00:00I'm Techie. I'm Peter and we've been together for 4 News now.
00:03And 6 months ago we started dating another couple. This is Joel and Dan.
00:07The 4 of us are in a relationship together.
00:09We got a lot of comments like
00:10This isn't right. Relationship should be only between 2 people.
00:13Honestly, it looks disgusting.
00:14Unfollow. So gross.
00:16They call us greedy people.
00:17I think I understand why Jesus isn't back.
00:20Even our close friends, everyone thinks, oh you're just having sex all the time.
00:23People thought we were just doing a full contact.
00:25It's a fake relationship to get attention.
00:27I did think Peter and Techie might have used it for social media.
00:30Open relationship. I see it way too often.
00:33What are you doing?
00:36How did this relationship start?
00:38Joel and Peter met at a party where all 4 of us were.
00:42And then Dan and I, we slowly introduced ourselves to each other.
00:46And then we all got along really well.
00:48Then we decided to spend another trip together for one week.
00:52And then over that trip, I think,
00:53I saw how we all took care of each other.
00:56And I think it was really nice.
00:58So now it's not only one person taking care of you.
01:00There's like 3 people taking care of you.
01:03Which is an upgrade.
01:05And then, yeah, I think we decided to make it official and start dating.
01:09We all were kind of open but not looking to open up our relationships.
01:14We were open to the idea of doing it.
01:16I think for me and Dan, it's about the same.
01:19It's just that whatever comes, we'll take it and then we see how it goes.
01:23So what do you guys want to do today?
01:25I think Dan had a TikTok he wanted to film.
01:28When we first started and we're putting gay couple content out online,
01:32we got a lot of comments like,
01:34This isn't right.
01:35Relationship is between a guy and a girl.
01:37And then now we put our 4 person relationship online.
01:41It's just shifted.
01:42No, it's no longer this isn't right.
01:44Relationship is between a guy and a girl.
01:46It's like, this isn't right.
01:46Relationship should be only between two people.
01:48They call us greedy people.
01:50I think I understand why Jesus isn't back.
01:53I think if Jesus hasn't been back in the last 2,000 years,
01:56I don't think he'll be back for the next 2,000.
01:57Oh my god, my favorite one is this AI.
02:00Why the f*** does everyone want to f*** everyone they connect to?
02:03Why is this automatically romantic?
02:05That's disgusting.
02:06You should all stop glorifying poly affairs.
02:09I used to be a fan, but this video made me unfollow.
02:12So gross.
02:13Great.
02:13This must be a hater.
02:15I don't want you there anyway.
02:16I don't want a fan like that.
02:18I don't want your attitude.
02:19Fake, fake fan.
02:20Fake fan.
02:21Honestly, it looks disgusting.
02:23I mean, one couple with two people is fine,
02:26but I'm not into this.
02:27I can't share my partner with anyone.
02:30Then don't share.
02:31I'm not asking you to share your partner with anyone.
02:33For me, the worst reaction was the Facebook group.
02:36They were Vietnamese gays saying,
02:38you guys are ruining gay rights in Vietnam for the rest of us.
02:43That for me was the worst thing and I just ignored it.
02:45What we try to do by putting our content online
02:49is to encourage progressiveness.
02:52People are never exposed to something.
02:53Their mind never changes.
02:54All the people who hate on it think it's not normal
02:58because it's not what they're used to.
03:00Love is being shown in a way that they haven't experienced before.
03:03Do we have good comments?
03:03Yeah.
03:04It looks so wholesome.
03:05You guys are so brave and I love that you are willing to share
03:09what your love looks like with the world.
03:11Your relationship is very unique, amazing, spreading love.
03:16I was thinking of another spreading, but yeah.
03:19Okay.
03:19Amazing, spreading love.
03:21What are the examples of doubts others have raised?
03:24It's not gonna last.
03:25I give it three months.
03:26Suckers, it's been six months.
03:28Oh yeah.
03:28Everyone, like even our close friends, everyone thinks,
03:30Oh, you're just having s**t all the time.
03:32Which is completely not true.
03:34Or no one initially believes it's real.
03:36Oh yeah.
03:37I think people thought we were just doing it for content.
03:39Or for content or for fun or it's a fake relationship to get attention.
03:42Peter's coming, right?
03:43He's coming soon.
03:44So when Peter and I just moved to Vietnam,
03:46we hadn't been here for that long, maybe three months.
03:48And then one of our other friends introduced us to Peter.
03:50From my memory, I never told him that we started dating another couple.
