00:13Hi, I'm Barbie Ferreira, and yes, my name is Barbie, my real name.
00:18Only my mother calls me Barbara, so watch out.
00:22Anyone who's ever met me can tell you that I'm just, like, a wee bit extra.
00:26So I want a journey to learn how to behave.
00:32Us ladies have been told many rules of what to do, what's a don't, what's ladylike since the beginning of
00:37time.
00:38Some of these rules seem very old-fashioned and sexist, and I'm wondering if that has changed or evolved, or
00:45if it will.
00:46I mean, you have to learn how to be, you know, a functioning human.
00:50You can't just be, like, wilding out all the time.
00:54I have no idea about dating rules, and I break every single one of them, I'm sure.
00:58Wait for the guy to make the first move.
01:00Don't kiss on the first date.
01:02Always let a man pay for the date.
01:04Don't call him, let him call you.
01:06Except, what are these gender roles, and what if he is a she?
01:10I want to challenge all these rules of how to behave and see if any of them still apply to
01:15dating in the modern age.
01:18So next up, we're going to the East Village to meet Amy Van Doren, who is the CEO of Modern
01:24Love Club, which is a matchmaking service here in New York City.
01:27Someone who is a professional love goddess.
01:33I'm pretty sure that she's going to give me some good, valid advice.
01:42I'm going to keep it real with you guys.
01:43This is not purely a research mission.
01:46I may have asked Amy to set me up on a blind date.
01:48So basically, she's going to grill me like it's a job interview.
01:52Welcome to the Modern Love Club.
01:54This is so cute.
01:55I've interviewed close to 7,000 people through the years.
01:58I find that with the advent of online dating, everyone's so busy being focused on what they're looking for.
02:05Everyone comes in with this long laundry list of almost like treating dating like it's grocery shopping or something like
02:10that.
02:10I think if you reduce your search to these text fields online, you're missing out on incredible human beings.
02:17What are some of the things that you are looking for?
02:19I really like funny guys.
02:21I like nerdy dudes.
02:22Just like guys who like stand out.
02:25Really bad tattoos, usually.
02:27What are some deal breakers you have?
02:28Guys who don't smoke weed are against it.
02:30Okay, so they must love pot.
02:33Yes.
02:34And what are some things that are not so great about you?
02:37I need a lot of attention.
02:39I call a lot.
02:41Like if someone isn't answering me, to me it's like...
02:46Like, I'll call them 40 times.
02:48I don't give a fuck.
02:50To me it's just like I feel like what I'm doing is warranted even though it is crazy.
02:54You should try not doing that.
02:56In order to like get a feel for someone on a date, you have to ask them a lot of
02:59questions and be curious.
03:01I think the way to be the most interesting person is to be the most interested.
03:04Like I imagine that you could take up a lot of the conversational bandwidth.
03:09So make sure to like really like listen and be cute in.
03:11So we have this guy who lives in Williamsburg also.
03:15His name is Kabir.
03:16And for me the most important thing is not whether or not like he's your soulmate or he's like the
03:20list of all the things.
03:21Because like you don't have to meet your soulmate right now.
03:23I think now is the time to like make mistakes and fall in love like eight more times.
03:27But he seems cute and fun and he's excited to meet you.
03:31So just call me tomorrow.
03:32Let me know how it goes.
03:33I'm nervous but I'm ready.
03:34I'm ready.
03:35I'm excited to try new things.
03:37I feel like maybe it won't be as scary as I think it is because I always feel like if
03:41I'm not like overwhelming someone with my presence,
03:43they're going to forget about me and never talk to me again.
03:46Just being aware of it, especially when she says it to me, I'm like, oh damn.
03:50This is real.
03:51Like this is definitely real.
03:52Because I have like a sneaking suspicion that I'm just a crazy bitch when it comes to dating.
03:56I think that Kabir is going to be a really interesting match for her because he seems outgoing,
04:03but not as outgoing as her.
04:05I think he's going to love listening to her and like hearing about her.
04:08So we'll see.
04:09It's the first match so it could go any way.
04:20One thing I'm about to need before I go on this date is moral support.
04:24You're about to meet my friends Mina and Rafi who met on Instagram.
04:27And the crazy thing is that their parents met the total opposite way.
04:31Super old fashioned.
04:32Rafi's parents had an arranged marriage and learned to love each other.
04:36In the case of Rafi's parents, sticking to the rules seemed to work out.
04:40This also gives me hope that not all blind dates are a lost cause.
04:45How many pieces do we want each, guys?
04:50Oh my God.
04:53My date texted me.
04:54What do I say?
04:55What are you saying?
04:56She sent him an octopus emoji.
04:57He said, hey Barbie, I'm Kabir.
04:59I got a number from Amy the Matchmaker.
05:00How you doing?
05:01I like the monkey face that's covering its eyes.
05:04Oh my God, that's like so like...
05:09You should just send him a picture of the food when it's done.
05:12That'll be cute.
05:13Yeah.
05:13You should like...
05:14Oh my God, you're right.
05:15That'll be cute.
05:16Get the...
05:19Hashtag tasty Tuesdays.
05:22He's looking for his beautiful thick queen and I think we've found her.
05:28So I'm about to put Amy's advice into play and see how that works out.
05:33Be present, be a good listener, and be interested.
05:47How's it going?
05:50Good.
05:50How's it going with you?
05:51Good.
05:52I'm hot as shit right now, but it's okay.
05:54So?
05:55Hello.
05:55Hello.
05:57It's kind of weird.
05:57It's the first time for me.
05:58I know.
05:59I've never been on a blind date ever.
06:01Me neither.
06:03Ooh.
06:03Hey, some bubbly.
06:05Oh, you have a cup for me.
06:06Have a sweet.
06:07Cheers.
06:08Oh, cheers.
06:09See, this is the one thing I never do.
06:10I'm so fucking rude because my friends and I are just like the rudest bitches and we never
06:13cheers.
06:14The eye contact.
06:15The eye contact too.
06:18So what do you do?
06:19I'm a model.
06:21Oh God, I'm talking way too much.
06:23I need to ask him something about himself.
06:24What do you do?
06:26I'm a cinematographer.
06:28Ooh.
06:29Okay, now actually try listening to him.
06:32I wonder what Kabir talked to Amy about.
06:34Do you have like any like deal breakers like you just don't do?
06:38I won't be offended if it's directly towards me.
06:42I don't really have any deal breakers.
06:44None.
06:44If you're like a cat lady, you don't like nothing.
06:51Deal breaker.
06:51Okay, what if I like do hard drugs?
06:53That's a deal breaker?
06:53Deal breaker.
06:54Okay, there you go.
06:55Can we have a deal breaker?
06:57Hi.
06:58Hi, Barbie.
06:59Hello.
07:00How are you?
07:01Good.
07:01How did the date go?
07:02It was really cute.
07:03He was so nice, which is something that I'm really not used to.
07:08Amy's advice was helpful because it wasn't like a million little rules.
07:12She guides you more than tells you what to do.
07:14It's actually super simple.
07:16Don't stress out about the details.
07:17It's just about being a thoughtful person.
07:19Do that and you'll be fine.
07:21But I'm still gonna call Kabir first.
07:23Bye.
07:24Bye.
07:25Bye.
07:27Bye.
07:28Bye.
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