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90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days - Season 8 - Episode 14: Prepare for Immediate Descent
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00:00:00Previously on Before the 90 Days.
00:00:03Wow.
00:00:04This is your room.
00:00:06Wait, wait, wait, wait, what?
00:00:09Like, you could have put a picture of me.
00:00:10Didn't have one.
00:00:11I would have settled for a smaller place without a roommate.
00:00:15But our chemistry, it's there.
00:00:18Good night.
00:00:19Good night.
00:00:20Feels very surreal having Elise here with me.
00:00:22But I'm a bit worried that she might find parts of my life
00:00:25that she's not exactly happy with.
00:00:28You keep talking about your ex.
00:00:29You keep bringing him up.
00:00:31I'd rather stay single than back to my ex.
00:00:34I just want to make sure that I'm the man that you want
00:00:37to be introduced to your family.
00:00:39I told you, yes.
00:00:41These issues just keep popping up.
00:00:43And the fact that her family might ultimately not approve of me,
00:00:48I'm feeling this is like make or break.
00:00:53It just felt like the right time to propose to Sheena.
00:00:57I asked you to hold off so she could prove herself.
00:01:00And then you just pull this little sneaky .
00:01:02Now she's got the whole cat in the bag, doesn't she?
00:01:05Sheena and I are going to move forward.
00:01:07You're going to be in our lives, but.
00:01:08You might be surprised, Forrest.
00:01:10I'm so disappointed.
00:01:12My mom would actually step away rather than accept Sheena as my wife.
00:01:16That's tearing me apart.
00:01:19I feel like your idea of being a husband changed.
00:01:23You see it like a power.
00:01:25I don't have any.
00:01:26Because when I tell you to do something, you don't listen to me.
00:01:30You want traditional roles when it applies to you.
00:01:34I think that you got comfortable.
00:01:36Don't ever get too comfortable, ever.
00:01:38You don't want a bitchy wife, don't be a asshole.
00:01:45Don't come home, ever.
00:01:48I love you so much.
00:01:50But stop telling me lies.
00:01:52There is more to tell him, and I have to get it said before he goes to his uncle.
00:01:57So, my last marriage wasn't with a man.
00:02:01I'm divorcing a woman, Daniel.
00:02:03You're the first man that I've been with in 21 years.
00:02:08It's not, it's not as bad as.
00:02:11Don't come close to me.
00:02:19Yeah, I can feel your energy is passing through me, I feel so alive.
00:02:39Good morning.
00:02:40Hi.
00:02:41How are you?
00:02:42Okay.
00:02:44Thank you for taking care of me last night.
00:02:47That's all right.
00:02:47I can't have you feeling sick as soon as you get here.
00:02:50Yeah, you're taking chances.
00:02:53This has been good since I want you more.
00:02:58Yeah.
00:03:00I feel so bad, like every hour I was making you get up and get me water and...
00:03:04So, who needs sleep?
00:03:06You're a very big caretaker.
00:03:08Yeah, well, long flight, and you weren't feeling this, so, you know.
00:03:13You're such a good boy.
00:03:16I arrived in Sydney yesterday, and I met my boyfriend Joshua for the first time, face to face.
00:03:23The plan was for Josh to sleep on the couch last night, but I was up every hour of the
00:03:29night.
00:03:30I was coughing, I was shivering, and he decided to come in the bed with me and take care of
00:03:35me all night.
00:03:36It just feels like it's like a sinus infection almost, like it's just like swollen here.
00:03:41Maybe you can go get me, like, nose spray.
00:03:45Yeah.
00:03:47I am a needy bitch, especially when I'm sick.
00:03:50I need my man to attend to me, like, a golden retriever puppy, like, running, like, catching a ball.
00:03:57Joshua does that.
00:03:58I feel a little better now with, like, all the water you've been making me drink, and I took my
00:04:03medicine.
00:04:04That's good. It's probably a good start.
00:04:07What is it?
00:04:09It's Regiment.
00:04:10What's that?
00:04:11You have to try it. It's a big thing in Australia.
00:04:13It smells like sardines.
00:04:17There's no fish in it.
00:04:20Just take a big bite.
00:04:26Suck!
00:04:26Is it good?
00:04:28It's not bad.
00:04:30No, I don't like it.
00:04:32I don't like it.
00:04:34Joshua, what is that?
00:04:36Is that fish?
00:04:37It's not fish.
00:04:40Do you want a tissue?
00:04:43It's a condiment.
00:04:45I don't know how to explain it.
00:04:46And you love it?
00:04:47Yeah, I do love it on toast.
00:04:49You're not Australian if you're not eating Vegemite.
00:04:51Tastes like .
00:04:53I hated it.
00:04:58All right, take this Vegemite away from me.
00:05:00All right.
00:05:01There's other stuff like berries and yogurt and stuff, so I'll grab you that.
00:05:06Yes.
00:05:06And then if you feel a bit better, maybe you want to go wander up to the beach and see
00:05:11Bondi.
00:05:12Yeah.
00:05:12All right, well don't make me sick.
00:05:17I feel like you already got sick by kissing me all night.
00:05:21Well, I might get Toms too then.
00:05:28Wow, so this is your beach.
00:05:31This is it.
00:05:32Oh my God, all the guys that wear the what's the Speedo thing.
00:05:36Budgy snugglers?
00:05:37I can't.
00:05:37I can't.
00:05:38I can't.
00:05:42Wow, the sand feels so nice.
00:05:44Very different than Miami.
00:05:45It's like really soft.
00:05:49Do you want to go in?
00:05:50Yep.
00:05:51Wait, I have to change.
00:05:53Towel's in my bag.
00:05:54Okay.
00:05:55So let's figure this out.
00:05:57So here's to cover me.
00:05:59Okay.
00:06:02Well, this one, I can just go like this.
00:06:05Yeah.
00:06:09My top is off.
00:06:11Hold me.
00:06:12Hold me.
00:06:13How do you do this part?
00:06:15All right, so now we're going to go down.
00:06:16Yeah.
00:06:17So.
00:06:18What are you going to do that now?
00:06:22Hold it tight.
00:06:25I'm losing it.
00:06:30Voila!
00:06:31Well done.
00:06:35That was pretty impressive.
00:06:38Are you going to protect me if they're sharks?
00:06:41Yeah, I'll do my best.
00:06:42Let's go, ready?
00:06:43Okay.
00:06:46You got to hold on.
00:06:47I love it.
00:06:48I love it.
00:06:49I love it.
00:06:50I love it.
00:06:51I love it.
00:06:53I love it.
00:06:54Can I kiss you in some motion?
00:06:57It's actually insane to even think that I haven't even been here a full 24 hours.
00:07:01And it's so natural.
00:07:04There's a lot of sexual chemistry there.
00:07:07We're so touchy-feely, but he seems a little reserved.
00:07:12So I'm just trying to feel him out.
00:07:17I mean, I do have three weeks here, and I came here to find my potential husband.
00:07:22So getting to be alone with Joshua, it's nice because I want to get into the deeper stuff for sure.
00:07:32Holy moly, I'm cold.
00:07:34It's funny, you see adults in there freezing, and then you see like little kids, and they're just like pollucking
00:07:40around for hours.
00:07:41When I was a kid, I spent every day at the beach.
00:07:44We'd be swimming in the pool every morning.
00:07:47Okay.
00:07:48But then in the afternoons, we'd be like doing the board training every single afternoon.
00:07:54I love learning about you.
00:07:56I want to get to know everything about you.
00:07:58Yeah, good.
00:07:58I want to know the heart.
00:07:59Like, I want you to open up.
00:08:00I feel like you're reserved.
00:08:04Were you reserved in your last serious relationship?
00:08:07Yeah, I probably was a bit reserved in my last relationship.
00:08:10I was.
00:08:10Yeah.
00:08:11One big fear is probably, I don't know, opening up, and then having it used, like, against me.
