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Mary J Blige Presents Be Happy
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00:00:05Oh, man.
00:00:07What do you want to do?
00:00:09Get back up.
00:00:15Now, y'all know y'all crazy.
00:00:17Leaving this door open, letting my air out.
00:00:27Hey, hey, hey, hey.
00:00:28Hey, listen to my mojo.
00:00:30Gosh, is it that serious?
00:00:34Kayla, how long are you?
00:00:39I am almost seven months.
00:00:41Ooh, and you still got that cute little shade.
00:00:43That's why I know it's gonna be a girl.
00:00:46Well, we don't know that yet.
00:00:47Girl, you want girls,
00:00:48because when I had them boys, they gave me vertigo.
00:00:51Damn, you ain't got vertigo. Your ass drink too much.
00:00:53Mama, did you bring out your ribs yet?
00:00:55Uh, here you go, babe.
00:00:56Oh, thank you, baby.
00:00:58There you go.
00:00:59Mwah.
00:00:59Mwah.
00:01:00That's a good man, Savannah.
00:01:02Kayla, you really need to go sit down somewhere.
00:01:04It's not good for a pregnant woman to be on her feet like that.
00:01:06Mama, the doctor said in moderation, okay?
00:01:09As long as I'm listening to my body.
00:01:11Okay.
00:01:12Micah's not gonna wanna rub them feet if they're swept up like ham hocks.
00:01:16Mm-hmm.
00:01:17Yeah, that's gonna get you a seat.
00:01:18Come on.
00:01:18That's right.
00:01:19That's right.
00:01:21Whew.
00:01:22Ain't nothing like a man loving on his woman.
00:01:24Mm-hmm.
00:01:24I remember those days.
00:01:26Me too.
00:01:27Mine was living on the barber, the dog walker, the trainer, all my...
00:01:31Ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah.
00:01:32So, Val, what did you and Ross do for your anniversary?
00:01:36Mm-hmm.
00:01:3627 years.
00:01:37I just know it was something special.
00:01:39Mm-hmm.
00:01:40So, um, Ross upgraded our cable and we watched a marathon of Unsolved Mysteries all night long.
00:01:47Okay, wait a damn minute.
00:01:48Okay, hold on, hold on before y'all even get started.
00:01:52Jeremiah is spending the night at somebody's house, and, uh, I already have the champagne
00:01:57and the whipped cream chilling in the refrigerator.
00:02:00Ooh!
00:02:00You're nasty.
00:02:02Oh, crazy.
00:02:03Excuse me, Mama.
00:02:04What?
00:02:04I think it's time to shut the party down on Cheryl's outside talking to Luther Vandross.
00:02:08Okay?
00:02:08It's disgusting.
00:02:09Dad's about to beat somebody up on dominoes.
00:02:10Oh, look at our big college boy.
00:02:13Acting just like his daddy, walking around here like he running things.
00:02:16Listen.
00:02:16Not for long, Aunt Donna.
00:02:18I'm sure Mama and Pops can't wait for me to get out the house and have it to themselves.
00:02:21Uh, boy, you have no idea.
00:02:23Stop it.
00:02:24What is that?
00:02:25I gotta go get your father up here.
00:02:27What?
00:02:28How you think you got here?
00:02:29Hmmmm.
00:02:32How about the3000?
00:02:38We need the
00:02:39of the hospital.
00:02:42Bye, give me the
00:03:00Ross.
00:03:05Hey.
00:03:15Um, I'm not feeling well.
00:03:21Oh, um, I thought...
00:03:24Yeah, all that food, that beer got my stomach acting crazy.
00:03:28I think it was some collard greens.
00:03:33Collard greens?
00:03:34Yeah, yeah, go on upstairs.
00:03:36Don't wait up for me.
00:03:40Okay.
00:03:48Okay.
00:03:58I don't know.
00:04:23Hey, good morning.
00:04:25Do you still plan on fixing the refrigerator? It's been two weeks.
00:04:28I've got somebody coming to look at it later this week.
00:04:32You said that last week.
00:04:37Okay, look, there's a, um, there's a new exhibit at the Museum of Art that I really wanted to see,
00:04:44and I was hoping that maybe you would want to go tonight.
00:04:50Well, you get the tickets, I'll be there.
00:04:55Between you and Jeremiah, I don't know whose phone I got to compete with more these days.
00:04:59It's Micah letting us know that he and Kayla landed home in New Orleans.
00:05:04Oh.
00:05:06Thank God.
00:05:07I was really worried about Kayla flying in almost seven months.
00:05:12Leave it to you to stress and worry about stuff you can't control.
00:05:18What's wrong with you?
00:05:22Baby, you know I don't like blueberries in my pancakes?
00:05:29That's all right.
00:05:30I'll stop and get me a breakfast sandwich on the way to work.
00:05:38Later, pops.
00:05:40Boy.
00:05:42Oh, my gosh.
00:05:43Blue grape pancakes.
00:05:45Use your fork.
00:05:46Can I get some syrup, please?
00:05:48Yes.
00:05:49Here.
00:05:50I'm looking forward to a lot, but trading your cooking for ramen noodles every day feels crazy.
00:05:58What are you looking forward to?
00:06:01Maybe I'll find my girl at tech like Dad did.
00:06:03Well, I don't know if these new age tech girls got anything like, you know, your mama had.
00:06:09You know, not as bad as your mama that was.
00:06:11Two kids ago, and that's when your daddy had a high-top fade, but okay.
00:06:20I like seeing you happy.
00:06:24You know, it's kind of like a new chapter for the both of us.
00:06:27Think so?
00:06:28Yeah.
00:06:30Maybe you can spend the time doing something you've always wanted to do.
00:06:33And not spend the next four years worrying about me.
00:06:36I'm your mama.
00:06:37Mama, I'm going to worry about you, whether you like it or not.
00:06:42Okay, I'm going to remember that.
00:06:43Because outside of sending me $500 every month, I think I can take it from here.
00:06:46$500?
00:06:47$500 what?
00:06:48Dollars?
00:06:48Oh, no, boy.
00:06:49Try $250.
00:06:50$250.
00:06:51I can work with you.
00:06:51Okay.
00:06:52I can work with you.
00:07:00Oh.
00:07:01Hey, Ross, honey, don't worry about parking.
00:07:03There's a garage on 8th and...
00:07:04I'm not going to make it.
00:07:06There's some emergency maintenance that's keeping me stuck at work.
00:07:11Ross, I was really looking forward to this.
00:07:13You should still go and enjoy it, baby.
00:07:16I'm sorry, but I gotta run.
00:07:30No more, no more clippin' my wings down.
00:07:37No more holdin' me low down, low down again.
00:07:47No more, no more keepin' me boxed in.
00:07:54I'm done blockin' my blessings.
00:07:58It's time to let them end.
00:08:12It's like she's...
00:08:16Becoming.
00:08:19Or maybe she's exploring herself.
00:08:23Her solitude.
00:08:27Her softness.
00:08:31The version of herself that doesn't have to perform or prove herself to anyone.
00:08:40Blooming in her own time.
00:08:44In her own way.
00:08:48In her own way.
00:08:52Moving mountains out my way.
00:08:54Exploring new places helps you remember who you are.
00:08:57And sometimes who you're still becoming.
00:09:02Becoming.
00:09:04It's like the theme of the day.
00:09:08Damn, Kim.
00:09:09What'd you say you put in this hot girl's summer drink?
00:09:11Some of this and some of that.
00:09:13Oh, see, I'm not messing with Kim.
00:09:14I'm not doing it.
00:09:15No, I'm here.
00:09:17Cheers to 30 years of friendship
00:09:20and a new chapter in this book and a new chapter
00:09:22in Val's life.
00:09:24Sis, I hope you get everything you want and deserve.
00:09:27To life after motherhood.
00:09:30Yes.
00:09:30Life after motherhood.
00:09:32Yes.
00:09:33Yes.
00:09:34Mm.
00:09:35OK, you guys, I am so excited about this book.
00:09:37Girl, forget about that book.
00:09:38Tell us what happened the other night.
00:09:39Oh, right.
00:09:42So, yeah, it didn't happen.
00:09:44Why?
00:09:45He decided to spend his night with Betty instead.
00:09:48Who the hell is Betty?
00:09:48Whoa, whoa, whoa.
00:09:49You mean that old hunk of junk in the garage?
00:09:52Mm-hmm.
00:09:52I see Ross done lost his damn mind.
00:09:54Have you tried talking to him?
00:09:56Talk?
00:09:57Oh, my gosh.
00:09:58We don't do anything like we used to.
00:10:01We don't laugh like we used to.
00:10:02And we definitely don't have sex like we used to.
00:10:05OK.
00:10:05The Browns across the street from me started couples therapy
00:10:08when they hit a rough patch.
00:10:09And they seemed to be doing just fine.
00:10:11You talking about that white lady with her white husband?
00:10:12Hold on now, Donna.
