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Mary J Blige Presents Be Happy
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00:00:05Oh, man.
00:00:07What do you want to do?
00:00:09Get back up.
00:00:15Now, y'all know y'all crazy.
00:00:17Leaving this door open, letting my air out.
00:00:27Hey, hey, hey, hey.
00:00:28Hey, listen to my mojo.
00:00:30Gosh, is it that serious?
00:00:34Kayla, how long are you?
00:00:39I am almost seven months.
00:00:41Ooh, and you still got that cute little shade.
00:00:43That's why I know it's gonna be a girl.
00:00:46Well, we don't know that yet.
00:00:47Girl, you want girls,
00:00:48because when I had them boys, they gave me vertigo.
00:00:51Damn, you ain't got vertigo. Your ass drink too much.
00:00:53Mama, did you bring out your ribs yet?
00:00:55Uh, here you go, babe.
00:00:56Oh, thank you, baby.
00:00:58There you go.
00:00:59Mwah.
00:00:59Mwah.
00:01:00That's a good man, Savannah.
00:01:02Kayla, you really need to go sit down somewhere.
00:01:04It's not good for a pregnant woman to be on her feet like that.
00:01:06Mama, the doctor said in moderation, okay?
00:01:09As long as I'm listening to my body.
00:01:11Okay.
00:01:12Micah's not gonna wanna rub them feet if they're swept up like ham hocks.
00:01:16Mm-hmm.
00:01:17Yeah, that's gonna get you a seat.
00:01:18Come on.
00:01:18That's right.
00:01:19That's right.
00:01:21Whew.
00:01:22Ain't nothing like a man loving on his woman.
00:01:24Mm-hmm.
00:01:24I remember those days.
00:01:26Me too.
00:01:27Mine was living on the barber, the dog walker, the trainer, all my...
00:01:31Ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah.
00:01:32So, Val, what did you and Ross do for your anniversary?
00:01:36Mm-hmm.
00:01:3627 years.
00:01:37I just know it was something special.
00:01:39Mm-hmm.
00:01:40So, um, Ross upgraded our cable and we watched a marathon of Unsolved Mysteries all night long.
00:01:47Okay, wait a damn minute.
00:01:48Okay, hold on, hold on before y'all even get started.
00:01:52Jeremiah is spending the night at somebody's house, and, uh, I already have the champagne
00:01:57and the whipped cream chilling in the refrigerator.
00:02:00Ooh!
00:02:00You're nasty.
00:02:02Oh, crazy.
00:02:03Excuse me, Mama.
00:02:04What?
00:02:04I think it's time to shut the party down on Cheryl's outside talking to Luther Vandross.
00:02:08Okay?
00:02:08It's disgusting.
00:02:09Dad's about to beat somebody up on dominoes.
00:02:10Oh, look at our big college boy.
00:02:13Acting just like his daddy, walking around here like he running things.
00:02:16Listen.
00:02:16Not for long, Aunt Donna.
00:02:18I'm sure Mama and Pops can't wait for me to get out the house and have it to themselves.
00:02:21Uh, boy, you have no idea.
00:02:23Stop it.
00:02:24What is that?
00:02:25I gotta go get your father up here.
00:02:27What?
00:02:28How you think you got here?
00:02:29Mmm.
00:02:38We brought the crystal castle.
00:02:42We brought the crystal castle.
00:02:43It will never be at home.
00:02:45Cause we brought the crystal castle.
00:02:50Castle.
00:02:51Cause we brought the crystal castle.
00:02:53Castle, castle.
00:02:55Castle.
00:03:00Ross.
00:03:05Hey.
00:03:14Um, I'm not feeling well.
00:03:21Oh, um, I thought...
00:03:24Yeah, they had all that food.
00:03:26That beer got my stomach acting crazy.
00:03:28I think it was some collard greens.
00:03:33Collard greens?
00:03:34Yeah, yeah, these.
00:03:35Go on upstairs.
00:03:36Don't wait up for me.
00:03:38Uh-huh.
00:03:48Uh-huh.
00:03:50Uh-huh.
00:03:52Uh-huh.
00:03:52Uh-huh.
00:03:53Uh-huh.
00:03:54Uh-huh.
00:03:55Uh-huh.
00:03:56Uh-huh.
00:04:01Uh-huh.
00:04:05Uh-huh.
00:04:14Uh-huh.
00:04:17Uh-huh.
00:04:23hey good morning do you still plan on fixing the refrigerator it's been two weeks i've got
00:04:28somebody coming to look at it later this week you said that last week
00:04:37okay look there's a um there's a new exhibit at the museum of art that i really wanted to see
00:04:44and
00:04:45i was hoping that maybe you would want to go tonight well you get the tickets i'll be there
00:04:55between you and jeremiah i don't know whose phone i gotta compete with more these days
00:04:59it's micah letting us know that he and kayla landed home in new orleans
00:05:05oh thank god i was really worried about kayla flying in almost seven months
00:05:12leave it to you to stress and worry about stuff you can't control
00:05:19what's wrong with you
00:05:22baby you know i don't like blueberries in my pancakes
00:05:29that's all right i'll stop and get me a breakfast sandwich on the way to work
00:05:37all right later pops
00:05:41boy oh my gosh blue gravy pancakes use your fork
00:05:46can i get some syrup please yes here i'm looking forward to a lot
00:05:51but trading your cooking for ramen noodles every day feels crazy
00:05:58what are you looking forward to maybe i'll find my girl at tech like dad did
00:06:03well i don't know if these new age tech girls got anything like you know your mama had you know
00:06:09not as bad as your mama that was two kids ago and that's when your daddy had a high top
00:06:14fade but okay
00:06:20i like seeing you happy
00:06:24you know it's kind of like a new chapter for the both of us
00:06:27think so
00:06:28yeah
00:06:30maybe you can spend the time doing something you've always wanted to do
00:06:33and not spend the next four years worrying about me
00:06:36i'm your mama
00:06:38i'm gonna worry about you whether you like it or not
00:06:41okay i'm gonna remember that because outside is sending me 500 every month i think i can take it from
00:06:46here
00:06:46500 500 what dollars oh no boy try 250 250 i can work with you
00:06:51okay
00:07:00oh hey ross honey don't worry about parking there's a garage on 8th
00:07:04i'm not gonna make it there's some emergency maintenance that's keeping me stuck at work
00:07:11ross i was really looking forward to this
00:07:13you should still go and enjoy it baby
00:07:16i'm sorry but i gotta run
00:07:31no more
00:07:32no more clippin' my wings down
00:07:36no more holdin' me low down
00:07:40low down
00:07:42again
00:07:47no more
00:07:48no more keepin' me boxed in
00:07:52i'm done blockin' my blessings
00:07:57it's time to let them end
00:07:59time to let them end
00:08:11It's like she's becoming, or maybe she's exploring herself, her solitude, her softness.
00:08:31The version of herself that doesn't have to perform, or prove herself to anyone, looming in her own time, in
00:08:45her own way.
00:08:54Exploring the places helps you remember who you are, and sometimes, who you're still becoming.
00:09:02Becoming.
00:09:04It's like the theme of the day.
00:09:08Damn, Kim, what'd you say you put in this hot girl's summer drink?
00:09:11Some of this and some of that.
00:09:13Oh, see, I'm not messing with Kim.
00:09:14I'm not doing it.
00:09:15No.
00:09:16Here.
00:09:17Cheers to 30 years of friendship, and a new chapter in this book, and a new chapter in Val's life.
00:09:24Yes.
00:09:24Sis, I hope you get everything you want and deserve.
00:09:27To life after motherhood.
00:09:30Yes.
00:09:30Life after motherhood.
00:09:32Yes.
00:09:35Okay, you guys, I am so excited about this book.
00:09:37Girl, forget about that book.
00:09:38Tell us what happened the other night.
00:09:39Oh, right.
00:09:42So, yeah, it didn't happen.
00:09:44Why?
00:09:45He decided to spend his night with Betty instead.
00:09:48Who the hell is Betty?
00:09:49Whoa, whoa, whoa.
00:09:49You mean that old hunk of junk in the garage?
00:09:52I see Rost done lost his damn mind.
00:09:54Have you tried talking to him?
00:09:56Talk?
00:09:56Oh, my gosh.
00:09:58We don't do anything like we used to.
00:10:01We don't laugh like we used to, and we definitely don't have sex like we used to.
00:10:05Okay.
00:10:05The Browns across the street from me started couples therapy when they hit a rough patch,
00:10:09and they seemed to be doing just fine.
00:10:11You talking about that white lady with her white husband?
00:10:12Hold on now, Donna.
00:10:13Kim, didn't you and Lee try counseling before you got a divorce?
