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How can parents and teachers tell the difference between normal teenage struggles and signs that a young person may need help?
Today, we talk about teenagers, mental health, warning signs, and the importance of creating safe spaces where young people feel heard and supported.
Joining us is Adrian Cabahug, Registered Guidance Counselor.
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Today, we talk about teenagers, mental health, warning signs, and the importance of creating safe spaces where young people feel heard and supported.
Joining us is Adrian Cabahug, Registered Guidance Counselor.
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00:56Recent shooting incidents involving young people have forced us to ask questions
01:02About what happens before violence occurs
01:07Are there warning signs we miss?
01:10Are children struggling in silence?
01:13And who is there to listen when they don't know how to ask for help?
01:18Let us look deeper and think better
01:20Joining us today is a registered guidance counselor and a resource speaker on mental health
01:25We have Cesar Adrian Cabahog
01:28Hi Adrian, welcome to Beyond the Headlines
01:34Hello?
01:35Yeah Adrian, can you hear me?
01:38Sir, I'm so sorry
01:41Okay, hello Adrian, can you hear me now?
01:46For a moment then sir, I'll recheck the audio sir, thank you
01:56Sige, so while Adrian is actually testing his audio
02:01So the reason why we are guesting today a guidance counselor
02:06Because while you and I may have met several guidance counselors in the past
02:12But some of us probably don't have a full appreciation of their role in school
02:18So that's one of the objectives why we are having this conversation with Adrian
02:23The second also is because of news that's been released also by the Department of Health
02:30Stating that there is a need for guidance counselor
02:36And then psychiatrists and psychologists in the country
02:41Especially at this time
02:43So this is also a good way for us to better understand
02:46What's the scope of a guidance counselor?
02:49Should a guidance counselor be a psychologist or not?
02:54Should a guidance counselor be a psychiatrist or not?
02:57So we will also have a calibration on our understanding
03:00And the distinction of these three roles
03:04The other thing also is
03:07We would also like to be updated as well
03:10On what schools are currently going through
03:13To upgrade
03:17Not just the security measures
03:19The assessment when it comes to risks
03:23But we would also need to understand
03:26How are the support that's given to students
03:30Through their teachers
03:31Through their parents
03:33And through the school's guidance counselors
03:36So that they would be better equipped
03:39To manage the stress that they go through
03:43So to all of our viewers who are watching
03:45Just in case you have questions
03:48To our guest for today
03:50You can type in your questions also in the comment section below
03:54And then we will do our best to go through them
03:57And we would also engage our guest today
04:02To answer some of your questions
04:04And if you also have some thoughts
04:06Feel free as well to check
04:08And to let us know exactly your thoughts as well
04:13So I got a signal that Adrian is already back
04:16So Adrian, are you there?
04:18Hello sir, can you hear me?
04:20Yes, I can hear you clearly
04:22So welcome to Beyond the Headlines
04:23Thank you sir, thank you so much
04:26Thank you for welcoming me here
04:28Sa Sunstar Cebu
04:29So ang first na tong question here Adrian
04:32Is when we hear the word guidance counselor
04:35At least for me
04:37Kanang ma-associate na ko siya
04:39With kanang career testing
04:42Especially when we were in the undergrad
04:44And then for some cases also
04:47That there are students kanang humisbehave
04:49They are also asked to go to the principal's office
04:53And to the guidance counselor
04:54So for us to level set
04:56And to calibrate
04:56What does exactly a guidance counselor do?
05:00So before you go to sir
05:02Kanang makita agad na ito
05:03Nga basta makasala ang bata
05:06Basta makasala ang student
05:08Kay na agad na siyang
05:10The common stigma
05:11Nga ipagaidance tika ron
05:14Diba?