00:10:14Kim, didn't you and Lee try counseling
00:10:16before you got a divorce?
00:10:18Yeah.
00:10:18And it was going well, too, until he tried
00:10:21to hump the damn therapist.
00:10:22Oh, hell no.
00:10:23Oh, hell yeah, honey.
00:10:25Lee was a certified freak.
00:10:26But at least therapy let me know why.
00:10:28Mm.
00:10:29Well, I want to know why.
00:10:31Well, sis, it's not your fault, OK?
00:10:33It's called male menopause.
00:10:35Girl, what?
00:10:35You know what?
00:10:36OK, listen.
00:10:37The brain is the first to go.
00:10:39And then they start wanting to hump everything they see,
00:10:41or their stuff just stops working completely.
00:10:45Is that a real thing?
00:10:46Hell yeah, girl.
00:10:47Yeah, honey.
00:10:48The mood swing, the midlife crisis,
00:10:50them buying cars they can't fit into.
00:10:52And they women, they know they can't satisfy.
00:10:55Mm-hmm.
00:10:55Now, how long that meep stopped working?
00:10:57Kim.
00:11:01It's OK.
00:11:02It's been three years and 22 days.
00:11:06Bitch.
00:11:06I know.
00:11:08Years?
00:11:08The problem is the man is my husband,
00:11:12and the father of my children, and the one person
00:11:15that I just do not understand right now.
00:11:19Mm.
00:11:20Well, sis, it sounds like you're not happy.
00:11:22I don't think any of us were raised to be happy wives.
00:11:25We were raised to work it out.
00:11:27Mm-hmm.
00:11:28My mama used to say, as long as he's not in and out of jail
00:11:31and knocking you upside your head,
00:11:32you got something to be thankful for.
00:11:34Your mama's a liar.
00:11:36Hey, don't.
00:11:36Ah!
00:11:37That's exactly why I walked up out of my marriage.
00:11:39Well, I want to water my marriage, you guys.
00:11:42I don't want to burn it down.
00:11:44Well, Val, if you want him to change,
00:11:46then you're going to have to bring the ideas to him.
00:11:50So what should I do?
00:11:52It's time.
00:12:07I want him to slow down.
00:12:20Connor, what do I do?
00:12:25Even though I'm shined up
00:12:27I've been trying to shake this
00:12:28Honey, why you gotta hold the camera at that angle?
00:12:30Val, do you want to take the picture?
00:12:32Let's just take the picture
00:12:33All right, say tag
00:12:35Tag
00:12:37Babe, can you at least take one pic without that hat?
00:12:41No, I've had this hat since I graduated from this school
00:12:44Yeah, well, while you're here, maybe you can get a new one
00:12:47Mom and dad
00:12:50All right, now
00:12:53There you go
00:12:54Bye, baby
00:12:55Mommy loves you
00:12:56Okay, okay
00:12:58Call mommy
00:13:01We really have another tech man in the family
00:13:03We do, we do, we do
00:13:05Hey, you want to go over to the Fine Arts Building
00:13:09and see if our names are still on the wall?
00:13:10Val, that was 30 years ago
00:13:12You know they painted over that by now?
00:13:17Doors open
00:13:21And here we are with another timeless army classic
00:13:25Love myself enough to know
00:13:29When it's time
00:13:30Time to let go
00:13:37All I really want
00:13:40Is to be happy
00:13:43Find the honest life
00:13:45It'll be so sweet
00:13:48All I really want
00:13:50Is to be happy
00:13:53Yeah
00:13:53Find the honest life
00:13:56That could be so sweet
00:13:58Come on, babe
00:13:58Remember I used to blast the radio to stay awake driving home for the holidays?
00:14:02Oh my God
00:14:03I miss this
00:14:04Yeah
00:14:05Folks be sleeping on the radio
00:14:07They still play good music
00:14:08No, Ross
00:14:10I mean us
00:14:11I miss us, you know
00:14:12Feeling, you know
00:14:14Like a real marriage
00:14:1527 years feels like a real marriage to me
00:14:24Ross, when was the last time you touched me?
00:14:27What kind of question is that?
00:14:30You just said it's been 27 years, right?
00:14:32For the last seven, I feel like I've kind of been living with a roommate
00:14:36Yeah, a roommate who pays the mortgage and all the bills
00:14:38Uh-uh
00:14:39Now, I have tried to get a job for years and you know that
00:14:41But you're the one who wanted me to stay home with the kids cooking and keeping house
00:14:45Yeah, a lot of women would have called that a good life
00:14:48A life without intimacy?
00:14:51Is this about the other night?
00:14:52No, it's not about the other night, Ross
00:14:55It's about us
00:14:57It's about you never wanting to do anything that I want to do
00:15:00I can't even express to you or share with you how I feel
00:15:04And I have no idea how you feel about anything either
00:15:06Well, I feel like this conversation is ridiculous
00:15:11Our kids are finally out of the house
00:15:14And you and I should be together somewhere
00:15:16Enjoying each other
00:15:18Just traveling or sipping on piña coladas at some beach or something
00:15:22What are you talking about?
00:15:23I don't even have a passport because I'm working
00:15:25And that's another thing
00:15:27We've had extensive conversations about early retirement
00:15:30Oh, no, no, no
00:15:31We just dropped Jeremiah off in his freshman year of college
00:15:33And you're talking about early retirement?
00:15:36Oh, this conversation is over
00:15:38Why is it so hard for you to talk to me?
00:15:41Why?
00:15:43You know what?
00:15:44I really, really think we need to see couples counseling
00:15:49Oh, you've really gone off the deep end now
00:15:51What else do I ask you for?
00:15:54You asked for that damn expensive-ass refrigerator
00:15:56That you use, too
00:15:57If I can't do anything right, why are you still with me?
00:16:07Oh, my God
00:16:14You all right?
00:16:17And he got so defensive, he almost wrecked the car
00:16:21Oh, God
00:16:24It's like he doesn't care
00:16:26He could live like this for the rest of his life
00:16:28And be perfectly fine
00:16:31Oh, Charmaine, girl
00:16:33It's frustrating, girl
00:16:34I know
00:16:36Do you think you could change a marriage?
00:16:39You know
00:16:40I've been thinking about what Donna said
00:16:42That if we want change
00:16:44We've got to bring it to our husbands
00:16:46But I don't know if I believe that
00:16:48Because you marry who you marry, right?
00:16:50There isn't anything you ever wanted to change about Charles
00:16:53Of course there is
00:16:55But you can't change nobody
00:16:58You can only change yourself
00:17:00Look, girl
00:17:01I gotta go
00:17:03Oh, okay
00:17:04Bye
00:17:05Bye
00:17:05Love you
00:17:35Here you go
00:17:35Just like the ones you grabbed on the way to work
00:17:37Thank you, honey
00:17:44So
00:17:46I scheduled us for a consultation for couples therapy
00:17:51I really think that this will be good for us, Ross
00:17:55Where is all this coming from?
00:17:57Look, Charmaine told me about this couple
00:17:59Charmaine needs to worry about why Charles would rather sit at a slot machine than sit at home
00:18:05I scheduled it for when you get off work today
00:18:08Then you need to cancel it
00:18:09I want to go, Ross
00:18:11Then go alone
00:18:15I'm not going to therapy
00:18:18That's for crazy people, and we're not crazy
00:18:26I kind of figured you would say something like that
00:18:37You want to know what's really crazy?
00:18:41Staying here
00:18:44Knowing that you're okay
00:18:48With where we are in our marriage
00:18:52And I know I'm not crazy
00:19:06Ladies and gentlemen
00:19:07Welcome to New Orleans
00:19:11We're here
00:19:13And we're hereuments
00:19:47have you spoken to your father he called and asked about my last appointment look i'm really sorry
00:19:53i don't want to scare you about any of this mom what are you apologizing for
00:19:57look i love you and daddy together but i want you both to be happy plus i'm a big girl
00:20:03now
00:20:04you are a big girl now who can use all the help she can get now that i'm here we
00:20:09can deep clean
00:20:10the house personalize the nursery with pictures and knitted knitted uh blankets why are they so loud
00:20:22no that's how the city gets down oh well since you have all these ideas maybe you can pencil in
00:20:29some
00:20:29time to explore the magic of the city what does that mean it's what they say around here mama
00:20:39let the good times roll you don't need to roll anything else but that's how you got into this
00:20:45predicament stop it you get yours and you do it too come on yeah yeah yeah
00:20:57morning you hungry i made eggs and dewey sausage and homemade biscuits
00:21:01oh wow mama v that looks amazing but i got my own meal prep for breakfast fitness goals oh all
00:21:06right
00:21:06well don't mind me then uh do you know what happened to the blue containers that were in here
00:21:11yeah you know what the food was going bad and all i threw all that out
00:21:17mama v that was my meal prep oh well in that case i'll just refill it with the food i
00:21:23made see
00:21:24look at that micah have you seen my yoga mat i can't find it anywhere
00:21:29you know what baby i called myself throwing it in the washing machine and it crumbles into pieces
00:21:34i'll just get you one of those beach towels i saw in the garage might be better for your back
00:21:38anyway
00:21:43where did that painting come from
00:21:51do you think she's going through a midlife crisis i mean it's all she's ever known for the last 27
00:21:57years wouldn't you i'd probably be out on bourbon street i drank all these just to take me back
00:22:03yeah well she's the one who left i talked to dad and trust me he is going just as crazy
00:22:10oh yeah i'm sure he misses her folding his underwear into tiny little squares just like
00:22:14she does mine i don't think she knows what else to do with herself right now
00:22:19i think this is the only thing keeping her going
00:22:21oh baby that's sad yeah it is
00:22:30oh
00:23:32Show me how good times rising, let them rise, joy, too sweet, sugar on your spine.
