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First Dates S25E07
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00:02Do you feel a bit rusty, Romance?
00:03Yes, very rusty.
00:05Definitely need a WD for our day.
00:08I need some help.
00:09It's hard out there.
00:11I am very single at the moment.
00:14I've run out of swipes.
00:15I've completed Tinder.
00:18In the heart of Britain's most romantic city.
00:21Hello.
00:22Fred and his team.
00:24This is Captain Fur Potato.
00:26Our matching hopeful singletons.
00:28We're getting married, Merlin.
00:30In a place where love is always on the menu.
00:34I've got a bit in your finger.
00:35You didn't go that far down the street.
00:39These daters...
00:40He probably thinks I'm having a poo or something.
00:42..are searching...
00:45..for the one.
00:48Would you chase me around the bedroom?
00:49Absolutely. Get your coat.
00:51I'm in.
00:52For some, stepping into the unknown...
00:56..can lead to...
00:58..surprising sparks.
00:59I work in the adult industry.
01:01Do you have an office for that?
01:02I have a dungeon.
01:04But finding a connection...
01:06A love story is about to begin.
01:09Shut up!
01:10..isn't always easy.
01:12Please tell me you actually last longer than three minutes.
01:15Ooh!
01:18Help me!
01:20In the end...
01:21In the end...
01:22...it comes down to one...
01:24Nice to see what you did.
01:25...big...
01:27...question.
01:27Would you guys like to see each other again?
01:30This isn't at all awkward, is it?
01:32This is the First Dates Restaurant.
01:43You have to have an open mind when you're dating.
01:45I'm a dominatrix.
01:46Interesting.
01:48You have to be open to different people.
01:51Spanking.
01:52Bondage-tying.
01:53Where do I sign up now?
01:55People that might spark interests in you that you didn't know about.
01:59I'm half of a hip-hop duo.
02:00Right?
02:01They end up in their 40s.
02:04I've always found that people that surprised me
02:06were the ones that I'd actually like.
02:08A millionaireess needs a magnet, that's what I want.
02:10Close, jolly, close.
02:12That's what makes you beautiful.
02:17Hello.
02:20Ready to prove she's full of surprises and hoping for sparks
02:24is engineer Ellie.
02:26My day-to-day job consists of a lot of grinding.
02:30When I say grinding, I mean angle grinding.
02:36I'm the only woman in my company that I work for,
02:39but just because I'm a woman doesn't mean
02:40I can't get a forklift license.
02:42You do have to mark your territory.
02:44How are you, Ellie?
02:45I'm good.
02:46Nice to meet you.
02:48Nice to meet you.
02:48Are you ready?
02:49I'm so ready.
02:50Come with me.
02:51Sometimes I speak before I think.
02:53Being blunt can sometimes annoy the guy that I've dated.
02:57A lot of my thoughts will be quite brutally honest.
03:02Have you been on mini dates?
03:04Quite a few, yes.
03:05Maybe too many.
03:07They've mainly been dating apps,
03:08but that's obviously not worked yet.
03:10Not working?
03:11No.
03:11But that's okay.
03:12That's why we're here.
03:13And what are you looking for tonight?
03:15Someone that's a bit fun.
03:16Mm-hmm.
03:17That wants to have a laugh, a good time.
03:19I would like someone who's confident
03:21and also someone who's slightly willing
03:23to embarrass themselves.
03:25Shall I get you a drink?
03:26Do you want something?
03:26Yeah, I'll have a look at the menu, please.
03:28Someone who doesn't care so much about what other people think.
03:35Not afraid to cause a reaction is nuclear project manager, Callum.
03:41When I meet people and I tell them my job,
03:43they tend to think, God, he's Homer Simpson.
03:46I've been told I look like Wallace from Wallace and Gromit
03:48a few times as well, which is, again, not a compliment, is it?
03:52I grew up being a proper nerdy kid.
03:55Used to love dinosaurs and Pokemon and all that sort of stuff.
03:58I think nerdy people are just generally kind.
04:02Hello.
04:02Confident young man.
04:03Feeling confident.
04:04Feeling good.
04:05You are. How are you? Nice to meet you, Callum.
04:06How are you doing?
04:08I don't think there's any shame in being a bit geeky.
04:10I think it's something you should cherish, to be honest.
04:16Your date has arrived.
04:17Oh, lovely.
04:18Yeah.
04:19Should I take you through?
04:19Yes, please, yes.
04:21I'm looking for somebody who's quite adventurous,
04:23a little bit nerdy.
04:24It's actually popping.
04:26Here we go.
04:27Hello.
04:28I'm Ellie.
04:28Callum. Nice to meet you.
04:29You look lovely.
04:31Oh, thanks.
04:32It's a pleasure.
04:33You all right?
04:34Yeah, I'm good. How are you?
04:35I'm good. How are you feeling?
04:36I'm nervous, I'll be honest.
04:38Me too.
04:39You look great.
04:40Do you want some water?
04:42I'll do that.
04:43Don't worry.
04:45If I can even pour it properly.
04:46It's just spill all over the floor.
04:49What do you do?
04:50I do engineering.
04:51No way.
04:52I used to be an engineer.
04:53No way.
04:54What did you do?
04:54I was civil.
04:55I used to work in nuclear and stuff.
04:57That's cool.
04:58I really wanted to go into nuclear.
04:59No.
05:00I didn't go into nuclear.
05:02So what do you do now?
05:03I'm a project manager.
05:04I've actually been thinking about doing more project management stuff.
