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Married at First Sight Australia - Season 13 - Episode 33
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00:00:00So excited to show David around. My hopes are...
00:00:03They're here.
00:00:05When the couples took off across the country,
00:00:08they tasted married life beyond the experiment.
00:00:12You've always told me, don't come here to Sydney for me.
00:00:15Well, I'm open to moving now.
00:00:17And for Stephen...
00:00:18Must admit, I kind of like holding a rod and getting kissed.
00:00:21He gave Rachel the reassurance she needed
00:00:24to begin their next chapter together.
00:00:26What I see is a wife outside the experiment
00:00:29It really reaffirms the feelings are real,
00:00:32the feelings are neutral.
00:00:35My feelings are, like, they're pretty gone.
00:00:39Emotions ran high for some...
00:00:41You should be able to say something nice
00:00:43and be genuine about it.
00:00:44And despite winning over her nearest and dearest...
00:00:47David is everything that you've asked for.
00:00:50I don't know, I feel like I'm getting overwhelmed with it.
00:00:52David still felt he wasn't able to be the calm to Alyssa's storm.
00:00:57She still sees negatives.
00:00:58There's nothing else I can do.
00:01:00What's that?
00:01:01Why is it pink?
00:01:02Is it your ex's or something?
00:01:03And on the Gold Coast...
00:01:05I see you being pressured.
00:01:06Like, you need to be able to voice your concerns.
00:01:07Like, are you scared about her reaction?
00:01:09Pretty much.
00:01:10Scott struggled to voice his issues with Gia.
00:01:13I feel like sometimes I'm walking on eggshells.
00:01:15Do you know what I mean?
00:01:15I mean, like, no, no, no, what I'm saying is, like...
00:01:17I didn't know you wanted to argue today.
00:01:20Tonight.
00:01:22In just a short time, you have one of the biggest decisions
00:01:25that you're going to have to make.
00:01:27Whether or not you can take this relationship
00:01:30into the real world and make it a success.
00:01:34Welcome.
00:01:35It's the last commitment ceremony of the experiment.
00:01:39This is a very pivotal night.
00:01:41And after two months of marriage,
00:01:43uncomfortable truths will be exposed.
00:01:46I want a partner who can have
00:01:48a constructive conversation with me about an issue.
00:01:51I can't mind reading.
00:01:52It's not mind reading.
00:01:52It's not mind reading.
00:01:53Oh, my gosh, I can't.
00:01:54I cannot.
00:01:54Boom.
00:01:55David reveals what's really going on
00:01:57in his relationship with Alyssa.
00:01:59You did mention I was a weak man.
00:02:01She called you a weak man?
00:02:02Yeah.
00:02:03So that's a problem.
00:02:05No, no, no, do not blame me.
00:02:07After weeks of giving her heart to Danny...
00:02:09I'm not going to walk down to final vows
00:02:12with someone that's a maybe about me.
00:02:15Is this the night Beck finally calls it quits?
00:02:18I'm not doing it.
00:02:20I'm not.
00:02:21And then...
00:02:22What I'm seeing here is fake.
00:02:25I'm going to call you out.
00:02:26I've seen it the entire experiment.
00:02:29If you don't let us in, you're not going to last.
00:02:32It's Scott's moment of truth.
00:02:35I'm getting a bit nervous.
00:02:40What I'm going to talk about tonight is
00:02:42I don't want you to be upset.
00:02:44What I'm going to talk about is feelings
00:02:46where I...
00:02:49Take a breath.
00:02:52Breathe.
00:03:10It's the morning of the final commitment ceremony.
00:03:14Yummy.
00:03:16Get some caffeine.
00:03:17Cheat.
00:03:18Yeah.
00:03:19And after eight weeks in the experiment,
00:03:21tonight marks the last time
00:03:23the couples will come face-to-face with the experts.
00:03:27How'd you sleep?
00:03:28Yeah, I slept really well.
00:03:29Really, really well.
00:03:30I love our little midnight make-out sessions.
00:03:33Some people have chats.
00:03:34We have make-out sessions.
00:03:35We have make-out sessions.
00:03:36Yeah.
00:03:37I love it.
00:03:38This week, during homestays,
00:03:40the couples were tested
00:03:41as they prepare for a life outside the experiment.
00:03:45It was good.
00:03:45I'm just enjoying the last couple of weeks.
00:03:48Stella and Philip continue to evolve as a couple,
00:03:51having said,
00:03:52I love you.
00:03:55Rachel and Stephen have been slower to open their hearts.
00:03:59But day by day, their connection grows.
00:04:02It was really good to tell everyone about our homestays
00:04:05and even reflecting on it,
00:04:07like, after last night's dinner party.
00:04:09Do I dare say that we're one of the strongest in the group now?
00:04:15Dare to say it, babes,
00:04:16because I've been saying it.
00:04:22For Alyssa and David,
00:04:25homestays has exposed cracks in their relationship.
00:04:30I feel like David and I
00:04:32have been a strong couple throughout this experiment.
00:04:35I still believe we are,
00:04:36because we have each other's back.
00:04:38It's just hard to be careful.
00:04:39It's just...
00:04:39You know, we have been honest with each other
00:04:41about a lot of things.
00:04:42But since homestays, it's taken a turn.
00:04:45We have had deep conversations, big conversations,
00:04:48and David's maybe held back
00:04:51from saying what he really felt in that moment
00:04:53or questioning what I meant in that moment.
00:04:55And now, towards the end of the experiment,
00:04:57it's all coming out.
00:04:59How are you feeling?
00:05:01Um, I'm feeling...
00:05:05like...
00:05:06we've got a lot going on right now at the moment.
00:05:09Just, uh, we're not really understanding each other.
00:05:12Yeah.
00:05:13I feel like we have a lot to unpack
00:05:14and a lot to, you know, break down.
00:05:17And, yeah, there are some cracks.
00:05:18And, you know, the pressure of the experiment ending,
00:05:21it's definitely taken its toll on me.
00:05:27I felt in homestay...
00:05:28Yeah.
00:05:28..that I'm like, OK, he's keen to move to Adelaide.
00:05:31Wait, I haven't met his family.
00:05:32Wait, I haven't met his friends.
00:05:33Oh, wait, I don't even know he's got multiple jobs.
00:05:35Like, I don't know if he's stable.
00:05:37I want to have a family.
00:05:38Like, this is me spiralling
00:05:39because I'm like, this is too good to be true.
00:05:42Obviously, homestays is quite late,
00:05:43but it's brought up a lot of other things
00:05:45that we should have dealt with a long time ago.
00:05:47Like, have the conversations
00:05:49if you don't agree with something
00:05:51or have the conversation or ask the questions
00:05:52when you don't understand something that I've said.
00:05:54Well, all I'm going to say is...
00:05:56We should have gone there, but we haven't.
00:05:58And I haven't felt, like, challenged enough.
00:06:02You need to break through that softness
00:06:03and be strong with me
00:06:04because I want to be a team with you
00:06:06and talk things through and, um, you know, like...
00:06:10It's so frustrating to sit here
00:06:12trying to express my side of the story
00:06:15and I can hardly get a word in.
00:06:17I feel like there are holes.
00:06:18I think there was a...
00:06:19All I'll say is...
00:06:20There are cracks.
00:06:20There was a bit of, like...
00:06:23The last couple of days,
00:06:25what I've been struggling with
00:06:26is I haven't been as, like,
00:06:28willing to have those...
00:06:30Hard conversations.
00:06:31Hard conversations with you
00:06:32about how I was feeling.
00:06:33But, babe, like, if you don't talk to me
00:06:35about your reservations,
00:06:36that's not healthy, babe.
00:06:38Yeah.
00:06:39Talk to me.
00:06:40We need to voice.
00:06:42And that's what I need in this relationship.
00:06:43And that's...
00:06:44You're not fulfilling that need for me.
00:06:46And I believe that it's right
00:06:48to put it all out on the table.
00:06:50I don't ever want to have to hold back.
00:06:52I don't think it's that you hold back,
00:06:53but I think one thing about you
00:06:55is you hold on too much and then...
00:06:57Babe, I know, but...
00:06:57Babe, you...
00:07:13Babe...
00:07:13and she's wanted this for a long time.
00:07:15But it's not just like that with Alyssa.
00:07:18It's not.
00:07:18Respect is only on her terms,
00:07:20and the relationship only goes her way
00:07:23or the highway.
00:07:24So that is a big deal break for me as well.
00:07:26It is the first time where I feel like
00:07:28both of us are
00:07:30very disconnected
00:07:31a lot more than we ever have
00:07:33going into a commitment ceremony.
00:07:35But tonight, I'm just gonna be completely honest
00:07:38because I've hit my limit and I'm not going to, like, hold back.
00:07:43I'm just going to put it all on the table.
00:07:49As for Danny, his controversial views
00:07:53resulted in a tense argument with Bec at last night's dinner party.
00:07:58It makes you feel like a bit of a bitch moving in with a woman.
00:08:02What are you on about?
00:08:04He's talking about feeling emasculated
00:08:06if she was the one who owned the house.
00:08:10F*** me!
00:08:14And this morning, they're still struggling to resolve the issue.
00:08:18People can feel how they want to feel, you know what I mean?
00:08:21Whether other people agree with it or not,
00:08:23like, it's not up to them, this is how I feel.
00:08:26I feel like moving in with a woman
00:08:28just doesn't feel very manly of me, you know?
00:08:31Yeah.
00:08:33You don't understand.
00:08:34I do understand, I get what you're saying,
00:08:36but I suppose if we're talking about creating a life together
00:08:42after this experiment, then you're going to have to get over that.
00:08:48Am I right or am I right?
00:08:51The funny thing is with Bec, when she feels a kind of way,
00:08:54it's a completely valid feeling.
00:08:56That's how she feels.
00:08:58Where when I say, it makes me feel this way,
00:09:01oh, nah, but, nah, but that's not right.
00:09:03It's not actually to do with you being a woman.
00:09:05I wouldn't move in with anyone and just, like, freeload off them.
00:09:08You pay the bills, I'll pay the mortgage, you'll be done.
00:09:10Easy.
00:09:12Finito.
00:09:14Other than that, we had a great night.
00:09:16Yes, sir, yeah.