05:14So kanang siya
05:17Dugay na na siyang gitang-tang
05:19Kay dili namang good
05:21That's actually not the role
05:23Of the guidance counselor
05:24So kung
05:26Kung may yung ganyan itag guidance and counseling
05:29Dakuogid kaay na siyang nga scope
05:30So
05:31Guidance counselors
05:33Does actually more than
05:36Talk to students
05:37Who are actually in trouble
05:39Kanang guidance counseling
05:42And guidance counselor's work
05:44Is actually on a developmental
05:45And preventive profession
05:47Kanang usually
05:49Mutabang ganyan eh
05:50Not actually usually
05:51We help students
05:52Understand themselves
05:54We manage personal
05:56And emotional concerns
05:58Develop coping skills
06:01Make educational career decisions
06:03Daghan
06:04And then
06:04Dili lang gina siya
06:06Sa counseling
06:06Nga services
06:07Daghan na siya
06:09O services
06:10Ang guidance
06:11So dili lang may
06:12Kay mo
06:12Counseling
06:13Sad sa mo ah
06:14Daghan po
06:15Mimuha to
06:16Like for example
06:16We do the
06:18Individual inventory
06:19Mukuha gin miog mga data
06:21Sa mga students
06:21So that we will
06:22Understand them well
06:23And then
06:24Naapoy
06:25Information services
06:27Nga
06:28Koan
06:29Mohatag miog
06:30Information mo
06:31Educate mi
06:31Sa mga students
06:32Room by room
06:33We do workshops
06:34We do
06:35Kanang
06:36Everything that is part
06:37Of the preventive measures
06:38Did na siya
06:39Sa koan
06:41Mauna nga mo ang trabaho
06:42Dili lang siya
06:43Kay counseling
06:43So
06:44Mauna siya
06:46Ang
06:46Ang mga
06:47Kasulting
06:47Guidance
06:48Is not for
06:49Those nga
06:50Nakasala
06:51And then
06:51Naamidiha
06:52Para murepriman
06:53Para mga asaba
06:54The guidance center
06:56Or should I say
06:57Nga naasa
06:58Nibilong
06:59Nga sa RA
06:5912080
07:00Nga
07:02Kitawag na siya
07:02O care center
07:04E para matangtangpod
07:06Ang stigma
07:06Pod
07:07That
07:07Word nga guidance
07:08Ganit
07:09Kita pat
07:09Hadlukan
07:10Gedsiya
07:10We always make sure
07:13That the guidance center
07:14Or the care center
07:15Is actually
07:16A safe place
07:17That everybody
07:19Can actually
07:21Go there
07:21Talk about it
07:23Talk about their problems
07:24Talk about their concerns
07:26About their career
07:27About
07:28Kanang
07:29Relationships
07:30Kanasiya
07:31We make the programs
07:32We implement them
07:33With the help
07:34Of the school
07:35With the help
07:35Of the administration
07:36Nga
07:37Mabuhat
07:38Ang amuang
07:39Mga
07:40Kanang
07:41Mga
07:41Mga
07:42Mga
07:42Tasks
07:42Or mga
07:43Mga
07:44Projects
07:45Mga tasks
07:45Nga
07:46Ipabuhat na
07:47Especially
07:47Kanang mental health
07:48Awareness
07:49Kanasiya
07:50Daghan
07:50Daghan
07:51Kaayong
07:51Amuang
07:52Trabaho
07:52Titi
07:52Lang
07:53Kay
07:53Isara
07:54Yeah
07:54So
07:55For those
07:56Cases
07:56In which
07:57Students
07:57Would actually
07:58Go to
07:59The office
08:00Of the guidance
08:01Counselor
08:01What are the
08:02Common
08:03Concerns
08:04Man
08:05That they
08:05Would
08:06Normally
08:06Raise
08:09Usually
08:10Sir
08:10Academic
08:12Academic
08:13Concerns
08:14Ginesia
08:14But we also
08:15Look at the
08:16Root cause
08:16Or should
08:17I think
08:17Nga
08:17Mga
08:18Main
08:18Causes
08:18Yud
08:19What
08:19Made
08:20The
08:21Person
08:21Or
08:21What
08:22Made
08:22The
08:22Client
08:23Kanang
08:24Be
08:25So
08:25Kanang
08:26Kuang
08:27Kayo
08:27Sila
08:27Sa
08:27Academics
08:28Academic
08:30Is
08:30Actually
08:30A goal
08:31Motivated
08:31Gid
08:32Siya
08:32Nga
08:32Dapat
08:33Makumanggid
08:33Ang
08:33Klase
08:34Dapat
08:34Makumanggid
08:35Makuhagid
08:36Good
08:36Grades
08:36So
08:36On
08:37And so
08:37For
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08:38Actually
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08:39Underlying
08:39Kuan
08:40Maybe
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08:41Is
08:41Actually
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08:42Pressure
08:42Maybe
08:43Na
08:44A
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08:48Gamay
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08:49Kagrado
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08:52Diba
08:53So
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09:08Help
09:09And
09:10Then
09:10Kanilang
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09:11For
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09:12I
09:12Mentioned
09:12Also
09:12Earlier
09:13While
09:14You
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09:15Testing
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09:18Audio
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09:19Also
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09:22Educate
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09:24The
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09:26Guidance
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09:27A
09:27Psychologist
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09:31Okay
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10:16Counselors
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10:32Intensity
10:33Ang
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10:34Dugay
10:34Dugay
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10:35Nagkohuman
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10:36Nasa
10:36Amuang
10:37Expertise
10:37For
10:38Counseling
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10:39Actually
10:39Refer
10:40Them
10:40Wala
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10:41Tawag
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10:45Right
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10:49Ang
10:49Psychologists
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10:50Actually
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10:51Therapy
10:52Other
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10:53Advanced
10:53Assessments
10:54Psychological
10:55Test
10:55To
10:56Determine
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10:58Underlying
10:59Condition
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11:06Doctors
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11:18Medicine
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11:25Therapy
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11:27Guidance
11:27Counselor
11:28Refer
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11:28Student
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11:29Client
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11:31Experiencing
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11:33Na
11:34Yod
11:34Or
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11:35Sila
11:36Sa
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11:39Level
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11:48Katulog
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11:50Scope
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11:51Silang
11:51I-refer
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11:54Para
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11:57Tarong
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11:59Sa
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12:10Therapy
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12:31Anxiety
12:32Their
12:32Depression
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12:35Makatabang
12:36Si
12:36Psychiatrist
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23:58Mistake
23:59Oh
24:04Forwarding
24:05School
24:06Shooting
24:06Videos
24:07Or
24:07Any
24:08Harmful
24:08Videos
24:09Is
24:10Really
24:11A
24:11Danger
24:12To
24:12The
24:12Viewers
24:13But
24:14nghĩ было
24:15As
24:16Apart
24:16Repeated circulation can re-traumatize the viewers, especially the victims of abuse or killing or kanan sila.