00:08:18You know.
00:08:23My previous relationship, we dated for seven years, but I never felt secure.
00:08:29I just felt like I wasn't good enough for her.
00:08:32She just wanted me to be, you know, super successful.
00:08:37And I was constantly being told if I wasn't, she would walk away.
00:08:42So I was always living in fear, I guess.
00:08:45She could just end it at any time.
00:08:48Ultimately, I had my heart broken, and I'm closed off because of that.
00:08:54Like, are you constantly thinking, like, is something on your mind, or, like, it's just...
00:08:59Yeah, I'm always thinking.
00:09:00Always, always thinking.
00:09:01What's your top thought right now?
00:09:03I know.
00:09:04This is...
00:09:05I like that you're sort of asking these questions, but, you know, it's scary at the same time.
00:09:11Because it's opening up and being vulnerable.
00:09:13No, I get it.
00:09:15Like, opening up can be scary.
00:09:18But, you know what?
00:09:21You made me feel safe already.
00:09:22Really?
00:09:23That's like an early, early call.
00:09:26So, hopefully I'll do the same thing.
00:09:28Yeah, I feel safe with you too.
00:09:32Hi.
00:09:33Hi.
00:09:33Hi.
00:09:39I've never really had a guy say that to me, actually.
00:09:42Like, guys have said a lot of things to me, but feeling safe is not one I've heard.
00:09:47It feels good.
00:09:49I don't think there's anything sexier than a man being vulnerable.
00:09:53So, yeah, the plan was to wait.
00:09:56But, like, he's so sweet to me.
00:09:59He's so attentive to me.
00:10:00He's letting his guard down.
00:10:01Like, it's hard to resist a sexy man that's treating you well.
00:10:04So, we'll see.
00:10:19It's not...
00:10:20Don't...
00:10:21It's not as bad as...
00:10:22Don't come close to me.
00:10:25Daniel.
00:10:28You're telling me you have been a lesbian?
00:10:32Listen.
00:10:33Don't try it.
00:10:34Listen to me.
00:10:35Don't even come...
00:10:36Don't...
00:10:36Don't try it.
00:10:37Listen.
00:10:38I'm telling you the truth before we talk to your uncle.
00:10:43I want it all out.
00:10:44That's why I said I needed another day.
00:10:46I wanted you to know everything.
00:10:52Daniel.
00:10:54Daniel.
00:10:55Don't come close to me.
00:10:57Please try to understand.
00:11:00I...
00:11:01You don't know how hard it was to...
00:11:03You have a lot of secrets.
00:11:04I have no more secrets.
00:11:06I have no more secrets.
00:11:07Just listen, please.
00:11:08I'm trying to tell you who I am.
00:11:10Jesus Christ.
00:11:12I'm not a lesbian.
00:11:14I'm not straight.
00:11:15I'm not bisexual.
00:11:17I just believe that people should love people.
00:11:20People should love people by their soul.
00:11:22And people should love people for who they are on the inside.
00:11:25Not on what is on the outside.
00:11:30I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
00:11:32You told me you have had serious of, you know, relationship.
00:11:35I didn't know it's your fellow women.
00:11:38Same sex.
00:11:41Yes.
00:11:42And you have been lying to me.
00:11:45I'm sorry.
00:11:49You are evil.
00:11:51I'm not evil.
00:11:53You know me.
00:11:54I take care of people.
00:11:55And I've even taken care of you.
00:11:57I'm not evil.
00:11:58I have a good heart.
00:12:00And I'm a good person.
00:12:01What makes you a good person?
00:12:04Sleeping with your fellow women?
00:12:05That doesn't make me evil.
00:12:08I'm still the same person you fell in love with.
00:12:12The same person who tell lies and keep secrets.
00:12:15I love you.
00:12:17I don't want to hear that from your mouth again.
00:12:19I love you.
00:12:21Don't say that again.
00:12:23You can't tell me not to say those words because I mean it.
00:12:26I am in love with you, Daniel.
00:12:28That's why I'm coming clean to you.
00:12:29I could have kept this a secret forever and not told you.
00:12:33But I'm telling you.
00:12:34Shut your mouth.
00:12:35You have been threatened by a woman.
00:12:37Not even women.
00:12:38Women.
00:12:42You are a liar.
00:12:44I'm just a person who has been lost.
00:12:53Don't.
00:12:53Can you hold this ring?
00:12:55No.
00:12:57Hold the ring.
00:13:00I've seen that from your head to toe is full of secrets and lies.
00:13:05You're full of evil.
00:13:08I'm not full of evil, Daniel.
00:13:11I'm staying in my room tonight.
00:13:26I thought I've seen it all.
00:13:28But she keep on vomiting secrets.
00:13:32No, no, no, no, no, no.
00:13:38I didn't think he'd call me evil.
00:13:41I'm not evil.
00:13:43I just believe a person loves a person.
00:13:46And I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
00:13:53Daniel's not going to accept me for who I am.
00:13:56You know what?
00:13:57F*** him.
00:13:59F*** him.
00:14:16F*** him.
00:14:17And I don't want to waste any time bringing Sheena to America.
00:14:21So I have to be very clear here.
00:14:24If you file today for the K-1 visa, it will be denied.
00:14:37We are like me.
00:14:43A tattoo is coming.
00:14:52this is right out so we can see we are here i'm tired let's get a rest
00:15:18so this is like a gonna be like a village environment right yeah yesterday we traveled
00:15:26from nusibet for dauphin my hometown we arrived late so we stay in a hotel and now we are going
00:15:36to my family's village for a few days can't forget my baby wipes i don't know how you guys wash
00:15:43your
00:15:43ass in the village we use the water we had a big fight last night i still love him and
00:15:54i want him
00:15:55to meet my family but i don't feel like everything is resolved yet between me and rick
00:16:05i don't want to run this vacation but the way you talk to me yesterday
00:16:10day i don't like
00:16:16i went a little overboard and i'm sorry for that
00:16:21i'm sorry for raising my voice to you it's just i was so frustrated you know
00:16:29hearing about your your ex-boyfriend constantly i mean i can't move forward if you're gonna keep
00:16:36going back
00:16:42okay i promise i'm not gonna talk about my ex
00:16:49okay we are going to see my family and i don't want to go there in a bad mood
00:16:56i want them to accept you because i want this relationship work i do too
00:17:06i overreacted yesterday it seemed like she was taunting me over something that she already knows
00:17:14that i'm insecure about then it just totally set me off i want to be here and um
00:17:21i want to really give this a chance yeah there's definitely a strong connection between
00:17:29her and i and i'm glad that trish is willing to forgive me
00:17:36so i think we can like get a quickie in before we go what since we're no
00:17:48let's go now
00:17:54nice tuxus right here yeah it's nice
00:18:10it's quiet you see not much people
00:18:14it's not what i expect
00:18:19rough roads
00:18:23the roots are made of aluminum let's get noisy when it rains huh yeah
00:18:34i'm excited to see my family and go back to my village everything is just simple there is no
00:18:43running water no fancy toilet but everybody are kind in my village and it's beautiful
00:18:54do you think they're gonna be happy to see yeah to see me what about me
00:19:01they're gonna be happy to see me baby
00:19:06they're happy because i bring a boyfriend and they will tell me if you were the good person for me
00:19:14or not
00:19:18yeah i just hope those questions don't come too hard and fast
00:19:24i feel a little bit scared my family won't accept rick
00:19:32men in my tribe is very strong when they don't like something they are really aggressive
00:19:42rick thinks he can handle any situation but he can't i'm worried he doesn't know what he's in for
00:19:53oh
00:19:53this is it right here yeah it's here there's no turning back
00:20:10so we're gonna have to call a gp i'm super duper nervous about writing one oh you're gonna have
00:20:16two how's that how's that work well you can see those sign boards uh-huh just have to find the
00:20:21right location so then we just have to kill para
00:20:24so here oh here yes all right we're officially on the jeepney