00:23:49That's so dumb.
00:24:01Hello.
00:24:03Bam.
00:24:06Hey.
00:24:08Hello.
00:24:09How you doing?
00:24:10Uh, I'm doing all right.
00:24:15You okay?
00:24:18Um, yeah, I'm doing just, you know, I'm doing okay.
00:24:22Uh, when you coming back?
00:24:24After Kayla has the baby?
00:24:28Something like that.
00:24:29That should give you enough time, right?
00:24:32Enough time for what?
00:24:34Well, uh, figure yourself out and come on home.
00:24:44Yeah, so, Ross, I don't know if I can.
00:24:48Can what?
00:24:50Come back.
00:24:51I gotta go.
00:25:03Good morning.
00:25:05Good morning.
00:25:06Good morning.
00:25:08Good morning.
00:25:11Good morning.
00:25:13Good morning.
00:25:14Good morning.
00:25:15Good morning.
00:25:16Good morning.
00:25:19Good morning.
00:25:21Let's let them stay together.
00:25:24We need to stay together.
00:25:25You're doing all right over here.
00:25:27Oh, yeah.
00:25:28Yeah, totally.
00:25:29I think I want another one,
00:25:33but I'm not totally sure that I could feel my legs.
00:25:37Let me get you some water.
00:25:40Okay.
00:25:40You know, people come to New Orleans for all kinds of reasons.
00:25:44Yeah.
00:25:44To heal, to lose themselves,
00:25:48or to find something they didn't even know they was looking for.
00:25:51What you came for?
00:25:53This is not what it looks like.
00:25:56Hmm.
00:25:58It looked like
00:26:01a woman not from here
00:26:03going through it in her marriage,
00:26:05and she came to New Orleans to figure some things out.
00:26:10Is it tattooed across my forehead?
00:26:13Does it also say I haven't had sex in three years?
00:26:17Oh, baby, most of us could get that tattoo.
00:26:21Big Kenny.
00:26:23When's the last time you had some?
00:26:25About six, seven years.
00:26:27Oh, Kenny, no.
00:26:29Oh, I thought I had it, man.
00:26:31Next round's on me, Kenny.
00:26:43Welcome in.
00:27:02Oh.
00:27:17And you have an Aaron F. Henderson.
00:27:22Oh, my God.
00:27:23He is my absolute favorite.
00:27:26I love how he exposes the ways in which history continues to shape our understanding of race, and...
00:27:33Identity.
00:27:34Oh.
00:27:36Yeah, he was, uh, he was my mom's favorite, too.
00:27:40Well, your mom has very good taste.
00:27:43Uh, do you and your mom run this gallery together?
00:27:47Uh, no.
00:27:48This was, um, her thing before she passed, so...
00:27:51Oh.
00:27:51I've been just, you know, trying my best to hold things down.
00:27:54I guess it's my way of keeping her legacy alive.
00:27:56Sorry.
00:27:57Hmm?
00:27:58I'm sure she's very proud of you.
00:28:07Oh, wow.
00:28:10Look at the sadness in his eyes.
00:28:13Really?
00:28:14He always looked happy to me.
00:28:17Sometimes joy is the mask you wear when the weight gets too heavy.
00:28:24Who are you?
00:28:26Where are you from?
00:28:27Oh, sorry.
00:28:29North Carolina.
00:28:30Okay.
00:28:31I'm Valerie.
00:28:32Okay, Jacoby.
00:28:33You're Narwell?
00:28:34Oh, no.
00:28:35I wouldn't say all that.
00:28:36I did major in art in college.
00:28:40Okay.
00:28:40But, you know, life was lifing.
00:28:42It took me in a different direction.
00:28:44But the love, the love is, the love is still there.
00:28:48Yeah.
00:28:48So, um, are you thinking about jumping back in?
00:28:52Sometimes.
00:28:53But I really wouldn't know where to start, so...
00:28:56Well, um, I've, you know, I've been trying to do my best to make sure this place reflects
00:29:00the new New Orleans by scouting local new talent.
00:29:04But, um, this whole curating art thing, I just feel a little out of my league.
00:29:09No, no, no.
00:29:10You did a beautiful job.
00:29:11This place really feels like it has soul.
00:29:14Yeah, yeah, but the soul, it just needs, it needs structure, you know?
00:29:18Like a vision, an expert.
00:29:24Are you offering me a job?
00:29:34And now here we have a Peter Moseley.
00:29:37And although I'm not deeply familiar with his work, you can see that he definitely has
00:29:42a special way of capturing black women.
00:29:45It doesn't feel like he's just taking a photo.
00:29:48It feels like he's bearing witness without trying to be too radical.
00:29:52I actually find him to be very radical.
00:29:55In a world that either overexposes or erases black women, showing them in their natural
00:30:01state without spectacle, seems pretty radical to me.
00:30:07Well, hearing the word radical makes me feel like you're saying that Moseley is trying to convey sex, and it's
00:30:15much, much, much more subtle than that.
00:30:17Yeah, but subtlety is extremely sexy.
00:30:21You actually strike me as someone who understands exactly how powerful that can be.
00:30:28That's good for you.
00:30:29So, for those of you who actually paid for this tour, please, go into the other room.
00:30:35There's refreshments, and we have so much more to see.
00:30:44Um, you know your boy's coming back tonight, right?
00:30:47My boy.
00:30:48Who's my boy?
00:30:50Yeah.
00:30:53Something tells me you're going to be into this.
00:30:59It was really that Chicago 95 collection.
00:31:02It was, that was amazing, right?
00:31:03Like, that's when I was like, I am a fan of Moseley's work.
00:31:06It's incredible.
00:31:07Much obliged, much obliged.
00:31:08Yeah, so, what draws you to a subject?
00:31:14Wow, that's a, uh, damn good question.
00:31:18But my portraiture work is only about connection.
00:31:22When I lock eyes with someone, and we have this, I don't know, unspoken understanding, that's when I know.
00:31:35And if they let me in only for a moment, that's the shot.
00:31:44Oh, he is everything.
00:31:46So, when you say let you in.
00:31:47Uh-huh.
00:31:49Nice to meet you.
00:31:49Pleasure.
00:31:55Hi.
00:31:58Valerie Matthews.
00:32:00Peter Moseley.
00:32:01Of course you are.
00:32:03I just wanted to apologize for earlier.
00:32:06No, no, no, no, no.
00:32:07Look.
00:32:09I'm apologizing for earlier.
00:32:10I didn't mean to interrupt you like that.
00:32:12But listen, there's no need to apologize, okay?
00:32:15My work is meant to be spoken about.
00:32:18And you challenged my eye.
00:32:20But I like that.
00:32:21Okay.
00:32:22Mm-hmm.
00:32:22Well, I just came over to, you know, tell you how much I love the conversation tonight.
00:32:28Mm-hmm.
00:32:28Especially how you find your subjects.
00:32:31Oh.
00:32:33Connection.
00:32:33Oh, yeah, the connection.
00:32:34Yeah, yeah.
00:32:35That is so powerful.
00:32:36And I bet that connection takes you all over the place as a photographer.
00:32:42Where are you from?
00:32:44What?
00:32:44You don't hear the Nola accent, baby?
00:32:49A little bit of that, but no, I haven't seen you before.
00:32:52Oh, so you remember all your fans.
00:32:54I get it.
00:32:54Oh, wow.
00:32:55She's a fan.
00:32:56Oh.
00:32:56Oh, now I've made it.
00:32:58Forget about it.
00:32:59No.
00:32:59I got fans for you.
00:33:01Okay, okay.
00:33:02I'm actually from North Carolina.
00:33:04Right.
00:33:04I'm just here for about a month, hanging out with my daughter, helping her out, because
00:33:08she's going to make me a grandmother.
00:33:10Really?
00:33:11Yeah.
00:33:11Wow.
00:33:12All right.
00:33:12Well, congratulations on that.
00:33:14Thanks.
00:33:15And I'm assuming that her father is still back in North Carolina?
00:33:20He is.
00:33:21Oh, okay.
00:33:23So, how are you enjoying New Orleans so far?
