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00:05:00Sunbury Castle.
00:05:01Oh my God.
00:05:16Hello.
00:05:17Welcome to Sunbury Castle.
00:05:18Thank you so much.
00:05:20Cheers.
00:05:22I'm Jenny.
00:05:24I'm 67.
00:05:26This is my husband,
00:05:28he's 37,
00:05:30and we're living in India.
00:05:3270 years together.
00:05:35Lucky guy.
00:05:37Yeah.
00:05:39Is there any king and queen living here now?
00:05:42Well, not now.
00:05:44Okay.
00:05:45All right.
00:05:46And reception is just this way.
00:05:47Thank you.
00:05:48Cheers. Enjoy your stay.
00:05:51Our marriage is like a roller coaster.
00:05:55A lot of ups and downs.
00:05:56For sure.
00:05:59Like Submit's family,
00:06:01at first they didn't accept me.
00:06:04Things are a little better now,
00:06:06but that's put a lot of stress on our relationship.
00:06:13How cool is this?
00:06:16Yeah.
00:06:16Good afternoon.
00:06:17Welcome to Sunbury Castle.
00:06:19Thank you.
00:06:19Yeah.
00:06:21My parents finally accepted our relationship,
00:06:24but since then I lost my job.
00:06:27We couldn't afford to live by ourselves,
00:06:29so we moved with my parents.
00:06:32And then we decided to start a family restaurant together.
00:06:37It's been a nightmare.
00:06:41There we are.
00:06:42Enjoy your stay.
00:06:43Thank you.
00:06:43Thank you.
00:06:45The restaurant had a hard time getting up and running,
00:06:48and right now it's closed.
00:06:51Going into business with his family was a bad idea,
00:06:56and now we're still stuck living with his parents.
00:07:00It's not that bad.
00:07:02I want out of there.
00:07:04It's not that simple.
00:07:06It actually is simple.
00:07:08If we don't move out,
00:07:10I'm leaving with or without you.
00:07:26I don't know why you're nervous.
00:07:30Getting warmed up.
00:07:33I appreciate you coming in for this,
00:07:35for the therapy.
00:07:37I really want you to actually commit and focus on that.
00:07:39Excuse me?
00:07:40Yeah?
00:07:41Rose, I'm the one committing all of this.
00:07:51And we are here.
00:07:53Oh, my God.
00:07:58Ooh, champagne.
00:08:00I love this.
00:08:01This is going to really calm my nerves a lot.
00:08:13Wow, this is gorgeous.
00:08:14Welcome to Thumbury Castle.
00:08:15Oh, thank you.
00:08:16This is a castle.
00:08:17Ooh.
00:08:18I have never stayed in a castle.
00:08:19Oh, and this is for us too?
00:08:20Yeah.
00:08:21It's a welcome letter.
00:08:22Thank you.
00:08:23This place is unbelievable.
00:08:27Oh, wow.
00:08:28Look at this.
00:08:30Welcome to Thumbury Castle.
00:08:31Thank you so much.
00:08:32Oh, this place is beautiful.
00:08:33I feel like a queen.
00:08:35You should.
00:08:35You look amazing.
00:08:36Yeah.
00:08:36As long as you make me feel like a queen now that you're here.
00:08:40My name is Russ.
00:08:41I'm 39 years old, and I'm from Owasso, Oklahoma.
00:08:45And I'm Paola.
00:08:46I'm 38, and I'm from Bucaramanga, Colombia.
00:08:49We have been married for 12 years, almost 12 years,
00:08:52and we have a beautiful son.
00:08:54He's the best part of us.
00:08:55We recently moved to Las Vegas because I'm a pro wrestler,
00:09:00and I get to work more in Las Vegas than in Oklahoma.
00:09:04We have been living in an RV, so right now we do not have a home,
00:09:08and I'm not happy at all with the situation.
00:09:12There we are, sitting in one of our castle suites,
00:09:16the Katherine Howard suite.
00:09:18Now, are you interested in ghosts at all, anything like that?
00:09:20Oh, my God, I love it.
00:09:21I hope I can encounter one.
00:09:23Yeah, well, that is a room with a bit of flickering,
00:09:25so...
00:09:25How wonderful.
00:09:26Ooh, I love it.
00:09:28All I need from you today is a card
00:09:30placed on file for any incidentals.
00:09:33Do you use mine?
00:09:35Yeah, this will be yours.
00:09:37Thank you so much.
00:09:41For me, him using my credit card, it triggers me.
00:09:45It just brings me back to why I'm tired of this situation.
00:09:49I've gone through a lot of career changes and issues with work.
00:09:53Pao has now become more of the provider.
00:09:56But I used to put my card down all the time,
00:09:59so what difference does it make if you're putting your card down now?
00:10:01Because you are the man.
00:10:11Can you imagine everything, like, happening here, like, before?
00:10:15Can I get the key?
00:10:17See it, see it.
00:10:19Oh, my God, was there, like, a short person?
00:10:23Is this side?
00:10:24Lefty Lucy.
00:10:25Well, I don't know. This is England. Everything is the opposite.
00:10:27I don't think so.
00:10:29Maybe Katherine doesn't want us in here.
00:10:35Look at this place.
00:10:37Oh, my God.
00:10:38Oh, my God.
00:10:40This is so cool.
00:10:43This is so fancy.
00:10:47If Katherine is your here, I'm a good person with ghosts.
00:10:51If I can get to encounter a ghost, dream come true.
00:10:56For me, I'm here to fix our relationship, to repair it, and to figure out what steps we need to
00:11:02take.
00:11:03We do need help in order to actually, like, to say what we have.
00:11:07The last thing I was expecting, it was my 12-year anniversary, being, like, celebrating with a lot of people
00:11:14that I have never met.
00:11:16And nor did I expect a 12-year anniversary to be at a couple's therapy, too, since we're so close
00:11:21to that, the D word.
00:11:25I hate that word.
00:11:26So here's to no divorce and to fixing our marriage.
00:11:40I'm coming to this retreat very confused about our relationship.
00:11:46I want to save the marriage, but Ross is not the man I married.
00:11:52And that's why I went behind his back to see an attorney and to see my options about getting divorced.
00:11:59Now we are in a breaking point, and this is Ross' last chance to actually save this marriage.
00:12:06And if he's not going to show me that he's willing to change, I'm going to leave him.
00:12:23Okay.
00:12:24Stop. Look at the...
00:12:25Wait, they want me to play dress up, right?
00:12:29Wait, can I...
00:12:30This is my color now.
00:12:32Is there a mirror somewhere?
00:12:33Oh my god.
00:12:35I feel like these were meant to play dress up.
00:12:37Um, I don't know.
00:12:38It doesn't say don't touch, right?
00:12:41Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:12:43You like that?
00:12:45It's like a curtain that can be also a dress.
00:13:00I'm so glad you approve concert.
00:13:05You look like a pimp.
00:13:07My name is Cara. I am 33 and I'm from Charlottesville, Virginia.
00:13:11And my name is Guillermo. I'm from Venezuela and I'm 27 years old.
00:13:16Bam, boom, boom, bam, dun, dun. You know, we don't have to keep doing the same rhythm. We could do
00:13:20a different rhythm.
00:13:20Oh, yeah, we can do some reggaeton.