00:20:42oh there it is i'm surprisingly not tapping the top two hardcore yeah it's hot it smells like diesel
00:20:58it's been a couple days since i proposed to sheena and we are just over the moon in love with
00:21:05each
00:21:05other but not everyone's happy my mom is still mad at me because i proposed to sheena against her
00:21:14guidance and the vibe in the condo is just really awkward so sheena and i have been trying to do
00:21:24our own
00:21:24thing oh my gosh so this is the ball here all right here we go we're getting off yeah thank
00:21:31you
00:21:33while it really hurts that my mom has distanced herself right now is not the time to put the
00:21:37brakes on things i only have a week left here in the philippines and i don't want to waste any
00:21:41time
00:21:42in bringing sheena to america good morning do you have an appointment with mr alexandra king please
00:21:50yes now that we're finally engaged i called an immigration lawyer in manila just so we can get
00:21:56a consultation hi oh hi sir hi good morning how are you good how are you nice to meet you
00:22:05nice to meet you nice to meet you
00:22:07good afternoon good afternoon sir welcome to our office and welcome to the philippines thank you
00:22:13i've been enjoying my stay okay so for for this uh consultation i would like to you know uh make
00:22:20an
00:22:20assessment of course if you are eligible for the k1 visa yeah no uh how long have you been in
00:22:28this uh
00:22:28in this relationship seven years seven years seven years and you have never been convicted of any crime
00:22:34in the u.s no let's be clean yeah when i walk you can hear yeah so uh are you
00:22:42uh working right now
00:22:46currently i'm not working but i can prove that i'm getting paid monthly okay i'm receiving uh disability
00:22:55benefits which is it's a good enough amount to have me you know live my basic life and you know
00:23:02get an
00:23:02apartment and get food all that good stuff i see so i have to um uh be very clear here
00:23:12you know
00:23:14disability benefits is not an income you know you cannot consider that the annual income for petitioners
00:23:24for uh k1 visa is more or less 26 500 usd now is that shared between no it's only the
00:23:33petitioner okay
00:23:37so um if you will file today for example it will be denied
00:23:47my suggestion is you build your financial capacity you know find gainful employment then uh you can proceed
00:23:58i'm in complete shock right now i feel devastated to find out that my disability payments that i get
00:24:06monthly does not count towards the amount that i need to bring shit into the united states
00:24:11to be honest because of my autism i am terrified about working full-time and starting a job
00:24:22in the past i've had jobs that ended
00:24:27awfully because i didn't understand or i messed up but my back is at a wall right now that if
00:24:36i don't get a
00:24:37job our entire dream of bringing china to the united states is done so let's say you know i go
00:24:45back home
00:24:46yeah and i instantly start working yeah how long is enough to have a stable form of income you know
00:24:53before the k-1 is actually granted so yeah uh you need probably a year uh employment history
00:25:02okay and then uh you will meet another year uh at least uh to have the petition approved and bring
00:25:10your
00:25:10fiance to the u.s yeah
00:25:16it's quite frustrating for me that i'm the only one who's been working
00:25:21if he happened to have a job then he could have acquired the cave of visa sooner
00:25:29i'm worried that since forest have a disability it will be quite difficult for him to get and hold
00:25:36a job long term is there other any other options so depending on your goal here in the philippine
00:25:46immigration we have a straightforward process if you get married here and he comes to the philippines
00:25:52and live here there is no requirement of financial capacity okay okay so there will be a hundred percent
00:26:00chance that the petition will be approved okay okay so these options will depend on your goal
00:26:12at this point it's sounding almost impossible for forest to bring me to the u.s
00:26:18i know it's going to be difficult but i think he's going to have to consider other options
00:26:33i don't know i'm just real pissed off and at this moment i'm at a crossroads i don't know how
00:26:39to move
00:26:52for
00:26:53can i at least have my wallet no okay don't talk to me don't come to me
00:27:06you think you can just treat me this way humiliate me all the time all right i'm gonna just give
00:27:11you
00:27:11a little bit of space all right
00:27:13so
00:27:48Pakilig ko kasi yung asawa ko yung doon sa doon.
00:27:57Ayan siya, oh.
00:28:03Oh?
00:28:15I will be very guilty if I leave him on the street.
00:28:19But just to be clear, I'm very pissed at him.
00:28:25He promised a really good day.
00:28:27But of course he needs to ruin the moment.
00:28:30Because it's not Jabon if he doesn't.
00:28:41Anna, am I allowed to come in?
00:28:43No.
00:28:45Huh?
00:28:46Don't worry.
00:29:01We're just going to leave him for now.
00:29:03Just give her space, man.
00:29:05So she can just calm down.
00:29:08We'll talk about it when she's ready.
00:29:13I just feel really hopeless with Anna because I'm putting in massive effort to show Anna that I can be
00:29:22romantic.
00:29:23And, you know, she storms out of the nail salon place.
00:29:28And it's just, I don't know, I'm just real pissed off that she would make a scene in public like
00:29:33this.
00:29:33And at this moment, I'm at a crossroads.
00:29:37I don't know how to move forward.
00:29:41Mama, are you day good?
00:29:43It's okay.
00:29:46Every time we're having a good time, he would do this to me.
00:29:51Right in front in public.
00:29:54It's so humiliating.
00:29:56I don't think it's powerless.
00:29:58The fact that he could upset me this much definitely has power of his relationship.
00:30:09Hello.
00:30:12Kumusta mong baby ni Nana?
00:30:17Nah, inis ako kay Jumon.
00:30:19Bakit?
00:30:20Ah, kabad, trip kasi.
00:30:23Bakit?
00:30:23Kasi gusto niya yung relasyon na minalala ka siya, siya dominante.
00:30:27Eh, ganito, ganyan, ganyan.
00:30:29Ayaw ko nang ginaganyan ako.
00:30:31Eh, inis ako.
00:30:34Pag makikita yan.
00:30:37Ay.
00:30:40Asawa na kayo.
00:30:42Uusap kayo.
00:30:43Pag-usapan niya.
00:30:44Oo nga, kayo ko nga makipag-usap.
00:30:45Kasi na, oo, isang pagkatalo.
00:30:50Kaya, wag mong hayaang masirang relasyon niyo.
00:30:53Um, I am so, so, so tired of it, Jumon.
00:30:58I have to be this timid...
00:31:00Anna, I'm not trying to get you to change.
00:31:03Self-spoken woman.
00:31:04It's like I've, like, sacrificed a lot of my life so you can be happy.
00:31:11And even when I do the things you want me to do, it's something else you want me to do.
00:31:18So I'm like, look, I just give up.
00:31:21There's nothing else that I can do to make you, you know, happy.
00:31:27No, I feel exactly the same sometimes.
00:31:39I'm so cold.
00:31:40Can I have a shower with me?
00:31:42Okay.
00:31:44I mean, are things moving a little fast?
00:31:46Maybe.
00:31:48But, I mean, like, I wanted to save water.
00:31:51I'm a big environmentalist, you know?
00:31:54Ha ha!
00:32:22I'm so cold.
00:32:25Can you come have a shower with me?
00:32:29Never thought you would ask.
00:32:31Ha ha!
00:32:39No, no, no!
00:32:45Every f***ing year is cold!
00:32:48Ha ha ha!
00:32:53I mean, are things moving a little fast?
00:32:56Maybe.
00:32:57But Joshua and I are both super sandy and gross from the ocean.
00:33:02And I mean, like, I wanted to save water.
00:33:05I'm a big environmentalist, you know?
00:33:07Ha ha ha!
00:33:10I'm trying to control myself.
00:33:12But Josh is just, like, so hot.
00:33:14And we've been making out all day.
00:33:17You know, in the back of my mind, I do have some questions.
00:33:20And I do want to see more of him and more of his life.
