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Wedding planner Alyssa Pettinato (Alinato Events) reviews wedding scenes from TV and movies including Bride Wars, Wedding Crashers, The Drama and more.
Director: Adam Lance Garcia
Director of Photography: Shirley Chan
Editor: Michael Imhoff
Talent: Alyssa Pettinato
Producer: Madison Coffey
Line Producer: Natasha Soto-Albors
Associate Producer: Lyla Neely
Production Manager: EmmaLee Hendrikson
Associate Production Manager: Elizabeth Hymes
Camera Operator: Jacarrea Garraway
Gaffer: David Djaco
Audio Engineer: Sean Paulsen
Hair & Make-Up: Yevgene Wright-Mason
Post Production Supervisor: Christian Olguin
Post Production Coordinator: Stella Shortino
Supervising Editor: Eduardo Araujo
Assistant Editor: Billy Ward; Justin Symonds
Senior Manager; Creative Development: Hannah Pak
Director; Creative Development: Claire Buss
Director; Content Production: Lane Williamson
Executive Director; Global Video: Ella Ruffel
Director: Adam Lance Garcia
Director of Photography: Shirley Chan
Editor: Michael Imhoff
Talent: Alyssa Pettinato
Producer: Madison Coffey
Line Producer: Natasha Soto-Albors
Associate Producer: Lyla Neely
Production Manager: EmmaLee Hendrikson
Associate Production Manager: Elizabeth Hymes
Camera Operator: Jacarrea Garraway
Gaffer: David Djaco
Audio Engineer: Sean Paulsen
Hair & Make-Up: Yevgene Wright-Mason
Post Production Supervisor: Christian Olguin
Post Production Coordinator: Stella Shortino
Supervising Editor: Eduardo Araujo
Assistant Editor: Billy Ward; Justin Symonds
Senior Manager; Creative Development: Hannah Pak
Director; Creative Development: Claire Buss
Director; Content Production: Lane Williamson
Executive Director; Global Video: Ella Ruffel
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00:00After a few cocktails, the couple just does not care as much.
00:03Like before ceremony, feral, psychotic.
00:07After ceremony, people are like little baby doves.
00:10They're just like, whatever, I just want to party.
00:12Hi, I'm Melissa Pettinato.
00:13I'm a wedding planner.
00:14And today we're going to be reviewing some of your favorite weddings from your favorite movies.
00:19Let's watch a scene from The Wedding Singer.
00:32I've definitely had to grab the microphone before from somebody.
00:35It's usually not with a wedding vendor, I have to say.
00:38It's usually with people giving speeches that should not have the microphone or that have had a few cocktails.
00:42But, you know, I have had wedding vendors have to be removed from weddings and it's uncomfortable.
00:48But we hope it's not always like a full-fledged moment in person of somebody absolutely cracking at the seams.
00:55Hey, buddy, I'm not paying you to hear your thoughts on life.
00:58I'm paying you to sing.
01:01Well, I have a microphone and you don't.
01:05So you will listen to every damn word I have to say!
01:09I've had to remove a catering captain from a wedding who was being unhinged to the point where guests were
01:16coming up to me and being like,
01:17this man just spoke to this waitress horribly and that shouldn't be something that's allowed in front of everyone.
01:23I called the owner of the catering company outside and I was like,
01:26like, if you don't have somebody come here and forcefully remove him, I'll do it myself.
01:37I had someone's son come to a wedding that was underage and don't know how he got alcohol.
01:44He was in the reception space and we were setting it up during cocktail hour and I was like,
01:49hey, you've got to get back to cocktail hour.
01:51Like, we're moving furniture.
01:52You're going to get hurt.
01:53You really need to not be in here.
01:55And he threatened to beat my ass and was picked up and carried outside.
01:59And they ordered him an Uber and sent him home.
02:01I always tell everyone, right when we're planning the wedding in the months leading up, I'm like,
02:06do you give me permission to have executive decision-making power the day of your wedding?