05:06I feel like that's the path for engineers though, isn't it?
05:08I feel like once you get like, I was going to say big enough,
05:10that sounds really cocky then.
05:11Isn't it?
05:12No.
05:13Was he good enough?
05:14I am kind of a big deal.
05:15Are you?
05:16No.
05:18Cheers.
05:19It's water.
05:21That's the ick already, isn't it?
05:28So kitsch.
05:29Love it.
05:30Shall I get you something to drink?
05:32I would love something to drink.
05:33What would you like?
05:33A French martini.
05:35I think the French martini, it comes in a coupe glass based on Marie Antoinette's
05:39breast.
05:39That's right.
05:40Thank you so much, Fred.
05:44Bookworm turned author Becky is ready to turn her fiction fantasies into hard backs.
05:51Yes.
05:53We stumble upstairs and into the bedroom.
05:55His experience is evident and I'm pleased.
05:58I like a man who knows what he's doing.
06:00Look what I've got for you, Becky.
06:03A French martini.
06:04I'm having one.
06:05Is it?
06:06Yeah.
06:06Get excited.
06:07Thank you very much.
06:08Thank you very much.
06:09I once did it six times in an hour, he says.
06:12Ooh, nice.
06:14Ka-ching, I say.
06:15How lucky am I.
06:17So tell me, what are you expecting from today?
06:19Oh, I'm expecting something exciting.
06:22Bit of an adventure.
06:23Well, this is going to be an adventure.
06:24It will be an adventure.
06:26The whole of online dating is one big contradiction.
06:30I've been chatting to a man online and he told me that I wasn't his type.
06:35But the next day he sent me a dick pic.
06:38Oh.
06:39What about sexual chemistry?
06:41Is it important for you?
06:42Hugely important.
06:43Is it?
06:43You might not want to necessarily rip their clothes off, but you know, just undo a few buttons.
06:48Looking for someone who's upstanding, full of integrity and treats a woman right.
06:54But at the same time has got a naughty side.
06:57And he will do all kind of spontaneous, naughty things.
07:03Would it be really important that she was a good kisser?
07:05I guess it would.
07:06Yes, I guess that's the message, isn't it?
07:09Becky's date is retired English teacher turned poet.
07:13Pull.
07:14Can it sweet words steal Becky's beating heart?
07:18Love feels like a warmish volcano going off inside.
07:24This huge feeling just comes out of nowhere.
07:27Oh, my God.
07:28That's what it's all about.
07:31How are you?
07:32I'm good. Bonjour.
07:34Nice to meet you. Bonjour.
07:35Are you excited about today?
07:35Yeah, I've only recently sort of started dating.
07:39Now's the time to start looking for that person I should really be with.
07:43Right.
07:43It's been so long, really.
07:45Hope springs eternal.
07:46What's important for you?
07:48I like cultural things.
07:49I like the arts and theatre and music and all that sort of thing.
07:52So do you write or...?
07:54I do write, yes.
07:56My time should probably be creative.
07:58I took quite a light long here, really.
08:00Come with me.
08:02Mouth shape.
08:03I suppose it's kissability.
08:05Here we are.
08:06Hello.
08:06Hello.
08:07Lovely to meet you.
08:08Hi, Paul.
08:08I'm Becky.
08:09Hi.
08:09How do you do?
08:13Thanks, Fred.
08:14Enjoy your date.
08:15That's for you.
08:17Oh, how lovely.
08:19Oh, that's very kind of you.
08:21It's a forget-me-not to symbolise fresh starts, new beginnings, that sort of thing.
08:26Oh, I love spring flowers.
08:28Yeah.
08:28Just everything blossoming.
08:30It's just really, really nice.
08:31So what did you do, Fred?
08:32Well, I was a lecturer for many years in drama, and then I took early retirement, and now
08:39I'm a writer.
08:40Well, I'm the same.
08:41I'm a writer.
08:42I was a teacher for many years of English language and literature.
08:45Right.
08:46But since I retired, I'm in London.
08:48OK.
08:48I'm in the British Library at the moment, researching.
08:50One of my favourite places.
08:51Yeah.
08:52Yes.
08:57Are you ready?
08:58Hello.
08:59I will put this in the middle.
09:01That looks very nice.
09:02All good?
09:03All good.
09:04You're welcome.
09:06Oh, God.
09:07Right, are there any, like, turn-offs you have, or red flags, I guess?
09:12I don't know about turn-offs, but I kind of, like, I know what I want.
09:15What do you want?
09:16I want someone who's, like, nice, and I want someone who's, like, fun.
09:20Yeah.
09:20Because I feel that's been, like, severely lacking in things in the past.
09:24Really?
09:25I had, like, a pretty rough year last year, obviously.
09:27Why was it rough?
09:28Me and my partner split up just before Christmas, because I was, like, cheated on pretty badly.
09:33Oh, no!
09:34It was on and off for, like, a few years, so...
09:36That's annoying.
09:37Every time it was off, it was because of cheating.
09:40That relationship was the only time I felt in love with somebody.
09:45It kind of feels like all fairy tales and magic and all that sort of stuff when you're
09:48in it, but then you kind of don't realise how much you lose yourself sometimes.
09:53That's painful.
09:55Yeah, I've not had the, like, best dating history.
09:58Like, everything that I liked about myself, she didn't...
10:01If I'd reach for her hand in public, she'd yank it away.
10:04It was almost like I felt she was a bit ashamed of me.
10:07And that kind of beats you down after a little while.