00:09:18And whilst Bec and Danny continue to disagree,
00:09:22our other couples are preparing
00:09:24for the final commitment ceremony of the experiment.
00:09:28You look great.
00:09:30You too.
00:09:31Yeah.
00:09:32Yeah.
00:09:33Very pure, you know?
00:09:35Yeah.
00:09:36Yeah.
00:09:38As our couples face the experts for the last time,
00:09:43a defining choice awaits.
00:09:47Tonight, they must decide.
00:09:50Stay in the experiment through to final vows
00:09:53or walk away from their marriages for good.
00:10:01For Scott, the pressure is mounting.
00:10:04He feels it is now or never
00:10:06to reveal his true feelings to his bride, Gia.
00:10:10Final commitment ceremony tonight.
00:10:13Crazy, isn't it?
00:10:15Yeah.
00:10:16Can you believe that we've made it this far?
00:10:20Yeah, I definitely didn't imagine it.
00:10:25I do think we had a great week.
00:10:27I don't think we're going to have too much feedback tonight.
00:10:30I think it was great.
00:10:32Like, I can't fault homestays.
00:10:34It went really well.
00:10:35Positive, good vibes, you know?
00:10:37So, hopefully not getting grilled hard tonight.
00:10:41I feel like I've been hit a bit
00:10:43throughout this experiment from the experts.
00:10:46Yeah.
00:10:47Yeah.
00:10:52What else?
00:10:55I get nervous going to the commitment ceremony
00:10:59because I still can't be 100% myself
00:11:02and I feel like I just can't have a voice sometimes
00:11:05because she thinks we're going to have an argument
00:11:07and I want her to be able to understand
00:11:08that we need to speak anecdotally,
00:11:09knowing that if I have a concern or she has a concern,
00:11:12then we can talk and it's not going to lead to a disaster.
00:11:14You've got to be able to communicate.
00:11:16So, you ready for tonight?
00:11:18I don't like commitment ceremonies, you know that.
00:11:21Yeah.
00:11:22I feel like we're at the point where, you know,
00:11:25we're almost falling in love.
00:11:26Yeah.
00:11:28Then I feel like if she feels more than me
00:11:30and she doesn't get anything back from me,
00:11:32she'll start spiralling
00:11:32and start saying harshful things to me.
00:11:36Very harshful things.
00:11:39And so then I feel like I can't talk
00:11:42and I go quiet and I go flat.
00:11:47That retracts me every time
00:11:48and that's what pushes me away from falling in love
00:11:50and I don't think she understands that.
00:11:52So you just got to look at the positives, you know?
00:11:57Personally, I love to speak up and share everything
00:11:59because it's good to get feedback.
00:12:02But there's another side of me where I feel like
00:12:04I want to protect my wife.
00:12:06I don't want to feel unstable, upset or, you know,
00:12:08get nervous or have a breakdown.
00:12:10So, you know, I think how is she going to react
00:12:12if I say these things?
00:12:13All right.
00:12:14See you in there.
00:12:17Bye.
00:12:18Sometimes I'm like, well,
00:12:19I'm just not going to talk about it.
00:12:22I'm just in the air.
00:12:23I don't know what to do.
00:12:24Bye.
00:12:25Bye.
00:12:45Hello.
00:12:46Hi.
00:12:47How are you guys?
00:12:49Very well.
00:12:50Welcome.
00:12:51Hello, guys.
00:12:52Hi.
00:12:53Hello.
00:12:53Good evening.
00:12:54Welcome.
00:12:54Hi.
00:12:58Oh.
00:13:17Hello, ladies.
00:13:18Hello.
00:13:18I'm Chris.
00:13:19Hi.
00:13:28You OK?
00:13:28Yeah.
00:13:30Welcome, everybody,
00:13:31to the very final commitment ceremony
00:13:34of this experiment.
00:13:36Now, this is a very, very pivotal night
00:13:40because it is the very last time
00:13:42that you get to sit in front of the experts
00:13:45and to hear the feedback that we have for you.
00:13:50Now, in just a short time,
00:13:51you have one of the biggest decisions
00:13:53that you're going to have to make,
00:13:54whether or not you can take this relationship
00:13:57in the experiment into the real world
00:13:59and make it a success.
00:14:02And as we know as experts,
00:14:04if you are not completely vulnerable
00:14:07with your partner at this stage of the experiment,
00:14:10then your relationship will crumble on the outside.
00:14:14It will not last.
00:14:18Now, with that being said,
00:14:21let's get our first couple up.
00:14:27Alyssa and David.
00:14:38Hello.
00:14:40Hello.
00:14:43So, how are things?
00:14:45Um, you know what?
00:14:47Last time we were on the couch,
00:14:50things were moving in the right direction.
00:14:52They still are,
00:14:53but we do have some hiccups
00:14:56that we're trying to work through at the moment.
00:14:58Okay.
00:14:59Um,
00:15:00obviously I'll start by saying,
00:15:02you know,
00:15:03Alyssa is an amazing girl,
00:15:05but personally I feel like
00:15:08I have,
00:15:09you know,
00:15:09carried a lot of the emotional weight
00:15:11in the relationship.
00:15:12This is just how I feel.
00:15:15What do you mean
00:15:16when you say carry most of the emotional weight?
00:15:19I feel like there has been times
00:15:20where I personally put my emotions aside
00:15:24just to make sure that there was just peace.
00:15:29And this is a thing where, like,
00:15:31I have tried to bring something up
00:15:33at the start of the relationship to Alyssa,
00:15:35and I felt like she was not receptive to it.
00:15:38So what that ended up doing for me
00:15:40was making me be more cautious
00:15:42of bringing stuff up to her.
00:15:48It was more the reaction of,
00:15:50is it going to become an argument
00:15:51that was going to go out of hand?
00:15:54So what happened with all of that emotion
00:15:57as you describe it?
00:15:58If you weren't expressing that to Alyssa,
00:16:01what were you doing with it?
00:16:06Well,
00:16:07anything little
00:16:08that I didn't really care about
00:16:10didn't really affect me,
00:16:10so I'd brush over it.
00:16:12But, um,
00:16:12what happened in Homestays was
00:16:14I feel like it triggered me.
00:16:16Okay.
00:16:17I was saying Adelaide is a livable place,
00:16:19but I felt like
00:16:20Alyssa was being a bit negative
00:16:23about the move.
00:16:25I feel like she was pointing out
00:16:26all of the reasons why it won't work,
00:16:28which are all valid.
00:16:29We all know that there is things
00:16:30to work out in the real world.
00:16:32But it felt like, for me,
00:16:34she was too in her head about it
00:16:36that it's affecting me right now.
00:16:42Do you know why?
00:16:43Because I'm feeling very frustrated
00:16:45at this part of the experiment.
00:16:47This is our last couch session,
00:16:49and I'm feeling like
00:16:50there has been some holdback.
00:16:52And some of our couch sessions
00:16:53could have been things
00:16:54that we could be working through
00:16:55if we had more open conversations.
00:16:58I feel like he doesn't want to have,
00:16:59like, conflict.
00:17:01But I feel like there is
00:17:02healthy conflict resolution.
00:17:04Otherwise, my relationship,
00:17:05in my eyes,
00:17:05this is too good to be true.
00:17:07Can I just stay?
00:17:10I want a partner
00:17:11who can have
00:17:12a constructive conversation
00:17:14with me about an issue.
00:17:16But a partner that shuts you down
00:17:18and tells you what they're saying
00:17:19is Bible,
00:17:21it is an issue.
00:17:22Why have I actually spoken down on you
00:17:23in a bad way?
00:17:25Like, I don't...
00:17:25Well, there's things you've said.
00:17:27I don't want to,
00:17:28I don't want to, like...
00:17:29Well, an example could be helpful
00:17:31for Alyssa here.
00:17:32Well, she has...
00:17:33You did mention
00:17:35that I was a weak man
00:17:35at one point.
00:17:37She called you a weak man?
00:17:39Yeah.
00:17:42So that's a problem.
00:17:58Well, she has...
00:17:59You did mention
00:18:00that I was a weak man
00:18:02at one point.
00:18:02She called you a weak man?
00:18:05Yeah.
00:18:08So that's a problem.
00:18:14What was the context around that?
00:18:17It was in one of our talks
00:18:19about, like,
00:18:20she's got assets,
00:18:21she's ahead in life,
00:18:23and she wants a guy
00:18:24that can match that.
00:18:25So financially weak.
00:18:26Yeah.
00:18:27How did it feel
00:18:28when she said that?
00:18:29Well, I just thought,
00:18:30where's this coming from?
00:18:31And the thing about me
00:18:32is, like,
00:18:33I pick what I want to, like,
00:18:35get upset about,
00:18:36and I didn't.
00:18:37Maybe I should have
00:18:38combated that at the time.
00:18:44Alyssa, what was going on for you?
00:18:45What did you want to achieve
00:18:46from saying that to him?
00:18:49I was getting frustrated
00:18:50because I'm wanting
00:18:51more from David.
00:18:52I'm wanting to see
00:18:53more from him.
00:18:54And I feel like
00:18:55I want to be strong
00:18:57together as a couple.
00:18:58I think where I'm struggling
00:18:59is it's...
00:19:00She wants me to be strong
00:19:02on her timeline.
00:19:03And that's where
00:19:04it feels like
00:19:05it is your way
00:19:07or you're not happy.
00:19:10David,
00:19:10do you feel like
00:19:11you're enough for Alyssa?
00:19:12I feel like I'm 100% enough.
00:19:17Do you think
00:19:17she thinks you're enough?
00:19:19I think she does,
00:19:20but the questions
00:19:21that I'm getting
00:19:22are, like,
00:19:23they are confusing me.
00:19:24So what are these questions
00:19:25that are confusing you?
00:19:27Well,
00:19:28the first thing
00:19:29is she's wondering,
00:19:30like, you know,
00:19:30energy,
00:19:31like, in five years
00:19:32or whatever,
00:19:33is that going to be enough
00:19:33to sustain her?
00:19:34And she has said to me,
00:19:35if I'm not getting
00:19:37the fix I need,
00:19:39I'll go look elsewhere.
00:19:40No, I didn't say that.
00:19:42She said,
00:19:43I'm hungry.
00:19:44You need to feed me.
00:19:44You need to feed me.