00:10:18Yeah, and it was going well, too, until he tried to hump the damn therapist.
00:10:22Oh, hell no.
00:10:23Oh, hell yeah, honey.
00:10:25Lee was a certified freak, but at least therapist let me know why.
00:10:28Mm.
00:10:29Well, I want to know why.
00:10:31Well, sis, it's not your fault, okay?
00:10:33It's called male menopause.
00:10:35Girl, what?
00:10:35Now what?
00:10:36Okay, listen.
00:10:37The brain is the first to go, and then they start wanting to hump everything they see,
00:10:41or their stuff just stops working completely.
00:10:45Is that a real thing?
00:10:46Hell yeah, girl.
00:10:47Yeah, honey, the mood swing, the midlife crisis, them buying cars they can't fit into,
00:10:52and dating women, they know they can't satisfy.
00:10:55Mm-hmm.
00:10:55Now how long that meep stopped working?
00:10:57Kim!
00:11:01It's, okay, it's been, um, three years and 22 days.
00:11:06Bitch!
00:11:07I know!
00:11:08Years?
00:11:08The problem is the man is my husband and the father of my children and the one person
00:11:15that I just do not understand right now.
00:11:19Mm.
00:11:20Well, sis, it sounds like you're not happy.
00:11:22I don't think any of us were raised to be happy wives.
00:11:25We were raised...
00:11:26To work it out.
00:11:27Mm-hmm.
00:11:28My mama used to say, as long as he's not in and out of jail and knocking you upside your
00:11:32head, you got something to be thankful for.
00:11:34Your mama's a liar.
00:11:37That's exactly why I walked up out of my marriage.
00:11:39Well, I want to water my marriage, you guys.
00:11:42I don't want to burn it down.
00:11:44Well, Val, if you want him to change, then you're going to have to bring the ideas to
00:11:48him.
00:11:49So what should I do?
00:11:50I don't want to...
00:11:59I don't want him to be happy.
00:12:25Even though I'm shined up
00:12:27I've been trying to shake this
00:12:28Honey, why you gotta hold the camera at that angle?
00:12:30Val, do you want to take the picture?
00:12:32Let's just take the picture
00:12:33All right, everybody
00:12:34Say tag
00:12:35Tag
00:12:37Babe, can you at least take one pic without that hat?
00:12:41No, I've had this hat since I graduated from this school
00:12:44Yeah, well, while you're here, maybe you can get a new one
00:12:47Mom and dad
00:12:48Hello, baby
00:12:49Mama, baby
00:12:51All right, now?
00:12:52All right, Blake
00:12:53There you go
00:12:54Bye, baby
00:12:55Mommy loves you
00:12:56Okay, okay
00:12:58Call mommy
00:13:01We really have another tech man in the family
00:13:03We do, we do, we do
00:13:05Hey, you want to go over to the Fine Arts Building
00:13:09and see if our names are still on the wall?
00:13:11Val, that was 30 years ago
00:13:12You know they painted over that by now?
00:13:17Door's open
00:13:21And here we are with another timeless army classic
00:13:25Love myself enough to know when it's time
00:13:30Time to let go
00:13:38All I really want is to be happy
00:13:43Find a lot of life that could be so sweet
00:13:46It'll be so sweet
00:13:48All I really want is to be happy
00:13:53Yeah
00:13:53Find a lot of life that could be so sweet
00:13:58Come on, babe
00:13:58Remember I used to blast the radio to stay awake driving home for the holidays?
00:14:02Oh my god
00:14:03I miss this
00:14:04Yeah
00:14:05Folks be sleeping on the radio
00:14:07They still play good music?
00:14:09No, Ross
00:14:10I mean us
00:14:11I miss us, you know, feeling, you know, like a real marriage
00:14:1527 years feels like a real marriage to me
00:14:24Ross, when was the last time you touched me?
00:14:27What kind of question is that?
00:14:30You just said it's been 27 years, right?
00:14:32For the last seven, I feel like I've kind of been living with a roommate
00:14:36Yeah, a roommate who pays the mortgage and all the bills
00:14:38Uh-uh
00:14:39Now, I have tried to get a job for years and you know that
00:14:41But you're the one who wanted me to stay home with the kids cooking and keeping house
00:14:45Yeah, a lot of women would have called that a good life
00:14:47A life without intimacy?
00:14:51Is this about the other night?
00:14:52No, it's not about the other night, Ross
00:14:55It's about us
00:14:57It's about you never wanting to do anything that I want to do
00:15:00I can't even express to you or share with you how I feel
00:15:04And I have no idea how you feel about anything either
00:15:06I feel like this conversation is ridiculous
00:15:11Our kids are finally out of the house
00:15:14And you and I should be together somewhere
00:15:16Enjoying each other
00:15:18Just traveling or sipping on piña coladas at some beach or something
00:15:22What are you talking about?
00:15:24I don't even have a passport because I'm working
00:15:25And that's another thing
00:15:27We've had extensive conversations about early retirement
00:15:30Oh, no, no, no
00:15:31We just dropped Jeremiah off at his freshman year of college
00:15:33And you're talking about early retirement?
00:15:36Oh, this conversation is over
00:15:38Why is it so hard for you to talk to me?
00:15:41Why?
00:15:43You know what?
00:15:44I really, really think we need to see couples counseling
00:15:49Oh, you've really gone off the deep end now
00:15:51What else do I ask you for?
00:15:54You asked for that damn expensive-ass refrigerator
00:15:56That you use, too
00:15:57If I can't do anything right, why are you still with me?
00:16:14You all right?
00:16:17And he got so defensive, he almost wrecked the car
00:16:21Oh, God
00:16:23It's like he doesn't care
00:16:26He could live like this for the rest of his life and be perfectly fine
00:16:30Ugh, Charmaine, girl
00:16:33It's frustrating, girl
00:16:34I know
00:16:36Do you think you could change a marriage?
00:16:39You know, I've been thinking about what Donna said
00:16:42That if we want change, we gotta bring it to our husbands
00:16:46But I don't know if I believe that
00:16:48Because you marry who you marry, right?
00:16:50There isn't anything you ever wanted to change about Charles
00:16:54Of course there is
00:16:55But you can't change nobody
00:16:58You can only change yourself
00:17:01Look, girl, I gotta go
00:17:03Oh, okay
00:17:04Bye
00:17:05Bye
00:17:05Love you
00:17:07Ugh
00:17:35Here you go
00:17:35Just like the ones you grabbed on the way to work
00:17:37Thank you, honey
00:17:38Oh
00:17:43So
00:17:46I scheduled us for a consultation for couples therapy
00:17:51I really think that this will be good for us, Ross
00:17:55Where is all this coming from?
00:17:57Look, Charmaine told me about this couple
00:17:59Charmaine needs to worry about why Charles would rather sit at a slot machine than sit at home
00:18:05I scheduled it for when you get off work today
00:18:08Then you need to cancel it
00:18:09I wanna go, Ross
00:18:11Then go alone
00:18:15I'm not going to therapy
00:18:18That's for crazy people, and we're not crazy
00:18:26I kinda figured you would say something like that
00:18:36You wanna know what's really crazy?
00:18:41Staying here
00:18:45Knowing that you're okay
00:18:48With where we are in our marriage
00:18:52And I know I'm not crazy
00:19:06Ladies and gentlemen
00:19:07Welcome to New Orleans
00:19:14Elder Connections
00:19:14I do love you
00:19:15With where we are now
00:19:25I don't know
00:19:25What can this be done?
00:19:47have you spoken to your father he called and asked about my last appointment look i'm really sorry
00:19:53i don't want to scare you about any of this mom what are you apologizing for
00:19:57look i love you and daddy together but i want you both to be happy plus i'm a big girl
00:20:03now
00:20:04you are a big girl now who can use all the help she can get now that i'm here we
00:20:09can deep clean
00:20:10the house personalize the nursery with pictures and knitted knitted uh blankets why are they so loud
00:20:22come on that's how the city gets down oh well since you have all these ideas maybe you can pencil
00:20:29in
00:20:29some time to explore the magic of the city
00:20:35what does that mean it's what they say around here mama let the good times roll you don't need to
00:20:42roll
00:20:43anything else but that's how you got into this predicament stop it you get yours and you do it
00:20:48too come on yeah yeah yeah
00:20:57morning you hungry i made eggs and dewey sausage and homemade biscuits whoa mama v that looks
00:21:02amazing but i got my own meal prep for breakfast fitness goals oh all right well don't mind me then
00:21:08uh do you know what happened to the blue containers that went here yeah you know what the food was
00:21:12gone bad and all i threw all that out well v that was my meal prep oh well in that
00:21:21case i'll just
00:21:22refill it with the food i made see look at that michael have you seen my yoga mat i can't
00:21:28find it
00:21:29anywhere you know what baby i called myself throwing it in the washing machine and it crumbles into pieces
00:21:34i'll just get you one of those beach towels i saw in the garage might be better for your back
00:21:38anyway
00:21:43where did that pain to come from
00:21:51do you think she's going through a midlife crisis i mean it's all she's ever known for the last 27
00:21:57years wouldn't you i'd probably be out on bourbon street drunk calling you just to take me back
00:22:02yeah well she's the one who left i talked to dad and trust me he is going just as crazy
00:22:10oh yeah
00:22:10i'm sure he misses her folding his underwear into tiny little squares just like she does mine
00:22:15i don't think she knows what else to do with herself right now i think this is the only thing
00:22:20keeping her going oh baby that's sad yeah it is
00:22:27so
00:22:47i don't think so
00:24:01Hello.