00:13:23Oh, yeah?
00:13:30Guillermo and I, we've known each other for six years and we've been married for four.
00:13:35We're made in the beautiful island of the Dominican Republic.
00:13:39It was like, hey, I don't, I don't want to live without you.
00:13:42So I proposed to Cara. She said yes.
00:13:46And then life happened.
00:13:50I feel like...
00:13:51Actually, you know, like, probably somebody like you would have won a name.
00:13:55Like, lady of something.
00:13:57Lady of, uh, the streets.
00:13:59Oh!
00:14:02Now you get on your knees.
00:14:07I now pronounce you Lord of the dicks.
00:14:15At first, we were really happy.
00:14:19Yeah.
00:14:22But I think, you know, once I got pregnant and had Nico...
00:14:27Where you're just, like, growing in completely different ways.
00:14:31I didn't always feel super supported.
00:14:34And then allegations of cheating happened.
00:14:37And so it just was a recipe, I think, for downfall.
00:14:41And so we decided that living apart was probably going to be the best solution for the time being.
00:14:47And now we've lived apart for over a year.
00:14:49I don't know how you're going to do to put...
00:14:52Huh?
00:14:53There you go.
00:14:54Sometimes a little lady needs a little help.
00:14:58The separation has been very hard.
00:15:01But I still love Kara.
00:15:03And I still want to try to save a marriage.
00:15:07I wholeheartedly agree.
00:15:11Ready?
00:15:12I am so ready. Should we go to our room?
00:15:15We owe it to ourselves and our son to make sure that we really try our best and give it
00:15:20our all.
00:15:22And that's why we're here.
00:15:25Wow.
00:15:26Oh my goodness.
00:15:29Wow!
00:15:31Look at it.
00:15:33This is so cute.
00:15:40I think I'm going to have a shot.
00:15:44Two?
00:15:46Nico.
00:15:47To reconnect and...
00:15:49Growth.
00:15:50And respect.
00:15:51And respect.
00:15:56I want to be hopeful, but it's going to be hard for me.
00:15:59I don't approve the way Kara acted during the marriage.
00:16:03And I don't agree on the way she lived her life after we got separated.
00:16:08There's a lot of that went down and we didn't fix it.
00:16:13But I guess if we want to be together, we need to.
00:16:20Oh!
00:16:21Come on.
00:16:24You've never been to therapy before.
00:16:26I never yet.
00:16:27One thing you better not do is disappear or run off.
00:16:32Everything that Ziet is doing, this sketchy behavior, honestly, that's exactly what cheaters do.
00:16:38Janda.
00:16:42You left me in the middle of a moment when I needed you.
00:16:46I hate that your voice...
00:16:48I hate to fight with any...
00:16:52Always she wants to be the boss bitch.
00:17:08Look.
00:17:09Oh, wow.
00:17:10Yes, man.
00:17:11Hi.
00:17:12Thank you, guys.
00:17:14Thank you so much.
00:17:15Enjoy.
00:17:15Thank you.
00:17:16Thank you.
00:17:17Look, it's amazing, actually.
00:17:20Is this cake or sandwich?
00:17:21That's a sandwich.
00:17:23Mmm.
00:17:26Look like cake.
00:17:28Something English, but I don't get it.
00:17:32Mmm.
00:17:34Delicious.
00:17:46Can you abut in your shirt, please?
00:17:48One.
00:17:49Just one.
00:17:49Please.
00:17:51We're in a castle in England and...
00:17:53So?
00:17:54Not a discotheque downtown.
00:18:00My name's Rebecca.
00:18:01I'm 54 years old.
00:18:03And this is my husband, Ziad.
00:18:06He is 32 years old.
00:18:07He's from Tunis, Tunisia.
00:18:09We've been together for eight years, married for five years.
00:18:14This is my first marriage.
00:18:15This is my fourth marriage.
00:18:18I think if this doesn't work out, I'm not getting married again.
00:18:25Are you glad I talked you into coming here?
00:18:28I am glad, yeah.
00:18:30You've never been to therapy before.
00:18:32I never, yeah.
00:18:33So you don't know what we have in store.
00:18:37You gonna handle it?
00:18:38I've been handling you not talking about it forever.
00:18:43Ziad and I have huge communication issues because anytime something gets hard, he just shuts down and stops talking.
00:18:51That's not true.
00:18:53You're always working and you don't have time for me.
00:18:56I feel like I'm living alone, so we don't have, like, strong relationship right now.
00:19:04What do you hope will change with me in this therapy?
00:19:11Um, the most thing, you mean?
00:19:13I didn't realize you had a list.
00:19:15No, the list is not gonna be coming out now, but, um, I'm just kidding.
00:19:22I feel like you're not.
00:19:24The most thing for you, um, I don't know, we go back close to each other again.
00:19:32What do you hope?
00:19:34I would really like to see that I can trust you again and not have to worry about what you're
00:19:42really doing.
00:19:45I mean, for me personally, trust is huge because I've been cheated on before.
00:19:50I've always tried not to bring that into my relationship with Ziad, but he's making it really hard to do
00:19:56that.
00:19:57Especially because I caught him in a parking lot with a blonde.
00:20:07Oh, my God, he's with a woman.
00:20:09Oh, I feel like I'm gonna throw up and pass out.
00:20:13I knew it.
00:20:15I knew it.
00:20:17You know, first you're not supposed to follow me, and I don't do anything wrong.
00:20:23I just meet my friend with his wife.
00:20:26She not wanna, um, spend time with me.
00:20:29She need to let me have friends.
00:20:33One thing you better not do is disappear or run off in the middle of therapy.
00:20:38You know, you have a habit of doing that.
00:20:40You have to learn how to sit and figure things out and talk things out.
00:20:45I don't need to learn how I, how I act.
00:20:51Every time lately that I call Ziad out on this sketchy behavior that he's doing,
00:20:55he basically just threatens to leave.
00:20:57He tells me that I'm, that I don't trust him and he's done with it.
00:21:00And honestly, that's exactly what cheaters do.
00:21:03I was a private investigator.
00:21:06I saw how men or women, they started going out with different friends.
00:21:10There's everything that Ziad is doing right now.
00:21:14So, if that's the case, a hundred percent, I'm done.
00:21:20So, we'll see how that goes.
00:21:23Shut up.
00:21:38Look at the houses.
00:21:39Whoa.
00:21:40They're called cottages.
00:21:42I love their English.
00:21:44The accent, it's so pretty.
00:21:47It's so cute.
00:21:49Look, horses everywhere.
00:21:51We're gonna ride horses.
00:21:53Well, no, we're gonna do therapy first.
00:21:56We got a lot to figure out.
00:21:58Yeah, we have a lot.
00:22:01Oh, my God.
00:22:03We are staying at a castle.
00:22:06Whoa.
00:22:11Oh, I thought castle is just for the priestess.
00:22:15No, it's for kings and queens like us.
00:22:20I'm ready.
00:22:31Wow.
00:22:33Hello.
00:22:34Welcome.
00:22:35How are you both?
00:22:36Thank you.
00:22:36Great.
00:22:38I'm Patrick.
00:22:39I'm 35 years old and I live in Las Vegas.
00:22:41And this is my beautiful wife, Queen Thais.
00:22:49I'm 29 years old.
