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00:00For me, what love generally translates into is that when I try to feel it or try to go deeper
00:05into it,
00:06it generally takes the direction of sexual instinct.
00:09I find myself in a mess.
00:10I have nothing to say about sex at all.
00:13It's your body, your personal matter.
00:15It's like your morning routine.
00:16Who am I to judge the color of your shit?
00:18Your business, you mind it.
00:21Sex is a niche.
00:22It's a physical thing.
00:23As long as you know what the entire deal is about,
00:27do whatever you want to.
00:28And at the root of most of these relationships is the sexual urge.
00:32So sexual urge becomes relationship, relationship becomes suffering.
00:35That's where the equation threatens.
00:37You must ask yourself, is it worth the deal?
00:40In your thoughts, when the whole thing cooks up,
00:43do you think of life beyond 3 minutes 30 seconds?
00:46Think of that.
00:48Think of the daily chores.
00:50Think of the laundry list.
00:52Think of the vegetables.
00:53How sexy.
00:56Lotte huye kaddu le yana.
01:01Kaddu.
01:04Pumpkin.
01:06Sexy.
01:08All for 3 minutes 30 seconds.
01:12Entire life carrying pumpkins on the head.
01:16Will this company uplift you?
01:18Yes, uplift you.
01:20But only physically.
01:22For 3 hours 30 minutes.
01:253 hours.
01:33When you think of a woman, all you think of is the...
01:43Namaste Acharya Ji, coming close to you, it has been a gradual process like from YouTube
01:48to sessions and then to bookstalls and then being at PAF now.
01:53For me, what love generally translates into is that when I try to feel it or try to go
01:59deeper into it, it generally takes the direction of sexual instincts and the kind of definition
02:04about love that I am getting here, it's kind of difficult for me to relate with it.
02:10I find myself in a mess.
02:12Please, clarify on that.
02:14When I talk of love, you don't feel anything at all.
02:16And when you feel of love, all that you feel is sex.
02:26Sex is an action.
02:28Things happen, right?
02:31Bodies meet.
02:35Organs engage.
02:38We are talking of the actor here.
02:44Sex is an activity, an action.
02:49I am talking of physical sex.
02:50Then there is the psychological sex.
02:52When you are thinking and all, even that is action.
02:55We are talking of who is the one engaging in all that.
03:02Who is the one getting into all that and why?
03:06For what reason?
03:07Does he understand?
03:08We are not condemning any action here.
03:11Your problem is your logdharmic background.
03:16You come from that soil and then this sapling is planted there.
03:28So what you get is some kind of hybrid, a mongrel.
03:43A cross between a mouse and an elephant.
03:49Can't imagine what kind of thing would it be.
03:50Whatever.
03:55That is your love.
03:59Logdharm mates with swadharm.
04:13Rat meets elephant.
04:15Rat meets elephant.
04:16Relephant.
04:24You carry that notion for sure that there is something bad about sex.
04:31Because deep within somewhere you still have respect for Baba Ji.
04:37Will you be able to actually beat him up with your slipper when you meet him?
04:41Because that is what he deserves.
04:42But you won't be able to do that.
04:45That kind of treatment you will give to a thief, to a robber, to a dakwat.
04:50But Baba Ji is worse than these three.
04:53But you will still like at most ignore him.
04:58Somewhere you still respect him.
05:01Therefore you respect all the notions of virginity and chastity he gave you.
05:13And then you create some kind of fusion, a conflation, your logdharmic concepts and the Gita interpretations
05:29you get here.
05:34Relephant.
05:41I have nothing to say about sex at all.
05:46It's your body, your personal matter.
05:47It's like your morning routine.
05:51Who am I to judge the colour of your shit?
05:58Or whether you visit the loo two times a day or four times a day.
06:02It's as physical as that, as prakratik as that.
06:08The question is, do you know yourself?
06:13Do you, as an ego, see yourself?
06:18And if you do, what's the kind of company you want to keep?
06:26If I have any kind of self-diagnosis, I will know the kind of company I should keep and
06:35the kind of person I should avoid.
06:37Right?
06:37Now when you engage with somebody for sexual reasons, a lot of time is spent together.
06:48Maybe the sexual activity lasts just a few minutes, but the companionship does not stop
06:54at that.
06:55Right?
06:56The companionship continues for many many hours, weeks, months, years, sometimes like 14 rebirths.
07:06Just because you had one unfortunate moment of penetration, so now saajjanam tak.
07:16Are you prepared to have that company?
07:19That's the question to be asked.
07:24Sex is a niche.