02:11And should anything arise unless the building is truly on fire, I will not tell you.
02:15And I will have the power to fix it myself.
02:18And they always say yes.
02:19So I've not told brides that, like, I had a bride's mother refuse to walk down the aisle because she
02:24was having a moment.
02:25She was being the main character.
02:27Never told her.
02:28Now we'll watch a scene from Father of the Bride.
02:40I just love it because it's kind of like the first movie that was, like,
02:45truly about weddings and the chaos that can come with them,
02:48especially when you decide to have it in your own house, which is a whole beast in itself.
02:53I was ready to relax and taste the food I'd been hearing about for the past five months when...
02:57Dad, Dad!
02:59There's some cops out front and they want to talk to you.
03:02Cops?
03:02I've heard we'll handle this together.
03:04I got George for on the way.
03:06Come on, George.
03:07Here, here, here, here.
03:08And I just loved that the planner was so crazy and just completely steamrolling the dad.
03:14I have to say, I mean, like, I've not been...
03:16I've definitely steamrolled some parents, but, like, in a polite way.
03:19You know, look, when you have a wedding at your house,
03:21a lot of people are under the misconception that it's going to be cheaper.
03:25And with a tent and permits and having to bring everything in,
03:29essentially, like it's a bare space,
03:31it can actually be quite expensive and time-consuming to you guys.
03:34And the parking is a real thing.
03:36Do you have a permit for parking 200 cars in this street?
03:39Well, the problem is, officer, that we're supposed to have four parking attendants.
03:45If this was me and my company, I'd be, like, the one greeting the cops.
03:49I wouldn't bring Dad into it unless I absolutely had to.
03:51And my team would be out there handling that
03:54while I would be inside if there was a big moment going on.
03:57So, you know, it's never just one person at a wedding.
04:00The problem lies in people that try to bring in a planner halfway through
04:04because they get overwhelmed, and then we're just sorting through the BS.
04:07Having to just smile and nod and be like,
04:11oh, my God, I wouldn't have done this, this, and this, and just make it work.
04:13Let's watch a scene from the drama.
04:15What's your favorite thing about Charlie?
04:19I love that he's very smart, very caring, and open-minded.
04:27I've definitely worked with photographers that were maybe inflicted on me
04:32because somebody's sibling used them for their wedding or whatever,
04:35and their energy was not great.
04:38One time, right before the ceremony, the chuppah, which is the wedding arch in a Jewish wedding,
04:44had something wrong with it, and the florist was trying to get it perfect.
04:47And so she had to get on a ladder, and the photographer was like,
04:50we have to hurry up and get a shot.
04:51So he made everyone get in front of the chuppah while the florist was inside of it on a ladder,
04:56fixing something, and he's like, I can remove her post.
04:58But everybody in the photo was highly uncomfortable and afraid something was going to fall on them.
05:04And I was just like, this is not the vibe.
05:07Okay, good, good, good.
05:08Okay, so keep those things in mind, okay?
05:10Charlie?
05:12What's your favorite thing about Emma?
05:19She's kind.
05:19Oh my gosh, I want a photographer that has good energy.
05:23Very key.
05:24In fact, I struggle with working with photographers that I haven't actually seen them do their job before
05:30because sometimes people find people on Instagram.
05:33So many Instagram snafus that have been inflicted on me.
05:37I think my favorite one was a videographer that came wearing a two-feet-tall hat,
05:41like he was going to Burning Man to a wedding,
05:44and a t-shirt.
05:46The bride saw him and was just like, what is he wearing?
05:50And then other ones have just been people that think they're great
05:53because they have a certain number of followers,
05:55but their work is very subpar and their attitude is trash.
05:59So it's not everything on Instagram, guys.
06:03Now we're going to watch a scene from My Big Fat Greek Wedding.
06:07Oh, is this the zit?
06:08Yeah.
06:13Wait, wait.
06:14What is that?
06:16Oh, no.
06:19Oh, my God.