00:33:23But, like, at this point, like, it feels right.
00:33:26So, I bought some massage oil.
00:33:29And then I think there's some wine.
00:33:31Maybe we can have a glass and relax.
00:33:33I love it.
00:33:34Okay, perfect.
00:33:35I love it.
00:33:35I love it.
00:33:45Babe, are you coming?
00:33:47Yeah.
00:33:51Everything feels really natural.
00:33:53Everything feels like it's progressing between us.
00:33:56We're just drawn to each other, which is, you know, really exciting.
00:34:01We had an amazing day together, and I want to pamper Elise.
00:34:05Now's the time to pour some wine, um, you know, light a candle and, you know, show her that I've
00:34:10got skills.
00:34:16Wow.
00:34:17Look at this.
00:34:19Done.
00:34:23Welcome to Sydney.
00:34:25Making you feel better and more relaxed.
00:34:28Cheers.
00:34:29Cheers.
00:34:34Feel like a massage?
00:34:35Yeah, I would love one.
00:34:37I'm going to lay it out.
00:34:38This doesn't mean you're necessarily sleeping in the bed tonight.
00:34:41That's okay.
00:34:41I didn't sleep yet.
00:34:44Lay on your stomach.
00:34:46Okay.
00:34:54Is that a lot?
00:34:55It's not super.
00:34:59Wow, that's a lot of oil.
00:35:03You can go harder.
00:35:05Harder.
00:35:05Wait.
00:35:08You should go down lower.
00:35:10You're, like, trying to be, like, a little respectful, but come on, don't be a little bitch.
00:35:18Give me, like, everything.
00:35:19Slap on the ass?
00:35:20Yeah, slap on the ass.
00:35:21Like, grab my hair with the oil in it.
00:35:24I mean, I don't have extensions for nothing.
00:35:26F*** rip me around a little bit here.
00:35:29Wow.
00:35:31It's a family show, I thought you said.
00:35:35Are you nervous?
00:35:36Yeah.
00:35:38Shaking.
00:35:39I can feel it.
00:35:40You reckon?
00:35:40Uh-huh.
00:35:49All right, guys.
00:35:54What the f*** are you doing?
00:35:58Oh, my God.
00:36:01The timing on me.
00:36:03Hi, Chris.
00:36:04Yeah, hi.
00:36:05Nice.
00:36:06Now it's a party.
00:36:07Now it's a party?
00:36:09I can't stop on my account.
00:36:11I'm getting another wine glass.
00:36:15I did not see that coming.
00:36:16I did.
00:36:18I don't f***ing half naked right now.
00:36:20But, you know, there's better places to give a naked massage in the house than the communal area as well.
00:36:25Half naked massage.
00:36:26You know what?
00:36:26You're absolutely right.
00:36:27Yeah.
00:36:28But, you know, I think I was just blind with lust.
00:36:32Ew.
00:36:33You have to say it's so weird, fool, bro.
00:36:39All right.
00:36:40Well, I'm going to go to my room.
00:36:44Well, that just ruined the moment.
00:36:47This is exactly why I don't want a guy with roommate.
00:36:52Can you button me back up?
00:36:55I'm, like, literally in my bra and underwear.
00:36:58Showing your skin to other people?
00:37:01Who is that?
00:37:02Not me.
00:37:03No, I'm not embarrassed.
00:37:04Like, I'll get naked in front of everyone.
00:37:06We know that.
00:37:06But, like, Chris f***ing walks in as your hands are groping my body, and it's, like, such a sexual nice
00:37:12night.
00:37:13And, like...
00:37:13Yeah, I probably should have done it in the bedroom.
00:37:15Not my finest hour.
00:37:18Sorry, baby.
00:37:19Well, that f***ing killed the mood.
00:37:21For now.
00:37:21You know?
00:37:24Okay.
00:37:33Andrus?
00:37:34Andrus?
00:37:35Andrus, andrus, andrus, the air to air.
00:37:36This is the shower?
00:37:37Yeah.
00:37:39I think toilet.
00:37:40Oh, hell no!
00:37:43I'm a little bit embarrassed of his reaction in front of my father.
00:37:48Prepare for the zenith.
00:37:50What?
00:37:52This is paper to write on.
00:37:53You wipe this...
00:37:54Yes!
00:37:55This freak!
00:37:56Stop it!
00:38:20Wow, babe.
00:38:20This is where you grew up?
00:38:22Yeah, it's here.
00:38:34Hey!
00:38:37Yeah.
00:38:37Is that your rooster?
00:38:38No, not mine, but my neighbor's.
00:38:41Oh, okay.
00:38:42We just got to the area of Trish's family home.
00:38:46I've never seen a home where you have to walk so far to get to off the main road.
00:38:53Ooh, this is a journey.
00:38:55Don't complain.
00:38:57But I'm happy to be here with Trish because I want a future with her and if I can get
00:39:05her
00:39:05family's approval, I think that she would be able to see that I'm a good person and maybe
00:39:11it would make up for what I did in the past.
00:39:16Oh, this is it?
00:39:17Yeah, this is my house.
00:39:20Oh, that's my sister.
00:39:22Oh, this is your sister.
00:39:25I need to meet her.
00:39:28She does look like you.
00:39:30She's very beautiful.
00:39:31Yeah, she is.
00:39:32Nice to meet you.
00:39:35And who is this?
00:39:37My brother.
00:39:38Oh, this is your brother?
00:39:39Yeah.
00:39:39Come on, brother.
00:39:41Por favor.
00:39:42Cheesy.
00:39:44Hello, sir.
00:39:44How are you doing?
00:39:46Nice to meet you.
00:39:47Nice to meet you.
00:39:50Trish has told me that she has a huge family and they all live on this compound together.
00:39:57Hi, I'm Rick.
00:39:58It's nice to meet you.
00:39:59Oh, this is your brother.
00:40:00Okay.
00:40:01Good.
00:40:03Okay.
00:40:03Nice to meet you.
00:40:05Oh, how are you?
00:40:06My sister.
00:40:07This is your sister?
00:40:09It's so nice to meet you.
00:40:10You look like my grandmother.
00:40:13I wasn't expecting that many people.
00:40:16You know, I keep seeing people pouring in one by one.
00:40:21Just when I'm thinking, that should be everybody there.
00:40:24And there's more people coming.
00:40:26Like, how am I going to remember all these people's names and who they are?
00:40:32Bye-bye.
00:40:47My dad says, you sleep down?
00:40:49The Terese Matura Ombuna.
00:40:52Oh.
00:40:53And me, I'm sorry.
00:40:54Uh, okay.
00:40:57The bunk beds remind me of when I was a kid and me and my sister.
00:41:01I never imagined myself sleeping in the bunk bed at my age.
00:41:06But I respect her dad and, and, and her, and their culture.
00:41:12How do you...
00:41:14Hello.
00:41:15Hello.
00:41:15Hello.
00:41:16Hello.
00:41:17Hello.
00:41:18This is the shower?
00:41:19Yeah.
00:41:21We just put water in the container and bring it here.
00:41:25There's no running water coming down to wrench you off.
00:41:29No.
00:41:30And where, where does this water come from?
00:41:32From the river?
00:41:33Like, something under the ground.
00:41:37A whale?
00:41:38Yeah.
00:41:39He's going to show you the bathroom.
00:41:42Okay.
00:41:44I smell something already.
00:41:46How do you have a toilet?
00:41:48Oh, hell no.
00:41:50Yeah.
00:41:51All I see is a wooden plank with a hole cut out of it.
00:41:57Paper for the, uh, the knee.
00:42:00Wait, wait, wait.
00:42:02Yeah.
00:42:03This is paper to write on.
00:42:05You wipe, you wipe this?
00:42:06Yeah.
00:42:08Stop it.
00:42:09That's how I...
00:42:09Sit, sit, sit.
00:42:10Finish.
00:42:12Oh, good.