10:10I want to change that.
10:10I want to break the cycle.
10:11Yeah.
10:12Because, like, I feel like when relationships go sour, like, the fun just leaves.
10:16Yeah.
10:17It's only when your friends step in and say you're a bit of a shell of yourself that
10:21you kind of realise how far you've slipped.
10:23They say that's not normal in relationships or you seem really shy all of a sudden or really
10:27nervous.
10:28Then you kind of think, why am I feeling this way?
10:32You kind of just look back at it and you realise, like, you were just not meant to be together.
10:35That's horrible.
10:37I wanted to take time away just to fully recover.
10:41I didn't want to take any dramas from my last relationship into a new one.
10:45I feel really good.
10:46I feel really good.
10:47Like, no, I want to do, like, stuff this year, like, buy a place and travel a bit more and
10:53stuff.
10:53That's good.
10:54Would you want to get married one day?
10:55Yeah, definitely.
10:56I do.
10:56Do you?
10:57Yeah, one day.
10:58One day.
10:58I'm not saying right now.
11:02Do you want kids?
11:04Yeah.
11:04I do.
11:05I'm, like, I don't know.
11:06I don't know if I should say this.
11:09I get, like, I don't know, well broody at the moment.
11:12Yeah.
11:12Well, cos, like, I've seen my mates and kids and stuff.
11:15And it's just, like, so cute.
11:16It's, like, they've got the whole family things together.
11:18Yeah, it's kind of cute.
11:19I always, like, said to myself, like, when I left uni, like, oh, I'll get married and have
11:22a kid before 30.
11:23I'm, like, got to get fucking cracking.
11:26Yeah.
11:27We're running out of time here.
11:28Like, I know.
11:41Hope steals like strong perfume into spring air.
11:46Expectation stands on tiptoe, not daring to breathe.
11:49Who are you?
11:51You hover ahead of me like an angel, as we are born into a new season, the spring of
11:55our age.
11:56Well, I'm no angel, I'll tell you that, but very good.
12:01He wrote her a pre-planned love poem.
12:04How cute is that?
12:05That's really sweet.
12:07Yeah.
12:07Loved.
12:07I think I'd absolutely love that.
12:09I would die for that.
12:10I'd like to know that someone's thought about me before they've even met me.
12:12Yeah.
12:13He's not even met her yet and he's writing her a poem.
12:15Actions.
12:17This is why I don't do food on dates.
12:18No, it's a bit awkward, isn't it?
12:20Yeah.
12:20How have you found, like, dating since uni, then?
12:23It's more difficult to, like, meet people when you're not at uni.
12:27Yeah.
12:28So you have to kind of, like, rely on the dating apps, but then obviously, like...
12:31They're shit.
12:32They're awful.
12:33Yeah.
12:33I've been on quite a few dates, actually, last year, just because I was like, wow.
12:36No, no, no, no.
12:38I'm joking.
12:38I'm joking.
12:39It was just so easy to do, like, them so often, you know what I mean?
12:44Too much choice.
12:44But then, yeah.
12:45My nana was just like, you've got to kiss a few frogs before you meet a princess.
12:49But obviously it didn't work out with anyone.
12:52I would say I'm really sorry it didn't work out, but I'm not.
12:55You're very attractive.
12:57So there you go.
12:58Knock at you like...
12:58Thanks.
13:01Now you say something nice about me.
13:02No, I'm joking.
13:03You're also very attractive.
13:06How old are you, by the way?
13:07I'm 29.
13:0829?
13:09How old are you?
13:10I would say guess, but I feel like I don't really want to guess.
13:13No, no.
13:13I'm awful at this.
13:15Go on.
13:1525?
13:16Yeah, 25 in a couple of weeks.
13:18Oh, no, wait.
13:18You must have graduated, what, like, a week ago?
13:20In that case?
13:21Last year.
13:22Wow.
13:22Age gap, no.
13:24Yeah, I probably start a junior when you finish.
13:26Don't say that.
13:30The majority of 25-year-olds have so many options, but also it's a bit terrifying.
13:35I could settle down and get a job.
13:37I could go back to uni.
13:38I could take a year off.
13:39I could travel the world.
13:41I don't know.
13:41I could literally do anything, and I think that is so scary.
13:45I'm having, like, a quarter-life crisis.
13:47It's like, what do I do?
13:48Which way do I go?
13:49What's, like, number one at the moment?
13:51Right now, I think it's good to have a job.
13:54A child?
13:55A job.
13:56Right.
13:56Not a child.
13:58No time soon.
13:59No, that wasn't, like, a panic.
14:00Sorry, I was just, like, trying to hear.
14:01Panic for me.
14:02Dating in your mid-20s is really strange, because so many people are at different points in
14:08their life, but they're the same age.
14:10People could do anything at this point in time.
14:13They could get married, they could have babies, or they could just have a date.
14:17It's tricky.
14:18I feel like I'm approaching a bit of a, like, mid-life crisis.
14:21What do I want to do with my life?
14:22I was like...
14:23Yeah.
14:24I'd love to, like, I don't know, open a CAF, I think, and just, like, have a little quiet
14:27life.
14:27Really?
14:28Nice.
14:29Right now, I want to have fun in my life.
14:33I'm not at the stage where I really want to settle down.
14:36I would like to have adventures with someone.
14:40Life is so short, and why not have fun?
14:43I think I would like to do a ski season.
14:45I like climbing.
14:46Oh, sick.
14:47Do you?
14:47I've done it, but, like, when I lived in Bristol.