24:28The families, the students, especially the witnesses, it can also turn someone suffering into a viral content.
24:35There is also a risk, Mangod, of unintentionally glorifying the perpetrator,
24:41spreading graphic material, exposing children to traumatic imagery, and creating unnecessary fear.
24:51We should actually inform people without amplifying the most disturbing material.
24:59We have to be responsible that when we share, it can actually cause more harm.
25:07So, we have to be able to share the video.
25:13So, we have to be able to please delete it.
25:20Really, we have to be able to call it a copycat.
25:24Social learning, from Albert Bandura's perspective, on the social learning theory,
25:32some will get triggered, some will do the copycat.
25:38But, kung sa self-harm pa na siya, or ending someone's squad,
25:44kaya mo siya kitawag na were there effect.
25:48Ang uman po, kitawag na nila nga banwagon effect.
25:52Musunod, magkasunod, mag-follow-follow.
25:54So, kung inyo ha nakitaan, ang sequential kanang nga pagsunod sa mga students,
26:00sa mga nanghitabo na shooting, on different regions na,
26:07nga nukahan na siya.
26:09Maybe, ang mga bata mangod, mas makatun mangod na sila on what they see.
26:16However, there are also a lot of factors for why they wanted to do that.
26:24Kaya na siya.
26:25This is actually one of the accelerating factors na siya.
26:28So, I hope our viewers understood better
26:32anything that is harmful to another person.
26:41Whether it's the shooting or anything for that matter,
26:45this type of content should not be shared or forwarded in social media.
26:50So, I hope that's already clear to those who are watching.
26:53Now, let's talk about the shared responsibility also in guiding and supervising
27:06those that are under our care.
27:08I like the word that you used.
27:10Instead of parents, kanang, caregivers.
27:13Caregivers.
27:13Can you also articulate where is the responsibility of the caregiver?
27:19And where is the responsibility of the school and also society?
27:23And I'll tell you the context of the question.
27:26Tungod-manggud, kidaghan na kayong mga busy parents ka ron.
27:30And busy caregivers.
27:31And I cannot blame them.
27:32Because the economic situations na ito,
27:36Murag, not all households can actually afford
27:39one of the partner will stay at home to be with the kids.
27:45In a lot of households, because of the situation that we are in,
27:49it would require both caregivers or both parents to be at work.
27:54So, how can this be balanced as well?
27:58Nadilipod siya maabot to the extreme namurag
28:00na outsource na sa parents ang guidance
28:03and presence to the school
28:05instead of with them or the caregivers.
28:10Okay.
28:12Kung ayaman ni siya, no?
28:14Kaya nang,
28:17who actually comes first?
28:19Parents, school, or community?
28:23We, I wouldn't actually rank them as competitors.
28:29Child development is actually a shared responsibility.
28:35And, of course, caregivers are actually the child's primary...
28:41Kwa, no?
28:42Sugod yun.
28:43They're actually the primary caregivers yun.
28:46The parents or kung kinsaang nag-atiman po sa ilaha
28:49from birth up until nindakokod sila.
28:52And, they're actually the first social environment.
28:56Kaya, diha bayagin nag-una.
28:58Diha sila nag-cat un.
28:59Even the first languages,
29:01kana sila.
29:01The first communication din ha ginan siyang magsugod.
29:04The school
29:05actually has a major responsibility
29:09because
29:10kanang children actually spend a
29:13significant portion of their...
29:16Waking hours.
29:17Oh,
29:18sa ilang lives there, no?
29:20The community
29:21also shapes what children see.
29:25So,
29:25diha lang outside from the school,
29:27there's what you call the community.
29:29Ganang,
29:30it is where it is being normalized
29:32and it is actually where it's being experienced, di ba?
29:35So,
29:36ako siyang i-describe it as
29:38a shared responsibility
29:40with different roles
29:42rather than
29:43putting the entire burden
29:45in one institution.
29:47Kana siya.
29:49So,
29:50the context actually by question is
29:52at least kanang...
29:53Because it's a shared responsibility.
29:55I look at it also as a
29:57as a system or a structure.
29:58Because
29:59it's a shared responsibility
30:00but this one is taken
30:02cared of by X.
30:03This one is taken
30:04cared of by Y.
30:05And this one is taken
30:07cared of by Z.