07:26It's a physical thing.
07:29There is a pleasure even in urinating or shitting.
07:32Ask someone who is holding back.
07:40You know, right?
07:43Even in farting.
07:48People are reported to have fallen unconscious because out of social stigma they couldn't fart.
07:55So the gas actually rose up.
07:59And they were rushed to the hospital and the doctor said, nothing, just get out.
08:07Or hold your nose tight.
08:12Because the explosion is the treatment.
08:18That's very similar to sex in the physical aspect of it.
08:21Nothing more than that.
08:23Physical pleasure.
08:25Like itching a place that's itching to be itched.
08:30That's all.
08:32That's all.
08:34Be it sex.
08:35Be it masturbation.
08:36All that is just like an itch.
08:38A very very physical thing.
08:43The real question lies elsewhere.
08:45And by talking so much of sex, you avoid the real question.
08:49The real question is for the sake of sex.
08:52Now you are accepting this person's company.
08:55And this person will be with you now for so many hours, so many days.
08:59And what will you do to the quality of your life?
09:03What will you do?
09:05Sexual engagement is not just sexual engagement.
09:09The ego is an emotional thing.
09:11You know that, right?
09:14What starts with the body gets into emotions and then gets into some kind of a prolonged company.
09:25Is that a happy bargain?
09:27That's the question.
09:36Or in your momentary excitation, have you forgotten the totality of the deal?
09:53As long as you know what the entire deal is about, do whatever you want to.
10:01What do the sacred books have to do with what you do to your underpants?
10:09Your business, you mind it.
10:16Spirituality has nothing at all to say about your sexual preferences, inclinations.
10:33And remember the bigger issue at hand.
10:36The bigger issue is always the ego.
10:39Because that's what suffers.
10:42And relationships are a major, major source of suffering.
10:51And at the root of most of these relationships is the sexual urge.
10:56So sexual urge becomes relationship, relationship becomes suffering.
11:01That's where the equation threatens.
11:05That's what you should be mindful of.
11:14And for women there is an added component, pregnancy.
11:19So they need to be extra cautious.
11:23Sexual urge will become emotional relationship, emotional thing will become something else.
11:28Then it will become something else and that will beget me kids.
11:33And now it's an entirely different dimension altogether.
11:38New lives, new beings, new kind of attachments, duties you cannot get away from.
11:51And where did all of that come from?
11:54Some itch in the body.
11:57That's all.
11:59That's all.
12:07You must ask yourself, is it worth the deal?
12:12Sex is fine, neither good nor bad.
12:15But it doesn't stop at that.
12:17You look at her and you scream within sex.
12:22Right?
12:23And the time horizon that you have is full three and a half minutes.
12:31That's all, right?
12:37But will it actually seize at three and a half minutes?
12:41No, it starts.
12:44When the clock hits, three minutes, thirty seconds.
12:49Then the real thing starts.
12:53Now there is the cheesy smile, the tears, that special touch, the bonding.
13:10You said I signed up for three and a half minutes.
13:18This is getting longer and deeper.
13:21It will get longer and it will get deeper.
13:25Do you factor that in?
13:28In your thoughts, when the whole thing cooks up.
13:32Do you think of life beyond three minutes, thirty seconds?
13:35No.
13:36Think of that.
13:39Think of the pressure cooker.
13:42Think of the daily chores.
13:45Think of the laundry list.
13:48Think of the vegetables.
13:50How sexy.
13:54When you're fighting, take a dog.
14:01A dog.
14:04Pumpkin.
14:06Sexy.
14:09All for three minutes, thirty seconds.
14:12Entire life carrying pumpkins on the head.
14:23What kind of ego dissolution are you getting from that?
14:26Please tell me.
14:31What kind of liberation is that?
14:35Company is meant to dissolve you, liberate you, elevate you.
14:40What kind of elevation is this?
14:43You know of so many couples.
14:45Please give me one example where they elevate each other.
14:48Please.
14:54That's what you must remember in your movement of sexual urge.
14:58This will become companionship.
15:00And the other person is not here to elevate me.
15:05Because both of you are operating from your ego centers.
15:09The entire objective is just to consume and exploit the other.
15:13The other is just a body to you.
15:15In your movement of sex.
15:19You're not going to elevate the other.
15:21And vice versa.
15:26And then you wonder, where did the entire life drift to?
15:31How did I lose entire life?
15:34Because you know, look at this companionship.
15:37Not that the other person is bad.
15:39The very structure of the institution is evil.
15:46The nature of the relationship itself is to be blamed.