00:24:03Bam.
00:24:07Hey.
00:24:08Hello.
00:24:09How you doing?
00:24:12I'm doing all right.
00:24:15You okay?
00:24:19Yeah.
00:24:20I'm doing just, you know, I'm doing okay.
00:24:22When are you coming back?
00:24:24After Kayla has the baby?
00:24:28Something like that.
00:24:29That should give you enough time, right?
00:24:32Enough time for what?
00:24:35Well, figure yourself out and come on home.
00:24:44Yeah.
00:24:45So, Ross, I don't know if I can.
00:24:48Can what?
00:24:50Come back.
00:24:51I gotta go.
00:25:01Come on.
00:25:16Oh, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:25:19I want them to be together.
00:25:21Let's let them stay together.
00:25:23I need to stay together.
00:25:25You doing all right over here?
00:25:27Oh, yeah.
00:25:28Yeah, totally.
00:25:29I think I want another one, but I'm not totally sure that I could feel my legs.
00:25:37Let me get you some water.
00:25:40Okay.
00:25:40You know, people come to New Orleans for all kinds of reasons.
00:25:44Yeah.
00:25:44To heal.
00:25:46To lose themselves.
00:25:48Or to find something they didn't even know they was looking for.
00:25:51What you came for?
00:25:52This is not what it looks like.
00:25:56Hmm.
00:25:58It looked like a woman not from here, going through it in her marriage,
00:26:05and she came to New Orleans to figure some things out.
00:26:10Is it tattooed across my forehead?
00:26:13Does it also say I haven't had sex in three years?
00:26:17Oh, baby, most of us could get that tattoo.
00:26:21Big Kenny, when's the last time you had some?
00:26:25About six, seven years.
00:26:27Oh, Kenny, no.
00:26:29Oh, I thought I had it, man.
00:26:31Next round's on me, Kenny.
00:26:43Welcome in.
00:26:48Oh.
00:26:50You have a Horus Imhater.
00:26:54Oh, yeah.
00:26:56We do.
00:26:56There is something so sacred about the way he sees us.
00:27:02Black people.
00:27:04It's not just pain.
00:27:07There's dignity and humanity.
00:27:12The lines feel very intentional.
00:27:16Wow.
00:27:18That's for some of them.
00:27:19And you have an Aaron F. Henderson.
00:27:22Oh, my God.
00:27:23He is my absolute favorite.
00:27:25I love how he exposes the ways in which history continues to shape our understanding of race and identity.
00:27:34Ugh.
00:27:36Yeah, he was, uh, he was my mom's favorite, too.
00:27:40Well, your mom has very good taste.
00:27:43Uh, do you and your mom run this gallery together?
00:27:47Uh, no.
00:27:48This was, um, her thing before she passed.
00:27:50So, I've been just, you know, trying my best to hold things down.
00:27:54Guess it's my way of keeping her legacy alive.
00:27:56Sorry.
00:27:57Hmm?
00:27:58I'm sure she's very proud of you.
00:28:07Oh, wow.
00:28:10Look at the sadness in his eyes.
00:28:13Really?
00:28:14He always looked happy to me.
00:28:18Sometimes joy is the mask you wear when the weight gets too heavy.
00:28:24Who are you?
00:28:25Where, where are you from?
00:28:27Oh, sorry.
00:28:29North Carolina.
00:28:30Okay.
00:28:31I'm Valerie.
00:28:32Okay, Jacoby.
00:28:33You're an art world?
00:28:34Oh, no.
00:28:35I wouldn't say all that.
00:28:36I, I did major in art in college.
00:28:40Oh, okay.
00:28:40But, you know, life was lifing.
00:28:42Took me in a different direction.
00:28:44But the love, the love is, the love is still there.
00:28:48Yeah.
00:28:48So, uh, are you thinking about jumping back in?
00:28:52Sometimes.
00:28:53But I really wouldn't know where to start, so.
00:28:56Well, um, I, you know, I've been trying to do my best to make sure this place reflects the new
00:29:01New Orleans by scouting local new talent.
00:29:04But, um, this whole curating art thing, I just feel a little out of my league.
00:29:09No, no, no.
00:29:10You did a beautiful job.
00:29:12Yeah.
00:29:12This place really feels like it has soul.
00:29:14Yeah, yeah.
00:29:15But the, the soul, it just needs, it needs structure, you know?
00:29:18Like a vision, an expert.
00:29:24Are you offering me a job?
00:29:34And now here we have a Peter Moseley, and although I'm not deeply familiar with his work, you can see
00:29:41that he definitely has a special way of capturing black women.
00:29:45It doesn't feel like he's just taking a photo.
00:29:48It feels like he's bearing witness without trying to be too radical.
00:29:52I actually find him to be very radical.
00:29:55In a world that either overexposes or erases black women, showing them in their natural state without spectacle seems pretty
00:30:05radical to me.
00:30:07Well, hearing the word radical makes me feel like you're saying that Moseley is trying to convey sex, and it's
00:30:15much, much, much more subtle than that.
00:30:17Yeah, but subtlety is extremely sexy.
00:30:22You actually strike me as someone who understands exactly how powerful that can be.
00:30:28That's good for you.
00:30:29So, for those of you who actually paid for this tour, please go into the other room, there's refreshments, and
00:30:37we have so much more to see.
00:30:44Um, you know your boy's coming back tonight, right?
00:30:47My boy.
00:30:48Who's my boy?
00:30:50Yeah.
00:30:53Something tells me you're gonna be into this.
00:30:59It was really that Chicago 95 collection.
00:31:02It was, that was amazing, right?
00:31:03Like, that's when I was like, I am a fan of Moseley's work.
00:31:06It's incredible.
00:31:07Much obliged, much obliged.
00:31:08Yeah.
00:31:08So, what draws you to a subject?
00:31:13Hm.
00:31:14Wow.
00:31:15That's a, uh, damn good question.
00:31:17Hm.
00:31:18But my portraiture work is only about connection.
00:31:22When I lock eyes with someone, and we have this, I don't know, unspoken understanding, that's when I know.
00:31:35And if they let me in, only for a moment, that's the shot.
00:31:44Oh, he is everything.
00:31:45So, when you say let you in.
00:31:47Uh-huh.
00:31:49Nice to meet you.
00:31:49Pleasure.
00:31:55Hi.
00:31:58Valerie Matthews.
00:32:00Peter Moseley.
00:32:01No.
00:32:01Of course you are.
00:32:03I just wanted to apologize for earlier.
00:32:06No, no, no, no.
00:32:07Look.
00:32:09I'm apologizing for earlier.
00:32:10I didn't mean to interrupt you like that.
00:32:12But listen, there's no need to apologize, okay?
00:32:15My work is meant to be spoken about.
00:32:18And you challenged my eye.
00:32:20But I like that.
00:32:21Okay.
00:32:22Mm-hmm.
00:32:22Well, I just came over to, you know, tell you how much I love the conversation tonight.
00:32:28Mm-hmm.
00:32:29Especially how you find your subjects.
00:32:32Oh.
00:32:33Connection.
00:32:33Oh, yeah, the connection.
00:32:35And it's so powerful.
00:32:36And I bet that connection takes you all over the place as a photographer.
00:32:42Where you from?
00:32:44What?
00:32:44You don't hear the Nola accent, baby?
00:32:49A little bit of that, but no, I haven't seen you before.
00:32:52Oh, so you remember all your fans.
00:32:54I get it.
00:32:54Oh, wow, she's a fan now.
00:32:56Oh.
00:32:56Oh, now I've made it.
00:32:58Forget about it.
00:32:59No.
00:33:00I got fan for you.
00:33:01Okay, okay, I'm actually from North Carolina.
00:33:04Right.