00:19:45I've taught you more
00:19:46in this relationship
00:19:47than you've taught me.
00:19:47I'm wanting to, like,
00:19:49open-ended conversations
00:19:50and stuff.
00:19:50I'm wanting to go deep.
00:19:52Like, I'm putting
00:19:53all my cards on the table.
00:19:53I'm very direct.
00:19:55Like, I'll talk about stuff.
00:19:57I need some sort of fuel.
00:19:58Like, it's just,
00:19:59it's what I like.
00:20:00But I don't know
00:20:01if our relationship
00:20:03is going to last
00:20:05in the real world
00:20:05if this is the gap.
00:20:09I don't know
00:20:10if we're going to be
00:20:11a good match long-term
00:20:12if this is the energy
00:20:13because I need to see
00:20:14David in his element.
00:20:16I need to see
00:20:16David with his family.
00:20:17I need to see
00:20:18David with his friends.
00:20:18I need to see what he does.
00:20:20Like, I want to have
00:20:20a family in the next few years.
00:20:28And, like,
00:20:29if we want to talk
00:20:30about me seeing things
00:20:31work in the real world,
00:20:32what I need to see as well
00:20:33is if someone says
00:20:34they want to have
00:20:35open-ended conversations,
00:20:36that has to be it.
00:20:37What's happened
00:20:38in this relationship
00:20:38is I've done a lot
00:20:39of listening.
00:20:40Alyssa has done
00:20:40a lot of talking.
00:20:43That's the fact.
00:20:44You need to speak up.
00:20:45No, no, no.
00:20:46But, like,
00:20:46it's, I don't,
00:20:47one thing about me
00:20:48is I think
00:20:49we're both adults
00:20:50and I want to see
00:20:51that in her,
00:20:52that she has the ability
00:20:53to listen.
00:20:54I can't mind read.
00:20:55It's not mind reading.
00:20:55It's not mind reading.
00:20:56Oh, my gosh.
00:20:56I can't.
00:20:56I cannot.
00:20:57I know.
00:20:58I can't mind read, babe.
00:20:59You're frustrating me
00:21:00because I can't read your mind.
00:21:01When something,
00:21:02when she,
00:21:02when I start saying something
00:21:04that she's not getting,
00:21:05I'm frustrated.
00:21:05I don't want to deal
00:21:06with this anymore.
00:21:07No, I'm not dealing with it.
00:21:08I'm just saying.
00:21:08You're now talking in circles.
00:21:10So I'm going to,
00:21:11I'm going to pull you up there.
00:21:12I mean,
00:21:13this has been very
00:21:15enlightening,
00:21:16I think,
00:21:16for us to get a glimpse inside
00:21:18what's really going on
00:21:20in the relationship.
00:21:22So an observation
00:21:23from,
00:21:23from us here
00:21:25is that
00:21:26you've both
00:21:28made missteps,
00:21:29I think,
00:21:30in terms of your communication
00:21:31and what you've brought
00:21:32to the couch here
00:21:33because,
00:21:35Alyssa,
00:21:35you were aware
00:21:36that he was withholding.
00:21:37You knew he was not
00:21:38being up front with you.
00:21:39So you could have
00:21:40brought that up.
00:21:41And so, David,
00:21:42for you,
00:21:43you were choosing
00:21:44not to speak up.
00:21:47You haven't arrived
00:21:48at an outcome.
00:21:49No.
00:21:50But you've helped us see
00:21:51what's going on inside.
00:21:53So thank you for that
00:21:54to this point.
00:21:56So now let's look forward
00:21:58because,
00:21:59as you know,
00:21:59this is the last
00:22:00commitment ceremony.
00:22:01This is
00:22:01almost the end
00:22:03of the experiment
00:22:04for you two.
00:22:05Where to from here?
00:22:14Well,
00:22:15I'm sitting here
00:22:15because I want that help.
00:22:18I guess what we need
00:22:19to do is look
00:22:20beneath
00:22:20the arguments here
00:22:22because
00:22:23there's a reason
00:22:24that you have
00:22:26been avoiding
00:22:27bringing these issues up.
00:22:28Yeah.
00:22:29Here's an opportunity
00:22:30to now say,
00:22:31OK,
00:22:31we're going to come
00:22:32at this as equals.
00:22:33Not one putting
00:22:34the other down,
00:22:35not one avoiding
00:22:36and running away.
00:22:36We are coming here
00:22:37together
00:22:38to have this
00:22:39open,
00:22:40honest,
00:22:41mature conversation
00:22:42about what you both want
00:22:43post-experiment
00:22:44because otherwise
00:22:46the last couple of months
00:22:48has been a waste of time.
00:22:50You've got that opportunity
00:22:51now.
00:22:52It's not too late.
00:22:55Can you do that?
00:22:57Yeah.
00:22:58Alyssa?
00:23:00Yeah.
00:23:03Are you OK?
00:23:06I do believe that
00:23:10the things we have
00:23:11gone through
00:23:12are significant
00:23:13and I believe that
00:23:14there are genuine
00:23:15feelings here.
00:23:16I do feel
00:23:17strong feelings
00:23:18towards Alyssa.
00:23:18That's why I'm still here.
00:23:20OK.
00:23:22All right.
00:23:22Well, on that note,
00:23:23we're going to go
00:23:23to a decision.
00:23:25Alyssa,
00:23:25we'll start with you.
00:23:27I didn't come here
00:23:29for three months
00:23:30to waste it
00:23:30and, like,
00:23:32I came here
00:23:32to find my person.
00:23:35I want to settle down.
00:23:36I want to have a family.
00:23:37I want the happy ending
00:23:38and that is why
00:23:41I want to move forward
00:23:42as a teen
00:23:45and no holding back
00:23:47and because
00:23:48there's so many feelings
00:23:49involved
00:23:50and, like,
00:23:51I really care about
00:23:51this relationship
00:23:52so much,
00:23:52I have decided
00:23:54to stay.
00:23:55OK.
00:23:57And to you, David.
00:24:00Yeah.
00:24:07I'll take your advice
00:24:08on board
00:24:08and, yeah,
00:24:09I'll roll to stand.
00:24:14Pleased to see that.
00:24:17This could be
00:24:18make or break
00:24:18for you guys.
00:24:20You're about to make
00:24:21the decision
00:24:22of this experiment,
00:24:24the thing that is
00:24:25going to determine
00:24:25which way you go
00:24:27in your future.
00:24:29Good luck, guys.
00:24:38Good luck, guys.
00:24:39Good luck.
00:24:40You're good.
00:24:41You're good.
00:24:43Good luck, guys.
00:24:45Good luck.
00:24:56Good luck.
00:24:56Coming up...
00:24:57You do not have to tell me
00:24:58you love me,
00:24:59but I'm not going to
00:25:00walk down to final vows
00:25:02with someone that
00:25:03I may be.
00:25:04Bec hits her limit.
00:25:06I'm not doing it.
00:25:09And...
00:25:09I...
00:25:10Take a breath.
00:25:11A minute.
00:25:13Breathe.
00:25:14Will Scott speak up?
00:25:18When I care about
00:25:19someone so much,
00:25:20I feel like I can't
00:25:21speak my voice
00:25:22when I'm over-concerned.
00:25:23And it's a weakness of mine.
00:25:35All right,
00:25:36let's have our next couple up.
00:25:40Rachel and Stephen.
00:25:42Hey.
00:25:46Hello.
00:25:47Hello.
00:25:48Hello.
00:25:49How are you?
00:25:50Hi, Anna.
00:25:51I love this energy.
00:25:53Can I just say,
00:25:53Steve,
00:25:54are you got a bit of a swagger?
00:25:55Oh, he sure does.
00:25:57Oh, don't flatter me, John.
00:26:00Especially coming from you.
00:26:05Where do you two
00:26:05want to begin?
00:26:07Homestays, I guess.
00:26:08I mean,
00:26:08it seems like it's had
00:26:09a big impact on the two of you.
00:26:10Yeah.
00:26:13Homestays was
00:26:14a big success for me
00:26:16and I believe Rachel as well.
00:26:18It's sort of changed
00:26:20the relationship
00:26:21in many ways.
00:26:22Oh, in what way?
00:26:24For me,
00:26:25Rachel was fantastic.
00:26:26She,
00:26:27I showed her my passions
00:26:28and she went out on the boat
00:26:30and she enjoyed herself,
00:26:31a smile ear to ear
00:26:32and we had lots of banter,
00:26:34laughing.
00:26:34It was a really
00:26:36super sweet time.
00:26:37But it's not that
00:26:38she's in the fishing.
00:26:39It's the independence.
00:26:41I can go,
00:26:42I feel like I can rely on Rachel.
00:26:44If something happens
00:26:45in the world
00:26:45where I'm like,
00:26:46jeez, can you,
00:26:46you know,
00:26:47help me out with this?
00:26:48Rachel's going to go,
00:26:48got your back.
00:26:49Yeah.
00:26:50And she's just going
00:26:50to get it done.
00:26:51So as a result of that,
00:26:53how do you feel about her?
00:26:56Well,
00:26:58I feel like I can see myself
00:27:00falling in love with Rachel.
00:27:02Woohoo!
00:27:04That's massive.
00:27:06Hmm.
00:27:08Rachel, uh,
00:27:12yeah.
00:27:12These are tears of happiness,
00:27:13I swear.
00:27:14Let's just take a moment,
00:27:15shall we?
00:27:15Just a little bit
00:27:16overwhelmed.
00:27:17In a good way.
00:27:21So I feel the same.
00:27:23You know,
00:27:23I can definitely see myself
00:27:24falling in love with you too.
00:27:27There's something going on
00:27:28for you right now,
00:27:29Rachel.
00:27:30What is it?
00:27:30This is a very significant
00:27:32moment for you.
00:27:33Yeah.
00:27:34Um,
00:27:35I think I shared with you,
00:27:36John,
00:27:36before I came in here
00:27:37the last time,
00:27:39someone told me
00:27:40that they loved me
00:27:41the very next day
00:27:42they told me
00:27:43that I don't remember
00:27:44saying it.
00:27:47Um,
00:27:48that was after
00:27:48seven years
00:27:49of a,
00:27:51a toxic situation.
00:27:53And so,
00:27:55um,
00:27:56it's,
00:27:56it's a hard thing.