14:49I'm scared of heights, so...
14:50Oh, God, you don't like heights!
14:52I'll try anything once, honestly.
14:54I tried CrossFit to try and, like...
14:55Oh, yeah?
14:56...make friends last summer.
14:58How do you make friends as an adult?
14:59Yeah, no, literally, how do you make friends as an adult?
15:00I do have friends, I don't want to say, like...
15:02Do you ever go on, like, nights out, anymore?
15:03Ever.
15:05Like...
15:06No, I'm staying in...
15:08OK.
15:09Yeah.
15:10I still have nights out.
15:14Hello, you wonderful people.
15:16How's it going?
15:16My name's Kyle.
15:17You look a good gentleman.
15:18Very natterly dressed.
15:20Yeah, he does.
15:21Do you know what you wanted to drink at all?
15:23I would like wine, I think.
15:24Yeah?
15:25A white wine?
15:26Yes, that sounds good.
15:26Awesome.
15:27Thank you very much.
15:28So, what do you write?
15:29I wrote, last year, a cultural memoir,
15:33which is about the effects of technology
15:36on relationships between men and women
15:38and how the whole kind of scene has completely changed.
15:41OK.
15:41And that all came out of a very bad situation I was in with an ex.
15:48When I separated from my ex,
15:51it was a very, very dark time.
15:55I needed a period of time for my heart to mend again,
15:58because it was broken, definitely.
16:01What I thought was there was no longer there,
16:04so I had to reshape my future.
16:07About nine months or so after we separated,
16:10that's when I thought,
16:11now's the time to start looking around,
16:14so that's when I started online dating,
16:16which led me into a lot of adventures.
16:18That's really what my book was all about.
16:20It was great fun for a number of years.
16:22I met lots of different men,
16:25had my heart broken a bit,
16:27made quite a lot of bad decisions along the way.
16:31You know, toy boy situation,
16:32I've had a phase of toy boys.
16:36Ah, the toy boys.
16:38I found there were a lot of younger men approaching me,
16:41which came as a huge surprise.
16:43It was a boost to the confidence,
16:44but also at the same time I was thinking,
16:46what the hell are you doing?
16:48This is not good.
16:49I'd had enough of that now.
16:51You know, I wanted to meet people in real life,
16:53rather than toy boys online.
16:56Yes.
16:57I'm looking for both love and lust.
17:00To me, they co-exist.
17:02I want that companionship,
17:04I want that connection,
17:05because that's important to me.
17:08It's interesting that you can have
17:11so much chemistry zinging off the screen,
17:13but when you actually meet in real life,
17:15there's absolutely nothing there.
17:17Yeah.
17:18Toy boys.
17:24I did see online there are Aphrodite bitters.
17:28Yes.
17:28It's kind of like bitters of love.
17:30Yes.
17:30So I think we should be putting a few dashes of that
17:32in every cocktail.
17:33Every single drink.
17:34Seriously.
17:35These are cocktails, man.
17:36You cannot claim any health benefit from a cocktail.
17:39I beg to differ.
17:40I don't...
17:41It gives you happiness.
17:42Whiskey makes you frisky.
17:43Cider makes you a good rider.
17:45Rum will make you...
17:47I'm going to leave you guys to it, man.
17:49I'm not part of this.
17:50OK, what other ones can we come up with?
17:5334-year-old John is a disco DJ.
17:56He knows how to get the party started,
17:58but his love life seems somewhat off track.
18:02You must get women throwing themselves at you.
18:04Nah.
18:05This is a misconception.
18:07I don't know what Fat Boys Lim does.
18:09It's not true.
18:11I'd like to know what the trick is,
18:13because I haven't found it yet.
18:16My outfit is inspired by a certain Chandler being...
18:21Eventually Chandler got it right,
18:22so I'd like to think my story would be a similar ending,
18:26I'd hope.
18:27I'm looking for my moniker, yes.
18:29Look at that suit.
18:30Thank you very much.
18:31Nice to meet you, John.
18:32Yeah, pleasure.
18:32You go on many days?
18:34I try.
18:35You try?
18:36Yeah, I'm experienced.
18:38You're experienced, although I'm here now, so it's fine.
18:41Last chance saloon, here I am.
18:44I am quite picky.
18:45All right, let's go.
18:47How do you approach girls?
18:49I don't.
18:50Take a seat, mate.
18:51Then he will fix you up.
18:52It's that awful fear of rejection.
18:55Maybe I should go to, like, dating school,
18:56where they, you know, teach you to be fearless.
18:59So, tell me a bit about who you're looking for.
19:01A brunette, like a slim figure and everything.
19:04My jammer vibes.
19:05Okay.
19:06That's my vibe.
19:06That's your vibe.
19:07But whether I'm their vibe, I don't know,
19:09so that's why I'm here.
19:11Warm, funny, outgoing, smiles at me in that way
19:16that any other girl smiles at their boyfriend.
19:19That's the aim of the game, isn't it?
19:21It's not hard, is it?
19:23I love you.
19:24I love you.
19:24I love you.
19:24With a smile that could save the planet,
19:27environmental campaigner Susha is looking for someone
19:30to burst her bubble.
19:32Bubbles are just whimsical goodness.
19:34Because if a guy can't appreciate bubbles,
19:37then we're not on the same level of whimsy.
19:40I feel like people meet me and they think
19:42that I'm, like, really, like, overly sweet and cute
19:46and, like, they're just like,
19:48aww, you want to save the world?
