00:02it's the andy summer show three calls and it all is where we read a note that we've received from
00:07a member of the summer squad and uh we need you to chime in and let us know what this
00:12person
00:12should do they've got a question you've got the answers so this morning the note comes from hayden
00:18hayden said i've been on two dates with a woman that i really like but i honestly can't tell if
00:23she's into me or if she's just being polite when we're together we have a good time conversation
00:28flows but when we're not she seems cold over text and on the phone i'm trying to be respectful and
00:34not come on too strong so i haven't pushed anything but that also means that i really don't know where
00:39we stand i would ask her directly but i'm trying not to make things awkward do i keep feeling it
00:44out
00:44and risk wasting my time or should i just be up front and ask her if we're actually vibing i
00:51can
00:51see this being an issue okay i am cracking up did my boyfriend write write this in
00:58or is it because well shan this is exactly what happened to him now now his name is sam and
01:06not
01:06hayden okay so i'm going to believe that this is not my boyfriend but when we listen we don't verify
01:12we don't know when we first started dating i am very much a i don't want to text too much
01:20before
01:21the first like three or four dates because i want to get to know you in person not over text
01:27okay i
01:27feel like you can develop this like parasocial relationship with that person and then it might
01:31not vibe in person right because there is a difference yeah and so he's told me he's like
01:36i truly did not think you liked me at all because you wouldn't text me like i would he would
01:41text me
01:41like in the morning and then i would text him not until the afternoon oh shan i just want to
01:46have the
01:47rest of my day i don't want to be texting all day but she's got a lot of constraint doesn't
01:51she
01:52hayden if she's saying yes then she's interested okay when she says no she'll let you know like when
01:59she's not interested yeah she will not go on dates with you anymore so she's saying yes yes she's
02:05interested that's my advice for you that's good that's good yeah donnie no i'm i'm out i'm bailing
02:16if they're not texting no if you're cold ever text and i'm just i'm over it i'm done okay just
02:22bye like on to the next it's only been two dates yeah right so what are we doing that's a
02:27big factor
02:27too yeah it's only been two dates so yeah if you're not feeling it then maybe maybe you should follow
02:32your gut on this 100 i would be out i can see it both ways but i'll tell you this
02:37when my husband
02:38and i first met each other um we went on one date and then had a conversation and we were
02:42like okay
02:43we really like each other we worked together so we saw each other often even though we had only
02:47gone on the one date and we were like how about if we do this we will just always be
02:53totally honest
02:53with each other and we honestly have this conversation and and if i tell you like if i'm
03:01jumping ahead and i one day i'm like i love you and you are like yeah that's not happening
03:07then we're done but you have to say it right like we just so that we don't waste time like
03:12it's not
03:12i'm not going to take it personally if you don't reciprocate the same feelings that i have
03:15yeah right like let's get over it and just move on with our lives and so yeah we were so
03:21gushy then
03:22from that moment on and yeah so then we knew but we had the conversation so maybe you've been in
03:29a
03:29situation that can help hayden out is she being too cold she's being cold intentionally is this a play
03:38maybe it's a play yeah hard to get is it a conversation that's worth having after two dates
03:43what do you think
03:45you
Comments