00:33:26Oh.
00:33:26I've eaten my way through the French Quarter, and I drank so many daiquiris, more than I
00:33:33have in my entire life.
00:33:34And I found this gallery that has helped me remember how much I love art.
00:33:40Right.
00:33:41Yeah.
00:33:43I don't know if it's the history or the liquor, but this city definitely has a way of helping
00:33:49you find yourself again.
00:33:51Well, let me tell you something.
00:33:52You're going to have to get your behind out of the French Quarter in order to really see
00:33:56how this city gets down.
00:33:59Is that right?
00:34:03Do you like crawfish?
00:34:12All right.
00:34:13Nice.
00:34:14Ah, gosh.
00:34:15Oh, I'm sorry about the wind, okay?
00:34:18It's okay.
00:34:18It's okay.
00:34:18I got something for you.
00:34:20Hold on a second.
00:34:20Hold on.
00:34:21I got you.
00:34:21Don't worry.
00:34:22Don't worry.
00:34:23Yeah.
00:34:23Oh, no, no, no, no.
00:34:24I can't take your hat.
00:34:25No, it's okay.
00:34:26I'll buy another one.
00:34:27It's yours.
00:34:28That's you.
00:34:30My gift to you.
00:34:31Oh, thank you.
00:34:32All right?
00:34:33My brother, good to see you as always.
00:34:35I'll see you next time.
00:34:38You know, when I first got here, I went looking for the best crawfish in town all over the
00:34:44city.
00:34:44I happened to stumble upon these old heads sitting in front of a corner store playing
00:34:48dominoes.
00:34:49They told me about this cat.
00:34:51Oh, okay.
00:34:51It's beautiful.
00:34:53I knew you'd like it.
00:34:57Anyway, you moved here from Chicago, right?
00:35:01Yeah.
00:35:02Well, I grew up on the south side, but I lived in Brooklyn, Miami, Berlin, Johannesburg,
00:35:09among other places, and now I'm here for now.
00:35:13What you laughing at?
00:35:14What's that giggling about?
00:35:15No.
00:35:16You know what?
00:35:16I just got this new book, Art and Travel, right?
00:35:20And it mentions all the cities that you just talked about, and it's just, you know, you
00:35:25artists.
00:35:26You live like nomadic lifestyle.
00:35:28What a life.
00:35:29Well, I love capturing the beauty in the world, you know?
00:35:32I don't like to feel like I'm missing out on anything.
00:35:38This smells delicious.
00:35:40I could eat ten of these.
00:35:42Mm-hmm.
00:35:45And you have no idea what the hell you're doing, do you?
00:35:48What?
00:35:49You don't see these skills?
00:35:50I see you struggling.
00:35:51Give me this thing.
00:35:52Let me show you how to do it.
00:35:53Fine.
00:35:54Now, look at this.
00:35:54This is very simple.
00:35:55You just grab the head like this, okay?
00:35:57Yeah.
00:35:57Then you just do a nice little simple twist and pull.
00:36:00You see that?
00:36:01Okay.
00:36:02Professionals like me, we suck the head.
00:36:04Okay.
00:36:05Oh, damn.
00:36:06Look at you dribbling.
00:36:07Look what you made me do.
00:36:08I'm trying to teach you some stuff, and look what you made me do.
00:36:12That's you.
00:36:12You're crazy.
00:36:14Oh, man.
00:36:15You got me jammed up out here.
00:36:17Looking crazy.
00:36:21Well, listen, while we're making a mess, I got another question for you to answer.
00:36:24Oh, boy, what?
00:36:26How long have you been married?
00:36:29Um, a long time.
00:36:32Would you care to elaborate?
00:36:35I'm sorry.
00:36:36We don't have to talk about this.
00:36:37No, it's cool.
00:36:38It's cool.
00:36:39You know, marriage could start out with all the spark,
00:36:42and plans, and dreams, and then life happens, and then here come the kids,
00:36:50and the bills, and the routine, and then silence.
00:36:58But my husband is, my husband's a good guy.
00:37:02Oh, I'm sure.
00:37:03That's not what I mean.
00:37:03I'm sure.
00:37:04Like, he is an amazing father, and he's a hard worker, and he gave me the best job in the
00:37:10world,
00:37:10being somebody's mother.
00:37:12I bet you're a great mother.
00:37:15Yeah, you know, my kids are terrific kids.
00:37:17I don't know.
00:37:18I don't think I'm much of a family guy.
00:37:20My work and my career, they keep me pretty fulfilled.
00:37:25That doesn't ever get lonely?
00:37:27It does not.
00:37:28Oh.
00:37:30Well, I have friends and extended family all over the world.
00:37:33Ah.
00:37:35Women friends.
00:37:42Of course I do.
00:37:44Well, I mean, you know, I asked because you're the one who said you don't like missing out on things.
00:37:49Yeah, I don't like missing out on things because I have time for everything.
00:37:53I like to focus on the freedom of time and not the stress.
00:37:56The stress of time is what makes people buy into the whole happily ever after type of thing.
00:38:03I don't think it's real.
00:38:04Seriously?
00:38:05I don't.
00:38:06No, I feel like people that feel like...
00:38:08I don't think it is.
00:38:08Listen, I feel like people who think that it's not real are actually just scared.
00:38:13It's a lot of work.
00:38:14It's a lot of work.
00:38:16Look, I was reading this book, this other book,
00:38:20and the main character compares love to a roller coaster.
00:38:24Some people are afraid to get on.
00:38:26Some people are afraid to let go.
00:38:28And then there are some who just are afraid to fall.
00:38:33All right.
00:38:36I feel that.
00:38:37Okay.
00:38:38What you know, in this short conversation we've had, this is the second book you've brought up.
00:38:41Yes, I'm quite astute.
00:38:43Are you a nerd?
00:38:44I'm talking to a nerd.
00:38:46Hold on.
00:38:46You are.
00:38:47No, go ahead.
00:38:47Go ahead.
00:38:48Sorry.
00:38:49Mm-hmm.
00:38:50Oh, it's...
00:38:51Hey, Jeremiah, what's up?
00:38:53No, I just put money into your account two days ago.
00:38:57What are you talking about, babe?
00:38:59Well, you gotta ask your father.
00:39:03No, I'm not putting him on three-way.
00:39:04I'm on a day.
00:39:05But I'm in the middle of something.
00:39:08Yeah, so you call him and then text me and let me know what he says.
00:39:13Okay.
00:39:15Love you, too.
00:39:16Bye.
00:39:17Sorry.
00:39:19Everything good?
00:39:21Everything's great.
00:39:22Mm.
00:39:24You know, I'm starting a new exhibition.
00:39:26Something that's a little bit more personal to me.
00:39:27Really?
00:39:28Yeah?
00:39:29Okay.
00:39:30Tell you the truth, I'm kind of stuck on a couple of pieces.
00:39:32So I figured that maybe after this beautiful sunset, we could go over to the studio and you
00:39:38can give me your thoughts.
00:39:41Because you've got a good eye, all right?
00:39:44And even better than that, you mean what you say.
00:39:49And I respect what you have to say.
00:39:56Come on in, take it all in, drink it all in.
00:39:59Make yourself at home.
00:40:01I'm gonna go and change this shirt because I got the, you know.
00:40:04Oh, yeah, the progress juice.
00:40:06Make yourself at home.
00:40:07I'll be right back.
00:40:24Wow.
00:40:27Did you shoot this on film?
00:40:29Oh, yeah, absolutely.
00:40:31That was a completely spontaneous shot of a mother's son walking on Biloxi Beach.
00:40:40Something special about the way she's holding his hands.
00:40:44It's not just about motherly love.
00:40:47It's her guidance.
00:40:48Exactly.
00:40:49Yeah.
00:40:52This picture's special to me, you know?
00:40:56I didn't really grow up knowing about this kind of love.
00:41:01My relationship with motherhood was more about abandonment than anything else.
00:41:10I grew up in the foster care system.
00:41:14That's where I got my first camera.
00:41:17Wow.
00:41:18I wondered where it all began.
00:41:21Huh.
00:41:22My social worker gave it to me.
00:41:25Tell you the truth.
00:41:29It's probably saved my life.
00:41:31I know it definitely changed it.
00:41:35So let me show you something.
00:41:37Let me show you something.
00:41:38Okay.
00:41:40This is part of a series that I'm showing at the New Orleans Museum of Art to close out my
00:41:45residency.
00:41:46The edit, the sequence, everything that I'm trying to convey is so important here.
00:41:51I see it.
00:41:53I see the connectivity that you talked about, it's not exploitative, it's more celebratory.
00:41:59Right.
00:42:00You see, the goal is to capture the beauty that most people might not see.
00:42:03Yeah, you're really good at that.
00:42:05Why, thank you.
00:42:15What do you see when you see me?
00:42:19How do you do what you do to me?
00:42:28Come on.
00:42:29Okay.
00:42:30Come on.