19:50My life is, like, full.
19:51It's an open book waiting for someone to walk into.
19:56I'm looking for, at the risk of being too ambitious,
19:59the love of my life.
20:01Good to meet you, Susha.
20:02I'm so excited.
20:03The date is here.
20:04Okay.
20:05He's at the bar.
20:08My type is someone who is funny,
20:11first and foremost.
20:12Dark eyes, dark hair.
20:14We love a beard.
20:16Love just the moustache, too.
20:18Hi.
20:19Hi.
20:20How are you?
20:20Nice to meet you.
20:22Oh, sorry.
20:23You all right?
20:23What's your name?
20:24I'm Susha.
20:26Susha.
20:26Like sushi, but Susha.
20:27Susha.
20:28And you?
20:30Good to meet you.
20:31What can we get you to drink?
20:33A blooming lovely.
20:34So, where are you from?
20:35I'm from London.
20:36What about you?
20:37I live in Hometa.
20:38Oh, easy.
20:39I live in Whitechapel, so really close.
20:41Nice.
20:41What do you do?
20:43I work for an environmental charity.
20:45Oh.
20:46Yeah.
20:46Doing their, like, digital comms and social bit.
20:49Oh, nice.
20:50That's nice.
20:50What about you?
20:51By day, I work for the council.
20:53Doing their video stuff.
20:55Like, community hero content.
20:57Oh, love.
20:58Yeah.
20:58I may be working on, like, a new social content stream at the moment that is literally trying
21:03to do, like, community hero stories.
21:06Heroes need to be heard.
21:07I see why I've been matched.
21:08Yeah.
21:09Well, cheers.
21:09Cheers.
21:11Cheers.
21:11I can't for that.
21:12Sorry.
21:17The other day, I had some Wotsits, and I was having them with chopsticks.
21:21You're so cultured.
21:22I love Chinese restaurants.
21:25I love an Indian.
21:25Chinese or Italian.
21:26My dad's parents, like, immigrated from Italy to America.
21:29Oh, no way?
21:30Yeah.
21:30I kind of, like, fixate on stuff, and I'm, like, really fixated on the American election.
21:34Really?
21:36It's just baffled.
21:36It's crazy, isn't it?
21:38Yeah.
21:38It's actually...
21:38Who says romance is dead?
21:39We're talking about politics.
21:41Yeah, I know.
21:41Like, I'm really showing my age now.
21:44Like...
21:45Yeah.
21:46Thank you so much about my stocks and shares ISA I'm about to open.
21:48Oh, fuck, I'll do it.
21:49Tell me all about that.
21:50Like, I'm looking to invest.
21:53Like...
21:54What's the, like, weirdest thing that's put you off somebody?
21:56Oh.
21:56I took someone on a date.
21:58And we went cold water swimming.
22:01Because I was like, that's fun.
22:02I got in, and then he just could not get in.
22:05He was like, why does anyone do this for fun?
22:06And I was like, because it's fun.
22:08I don't know.
22:09I do that.
22:10Do you?
22:11Yeah, I do that.
22:12Yeah.
22:12I do, like, rivers and stuff.
22:13There's a quarry near me that I do it.
22:15I love it.
22:15I think it's great.
22:16Cold water swimming is something that, like, older women always do.
22:19Are you older than you say you are?
22:20Maybe.
22:21Secretly.
22:22But it's a bit of a thrill, isn't it?
22:24Yeah.
22:26I like to think it was a ride, but I can get it wrong.
22:31So, I don't want to get my hopes up.
22:34I'm going to get blocked by the bill.
22:35I'm going to leave it here.
22:37Should we split it, then?
22:38I'm happy to take it.
22:40I'm happy to split it.
22:41No, it's OK.
22:41I got it.
22:42Don't worry.
22:42Yeah, it's fine.
22:45That's fine.
22:52Jokes, I'm broke.
22:53No, I can't.
22:56I forgot all of my cards.
22:58All of my cards?
22:59What's happened?
23:00What's happened?
23:01Can't even dine and dash for being recorded.
23:06Would you like to see each other again?
23:10I'd like to see you again.
23:11Yeah.
23:13I'd like to see you again, too.
23:14Oh, good.
23:15Cool.
23:18Good choice.
23:19Yeah, good choice.
23:19Have a good evening.
23:21You too.
23:21Have some place fun now?
23:23Hopefully.
23:24OK.
23:25I think we've got a similar sense of humour in that it's both a little bit awkward and
23:29a little bit dry and strange.
23:35You're a little bit strange.
23:37This is nice, isn't it?
23:38So nice.
23:39So flowery.
23:42Yeah, I'd fancy you.
23:45Yeah, I thought you were very attractive when I walked in.
23:47Thanks.
23:49I thought you were too.
23:50Well, you are.
23:51Still.
23:51I know.
23:54Thanks for getting it as well.
23:55That's all right.
23:56You're a bit older than me.
23:57You've probably got a bit more savings than me.
24:09Eva, can you help me a second?
24:11Absolutely.
24:12Let's go.
24:12I'll grab that one.
24:14This is a moose bush, and they call it a mouth pleaser.
24:18It's got an aphrodisiac in it, apparently.
24:21I will try it.
24:22Chuck it all in it once, apparently.
24:24Oh, gosh.
24:25Oh, he's gone for it.
24:26He's gone for it.
24:27He's gone for it, yeah.
24:28Nice, Paul.
24:29I'll take a few minutes to calm down after that one.
24:31It's a bit of a mouth pleaser, isn't it?