06:20It reminds me a lot of my family because we're Greek,
06:22so this movie speaks to me.
06:26Where did everybody go?
06:28It's like not that deep when you have a makeup artist usually,
06:31so, you know, people wake up with,
06:33I had someone wake up with a black eye because they fell.
06:37So, you know, people do crazy things before their wedding sometimes,
06:41and it's nothing a little makeup can't cover.
06:43Nicole, let's go.
06:44No, let's go.
06:45That isn't my tux?
06:46No, this one.
06:47The men have it so easy.
06:48The way that I plan out their day is, honestly, I just tell them,
06:52hey, you have to be dressed at this time.
06:53The men are going to sleep in, they're going to roll out of bed,
06:56play around to golf, and then just show up in a tux.
07:00Let's watch a scene from Shotgun Wedding.
07:02I've actually never seen this.
07:08Okay, so I have strong opinions about this.
07:11I actually have a podcast about relationships because I've seen so much with weddings over the years,
07:19and I literally just talked about exes at weddings and how I think it's actually egregiously disrespectful to the partner.
07:27I'd be like, what is his purpose?
07:28Like, is he paying for the florals?
07:32Is he a singer?
07:34What is his function other than being a menace to the groom?
07:48Oh, God, the challenges of a destination wedding are endless, honestly, because you're not local.
07:54So one of the biggest thorns in people's side is actually getting the attire to the venue,
07:59which people don't really always think about beforehand.
08:02And then it's like, we're going on a plane.
08:04I have this huge dress.
08:05I can't afford to check it.
08:07You know, like, I need it to come on with me.
08:09And all of your vendors are going to have to be local.
08:11So you're going to have to kind of trust in the process because if you're on these little islands,
08:16there's really only, like, two vendors that can do the job sometimes.
08:20And you kind of have to just be like, it's going to be this one.
08:23So a lot to consider with a destination wedding.
08:27Now let's watch a scene from 28 Days.
08:35Okay, I'm having PTSD watching this scene where they just destroyed the wedding cake
08:39because I had this exact moment happen at a wedding.
08:42And it was the vendor that did it, not the guest, which I've had a few guests come close to.
08:48People don't respect the cake table.
08:49Sometimes people, like, work with the venue and they were just hired, like, the day before.
08:53And they kind of come in with, like, attitudes where they're, like, the one running the show.
08:57And it's like, you're running food.
08:58So this guy was being rude to me all day, honestly.
09:01He was mansplaining to me, like, I've been in the industry 30 years.
09:05He kept kind of, like, overstepping and doing things that I was like, wait, no, don't do that.
09:09So at one point, I turn around and we had the cake table beautiful.
09:14The reception space was finished and the photographer was in there taking photos of everything before the guests come in.
09:19And I always make them take detail shots.
09:21And he took it upon himself for some unknown reason to move the cake table in the middle of her
09:27taking the photos.
09:29I watch this man topple the table and the cake falls.
09:34They were against a wall.
09:35It was kind of, like, smooshed into the wall.
09:37I get four forks from the kitchen.
09:40And me and my assistant, like, fashioned the forks together in a way where we could, like, made the cake
09:47stand up.
09:47And then we put, like, draped a white napkin over it because it's a white cake.
09:51So, like, from the back, it was, like, crime scene.
09:54Like, what happened here?
09:55What the F happened to this cake?
09:57And from the front, it looked moderately okay from a certain angle.
10:01It was completely fine.
10:02Like, they just didn't care.
10:04After a few cocktails, the couple just does not care as much.
10:07Like, before ceremony, feral, psychotic.
10:11After ceremony, people are, like, little baby doves.
10:14They're just like, whatever, I just want to party.
10:15Oh, don't worry.
10:18I'll replace it.
10:19Okay.
10:20I mean, a drunk guest is two things.
10:24The life of the party and the best time and also the worst person in the room.
10:29It's, like, one or the other.
10:30They're carrying the fun or they're, like, doing too much.