00:33:04I'm just here for about a month, hanging out with my daughter, helping her out, because
00:33:08she's going to make me a grandmother.
00:33:10Really?
00:33:11Yeah.
00:33:11Wow.
00:33:12All right, well, congratulations on that.
00:33:14Thanks.
00:33:15And I'm assuming that her father is still back in North Carolina?
00:33:20He is.
00:33:20Oh, okay.
00:33:23So, uh, how are you enjoying No All Eat so far?
00:33:26Oh.
00:33:27I've eaten my way through the French Quarter, and I drank so many daiquiris, more than I
00:33:33have in my entire life, and I found this gallery that has helped me remember how much I love
00:33:40art.
00:33:40Right.
00:33:41Yeah.
00:33:43I don't know if it's the history or the liquor, but this city definitely has a way
00:33:49of helping you find yourself again.
00:33:51Well, let me tell you something.
00:33:52You're going to have to get your behind out of the French Quarter in order to really see
00:33:56how this city gets down.
00:34:03do you like crawfish?
00:34:12All right.
00:34:13Nice.
00:34:14Ah, gosh.
00:34:15Oh.
00:34:16I'm sorry about the wind, okay?
00:34:18It's okay.
00:34:18It's okay.
00:34:18I got something for you.
00:34:20Hold on a second.
00:34:20Hold on.
00:34:21I got you.
00:34:21Don't worry.
00:34:22Don't worry.
00:34:22Here.
00:34:23Oh, no, no, no, no.
00:34:24I can't take your hat.
00:34:25No.
00:34:25It's okay.
00:34:26I'll buy another one.
00:34:27It's yours.
00:34:28That's you.
00:34:30My gift to you.
00:34:31Oh, thank you.
00:34:32All right?
00:34:33Yeah.
00:34:33My brother, good to see you as always.
00:34:35I'll see you next time.
00:34:38You know, when I first got here, I went looking for the best crawfish in town all over the
00:34:44city.
00:34:44I happened to stumble upon these old heads sitting in front of a corner store playing
00:34:48dominoes.
00:34:49They told me about this cat.
00:34:51Oh, okay.
00:34:51It's beautiful.
00:34:53I knew you'd like it.
00:34:58Anyway, you moved here from Chicago, right?
00:35:01Yeah.
00:35:02Well, I grew up on the south side, but I lived in Brooklyn, Miami, Berlin, Johannesburg,
00:35:09among other places, and now I'm here for now.
00:35:13What you laughing at?
00:35:14What's that giggling about?
00:35:15No.
00:35:16You know what?
00:35:16I just got this new book, Art and Travel, right?
00:35:20And it mentions all the cities that you just talked about.
00:35:23And it's just, you know, you artists.
00:35:25You live like nomadic lifestyle.
00:35:28What a life.
00:35:29Well, I love capturing the beauty in the world.
00:35:31You know?
00:35:32I don't like to feel like I'm missing out on anything.
00:35:38This smells delicious.
00:35:40I could eat ten of these.
00:35:42Mm-hmm.
00:35:45And you have no idea what the hell you're doing, do you?
00:35:48What?
00:35:49You don't see these skills?
00:35:50I see you struggling.
00:35:51Give me this thing.
00:35:52Let me show you how to do it.
00:35:53Fine.
00:35:54Now look at this.
00:35:54This is very simple.
00:35:55You just grab the head like this, okay?
00:35:57Yeah.
00:35:57Then you just do a nice little simple twist and pull.
00:36:00You see that?
00:36:01Okay.
00:36:02Professionals like me, we suck the head.
00:36:04Okay.
00:36:05Oh, damn.
00:36:06Look at you dribbling.
00:36:07Look what you made me do.
00:36:08I'm trying to teach you some stuff and look what you made me do.
00:36:12That's you.
00:36:13You're crazy.
00:36:14Oh, man.
00:36:15You got me jammed up out here.
00:36:17Looking crazy.
00:36:21Well, listen.
00:36:22While we making a mess, I got another question for you to answer.
00:36:24Oh, boy.
00:36:25What?
00:36:26How long have you been married?
00:36:29Um, a long time.
00:36:32Would you care to elaborate?
00:36:35I'm sorry.
00:36:36We don't have to talk about this.
00:36:37No, it's cool.
00:36:38It's cool.
00:36:39You know, marriage could start out with all the spark and plans and dreams.
00:36:44And then life happens.
00:36:48And then here come the kids and the bills and the routine.
00:36:52And then silence.
00:36:57But my husband is, my husband's a good guy.
00:37:02Oh, I'm sure.
00:37:03You know what I mean?
00:37:03Like, he is an amazing father and he's a hard worker.
00:37:08Mm-mm.
00:37:09And he gave me the best job in the world, being somebody's mother.
00:37:12I bet you're a great mother.
00:37:15Yeah, you know, my kids are terrific kids.
00:37:17I don't know.
00:37:18I don't think I'm much of a family guy.
00:37:21My work and my career, they keep me pretty fulfilled.
00:37:25That doesn't ever get lonely?
00:37:27It does not.
00:37:28Oh.
00:37:30Well, I have friends and extended family all over the world.
00:37:33Ah.
00:37:35Women friends.
00:37:41Of course I do.
00:37:44Well, I mean, you know, I asked because you're the one who said you don't like missing out on things.
00:37:48Yeah, I don't like missing out on things because I have time for everything.
00:37:53I like to focus on the freedom of time and not the stress.
00:37:56The stress of time is what makes people buy into the whole happily ever after type of thing.
00:38:03I don't think it's real.
00:38:04Seriously?
00:38:05I don't.
00:38:06No, I feel like people that feel like-
00:38:08I don't think it is.
00:38:08Listen, I feel like people who think that it's not real are actually just scared.
00:38:13It's a lot of work.
00:38:14It's a lot of work.
00:38:16Look, I was reading this book.
00:38:18This other book.
00:38:20And the main character compares love to a roller coaster.
00:38:24Some people are afraid to get on.
00:38:26Some people are afraid to let go.
00:38:28And then there are some who just are afraid to fall.
00:38:33All right.
00:38:35I feel that.
00:38:36Okay.
00:38:38But you know in this short conversation we've had, this is the second book you've brought up.
00:38:41Yes, I'm quite astute.
00:38:43Are you a nerd?
00:38:44Hold on.
00:38:45I'm talking to a nerd.
00:38:46Hold on.
00:38:46You are.
00:38:47No, go ahead.
00:38:47Go ahead.
00:38:48Sorry.
00:38:49Mm-hmm.
00:38:50Oh, it's-
00:38:52Hey Jeremiah, what's up?
00:38:53No, I just put money into your account two days ago.
00:38:57What are you talking about, big?
00:38:59Well, you gotta ask your father.
00:39:03No, I'm not putting him on three-way.
00:39:04I'm on a d-
00:39:06I'm in the middle of something.
00:39:08Yeah, so you call him and then text me and let me know what he says.
00:39:13Okay.
00:39:15Love you too.
00:39:16Bye.
00:39:17Sorry.
00:39:19Everything good?
00:39:21Everything's great.
00:39:22Hmm.
00:39:24You know, I'm starting a new exhibition, something that's a little bit more personal to me.
00:39:27Really?
00:39:28Yeah?
00:39:28Yeah.
00:39:29Okay.
00:39:30Tell you the truth, I'm kind of stuck on a couple of pieces.
00:39:32So I figured that maybe after this beautiful sunset, we could go over to the studio and you can give
00:39:38me your thoughts.
00:39:41Because you've got a good eye.
00:39:43All right?
00:39:44And even better than that, you mean what you say.
00:39:49And I respect what you have to say.
00:39:56Okay.
00:39:56Go on in, take it all in.
00:39:58Okay.
00:39:59Make yourself at home.
00:40:01I'm gonna go and change this shirt because I got the, you know-
00:40:04Oh yeah, the progress juice.
00:40:06Make yourself at home, I'll be right back.
00:40:08Yeah.
00:40:24Wow.
00:40:27Did you shoot this on film?
00:40:29Oh yeah, absolutely.
00:40:31That was a completely spontaneous shot of a mother's son walking on Biloxi Beach.
00:40:38Hmm.
00:40:41Something special about the way she's holding his hands.
00:40:44It's not just about motherly love, it's-
00:40:47Her guidance.
00:40:48Exactly.
00:40:49Yeah.
00:40:52Hmm.
00:40:53This picture's special to me, you know?
00:40:56I didn't really grow up knowing about this kind of love.
00:41:00Hmm.
00:41:01My relationship with motherhood was more about abandonment than anything else.
00:41:06Hmm.
00:41:10I grew up in the foster care system.
00:41:14That's where I got my first camera.
00:41:17Wow.
