert narcissistic abuse?
00:08 Are you a victim?
00:09 Mind games.
00:10 Nobody enjoys being played,
00:12 but narcissists enjoy playing them.
00:14 They enjoy the game of cat and mouse
00:16 and seek pleasure from reeling
00:17 in their next vulnerable victim.
00:19 But more often than not,
00:21 people who are prone to being taken advantage of
00:23 by narcissists overlook their innocent facades.
00:26 In fact, they often make excuses for them,
00:29 even when they're being poorly mistreated
00:31 by their toxic behavior.
00:32 Why is this?
00:33 Because narcissists aren't always obvious.
00:36 They disguise themselves by being charmingly covert.
00:39 Here are five dangerous signs
00:41 you're being abused by a covert narcissist.
00:44 One, they minimize your needs.
00:47 Do you feel like you're giving more than you're receiving?
00:49 What about feeling small when you're around them?
00:51 Covert narcissists have a sneaky way
00:54 of getting inside people's heads
00:55 and making you believe
00:57 like you're responsible for everything.
00:59 They rarely take fault.
01:00 And even when they do apologize,
01:02 they do it sparingly and without meaning,
01:04 just to get you to forgive them.
01:06 They don't care for facts or logic,
01:08 only what they want to hear or believe that benefits them.
01:12 Recognize that what you need is important too,
01:15 so don't always yield for their benefits.
01:18 Two, they forget that you exist.
01:20 Being passionate about a hobby or a career
01:22 is an attractive trait,
01:24 but there's a fine line between passion and obsession.
01:27 If your friend or romantic partner often ignores you
01:30 or cancels plans with you
01:31 to focus on their favorite activities,
01:33 then it's a sign that they just don't care about you.
01:36 Being understanding and open-minded.
01:39 You probably always make up excuses for them.
01:41 You frequently say things like,
01:43 "Well, they worked hard to get where they are today,
01:46 so I'm gonna be supportive."
01:47 Or, "There's always next week, what's the rush?"
01:50 But this is exactly how they have you
01:52 wrapped around their finger.
01:53 Don't let them have the upper hand
01:55 and emphasize your boundaries.
01:57 Three, they project false humility.
02:00 Do they often cry to you and put themselves down,
02:02 saying they aren't good enough or feel misunderstood?
02:05 Before believing them, recognize that this is a trap.
02:09 Covert narcissists like to play the victim card
02:12 and feel like people never understand them enough.
02:14 They might be highly sensitive individuals
02:16 who say things like,
02:17 "If only people could understand how smart I am,"
02:20 or, "Why don't others appreciate who I am?"
02:22 They love surrounding themselves
02:24 with those who can boost their ego.
02:26 It's better not to give in and dish out less compliments.
02:30 Four, they never approach you first
02:32 and wait for you to come to them.
02:33 Covert narcissists feel a sense of entitlement.
02:36 They believe that they should be appreciated
02:39 and noticed first by others
02:40 before giving someone attention in return.
02:43 They dislike being in a group full of people,
02:45 unless all eyes and talk are on them.
02:48 If you find yourself constantly putting in all the work
02:51 and go to them first,
02:52 then you've become their little puppet.
02:54 Stand up for yourself and show them
02:56 that you don't have all the time in the day to serve them.
02:59 You're better than that.
03:01 Five, they seem annoyed when you come to them
03:03 with your problems.
03:04 Are you the reliable friend or partner
03:06 that can always count on to listen to them
03:09 when they're having a bad day?
03:10 But you're human too, and sometimes you have a bad day.
03:14 When you run into trouble,
03:15 do they grow impatient or frustrated
03:17 and have a habit of dismissing your emotions?
03:20 If they claim they're too busy
03:21 to help you deal with your problems,
03:23 then it's clear they lack empathy,
03:25 a strong indicator that they're a narcissist at heart.
03:28 It's better to find someone who treats you right
03:31 instead of being with someone who takes you for granted.
03:33 Do you think you're being abused by a narcissist?
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03:47 Thanks for watching.
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