00:22:50I am from Montes Claros, Brazil.
00:22:53And this is my queen.
00:22:56Queen?
00:22:57King.
00:22:58King.
00:22:58She's still learning English.
00:23:01We have a daughter.
00:23:04She's two.
00:23:05And we've been married for almost three years.
00:23:07Okay, so we have you in the Anne of Cleves room today.
00:23:10Oh, what's the history about that?
00:23:12So Anne of Cleves was one of Henry VIII's wives, one of six.
00:23:16Some were divorced, some were beheaded, and then one of them died.
00:23:20Jesus.
00:23:21Okay, what's his name?
00:23:23Cleve?
00:23:24Henry VIII.
00:23:25Henry VIII.
00:23:26Henry VIII.
00:23:27That's the king.
00:23:29Our marriage is like a castle.
00:23:32From outside, it's beautiful.
00:23:34But once you get closer, you can get into it.
00:23:38You'll see problems.
00:23:40Yeah, it's life.
00:23:42We need to renovate.
00:23:45All right, let's go check this place out.
00:23:46Okay, thank you so much.
00:23:46Thank you.
00:23:48Oh, look at that.
00:23:48What's that for?
00:23:50Ah.
00:23:50Yeah.
00:23:53I feel like since the time you came to the United States and now,
00:23:57our lives are completely different.
00:24:01Just...
00:24:02Distant?
00:24:04Yeah.
00:24:06The queen's chambers are really cold.
00:24:10There we go.
00:24:12We're in.
00:24:13Oh, wow.
00:24:16Wow.
00:24:16Oh, wow.
00:24:20This is a real room for a queen.
00:24:24Oh.
00:24:26What's this?
00:24:29What's that?
00:24:30They got some macaroons?
00:24:32So, what are we gonna do?
00:24:35Well, there's a bed.
00:24:37For what?
00:24:37And we don't have a kid.
00:24:42No, not today.
00:24:43Wearing any panties under the skirt or what?
00:24:46I am wearing.
00:24:47I am wearing shorts.
00:24:49Oh.
00:24:49Don't worry about that.
00:24:51No one's gonna look at me.
00:24:53No one's gonna look at you.
00:24:54No one's gonna look at me.
00:24:56Men stare at you.
00:24:58There might be some guys on the rocks that are gonna try to hit on you.
00:25:02Keep my eye out.
00:25:04Oh, my God.
00:25:04Remember this? Remember this?
00:25:06What?
00:25:07Watching.
00:25:09You're gonna work on your insecure, okay?
00:25:12Yeah, you're gonna work on covering your ass, okay?
00:25:16That's not nice.
00:25:19We were definitely having trust issues and it's...
00:25:22A lot of it comes from just...
00:25:24We haven't been intimate in a long time.
00:25:26People have a lot of sex before marriage and then they get married.
00:25:31and things slow down for everyone.
00:25:33Like, it's not the same one.
00:25:34I think that's bull****.
00:25:36You know, I've been married before and when sex starts going away,
00:25:40like, I feel like we're heading for a divorce.
00:25:45I think we both have to agree, like, to have a successful therapy.
00:25:50Like, we have to be open and honest.
00:25:52You know, like, I want to figure out what happened in Brazil.
00:25:58You know that nothing happened in Brazil, but, you know, keeps saying all the time.
00:26:03I get upset with that.
00:26:05Well, I don't know. You just been distant.
00:26:08For the last year, Thais has just been going on a bunch of trips to Brazil.
00:26:13But when she's there, she kind of goes dark sometimes and, like, I can't get a hold of her.
00:26:18I don't know who she's hanging out with and she's spending a lot of money on these trips.
00:26:23I just don't know what's going on.
00:26:25I feel like she has one foot out the door and she's just waiting for her opportunity to take that
00:26:31other step.
00:26:44Look at this beautiful bed.
00:26:46I mean, honestly, I'm going to sleep here.
00:26:52I mean, this is an option.
00:26:54It's a lot to fix before I step in that zone.
00:26:58Well, I just think you're associating the bed with sex and it's actually just sleep.
00:27:04Hmm.
00:27:05So get your brain out the gutter.
00:27:09Coming into this retreat, I definitely have so many issues about our marriage.
00:27:16I mean, just remember that you said you were going to try.
00:27:21And that maybe us sharing a room is, like, part of trying.
00:27:25Okay.
00:27:27I will share a room.
00:27:28Perfect.
00:27:29But I'm going to sleep on the couch.
00:27:33Why do you have to make something that's so simple?
00:27:35Like, literally closing your eyes and going to bed.
00:27:37Why does it have to be so emotionally charged?
00:27:39I'm trying to respect also my boundaries.
00:27:42Nobody's trying to have their way with you.
00:27:45One of the last times that I was in the bed with you, you used me.
00:27:51For what?
00:27:53To have sex.
00:27:57You were a willing participant.
00:28:00You literally just wanted to have sex.
00:28:02And the next day, I tried to sleep with you again as a normal couple.
00:28:06And you didn't want it.
00:28:08Oh, my God.
00:28:08So then I don't even want to get close to the same place.
00:28:10That's why.
00:28:12A lot of the time, it feels like Guillermo's blaming me for the problems in our relationship.
00:28:16And I just feel like it's not fair.
00:28:17Because I feel like Guillermo never supported my music and he didn't come to my shows.
00:28:21And he accused me of cheating when nothing was happening.
00:28:25It takes two people to make it or break it.
00:28:28And I'm not the only one to blame.
00:28:32Honestly, it's just that it's so hard for me to just simply forget about everything that you have done in
00:28:39the past.
00:28:41I thought that I knew you.
00:28:45And with the kind of decisions that you have taken over the past months, definitely make me understand that I
00:28:53didn't know anything about you.
00:28:57I came to this retreat because I want to fix this marriage.
00:29:00But there are things that Kyra have done online in her real life that it's not the same kind of
00:29:10Kyra that I met in the very beginning.
00:29:15There was a time when we were so happy.
00:29:19And I dream about having that again.
00:29:23But I don't know if we're going to get there.
00:29:31I've been around long enough to know that it just doesn't magically happen.
00:29:35How do you know? Can you prove that?
00:29:37This is your whole answer?
00:29:38Yeah, I don't know.
00:29:40I don't know what happened.
00:29:42This whole decision you're making right now to have this be your answer is wild.
00:29:46And I don't understand it at all.
00:30:00This is really spooky looking.
00:30:03Oh, okay.
00:30:06Wow.
00:30:07Oh, my God.
00:30:08Look at how beautiful this is.
00:30:10Oh, my God.
00:30:12How beautiful is this?
00:30:15You always wanted a bed like this where we can have a curtain.
00:30:20So you ready to make use of this bed now that your parents aren't around?
00:30:25I am ready, so be ready tonight.
00:30:27All right, come on.
00:30:28Maybe?
00:30:32Yeah!
00:30:37Since living with Samit's parents, our sex life is expired.
00:30:45But now we have a big bed to ourselves.
00:30:49Right.
00:30:50Nobody listening outside.
00:30:54Let's read this letter.
00:30:56Let's see what they want us to do.
00:31:00Dear esteemed guests,
00:31:02this retreat is a safe space for you to explore
00:31:07and address the difficult challenges your relationship is facing.