00:41:18I wondered where it all began.
00:41:21Huh.
00:41:22My social worker gave it to me.
00:41:25Tell you the truth, it's probably saved my life.
00:41:31I know it definitely changed it.
00:41:34Hmm.
00:41:35So, let me show you something.
00:41:37Let me show you something.
00:41:38Okay.
00:41:40This is part of a series that I'm showing at the New Orleans Museum of Art to close out my
00:41:45residency.
00:41:46The edit, the sequence, everything that I'm trying to convey is so important here.
00:41:51Yeah.
00:41:52I see it.
00:41:53The connectivity that you talked about.
00:41:55Absolutely.
00:41:55It's not exploitative.
00:41:57It's more celebratory.
00:41:59Right.
00:42:00You see, the goal is to capture the beauty that most people might not see.
00:42:03Yeah, you're really good at that.
00:42:05Why, thank you.
00:42:15What do you see when you see me?
00:42:19How do you do what you do to me?
00:42:28Come here.
00:42:30Okay.
00:42:30Come on.
00:42:33All right.
00:42:35Well.
00:42:38It started with your eyes.
00:42:42And as beautiful as they are, they seem to be carrying a weight of sadness.
00:42:54Do you see what I see?
00:43:01Oh, you're shaking.
00:43:02You all right?
00:43:03Are you cold?
00:43:04Can I get you something?
00:43:05I gotta go.
00:43:05Hey.
00:43:21What's going on here?
00:43:24I practice corporate law.
00:43:26It's divorce.
00:43:26It's a whole little beast.
00:43:28And why are you looking into that?
00:43:31Oh, baby, come on.
00:43:32It's not for me.
00:43:33It's for your mom.
00:43:37Mom, why are you talking to Micah about divorce?
00:43:41Nothing is definite, okay?
00:43:43I'm just trying to understand my options.
00:43:46Since when did divorce become an option?
00:43:48Have you and Daddy talked about this?
00:43:49Oh, my God.
00:43:50You really should have been a lawyer asking me all these questions.
00:43:53Your father and I haven't decided anything, okay?
00:43:56I just asked Micah if he could help me understand what it would look like if we did.
00:44:02All these years, and I don't think I have ever seen you without a roller set.
00:44:07Curl!
00:44:09You know my curls won't hold up in this swamp heat.
00:44:12Oh, so that's why you got your shoulders and your back out, too?
00:44:15Mom, what?
00:44:15You don't like my dress?
00:44:17I bought it in a store in a quarter.
00:44:21I mean, you cute or whatever, but...
00:44:23Who are you trying to impress?
00:44:24Nobody!
00:44:26Oh, my God. I gotta go.
00:44:29Micah, thanks for this.
00:44:30Yes, ma'am.
00:44:40No, it's still crooked.
00:44:42Micah, I have moved this painting like three times.
00:44:43You sure it's the painting and not your neck?
00:44:47Oh.
00:44:48Hey.
00:44:49Hey.
00:44:51Hey.
00:44:53As a continuation of helping you explore the real New Orleans,
00:44:57I thought I'd try to excite your taste buds once again.
00:45:00What is this?
00:45:02Beignets?
00:45:03No, they're called calas.
00:45:05It's a popular street food made from the enslaved Africans to purchase their freedom from Spanish.
00:45:09Now, we can't talk about New Orleans food history without talking about those.
00:45:13And Cafe Du Monde could never.
00:45:15You ate that, okay?
00:45:16Why?
00:45:16He told that story, okay?
00:45:19Mmm, this is so good.
00:45:22Oh, that's good.
00:45:32Well, you have a good morning.
00:45:37Peter.
00:45:38Peter.
00:45:44Yes?
00:45:45I want to explore more of New Orleans with you.
00:45:52Really?
00:45:54Yeah.
00:45:58So, I'm just staring at this Bob Barker looking type dude.
00:46:02Like, what the hell are you going to do with a five foot image of a brother from the ninth
00:46:06ward with gold fronts and a pit bull named Nipsey?
00:46:09Exactly!
00:46:11See, sometimes these white collectors who are drawn to black aesthetics completely ignore the history and the context.
00:46:18And that's why sometimes I had a little reparations fee on the hands.
00:46:21No, that's right.
00:46:23You know, I wanted to ask you, um, what made you walk away from the art world?
00:46:28Oh, okay.
00:46:29Well, during my last year, college, I got pregnant with Kayla.
00:46:32And after that, the closest thing I ever came to the art world was working at the framing department at
00:46:39my local craft store.
00:46:42But then I quit once I had the baby because my husband thought it was a better idea for me
00:46:48to stay at home while he brought home the money.
00:46:50Hmm.
00:46:51And how did you feel about that?
00:46:53I was completely fine with it at the time because I've always wanted to be a mother.
00:46:57But I just didn't know what kind of a full-time job it was going to be.
00:47:01I mean, what girl knows that at that age though?
00:47:04And look at you now.
00:47:06Yeah, see, look at me now.
00:47:07I'm working at the gallery.
00:47:09I feel like I'm getting that old thing back, you know.
00:47:15So, over the years, did you find yourself longing for anything else?
00:47:22I mean, of course.
00:47:25But when I made the decision to be a wife and a mother, all the other choices just seemed selfish.
00:47:32Oh.
00:47:34So you chose to abandon your wants and desires because they felt selfish?
00:47:43I chose to make the best decision for me and my family and my marriage.
00:47:53No, I feel you.
00:47:53I feel you.
00:47:53I'm just saying.
00:47:54You being here though, it's kind of like you're starting to awaken those abandoned wants and desires.
00:48:03Yeah, in a way.
00:48:06I never got a chance to travel.
00:48:09So, I really want to explore art all over the world.
00:48:16What else do you want?
00:48:19What are you really trying to ask me?
00:48:23When was the last time someone made love to you?
00:48:35It's been a while.
00:48:38Look, if you want me to stop, I'll stop, okay?
00:48:41No one said that.
00:48:42No one said that.
00:48:53It's been about three years and some change.
00:48:58Who was the position?
00:49:02Missionary.
00:49:06Were you satisfied?
00:49:11It was fine.
00:49:15Dance with me.
00:49:17Okay.
00:49:21Bye.
00:49:31Take my time and sink your nails into your coast
00:49:35Until we explode like Crackathon
00:49:38Where ends are beautiful.
00:49:40Then don't be gentle.
00:49:42Mmm.
00:49:43Mmm, you know I love the great body feelings.
00:49:57I wanna photograph you.
00:50:07We'll see.
00:50:14Mark, you can just hit that mark.
00:50:16Okay.
00:50:17Okay?
00:50:18And just relax.
00:50:19Just take it easy.
00:50:21Photography, as you already know,
00:50:27is all about trust.
00:50:35Only...
00:50:37If my subjects feel safe,
00:50:41do they truly...
00:50:45let their essence shine through?
00:50:48No.
00:50:53So the question is...
00:50:57Do you trust me?
00:51:04Hey.
00:51:07Do you trust me?
00:51:08Yeah.
00:51:09All right.
00:51:09Well, I'm in the�.
00:51:23You make me want to live again.
00:51:27You make me want to try again.
00:51:30You make me want to love again
00:51:33And again, and again, and again
00:51:36You make me want to love again
00:51:39You make me want to try again
00:51:42Beautiful
00:51:43You make me want to love again
00:51:46All right
00:51:48All right, I'm gonna go get a couple of things, okay?
00:51:51Just relax, I'll be right back
00:51:57Let's try a little something like this
00:52:00Very nice, very nice
00:52:02Let me just move
00:52:03Your hair there
00:52:05Looks beautiful
00:52:07Put this on you
00:52:08Just size this up here
00:52:10Make sure that
00:52:12Make sure that fits
00:52:20Pretty good
00:52:22As bad as that feel
00:52:24I should be on your head
00:52:26And you've been
00:52:31On my mind
00:52:34I wrote letters in my head to manifest you
00:52:40You make me want to live again
00:52:43You make me want to try again
00:52:46You make me want to love again
00:52:50Again, and again, and again
00:52:53You make me wanna live again
00:52:55You make me want to try again
00:52:59You make me want to love again
00:53:03Again, and again, and again
00:53:14Mom?
00:53:17Oh, hey.
00:53:18What are you still doing up?
00:53:20Well, baby girl here decided to start doing the electric sliders I was trying to go to bed.
00:53:25So Micah ordered us some food and we watched a couple episodes of Real Housewives.
00:53:29That's nice.
00:53:30Yeah, that is nice.
00:53:31Hold on.
00:53:32You look mighty snazzy.
00:53:34What did you have going on tonight?
00:53:35Oh, that was an event at the gallery.