00:27:57My barriers go up.
00:28:01And so,
00:28:03having this journey
00:28:04with Stephen
00:28:05and knowing,
00:28:06you know,
00:28:07how he feels
00:28:08about vulnerability
00:28:08and when he says
00:28:10something,
00:28:10he means it.
00:28:11So,
00:28:11for him to be
00:28:13sitting here
00:28:13and saying that
00:28:14to me,
00:28:15it,
00:28:16yeah,
00:28:17bam,
00:28:17right in the fields
00:28:18in a really beautiful way
00:28:19because I'm like,
00:28:20yeah,
00:28:21I believe him.
00:28:25And I don't think
00:28:26that I thought
00:28:27that I would believe
00:28:29a man again
00:28:30in that one.
00:28:32You're welcome.
00:28:34And you know what?
00:28:35He said that
00:28:36holding your hand,
00:28:37sitting next to you,
00:28:38and showing you
00:28:41his family.
00:28:42Yeah.
00:28:42All the things
00:28:43that signal
00:28:45he's not going anywhere.
00:28:47Yeah.
00:28:49It's different.
00:28:50It is very different.
00:28:52Is it scary?
00:28:53It's petrifying.
00:28:58What are you scared of
00:28:59the most?
00:29:01I'm scared that Stephen
00:29:03will go back
00:29:03to his life in Sydney
00:29:06and it's just
00:29:07going to be easier
00:29:08for him to let me go
00:29:10because he is
00:29:11high and poor
00:29:12and he has his business.
00:29:14And so,
00:29:15it might be a burden
00:29:18to try and maintain
00:29:19our relationship
00:29:20with me.
00:29:21So,
00:29:22he might just
00:29:22let me go.
00:29:25so,
00:29:25so,
00:29:26yeah,
00:29:28that's,
00:29:28that's my fear.
00:29:31I feel hurt.
00:29:33Well,
00:29:33how does that land
00:29:34for you,
00:29:35Stephen,
00:29:35when you hear her say that?
00:29:37Um,
00:29:37yeah,
00:29:38it makes me feel helpless
00:29:39at times
00:29:39and I just don't know
00:29:41what to say
00:29:41because I,
00:29:42when I see Rachel
00:29:43in these states,
00:29:44the first thing
00:29:45I want to do
00:29:46is try and comfort her
00:29:47and try to fix
00:29:48the situation
00:29:48or reassure her,
00:29:50at least,
00:29:50at least take the edge
00:29:52off a bit.
00:29:53So,
00:29:54if you don't have
00:29:54to fix it
00:29:55and you just sit
00:29:55with it
00:29:56and validate it,
00:29:57can you do that?
00:29:58I can do that.
00:29:59I can't say
00:30:00I'm happy with that
00:30:01but,
00:30:02I mean,
00:30:02it's,
00:30:03it is what it is.
00:30:03Makes you feel
00:30:04a bit uncomfortable?
00:30:05It does.
00:30:05Yeah,
00:30:06good.
00:30:06It does.
00:30:07Good.
00:30:07It does.
00:30:08And the only thing
00:30:09I can say to her
00:30:09is,
00:30:10is that the only thing
00:30:11that I feel like
00:30:11that's going to fix this
00:30:12is actually go out there
00:30:13in the real world
00:30:14and put it into practice
00:30:15and prove it wrong
00:30:17pretty much.
00:30:18Well,
00:30:19haven't you changed?
00:30:21You know,
00:30:21all the both of you
00:30:22sitting in front of us today.
00:30:24This was all,
00:30:25all done at Homestays.
00:30:26It was amazing
00:30:27what Homestays did for us.
00:30:29We love it.
00:30:30We love it.
00:30:31All right.
00:30:32Let's go to the decision.
00:30:33Start with you first,
00:30:35Steve-O.
00:30:36There was a big question,
00:30:37Mark,
00:30:37with me
00:30:38before Homestays.
00:30:39I'm like,
00:30:39this could make or break us.
00:30:41But,
00:30:42it's just only brought
00:30:43me closer to Rachel.
00:30:45So I'm going to,
00:30:47yeah,
00:30:48stay.
00:30:48Beautiful.
00:30:49Brilliant.
00:30:50And what about you,
00:30:52Rachel?
00:30:52What have you got?
00:30:53Stay or leave?
00:30:54I know this is going
00:30:54to shock everyone,
00:30:57but I wrote stay
00:30:58and that's us
00:30:59on a boat fishing.
00:31:02Beautiful.
00:31:04We have loved watching you
00:31:07through this experiment.
00:31:08You've had some difficult moments
00:31:10along the way,
00:31:11but you've grown,
00:31:13you know,
00:31:13and the way in which
00:31:15you're together now,
00:31:16really,
00:31:17it's on display.
00:31:19Everyone sees it.
00:31:20You're a unified couple.
00:31:22It's fantastic.
00:31:23What I would say to you
00:31:24in this final week
00:31:26is don't get inside
00:31:27your head too much.
00:31:29You need to be
00:31:31enjoying
00:31:32this final week
00:31:34rather than
00:31:35thinking too far ahead
00:31:37because that's something
00:31:38that I think in the past
00:31:40you've been a bit
00:31:41guilty of doing
00:31:42and on that
00:31:43you can go back
00:31:44to your group.
00:31:45Come on.
00:31:47Yes.
00:31:48Good start.
00:31:52Woo-hoo!
00:32:00You made me cry.
00:32:02Oh, you're welcome.
00:32:03Yeah.
00:32:16Let's get our next couple
00:32:18up on the couch.
00:32:21Beck and Danny.
00:32:22Woo!
00:32:25Hey, guys.
00:32:26Hello.
00:32:27How are you?
00:32:28Good, very well.
00:32:31Homestays.
00:32:32Let's start with you, Beck.
00:32:34What were they like?
00:32:35They were great.
00:32:37I was in my own estate.
00:32:39I was in my own home
00:32:40with my dog.
00:32:42We saw my family
00:32:43at my auntie's beach house
00:32:45and that was great.
00:32:47Dad and Daniel
00:32:48get along really well,
00:32:49which is great.
00:32:51So, good start.
00:32:52Great start.
00:32:56What else happened
00:32:57at the homestay?
00:32:59We met Beck's friends.
00:33:01That went pretty good,
00:33:02didn't it?
00:33:02Like, just, like,
00:33:03the tough questions.
00:33:04And then,
00:33:05that night,
00:33:06we went back to Beck's
00:33:08and we were sitting around,
00:33:09like, having a fire.
00:33:12and then I cracked a joke
00:33:15like about her cousin
00:33:17fancying me.
00:33:19And it landed poorly.
00:33:24What did he say with the joke?
00:33:26Can you just tell us?
00:33:28We were having a bit
00:33:29of an emotional moment
00:33:30with one another
00:33:30talking about our feelings
00:33:31and how it's been
00:33:33on homestays
00:33:34and Daniel said,
00:33:35if all else fails,
00:33:36at least Daniel fancies me
00:33:37type thing.
00:33:42And I lost it.
00:33:46And why?
00:33:48Because
00:33:48it makes me feel like
00:33:51when we're having
00:33:52this conversation
00:33:52that means so much to me
00:33:54that it diminishes it
00:33:56and it makes it a joke.
00:33:59I get it.
00:34:00I shouldn't have said it.
00:34:01But I feel like
00:34:02our fight styles
00:34:03don't really match too well.
00:34:06What scared me was
00:34:08we couldn't rectify it
00:34:09too quickly.
00:34:11And where I'm sort of
00:34:12holding back a little bit
00:34:13is I don't,
00:34:16I wouldn't want to move
00:34:17and then we have
00:34:18an argument like that
00:34:19and I feel really isolated
00:34:20and alone.
00:34:21I don't want to do that.
00:34:22So,
00:34:23arguing is something
00:34:24that scares you
00:34:25when it comes to Beg.
00:34:26Why?
00:34:27I think for both of us
00:34:29it just doesn't work.
00:34:34Wow.
00:34:34Okay.
00:34:35What am I saying wrong?
00:34:37Just to use the words
00:34:39for both of us
00:34:39it doesn't work.
00:34:44I'm not saying
00:34:45we don't work.
00:34:46I'm saying
00:34:46our fight style doesn't work.
00:34:48Oh yeah, that,
00:34:48no, okay.
00:34:50So this is what happens
00:34:52sometimes.
00:34:52I try and say something
00:34:53and Beg takes it
00:34:54in completely
00:34:55the wrong way.
00:34:57Beg, what's going on
00:34:59inside of you right now?
00:35:01Um, I suppose I'm fearful
00:35:02because I've let
00:35:04every wall down.
00:35:06So what happens to you
00:35:07when he says that?
00:35:08Just
00:35:10kills my soul
00:35:11a little bit
00:35:11to be honest with you.
00:35:16because I'm like,
00:35:17well,
00:35:19why haven't you
00:35:20said this to me?
00:35:22Because,
00:35:22because what?
00:35:23Because I've been fearful
00:35:23to say it
00:35:24because I don't want
00:35:25to upset you.
00:35:28No, no, no.
00:35:29Do not blame me.
00:35:30I'm not blaming you.
00:35:31Don't say
00:35:31you're fearful
00:35:32to tell me
00:35:33because you're going
00:35:33to upset me.
00:35:35I'm here
00:35:36in love with you.
00:35:38We're at the end
00:35:38of this experiment.
00:35:42You're making it seem
00:35:43like I've been
00:35:44holding on to this
00:35:44for six months.
00:35:45Honestly,
00:35:46I noticed it in Adelaide
00:35:47when I felt isolated.
00:35:48Up until then,
00:35:49I haven't noticed it.
00:35:53Beg,
00:35:54I look at your face.
00:35:56You seem very concerned.
00:36:02I think he's got
00:36:03more reservations
00:36:04than he lets on.
00:36:05Oh, really?
00:36:06I do, yeah.
00:36:07I do.
00:36:08I do.
00:36:09I do.
00:36:15Danny, Danny,
00:36:16look at me.
00:36:18There really is no time
00:36:19for you to make light
00:36:20of the situation
00:36:22because when you
00:36:23add things up, Danny,
00:36:25it's not making
00:36:26her feel secure.