00:31:12How do they know?
00:31:14Your first group therapy session will take place tomorrow.
00:31:18We encourage you to become, what is this?
00:31:22Acquainted?
00:31:22With the other couples this evening at the historic Swan pub
00:31:30in town at 7 o'clock pub.
00:31:33Okay, we have to go to the pub at 7 o'clock.
00:31:37Wow.
00:31:38Take it easy over there, okay?
00:31:40Maybe even they want me to go to a pub and enjoy.
00:31:44Yeah, I just don't want you getting drunk.
00:31:46This is the part of the therapy.
00:31:48They even know that you have to get a little drunk in order to...
00:31:52Oh, my God.
00:31:53Is that all you can ever think about?
00:31:56It's not.
00:31:57Getting drunk?
00:32:00Since the cafe closed,
00:32:03Semen has changed.
00:32:05He likes to party and he likes his drinking.
00:32:10I just enjoy having a few drinks.
00:32:13Like, it's fun.
00:32:17We are not here to fight.
00:32:18Why are we even arguing about anything?
00:32:20We're not arguing.
00:32:22You're the one getting all upset and excited.
00:32:36Who else do you think is going to be there tonight?
00:32:39I don't have any clue.
00:32:40I think that, you know, Cara and...
00:32:44Gilramo?
00:32:45How do you say his name?
00:32:46Geronimo.
00:32:47What?
00:32:48Gilramo?
00:32:49Guillermo?
00:32:50Guillermo.
00:32:52Guillermo.
00:32:52I don't know.
00:32:54But I hope that I can bond with, you know?
00:32:58I mean, they can understand me.
00:32:59Yeah, well, I hope that when you're bonding,
00:33:02that it's constructive like stuff
00:33:05and that you're not bonding over how much you hate being married
00:33:07or how difficult your wife is.
00:33:10Gina, I'm not...
00:33:11I don't hate being married.
00:33:13Well...
00:33:13First of all, clear that from your mind, okay?
00:33:15You should think of your stand-up routine.
00:33:18One of the issues in this relationship
00:33:20has to do with Sarpur's career choice.
00:33:23He's an amazing comedian,
00:33:24but he has chosen most of his material to be about our marriage,
00:33:28and it makes a big joke of our relationship.
00:33:32Guys, she never stops talking.
00:33:34Take the diaper, Sarpur.
00:33:35Take the dog, Sarpur.
00:33:36You need to go...
00:33:38This is what he can't tell me to my face,
00:33:42but he's able to express it to an audience for me to hear.
00:33:46It's a comedian thing,
00:33:47and comedians always roast people whoever the closest to them.
00:33:56It sounds like you hate me.
00:33:57It is not.
00:33:58Well, it sounds like you do.
00:33:59It is...
00:33:59I'm showing that it is difficult to get married.
00:34:02I mean, this is reality.
00:34:03But you never end your routines with, like,
00:34:05Ask anyone.
00:34:06I actually love my wife,
00:34:07or I actually...
00:34:08Yes, they know that I love you.
00:34:10Who knows?
00:34:11They see that.
00:34:11Who knows?
00:34:12Everyone knows that.
00:34:13Everyone that leaves your show
00:34:14thinks that you hate being married
00:34:15and that I'm hideous about venga.
00:34:17No, no, no.
00:34:17I can't respect someone
00:34:19that can't have adult conversations,
00:34:20that doesn't say they're sorry when they're wrong,
00:34:22that doesn't tell me that they're joking
00:34:23when they're saying mean things about me.
00:34:26How can I respect that?
00:34:40I wonder who's gonna be here tonight.
00:34:42Do you have any idea?
00:34:44Me?
00:34:45Mm-hmm.
00:34:45No idea.
00:34:46I swear, if Angela's here,
00:34:48I'd rather get divorced.
00:34:49I mean, I wanna make friends.
00:34:51Uh, me too.
00:34:52I love...
00:34:52You know, you know I love people.
00:34:56and...
00:34:56Come here, let me check your buttons.
00:34:59It look like I wanna.
00:35:01Okay, no, you're okay.
00:35:03Just don't unbutton that one.
00:35:04Why?
00:35:05Because it doesn't look good.
00:35:06It looks like you're...
00:35:07Okay, okay, cool.
00:35:07Hey, I'm trying to pick up women.
00:35:10Whatever.
00:35:12That's...
00:35:12It's true.
00:35:16Really?
00:35:17Really.
00:35:26Are you excited to see a pup?
00:35:29Yeah, I'm excited.
00:35:29Real pup?
00:35:30I wanna see a real pup.
00:35:31Oh, my God.
00:35:32You wanna drink ale?
00:35:33I need a very strong ale.
00:35:37Oh, my God.
00:35:39Somebody's here.
00:35:44Oh, my God.
00:35:47Hi.
00:35:48Hey, hey.
00:35:49Hello.
00:35:50Wow.
00:35:51Hey, wow.
00:35:52I know these faces.
00:35:54I know these faces, too.
00:35:56Uh-huh.
00:35:56Sarper.
00:35:57Russ.
00:35:58Russ.
00:35:58Hello, Russ.
00:35:59Nice to meet you.
00:35:59Nice to meet you.
00:36:01Nice to meet you.
00:36:02Hi, gorgeous.
00:36:03You look beautiful.
00:36:04Thank you so much.
00:36:05You look gorgeous, too.
00:36:06Thank you.
00:36:07Wow.
00:36:10Shekinah and Sarper.
00:36:11I don't know much about them.
00:36:13The only thing that I know is that they got married in a bed,
00:36:16which is very particular, to be honest.
00:36:19I was surprised at how low his buttons were.
00:36:22Like, he's showing more cleavage than Shekinah.
00:36:24So, there's some weird vibe to that.
00:36:26What do you guys think?
00:36:28We're in Ireland.
00:36:29Or, wait.
00:36:30She doesn't know.
00:36:31She will never know.
00:36:33Believe me.
00:36:34Isn't it the same?
00:36:35Yes.
00:36:36Similar.
00:36:39From what I know of her, Pal could start a lot of drama here.
00:36:43She seems like the type that likes to stir the pot,
00:36:45and she's loud.
00:36:46She's over the top.
00:36:49I saw some things on the original 90 Day.
00:36:51She starts talking, she never stops.
00:36:53Like, I mean, semi-automatic assault rifle, you know?
00:37:00Which is bad.
00:37:01It's our car.
00:37:03Yeah.
00:37:03Here we go.
00:37:10Oh.
00:37:11Okay.
00:37:13Ooh, it's dark in here.
00:37:15Yeah.
00:37:17Chewy.
00:37:20Ooh, I love these shoes.
00:37:22Thank you.
00:37:23Are they boots?
00:37:24Yes.
00:37:25Oh, my God.
00:37:26Oh, my God.
00:37:26I love them.
00:37:27Thank you.
00:37:28So, what do you do?
00:37:29I'm an esthetician.
00:37:31I'm a comedian.
00:37:32No one asked you.
00:37:33That's cool.
00:37:34No one asked you what you do.
00:37:36Yeah.
00:37:36I'm asking what you guys do.
00:37:38Okay.
00:37:39Oh, my God.
00:37:40Steiner.
00:37:55Oh, wow.
00:37:56This is beautiful.