30:08So,
30:08to further add more layer
30:10to the question is
30:11for example,
30:12the caregivers
30:13are
30:13kanivalid,
30:14you know?
30:15I'm not just making this up.
30:16For example,
30:16the caregivers
30:17are
30:18really
30:19kanang...
30:20They're away
30:20because they're OFWs, no?
30:22Oh, yes, yes.
30:23Or the caregivers
30:24are also working
30:26let's say
30:27they leave the home
30:27k-traffic man
30:28they leave the home
30:29at 6 a.m.
30:30And then they come back
30:31already at let's say
30:337 or 8
30:34kanang overtime pa sila.
30:35So,
30:35they are both caregivers
30:37and then
30:37a lot of them
30:38when they go home
30:39also they're exhausted, no?
30:41So,
30:41that's why I really
30:42honor caregivers
30:43as of this time.
30:44But just in case, no?
30:45The caregivers
30:46are not able
30:48to fully function
30:49in their duty
30:51also known as
30:52presence
30:52to their kids
30:54can the
30:55can the school
30:58overall
30:58compensate
30:59for that
31:00absence?
31:01Actually,
31:02schools can
31:03mitigate
31:03the impact
31:04but they
31:05cannot
31:06completely
31:06compensate
31:07for it,
31:07A teacher
31:10or
31:10counselor
31:11may become
31:13an incredibly
31:15important
31:16protective adult
31:16in a child's
31:18life
31:18and sometimes
31:20relationships
31:21can be
31:21transformative
31:22but
31:23expecting schools
31:24to completely
31:25replace
31:25a family
31:27environment
31:28or an
31:28absentee
31:29parent
31:30or caregiver
31:31but
31:32that's why
31:36we need
31:36a partnership
31:37between
31:37home
31:38school
31:39community
31:39and
31:40mental health
31:40professionals
31:41so I
31:43understand
31:43that
31:44being a
31:46parent
31:46I
31:48know
31:48especially
31:49to the
31:50generation
31:52we are
31:54already
31:54in the
31:55digital
31:56age
31:57so when
31:58you talk
31:58about
31:59the
32:00digital
32:01age
32:01screen
32:03time
32:03but
32:05as for
32:06the children
32:07put at
32:07the same
32:08time
32:12so
32:17I actually
32:19read this
32:19in a book
32:19that
32:20impact
32:21screen
32:22time
32:22and also
32:23in the
32:24real world
32:25so
32:26the first
32:26students
32:28or children
32:29they actually
32:30need more
32:31to socialize
32:32compared to
32:33staying
32:33in the
32:36screen
32:39or
32:42there
32:43might be
32:44a problem
32:45especially
32:45with their
32:46emotional
32:47regulation
32:47and
32:51then
32:51yes
32:52less
32:53na
32:53pood
32:53kaayong
32:54sa
32:54ka
32:54busy
32:54pood
32:54sa
32:54parent
32:55and
32:55then
32:55kahuman
32:56ang
32:56bata
32:56just
32:57to
32:57stimulate
32:58their
32:58boredom
32:59or
32:59sa
32:59ilahang
33:00when
33:01they
33:01feel
33:01stressed
33:02they
33:02get
33:02their
33:02phones
33:03when
33:03they
33:03feel
33:04bored
33:05they
33:05get
33:06their
33:06phones
33:06lahit
33:07na
33:07siya
33:07moto
33:07nga
33:08when
33:08I
33:09read
33:09the
33:09book
33:09I
33:10found
33:10out
33:10that
33:10this
33:11book
33:11mauman
33:12din
33:13siya
33:13follow
33:13ka
33:14ron
33:14sa
33:14other
33:15countries
33:16like
33:16for
33:16example
33:17sa
33:17Australia
33:19gilesen
33:20na
33:20ang
33:20pag-use
33:21sa
33:21gadgets
33:21or
33:22no
33:22gadgets
33:23from
33:23the
33:23age
33:2316
33:24below
33:24yun
33:25siya
33:26para
33:28ang
33:28mga
33:28bata
33:28they
33:29will
33:29be
33:29well
33:30educated
33:30first
33:31to
33:31be
33:31prepared
33:32in
33:32the
33:32digital
33:33world
33:33and
33:35they
33:35develop
33:35they
33:36learn
33:37the
33:37skill
33:37to
33:38develop
33:38face-to-face
33:39relationships
33:40rather than
33:41more
33:42virtual
33:43relationships
33:44rather than
33:44face-to-face
33:45okay
33:46kairon
33:47magod
33:47sir
33:48we
33:49are
33:49already
33:49in
33:50the
33:50anxious
33:50generation
33:52kay
33:53parents
33:55caregivers
33:55sa sige
33:56na to
33:57itong
33:57tanaw
33:57kair
33:57ang ato
33:57ang magong
33:58pagtanaw
33:58sa problema
33:59before
33:59is already
34:00within
34:01our
34:01country
34:01kung
34:02mag-news
34:03mangani
34:03the problem
34:04is only
34:05within
34:05the
34:05country
34:05but
34:06right now
34:06it's
34:06already
34:07in the
34:07world
34:08lahilahi
34:09ang
34:09mga
34:09nahitabo
34:10kumutan
34:10out
34:11mga
34:11reels
34:11kani
34:12siya
34:12problema
34:12na
34:12siya
34:13hadlok
34:13na
34:13kanis