00:36:27You know,
00:36:28you haven't said
00:36:28your feelings back
00:36:29to her.
00:36:30You've gone to the family
00:36:31and they've validated you
00:36:33and then you're not
00:36:35bringing up issues
00:36:35because you're afraid
00:36:36of the fight style.
00:36:38It starts to add up
00:36:40and it makes her feel
00:36:43what, Beg?
00:36:47Like he's just not
00:36:48that into me.
00:36:54So that's a problem
00:36:57because this far
00:36:58into the experiment,
00:36:59you don't want
00:36:59your partner
00:37:01to be thinking,
00:37:03he's just not
00:37:04that into me.
00:37:07Yeah, but I am.
00:37:09I've told you that.
00:37:10I am.
00:37:11You know I am.
00:37:14So why is she not
00:37:15believing it?
00:37:17I don't know.
00:37:18I can't speak for Beg.
00:37:22I'm asking
00:37:24for you
00:37:25to sit there
00:37:26and say to me,
00:37:28Beg, this is how
00:37:29I feel about you
00:37:29just once.
00:37:33You know how I feel
00:37:34about you.
00:37:35You know I care
00:37:36about you so much.
00:37:37I do know you care
00:37:38about me but
00:37:39where is the passion?
00:37:42I see tiny glimpses
00:37:43of it
00:37:44but
00:37:46I feel like
00:37:47you are holding back.
00:37:49You said to me once
00:37:50at the beginning
00:37:51of this experiment
00:37:51and I'll never forget it
00:37:52and it's probably ruined me.
00:37:56Daniel's like,
00:37:57well,
00:37:58when you are obsessed
00:37:59with each other
00:37:59you're all over each other
00:38:00and I don't have that.
00:38:02I just don't get it
00:38:03from him at all.
00:38:05He doesn't want to
00:38:06hold my hand
00:38:06walking down the street.
00:38:07That's not your style,
00:38:08no worries.
00:38:09Whenever we have a kiss
00:38:10I'm the one going to kiss you.
00:38:12You never, ever,
00:38:12ever go to kiss me.
00:38:14You don't compliment me.
00:38:15Hardly ever.
00:38:18So for me
00:38:19it's like,
00:38:19well,
00:38:20I'm this fool
00:38:20that's allowed my heart
00:38:21to get to this point
00:38:23and he's not there
00:38:24and he's not going to feel that way.
00:38:28I don't think
00:38:29that's a fair assumption.
00:38:38The thing that's important here, Danny,
00:38:40is that she's just told you
00:38:41in a very clear-cut way
00:38:43why she doesn't feel
00:38:46like you're interested.
00:38:52Your reaction is,
00:38:53well, that's not fair.
00:38:54No, but like...
00:38:55Yes,
00:38:56that's exactly what we just heard.
00:39:01Even all of the husbands
00:39:02walk past us
00:39:03sitting at the commitment ceremony
00:39:04and they all acknowledge their wives
00:39:06and you never do.
00:39:07You ignore me.
00:39:11And I don't know
00:39:12how I've gotten to this point
00:39:14of these feelings
00:39:15with that.
00:39:19I'm so worried.
00:39:24I'm actually so worried.
00:39:30I just don't feel
00:39:31like you have any desire
00:39:33and I just...
00:39:34Yeah, I'm just nervous.
00:39:37The reality is
00:39:39is that
00:39:39how can you move to Adelaide
00:39:41and how can
00:39:42we live this life together
00:39:44if this is how it's going to be?
00:39:47I can't be the one
00:39:48going to kiss you
00:39:51just so that there's
00:39:52a level of affection.
00:39:53I can't.
00:39:56I'm not doing it.
00:39:57I've done it.
00:39:57I did it.
00:39:58I nearly married it.
00:40:00I'm not doing it.
00:40:02I'm not.
00:40:04I'm not doing it.
00:40:05You're either into me,
00:40:06you have had enough time
00:40:08to know
00:40:08if I am the type of person
00:40:10you would want to be with,
00:40:11you do not have to tell me
00:40:12you love me,
00:40:13but I'm not going to
00:40:14walk down to final vows
00:40:16with someone that's
00:40:17a maybe about me.
00:40:19I'm not doing it.
00:40:20I'd rather be heartbroken now
00:40:21than heartbroken
00:40:22in six months' time.
00:40:37You have had enough time
00:40:38to know
00:40:39if I am the type of person
00:40:41you would want to be with.
00:40:42You do not have to tell me
00:40:43you love me,
00:40:43but I'm not going to
00:40:45walk down to final vows
00:40:46with someone that's
00:40:47a maybe about me.
00:40:49I'm not doing it.
00:40:50I'd rather be heartbroken now
00:40:51than heartbroken
00:40:52in six months' time.
00:41:15How does that land
00:41:16for you, Danny?
00:41:22Well, obviously it hurts
00:41:23to see Bec like that.
00:41:25What is she saying to you
00:41:28that you've done
00:41:29to get her to this point?
00:41:32Well, just not
00:41:34be passionate
00:41:35and not be the man
00:41:37she needs me to be.
00:41:40I've had my guard up,
00:41:42essentially.
00:41:42That's what...
00:41:44Yeah.
00:41:52When she lays this out
00:41:54on the table,
00:41:55no compliments,
00:41:57very few,
00:41:59lack of intimacy,
00:42:01not making her a priority,
00:42:02not saying how you feel
00:42:04about her,
00:42:06what do you think
00:42:08that does to her?
00:42:11Yeah, it would destroy her.
00:42:14What do you think
00:42:15it does to the relationship?
00:42:17Destroys the relationship
00:42:18as well.
00:42:21Why?
00:42:22Because you can't have...
00:42:24You can't build a relationship
00:42:25on, like, sand foundations.
00:42:28Do you know what you mean?
00:42:28So help us understand
00:42:30why you're not doing
00:42:32these things
00:42:33to bring her close.
00:42:39Just...
00:42:40Obviously, we've talked
00:42:41about the five-star.
00:42:42That's the bit
00:42:43where I've been holding back.
00:42:47But I guess
00:42:48after my last relationship,
00:42:49I haven't felt
00:42:50this strongly towards a woman
00:42:51or been this close
00:42:52with a woman in years.
00:42:56But, of course,
00:42:57I still have a bit
00:42:58of a guard up
00:42:58because last time,
00:43:00when it didn't work out,
00:43:02it destroyed my life.
00:43:04How nice would it be
00:43:06to have heard that?
00:43:07Well, you just did.
00:43:08I know,
00:43:09but why do I have to
00:43:10go to this length
00:43:10to hear that?
00:43:11Because I'm not no good
00:43:12at this shit.
00:43:14Well, I've been begging you
00:43:16for this level of openness
00:43:17for nearly three months.
00:43:20And so hearing that
00:43:22makes me feel like
00:43:25there's hope, you know?
00:43:31Why does that make you
00:43:32feel hopeful?
00:43:33Because if he hasn't
00:43:34felt like this in years,
00:43:35then that means that
00:43:40it's real
00:43:42and you might be into me,
00:43:45but you need to
00:43:46open yourself to me.
00:43:48Yeah, I guess, like,
00:43:49this has been a problem
00:43:50in the past,
00:43:50that I am just a shit boyfriend,
00:43:53to be honest.
00:43:54Well, I am.
00:43:55I am that good,
00:43:56to be honest.
00:43:57But that is a very easy
00:43:59way of getting out of it.
00:44:01Don't hold me accountable.
00:44:02I'm just a shit boyfriend.
00:44:04No, I'm not saying it
00:44:04like that.
00:44:05But you are.
00:44:07And that's what
00:44:07she's hearing.
00:44:11What she wants right now
00:44:12from you, Danny,
00:44:13is for you to step
00:44:15into this and go,
00:44:16you know what?
00:44:16Yeah, I've dropped the ball.
00:44:19And I've sent you
00:44:20the wrong signals.
00:44:22And I'm accountable.
00:44:23And I'm going to do different.
00:44:25But I'm not getting
00:44:26that from you.
00:44:28No, I, Beck,
00:44:29I want to say I am.
00:44:30And I'm sorry if, like,
00:44:32it's for making you feel
00:44:33like that, genuine,
00:44:34from the bottom of my heart.
00:44:35You know I'd never
00:44:35want to upset you.
00:44:36You mean the world to me.
00:44:40And I'm sorry
00:44:42if I've dropped the ball.
00:44:43It was never my intention.
00:44:48I like hearing it,
00:44:50but I need to see it.
00:44:51Yeah, and I'll try...
00:44:52I can't keep on hearing it.
00:44:54And then nothing changes.
00:44:56Well, let me show you then.
00:44:59OK.
00:45:03Let me show you.
00:45:08Now, with that,
00:45:09we're going to go to the decision.
00:45:13Beck, what have you got for us,
00:45:14stay or leave?
00:45:16Well, you have my heart.
00:45:19And, like, you are
00:45:21the most special person.
00:45:22I've never met anyone like you.
00:45:24Right?
00:45:25And I feel really, really lucky
00:45:26that we were matched
00:45:28and we get to go
00:45:28on this journey together.
00:45:33But I need you
00:45:36to give me
00:45:39half of what I'm giving you,
00:45:40at least.
00:45:48We have overcome
00:45:50so many hurdles together
00:45:51and we've made it this far.
00:45:54So...
00:45:57I said
00:45:59stay.
00:46:00And then I said
00:46:00proud of us.
00:46:03Love it.
00:46:04Love it.
00:46:05And, Danny?
00:46:06Yeah, obviously,
00:46:07I want to apologise again.
00:46:09I'm so sorry.
00:46:10You know,
00:46:10you mean the world to me
00:46:11and this week
00:46:13I'll try and prove that to you.
00:46:16I'm here for love
00:46:17and I think
00:46:18I can find out with you
00:46:19so that's why I wrote stay.
00:46:21Good.
00:46:22Good.
00:46:23Good.
00:46:23Good.
00:46:24Good.
00:46:25Good.
00:46:32Danny,
00:46:32from where we're sitting,
00:46:34this week is on you.
00:46:36You have to do
00:46:37the heavy lifting.
00:46:38You've got a partner here
00:46:40with you
00:46:41who's put her heart
00:46:43out there
00:46:44and said,
00:46:44I'm in love.
00:46:45I want this.
00:46:46You need to step up.