00:42:13That's it.
00:42:15I'm a little bit embarrassed of his reaction in front of my father.
00:42:21But I'm not surprised.
00:42:23Ever since Rick came to Madagascar, he complains about everything.
00:42:30I don't like the traffic, I'll tell you that much already.
00:42:34And they just leave the meat out like this without refrigeration?
00:42:38These are tight quarters right here, baby.
00:42:41It's kind of squished.
00:42:43It's hot.
00:42:44I hope it's not going to be this hot in Losi Bank.
00:42:46Shouldn't they have, like, some long tongs?
00:42:49No, we don't need the long tongs.
00:42:51You are the only bougie here, afraid of something.
00:42:54Oh, my God.
00:42:55Terrible.
00:42:57Oh.
00:42:59This is the living room?
00:43:01Yeah.
00:43:02Yeah, this is the living room.
00:43:05Mandrosa, Mandrosa, Mandrosa, Mandrosa.
00:43:07Mandrosa.
00:43:08What is this, like, a family meeting or something?
00:43:12Okay.
00:43:13Yeah.
00:43:14Yeah.
00:43:25So they approve that you are here, and he's going to give us a blessing.
00:43:33This blessing is just for accepting you to go around with me.
00:43:39Okay.
00:43:40In my culture, you cannot just walk around with a man outside there without your parents'
00:43:48acceptation.
00:43:49Like, it's not a blessing to get engaged.
00:43:52No.
00:43:53It's just he's giving an authorization to having relationship.
00:44:01This is for a blessing.
00:44:02That's it.
00:44:03Too big.
00:44:03It is a silver.
00:44:04Was that a bracelet?
00:44:05Yeah, a bracelet.
00:44:06Oh, my God.
00:44:07Oh, my God.
00:44:07Oh, my God.
00:44:07Oh, my God.
00:44:07Oh, my God.
00:44:08Oh, my God.
00:44:08Oh, my God.
00:44:09Oh, my God.
00:44:39Oh, my God.
00:44:47Oh, my God.
00:44:49Oh, my God.
00:44:50Oh, my God.
00:44:52Oh, my God.
00:44:52Oh, my God.
00:44:53Oh, my God.
00:44:53Oh, my God.
00:44:54Oh, my God.
00:44:54Oh, my God.
00:44:55Oh, my God.
00:44:55Oh, my God.
00:44:56Oh, my God.
00:44:56Oh, my God.
00:44:58Oh, my God.
00:44:58Oh, my God.
00:44:58Oh, my God.
00:44:59Oh, my God.
00:44:59Oh, my God.
00:45:01Oh, my God.
00:45:01Oh, my God.
00:45:02Oh, my God.
00:45:04Oh, my God.
00:45:05Oh, my God.
00:45:06Oh, my God.
00:45:35until he says i don't want to be with you until he says those words
00:45:38i'm not giving up hope i'm still deeply in love with daniel i believe that if he just gives me
00:45:46a
00:45:46chance he will see that we are meant to be together same sex is a disgrace this is something that
00:45:53you
00:45:53and i cannot settle are you still thinking that there's a chance for us or is there no chance for
00:45:57us daniel
00:46:32shh
00:46:38i feel miserable
00:46:42numb
00:46:46really sad
00:46:50but i feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders i just don't know what happens from here
00:46:59last night i came clean to daniel i told him everything there are no more secrets
00:47:06and he didn't react good he called me evil he didn't talk to me he looked at me with disgust
00:47:13he's not accepting who i am so he slept on the sofa i slept in the bedroom
00:47:20i'm mad and i'm angry and i'm hurt but i'm still desperately madly deeply in love with daniel
00:47:30my plan is to go back to lagos today i'm cutting the trip short there's a big fear he's never
00:47:37going
00:47:37to trust me again and that he's going to leave me but until he says i don't want to be
00:47:41with you
00:47:41until he says those words i'm not giving up hope
00:47:46telling the truth is a heavier weight between daniel and i
00:47:51i don't even know if he wants to talk to his uncle anymore about me lying about still being married
00:47:57but i believe that if he just gives me a chance looks at me as lisa sees me as a
00:48:03person he fell in
00:48:04love with those months ago that he will see that we are meant to be together i still want to
00:48:10be
00:48:10with daniel but now it's up to him
00:48:19how do you feel
00:48:20missa is full of lies i don't think her lies is over because she keep on cooking new ones every
00:48:27day
00:48:29why did you call her evil because she's she's evil keeping sick all these secrets
00:48:35i've been thinking the way of how to talk to my uncle about the one she she told me already
00:48:41that she have she have not been divorced not knowing that she has been in a relationship with
00:48:46her fellow women she's been practicing same sex
00:48:51so i don't know how i'm going to face him it's against our tradition
00:49:05daniel can i ask you a question
00:49:10just allow me to be
00:49:11like we have to talk you can't ignore me forever
00:49:16please
00:49:18you need to give me time i have to think
00:49:24can you grab your bags i can't carry everything to the car
00:49:30i'm not happy that the person i loved have engaged in this act of same sex
00:49:37i'm not happy
00:49:38another love gone bad again bad again bad again bad again
00:49:44but what obsesses me the most is the lies
00:49:48i love this i want to forgive her but after what she did
00:49:52i don't trust her anymore
00:49:55i don't know if i can continue this relationship
00:49:57you're on your own hope you feel the pain of your thoughts inside driving you insane
00:50:27i'm not happy
00:50:30i don't trust her
00:50:33so are you ever going to talk to me I am totally confused we dated for six
00:50:41months you have every opportunity to tell me whatever you want to tell me but
00:50:46you never did I was scared why didn't you tell my uncle because this is between me
00:50:52and you why does he need to know anything anything yeah you call this
00:50:57anything yeah same sex is a disgrace to any family that involved involved in
00:51:03it it's against our tradition but it's not against American tradition but you're in
00:51:11my country you're in my tribe this is something that you and I cannot settle my
00:51:17uncle have to be involved are you promising me that you will not go back to practicing same sex
00:51:24Daniel if we're married I plan on marrying you for the rest of my life there's not going to be
00:51:29another woman if I'm with you I'm with you are you still thinking that there's a chance for us or
00:51:36is
00:51:36there no chance for us Daniel I don't know I don't think I will continue with this relationship until
00:51:43my uncle comes I should have told you I should have told you before I came and then you could
00:51:50have determined if you wanted to even be with me or not be with me and there wouldn't be all
00:51:55these
00:51:55emotions involved and there wouldn't be all this struggle I should have just told you I was scared to
00:52:00tell you and I was scared to lose you I'm scared of losing you this all comes down to his
00:52:09uncle when he
00:52:11finds out that I lied about me being with women for 21 years I'm worried that his uncle will never
00:52:17forgive me and never accept me and this relationship will be over I don't want to talk about this
00:52:26anymore auntie my uncle comes please
00:52:45don't help that ow that does not hurt that really hurts yeah it's not that's how you know I'm so
00:52:51sexually
00:52:52attracted to you because I love popping your pimples good did you sleep well I'm pretty tired I can't
00:53:09believe after six months I had sex I feel like I'm not a virgin anymore like I'm a little mad
00:53:16at
00:53:17myself that I should have waited longer but it felt right it was a lot of fun do you think
00:53:25Chris heard
00:53:25us possibly how many times do you have sex last night twice it was just too hard to keep our
00:53:36hands off
00:53:37each other and just it felt like it flowed it was like missionary it was great and then like to
00:53:43the
00:53:43side was the other one did you get a glimpse of the picture of Chris above I forgot that painting
00:53:50was
00:53:50in the room well you didn't even me doggy style it's like couldn't even see the painting yesterday last
00:53:55night I feel like we're an old married couple yeah like I'm so comfortable with you like usually like
00:54:04at home like if I like sleep with a guy like I just want to like go leave the next
00:54:09day but like I'm stuck
00:54:10with you and I'm here with you and they're like I'm happy that I'm here and like I came you
00:54:16know did
00:54:17you I did Chris walking in when I'm on the couch getting massage that definitely brought the mood