00:37:58Look at the swan.
00:38:00Ooh.
00:38:03Oh, my God.
00:38:04There's a dog.
00:38:06Thank you.
00:38:17I'm so scared.
00:38:17Can you drink taste?
00:38:18Can I taste the cider?
00:38:19Yeah.
00:38:19Just a small taste?
00:38:21Yeah.
00:38:22Can you mix them?
00:38:22Can you do half and half in a cup
00:38:24so it's not so sweet?
00:38:25I can.
00:38:26Oh.
00:38:32Look who's here.
00:38:34Hi.
00:38:35Hi.
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00:53:24You should go find out.
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00:55:55Tayyiz, I guess I'm just wondering what's happening.
00:55:59I said, why did you unfollow me and remove me as a follower?
00:56:02I don't know what happened.
00:56:03That doesn't happen by chance.
00:56:05We both know that.
00:56:08I don't wanna witness this.
00:56:10I'm gonna chime in.
00:56:12Literally neither of us care about what you guys are saying.
00:56:15Well, trust me, the way you're talking about it doesn't seem like you don't care.
00:56:19Yeah, the way you were talking about it.
00:56:21You were like, I don't, I don't.
00:56:24She made it feel like you were really upset about it.
00:56:28Therapy is all about honesty.
00:56:29So it's really disappointing to see that already people are choosing to be dishonest.
00:56:34I was really hoping that the women here would be a good support system for each other
00:56:38because we're all going through something similar,
00:56:41like the issues with all of our husbands.
00:56:45But it's already looking like some of the women here
00:56:47are also gonna be having difficult relationships with each other.
00:56:52We're out.
00:56:53Have a good night, you guys.
00:56:55See you tomorrow, guys.
00:56:55Nice to meet most of you.
00:56:56In therapy.
00:56:57Yeah.
00:56:58If Patrick and Thais are going to start things out this way,
00:57:01they're getting off on the wrong foot.
00:57:04She sits here and says it's not important, but it was important enough to pull you aside.
00:57:08I'm just saying.
00:57:09To talk about it.
00:57:10I don't like how you got up and left in the middle.
00:57:13Like, I know you're uncomfortable in the thick of that.
00:57:15That is literally being attacked and you're leaving.
00:57:18No, you are not attacking.
00:57:19You were arguing that time.
00:57:23You left me in the middle of a moment when I needed you not to defend me,
00:57:28to at least just be by my side.
00:57:30And you left.
00:57:31I don't want you to hear fighting with people.
00:57:34I hate that your voice when you argue.
00:57:36I don't want to fight with any .
00:57:38And look at you swearing.
00:57:40I hate your disgusting Turkish swearing.
00:57:42It's the most ugly thing I've ever heard in my life.
00:57:44Because I cannot handle myself otherwise.
00:57:46Yeah, you can't handle yourself.
00:57:47You can't handle me.
00:57:48You can't handle anything.
00:57:49I'm not swearing at you.
00:57:50Where are you going?
00:57:52This is the fight that we always have, you know?
00:57:55I don't know how therapists will help us, but I'm praying to God.
00:58:01I mean, let them show her that she has problems too.
00:58:07I mean, if you want me to be the leader, let me be the leader.
00:58:13On paper, she wants me to be the alpha male.
00:58:16Lie.
00:58:17It's a lie.
00:58:19Because always she wants to be the boss bitch.
00:58:24I'm always sorry in this life.
00:58:27I am always sorry.
00:58:28You're not listening to me.
00:58:56I'm happy to be back home.
00:58:58Yeah, actually I am.
00:59:02This is the way always with it.
00:59:04Like always.
00:59:05Like I cannot go out and have fun with my friend.
00:59:09Well, you need to learn how to be friendly without alcohol.
00:59:14I'm going out for a smoke.
00:59:16Okay.
00:59:17Good.
00:59:31Where's the taxi?
00:59:33This way.
00:59:34I feel like it has been a very interesting night.
00:59:37Yeah.
00:59:39You ready for tomorrow?
00:59:40No.
00:59:41I'm ready.
00:59:42In the simplest, shortest way, no.
00:59:45Oh.
00:59:45Absolutely not.
00:59:46Oh.
00:59:52How did we mess this night?
00:59:55Whatever I do, it's wrong.
00:59:57I mean, it's like, it's so difficult to change.
00:59:59How will I change you?
01:00:01Huh?
01:00:01How will I change you?
01:00:02Everything is in that sentence right there.
01:00:05How will I change you?
01:00:07Yes.
01:00:08Instead of how will I change myself?
01:00:10How will we change?
01:00:10That's everything that's wrong with this relationship right there.
01:00:14I'm just going to think about that right now.
01:00:16I'll go get ready to it.
01:00:17You think about everything.
01:00:19You think.
01:00:21You only think.
01:00:23I will tell in therapy.
01:00:24You are my punishment in this world.
01:00:32All right.
01:00:33Let me make my bed.
01:00:37So you don't need four pillows.
01:00:39You probably need two.
01:00:41And I need two.
01:00:42Would you agree?
01:00:43Yeah.
01:00:44Yeah.
01:00:44I'm going to get ready for her bed.
01:00:47By myself.
01:00:49All alone.
01:00:50Clean bed.
01:01:05You want to feel like a king?
01:01:07I wish.
01:01:08I think this retreat might be a lot more than we were bargaining for.
01:01:13Mm-hmm.
01:01:13But, you know, I think we're starting to see why people are here.
01:01:16I think we did a good job.
01:01:18You're welcome.
01:01:19Yeah.
01:01:19Maybe you should be rewarded.
01:01:20I accept.
01:01:23Get ready.
01:01:25All right.
01:01:27No.
01:01:37You want to trim the latte off?
01:01:39ben
01:01:40bu
01:01:54evet
01:01:56evet
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01:01:59İlk olarak.
01:02:01İlk olarak.
01:02:02Bir bir şey daha iyi.
01:02:04Onlarımla.
01:02:06İlk olarak.
01:02:11Şekainin olumsuzlar.
01:02:12Örneğin, therapy yolculuz.
01:02:15Bir şey daha çok şey yapmak.
01:02:17Eğretmenin birini almak için.
01:02:31İzlediğiniz için teşekkür ederim.
01:03:18Um, do you need the bathroom first?
01:03:21No, you can, you can go ahead.
01:03:22You can take it first.
01:03:24My penis is too **** to get up right now.
01:03:27Oh ****.
01:03:30Why is your penis ****?
01:03:32Because it's the morning.
01:03:34Do you think it could be because of who you woke up next to?
01:03:38No, Kara.
01:03:39No.
01:03:40Um, it's definitely science.
01:03:43How was your first night in the bed with me?
01:03:46I was going to sleep on the couch, but I didn't have blankets.
01:03:49Right.
01:03:50Right.
01:03:51Nothing happened.
01:03:51In fact, I think you actually put pillows between us.
01:03:54No, but it was nice to sleep next to you, and I hope that our first therapy session goes well.
01:04:01No.
01:04:18Hi.
01:04:20Hi
01:04:20Dr. Tarim, nae-nüdyamarca.
01:04:22Hi, Persha.
01:04:23Nice to meet you.
01:04:24Dr. Tarim.
01:04:28Muzik'u sebe.