00:46:50And if you are
00:46:52feeling
00:46:53these strong emotions
00:46:55for her
00:46:55then you've got to
00:46:56start showing it.
00:46:58Yeah.
00:47:01With that
00:47:02you can go back
00:47:03to the group.
00:47:04Thanks, guys.
00:47:05Well done, guys.
00:47:08Thanks for all your support.
00:47:10Thanks.
00:47:10Good work, you two.
00:47:15Battered.
00:47:21Communicate with me.
00:47:23My wife hates me
00:47:24and so do
00:47:25one of the experts
00:47:25as well.
00:47:27I don't hate you, boo.
00:47:29I just can't keep
00:47:30on asking
00:47:31to the minimum.
00:47:32It's either there
00:47:33or it's not.
00:47:34And if it's not,
00:47:35you've got to walk away
00:47:36now.
00:47:38Right.
00:47:38Okay?
00:47:39I hate you.
00:47:40Okay.
00:47:43Still to come...
00:47:45I haven't been able
00:47:46to address her concern
00:47:47without Gia and I
00:47:48having an argument
00:47:49or her spiralling.
00:47:50What kind of things
00:47:51could she say?
00:47:52In a moment
00:47:53that demands honesty...
00:47:56Things that can
00:47:57make someone
00:47:58feel pretty defeated
00:47:59and let down.
00:48:00Such as?
00:48:02Scott hesitates.
00:48:05If you can't speak
00:48:07honestly in front of Gia,
00:48:08then I'm really concerned
00:48:10about the possibility
00:48:11of this relationship
00:48:12surviving outside
00:48:14the experiment.
00:48:23next on the couch
00:48:28Chris and Sam.
00:48:33Hello.
00:48:34Hello.
00:48:36Hi.
00:48:41Body language
00:48:42says a lot.
00:48:44Yeah, it's been tough.
00:48:45Yeah.
00:48:51What happened
00:48:52last time we sat here,
00:48:54I wrote leave
00:48:55in the moment
00:48:56and then I
00:48:57kind of regretted it.
00:48:59We decided
00:49:00to go to homestays
00:49:01and I thought,
00:49:02okay, I'm really going
00:49:02to try and turn this around
00:49:03and I bought him
00:49:04some flowers
00:49:05and I got him a card
00:49:05and made him...
00:49:06Went to the shop
00:49:07and got groceries
00:49:07and made dinner
00:49:09and then we had a day
00:49:10with my cattle.
00:49:11You know,
00:49:11we were outside
00:49:12and I thought
00:49:13that was really fun
00:49:15and then we had
00:49:16a bonfire.
00:49:20Sam pulled out
00:49:21a journal
00:49:21with some questions
00:49:23in it.
00:49:23Hand on heart,
00:49:24I was answering them
00:49:25the best that I could
00:49:27and then Sam
00:49:28decided to leave
00:49:29the farm
00:49:31and I thought,
00:49:33look,
00:49:33I've really tried
00:49:33to turn this around.
00:49:34I really took on
00:49:35all of your guys' feedback
00:49:36and, yeah,
00:49:38I just feel like
00:49:39I've shut down now.
00:49:42Yeah.
00:49:43I just felt like
00:49:44he was saving face.
00:49:47Especially, like,
00:49:47the flowers
00:49:48and dinner thing.
00:49:50It felt very like,
00:49:51I need to do these things
00:49:52to show that
00:49:52I've put in effort.
00:49:54For me,
00:49:55it was genuine.
00:49:55I was trying to be
00:49:56as genuine as I could
00:49:57and I thought
00:49:57that was a way
00:49:59to try and make you
00:49:59feel welcome at the farm.
00:50:00I feel like
00:50:01your effort was, like,
00:50:02to push forward
00:50:03and there was effort
00:50:04for you to grow.
00:50:05It was never like,
00:50:06I need to grow for us
00:50:07and I want to grow
00:50:08to be a better partner
00:50:09for you.
00:50:16Where did the relationship
00:50:17go wrong
00:50:18for you both?
00:50:24I feel like Chris
00:50:25never really
00:50:25fully forgave me
00:50:27for calling him out
00:50:28on, like, behaviours.
00:50:31From then on,
00:50:33especially after
00:50:33you guys gave him feedback,
00:50:35it was like,
00:50:35it was like a no return
00:50:36point from then.
00:50:40Where did it go wrong
00:50:41for you?
00:50:43I feel like,
00:50:45like, after the retreat,
00:50:46that chemistry,
00:50:47it was lacking for me.
00:50:49We were intimate
00:50:50a second time
00:50:50and I just felt like
00:50:51that wasn't there for me.
00:50:55Was it the quality
00:50:56of the interaction?
00:50:57Was it him as a person?
00:51:00What was it
00:51:01that felt off
00:51:01for you?
00:51:03If I'm being honest,
00:51:04it was just the quality
00:51:05of the interaction.
00:51:05I just, I don't know,
00:51:06it just wasn't there
00:51:07for me.
00:51:15Is that something
00:51:16that you spoke
00:51:16to Sam about?
00:51:18No, I didn't want
00:51:18to hurt his feelings.
00:51:24How are you feeling
00:51:25about that, Sam,
00:51:25to hear this?
00:51:27Oh, yeah.
00:51:28Like, I guess,
00:51:29I'm surprised.
00:51:31And, like,
00:51:32I guess what really sucks
00:51:33is that I was out
00:51:35on the farm
00:51:35and I was, like,
00:51:36herding cows
00:51:37and I was like,
00:51:37this is so good
00:51:38and the kids thing
00:51:39never bothered me.
00:51:40Like, it's always something
00:51:41that I've wanted in my life.
00:51:43And I was just like,
00:51:44it was so annoying
00:51:45that everything else
00:51:46would have worked.
00:51:52This is really
00:51:52disappointing for us
00:51:54because we had
00:51:55so much hope
00:51:56for the two of you.
00:51:58It's just so unfortunate
00:52:00that along the way,
00:52:02with all of the pressure
00:52:03that the experiment brings,
00:52:04that the wheels
00:52:05have fallen off.
00:52:09It is disappointing
00:52:09that I came here
00:52:11to find love
00:52:12and, you know,
00:52:12I know that I'm a slow burn
00:52:14and, you know,
00:52:14I know that I get anxious
00:52:16once I do get feelings
00:52:17for someone
00:52:17because it takes me
00:52:18so long to build feelings
00:52:19for someone.
00:52:21And, yeah,
00:52:22it's just really
00:52:22disappointing
00:52:23that it all ended up
00:52:24like this,
00:52:25but, you know,
00:52:27high hopes for the future.
00:52:30Yeah.
00:52:32What about you, Chris?
00:52:33Yeah, and I said to Sam
00:52:34that I want to be
00:52:35really good friends with him.
00:52:36We've been on this journey
00:52:37for eight weeks,
00:52:38so, yeah,
00:52:40I hope that we can, yeah,
00:52:41stay in each other's lives
00:52:41outside of here.
00:52:43Yeah.
00:52:45All right, well,
00:52:46we're going to go
00:52:47to a decision.
00:52:49Chris,
00:52:49we'll start with you.
00:52:51I've obviously
00:52:52learned a lot about myself
00:52:53and I hope you have too
00:52:54and, you know,
00:52:56I'm sorry
00:52:56that it didn't work out
00:52:57for us.
00:52:58My time
00:52:59has unfortunately
00:53:00run out,
00:53:00so, yeah,
00:53:02I have to leave.
00:53:04Okay, thank you.
00:53:06And to you, Sam.
00:53:08It's been a journey.
00:53:09I've learned a lot.
00:53:1090% of our time together
00:53:11was awesome.
00:53:13Yeah,
00:53:14but, you know,
00:53:14it's come to the time
00:53:15to pack it up
00:53:16and leave.
00:53:22I'm sorry
00:53:22you've both landed here,
00:53:25but hopefully
00:53:26you have learned
00:53:27some lessons
00:53:28along the way
00:53:29that you can take
00:53:30into your next relationships.
00:53:32Sure.
00:53:32And parenthood,
00:53:33you know,
00:53:34this is all about
00:53:34that self-development
00:53:36as well as
00:53:37couple development.
00:53:40Thank you both
00:53:40so much.
00:53:42Well done,
00:53:42you two.
00:53:49Well done, guys.
00:53:53We're going to miss you.
00:53:57Our next couple
00:53:58up on the couch,
00:54:00Stella and Phillip.
00:54:05Hello.
00:54:06Hello there.
00:54:09How we doing?
00:54:11Well, we're more
00:54:12interested in how
00:54:12you're doing.
00:54:14Yeah.
00:54:15Coming into
00:54:15homesteads was very,
00:54:16very important for me.
00:54:18I was always open
00:54:19to moving,
00:54:19so it was a really big deal
00:54:20to go into Stella's space.
00:54:22I was just really keen
00:54:23to see what it would
00:54:24look like.
00:54:26I just tried to
00:54:27envisage everything,
00:54:28like how I'd live there,
00:54:29the vibe,
00:54:30the energy,
00:54:31and all that kind of stuff.
00:54:33After the experiment,
00:54:35Stella's going to come back
00:54:36for my mum's birthday,
00:54:38celebrate that.
00:54:39We're going to spend
00:54:40a few days in Melbourne,
00:54:42and then I'll pick my car up
00:54:43and drive up to Cronulla.
00:54:47Just move again.
00:54:48Yeah.
00:54:49Yeah.
00:54:50Straight in.
00:54:51Yeah.
00:54:51Oh.
00:54:52Moving in.
00:54:53That's a plan.
00:54:55Yeah.
00:54:56So it is a plan.
00:54:57We got there.
00:54:59Here's the thing.
00:55:00When I first met you,
00:55:02you loved control.
00:55:03Yeah.
00:55:03You mapped out
00:55:06what you wanted to do
00:55:07during the day,
00:55:08your fitness,
00:55:09your health,
00:55:10your sleep,
00:55:11everything on point.
00:55:13And you,
00:55:14without a plan,
00:55:16there was a part of you
00:55:17that wasn't committing.
00:55:19And now,
00:55:20you've come up with a plan,
00:55:22you've got certainty,
00:55:23and now you're
00:55:24on the same track.
00:55:25Because I want
00:55:26this relationship to work.