00:54:25down he had a lot of making up to do if he wanted to have sex and he definitely made
00:54:29it up it was
00:54:30everything I could have dreamed of it more everything about this man is so sexy except the uncircumcised
00:54:39there's a first uncircumcised
00:54:44it's a little weird it's like you know but also there's not like a dictionary on like how to use
00:54:52extra skin but like like I'm not complaining about it I can deal with that I'm glad that
00:55:04you felt comfortable very quickly I did I'm like one part of me is like super happy but the other
00:55:12part of me is like I should have I should I want to know more than and then but whatever
00:55:17like I
00:55:17shouldn't be so hard on myself just ask anything you want do anything you want say yeah yeah okay
00:55:23I'll start asking don't hate me okay go so I'm confused about this rental situation like a little
00:55:32annoying that Chris like walked in during that like why is he even here with you renting it in the
00:55:38first
00:55:38place because last I knew is you lived with your parents yep um I mean like we were living together
00:55:46and
00:55:46then we sort of had to get out after we moved out I dropped my stuff to my parents and
00:55:51sort of
00:55:52stayed there for a week but then you know I um I've been living with Nat I've been staying at
00:56:01hers
00:56:01because you know she lives a lot closer to work so why I feel like I'm a detective and I'm
00:56:09trying to
00:56:09like navigate this like detective puzzle because you've confused me so much I know now we've talked
00:56:16on the phone a few times but living together I think their relationship's a little weird if it's
00:56:22so platonic and you're just friends why would you have to lie to me about it and tell me you're
00:56:27living
00:56:27with your parents this just smells fishy to me um I just I mean to me it's a little weird
00:56:37that you're
00:56:38living with a girl and like you talk about her a lot too and like I just I don't know
00:56:46like
00:56:46she's my friend you're here you're my you're my girlfriend so that's it's exactly the same as Chris
00:56:52I would treat exactly the same as I do Chris you know like do you guys like share a bathroom
00:56:56like
00:56:57does she see you naked like like how does that work why is that funny no it's funny because you
00:57:03know I get it that's you know I get why you'd ask those questions um yeah of course we share
00:57:07a bathroom
00:57:08right but um she hasn't seen me naked her and I are just friends she's like you know just a
00:57:14really
00:57:14good friend but you know she knows about you and that you're my partner and you know um I really
00:57:20want
00:57:20you guys to get along because it's important for me well you must feel some sort of way because you
00:57:23didn't tell me you lived with her maybe it was a part of me you know not wanting you to
00:57:32get you know
00:57:33jealous and back out of this before you got here so how do I know when you're telling me the
00:57:37truth
00:57:38well that's your job to believe me and it's my job to prove it to you
00:57:44I'm supposed to meet Josh's friends tonight including that so I need to take advantage and
00:57:49get the whole picture of him I want to see how Joshua treats me in front of her see what
00:57:54she says to me
00:57:55if there's any skeletons in the closet that Joshua hasn't told me that I'm gonna find out
00:57:59like what else do I not know that I should know I want to give Joshua the benefit of the
00:58:06doubt but I
00:58:06don't fully trust him after this at the end of the day like you know you're you know you're mine
00:58:12and
00:58:13you're my number one priority so I normally don't feel fit oh oh I'm 52 52
00:58:36they want babies
00:59:05that's a goat we call it
00:59:07I was
00:59:09that's enough small enough there
00:59:24oh
00:59:25enjoy enjoy oh thank you
00:59:33I don't know if I can hold my legs like this.
00:59:37I'm going to sit like your aunt when we try that.
00:59:47Only women are allowed to sit like this?
00:59:50She's not going to sit like this till the end,
00:59:52just serving the food.
00:59:55So far, everything has seemed pretty good with Rick and my family,
01:00:00even though he's acting like an old man.
01:00:06My father said you have to use to do it.
01:00:11But I know my family is going to be asking him a lot of questions,
01:00:16and I don't know how Rick is going to respond.
01:00:27What is the intention to me?
01:00:33I look at her as being a prospective wife to me.
01:00:46I love her very much, and I'm hoping that she could possibly love me the same.
01:00:53I love her really well!
01:01:03What do you say?
01:01:13How old are you?
01:01:15Oh, I'm, I'm fifty-two.
01:01:31You have the same age as him.
01:02:02You, you have married?
01:02:06You have married?
01:02:07Yes, yes, I've been married two months.
01:02:11But now, I'm not married.
01:02:17Do you have a child?
01:02:20Yes.
01:02:20I have two babies, and then I have three adults.
01:02:30Five years.
01:02:49They want babies.
01:02:59Trish and I have been talking about whether or not we're gonna have kids, and I'm just not ready to
01:03:07make that decision yet.
01:03:29They want respect.
01:03:35And as Malakasi, we get married.
01:03:38I'm married, and I have a child.
01:03:44I'm married, and I have a child.
01:04:10I understand that.
01:04:12And now that I see how important this is, it's gonna be the forefront of my mind.
01:04:29When are you gonna decide it?
01:04:34Before, you know, I come to your father and ask for your hand in marriage, I will make a decision.
01:04:42Okay.
01:04:43Okay.
01:04:52Trish, she warned me about how strongly her family felt about having kids.
01:04:59But now the heat is on, and I'm starting to feel the pressure.
01:05:04My feelings have grown so much for Trish that I couldn't picture a life without her at this point.
01:05:12But I really don't wanna have more kids.
01:05:17I don't know how I'm gonna make this decision.
01:05:24Today, I found out that he was living with you.
01:05:26Yeah.
01:05:27I thought you knew that.
01:05:27I don't think that guys and girls can be friends without hooking up.
01:05:31I've tried that.
01:05:31It's never succeeded for me.
01:05:32Oh, no.
01:05:32I have so many guy friends.
01:05:35Let's put two and two together.
01:05:36Josh lied to me about living there.
01:05:39Something's fishy.
01:05:40Something's shady.
01:05:41So are you jealous of me?
01:05:53I didn't you be jealous of me?
01:05:54This whole show is will be my ì—†as.
01:05:54Oh, no, no.
01:05:56This is unplugged.
01:05:58Oh, yes.
01:06:01I'm jealous.
01:06:05So are you jealous of me.
01:06:05If you wait for me to make big changes for me, you know what the rest of the day
01:06:05is to give you time for me, you will get the focus of my child and your brother and your
01:06:05children.
01:06:05What have you ever said?
01:06:08Be childish,ètement.
01:06:13Very 2017.
01:06:14Yeah, you know what about dating pros, I have to do.
01:06:19I'm so frustrated with Javon, but it makes me feel good when I look good, so I'm just
01:06:26going to do my own thing.
01:06:30And we talk.
01:06:40That's all we do, talk.
01:06:42So frustrating.
01:06:49I'm really starting to feel hopeless that we're never going to resolve this problem.
01:06:56Really can't do this submissive thing.
01:07:01I'm afraid that it's trying to change me.
01:07:06But, I mean, this is not like a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship where you can just
01:07:11back out.
01:07:14We're married, so I just can't ignore him forever, especially now that he's in my house.
01:07:26Hey.
01:07:28Hey.
01:07:33I like your outfit.
01:07:38Thanks.
01:07:39I mean, do you want to talk any about yesterday?
01:07:48Sometimes I just can't take your arrogance, Javon.
01:07:57I just think that I feel like I have to fight to be heard.
01:08:01You know, I know you want to come off like, you know, I'm not going to be pushed around.
01:08:04You're going to hear me.
01:08:07To me, it, it causes more fights than it solves.
01:08:13I get what you're coming from, but this is what you married.
01:08:18I am not the type of woman who would just say yes, just to have peace.