34:13so
34:14we
34:14become
34:15so
34:15overprotective
34:16with
34:16our
34:16child
34:17with
34:17our
34:17parents
34:18with
34:18our
34:19children
34:20so
34:20kanang
34:21when we
34:22become
34:23so
34:23overprotective
34:24in the
34:25real
34:25world
34:26dili
34:27nata
34:28pero
34:28the
34:29difference
34:29is
34:30why
34:30we
34:30are
34:30not
34:31so
34:31overprotective
34:32with
34:32them
34:32in the
34:32digital
34:33world
34:33nga
34:35daghan
34:35ka
34:35ay
34:36yung
34:36access
34:36ang
34:37mga
34:38bata
34:38even
34:38at
34:39the
34:39age
34:40of
34:4012
34:40they
34:40can
34:41even
34:41watch
34:42ka
34:42ng
34:42mga
34:42sites
34:43nga
34:43not
34:43allowed
34:44mga
34:4418
34:44above
34:45dapat
34:45they
34:46can
34:46already
34:46see
34:47that
34:47so
34:48kanang
34:48not
34:49only
34:50to be
34:50wary
34:50of
34:51the
34:51real
34:51world
34:52we
34:52can
34:52also
34:52be
34:53wary
34:53much
34:53more
34:54in
34:54the
34:54digital
34:55world
34:55can
35:04because
35:05because
35:05the
35:05supervision
35:06is
35:07getting
35:07less
35:07the
35:08pagtanao
35:09And I like actually when you highlighted na kung sa kalaang panahon, it's face-to-face, so it's easier for
35:18the parents to see who they are talking to, the friends they are hanging out with, huwag kinsan ni silang
35:25mga anak.
35:25But at this age when a lot of the kids are already spending their time on their gadgets, so there's
35:33already a vacuum, huwag kinsan ni ilang kastorya online, what are the content that they are consuming.
35:40So I would agree, thank you for highlighting that, na parents should be more mindful na the physical space, if
35:46they're supervising it, if they're managing it, they also need to also supervise and managing the digital space.
35:54Because the kids these days actually are already living in both.
36:00Now, ang next na kung nga question is, and this is, you can issue a disclaimer whether it's your personal
36:06take or not.
36:07What's your take also about violent games that are being played by minors?
36:16Is that, kay Karun mo na na siya, divided mo na siya Karun when we look at it, but your
36:20personal take on this lang?
36:23Okay, um, violent games. Let's go for violent games, no?
36:27Kanang, the research of the violent games, mangod, is more nuanced than either extreme.
36:33Violent games, I think, dakhan kaayos siyag debate, Karun, na ay mga posts na, ako lagi, sige lagi kong duwag
36:41counter-strike before naabot pa kong Delta Force.
36:44Ito yung mga, mga, mga, mga forte naman siguro yung idari, yung mga duwag silang Delta Force, no?
36:49Kanang, they use the guns, kanang, they play.
36:54Kanang, in the meta-analysis, mangod, we, we, we, there's only a small association between violent video games, exposure, and
37:03aggressive behavior, or aggressive cognition.
37:06Violent games is actually an addition, or an accelerator.
37:14Not necessarily the cause.
37:17Not necessarily the cause.
37:19There are a lot of factors.
37:21Nga nung ang bata, mohimo siyang violent.
37:26Kaya, what a kaibaw, this child is actually being bullied.
37:29What a kaibaw, this child is experiencing kanang, kanang abuse, or nakakita siya o abusive kanang actions.
37:40Actually, yes.
37:41In the, in the, in the, in the, in front of the child, nakakita siya.
37:45Kaya, kung ato siyang i-connect sa social learning, kung unsay gibuhat sa usat ka grown-up, mausad na ilahang
37:55buhatun.
37:56Like, for example, kung na ay maglalis, and then kahuman kay, ang, ang, ang, ang solution is to go violent,
38:05or to shout, or to, kung magyagit, o maayaw, manghagis, para mahilong, makita sa bata nga, hala.
38:12This is actually a, that can be a solution.
38:15So, whenever nga naasi yai relatable nga, kuan, relatable nga, kanang situation, nga mahitabo sa iya ha, it can also,
38:25nga, ihako nang mabuhat po, that I have to be, I have to be, I have to shout, para ma,
38:31kuan ako ni, para ma-resolve na yun in ako.
38:33So, I have to be violent. Pero, the kind of solution factors yun, why a, why a child becomes, ma
38:41-muagis siya sa mga harmful doings, bili lang siya kay ang violent games.
38:46Violent games, na yun ba, nang muduwa sila sa kuan, counter-strike, sige sila kuan, pagkausanay sa ilang mga emotions,
38:53sinagitay, isa ba sila, then afterwards, ala, kay, manghawa na yun, ulit na yun.