00:42:31Okay.
00:42:32Come on.
00:42:33Okay.
00:42:34All right.
00:42:38Well, it started with your eyes.
00:42:42And as beautiful as they are, they seem to be carrying a weight of sadness.
00:42:54Do you see what I see?
00:43:01Oh, you're shaking.
00:43:02You all right?
00:43:03Are you cold?
00:43:04I gotta go.
00:43:04Can I get you something?
00:43:05I gotta go.
00:43:21What's going on here?
00:43:24I practice corporate law.
00:43:26It's divorce.
00:43:26It's a whole little beast.
00:43:28And why are you looking into that?
00:43:31Oh, baby, come on.
00:43:32It's not for me.
00:43:33It's for your mom.
00:43:37Mom, why are you talking to Micah about divorce?
00:43:40Nothing is definite, okay?
00:43:43I'm just trying to understand my options.
00:43:46Since when did divorce become an option?
00:43:48Have you and Daddy talked about this?
00:43:49Oh, my God.
00:43:50You really should have been a lawyer asking me all these questions.
00:43:53Your father and I haven't decided anything, okay?
00:43:56I just asked Micah if he could help me understand what it would look like if we did.
00:44:02All these years, and I don't think I have ever seen you without a roller set.
00:44:07Micah, you know my curls won't hold up in this swamp heat.
00:44:12Oh, so that's why you got your shoulders and your back out, too?
00:44:15Mom, what?
00:44:15You don't like my dress?
00:44:17I bought it in a store in a quarter.
00:44:21I mean, you cute or whatever, but...
00:44:23Who are you trying to impress?
00:44:25Nobody!
00:44:26Oh, my God.
00:44:26I gotta go.
00:44:29Micah, thanks for this.
00:44:30Yes, ma'am.
00:44:40No, it's still crooked.
00:44:42I have moved this painting like three times.
00:44:43You sure it's the painting and not your neck?
00:44:47Oh.
00:44:48Hey.
00:44:49Hey.
00:44:51Hey.
00:44:52Hey.
00:44:53As a continuation of helping you explore the real New Orleans,
00:44:56I thought I'd try to excite your taste buds once again.
00:45:00What is this?
00:45:02The beignets?
00:45:03No, they're called calas.
00:45:05It's a popular street food made from the enslaved Africans
00:45:07to purchase their freedom from Spanish.
00:45:09Now, we can't talk about New Orleans food history
00:45:12without talking about those.
00:45:13And Café du Monde could never.
00:45:15You ate that, okay?
00:45:16He told that story, okay?
00:45:19Mmm, this is so good.
00:45:22Oh, that's good.
00:45:33Well, you have a good morning.
00:45:37Peter.
00:45:44Yes?
00:45:45I want to explore more of New Orleans with you.
00:45:52Really?
00:45:54Yeah.
00:45:58So, I'm just staring at this Bob Barker-looking type dude.
00:46:02Uh-uh.
00:46:02Like, what the hell are you going to do with a five-foot image
00:46:05of a brother from the Ninth Ward with gold fronts
00:46:07and a pit bull named Nipsey?
00:46:09Exactly!
00:46:11See, sometimes these white collectors
00:46:13who are drawn to black aesthetics
00:46:15completely ignore the history and the context.
00:46:18And that's why sometimes I had a little reparations fee on the hands.
00:46:21I know that's right.
00:46:23You know, I wanted to ask you,
00:46:25what made you walk away from the art world?
00:46:28Oh, okay.
00:46:29Well, during my last year in college,
00:46:30I got pregnant with Kayla.
00:46:32And after that,
00:46:34the closest thing I ever came to the art world
00:46:36was working at the framing department
00:46:38at my local craft store.
00:46:43But then I quit once I had the baby
00:46:45because my husband thought it was a better idea
00:46:48for me to stay at home while he brought home the money.
00:46:51And how'd you feel about that?
00:46:53I was completely fine with it at the time
00:46:55because I've always wanted to be a mother.
00:46:57I just didn't know what kind of a full-time job
00:47:00it was going to be.
00:47:01I mean, what girl knows that at that age, though?
00:47:04And look at you now.
00:47:06Yeah, see?
00:47:07Look at me now.
00:47:07I'm working at the gallery.
00:47:09I feel like I'm getting that old thing back, you know.
00:47:15So, over the years,
00:47:17did you find yourself longing for anything else?
00:47:22I mean, of course.
00:47:25But when I made the decision
00:47:27to be a wife and a mother,
00:47:29all the other choices just seemed selfish.
00:47:32Oh, so you chose to abandon your wants and desires
00:47:37because they felt selfish.
00:47:43I chose to make the best decision for me
00:47:48and my family and my marriage.
00:47:52I feel you.
00:47:53I'm just saying, you being here, though,
00:47:56it's kind of like you're starting to awaken
00:47:59those abandoned wants and desires.
00:48:03Yeah, in a way.
00:48:06I never got a chance to travel.
00:48:09So, I really want to explore art all over the world.
00:48:16What else do you want?
00:48:19What are you really trying to ask me?
00:48:23When was the last time someone made love to you?
00:48:35It's been a while.
00:48:38Look, if you want me to stop, I'll stop, okay?
00:48:40I don't want to be invasive, if I'll stop.
00:48:42No one said that.
00:48:53It's been about three years and some change.
00:48:59Who was the position?
00:49:03Missionary.
00:49:06Were you satisfied?
00:49:11It was fine.
00:49:14Dance with me.
00:49:18Okay.
00:49:22Bye.
00:49:44You know I love the way you bite me, too.
00:49:57I want to photograph you.
00:50:07We'll see.
00:50:14Mark, you can just hit that mark.
00:50:16Okay.
00:50:17Okay?
00:50:18And just relax.
00:50:19Just take it easy.
00:50:22Photography, as you already know,
00:50:27is all about trust.
00:50:37Only, if my subjects feel safe,
00:50:41do they truly
00:50:45let their essence shine through.
00:50:53So, the question is,
00:50:57do you trust me?
00:51:04Do you trust me?
00:51:07Do you trust me?
00:51:20Do you trust me?
00:51:22You make me want to live again.
00:51:40That's beautiful.
00:51:42Beautiful.
00:51:46All right.
00:51:48All right, I'm gonna go get a couple of things, okay?
00:51:51Just relax.
00:51:52I'll be right back.
00:51:57Let's try a little something like this.
00:52:01Very nice.
00:52:02Very nice.
00:52:02Let me just move.
00:52:03Your hair there.
00:52:06Looks beautiful.
00:52:07Put this on you.
00:52:09Just size this up here.
00:52:11Make sure we're back there.
00:52:19Make sure that fits really good.
00:52:22How bad does that feel?
00:52:40You make me want to live again.
00:52:43You make me want to try again.
00:52:47You make me want to love again.
00:52:49Again and again and again
00:52:53You make me want to live again
00:52:55You make me want to try again
00:52:59You make me want to love again
00:53:02And again and again and again
00:53:12Mom?
00:53:15Oh, hey
00:53:17What are you still doing up?
00:53:21Well, baby girl here decided to start doing the electric sliders
00:53:24I was trying to go to bed
00:53:25So Micah ordered us some food
00:53:27And we watched a couple episodes of Real Housewives
00:53:29That's nice
00:53:30Yeah, that is nice
00:53:31Hold on
00:53:32You look mighty snazzy
00:53:34What did you have going on tonight?
00:53:35Oh, that was an event at the gallery
00:53:38Must have been some kind of event
00:53:41Doesn't feel like you were a five-inch heel
00:53:43Which is why I need to go lay down
00:53:45So good night
00:54:09Good morning
00:54:10Morning
00:54:12I picked you up a little something
00:54:15Because I was wondering about how you felt about last night
00:54:21Because I know things are a little complicated right now
00:54:24So
00:54:26They are
00:54:28I know
00:54:32Um, but I, um
00:54:35I thought last night
00:54:39Was a perfect evening
00:54:44Oh yeah
00:54:47It's all right
00:54:49It's all right
00:54:50It's all right
00:54:51To love on you
00:54:53It's all right
00:54:55It's all right
00:54:57To just be true
00:54:58Going on a ride
00:55:01I wanna feel the sun on my nose
00:55:05Feel my inner light
00:55:08Feel the freedom all in my soul
00:55:11Got my head
00:55:13Got my head flowing
00:55:13Got my mind free
00:55:15Music stay pumping
00:55:17Off of me
00:55:18Don't let the day go away
00:55:21Without a thinking to yourself
00:55:23Baby
00:55:23Yeah
00:55:25It's all right
00:55:27It's all right
00:55:29It's all right
00:55:29To love on you
00:55:32It's all right
00:55:34It's all right
00:55:35To just be true
00:55:38It's all right
00:55:40It's all right
00:55:41To love on you
00:55:44And just be you
00:55:51Okay then
00:55:53She been out here
00:55:55Messing with that book too
00:55:56Come here
00:55:58Aw, these are so cute
00:56:01They take y'all nowhere
00:56:02Right, right, right
00:56:03Miss Joy
00:56:04I love Miss Joy
00:56:06There you go, baby
00:56:10Oh my goodness
00:56:11This is so cute
00:56:12Aunt Charmaine
00:56:13And it's by
00:56:14Black-owned company
00:56:15Okay, come on
00:56:16Yes, yes, yes
00:56:18I gotta thank you
00:56:19Okay, okay
00:56:20Okay
00:56:22Hold on
00:56:25Hey, Daddy
00:56:27I miss you
00:56:28Miss you guys too
00:56:29I know your mama's over there
00:56:31Holding it down
00:56:32Uh, yeah
00:56:35Hi, Ross
00:56:37Hi, Valerie
00:56:38Look at you
00:56:39You've always been
00:56:40The hostess with the mostest
00:56:41Yeah, well
00:56:42You know me
00:56:43I do
00:56:48All right then
00:56:48Listen, I'm gonna get ready
00:56:50To go to the gym
00:56:51Um
00:56:52Okay, Daddy
00:56:53Enjoy your workout
00:56:54I love you
00:56:55I'll call you later
00:56:56Bye, Ross
00:56:57Hold on
00:56:58Are those biceps
00:57:00And triceps
00:57:01I see
00:57:02I see
00:57:02I see
00:57:14Val
00:57:14Are you okay?