01:08:25Ever since I was a child, I felt like I was voiceless.
01:08:29And I saw my mom, you know, she gone through this domestic abuse in the past.
01:08:34Mm-hmm.
01:08:36The goodness in her was also the reason why she was abused.
01:08:42And I promised myself that's not going to happen to me.
01:08:47Every time you show some sarcastic remarks or arrogance or you raise your voice sometimes,
01:08:55I mean, we argue, my initial reaction is to stand up for myself if I have to.
01:09:04I know, but Anna, you understand I'm not your father.
01:09:08I don't raise my voice at you, and I'm not this person that's trying to, like, dominate you.
01:09:13I know you're not my dad.
01:09:15The point is, you're hard on me.
01:09:19I'm hard on you, but I'm not aggressive with it, you know?
01:09:22I know I've married a strong woman, but you're a little bit too strong.
01:09:27And that can sometimes work against you rather than for you.
01:09:33I grew up with an abusive father.
01:09:38He died long time ago.
01:09:41But from hearing about my mom's relationship with my dad,
01:09:45I learned from a very young age when to speak up.
01:09:50If I'm not comfortable, I should know how to express my feelings and set boundaries.
01:09:56But maybe there's a way for me to be strong and independent without lashing out.
01:10:14And I'll do my best to, you know, I guess just not be so, you know, sarcastic and arrogant, okay?
01:10:28All right?
01:10:30Deal?
01:10:30All right.
01:10:31Come on.
01:10:32You all right.
01:10:35I'll work it out, okay?
01:10:38Nice, buddy.
01:10:39Oh, well, let's go to the room where it's cool, man.
01:10:42You want to?
01:10:43Yeah.
01:10:43All right.
01:10:46I just know, you know, whatever issues that me and Anna have had, I'm very proud to be worried.
01:10:54Thank you so much, boo-boo.
01:10:58I don't know what it is, but every time we make up, he starts to look hot.
01:11:04Oh, yeah?
01:11:08Yeah.
01:11:09Yeah.
01:11:10Take me a minute.
01:11:12Catch on.
01:11:24I get the feeling that we're going all the way.
01:11:29Because we're falling deep, boy, and I got so much to say.
01:11:33Baby, do I look okay?
01:11:35Absolutely perfect.
01:11:38But it might get a bit cold at night, so maybe grab a top or something.
01:11:44And guess what?
01:11:45What?
01:11:45I have a purse that matches your outfit perfectly.
01:11:48So I have to carry it?
01:11:49Yeah.
01:11:50That's not great.
01:11:58Oh, God, it's a little nipply out.
01:12:01A little nipply.
01:12:08Okay, so where do you want to sit?
01:12:11Is there upstairs?
01:12:13The plan for today is we're going to go and meet my friends to get her out in the city
01:12:17in the harbour.
01:12:19I am excited, but nervous more so.
01:12:22I explained to Elise that I was living with Nat and she was not happy about it.
01:12:27But I want to prove to her that she has nothing to worry about.
01:12:35Are you falling?
01:12:36Yeah, I'm falling for you.
01:12:38Oh, that was cool.
01:12:42Wow.
01:12:46This is, like, stunning.
01:12:47Like, not what I expected.
01:12:50It's nice, huh?
01:12:50It's beautiful.
01:12:52Thank you, babe.
01:12:54I love how you hold my purse.
01:12:58Walking into this, I'm afraid of a lot.
01:13:00Like, I'm afraid, you know, am I going to catch him in any more lies?
01:13:03I'm nervous to see how he's going to act towards me.
01:13:06Is he going to be attentive?
01:13:06Is he going to make me feel comfortable?
01:13:08It's really important to be accepted into the friend group.
01:13:11But on the same time, like, I came here for answers.
01:13:13I want answers and I want to figure out his life.
01:13:15And, like, I don't want to be lied to.
01:13:16He's going to make me feel comfortable.
01:13:18Oh, hi.
01:13:20Hello, hello, hello, hello.
01:13:22Hi.
01:13:24Nice to meet you.
01:13:25Nice to meet you, girl.
01:13:26You're beautiful.
01:13:27Oh, you're a y'all person.
01:13:28I'm tall.
01:13:29No, I meant y'all, not tall.
01:13:31Hey, Liz.
01:13:32How are you?
01:13:33Steve.
01:13:33Nice to meet you, finally.
01:13:34Nice to meet you.
01:13:35Nice to meet you.
01:13:35How are you?
01:13:36And I know you.
01:13:37I know you.
01:13:39Oh.
01:13:40Keep back.
01:13:41Keep back.
01:13:42What is it, you?
01:13:43Chewbacca?
01:13:45Where are we all sitting?
01:13:46We're all sitting alone, man.
01:13:48We're sitting, I guess.
01:13:49We'll get attacked by seagulls, but...
01:13:50Hopefully no one can look at my skirt.
01:13:54Just everyone, man.
01:13:55Yeah, sorry.
01:13:57This is great.
01:13:58Oh, my favorite people.
01:14:01I need this.
01:14:03Thank you so much.
01:14:04To my girlfriend, Elise.
01:14:07I don't know why that's so funny.
01:14:08Like, why are you saying it with a smile?
01:14:11Okay.
01:14:12To my girlfriend, Elise.
01:14:16I can't.
01:14:17Fish.
01:14:20I've spoken to Elise before, and she comes across lovely, but she comes across very Miami.
01:14:27Like, a lot of skimpy clothes, right?
01:14:28Very skimpy, but gorgeous.
01:14:30Like, this is skimpy for us.
01:14:32Yeah, well, very skimpy.
01:14:33Yeah, yeah, correct, correct, correct.
01:14:34But she was skimpy, skimpy, skimpy.
01:14:35Yeah.
01:14:36Are you jet lagging?
01:14:3816 hours.
01:14:39I'm so jet lagged.
01:14:40I'm coming this way.
01:14:41You guys, I don't like, I don't like, they're sitting too far away, so.
01:14:44Yeah, I know.
01:14:44Wrap up to this other bar?
01:14:46Yes.
01:14:46Let's do it.
01:14:46Let's do it.
01:14:51Are we going to go in here?
01:14:52Yeah, yeah, we're over here.
01:14:53Oh, this face looks so cute.
01:14:55Yeah.
01:14:56My impression of Josh's friends is they're all nice, but when I see Nat and I think my boyfriend
01:15:04lives with her, I'm like, is there something, like, I'm not understanding?
01:15:08Because I don't think there's a sexual connection, but, like, I think it's weird.
01:15:12I think it's so weird.
01:15:15Guys, we need to make Elise love Sydney, so otherwise, I'll be moving to Miami.
01:15:23I can make you love Sydney.
01:15:24I would love that.
01:15:26Are you staying in Sydney?
01:15:28Bond, I did.
01:15:30I'm staying in a rental that Joshua and Chris have.
01:15:35Yep.
01:15:36Because today I found out that he was living with you.
01:15:39Yeah.
01:15:39I thought you knew that.
01:15:40Yeah.
01:15:41He was staying with me for a little bit.
01:15:45So, so how did he ask to live with you?
01:15:48Like, how did this happen?
01:15:49He was kind of between places, and I was like, why don't you just come and stay with me?
01:15:53Because it was much closer for his work.
01:15:56And, you know, to be honest, I was going through a bit of a rough time.
01:16:00And I needed, I needed comfort.
01:16:03I needed someone there to.
01:16:04Support.
01:16:05Yeah, shoulder to cry on.
01:16:06So, it was, it worked out well.
01:16:09Yeah.
01:16:09I mean, look, as I said, like, she's one of my closest mates.
01:16:14There's a lot to unfold.
01:16:16I don't think that guys and girls can be friends without hooking up.
01:16:19I've tried that.
01:16:19It's never succeeded for me.
01:16:21I have so many guy friends.
01:16:22Oh, yay.
01:16:22I have so many guy friends.