01:04:35Kırmızı girmek için bir kitamızda.
01:04:40Kırmızı!
01:04:43Muzik.
01:04:45Muzik.
01:04:52İzlediğiniz için teşekkür ederim.
01:05:16I'm Dr. Tyrone K. Grandison, a doctor of marriage and family therapy.
01:05:20I specialize in helping individuals reach a better place in their relationships.
01:05:24We truly hope that you're ready for this endeavor.
01:05:27And I'm Dr. Tara.
01:05:29I'm a professor of sexual communication and a certified sexologist.
01:05:33I'm here to help you regain, rebuild, revitalize your sexual connection.
01:05:38Our hope is that by engaging in intensive couples therapy,
01:05:42it's a little bit like going on an exercise boot camp.
01:05:46You will be participating in a range of intensive therapies,
01:05:51as well as non-traditional exercises and homework assignments
01:05:54to help deepen your connections, improve your communication
01:05:58and help you mend your distressed marriages.
01:06:03We hope that by the end, your love for each other will be much like this castle,
01:06:07impenetrable to outside forces and strong enough to last generations.
01:06:12At the end of this three-week retreat, there will be a recommitment ceremony.
01:06:17Unfortunately, not all relationships are meant to last.
01:06:22True.
01:06:23That's not true.
01:06:24Not true.
01:06:26But as your therapist, we are going to do everything that we can
01:06:29to get you to a place where you are ready to recommit to each other.
01:06:35Let's get started.
01:06:40Let's do it.
01:06:41Let's do it.
01:06:43Yeah.
01:06:44So, Patrick and Thais, what is going on with you guys?
01:06:50Where should we start?
01:06:53A lot of things.
01:06:54Like, we've had a crazy three years of marriage.
01:06:57Like, we've moved around, been in four houses.
01:07:00I've gone through two surgeries with my knees,
01:07:04and, like, that's been really brutal for my stress, for my anxiety.
01:07:08A lot of mornings, like, I wake up and I'm stressed,
01:07:11and then she'll add more to my plate.
01:07:16And, you know, on top of that, like, she's just been distant.
01:07:22Add, like, lack of sex.
01:07:24There's no effort, like, from her to make time for us.
01:07:28No matter what.
01:07:30I cannot be sick or, like, he's like,
01:07:32oh, it's been three days already that we don't have sex.
01:07:35I don't like to hear that.
01:07:37And he thinks that I need to be there every single day for him,
01:07:40like, no matter what.
01:07:42But I started, like, prioritizing myself.
01:07:45Like, now I, you know, go to the gym,
01:07:47trying to do things, you know, that I feel better.
01:07:51And he doesn't like it.
01:07:54Like, oh, you're going to the gym?
01:07:56Like, it's too late.
01:07:57Like, who are you saying that your boyfriend?
01:07:59He thinks that I have a boyfriend.
01:08:01He doesn't trust me.
01:08:03She just recently went to Brazil, like, to see her family,
01:08:06but, like, needed to stay in an Airbnb.
01:08:09Like, it does make it easier for someone to stop by.
01:08:13Okay, so there's an inference here
01:08:14that you think perhaps she has cheated on you.
01:08:18Or would.
01:08:20I mean...
01:08:21Is that what you're saying without saying it?
01:08:28Yeah.
01:08:32That's upset me so much.
01:08:34Your wife is cheating on you.
01:08:36I don't know if you are.
01:08:39With this Brazil trip,
01:08:40there was, like, this, like, random charge
01:08:43on the credit card for, like, almost $2,000.
01:08:46Like, he keeps tracking the credit cards.
01:08:49I don't know why you don't trust me.
01:08:51Because you didn't tell me anything
01:08:52and what you were doing.
01:08:54You're in another country.
01:08:55And then all of a sudden, like,
01:08:56I'm worried where Elise is,
01:08:58and you're not telling me where she is,
01:08:59and then you're out till, like, middle of the night.
01:09:03There's a trust issue.
01:09:05He doesn't have enough self-confidence right now.
01:09:08Because he's dating out of his league,
01:09:09and he knows that.
01:09:10And he can only get a girl like that
01:09:12if he goes to a different country.
01:09:15So he brought this on himself.
01:09:17And also, I've already seen in one night
01:09:19that she's dishonest.
01:09:21So, yeah.
01:09:24You specifically mentioned a $2,000 charge.
01:09:27What was that charge for?
01:09:29I have no idea.
01:09:30Is that something that you're willing to share with him
01:09:33of what it was for?
01:09:38Something down there happened,
01:09:41and I didn't tell him because I thought...
01:09:47Um...
01:10:05So, Thais, what was that charge for?
01:10:09Um, yeah.
01:10:11I actually got, um...
01:10:14Something down there.
01:10:16And I didn't tell him
01:10:17because I thought he wasn't going to say yes.
01:10:21I got done, like, a lipo in my back.
01:10:29You got liposuction?
01:10:31Yes.
01:10:32Well, something that was bothering me.
01:10:34Well, this is the first time I'm hearing this.
01:10:37I've gotten a lot of procedures done,
01:10:39and I think what a woman does with her own body
01:10:41is her business.
01:10:43But she should at least tell her husband.
01:10:45It's shady.
01:10:46But there is a bigger problem than the trust issue.
01:10:49If you don't know the size of your lady,
01:10:53and if you don't understand the change,
01:10:55there is a big problem.
01:10:56For sure.
01:10:57After having a baby,
01:10:58there was some things that I saw on myself
01:11:01that I didn't like.
01:11:02And why didn't she say anything?
01:11:04Because if I tell you,
01:11:05you argue every time.
01:11:06You fight every time.
01:11:08Thais, for you,
01:11:09if somebody omits information,
01:11:11does that,
01:11:12do you think that counts as a lie?
01:11:16No.
01:11:17But can you understand, Thais,
01:11:19how that would be for Patrick?
01:11:23Like, it would create issues of trust
01:11:26by not telling him that.
01:11:28I know.
01:11:29I mean, we were going to fight anyways.
01:11:31I didn't want to fight that time.
01:11:33I just feel like you've taken it too far.
01:11:36She's focusing on herself,
01:11:37and, like, she really means it.
01:11:39Like, it is not, like,
01:11:41our family's not a priority.
01:11:43That's not like that.
01:11:45That's not like that.
01:11:45You're being, oh, Jesus.
01:11:48How can you say
01:11:50that I don't prioritize the family?
01:11:52How?
01:11:52I do a lot for you, for Alisi.
01:11:55I gave up my whole life
01:11:56in Brazil to come here.
01:11:58You've changed.
01:12:00And things are different.
01:12:02You're spending money on plastic surgery
01:12:04that has nothing to do with me or Alisi.
01:12:06That's exactly what I didn't tell you
01:12:08in the first place
01:12:08because, like, I knew
01:12:10it was going to be a fight,
01:12:12an argument.
01:12:12I'd rather argue with you
01:12:14than think that you're a liar.
01:12:19Okay, so it sounds like
01:12:20there's some real issues
01:12:21around communication.
01:12:23Clearly, there's some issues
01:12:24around trust.
01:12:26These are all things
01:12:27that we can work on.
01:12:28Are you willing to work on them?
01:12:32Yeah, 100%.
01:12:33Thais?