03:53He found out through watching our social media reels
03:55and he sends me a message.
03:56What's happening?
03:57Oh my goodness.
03:58He's agreed to chat with us about what he first thought
04:00when I first told him about our two new boyfriends.
04:03I think it just took me a step back
04:05as in how they present themselves so proudly online.
04:09In the beginning, I did think Peter and Seki might have used it for social media.
04:14This is boyfriend number two.
04:17Hi, Peter. Nice to meet you.
04:19Boyfriend number three, Dan.
04:21Dan, Peter, nice to meet you.
04:23How did you first find out about a relationship?
04:25So after a long day of work, you know, you go home and then you just scroll through...
04:31Social media?
04:32Yes.
04:33Which platform?
04:37X.
04:37Yes.
04:37Mm-hmm.
04:38And then...
04:39As gays do before bed.
04:41And...
04:43And then I was scrolling.
04:45I come across a post.
04:47And then when I saw both of y'all faces, I'm like...
04:50I stopped.
04:52I pressed on it.
04:53And I was like...
04:54What is going on?
04:55When I click onto it.
04:56And then I was like...
04:57Huh?
04:58Since when is day four?
04:59I was so confused.
05:01And I...
05:01The first thing that I did, I really screamed at you in text.
05:05And I was like...
05:06What's going on?
05:06What are you doing?
05:08Where?
05:09How did I not know about this?
05:10What was going to your head?
05:11I would say...
05:13I kind of expected it.
05:15But...
05:16Not publicly shown.
05:17Open relationship and then like many people.
05:20It's quite common now.
05:22I see it way too often.
05:23But then people do not proudly post about it.
05:26So for me, I was like...
05:28Wow.
05:28You're very out there.
05:29I just thought like it's a collab between...
05:31Because both of you are a couple.
05:32And both of you are a couple.
05:33I never expected it to be a four person thing.
05:36Where do you see you guys in the future?
05:38As a four, the objective is more trying to spend more time with each other.
05:41Rather than planning like a...
05:43Elaborate master plan for our future together.
05:45People have like all sorts of comments out there.
05:48So...
05:49Regarding all of your like posts and whatnot.
05:51Have you received any like crazy nasty stuff?
05:54Crazy nasty comments?
05:56But because we've been posting on social media so long.
05:58Especially Peter and I.
05:59Become more and more desensitized to it.
06:02For me.
06:03When I saw you guys today.
06:05I do generally see something.
06:07There's a connection.
06:08So I trust you and your instinct.
06:10I know that you know what you're doing.
06:12It was...
06:14How we came together was really unexpected.
06:17So it's very hard for us to be like...
06:19We're not looking for more.
06:21But you never know what will happen along the way.
06:24We're not looking.
06:25But we wouldn't say no if...
06:27If it comes.
06:28If it comes.
06:29The energy needs to be right.
06:30The benefits of being in a quad.
06:32Hmm.
06:33Lots of s***.
06:35Sure.
06:36No.
06:37That...
06:37That's a joke.
06:39S***.
06:39The benefits is really...
06:41Especially in relationship conflict.
06:42There's two other perspectives.
06:44To come and talk.
06:46You just...
06:47Help each other...
06:49Support each other's relationship.
06:50Being in this quad, I have a wider perspective on life now.
06:53When you stop having new experiences...
06:56Your life isn't fulfilling anymore.
06:58So...
06:58Adding you two...
07:00Is definitely a new experience.
07:02What do you want to say to people...
07:03Who judge our relationship?
07:05Can we say...
07:07The F word?
07:07They can judge all they want.
07:09But...
07:09I do hope that they...
07:11Keep an open mind.
07:12Because they never know when it happened to them.
07:14Three months down the road...
07:15They could be...
07:15In a six person relationship.
07:17Yeah.
07:18You never know.
07:19Or maybe they can be the fifth and sixth...
07:21Of our relationship.
07:22To shoot.
07:22For me, it's just...
07:23We're all...
07:25Just doing things in life...
07:27That make us happy.
07:28And as long as it doesn't...
07:30Negatively hurt or impact anyone else...
07:33What is it on you to judge?
07:35I hope our stories will...
07:37Continue inspiring more people...
07:39To live their best life.
07:52Now, that means that people have now...
07:54Thatúa học may sociedveda...
07:56And be close enough to...
07:57And I will forget that...
07:57I can definitelykiemthorpeatoire...
08:00That means that though...
08:01Sounds difficult to be...
08:01I can imagine...
08:01How do you see this...?
08:01What are you talking about?
08:02You are talking about going to...
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