01:16:25And this is probably Australia.
01:16:26It's probably a little bit different.
01:16:28It's a culture thing.
01:16:29It's a culture thing.
01:16:30It's a bit more laid back.
01:16:31We're a bit more easy about it.
01:16:33Like, we trust more, I think.
01:16:35Yeah.
01:16:35We trust.
01:16:36Yeah.
01:16:38I think men and women can be friends.
01:16:40I have a lot of male friends.
01:16:41I wouldn't ever sleep with Josh.
01:16:43He's my brother to me.
01:16:45So, I find it very weird.
01:16:47Yeah.
01:16:47They can belize their own insecurities.
01:16:49And hopefully they'll grow together and go through that.
01:16:52Yeah.
01:16:52And that's how trust is built.
01:16:54Yeah.
01:16:57I think that he's going to have a struggle maintaining you and maintaining me, if I have
01:17:03to be completely honest.
01:17:08So, are you jealous of me and our relationship?
01:17:12I feel uneasy about it.
01:17:15Yeah.
01:17:16Well, look, I get it.
01:17:17And hopefully that can change, you know.
01:17:19I think it's more of the fact that you're living with her.
01:17:21Yeah.
01:17:21I guess the question I have, are you paying?
01:17:24Like, are you letting them lay there for free?
01:17:27I'm always paying for the whole rental, right?
01:17:31Right.
01:17:31You have been generous.
01:17:33I'm being generous.
01:17:33I'm a generous person and I love doing that for my friends.
01:17:36Yeah.
01:17:37Well, I think that she's helping you financially.
01:17:39I think that she has a financial hold on you that's making you feel some sort of way.
01:17:43No, no, no, no, no, no, no.
01:17:45No, I don't.
01:17:45No, that's, no.
01:17:47That's, see, that, that offends me.
01:17:54She took me in and, like, helped me out.
01:17:57So, yeah, you could say financially, help me there.
01:17:59But in saying that, like, it's temporary.
01:18:01Everyone knows it's temporary.
01:18:03Probably, I should have been more clearer and I should have been more transparent.
01:18:07Let's put two and two together.
01:18:09Joshua's struggling financially.
01:18:11He's lied to me about living there.
01:18:14Something's fishy.
01:18:15Something's shady.
01:18:16I don't want my boyfriend getting financially supported by another girl.
01:18:20That's disgusting and weird.
01:18:22Like, that's not what I signed up for.
01:18:29Why do we have to live in your country?
01:18:32If you live here with me, I could take good care of you.
01:18:35I don't know if I can leave my family.
01:18:38I have been waiting here for the last seven years.
01:18:40If he happened to come back to his country, we're not even sure that he would ever come back.
01:18:47I'm sorry.
01:18:48I'm so sorry, Sheen.
01:19:03So that was eye-opening.
01:19:05Yeah, I know.
01:19:17It's just so much information all at once.
01:19:20Yeah, it's a lot to think about it, to be honest.
01:19:24Sheena and I just met with an immigration lawyer,
01:19:26and everything kind of blew up in my face.
01:19:32I thought this entire time that it was only going to take months
01:19:35to get Sheena to the United States and everything figured out.
01:19:38But now, after hearing that my disability payments
01:19:41that I get monthly does not count,
01:19:44and it's going to take years,
01:19:46this is the biggest setback ever.
01:19:52There's just so many things going on in my head right now.
01:19:55I just want to, you know, understand kind of what you're thinking.
01:19:59Well, for me, it's like I wanted to move in the U.S.
01:20:04But the thing is, it's been like seven years.
01:20:08Plus, you're going to add another two or three years
01:20:10while you find a job and save enough money for the K-1 visa.
01:20:17I don't know.
01:20:20I know that you wanted to go to the U.S., my love.
01:20:24But why do we have to live in your country?
01:20:26That's my good question.
01:20:30It's easier for me to stay here because of the Filipino visa.
01:20:35And I'm a professional here.
01:20:37If you live here with me, I could take good care of you.
01:20:41Then I'll try to help you to find a job as well.
01:20:44I think that's the best option for us.
01:20:51I still have my worries about that, though.
01:20:54With my autism, it makes things hard.
01:20:58And I know I am fighting with my mom,
01:21:01but I don't know if I can leave my family.
01:21:07What makes me upset is, like,
01:21:10he loves his mom, his family.
01:21:12I understand that.
01:21:13But what about me?
01:21:15I have been waiting here for the last seven years.
01:21:18If he happened to come back to his country,
01:21:21we're not even sure that he would ever come back.
01:21:24So I will be the one who's stranded,
01:21:26and I will be hurt as well.
01:21:39I just really felt sad, disappointed.
01:21:43I was expecting you
01:21:45that I could be with my partner for the last seven years.
01:21:54I don't know.
01:22:01I don't want to be apart from you that long,
01:22:04and I don't want to...
01:22:08I don't want to give up my mom.
01:22:15Sorry.
01:22:16I'm so sorry I put you in this situation, Sheen.
01:22:20I won't keep trying.
01:22:25Now that I know that I can possibly stay here
01:22:28and be with Sheena every single day,
01:22:32I feel kind of stuck.
01:22:33Any option I make,
01:22:34I'm either going to hurt the woman I love
01:22:37or my mother.
01:22:42This...
01:22:43This is probably the hardest decision
01:22:45I've ever had to make.
01:22:47She's my second half.
01:22:48I know she's the one for me.
01:22:51And just being with her,
01:22:54being able to talk, joke,
01:22:56have everything,
01:22:57I don't want to lose that.
01:22:58I won't give up
01:23:03I won't keep trying
01:23:10Next time on Before the 90 Days.
01:23:14Teamwork makes the dream work, babe.
01:23:15Ah, you're going to...
01:23:16Oh, you're sorry.
01:23:17You're kind of turning me on.
01:23:19Babe.
01:23:20I did not know.
01:23:22Rolling so kind of dirty,
01:23:23could be sexy.
01:23:24I'm so hungry.
01:23:27You have pregnancy grievance?
01:23:29I haven't gotten my period yet.
01:23:32How would you feel if I was?
01:23:38Tell me you love her.
01:23:39If I was in love with her,
01:23:42I would have made a move.
01:23:43Dude, you made a move.
01:23:44You blow it.
01:23:45No, no, no, no, no, no.
01:23:47Laura made a move on me.
01:23:49I am thinking about sharing my life,
01:23:51and you are keeping secret from me.
01:23:55This is betrayal.
01:24:03See, this water is cold.
01:24:05You can survive.
01:24:07I hope Trish's family can see
01:24:10that I'm trying
01:24:10and that I am a good partner for Trish.
01:24:24Going to Casablanca right now
01:24:25to see Mohamed,
01:24:26it's kind of surreal.
01:24:28I mean, I have my engagement ring
01:24:29Mohamed gave to me when he proposed.
01:24:33Putting this ring back on
01:24:34is actually bringing up old feelings.
01:24:37But I don't know
01:24:39how this meeting is going to go.
01:24:42My heart's racing.
01:24:49Why did you just leave?
01:24:51You're upset.
01:24:52So you don't care that I'm upset?
01:24:55So you just walk away from me?
01:24:58After what I found out about Nat,
01:25:00my mind is just in so many directions,
01:25:03and I'm freaking out.
01:25:05I don't know what the f*** is going on right now.
01:25:10I want to go home.
01:25:15She has gotten married five times.
01:25:18And from 21 years,
01:25:20she has been in a relationship
01:25:21with several women.
01:25:24Why am I hearing this one now?
01:25:27This is an abomination.
01:25:28No.
01:25:29I can't help what my past is like.
01:25:31I am willing to do whatever it takes
01:25:33to be with Daniel.
01:25:34I can't believe you.
01:25:37Because of this,
01:25:38the mind will be over.
01:25:41I can't breathe.
01:25:43I can't breathe.
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