38:57Diba? Pero, right now, sir, there is also a danger with the long-term use of, of the game.
39:05Like, um, there are actually games na, kanang, pwede ka magsturya niya for a long hour.
39:13Diba? And then, there's a study from 2010 to 2023, nga dakok kaayo ang mga, mga sex operators, nga mag
39:30-pretend sila, nga mga 9-year-old sila, 10 years old sila.
39:36And then, they can easily manipulate a child by doing deals, or kanang, kuan, kanang, kanang, make it into a
39:45game.
39:46Mga na siya, ang, kuan, ang, ang manipulation mismo, inside, na, dili makasupervise ang parent, kung unsang man gani, kung
39:54sige pang sultihan na niya, wala unsang magisultihan na niya.
39:57Dili man makasupervise sila right away kay ang cellphone, bisan, asa naman na nila madala without a parent, without a
40:03grown-up.
40:04So, mauna siya nga, kinahang lang yun o proper supervision, especially kung ang games kay naasiyay, long or taas ug
40:12-ars of conversations, yes.
40:16And, and, and, and thank you for bringing that up. Now, I like the word that you use, it's an
40:20accelerator.
40:21Okay, I would agree na with what you said, na, di magunta sure kung what's the current circumstance of the
40:27minor, and then madungagan, ani, no?
40:30No? Or what is the lack of, kanang parental presence that the minor is facing, and then madungagan, ani.
40:37So, kung i-combine na sila, then that's where the risk would come in.
40:41And if I may add, actually, that's why Murag na-struck with what you said.
40:44Bisan man gani, ako nga adult, but if things are very stressful, I avoid negative content.
40:51But I'm an adult, so that means I can process it. That's why I arrive to that, kanang realization.
40:59But ang bata, 9 years old, 10 years old, or 12, going through several hardships and challenges, madungagan pag-indsag
41:07negative content, no?
41:09And a child, unlike, a guy like me, nga tigulang na, makaregulate man ko nga too much of negativity, no?
41:15But a child doesn't do that. So that's where the parental and social guidance would come in, no?
41:21Yes, yes, yes.
41:23So ganaan ko sa imong use of word, which is not necessarily the cause, but it can be an accelerator.
41:30Now, before we, kanang kibulag, nalingaw ako sa conversation, nalang ko yung kanang curious question said, actually, no?
41:35Kanang, daghan man good, when incidents like this happen, like for example, katong sasambwanga,
41:40kanang, a lot of people would say, wala man siya yung warning signs, kanang achiever man siya,
41:46and then daghan siya o kanang extended family around sa iaas, so na siya yung social support.
41:52Are there cases, kanang, Adrian, that you see nga, kanang, dili magkwanog ka ng symptom,
41:59di kayo klaro ang symptom, but naanadiay siya yung issue inside?
42:07Ah, Mona, siya ang gamit yun sa mga, sa guidance center, sa counselor, sir.
42:14Oh, we do assessments, we do risk assessments at the same time, giyot, to easily detect them.
42:21Ah, not easily, not 100% giyot, kaya na may ubang giyot mo, faking giyot, faking bad giyot sila, no?
42:27Correct.
42:27Pero, however, kaya ng importante yun ka ayaw ang conversation, kaya, in our world right now,
42:36limited ka ayaw nga itong sharing sa ito ang stories.
42:39Correct.
42:39Pero, once we share our story, we will actually feel better.
42:45We will understand and we will be aware of ourselves because of how we actually share our stories,
42:51our life stories.
42:52So, kung, um, to detect a person, ah, kanang nga, who is about to, mo, ah, ginagani siya sa ina,
43:05in, kuwano, in violence, no?
43:06We cannot really tell right away, sir.
43:10Naiuban nga hilom ra, and then dingkalit lang.
43:13Ah, if yung mong makita dito sa Zambuanga, na shot, baya ito sila.
43:17Hmm.
43:18Di ba?
43:19That, ah, even though sa katun dito nga area, dito nga school, nga, kanang nindot po ang program.
43:26Correct.
43:27Wala gihapon na bantayan right away.
43:30So, we have to do as much as possible, dude, to interact with the students, but not only with just
43:37the guidance counselors,
43:38but as a collaborative effort.
43:40Correct.
43:40Sa school, sa teachers, sa parents, sa community as a whole.
43:46Wag yun na siya.
43:47And when you brought that up, salamat, you know, I'm so thankful for this conversation,
43:52and I hope our viewers are also kanang learning the same way that I do.
43:55Because while you were saying that, now I see also the magic or the beauty if they're not occupied with
44:02their gadgets.
44:03Kaya di ba, you mentioned na it's collaborative effort, the guidance counselor, the teachers, the parents.
44:07But if di po sila busy silang gadgets, even each other, di ba?
44:11They can interact.
44:13So, there's a lot of opportunities for them to be heard.
44:17So, this conversation has been helpful.
44:20Last na lang, no?
44:21Last two questions.