24:33It's amused your bush.
24:34It's amused my bush, yes.
24:36My bush has never been so amused.
24:39Enjoy.
24:41You were talking about the date she'd been on.
24:43I'm relatively new to this, very inexperienced.
24:45Have you been separated, divorced?
24:48My daughter's mother, I was with her for 30 years, but we never lived together.
24:54We were never married.
24:55Oh.
24:57We had a child, but it didn't work out.
25:00My mental health was in the doldrums for a long time.
25:03I got ill with depression.
25:05Clearly that relationship could never work.
25:07So I've been in therapy trying to get over this.
25:11Oh, it must have been so difficult.
25:12Years and years of it, yes.
25:14Thanks to the hard work of mental health services and myself,
25:18finally I feel I've come to terms with what happened to me.
25:21I've understood it.
25:22And that makes me feel, you know, I could be, I could be a good partner for somebody now.
25:27It's only just in the last year, really, I felt it's a time for new beginnings, you know.
25:31Yeah.
25:32So I would like to spend it with someone, really.
25:36I do feel that I'm ready for a relationship.
25:39Here I am, hoping to find the one.
25:42Did you know immediately if you were attracted to somebody?
25:45You can tell if there's a spark.
25:47Usually I can tell, yeah.
25:50What is it I'm expecting to feel?
25:54Well, I think if you have to ask yourself, then there's no spark.
25:58Hmm.
26:14Hey, how are you doing? Nice to meet you.
26:17How are you getting on? Are you all right?
26:18Horrible. Terrible.
26:19Yeah.
26:21Having fun?
26:24I'm joking.
26:25How are we doing with the menu? What are we thinking?
26:27I think we're going to go for sharing messe.
26:29Lovely.
26:30Thank you very much.
26:33So, what do you like to do?
26:34I disco DJ.
26:36That's cool.
26:36How long have you been DJing?
26:38Um, ten years.
26:40Oh, mad.
26:41Yeah, we had a, like, tenth birthday last year.
26:43In fact...
26:44If you're going...
26:45If you're about to pull out a fucking sticker!
26:48Oh, my God!
26:49You're welcome.
26:50I have a sticker for you, too!
26:51Oh, my God, what is it?
26:52It's a climate sticker, so if you don't care about the climate whipsy...
26:55We have to care about the climate.
26:57We must.
26:58That's cool!
26:59Well, it's not cool, but it is cool.
27:01That's like a melting...
27:02Yeah, the earth do be melting.
27:04It's hot.
27:05That's cool.
27:05Oh, my God, I love.
27:06Thanks.
27:07Um, do you know what you're looking for at this point in your life?
27:10Well, I'm at that point in my life where everyone's getting married and having kids.
27:15Mmm.
27:15And I am not.
27:16So, I'm kind of thinking, yeah, I need to, uh, seek that.
27:21Need to or want to?
27:22Yeah.
27:24Um...
27:25When was the last relationship?
27:2718 months.
27:28Like, she dances on a cruise ship.
27:31Mmm, fun.
27:32I know, I was like, fucking holidays sorted then, lovely.
27:36So, like, met her in Birmingham...
27:38Her work is my annual leave.
27:39Yeah.
27:40The way we met was in, like, a...
27:42Went to a Beatles tribute band.
27:45Love, you met in the wild.
27:46Yeah, I know, weird.
27:48Like, obviously, she, like, being a dancer, she works her way.
27:51So, you know, the plan was to go out and see her, and then halfway and everything,
27:55something to look forward to, and, you know, I actually thought this was going to be something,
27:58and then...
27:59Mmm.
28:00Just got a call of, like, I need to tell you something.
28:02I was like...
28:04Oh, no.
28:06She was like, oh, I was just, you know, slept with someone on the beach,
28:09on the ship.
28:10And I was like...
28:15I don't wish that upon anyone.
28:18Just felt a bit empty.
28:19You know?
28:20You're kind of like, what now?
28:23She just wanted to walk back into my life.
28:26I need to rebuild the truck.
28:27There was no grovelling, which is not what I was there for.
28:30But also, like, come on.
28:32I do deserve better than that.
28:34Everyone deserves better than that.
28:35If I was to do that, I would be round her house, I would be with flowers.
28:39Yeah.
28:39I would be begging her.
28:41And there was none of that.
28:42So, I just thought, you're worth more than that, I think.
28:45Mmm-hmm.
28:46I told her it was, er...
28:48Not for me.
28:49We all want to be loved, and life is for sharing.
28:52And if you do that with a companion, that's the goal in life.
28:56I mean, it wasn't even that long.
28:57But it was one of them where I actually thought,
28:59okay, this could go somewhere.
29:00Yeah.
29:01So, it was...
29:02Do you think you were in love?
29:04Yeah.
29:11This is Andy, who, at the age of 72, is living life in the Bartholay
29:17and getting revved up for romance.
29:22When I'm riding my motorbike, I feel really free.
29:26I can zip along at speed, just watch the world go by.
29:30It's just a great thing to do.
29:32I love it.
29:32You look like a man without a care in the world.
29:35Oh, I hope so.
29:35I like that.
29:36Okay, good.
29:37But you don't find women on the back of a motorbike.
29:40Tell me, why are you single?
29:41I have no idea.
29:42I wish I knew that.
29:43I've been single for five years, Fred.
29:44What about your friends and family?
29:45Do they introduce you to people?
29:47My family's all over the place.
29:49I've got a few friends around.
29:50But most people you know are married or in relationships.