00:55:28Yeah.
00:55:30Yeah.
00:55:31And I feel like
00:55:33every woman
00:55:34can agree with that.
00:55:36When you don't
00:55:37understand your man's
00:55:38intentions,
00:55:39that's when you get
00:55:40frazzled,
00:55:41that's when you overthink,
00:55:42that's when you're
00:55:42in your head.
00:55:43When you know that
00:55:44the man is like,
00:55:46okay, let's do this,
00:55:47I think you really
00:55:48settle in to get that
00:55:49heart.
00:55:50You really do.
00:55:52Philip, I want you
00:55:53to turn to Stella
00:55:54and tell her
00:55:55how you feel.
00:55:56Don't make me cry.
00:56:05You know.
00:56:06You know.
00:56:07I thought I was
00:56:08wanted to make it.
00:56:09You know.
00:56:11We can't cope.
00:56:12No.
00:56:14You know.
00:56:17Stop it.
00:56:20I...
00:56:23You 100%
00:56:25know that I am
00:56:25in love with you.
00:56:27And that you
00:56:28shouldn't doubt
00:56:29about anything.
00:56:30There's a lot of
00:56:31unknown and stuff
00:56:32like that.
00:56:32It's okay,
00:56:33we got this.
00:56:33But, you know,
00:56:34we're a team.
00:56:35Yeah.
00:56:36So...
00:56:36I love you too.
00:56:37Okay.
00:56:38Yeah.
00:56:42So, Stella,
00:56:43how does that feel
00:56:45when he says that
00:56:47knowing that he's
00:56:48got a plan
00:56:49and he's moving in?
00:56:51Again, like,
00:56:51I really go from
00:56:52the two weeks
00:56:53of the conversation,
00:56:55like,
00:56:55this man makes
00:56:56me feel safe.
00:56:57I don't think
00:56:58I have experienced
00:56:59love before
00:57:00meeting him
00:57:00because, oh,
00:57:03he shows up
00:57:04for me.
00:57:05Yeah.
00:57:06Big time.
00:57:07Yes, baby.
00:57:07Yeah.
00:57:08Can I just ask you,
00:57:09Stella,
00:57:09what's getting you
00:57:10upset right now?
00:57:11Why is this so important?
00:57:13Yeah, I feel quite
00:57:15lucky in the sense
00:57:16that if this works
00:57:19out, it means that
00:57:20everything that
00:57:21was in the past,
00:57:22all those learning
00:57:23curves, all those
00:57:24relationships,
00:57:25all was worth
00:57:27for this moment,
00:57:29you know,
00:57:29because I do,
00:57:30I think,
00:57:31at the stage
00:57:32of my life
00:57:33where I do truly
00:57:34want this to be
00:57:35my forever person
00:57:36and I do see,
00:57:38I do see that.
00:57:40Yeah.
00:57:42Pleasure.
00:57:46Well,
00:57:47you got real
00:57:47on this couch
00:57:48tonight.
00:57:49It was great.
00:57:51And on that note,
00:57:53we're going to go
00:57:53to a decision.
00:57:54Stay or leave,
00:57:55you're up first,
00:57:56Stella.
00:57:57Obviously not a
00:57:58surprise and I think
00:57:59I drew a love heart
00:58:00from very early on.
00:58:03Nice.
00:58:04And what about
00:58:04you, Phillip?
00:58:06I'm not going
00:58:07anywhere.
00:58:08Just started.
00:58:09We're staying.
00:58:10That's what we
00:58:11like to see.
00:58:14Thanks for being
00:58:15in.
00:58:16Thanks for being
00:58:16in.
00:58:17You are a team
00:58:18and you've got
00:58:19this.
00:58:19Yeah.
00:58:20Thanks, guys.
00:58:21I really,
00:58:21really appreciate
00:58:22this whole thing.
00:58:24Well done,
00:58:25you two.
00:58:26Great work.
00:58:37Trimming.
00:58:38Our last couple
00:58:40up on the couch,
00:58:42Gia and Scott.
00:58:48Good evening.
00:58:49Hello.
00:58:50Hello.
00:58:50How are we?
00:58:51Good.
00:58:51Hi, Gia.
00:58:52Hello.
00:58:56So, how are you
00:58:57guys?
00:58:58All right.
00:58:59Um, I get a bit
00:59:01nervous.
00:59:14So, you know, I care
00:59:18so much about Gia.
00:59:20What I'm going to
00:59:21talk about tonight is
00:59:22I don't want you
00:59:23to be upset.
00:59:25Okay.
00:59:25What I'm going to
00:59:26talk about is
00:59:26feelings where I...
00:59:30Take breath for a
00:59:31minute.
00:59:33Breathe.
00:59:54Take breath for a minute.
00:59:57Breathe.
01:00:04It's a weakness of mine.
01:00:07When I care about
01:00:08someone so much,
01:00:09I feel like I...
01:00:11I can't speak my voice
01:00:12when I have a concern.
01:00:14It's a weakness of mine.
01:00:16What I find so far is
01:00:18I haven't been able to
01:00:20address a concern
01:00:20without Gia and I
01:00:22having an argument
01:00:22or her spiraling.
01:00:25Let's say that you
01:00:26want to bring something
01:00:26up and Gia is not
01:00:28in the mood to hear
01:00:28for whatever reason.
01:00:31You find yourself
01:00:32simply cowering away
01:00:33from that and not
01:00:34returning to that topic?
01:00:38Pretty much.
01:00:40What have you observed
01:00:41about Gia's behavior
01:00:42that leads you to
01:00:43have that reaction?
01:00:46What kind of things
01:00:47could she say?
01:00:55Can I please just say
01:00:57things that can make
01:00:58someone feel pretty
01:01:00defeated and let down?
01:01:02Such as?
01:01:07Honestly,
01:01:09if you can't speak
01:01:10honestly in front of Gia
01:01:12about the things
01:01:12that she does
01:01:13and say that hurt you
01:01:14or scare you
01:01:15or make you feel off...
01:01:16Well, he has.
01:01:21Then I'm really,
01:01:22really, really concerned
01:01:23about the possibility
01:01:25of this relationship
01:01:26surviving outside
01:01:27the experiment.
01:01:41Scott?
01:01:42Yeah?
01:01:44We've got all night.
01:01:45I know.
01:01:46We're not going anywhere.
01:01:47We're going to sit here
01:01:48and ask you uncomfortable
01:01:49questions until you come
01:01:50clean.
01:01:52Okay?
01:01:53I just...
01:01:54I care about it so much.
01:01:55If you don't let us in...
01:01:56I know.
01:01:57...you're not going to last.
01:02:00What I'm seeing here
01:02:01is fake.
01:02:03I'm going to call you out.
01:02:04I've seen it
01:02:05the entire experiment.
01:02:07You talk about things
01:02:09in a way where
01:02:10you don't give us
01:02:11any of the information.
01:02:13You skirt around
01:02:14the issues.
01:02:15I get it.
01:02:16You're trying to
01:02:17fly under the radar.
01:02:19But what we're saying
01:02:19tonight is that ends.
01:02:21Yeah.
01:02:22Okay?
01:02:23Okay.
01:02:23You sat down here.
01:02:24You're petrified of Gia
01:02:25and you're not
01:02:27answering the questions.
01:02:32So I'm going to ask you
01:02:34again, Scott.
01:02:35What kind of things
01:02:36could Gia say
01:02:38that would
01:02:38make you feel
01:02:40fearful of speaking up?
01:02:42So this is probably
01:02:43the most magic concern.
01:02:46It could happen
01:02:46probably on average
01:02:47once a week.
01:02:48I feel like there's
01:02:49a bit of pressure
01:02:49of me to say I'm in love
01:02:50and when I don't say it,
01:02:52Gia will tend to
01:02:53spoil and say things
01:02:55like,
01:02:56you're a crime,
01:02:56you're not a man,
01:02:57you're not a provider.
01:02:58You don't give me
01:02:59reassurance.
01:03:02Pretty much every name
01:03:03under the sun, right?
01:03:05Every name under the sun
01:03:06is wild.
01:03:07Gia,
01:03:08babe,
01:03:09the reason why I'm here
01:03:10is because I know
01:03:11she doesn't intentionally
01:03:12mean it.
01:03:13It's because it comes
01:03:13from a place of hurt.
01:03:14I'll explain that
01:03:15you talk for yourself.
01:03:16And I just
01:03:18will explain,
01:03:19babe,
01:03:20like,
01:03:20listen to what
01:03:21you're saying.
01:03:22I know you don't mean it,
01:03:23like,
01:03:23where's this coming from?
01:03:24And, like,
01:03:25I don't know what it is.
01:03:25I just don't know.
01:03:28When you're having
01:03:29that situation
01:03:30and there are things
01:03:30that are being said,
01:03:32how do you feel
01:03:32in that moment?
01:03:34In these moments
01:03:35that you're describing now
01:03:36that where she's
01:03:37coming at you
01:03:37personally?
01:03:39I just feel like
01:03:40when it's her,
01:03:42I just feel
01:03:42completely destroyed
01:03:43like I'm worthless.
01:03:45That's pretty major.
01:03:47But I just want
01:03:48Gia to know
01:03:49that I care so much
01:03:50about her.
01:03:51My feelings are strong.
01:03:52I'm falling for her.
01:03:53But when these things
01:03:54happen,
01:03:54it pulls me back
01:03:55and it holds me back.
01:03:58And so,
01:03:59Gia,
01:04:00what do you think
01:04:01when you're feeling
01:04:03threatened or
01:04:05not happy
01:04:05with what Scott says
01:04:07that you attack him?
01:04:09What is that about
01:04:10for you?
01:04:11This is a man
01:04:12that you're falling
01:04:13in love with
01:04:14from every indication
01:04:15I've had.
01:04:17Well,
01:04:17I'll just say it
01:04:18out loud.
01:04:22If this wasn't
01:04:23on camera,
01:04:23I told him
01:04:24I'm in love
01:04:24with him yesterday.
01:04:27So this is
01:04:28a man you love.
01:04:30So where does
01:04:31that come from?
01:04:32So,
01:04:32for me,
01:04:35I've felt this way
01:04:36for Scott
01:04:37for the last
01:04:37few weeks.