00:57:20I'm having an affair
00:57:23What?
00:57:24I knew it
00:57:25With who?
00:57:26This
00:57:26This man
00:57:27This photographer
00:57:28I met out here
00:57:29When did this happen
00:57:31And where did you meet him?
00:57:33At the gallery
00:57:33I met him at the gallery
00:57:34And it's very new
00:57:35And oh my God
00:57:36I'm just so happy
00:57:37I could finally tell someone
00:57:39Okay, okay
00:57:40But I just wanna know
00:57:40How did we go from
00:57:42Moving out here
00:57:42To help Kayla
00:57:44To laying low
00:57:45And spreading it wide?
00:57:46Shut up, okay?
00:57:47I just wanna know
00:57:48How low did you go?
00:57:49And I wanna know
00:57:50Everything about it
00:57:50Uh, can we start
00:57:51With the photo
00:57:52Of this man
00:57:53Yes
00:57:53Look, look, look, look
00:57:58Oh, baby
00:57:59He paid rent
00:58:00Oh, God
00:58:02It's been amazing
00:58:05I never knew
00:58:06My body could feel like this
00:58:07And you guys
00:58:08This man
00:58:09This man
00:58:10Can go all night
00:58:11Mwah
00:58:12Is he on the pill?
00:58:14He doesn't need it
00:58:15Oh, bitch
00:58:18And it's not just the sex
00:58:20You guys
00:58:20It's not just the sex
00:58:21He sees me
00:58:23He makes me feel like
00:58:25I exist outside
00:58:26Of just being a wife
00:58:27And a mother
00:58:28And
00:58:30The more I'm around him
00:58:32The more I remember
00:58:34Who I am
00:58:35And
00:58:36Who I was before
00:58:38And it's not just that
00:58:39It's the city
00:58:41It's
00:58:41New Orleans
00:58:42And
00:58:43It just makes you feel alive
00:58:44And it's the music
00:58:45And the art
00:58:46And the people
00:58:47And the joy
00:58:47Okay, I hear you, sis
00:58:49But what you gonna do
00:58:50When Ross finds out?
00:58:51Or the kids?
00:58:53Donna
00:58:53Can you please
00:58:54Stop being a hater?
00:58:55No, I am being a friend
00:58:56Look, if any of her friends
00:58:58Should be traumatized
00:58:59By her having an affair
00:58:59It should be me
00:59:00Men do this all the time
00:59:02And get away with it, okay?
00:59:04If Van wanna be selfish
00:59:05For once in her life
00:59:06That'll be it
00:59:07And
00:59:08Damn them kids
00:59:09Are you still
00:59:10Considering a divorce?
00:59:14I don't know
00:59:15I'm not sure
00:59:16Okay, well good
00:59:17So at least you also
00:59:19Don't see this affair
00:59:20Going anywhere
00:59:21Can I just live
00:59:22In a moment for once?
00:59:24Donna, damn
00:59:25Sis, I am not
00:59:26Trying to talk you
00:59:27Into an empty bed
00:59:28What you're doing
00:59:29Is dangerous
00:59:31Look
00:59:32I just want you
00:59:33To be careful
00:59:35Are you scared
00:59:36At all
00:59:36About this?
00:59:39Of course I'm scared
00:59:43Something
00:59:44Okay
00:59:44Oh, okay
00:59:48Yes, yes, right on time
00:59:50So give me a second
00:59:51Let me go get my jacket
00:59:52All right
01:00:00Wow
01:00:02Hold on a second
01:00:05Wardrobe malfunction
01:00:07You know, I almost put those in the exhibition tonight
01:00:09No, you didn't
01:00:11Take it easy
01:00:12Those are from my personal archives
01:00:14Come on, help me out here, please
01:00:15I am, I am, I am
01:00:16Oh, boy
01:00:17What's going on?
01:00:18Are you nervous?
01:00:19I'm always nervous before these
01:00:21What?
01:00:22Yeah, ma'am
01:00:22The great Peter mostly is nothing
01:00:25Yeah, that guy
01:00:28God, you're just so
01:00:30I don't know
01:00:31I'm just not used to
01:00:33A man being vulnerable about his feelings
01:00:36What?
01:00:38Oh, yeah
01:00:38You talking to a thug from the south side of Chicago
01:00:40You better recognize
01:00:43No, but seriously
01:00:47Looking forward to
01:00:50Introducing you to quite a few people tonight
01:00:52Especially the museum director
01:00:53They're always looking for strong curators such as yourself
01:00:57Thank you
01:00:58I appreciate that
01:00:59No, thank you
01:01:01For being my date tonight
01:01:02It's my honor
01:01:04Me too
01:01:05Come on
01:01:06Thank you
01:01:07Let's get out of here
01:01:08You look beautiful
01:01:13I fell in love with you
01:01:22Here we are
01:01:23Excuse us
01:01:24Pardon me
01:01:25Thank you
01:01:25How you doing?
01:01:27Wow
01:01:27Are you impressed yet?
01:01:29I am very impressed
01:01:30That's what I want to hear
01:01:31This is amazing
01:01:32I know that guy
01:01:33Oh, you do?
01:01:34I do
01:01:34Me too
01:01:35Cool dude
01:01:39Oh, hey
01:01:41Excuse me
01:01:42All right
01:01:43Oh, hey
01:01:44How you doing?
01:01:45Baby, just give me
01:01:45No, no, no
01:01:46One minute
01:01:46No, go
01:01:47Okay
01:01:47I'll be right back
01:01:48Go
01:01:53Ooh
01:01:53You got to be so great
01:01:55Oh, Jacoby
01:01:56I'm so glad you're here
01:01:58Oh, my God
01:01:59You look amazing
01:02:01Thank you
01:02:01I like that hat
01:02:03So you have a hat for every occasion
01:02:04I actually do
01:02:05You know, because at an event like this
01:02:06A good hat shouldn't just compliment the look
01:02:08It should start the conversation
01:02:09I like that
01:02:10I know
01:02:11My husband likes hats too
01:02:12Oh, okay
01:02:13Well, shout out to him
01:02:14Yeah
01:02:14Mm-hmm
01:02:15So, uh, who you came here with?
01:02:18Oh, um, yeah, Mr. Mosley invited me
01:02:22Oh, that's right
01:02:24Oh, by the way
01:02:26So, we might have secured this, like, painting that my mother really loved from this artist
01:02:30out in Treme
01:02:30So
01:02:30Oh, wow
01:02:31Fingers crossed
01:02:32We get to add it to the gallery
01:02:33I'll just be
01:02:33That's incredible
01:02:34Yeah, yeah
01:02:35I know how much that means to you
01:02:37Yeah
01:02:37Yeah
01:02:38Uh-huh
01:02:38Yeah
01:02:43You're good
01:02:44Okay
01:02:44Go ahead
01:02:44Sorry, sorry, sorry
01:02:46No, go ahead and go
01:02:48Mm-hmm
01:02:49Oh, thank you
01:02:49But you know, okay
01:02:50I'm glad you showed up
01:02:51Oh, look, hey
01:02:53Hi
01:02:53Danny
01:02:55Kenya
01:02:55This is my new intelligent art friend, Valerie
01:02:58Hi
01:02:59Hi
01:03:00Uh, yeah, I'm the intelligent art friend
01:03:04Uh, how do you guys know each other?
01:03:08We used to date
01:03:10Really?
01:03:12Okay, um, at the same time?
01:03:15Technically, but Danny and I didn't know
01:03:17Um, now we're together
01:03:21Hmm
01:03:22Oh
01:03:25Oh, hey, Glenn, what's up, man?