01:12:34I am.
01:12:34Okay.
01:12:37Patrick is concerned
01:12:39about infidelity in his marriage.
01:12:41He's concerned that perhaps
01:12:42Thais has cheated on him.
01:12:44And when this comes up
01:12:46with a couple,
01:12:47usually it's because
01:12:48there is some element of truth.
01:12:50Even if there hasn't been
01:12:51physical sex
01:12:53with someone outside
01:12:54of the marriage,
01:12:55she's pulling away
01:12:56because she's not feeling
01:12:57that connection with him anymore.
01:12:59And we really need to find a way
01:13:01to break this cycle.
01:13:05Okay, so Russ and Powell,
01:13:07how are you doing today?
01:13:10We're here for a reason.
01:13:11What's that reason?
01:13:13For me, I feel like
01:13:16I don't feel like I'm appreciated.
01:13:19You know,
01:13:20I was the financial stability
01:13:22throughout the beginning
01:13:23of the relationship.
01:13:25But that was in Oklahoma.
01:13:26And Powell
01:13:28hated Oklahoma.
01:13:30And so we moved for her.
01:13:32I had to start over
01:13:33within my career
01:13:35as an engineer.
01:13:37Went through three layoffs.
01:13:39I feel like
01:13:40she doesn't recognize
01:13:41the sacrifices
01:13:42that I've gone through.
01:13:43I get it.
01:13:44It's not in his hands
01:13:45to be laid off many times.
01:13:47But it's in his hands
01:13:49to actually step up
01:13:50and find a solution.
01:13:52And I feel like
01:13:53that motivation person,
01:13:54the person who used to love to work
01:13:56and used to have this driven,
01:13:58like I used to admire him.
01:14:00I feel like he's not longer there.
01:14:02And we just moved to Las Vegas
01:14:03and I told him not to come with me.
01:14:06Yeah.
01:14:11because I'm done.
01:14:13And like I feel like
01:14:14it's a big expense.
01:14:16I see him now as an expense
01:14:18because like
01:14:19I support everything for my son.
01:14:21I pay for everything.
01:14:22Why do I need someone
01:14:23who is not supporting me economically
01:14:24but is bringing,
01:14:25dragging me down with him?
01:14:28I'm not going to accept that.
01:14:29I said, no, I'm going.
01:14:30You're not taking my son away from me.
01:14:33He just told me like,
01:14:34oh, this is going to be a dirty bottle.
01:14:36Like, I'm going to go like,
01:14:37it's not going to be easy for you.
01:14:40And that's the last thing I want
01:14:41just to put my son through that.
01:14:44So is that the reason
01:14:45why I'm staying there?
01:14:46So because I don't want my son
01:14:47to go through that?
01:14:48But that's not fair.
01:14:52I feel like I'm very confused
01:14:53about my feelings,
01:14:54what I feel about him.
01:14:56I don't remember
01:14:56was the last time
01:14:57I actually told him
01:14:58I love you back.
01:15:02And it doesn't make me feel good
01:15:04because he doesn't deserve that.
01:15:07I don't deserve that.
01:15:08Like, what am I still doing?
01:15:10Like, it's just,
01:15:11that's not what I want.
01:15:15So when you say
01:15:17you're done, pal,
01:15:18are you here to try
01:15:19and fix this?
01:15:40Are you here to try
01:15:42and fix this?
01:15:46I cannot just snap at it
01:15:48like, and come out of like,
01:15:49oh yeah, now we're here.
01:15:50like, let's go and reconnect.
01:15:52Like, it's not that easy.
01:15:53But I'm doing this
01:15:55because of the history
01:15:56that we have.
01:15:57And maybe I'm in the wrong.
01:15:58And I don't see
01:15:59his point of view.
01:16:01I don't know.
01:16:01I want to find out
01:16:02because we haven't even
01:16:03had time to be alone
01:16:04because our son
01:16:05has been always in the middle.
01:16:06And I really wouldn't change
01:16:08that for anything in the world
01:16:09because I love my son to death.
01:16:11But I feel like
01:16:12there is such a distance
01:16:13between us.
01:16:14As much as it's,
01:16:15it's a joy to have Axel,
01:16:17it's taken an impact
01:16:19deeply.
01:16:20He also shares
01:16:21the bed with us.
01:16:23How old is Axel?
01:16:24Axel's six years old now.
01:16:28How does that affect
01:16:29your sex life?
01:16:32Tremendously.
01:16:33It's not like,
01:16:34oh, let's do it.
01:16:35It's going to be fun.
01:16:36It's more like,
01:16:36let's get it done with.
01:16:38Like,
01:16:40I don't know.
01:16:41I feel like I chose
01:16:42a dead cow in there
01:16:44and like,
01:16:44okay.
01:16:49That makes sense.
01:16:52She feels like
01:16:53a dead cow.
01:16:56It's bored, bro.
01:16:57But I'll be honest with you,
01:16:58if you were really bad at it,
01:16:59that's what I would do.
01:17:02Never heard about that.
01:17:04Similar to like,
01:17:05just starfishing,
01:17:06you know,
01:17:06and like,
01:17:06you just lay there
01:17:07and like spread out.
01:17:10Ready?
01:17:14And then you have sex with me.
01:17:17I think there's
01:17:18a huge discrepancy
01:17:20between how you guys
01:17:21are feeling.
01:17:22Sex is one of the cornerstones
01:17:25of a healthy marriage.
01:17:26When you're missing that,
01:17:28your relationship suffers.
01:17:29So I have a recipe for you
01:17:32that I think
01:17:32can revitalize
01:17:34that connection.
01:17:35We've got work to do.
01:17:37A lot.
01:17:38Yeah.
01:17:39It really just felt like
01:17:41Pao was trashing me.
01:17:42She's just throwing it out
01:17:43for the entire group
01:17:44to hear out.
01:17:46I know it takes
01:17:47full honesty
01:17:48in order for therapy to work.
01:17:50I'm really hoping
01:17:50that the therapist
01:17:51can help us
01:17:53in all aspects
01:17:54because honestly,
01:17:55I'm starting to have
01:17:56my doubts
01:17:56that this is ever
01:17:58going to work.
01:17:59Shekinah and Starper,
01:18:00what challenges
01:18:01are you bringing
01:18:02with you
01:18:02into this couple's retreat?
01:18:06I feel like
01:18:07we have a lot
01:18:08of communication issues,
01:18:09respect issues,
01:18:10and there seems
01:18:11to be like
01:18:12a power struggle.
01:18:13He always says
01:18:14he's an alpha man,
01:18:15alpha male.
01:18:16I'm very attracted
01:18:17to like an alpha male,
01:18:19like strong man,
01:18:21but I feel like
01:18:22an alpha man
01:18:22is going to provide
01:18:24and protect.
01:18:25When we have an issue,
01:18:27I'll shut down
01:18:28and I'll just
01:18:28kind of block him out
01:18:30like he doesn't exist
01:18:31to protect myself,
01:18:32and I'm doing that
01:18:33right now
01:18:33because of something
01:18:34that happened yesterday.
01:18:37So what happened yesterday?
01:18:38I was having words
01:18:40with another woman here.
01:18:43I felt like
01:18:44her husband
01:18:45was behind her
01:18:46and I felt
01:18:48my husband
01:18:48leave the situation
01:18:50and he just
01:18:51disappeared.