00:53:38Must have been some kind of event.
00:53:41Doesn't feel like you were five-inch heels.
00:53:43Which is why I need to go lay down.
00:53:46So, good night.
00:54:09Good morning.
00:54:10Morning.
00:54:12I picked you up a little something.
00:54:15Because I was wondering about how you felt about last night.
00:54:21Because I know things are a little complicated right now.
00:54:24I don't know.
00:54:25I don't know.
00:54:26They are.
00:54:27I know.
00:54:33But I thought last night was a perfect evening.
00:54:40Oh, yeah.
00:54:44Oh, yeah.
00:54:47It's all right.
00:54:49It's all right.
00:54:50It's all right to love on you.
00:54:53It's all right.
00:54:55It's all right to just be true.
00:54:59Going on a ride.
00:55:02I want to feel the sun on my nose.
00:55:05Feel my inner light.
00:55:09Feel the freedom all in my soul.
00:55:12Got my head flowing.
00:55:14Got my mind free.
00:55:15Music stay pumping.
00:55:17Off of me.
00:55:18Don't let the day go away.
00:55:21Without a thinking to yourself, baby.
00:55:25It's all right to love on you.
00:55:32It's all right.
00:55:34It's all right to just be true.
00:55:38It's all right.
00:55:40It's all right to love on you.
00:55:44And just be you.
00:55:51Okay, now.
00:55:54She's been out here messing with that booze, too.
00:55:56Come here.
00:55:59Aw, these are so cute.
00:56:01This is our last one.
00:56:01They take y'all nowhere.
00:56:02All right, right, right.
00:56:03Miss Joy.
00:56:04Oh, I love Miss Joy.
00:56:06There you go, baby.
00:56:10Oh, my goodness.
00:56:11This is so cute, Aunt Charmaine.
00:56:14And it's by Black-owned Company.
00:56:15Okay, come on.
00:56:16Yes, yes, yes.
00:56:18I got it.
00:56:19Thank you, honey.
00:56:19Okay, okay.
00:56:20Okay.
00:56:21She's up.
00:56:23Hold on.
00:56:26Hey, Daddy.
00:56:27I miss you.
00:56:28I miss you guys, too.
00:56:30I know your mama's over there holding it down.
00:56:33Uh, yeah.
00:56:35Hi, Ross.
00:56:37Hi, Valerie.
00:56:38Look at you.
00:56:39You've always been the hostess with the mostest.
00:56:42Yeah, well, you know me.
00:56:43I do.
00:56:48All right, then.
00:56:49Listen, I'm going to get ready to go to the gym.
00:56:52Um.
00:56:53Okay, Daddy.
00:56:53Enjoy your workout.
00:56:54I love you.
00:56:55I'll call you later.
00:56:56Bye.
00:56:56Bye, Ross.
00:56:58Hold on.
00:56:59Are those biceps and triceps I see?
00:57:14Val, are you okay?
00:57:20I'm having an affair.
00:57:23What?
00:57:24I knew it.
00:57:25With who?
00:57:26This, this man, this photographer I met out here.
00:57:29When did this happen, and where did you meet him?
00:57:33At the gallery.
00:57:34I met him at the gallery, and it's very new, and oh, my God, I'm just so happy I could
00:57:37finally
00:57:38tell someone.
00:57:39Okay, okay.
00:57:40I just want to know, how did we go from moving out here to help Kayla to laying low and
00:57:45spreading
00:57:45it wide?
00:57:46Shut up, okay?
00:57:47I just want to know how low did you go, and I want to know everything about it.
00:57:50Um, can we start with a photo of this man?
00:57:53Yes.
00:57:54Look, look, look, look, look.
00:57:57Oh.
00:57:58Oh, baby.
00:57:59He paid rent.
00:58:01Oh, God.
00:58:03It's been amazing.
00:58:05I never knew my body could feel like this, and you guys, this man, this man.
00:58:10This man can go all night, mwah.
00:58:12Is he on the pill?
00:58:14He doesn't need it.
00:58:15Oh, bitch.
00:58:18And it's not just the sex, you guys.
00:58:20It's not just the sex.
00:58:21He sees me.
00:58:23He makes me feel like I exist outside of just being a wife and a mother, and the more I'm
00:58:31around him, the more I remember who I am and who I was before.
00:58:38And it's not just that.
00:58:39It's the city.
00:58:41It's New Orleans, and it just makes you feel alive, and it's the music and the art and
00:58:46the people and the joy.
00:58:48Okay, I hear you, sis, but what you gonna do when Ross finds out?
00:58:51Or the kids?
00:58:53Donna, can you please stop being a hater?
00:58:55No, I am being a friend.
00:58:57Look, if any of her friends should be traumatized by her having an affair, it should be me.
00:59:01Men do this all the time.
00:59:02And get away with it, okay?
00:59:03If Van wanna be selfish for once in her life, that'll be it.
00:59:07And damn them kids.
00:59:09Are you still considering a divorce?
00:59:14I don't know.
00:59:15I'm not sure.
00:59:17Okay, well, good.
00:59:17So, at least you also don't see this affair going anywhere.
00:59:21Can I just live in a moment for once, Donna?
00:59:24Damn.
00:59:25Sis, I am not trying to talk you into an empty bed.
00:59:29What you're doing is dangerous.
00:59:32Look, I just want you to be careful.
00:59:35Are you scared at all about this?
00:59:39Of course, I'm scared.
00:59:43Something.
00:59:44Okay.
00:59:45Oh, okay.
00:59:48Yes, yes, right on time.
00:59:50So, give me a second.
00:59:51Let me go get my jacket.
00:59:52All right.
01:00:00Wow.
01:00:02Hold on a second.
01:00:04I don't know.
01:00:05Wardrobe malfunction.
01:00:07You know, I almost put those in the exhibition tonight.
01:00:10No, you didn't.
01:00:11Take it easy.
01:00:12Those are from my personal archives.
01:00:14Come on, help me out here, please.
01:00:16I am, I am, I am, I am.
01:00:17Oh, boy.
01:00:17What's going on?
01:00:18Are you nervous?
01:00:20I'm always nervous before these.
01:00:21What?
01:00:22Yeah, ma'am.
01:00:22The great Peter Mosley is nothing?
01:00:25Yeah, that guy.
01:00:28God, you're just so...
01:00:31I don't know.
01:00:31I'm just not used to a man being vulnerable about his feelings.
01:00:37What?
01:00:37Oh, yeah.
01:00:38You talking to a thug from the south side of Chicago, you better recognize.
01:00:41Shut up.
01:00:43No, but seriously, I'm looking forward to introducing you to quite a few people tonight, especially
01:00:52the museum director.
01:00:54They're always looking for strong curators such as yourself.
01:00:58I appreciate that.
01:00:59No, thank you for being my date tonight.
01:01:03It's my honor.
01:01:04Me too.
01:01:05Come on.
01:01:07Let's get out of here.
01:01:08You look beautiful.
01:01:13I fell in love with you.
01:01:22Here we are.
01:01:23Excuse us.
01:01:24Pardon me.
01:01:26Hey, how you doing?
01:01:27Wow.
01:01:28Are you impressed yet?
01:01:29I am very impressed.
01:01:31That's what I want to hear.
01:01:31This is amazing.
01:01:32I know that guy.
01:01:33Oh, you do?
01:01:34I do.
01:01:34Me too.
01:01:35Cool dude.
01:01:37Oh, hey.
01:01:41Excuse me.
01:01:43All right.
01:01:43Oh, hey.
01:01:44How you doing?
01:01:45Maybe just give me one minute.
01:01:45No, no, no, no.
01:01:46One minute.
01:01:47No.
01:01:47Go.
01:01:47Okay.
01:01:47I'll be right back.
01:01:48Go.
01:01:53Oh, you got to be so great.
01:01:56Oh, Jacoby, I'm so glad you're here.
01:01:58Oh, my God.
01:02:00You look amazing.
01:02:02I like that hat.
01:02:03So you have a hat for every occasion.
01:02:04I actually do.
01:02:05You know, because at an event like this, a good hat shouldn't just compliment the look.
01:02:08It should start the conversation.
01:02:10I like that.
01:02:10I know.
01:02:11My husband likes hats, too.
01:02:12Oh, okay.
01:02:13Well, shout out to him.
01:02:14Yeah.
01:02:14Mm-hmm.
01:02:15So who you came here with?
01:02:19Oh, yeah.
01:02:20Mr. Mosley invited me.
01:02:23Oh, that's right.
01:02:25Oh, by the way, so we might have secured this painting that my mother really loved from this artist out
01:02:30in Jermay.
01:02:31Oh, wow.
01:02:31Fingers crossed we get to add it to the gallery.