01:03:28Hi
01:03:28How you doing?
01:03:29Good to see you
01:03:30Oh, my gosh, we need a photo
01:03:31Yes
01:03:31Oh, yeah, let's do that
01:03:33Let's knock it out
01:03:34Good to see you, brother
01:03:35Yeah
01:03:38Thank you once again
01:03:39It's a beautiful event
01:03:40Thank you
01:03:40Oh, sorry, baby
01:03:42And once again, I'm sorry
01:03:43I couldn't introduce you to Glenn
01:03:45You know, these things get a little crazy
01:03:47But I'm sure I can set up some coffee
01:03:48Or lunch or something like that
01:03:49Sure
01:03:50I'll tell you the truth
01:03:51I really don't even like this stuff
01:03:53The photos, the smoozing
01:03:54It's not really my style
01:03:55Okay, do you always date multiple women
01:03:57At the same time?
01:03:58Oh
01:04:00Hey
01:04:00Thank you for coming
01:04:06All right, listen
01:04:07Listen, listen, listen
01:04:08Hey, hey, hey
01:04:08Wait a second
01:04:09Wait a second
01:04:11If you're asking me
01:04:13If I practice non-monogamy
01:04:15Then the answer is yes
01:04:17I guess I shouldn't be so surprised
01:04:19Coming from the man
01:04:21Who doesn't like to miss out on anything
01:04:22What is this?
01:04:23This
01:04:23I
01:04:24This right here
01:04:26Really isn't going anywhere, is it?
01:04:28Al, look
01:04:28Let's go outside
01:04:29Let's talk with you
01:04:30Am I right?
01:04:31It's not going anywhere
01:04:35Why don't you answer your own question?
01:04:37You're the one that's married
01:04:39Don't act like you care now
01:04:41Don't do that
01:04:42You're coming at me like this
01:04:43Because I haven't judged you
01:04:44Really?
01:04:45Really
01:04:45Let me tell you something
01:04:46I'm surprised you're still allowing this trauma
01:04:48To lead your life
01:04:50Trauma?
01:04:51Trauma
01:04:51You can't even commit to one city
01:04:54Let alone one woman
01:04:55Because the little boy inside
01:04:56Feels abandoned by his mother
01:04:57And you're too grown
01:04:58My mother
01:04:59And you're too old
01:04:59To act like that
01:05:01This coming from a woman
01:05:01Who can't decide whether to mail off
01:05:03Divorce papers
01:05:04Or keep writing me
01:05:05You know what the difference is
01:05:07Between you and I?
01:05:07No, listen, do you?
01:05:08Do you know what the difference is?
01:05:10The difference is
01:05:10I know who I am
01:05:13And you're too damn old
01:05:14To be deciding who you are
01:05:15Right now
01:05:23Yes, Micah
01:05:27Hello?
01:05:27Hey, Mama V
01:05:28Hey, it's happening
01:05:28Baby's coming
01:05:29Oh, my God
01:05:30Okay, I'm on my way
01:05:31To the hospital right now, okay?
01:05:33Okay, bye
01:05:33All right, look
01:05:34Let's
01:05:34Let me take you to the hospital
01:05:36We can talk about this in the car
01:05:37No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no
01:05:38This old lady
01:05:40Can call her own car
01:05:41Good night
01:05:43Val
01:05:48Yeah, sorry I'm late
01:05:52I thought the first thing was smoking
01:05:53So I
01:05:55Daddy, it's okay
01:05:59Mom, will you hand her to him?
01:06:00Oh, yeah
01:06:04Anaya, meet your granddad
01:06:10Hi, Anaya
01:06:38I know you don't really want any of that, Joe
01:06:43Well, I
01:06:44This is about as good as it gets
01:06:46Since I plan on staying here overnight
01:06:48There's got to be some place
01:06:49Where I hear still open
01:06:54Of course
01:06:56God
01:06:57Jeez
01:07:00Go ahead
01:07:01Thanks
01:07:10Thanks
01:07:13Thanks
01:07:13I guess all that time in the gym is working out for you, huh?
01:07:16Yeah
01:07:18You know, that haircut looked nice on you
01:07:21Oh, thanks
01:07:22I see you got a new tech hat
01:07:25Yeah
01:07:26I had Jeremiah give me a new one
01:07:28I didn't want to know you didn't like the other one
01:07:29Yeah, that thing was awful
01:07:31Look at this, them chips can't do nothing for you
01:07:37Let me take you to get something to eat
01:07:42Okay
01:07:43Okay
01:07:48Let's go downstairs
01:07:50Thanks
01:07:54We drove all over this city
01:07:57Just to end up in some greasy junk food spot on bourbon
01:07:59What the hell is a boudin ball?
01:08:02I don't know
01:08:04You picked this place
01:08:05It was the only place that was open?
01:08:08And can you please cut a brother some slack?
01:08:12I mean, we are celebrating
01:08:15What are we celebrating, Ross?
01:08:19Being grandparents
01:08:23Well, in that case
01:08:25Can we have two hand grenades, please?
01:08:29When the hell you start drinking like that?
01:08:31Les et le bontot roulet
01:08:34It means like the cathedral
01:08:37That was kind of sexy
01:08:39What?
01:08:40No way
01:08:41You know I told Jeremiah about that hot top thing you used to rock
01:08:46Then two weeks later
01:08:47I tried to put a texturizer in that thing
01:08:50And it was awful
01:08:51It was awful
01:08:53Do you hear me?
01:08:54Oh, my hair fell out
01:08:55Because I'm trying to impress you
01:08:56Oh, uh-uh
01:08:57Do not blame me for that
01:08:59I'm not taking a blame
01:09:01That was the same night as Mary J. Blige's concert
01:09:04Oh, my 19th birthday
01:09:06I picked you up in Betty
01:09:08Betty
01:09:09And she broke down on the side of the road
01:09:11Hey, hey, hey, now
01:09:13I bought that cassette in the deck
01:09:16I gave you a concert
01:09:18You did, you did
01:09:20Get it
01:09:21All I really want
01:09:23Hey, hey
01:09:24To be happy
01:09:25Get it
01:09:26Is to find a love
01:09:27They all looking at you
01:09:29Look at everybody
01:09:30Looking at you
01:09:31Just don't take no pictures
01:09:35Ain't gonna take no pictures
01:09:36And that night
01:09:39I told Jamie
01:09:42Do whatever I can
01:09:43To get this girl
01:09:48How is your brother?
01:09:50Him and Stephanie
01:09:51Getting a divorce
01:09:52Oh, no
01:09:54Yeah, he, uh
01:09:56He stayed at the house
01:09:57For a few weeks
01:09:59I had enough room
01:10:03Well, I'm
01:10:04Glad that
01:10:06You were there for your brother
01:10:08I'm sure you guys
01:10:09Got some bonding time
01:10:10And
01:10:11Broke open a couple of beers
01:10:13Worked on Betty
01:10:14Actually
01:10:16I ain't touched Betty
01:10:17Since you left
01:10:21Divorce seems so sad
01:10:25It's like
01:10:27Losing a leg
01:10:30And waking up in the morning
01:10:31And reaching for it
01:10:32And it just ain't there no more
01:10:39I think we need another
01:10:40Hey, can we have two more?
01:10:42You don't drink more than me
01:10:43I might have an easy night
01:10:46Oh, shut up
01:10:50Just shut up
01:10:51Wait, wait, wait, wait
01:10:53I need help
01:10:54Okay, come on
01:10:57Okay
01:10:57Okay, what's all it is?
01:11:01You know I've been in the gym
01:11:05Shit
01:11:06Shit
01:11:17I speak your love language
01:11:27What are you burning?
01:11:29Shit
01:11:30Shit
01:11:34Shit
01:11:35Shit
01:11:36Shit
01:11:36Shit
01:11:36Shit
01:11:36Shit
01:11:37Shit
01:11:37Shit
01:11:37Shit
01:11:37Shit
01:11:37Shit
01:11:38Shit
01:11:38Shit
01:11:38Shit
01:11:39Shit
01:11:39Shit
01:11:42Shit
01:11:42Shit
01:11:44Shit
01:11:45Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh.
01:12:03Ah.
01:12:13Mom, you OK?
01:12:15Oh, yeah, honey, I'm fine.
01:12:17The nurse came in while you were asleep.
01:12:21That man is driving you nuts, huh?
01:12:25Your father and I, we...
01:12:28We're still figuring out our stuff.
01:12:30I'm talking about the photographer, Mom.
01:12:35How...
01:12:39How did you know about that?
01:12:40Well, after watching you stumbling in the house
01:12:42all hours of the night, I had to see what was up.
01:12:45So I asked that guy you work with at the gallery.
01:12:47Oh, my God.
01:12:49Mom, he didn't want to say anything.
01:12:51I just...
01:12:52I made him.
01:12:54I'm sorry.
01:12:57No, no.
01:12:59Oh, no.