44:22What about kaning mga common questions sa kaning mga caregivers or parents of kaning teenagers, banga,
44:28who don't get a good answer when they ask, how was school?
44:34How are you?
44:35And then matubag lang sila, fine, period.
44:39What are your hacks, no?
44:41For the parents and caregivers going through that journey?
44:46Oh, um, we have to, koan, no?
44:50Kanang, why, the question is, nga nung di naman sila ganahan mo siya?
44:55Oh, mm.
44:56Di ba, no?
44:57Ah, did I say something wrong?
45:00Sometimes, we have to start with ourselves of how we actually, kung di unsan na to sila pag-approach in
45:05the first place,
45:06kay sa karong magod nga generation, ah, nanagid sila, sensitive diyan, lahigid siya, lahigid siya ang koan, karong nga generation.
45:14Sa una kami mga naman, pwede rin mag-itabunalan, sabto nga gena to.
45:19Pero karong manggod, lahing manggod, ang the learning doesn't only come from the parents alone,
45:23doesn't only come from the small area.
45:27Daghan ka ayo, daghan ka ayo, especially in the social media, daghan ka ayo sila masabtan gadaan na.
45:32So, um, if we wanted to, to talk to these students, or to, uh, to the child, kanang,
45:43we have to be open, we have to understand, when they, naagid ko yung nakatuunan sa usaka,
45:52kuwan ka, amigo na ko, no, kay, kuyan ko yung nagkuwan,
45:55ang bata niya, who is actually two-year-old, tabian, nakaayo, tabian, gid kaayo.
46:01So, for a two-year-old, daghan ka yung siyang pangutana.
46:04And then, ang papa, magsigay po siyang tubag.
46:08Bisan, bisan magbalik-balik ang pangutana, mutubag, yahapon ang papa.
46:13Ang nakanindot ato, kayo niya na, kuniya nga,
46:17grubihan niya, sige naman ni siya, ayya, mga ansiran tanan, murag ma-perfect niya siya.
46:22Ang gisulti sa papa,
46:24kanusamang ko, ay kanusamang di ay kumutubag, aniniyakan ang dili ng mga utana.
46:30Very good point. That's a good story.
46:33There will be a time that the children will no longer ask or express to their parents,
46:40to the caregivers, to the, to, kuwan, selected na na sila.
46:45So, as much as possible, mugi, mugi, mugi, lang, yahapon ka sa ilaha,
46:49or trust ka na sa mga kwaan, sa mga bata.
46:53There are actually mga open-ended questions, no?
46:56Kanang, like, muingon ka nga,
46:59what was the best part of your day?
47:01How was your day?
47:03Or, what was the hardest part of your day?
47:06Kung sumi mo na lisuran ka rung adlawan, di ba?
47:09Or, nahinahitabo ka ron?
47:11Kung gusto naman ka, o kera ka, kanasiya?
47:13Or, kinsa man ni mo hangkuyog?
47:16Unya, o kung gusto naman ni mo hangkuyog?
47:18Di ba?
47:19So, nindot kayo siyang a conversation as if that they are actually best friends.
47:23Correct, correct.
47:23Kana siya.
47:25So, kana, treat them not just as a child, but also as a friend.
47:31So that they will talk more about what they wanted to talk more about.
47:37And then, not all the time that we are going to judge them,
47:40but we can actually correct them.
47:45And, and thank you very much before I'll go for my last question.
47:49I hope our viewers are also finding this conversation helpful.
47:52Inasmuch as I do, kaya nataypod na ko siya sa katong Adrian yung giingon
47:55about ka nang tunulan o gadget.
47:57Di ba nga?
47:58Imbis ganahan ang two-year-old mo story,
48:00but maybe because the parent is tired,
48:02tunulan na lagrad gadget.
48:03So, sakto tong giingon sa iyong friend, no?
48:06Nindot kayo siya.
48:07Very good siya, actually.
48:09So, I would agree, no?
48:11So, that's an example of encouraging,
48:13creating an environment that it is safe for them
48:16to actually speak their mind, no?
48:19Yeah, before my last question,
48:20that's why nagka-goosebump po ko ito because
48:23natay manggud na ko siya,
48:24I also heard of one parent,
48:26naka lang mga bata,
48:26di ba klingi ang kids?
48:31And then, I heard also another parent
48:34na murag ikapuy siya ba?
48:35Kaya murag klingi kayo ang bata.
48:37I heard another parent who told the other parent na
48:40make the most out of it.
48:42Kaya time will come,
48:44ikaw na yung muingon na kuyog ta,
48:46and then siya na yung muingon o dilik ko.
48:49So, make the most out of that.
48:51So, nindot kayo yung muingon,
48:52and that's also about asking questions.
48:54Murabag entertain it, no?
48:56Correct.
48:57Para manguta na siya.
48:59Makahelp po na si YesGids sa mga bata,
49:01especially on kanang mga language,
49:04kanang mga verbal delays,
49:06or madelay ang ilang stenoryaan
49:08because we don't entertain them, manggud.