01:02:33That's incredible.
01:02:35Yeah, yeah.
01:02:35I know how much that means to you.
01:02:37Yeah.
01:02:37Yeah.
01:02:38Uh-huh.
01:02:39Yeah.
01:02:39Yeah.
01:02:40Mm-hmm.
01:02:43You're good.
01:02:44Okay.
01:02:44Go ahead.
01:02:45Sorry.
01:02:45Sorry, sorry, sorry.
01:02:46No, go ahead and go.
01:02:47Mm-hmm.
01:02:48Oh, thank you.
01:02:49But you know, I'm glad you showed up.
01:02:51Oh, look, hey.
01:02:53Hi.
01:02:54Danny, Kenya, this is my new intelligent art friend, Valerie.
01:02:59Hi.
01:03:00Hi.
01:03:01Yeah, I'm the intelligent art friend.
01:03:03Uh, how do you guys know each other?
01:03:07We used to date.
01:03:09Oh.
01:03:11Really?
01:03:12Okay.
01:03:13Um, at the same time?
01:03:15Technically, but Danny and I didn't know.
01:03:17Um, now we're together.
01:03:21Hmm.
01:03:22Oh.
01:03:26Oh, hey, Glenn, what's up, man?
01:03:28Hi.
01:03:29How you doing?
01:03:29Good to see you.
01:03:30Oh, my gosh, we need a photo.
01:03:31Good to see you, ladies.
01:03:32Oh, yeah, let's do that.
01:03:33Let's knock it out.
01:03:34Good to see you, brother.
01:03:35Yeah.
01:03:38Thank you once again.
01:03:39It's a beautiful event.
01:03:41Oh, sorry, baby.
01:03:42And once again, I'm sorry I couldn't introduce you to Glenn.
01:03:45You know these things get a little crazy, but I'm sure I can set up some coffee or lunch
01:03:48or something like that.
01:03:50Sure.
01:03:51I'll tell you the truth, I really don't even like this stuff.
01:03:53The photos, the smoozing, it's not really my style.
01:03:55Okay, do you always date multiple women at the same time?
01:03:58Well, hey, thank you for coming.
01:04:06All right, listen, listen, listen, listen.
01:04:08Hey, hey, hey, wait a second.
01:04:09Wait a second.
01:04:11If you're asking me if I practice non-monogamy, then the answer is yes.
01:04:17I guess I shouldn't be so surprised.
01:04:20I'm from the man who doesn't like to miss out on anything.
01:04:22What is this?
01:04:24This right here really isn't going anywhere, is it?
01:04:28Kyle, look, let's go outside and let's talk about this.
01:04:30Am I right?
01:04:31It's not going anywhere.
01:04:35Why don't you answer your own question?
01:04:37You're the one that's married.
01:04:39Don't act like you care now.
01:04:41Don't do that.
01:04:41I don't appreciate you coming at me like this because I haven't judged you.
01:04:44Really?
01:04:45Really.
01:04:45Let me tell you something.
01:04:46I'm surprised you're still allowing this trauma to lead your life.
01:04:50Trauma?
01:04:51Trauma.
01:04:51You can't even commit to one city, let alone one woman, because the little boy inside feels
01:04:56abandoned by his mother.
01:04:57And you're too grown and you're too old to act like that.
01:05:01This coming from a woman who can't decide whether to mail off divorce papers or keep writing
01:05:05me.
01:05:06You know what the difference is between you and I?
01:05:07No, listen, do you?
01:05:08Do you know what the difference is?
01:05:10The difference is I know who I am.
01:05:13And you're too damn old to be deciding who you are right now.
01:05:26Yes, Micah.
01:05:27Hello?
01:05:27Hey, Mama V.
01:05:28What is happening?
01:05:29The baby's coming.
01:05:29Oh, my God.
01:05:30Okay, I'm on my way to the hospital right now, okay?
01:05:33Okay, bye.
01:05:33All right, look, let's...
01:05:35Let me take you to the hospital.
01:05:36We can talk about this in the car.
01:05:37No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
01:05:38This old lady can call her own car.
01:05:41Good night.
01:05:43Val.
01:05:51Sorry, I'm late.
01:05:52I thought the first thing was smoking, so I...
01:05:54Daddy, it's okay.
01:05:59Mom, will you hand her to him?
01:06:00Oh, yeah.
01:06:04Anaya, meet your granddad.
01:06:09Car,スター.
01:06:10I am our...
01:06:18God.
01:06:21Oh, yeah.
01:06:26Oh, yeah.
01:06:32And...
01:06:38I know you don't really want any of that, Jo.
01:06:44Well, this is about as good as it gets
01:06:46since I plan on staying here overnight.
01:06:48There's got to be someplace where I hear still open.
01:06:54Of course.
01:06:57God, jeez.
01:07:00Go ahead.
01:07:01Thanks.
01:07:12I guess all that time in the gym is working out for you, huh?
01:07:16Yeah.
01:07:18You know that haircut looked nice, don't you?
01:07:21Oh, thanks.
01:07:22I see you got a new tech hat.
01:07:25Yeah.
01:07:26I had Jeremiah give me a new one.
01:07:28I know you didn't like the other one.
01:07:29Yeah, that thing was awful.
01:07:34Hey, listen, them chips can't do nothing for you.
01:07:37Let me take you to get something to eat.
01:07:42Okay.
01:07:44Okay.
01:07:48Let's go outside.
01:07:50Thanks.
01:07:54We drove all over this city just to end up in some greasy junk food spot on bourbon.
01:08:00What the hell is a boudin ball?
01:08:02I don't know.
01:08:04You picked this place.
01:08:06It was the only place that was open?
01:08:09And can you please cut a brother some slack?
01:08:12I mean, we all celebrate.
01:08:15What are we celebrating, Ross?
01:08:19Being grandparents.
01:08:24Well, in that case, can we have two hand grenades, please?
01:08:29When the hell did you start drinking like that?
01:08:31Laissez le bantot roulet.
01:08:34It means like the cathedral.
01:08:37That was kind of sexy.
01:08:39What?
01:08:40No, wait.
01:08:41You know I told Jeremiah about that hot top pain he used to rock.
01:08:45Woo!
01:08:46And then two weeks later, I tried to put a texturizer in that thing.
01:08:50And it was awful.
01:08:52It was awful.
01:08:53Do you hear me?
01:08:54Oh, my hair fell out because I'm trying to impress you.
01:08:56Oh!
01:08:58Do not blame me for that.
01:08:59I'm not taking a blame.
01:09:01That was the same night as the Mary J. Blige concert.
01:09:04Oh, my 19th birthday.
01:09:06I picked you up in Betty.
01:09:08Betty.
01:09:09And she broke down on the side of the road?
01:09:11Hey, hey, hey, now.
01:09:13I bought that cassette in the deck, and I gave you a concert.
01:09:18You did.
01:09:19You did.
01:09:20Get it.
01:09:21All I really want is to be happy.
01:09:26Get it.
01:09:26Is to find a love.
01:09:28They all looking at you.
01:09:29Look at everybody looking at you.
01:09:32Just don't take no pictures.
01:09:35Ain't gonna take no pictures.
01:09:37And that night, I told Jamie,
01:09:42I'm gonna do whatever I can to get this girl.
01:09:48How is your brother?
01:09:50Him and Stephanie getting a divorce.
01:09:52Oh, no.
01:09:55Yeah, he, uh,
01:09:56he stayed at the house for a few weeks.
01:09:59If I had enough room.
01:10:03Well, I'm glad that you were there for your brother.
01:10:08I'm sure you guys got some bonding time,
01:10:11and broke open a couple of beers,
01:10:13worked on Betty.
01:10:14Actually,
01:10:16I ain't touched Betty since you left.
01:10:22Divorce seems so sad.
01:10:25It's like
01:10:27losing a leg
01:10:30and waking up in the morning
01:10:31and reaching for it,
01:10:32and it just ain't there no more.
01:10:39I think we need another.
01:10:41Hey, can we have two more?
01:10:42You don't drink more than me.
01:10:44I might have an easy life.
01:10:46Oh, shut up.
01:10:50Just shut up.
01:10:51What's that about?
01:10:52Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
01:10:53I need help.
01:10:54Okay, come on.
01:10:57Okay.
01:10:58Okay.
01:10:59What's all it is?
01:11:01You know I've been in the gym,
01:11:02you know.
01:11:05Shit.
01:11:27Where you burning?
01:11:30Shout out.
01:11:31I need help.
01:11:34Shh.
01:11:35Chan.
01:11:36Ah, ah.
01:11:38Uh, yeah.
01:11:42Uh, he, uh.
01:11:42Uh-oh.