29:53I hope I'm a little bit unconventional.
29:55Currently, my body wants to go to sleep, but my head is not letting me.
29:59Come with me.
30:00I'll take you to your table.
30:01Thank you, sir.
30:02What retirement means for me is scuba diving, parachuting, caving, all those sorts of things.
30:08We'll go this way.
30:10But I always feel it's better to be able to do that with your partner.
30:13Should I get you a drink while you're waiting?
30:15What would you like?
30:16Sauvignon Blanc would be really nice.
30:18On the way.
30:20I'd love to plan the future.
30:22I'd love to plan the future, you know, come up with a joint bucket list or something like
30:24that.
30:24That'd be nice.
30:25Somebody's got a joint bucket list.
30:28That's cool.
30:31That's cool.
30:38That's cool.
30:43That's cool.
30:45probably isn't what everybody does i play central defense and the men have put my little emoji
30:54as the chopper they reckon i kick their ankles they're just babies you're looking amazing thank
31:03you so do you thank you very much a lot of people say climate challenge i've got a spirit of
31:10adventure i don't worry about going to spain and playing football with somebody i don't know
31:15why wouldn't you do that come with me thank you i want someone with a bit of adventure and not
31:22routine oh what a lovely table thank you hello nice to meet you i cannot stand routine i don't want
31:30to
31:30eat spaghetti bolognese every monday enjoy your date have fun thank you i will sorry what's your name
31:37jan jane jane j-a-n well jan okay handy short for janet but i hate that name okay i'm
31:46short for
31:47andrew so only my mum calls me andrew i absolutely hate the name janet okay i'll try to not to
31:55call
31:55you janet then yeah i wear hearing aids i can turn you off if i want so be careful well
32:03i hope that
32:03doesn't happen so what kind of um cultural things do you like to do well obviously theater a lot yeah
32:11yeah but i i play saxophone so i play in a jazz band does that mean that you like jazz
32:15then i do yes
32:16yeah i love um blue notes from that period yeah i absolutely love that they love it yeah obviously
32:23they've matched us because we've got a lot in common in terms of academic background yeah that sort of
32:27thing do i feel attracted to you i think i do you don't do flirting do you i don't no
32:33i have no idea
32:34that's majorly important yes i you know i wouldn't know if someone was flirting with me yeah no can you
32:40can you learn it i feel like i'm a teenager i've never done this you know and i'm nearly 70.
32:48you know
32:49i'm starting again at this stage of life it's about putting out feelers to sound out another
32:58person but also to let them know how you feel that you are interested in them and it's not just
33:05you
33:05know two friends meeting for lunch or something like that so it's also showing the other person that
33:10you're you're interested in them we had a lot in common but that's as far as it went
33:17um i can pay you visual compliments i like your hair all that sort of thing and that's all true
33:22i do feel like you like my hair yes i do we seem to be on different parts of our
33:31dating journey i
33:32like something that's a lot more flirty and sexy and i didn't get any of that do you feel that
33:38you're
33:38cut off emotionally yes i think i've lived in a sort of desert for a very long time it sounds
33:43like it
33:44yeah i'm not quite sure how to connect properly yeah
33:50i feel a bit like paul in wonderland you know yeah a bit out of my depth because
33:56i've so little experience yeah yeah you're trembling on the verge of something new yeah
34:04would you like to see chapter again
34:08and well paul i think you're a lovely guy thank you so much with forget me not and uh thank
34:12you so
34:13much with poem i thought the poem was fantastic it was so talented um but i for me um no
34:19there
34:19won't be another date i'm afraid no i i agree we had a good time i really enjoyed your company
34:24i
34:24think you're very interesting and we obviously share a lot in terms of our kind of backgrounds and so
34:29i think we agreed we're not we're not a dating couple no thank you so much thank you have a
34:38lovely evening and you bye i've just been told how to date by my headmistress and surely it's not a
34:44headmistress job to tell you how to date she was very nice though and she did it very nicely i
34:50mean
34:50she's she's a good headmistress i think i hope everything goes well for you and um thank you so
34:57much for everything and for paying for the meal thank you paul bye there's a great line in friends
35:15where um ross says to phoebe i think when you go on a date yes just do little bits of
35:23crazy don't
35:24give him it all in one crazy at once so i started playing football you played football i know it's
35:30insane well i wasn't i wasn't expecting that i know i go to spain to play in tournaments what a
35:38little bit
35:38crazy do i do i uh play in a samba band brilliant what instrument i play a timber okay which
35:45is a
35:46hand drum and the other one i play the big surdoos big drums with sticks yes oh wow so how
35:52do you get
35:52into that i'm actually useless at anything else really it can't it's better than sitting at home
35:58watching daytime tv i like to be looking and seeing and touching yes feeling and smelling things you know
36:04oh this is really nice i'm so relieved yeah absolutely i love man that has a special talent
36:13i did want to actually show you something um i've actually brought away me um go on like this here
36:19so um this is a diablo has this ever helped you pull um so i don't think it's helped me
36:25no keeping you
36:27keeping you
36:32how do you know when you're in love how do you know yeah how do you know when you're in
36:36love
36:41asking for a friend of course in the way that the way that i've been dating in the past like
36:47two
36:47years i've loved a lot of things about a lot of people i don't think i've been in love
36:51oh my mom she's the the role model for love that i have she's truly taught me like the meaning
37:00of
37:00unconditional love she had two young kids but like she's done so much to help me
37:06dating energy comes in waves right like sometimes you'll be up for it sometimes you're swiping
37:10sometimes you're like i hate this and now i'm looking for a husband
37:18i have not introduced anybody to my mom because nobody has been marriage potential