01:13:03I'm really sorry.
01:13:05No, no.
01:13:07Oh, no.
01:13:18I'm really sorry.
01:13:18No, don't do that.
01:13:19You know that I share a secret of my own.
01:13:23I never told you this, but, um, during that first year, we split up for a bit.
01:13:32And during that time, I received the most random message on social media from...
01:13:40Christian Mitchell.
01:13:41Oh, my God.
01:13:42Yes.
01:13:45I haven't heard that meme in a long time.
01:13:47Exactly.
01:13:48Yeah.
01:13:50He started liking all these pictures and telling me how good I looked.
01:13:56But then I went to his page, and he was looking good, too, Ma.
01:14:04After a few messages, I ended up meeting up with him.
01:14:09We started talking about high school and life after.
01:14:14Before I knew it, I was feeling 16 again.
01:14:18Christian felt like the perfect escape from the chokehold I felt my marriage was.
01:14:26But then I started having doubts.
01:14:29That this spontaneous rekindling would survive over time.
01:14:34That eventually, the issues I was dealing with with Micah would show up with Christian.
01:14:40Yeah.
01:14:42Then I remember my therapist comparing the situation to a theme park.
01:14:48Sure, it's exciting.
01:14:51But you can't live there.
01:14:54You cannot substitute romance for true love.
01:15:01I believe that learning how to love yourself will make it easier to love the one you're with.
01:15:11Whoever that is.
01:15:16Come here.
01:15:23Oh, God.
01:15:29And when did you become the mother?
01:15:38Hey!
01:15:39Strawberry Dax.
01:15:41You made it back, huh?
01:15:42Yeah.
01:15:43Nice top.
01:15:46You, too.
01:15:48The city really got a hold of you, huh?
01:15:50Yeah, it certainly has.
01:16:03Yes, indeed.
01:16:05I guess that three-year drought is over, huh?
01:16:07Oh, God.
01:16:09Hey!
01:16:12All right, now.
01:16:16Val, let me just start by saying-
01:16:17Wait, wait, wait, wait.
01:16:18Can you just give me a sec?
01:16:19I just have to say one thing, okay?
01:16:22Okay.
01:16:23Okay.
01:16:26So, the other night was a culmination of a few things, but mostly, it was like, the woman that I
01:16:35was running away from, and the woman that I'm becoming, collided at that event.
01:16:43And instead of fighting with you, I really should have been thanking you.
01:16:50Look, I came here to be with my daughter, and then, here you come.
01:16:57And you showed me a part of me that I didn't know was still there.
01:17:03You gave me the space to remember who I was.
01:17:07It has been such a gift to me.
01:17:11Val, um, you have to understand that you've been a gift to me, too.
01:17:19You know, I haven't been able to shake what you told me.
01:17:23You told me that, um, some people were afraid to fall.
01:17:30I don't want to be afraid with you.
01:17:43I don't want you to come to Paris with me.
01:17:48Why not start the journey now?
01:17:51Think about it, it'll be just like here.
01:17:54The art, the, uh, the food, the culture.
01:17:57What about my family?
01:17:59Like, I can't just move across the world.
01:18:02And why can't you?
01:18:04I mean, look at what you're building for yourself.
01:18:07You yourself said that you've never traveled before.
01:18:11Think about it, this is the beginning.
01:18:14You're doing something that's just for you, finally.
01:18:24Let's explore another magical city.
01:18:28Together.
01:18:49Now come home with me.
01:18:52Look, there's a lot I didn't say last night.
01:18:57You know, it could have been the, um...
01:19:00Hand grenades.
01:19:01Those.
01:19:02Yeah.
01:19:05And when you mentioned Betty last night,
01:19:08I didn't tell you a thought I had about her.
01:19:13I've been working on that car for almost 30 years.
01:19:17And it seems like every time I would fix something on it,
01:19:20something else would break.
01:19:24And after all those years, no matter what,
01:19:26I didn't give up on it.
01:19:28I didn't get rid of it.
01:19:29I just, I just kept working on it.
01:19:32And Val, I don't want to give up on you.
01:19:35And I really don't want you to give up on me.
01:19:39I mean, I, I, at my age,
01:19:42I didn't know how to tell you what was going on with me
01:19:47regarding my...
01:19:49Oh my God.
01:19:51Ross, this isn't just about sex.
01:19:55I wanted love.
01:19:56I wanted you.
01:19:57You know what it was like?
01:19:58It was like, it was like,
01:20:00I was grieving you.
01:20:01I was grieving the old you.
01:20:02You didn't want to fix any of the issues in our marriage.
01:20:05And you know what else?
01:20:06The day that I left you, you didn't even ask me to stay.
01:20:10Val, do you hear me?
01:20:11I...
01:20:12I am here.
01:20:16And I'm sorry.
01:20:20Listen.
01:20:23When you stood in front of that vending machine,
01:20:26my life flashed before my eyes.
01:20:31I mean, even, even now, seeing the version of the woman
01:20:34you always wanted to be.
01:20:37And I always thought we were too old to be anything
01:20:40other than who we were.
01:20:42Oh my God, here we go.
01:20:42No, but I was wrong.
01:20:47I was wrong about a lot.
01:20:50But I am not wrong about us starting over.
01:20:55I can't start over.
01:20:58I'm not building a relationship in a graveyard.
01:21:01You said it yourself.
01:21:02I'm not the same woman that you married.
01:21:04I still believe you are.
01:21:06No, I'm not.
01:21:07I'm not.
01:21:10And you gotta understand that, Ross.
01:21:12I'm not starting from scratch.
01:21:16I'm starting with all the things that I've learned
01:21:21and that I accept
01:21:23and that I love about myself.
01:21:28And if you really want to make this work,
01:21:30you gotta be willing to love the woman that I am now.
01:21:35What do you need from me?
01:21:43What do you need from me?
01:22:03I don't want to give you directions on how to love me.
01:22:10I want you to find your way to be.
01:22:12I want you to find your way to be.
01:22:12I want you to find your way to make this work.
01:22:41Okay.
01:22:42I want to thank you, Valerie.
01:22:45Now, um, I know I've said this before, but you, you have been an angel.
01:22:51No, no, no.
01:22:53You and your mother are the angels.
01:22:56Look, you helped a 50-something-year-old woman.
01:23:02Remember a dream that she forgot she had, so...
01:23:07I'm the grateful one.
01:23:13How old you say you were?
01:23:14Uh-uh!
01:23:16Have you lost your mind?
01:23:21Okay.
01:23:22I'm glad I see you still learning French.
01:23:24You never know.
01:23:26Well, speaking of, what are we going to do about this box that we have in Paris?
01:23:33Paris?
01:23:34Mm-hmm.
01:23:40You got it?
01:23:41I got it.
01:23:42Okay.
01:23:43Here we go.
01:23:44Uh-uh.
01:23:45All right.
01:23:51Oh, my God.
01:23:54I mean, have you ever looked more beautiful?
01:23:56I mean, have you ever looked more beautiful?
01:24:08Sweet.
01:24:10Wow.
01:24:11Hmm.
01:24:12Yeah, so, we're definitely going to have to add this to the gallery.
01:24:31Wow.
01:24:33I don't think I've seen you more beautiful.
01:24:36Beautiful.
01:24:40You drove all the way down here on a Wednesday.
01:24:44Don't you have work in the morning?
01:24:46I retired, pal.
01:24:54All this time.
01:24:56And you finally did it.
01:24:59At this point in my life, it felt more important to spend my days with someone I care for more
01:25:04than anyone else in the world.
01:25:07Not just because I want to, but because she deserves it.
01:25:16Life wouldn't be life without you.
01:25:20And when I think about spending my life with you, at this age,
01:25:27my only regret is it won't be long enough.
01:25:33I want this next chapter to be something we cherish together.
01:25:43I got my passport.
01:25:44What is that?
01:25:49Oh, my God.
01:25:50I don't know.
01:25:51I mean, I thought maybe we'd go somewhere you've always wanted to go, like, like, pass or something.
01:25:57Oh.
01:25:58Yeah, sure.
01:25:59We'll figure it out.
01:26:04We'll figure it out.
01:26:08You want a ride?
01:26:10Yeah.
01:26:11Let's do that.
01:26:17I saw that Mary's performing at night.
01:26:19You still like Mary, right?
01:26:21Oh, come on.
01:26:23Mary J. Blige, you know that's my girl.
01:26:25I know.
01:26:26I know.
01:26:26No, wait.
01:26:27Is Betty going to make it?
01:26:28Because, you know, she likes to break down.
01:26:30It's only a mile away.
01:26:31She better not.
01:26:32She better not.
01:26:34Time to let go.
01:26:41Sing.
01:26:42All I really want is to be happy.
01:26:47Oh, yeah.
01:26:47If I don't know that's mine, it's a real song to me.
01:26:52Hey.
01:26:53All I really want is to be happy.
01:26:56Make it happen.
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