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01:29Hannelore always wanted a strong mother, a mother who would support her, protect her, and shield her from intrusiveness.
01:36Father, who shamelessly humiliated her time and time again
01:40I don't remember the assaults when I was three, I just have a feeling something happened.
01:48And I can remember when I was eight.
01:50I had to sleep in bed with him, and my mother slept on the floor in front of the bed.
01:57The father regularly brings his young daughter into bed with him and lets her satisfy him.
02:03Her mother lets it happen.
02:05When she is eleven, he dies
02:08But their ordeal continues
02:10Her stepfather also abuses her.
02:13Only decades later did she confront her mother.
02:17She didn't say a word.
02:20She sat there like a boulder.
02:23And her only ever response was, "You're all crazy and you're fantasizing."
02:29The mother refuses to face the shameful truth until her death.
02:34She simply refuses to see what she has done to her daughter.
02:38It is estimated that 80 percent of mothers do not want to acknowledge the sexual abuse.
02:44Why?
02:46The majority of these mothers have themselves been sexually abused.
02:50Has experienced violence in various forms
02:53And have this abuse and the pain that comes with it.
02:58The fears associated with it
03:01Loneliness and mistrust have separated it from itself.
03:06Hannelore, too, has repressed her feelings about what happened.
03:10Only when she is 50 does she begin to dig for the buried man.
03:14Expose the sexual abuse in various therapies.
03:18And she realizes with shock that she behaved exactly like her mother.
03:22My daughter approached me when she was nine years old.
03:26And she told me she doesn't want to go to her grandpa's anymore because he always reaches into her underwear.
03:31And I let her go on to Grandpa's.
03:35She, who herself was abused for years, allows it.
03:39How could this have happened?
03:42I forgot to do it immediately
03:45That's where I remember her.
03:48I am terribly sorry too.
03:51According to estimates by the Federal Criminal Police Office, 300,000 children are sexually abused every year.
03:56And many mothers suppress this.
03:58Why?
03:59As long as sexual abuse remains taboo within the family
04:05And that means it's also taboo for family members who are aware of it.
04:11It can be passed down for that long, across several generations.
04:16Hannelore repeated to her daughter what her own mother had done to her.
04:22She could not protect her daughter because she herself had not been protected.
04:26Because the terrible truth was suppressed
04:28All Hannelore could do was apologize to her grown daughter.
04:33Actually, she doesn't want to talk about it.
04:38And says she can cope with it without looking into it further or doing anything about it.
04:4716,000 criminal charges are filed annually for sexual abuse.
04:51The number of unreported cases is much higher.
04:54The setting is always the family.
04:56To break the cycle of violence, therapeutic help is needed.
05:01Why?
05:01This vicious cycle can only be broken once the sexual abuse is exposed.
05:08And then, if the individual family members are treated appropriately...
05:14After a long silence, Hannelore broke the taboo in the family.
05:18She confided in her children about her terrible secret.
05:21One effect is certainly that my children pay special attention to their own children.
05:28And that I don't feel I would repeat that.
05:34She suffered from the terrible childhood experiences throughout her entire life.
05:38You can now live with them, but you can never overcome them.
05:44Hannelore had the courage to talk to us.
05:46Many people are affected by sexual abuse within the family in different ways.
05:51But they don't dare to confide in anyone.
05:53Perhaps a look at our website will help you.
05:58Yes, the network
05:59Thank you, Đây
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