15:52You are welding two persons of the opposite gender together so that they can procreate.
15:57This is an obscene deal.
16:05Nothing is more vulgar than this.
16:14Will this company uplift you?
16:17Yes, uplift you.
16:19But only physically.
16:21For three hours, thirty minutes.
16:31Three hours?
16:32Yes.
16:44I gathered that from the shocked expressions.
17:03Why force other into body identification?
17:07When you look at the other as a body and if the very nature of the relationship is such
17:13that you will be forced to look at the other as the body, then you are demeaning the other.
17:20Also then you are compelling the other to look at himself or herself as the body.
17:30With your friends, with your male friends, if you are sitting, you might not be very conscious of your body.
17:37But the moment a young attractive woman walks into the room, have you seen how you become conscious of your
17:43body?
17:44Have you seen?
17:46Same applies to women.
17:48Three girls sitting and chatting and they might not be very conscious of their clothes.
17:54A young stud walks in and they will be suddenly very conscious of their bodies.
17:59Now that itself bodes ill.
18:05Because here is a person who is making you more body centered.
18:10Even without speaking to you, he is making you feel like a body.
18:17How can the relationship then relieve you from your body?
18:22Then the body is the favorite shelter of the ego.
18:28The first refuge and the first property of the ego, the body.
18:39You want to know the kind of woman you must be with?
18:43The kind of woman you can be with is the one who makes you forget that she is a woman.
18:53And again vice versa.
18:56If a woman asks me, what's the kind of man I can be with?
19:04The man who doesn't come across as a man to you.
19:09The man who makes you practically forget that he is a man.
19:14Except maybe in moments of physical intimacy.
19:17Except for those few minutes.
19:19You can comfortably forget that there is a man or a woman.
19:24The body becomes irrelevant.
19:26The gender becomes irrelevant.
19:27That is right company.
19:39But that doesn't happen with you.
19:40What does it?
19:42The moment you think of a woman, all you think of is the curves and the sexual aspects of the
19:49whole thing.
19:56This is not morality.
20:00Right?
20:01This is diagnosis.
20:04This is reflection.
20:09So sex is alright.
20:11But remember the bigger picture.
20:15Sex is a very very small thing.
20:18It will be over before you realize.
20:22And you will be left with the massive remains of this little thing.
20:36A very petty thing.
20:38A very very petty thing that leaves behind massive residue.
20:45And that residue is yours to carry for life.
20:53That doesn't mean you have to avoid women or men, whatever.
20:57That simply means you must look for the right company and the right relationship.
21:03And the right relationship doesn't exclude sex.
21:07We are not saying that at all.
21:09Sex is not forbidden at all.
21:10We are just saying sex is a small thing.
21:13And right relationship is a much much bigger thing.
21:17Is that difficult to get?
21:21Is that difficult to get?
21:23Right relationship is a much much bigger thing.
21:35Hi, my name is Ankit.
21:37And I am a tech professional here in Bangalore.
21:39I work at LinkedIn.
21:41I've been listening to Acharya Ji for two plus years.
21:45But the initial journey was around YouTube.
21:47Like I was listening a lot on YouTube.
21:49And on YouTube when we listen to Acharya Ji, a lot of mistake that I did and a lot of
21:54us do is that we think that he's some kind of a life coach solving problems of our life and
22:00all of that.
22:01But shift to Gita Satras was the major turning point for me like because that's where I understood where this
22:09learning is coming from.
22:10And like there is a hard base of Bhagavad Gita and Advaita Vedanta philosophy from which all the teachings and
22:17learnings are emerging.
22:18And that has been a life changing force for me.
22:21So I like my life was full of stress, unorganized behavior.
22:25A lot of it has changed and it's changing on a day to day basis.
22:30As and when I observe my life there is massive changes happening.
22:35I somehow feel a lot of spurts of happiness for no reason and a lot of what do you call
22:43like pressure as well like to do better and better and better which I had forgotten which I had left
22:50after my school days and college days.
22:52Is that okay now the learning part stops now is the time to kind of live life and have that
22:57Bangalore kind of vibe like partying and outing and malls and shopping and all of that.
23:03That's that's there but now you see that where it's coming from what is the root of it and how
23:11that is something which does not fulfill us and what fulfills us is something totally different.
23:15As I said my life was very messed up and disorganized but joining Gita Satras is changing it like phenomenally
23:23and I hope to continue on this path for a much longer time and become like a completely transformed person.
23:31All thanks to Acharya Ji and I can't thank him enough in words especially the Gita sessions that happen in
23:38the evenings.
23:39Yeah.
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