01:18:52Because I want
01:18:52the bathroom
01:18:53to pee
01:18:53because,
01:18:55and when you,
01:18:55and when you said
01:18:56having words,
01:18:57this is an argument,
01:18:58conversation.
01:18:59It was a question
01:19:00that I had for her
01:19:00that turned
01:19:01into an argument,
01:19:02yes.
01:19:04I just would like
01:19:06to know
01:19:06I'm not alone.
01:19:07That's it.
01:19:08I'm doing everything.
01:19:09I left my life,
01:19:11easy life.
01:19:12You left your
01:19:13garbage life
01:19:14and have an amazing
01:19:15life now.
01:19:18Amazing life?
01:19:19Are you sure?
01:19:21Um, yes.
01:19:22I mean,
01:19:23I'm,
01:19:24half of the week
01:19:25we are in a fight.
01:19:26I mean,
01:19:26we don't talk
01:19:27to each other.
01:19:28I mean,
01:19:29because of legal issues
01:19:30for K-1 visa thing,
01:19:31I was a ghost
01:19:33for a while.
01:19:34I didn't have
01:19:34any identity.
01:19:35I couldn't work.
01:19:37Then,
01:19:37it's her rules.
01:19:38It's her house.
01:19:39It's her things.
01:19:40And she started
01:19:41to scold me.
01:19:43I mean,
01:19:44I felt myself
01:19:45so weak.
01:19:47Right now,
01:19:48I again
01:19:49regain my strength
01:19:50financially,
01:19:52everything in America.
01:19:53I just want
01:19:54again to be
01:19:55the alpha male,
01:19:56but she doesn't
01:19:57let me to do it.
01:20:01Could you explain
01:20:02that a little bit more?
01:20:03She doesn't
01:20:03respect me anymore.
01:20:05That's my
01:20:05biggest issue.
01:20:08Uh,
01:20:08I was thinking
01:20:09it was because
01:20:10financial thing,
01:20:11but right now
01:20:12I am the breadwinner,
01:20:13more than breadwinner.
01:20:14I'm the whole
01:20:15bakery right now,
01:20:16but when I,
01:20:17it comes to the
01:20:18respect,
01:20:19it is gluten-free.
01:20:21You know,
01:20:22she doesn't
01:20:22respect me at all.
01:20:24It's not about money,
01:20:25it's about how
01:20:25you treat me.
01:20:27OK,
01:20:28let's talk about
01:20:29this term
01:20:29alpha male.
01:20:30It's been thrown
01:20:31around quite a lot.
01:20:32What do you think
01:20:33it means,
01:20:34Dr. Tara?
01:20:34I think what
01:20:35we're talking about
01:20:36here,
01:20:37like,
01:20:37as women,
01:20:38we are looking
01:20:38for healthy
01:20:40masculinity,
01:20:41right?
01:20:41Someone who
01:20:42is able to
01:20:43provide,
01:20:43someone who
01:20:44is able to
01:20:44communicate,
01:20:45recognises his
01:20:46feelings,
01:20:47and make good
01:20:48decisions.
01:20:49I think there's
01:20:50a difference
01:20:51between that
01:20:51and an alpha male
01:20:53who perhaps
01:20:54shows a lot of
01:20:55toxic
01:20:56characteristics.
01:20:57So alpha males
01:20:59are not typically
01:21:00what you would
01:21:00associate with
01:21:01emotional safety
01:21:02and security.
01:21:04Is that understood?
01:21:06Like,
01:21:06do the women here
01:21:06agree?
01:21:07Yes.
01:21:07Yeah?
01:21:08OK,
01:21:09so,
01:21:10Shekinah,
01:21:10you are a little
01:21:11bit confused
01:21:12about what it is
01:21:13that you desire.
01:21:14You want to feel
01:21:15that respect from him.
01:21:16You want to feel
01:21:16seen by him.
01:21:17You want to feel
01:21:18safe and supported.
01:21:20Is that right?
01:21:20Yeah, I just,
01:21:21men want us
01:21:22to respect them,
01:21:23but you have to
01:21:24earn respect.
01:21:24You have to
01:21:25deserve respect.
01:21:26and if you're
01:21:26telling me
01:21:27when you're
01:21:27angry at me
01:21:28that you're
01:21:29going to
01:21:29everyone in
01:21:30the city
01:21:30we live in.
01:21:34OK,
01:21:34that's up.
01:21:35You say
01:21:36all the time.
01:21:37I accept this.
01:21:38So it's like
01:21:39a threat.
01:21:40Like,
01:21:40she should be
01:21:41grateful that
01:21:42he's with her.
01:21:42OK,
01:21:43I know that
01:21:44it's not
01:21:44the right thing
01:21:45to do,
01:21:45but then
01:21:46as a man,
01:21:47when you get
01:21:48mad,
01:21:49sometimes
01:21:50you say
01:21:50something.
01:21:51Yeah,
01:21:52that doesn't
01:21:52make it OK.
01:21:54I don't know
01:21:55how Shekinah
01:21:56puts up with him.
01:21:56He is being
01:21:57basically a
01:21:58gross,
01:21:59chauvinistic
01:21:59asshole,
01:22:00and if she's
01:22:01not going to
01:22:01stand up for
01:22:01herself,
01:22:02I will stand
01:22:03up for her
01:22:03because that's
01:22:04awful.
01:22:06Listen,
01:22:07the way that
01:22:08you want to
01:22:08control her,
01:22:09it pisses me
01:22:10off.
01:22:10I'm just being
01:22:10honest because
01:22:11it is not
01:22:12about control
01:22:13because I love
01:22:14for him to be
01:22:14in charge.
01:22:15I'm happy to
01:22:16follow him,
01:22:17but it has to
01:22:18be a respectful
01:22:18way.
01:22:19That's the
01:22:20problem.
01:22:21I'm sure you
01:22:22never let him
01:22:22take the charge.
01:22:25He knows I do.
01:22:26Wait,
01:22:27wait,
01:22:27wait,
01:22:27wait.
01:22:28Men want to
01:22:29control his
01:22:30relationship.
01:22:31He's the man
01:22:31in the house.
01:22:32If you think
01:22:33I'm not letting
01:22:33you be the man
01:22:34right now,
01:22:35then you definitely
01:22:36need a Tunisian
01:22:37wife.
01:22:38But you,
01:22:38I mean,
01:22:39you control
01:22:40most of the
01:22:41thing.
01:22:41Oh,
01:22:41come on.
01:22:44I'm triggered.
01:22:46You're triggered?
01:22:47Yes,
01:22:47I am triggered.
01:22:48When a woman
01:22:49talks like this
01:22:50with her man,
01:22:52I'm triggered.
01:22:53You are puking
01:22:54hatred to him
01:22:55when you are
01:22:56talking with him.
01:22:57Shut up.
01:22:59Girl,
01:23:00don't talk to my
01:23:01husband like that,
01:23:02first of all.
01:23:02There's no need to,
01:23:03he's not telling you
01:23:04how will you
01:23:04look at me.
01:23:05I'm like,
01:23:07geez,
01:23:08Louise.
01:23:11Shut up.
01:23:13Oh,
01:23:13my God.
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