37:26what i actually want is like a lifelong partnership based off of love and commitment and connection and
37:33family and all that good stuff that's what's important to me so have you been dating a lot
37:39recently um please no i'm just trying to think like is it that oh sorry i was talking to the
37:48the thing it wouldn't stay on my phone you're talking you talk to your food now good i talk to
37:52everything please tell me the answer do you talk to yourself when you're alone
38:02i talk to myself like non-stop do you have a voice in your head not do you hear voices
38:07do you have a voice in your head where are we oh see that's when you talk to your potato
38:14that's a good time to have a word with it do i have voices in my head no you don't
38:22mad yeah see i only found out like two years ago that not everybody has a voice in their head
38:30and it seems like you just found out now that people do
38:44how's it going going pretty good right you know what you remind me of you've seen this series on tv
38:50called one day and there is this yes i love one day well you remind me of of this couple
38:56in the series
39:03wipe yourself down oh no worries
39:08okay go on how many times you've been married married once oh okay i was married very young
39:14i've got two kids boy and a girl and then we got divorced after 12 13 years something right now
39:20so have you been married or married twice okay like you married very young lasted 13 years okay but the
39:29second time it was short short of sweet really okay silly really i was pregnant so we got married
39:36getting divorced was probably the best thing for me because it gave me the impetus
39:41to do all sorts of amazing things the whole experience was at the time painful but ended up
39:49being the right thing i made the decision really to concentrate on a career and the children so i took
39:56a one-year-old and a seven-year-old and relocated to america because i had that opportunity
40:03what did you do what was your job sales research really it was a complicated business
40:07i lived in america for 25 plus years and brought up two boys so well it was wonderful actually i've
40:16never seen myself as a brave person i think you just take some risks just have a great time i'm
40:24sure
40:24yeah they did they did if it makes you nervous it's worth doing hello there we have a sirloin steak
40:33for you
40:33thank you thank you very much that looks lovely enjoy so how old are your boys now then one is
40:42in
40:43his early 30s one is in his late 20s now both of them are happily married have their own homes
40:52and are
40:52settled and now you think well actually i don't need to be a mum anymore because they're fine now i
41:00have to
41:00plan the next bit of my life i am fine on my own for long periods of time it doesn't
41:08bother me no but
41:09the one time i have felt really lonely is when you go to like a family function under all and
41:18everybody's
41:19and you're fine when you're there but then at the end everybody leaves in their couples and gets in
41:25their car and you think i'm on my own again yeah
41:37tell me do you do you know what your attachment style is
41:43anxious secure or avoidant i don't know if you have an anxious attachment style you might be looking
41:50for more communication in relation to like figuring out what a relationship is and if you have an
41:55avoidant style you run away from conflict yeah i don't know i haven't really looked into that
42:04like i could learn a lot do you want to go first shall i if you want i'd be very
42:17happy to see you again
42:22i i i don't think romantically however as a person as a friend as as a someone who values
42:33a lot of things i believe in us i just don't think there was that kind of connection with us
42:39so have we decided what we'd like to do about the bill she has all of it no i'm joking
42:43i'll take it
42:44great so all for you are you sure yeah man i think you just probably
42:49do i say too intelligent for me i felt like i learned a lot in the space so that we
42:54were there
42:54oh no way i'm just a bit like what up to you oh but come down to a disco anytime
43:02free engine
43:05it was nice meeting you yeah i had a lovely time yeah i'd love to hear you deejay sometime
43:10sorry yeah all right i'm this way
43:15see you later take care bye
43:22these are really good martinis i have to say now
43:25live dangerously john live dangerously that is the yes table look at them and if it's not i owe
43:33you tenner i believe you i don't need the center i'm with you i've been away for three weeks where
43:39were you i actually did new zealand and also cook island which was lovely but it was a bit weird
43:49because it's a very romantic place and i had this lovely yeah yeah honeymoon suite you know with
43:58all these romantic couples around me i thought i feel a bit weird it's always nice to share that
44:04with somebody because you know much more fun if you as a couple i tend not to go out at
44:09night
44:09yes that's what's kind of missing you look lovely by the way thank you it's been a lovely first day
44:16been great oh yeah okay you're right yes thank you good to see you again
44:25oh well i have a motorbike i had a kawasaki at one point i'm happily set on the back but
44:31not
44:32actually do the drive okay well i'm too dangerous doing the driving i've got space for a pillion
44:39would you like to see each other okay you first no you could go first
44:45gone yes oh absolutely yes yes
44:53no no no can we do you want to do 50 50 because i have my cards
44:57guilty short or a long answer i'm happy to do half no thank you i'm paying when we first started
45:04talking it was easy it was good yeah yeah i just remember it as being smooth from the beginning
45:10i loved it thank you very much thank you have a good evening that was lovely thank you great you're
45:16welcome thank you yeah some of the things it was almost identical it would be lovely to do it with
45:21somebody else instead of doing it solo i'm smiling would you like to go for a drink now i would
45:27love
45:27to go for a drink now and then we'll talk about another day later at the same time
45:38you're a fan of karaoke bar what's the song any other song it is i haven't told you about that
45:43yet
45:58are you happy to do the ride i am okay well what's a bonus but i want to see you
46:05drive
46:06i think that i'm in laha i do love you i do love you
46:16you
46:37you
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