01:11:47Oh-oh.
01:11:48Uh-oh.
01:11:49You came here
01:11:50from the start.
01:11:51You came here
01:11:52and shot him.
01:11:53Uh-oh.
01:11:57Mm-hm.
01:11:57Uh-oh.
01:12:00Uh-oh.
01:12:13Mom, you okay?
01:12:15Oh, yeah, honey, I'm fine.
01:12:18The nurse came in while you were asleep.
01:12:21That man is driving you nuts, huh?
01:12:25Your father and I, we...
01:12:28We're still figuring out our stuff.
01:12:30I'm talking about the photographer, Mom.
01:12:39How did you know about that?
01:12:40Well, after watching you stumbling in the house all hours of the night, I had to see what was up.
01:12:45So I asked that guy you work with at the gallery.
01:12:47Oh, my God.
01:12:49Mom, he didn't want to say anything.
01:12:51I just...
01:12:53I made him.
01:12:54I'm sorry.
01:12:57No, no.
01:12:59Oh, no.
01:13:04No, don't do that.
01:13:07You have nothing to be sorry for.
01:13:10Or ashamed of.
01:13:18I think it's only fair that I share a secret of my own.
01:13:23I never told you this, but during that first year, we split up for a bit.
01:13:32And during that time, I received the most random message on social media from Christian Mitchell.
01:13:41Oh, my God.
01:13:45I haven't heard that meme in a long time.
01:13:47Exactly.
01:13:48Yeah.
01:13:50He started liking all these pictures and telling me how good I looked.
01:13:56But then I went to his page, and he was looking good, too, Mom.
01:14:04After a few messages, I ended up meeting up with him.
01:14:09We started talking about high school and life after.
01:14:14Before I knew it, I was feeling 16 again.
01:14:18Christian felt like the perfect escape from the chokehold I felt my marriage was.
01:14:26But then I started having doubts that this spontaneous rekindling would survive over time.
01:14:34That eventually, the issues I was dealing with with Micah would show up with Christian.
01:14:40Yeah.
01:14:42Then I remember my therapist comparing the situation to a theme park.
01:14:48Sure, sure, it's exciting, but you can't live there.
01:14:54You cannot substitute romance for true love.
01:15:01I believe that learning how to love yourself will make it easier to love the one you're with.
01:15:11Whoever that is.
01:15:16Come here.
01:15:22Oh, God.
01:15:29And when did you become the mother?
01:15:38Hey, Strawberry Dax.
01:15:41You made it back, huh?
01:15:42Yeah.
01:15:43Nice top.
01:15:46You, too.
01:15:48The city really got a hold of you, huh?
01:15:50Yeah.
01:15:51It certainly has.
01:16:03Yes, indeed.
01:16:05I guess that three-year drought is over, huh?
01:16:07Oh, girl.
01:16:12All right, now.
01:16:16Val, let me just start by saying...
01:16:17Wait, wait, wait, wait.
01:16:18Can you just give me a sec?
01:16:19I just have to say one thing, okay?
01:16:22Okay.
01:16:23Okay.
01:16:26So, the other night was a culmination of a few things, but mostly it was like the woman that I
01:16:35was running away from and the woman that I'm becoming collided at that event.
01:16:43And instead of fighting with you, I really should have been thanking you.
01:16:50Look, I came here to be with my daughter, and then here you come.
01:16:57And you showed me a part of me that I didn't know was still there.
01:17:03You gave me the space to remember who I was.
01:17:07It has been such a gift to me.
01:17:12Val, um...
01:17:15You have to understand that you've been a gift to me, too.
01:17:19You know, I haven't been able to shake what you told me.
01:17:23You told me that, um, some people were afraid to fall.
01:17:30I don't want to be afraid with you.
01:17:43I don't want you to come to Paris with me.
01:17:48Why not start the journey now?
01:17:51Think about it.
01:17:52It'll be just like here.
01:17:54The art, the, uh, the food, the culture.
01:17:57What about my family?
01:17:59Like, I can't just move across the world.
01:18:02And why can't you?
01:18:04I mean, look at what you're building for yourself.
01:18:07You yourself said that you've never traveled before.
01:18:11Think about it.
01:18:12This is the beginning.
01:18:14You're doing something that's just for you, finally.
01:18:24Let's explore another magical city.
01:18:29Together.
01:18:49Now, come home with me.
01:18:52Look, there's a lot I didn't say last night.
01:18:57You know, it could have been the, um...
01:19:00Hand grenades.
01:19:01Those.
01:19:02Yeah.
01:19:05And when you mentioned Betty last night,
01:19:08I didn't tell you a thought I had about her.
01:19:13I've been working on that car for almost 30 years.
01:19:17And it seems like every time I would fix something on it,
01:19:21something else would break.
01:19:24And after all those years, no matter what,
01:19:26I didn't give up on it.
01:19:28I didn't get rid of it.
01:19:29I just, I just kept working on it.
01:19:32And, Val, I don't want to give up on you.
01:19:35And I really don't want you to give up on me.
01:19:39I mean, I, I, at my age,
01:19:42I, I didn't know how to tell you what was going on with me
01:19:47regarding my...
01:19:49Oh, my God.
01:19:51Ross, this isn't just about sex.
01:19:55I wanted love.
01:19:56I wanted you.
01:19:57You know what it was like?
01:19:58It was like, it was like I was grieving you.
01:20:01I was grieving the old you.
01:20:02You didn't want to fix any of the issues in our marriage.
01:20:05And you know what else?
01:20:06The day that I left you,
01:20:08you didn't even ask me to stay.
01:20:10Val, do you hear me?
01:20:11I, I am here.
01:20:16And I'm sorry.
01:20:21Listen.
01:20:23When you stood in front of that vending machine,
01:20:27my life flashed before my eyes.
01:20:31I mean, even, even now,
01:20:32seeing the version of the woman you always wanted to be.
01:20:37And I always thought we were too old
01:20:40to be anything other than who we were.
01:20:41Oh, my God. Here we go.
01:20:42No, but I was wrong.
01:20:47I was wrong about a lot.
01:20:50But I am not wrong about us starting over.
01:20:55I can't start over.
01:20:57I'm not building a relationship in a graveyard.
01:21:01You said it yourself.
01:21:02I'm not the same woman that you married.
01:21:04I still believe you are.
01:21:06No, I'm not.
01:21:07I'm not.
01:21:10You gotta understand that, Ross.
01:21:12I'm not starting from scratch.
01:21:16I'm starting with all the things that I've learned
01:21:20and that I accept
01:21:23and that I love about myself.
01:21:28And if you really want to make this work,
01:21:31you gotta be willing to love the woman that I am now.
01:21:36What do you need from me?
01:21:52I don't want to give you directions on how to love me.
01:21:52I don't want to give you directions on how to love me.
01:22:10I want you to find your way to me.
01:22:36Wow.
01:22:39She would have loved this.
01:22:42i want to thank you valerie now um i know i've said this before but you
01:22:48you have been an angel no no no you and your mother are the angels
01:22:56look you helped a 50 something year old woman
01:23:02remember a dream that she forgot she had so
01:23:07i'm the grateful one
01:23:13how old you say you were
01:23:18have you lost your mind
01:23:22okay i see you still learning french you never know
01:23:26well speaking of what are we going to do about this box that we have in paris
01:23:33paris
01:23:34mm-hmm
01:23:40you got it i got it
01:23:42okay here we go
01:23:44all right
01:23:51oh my god i mean have you ever looked more beautiful
01:24:07sweet
01:24:10wow
01:24:11hmm yeah so we're definitely gonna have to add this to the gallery
01:24:31wow
01:24:33i don't think i've seen you more beautiful
01:25:05you drove all the way down
01:25:07not just because i want to but because she deserves
01:25:16life wouldn't be life without you
01:25:20and when i think about spending my life with you
01:25:24at this age
01:25:27my only regret is it won't be long
01:25:29enough
01:25:33i want this next chapter to be
01:25:37something we cherish together
01:25:43i got my passport
01:25:44what is that
01:25:49oh my god
01:25:50i don't know i mean uh i thought maybe we go somewhere you always wanted to go like
01:25:55like pass or something
01:25:56oh
01:25:58yeah sure we'll figure it out
01:26:03yes
01:26:05we'll figure it out
01:26:08you want a ride
01:26:10yeah
01:26:11let's do that
01:26:16i saw that mary's performing tonight you still like mary right
01:26:20oh
01:26:22come on mary j blize you know that's my girl
01:26:25i know i know
01:26:26now wait is betty gonna make it because you know she likes to break down
01:26:30it's only a mile away she better not
01:27:02She better now
01:27:02She better now
01:27:42She better now
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