01:04:39And there's been
01:04:40so many moments
01:04:41where,
01:04:42like,
01:04:42I've wanted to say it
01:04:43and I'm like,
01:04:44you can't be the girl
01:04:45who says it first.
01:04:46Usually it's been
01:04:47the guy who said it first,
01:04:48so this is weird for me.
01:04:49And I've wanted him
01:04:50to know why
01:04:51I've been spiraling.
01:04:52It's because of this.
01:04:53Like,
01:04:53I've been wanting to say it
01:04:54and I know he's not there
01:04:55and it's frustrating for me
01:04:56because I feel rejected,
01:04:57to be honest.
01:04:59The leading up to where
01:05:00you're having these
01:05:01big feelings
01:05:02and that's what's
01:05:02making you feel like,
01:05:03oh my God,
01:05:04he's going to reject me.
01:05:05Why go hurt him?
01:05:08Because I felt hurt
01:05:10and I was like,
01:05:11let me hurt him.
01:05:13That's the truth.
01:05:18That's a pretty big revelation
01:05:21and also hurdle for Scott
01:05:24to have to handle
01:05:25and walk around eggshells
01:05:27trying to not have you
01:05:29have this reaction.
01:05:31I just think this is
01:05:32very new for me.
01:05:33I haven't ever been
01:05:33in this situation before.
01:05:35But in the situation
01:05:36of saying that you're hurt
01:05:38and therefore you're choosing
01:05:39to hurt back,
01:05:41is that the way
01:05:42that you normally are?
01:05:45You are.
01:05:48I'm going to insist
01:05:49and underline this
01:05:50because I really want you
01:05:51to take in Gia
01:05:53that we can absolutely see
01:05:56how strong your relationship
01:05:57with Scott is.
01:05:58But it is a pattern
01:05:59that you're bringing
01:06:00to the table
01:06:00that you need to break
01:06:02because it will be the thing
01:06:04that makes him run
01:06:05the other way.
01:06:18The leading up to where
01:06:20you're having these
01:06:20big feelings
01:06:21and that's what's
01:06:22making you feel like,
01:06:22oh my God,
01:06:23he's going to reject me.
01:06:25Why go hurt him?
01:06:28Because I felt hurt
01:06:30and I was like,
01:06:31let me hurt him.
01:06:34That's the truth.
01:06:36I'm going to insist
01:06:38and underline this
01:06:39because I really want you
01:06:40to take in Gia.
01:06:43It is a pattern
01:06:44that you're bringing
01:06:44to the table
01:06:45that you need to break
01:06:46because it will be the thing
01:06:48that makes him run
01:06:50the other way.
01:06:57Do you feel secure
01:06:58in your relationship
01:06:59with Scott?
01:07:03Um.
01:07:07Like, yes and no.
01:07:10Why no?
01:07:13I don't know,
01:07:14because, like,
01:07:15sometimes I can't
01:07:16bring something up
01:07:17because I'm argumentative
01:07:18or so I don't feel like
01:07:19I'm secure with him
01:07:21and I can be myself.
01:07:22So that and,
01:07:23like, he doesn't feel
01:07:24as strong as I feel.
01:07:26like, well,
01:07:27he could just leave.
01:07:29Am I going to move
01:07:30for like?
01:07:31Am I going to take my daughter
01:07:32out of her school
01:07:33in Melbourne
01:07:33and move to the Gold Coast
01:07:34if he just likes me?
01:07:38just don't feel as secure
01:07:39as maybe I could
01:07:40in the relationship.
01:07:43So there's still room
01:07:44there for you to grow
01:07:45in terms of security
01:07:46in the relationship.
01:07:49How does it make you feel
01:07:50to hear
01:07:52Gia say that she doesn't
01:07:53feel secure
01:07:54in the relationship?
01:07:58I'm confused
01:07:58because Gia tells me
01:07:59that she feels secure.
01:08:01I try and
01:08:03tickle the boxes
01:08:04to make a note
01:08:05and reassure
01:08:06that I'm all in on this
01:08:07and like
01:08:07when we have tough times
01:08:09like I just
01:08:10keep telling you
01:08:10I'm here for you
01:08:11I want you to be
01:08:11the shoulder to cry on
01:08:12and like
01:08:12you know
01:08:13whenever there is bad things
01:08:15maybe sometimes
01:08:16I say
01:08:16oh like
01:08:17I don't want to hear it
01:08:18or something like that
01:08:19but you know
01:08:19Well that's why
01:08:20I don't feel secure
01:08:23because I'm like
01:08:24well
01:08:25I can't bring that up
01:08:26so like
01:08:27how do I
01:08:27how can I
01:08:28be vulnerable
01:08:28and feel safe
01:08:29because it's swept
01:08:30under the rug
01:08:31you know
01:08:33you shut down
01:08:33my feelings
01:08:34a lot of the time
01:08:35I'm going to say
01:08:35myself
01:08:35I've never shut down
01:08:36your feelings Gia
01:08:37I've never
01:08:37well
01:08:38that's my perception
01:08:39and I feel like
01:08:40sometimes we'll
01:08:41talk about something
01:08:42and you just
01:08:43don't listen
01:08:44and so then I just
01:08:45stop talking about it
01:08:46because he says
01:08:47I'm arguing
01:08:48and I'm like
01:08:48okay well I just like
01:08:49I'll just forget my feelings
01:08:50let's just leave it
01:08:51because then my brain
01:08:53is like
01:08:53oh my god
01:08:54you're arguing again
01:08:55he's not going to
01:08:56fall in love with you
01:08:56and it's like
01:08:58it's like I can't win
01:08:59to be honest
01:09:01that's how I feel
01:09:06well at last
01:09:08we've got the real
01:09:09Scott and Gia
01:09:11sitting in front of us
01:09:12and isn't it interesting
01:09:15that week after week
01:09:16you guys have sat here
01:09:17and said everything's fine
01:09:18we're a great couple
01:09:21tonight
01:09:23you're exposing yourselves
01:09:26and everything isn't
01:09:27great
01:09:28between the two of you
01:09:30Scott nearly
01:09:31couldn't breathe
01:09:32tonight
01:09:33because he was so scared
01:09:34about bringing
01:09:34an issue up with you Gia
01:09:37that's not healthy
01:09:40so
01:09:41it comes down
01:09:42to the two of you
01:09:43are you prepared
01:09:44to do the work
01:09:45hear things
01:09:46you might not like
01:09:48but know that
01:09:49when you hear
01:09:50those feelings
01:09:50you get closer
01:09:51not further away
01:09:54but you've got to be
01:09:55real
01:09:56over this next week
01:09:58otherwise
01:09:58it is going to
01:09:59slip through your
01:10:00fingers
01:10:04we're going to go
01:10:05to the decision
01:10:06stay or leave
01:10:07and we'll go with
01:10:08you first
01:10:09Gia
01:10:11um
01:10:13yeah
01:10:14I think we needed
01:10:15to have this
01:10:15conversation tonight
01:10:16because
01:10:17we're at the end
01:10:18I don't want to
01:10:18have any questions
01:10:20unanswered
01:10:20and that's
01:10:21the same with
01:10:22me saying
01:10:23that I love him
01:10:24and I just wanted
01:10:25to just
01:10:25be fully in
01:10:27so
01:10:28anyways
01:10:29with that
01:10:30we'll take on
01:10:31your advice
01:10:32this week
01:10:32and I'm going
01:10:33to stay
01:10:35love that
01:10:37what do you got
01:10:38Scott
01:10:38stay or leave
01:10:39obviously we've come
01:10:40so far
01:10:41this experiment
01:10:41and I honestly
01:10:42appreciate
01:10:43the three of you
01:10:44for what you've
01:10:45done for us
01:10:45and how you've
01:10:45paired us
01:10:46and
01:10:47I was nervous
01:10:48walking here tonight
01:10:48and I don't get nervous
01:10:50and I feel
01:10:51so light
01:10:51right now
01:10:52because
01:10:53we can both
01:10:54have our say
01:10:56and I can
01:10:56I can tell you
01:10:57right now
01:10:58this is going to
01:10:58help us so much
01:11:00so
01:11:00I'm excited
01:11:01for this week
01:11:02because I just feel
01:11:02so happy
01:11:03just after this
01:11:04conversation
01:11:04so I'm staying
01:11:05in the sun
01:11:06because we're going
01:11:07to sunny Gold Coast
01:11:12so it's a big week
01:11:14coming up
01:11:15for the two of you
01:11:15and I know
01:11:16it's hard for you
01:11:17as a couple
01:11:18but when issues
01:11:19get brought up
01:11:20this week
01:11:20when you talk
01:11:21about the big stuff
01:11:23try and be curious
01:11:25as opposed
01:11:26to defensive
01:11:28all right
01:11:29good luck
01:11:30thank you
01:11:30good work
01:11:39thank you
01:11:41thank you
01:11:43thank you
01:12:07Tomorrow night.
01:12:08What is going on here?
01:12:10Chanel.
01:12:11Shannon.
01:12:11Oh, no.
01:12:13What?
01:12:14James.
01:12:15Antoni.
01:12:16Oh, my God.
01:12:17What?
01:12:18During the matchmaking process, there was more than one person that our participants were
01:12:23compatible with.
01:12:24The unforgettable final test is back.
01:12:27Oh, my God.
01:12:28It is the ultimate test of trust and security.
01:12:31And this season, the experts have upped the ante like never before.
01:12:36We are removing the element of choice from the final test.
01:12:40Over two incredible nights.
01:12:43I feel sick.
01:12:43I feel like I'm going to pass out.
01:12:46All our participants will make their alternative matches.
01:12:51I only date men that pay for money.
01:12:53Let's get married.
01:12:55Some will more than enjoy the fresh perspective.
01:12:58Why do I always get the young ones?
01:12:59I like it.
01:13:01You've got to stop touching me because if my wife sees this, she's going to go.
01:13:04No.
01:13:06Before.
01:13:08The biggest twist.
01:13:11The experiment's ever seen.
01:13:15Instagram screener.
01:13:17Are you serious?
01:13:19That is disgusting.
01:13:22Oh, yeah.
01:13:24Oh, yeah.
01:13:29Oh, yeah.
01:13:30Oh, yeah.
01:13:30Oh, yeah.
01:13:32Oh, yeah.
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