49:12Correct.
49:12Children actually learn more
49:14by listening to grown-ups talking.
49:18Correct.
49:19Kanan sila.
49:20So, if ever mangane,
49:21kumpuggan sila sa ilahang pag-express,
49:24sometimes, manggud,
49:26when they grow up, sir,
49:28maglisod sila
49:29o understand
49:30what emotions
49:31are they feeling right now.
49:33Correct.
49:34Muna nga,
49:35makonfuse silang,
49:35ang butong sanin siya.
49:36Muna ka sometimes
49:37when I ask them,
49:38how do you feel?
49:39Sa,
49:40kuan,
49:40ayun lang ni Sultik
49:41kay mostly rational.
49:43Maka nang mu-reason out sila
49:45instead of telling
49:46or being aware
49:47of how really
49:48they,
49:49how they really feel right now.
49:51Diba?
49:52Like,
49:52nahadlo ko,
49:53nakulbaan ko,
49:54naguol ko,
49:54nalipay ko.
49:56Kana,
49:56that's a very good
49:57kanang awareness
49:58to understand
49:59how a person feels.
50:01Pero kung,
50:03kanang usually,
50:04sa karun,
50:06kanang some,
50:07kanang dili na sila
50:09makakuanda yun
50:10kung sa gililahang na feel.
50:11They,
50:12they reason out so much
50:14to the point that
50:15di,
50:15makalimot na sila
50:16sa here and now
50:17moment of
50:18kanang feeling
50:21kanasi ya.
50:22And by the way,
50:23I'm wishing that
50:24we will have more
50:25conversations like this
50:26because what,
50:27what you've been sharing
50:28to us are
50:29kanang helpful no
50:30both in the theory
50:31and the practice.
50:31Ang last question
50:32na ako for now
50:33in this episode
50:34kanang Adrian ba
50:35is what are your,
50:37kanang,
50:37what's your message
50:38man said
50:38for,
50:39for parents
50:39or for students
50:41or caregivers
50:42who are watching
50:43that it is okay
50:45to actually ask
50:46for help
50:47and how this help
50:48can also be availed?
50:51Ah,
50:52okay.
50:52Everybody,
50:53we have to stop
50:55kanang treating
50:57kanang help seeking
50:59as evidence
50:59that someone is weak
51:01or crazy
51:02or,
51:03or delicia capable,
51:06no?
51:06Kanang,
51:07we can start by,
51:09by atong i-change
51:10ang i-usab na to
51:11itong language.
51:11Like,
51:12instead of saying
51:12kanang,
51:15what's wrong with you?
51:16It's better to ask
51:19what's happening to you?
51:21Good point.
51:22Instead of waiting
51:23until someone
51:25mo,
51:26mo reach out
51:26siya
51:27sa crisis,
51:28we normalize
51:29counseling
51:30as something people
51:31mangod can use
51:31for adjustment,
51:33relationships,
51:34stress,
51:35kanang grief,
51:36decision-making,
51:37personal growth,
51:38not only for
51:39severe kanang
51:40mental illness.
51:42Perhaps most importantly,
51:43adults have to,
51:45us as adults,
51:46we have to
51:47model it
51:47themselves.
51:49If children
51:50hear us say,
51:53quote-unquote,
51:55I don't need help,
51:56I can handle
51:58everything myself,
52:01they will learn
52:02that asking
52:03for help
52:04is a weakness.
52:06But,
52:07if they hear us
52:08say,
52:09I'm struggling
52:10or I'm not
52:11feeling well with this,
52:12so I'm going
52:13to talk to someone,
52:14they will learn
52:15that seeking help
52:16is actually a normal
52:17part of being human.
52:20Kanang,
52:21siya.
52:21So,
52:22thank you very much,
52:23Kanang,
52:24Adriano,
52:24for sharing your expertise,
52:26your insights,
52:27and also your experiencing,
52:28so that
52:29we as a community,
52:31whether we are caregivers
52:32or whether we are
52:34in the school
52:35or in the outside
52:37community,
52:38we are able to
52:40help a child
52:42through,
52:43in their joys
52:45and in those times
52:46also that they are
52:47challenged.
52:48So,
52:49hopefully there will be
52:49more conversations
52:50in the future now
52:51because we'd love
52:52to have you in the show.
52:55Thank you so much.
52:57Thank you,
52:57yeah.
52:57So,
52:58behind a child
52:59becomes,
53:00before a child,
53:01becomes a headline,
53:02there is a story
53:03we may never
53:04have heard.
53:06A child doesn't
53:07grow up alone.
53:09Parents shape them.
53:11Schools influence them.
53:13Communities surround them.
53:15Parents must guide
53:16or caregivers must guide.
53:19Schools must watch.
53:21Communities must step in
53:24because prevention begins
53:26long before the tragedy.
53:28So,
53:29I'm DJ Moises.
53:30Shout out to Coffee First
53:31for supporting
53:32conversations that matter.
53:34This has been
53:34Beyond the Headlines.
53:36Have a good afternoon.
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