10:34We need to cut them off.
10:36Like, I've had to cut people off where I tell the bartender, like, anytime this person comes up, apple juice.
10:41And they're so drunk, they don't even know it.
10:43I have, like, almost full-body tackled people before.
10:46I've explained this to my team because I'm, like, I'm a veteran and my team's sometimes a little bit younger.
10:50And I'm, like, you're just never going to know when to, like, be on.
10:54You kind of have to just be watching everyone and everything and, like, thinking two steps ahead.
10:59So, like, when I see someone walk really close to a table that has the cake on it, I'm, like,
11:03oh, God, we got to push the table back.
11:05It's in the way.
11:05Or, like, someone go stand there because people are getting too close to it, you know, if there's nowhere else
11:11it can go.
11:12But you always kind of have to think two steps ahead.
11:14And with a drunk guest, you're always just keeping your eye on them.
11:17Like, are they going to grab the mic, you know?
11:20It's always a little bit of a nail-biter.
11:23Let's watch a scene from Wedding Crashers.
11:38People really do try to come to weddings when they're not invited, especially in New York City because people get
11:44married at a lot of places that are technically open to the public, like St. Patrick's Cathedral, Brooklyn Botanic Garden.
11:50And people really do try to, like, get in on the action.
11:53And I have had to be a bouncer many times.
11:56At St. Patrick's Cathedral, when you're having a wedding ceremony, they still let the sides open to tourists.
12:03The bride is about to walk down the aisle.
12:05By the way, St. Patrick's Cathedral has, like, on-site security.
12:09And the bride is about to walk down the aisle fluffing her dress.
12:12I see a tourist try to come over the barrier to get a good photo of a stranger getting married.
12:19And I tackled her.
12:22Like, I'm not even joking.
12:23The security literally was like, we need to hire you to work at St. Patrick's.
12:28They were so impressed.
12:29I was like, you gotta go.
12:31Like, literally get out of here.
12:33She's like, I gotta get a photo.
12:34I'm like, you don't even know these people.
12:35Get the hell out of here.
12:35Like, crawling over the barrier.
12:37Ridiculous.
12:38Who's that?
12:42I had somebody at a wedding tell me that an entire table that RSVP'd know showed up.
12:49And we're demanding seats.
12:51Like, we're talking 15 people.
12:54God, this wedding was actually atrocious.
12:56I still have PTSD.
12:57It was a 300-person wedding.
12:59And at a wedding, there's table numbers.
13:01Everything is strategically planned.
13:03Assigned seats.
13:04You know, it's kind of very curated.
13:07And I had someone come up to me, and they were wearing jeans, number one, the whole table,
13:11at a formal wedding.
13:13And they were literally, like, angry at me.
13:16And they're like, we don't have a table.
13:17And I'm like, oh my god, what has gone wrong?
13:19Did we miss something?
13:20And I'm like, looking, and I see their names are nowhere.
13:25I did actually tell the groom, because I was like, I don't know everybody.
13:28I don't know the family lore.
13:29I don't know, you know, all the trauma.
13:31I'm like, this table is saying they need a table, but I don't see them on the list.
13:35And the groom's like, they RSVP'd no.
13:39And I was like, do you want me to tell them to leave?
13:42And he was just like, just try and do what you can.
13:46So we had catering bring in a whole table.
13:48We sat everyone down.
13:50They were utterly rude to us.
13:52Like, egregiously angry that they didn't have a table after they all said they weren't coming.
13:59And they were in, like, t-shirts and jeans.
14:03It was so egregious.
14:04The groom was better than me, because I would have been like, don't let the door hit you
14:07or the good lord split you.
14:09Let's watch a scene from Bride Wars.
14:11A terrible mistake has been made.
14:13One, I assure you, has never happened before in the house of St. Clair.
14:20Your weddings have been booked on the same day.
14:24Can you say that again?
14:25I'm sorry, what?
14:27Your weddings have been scheduled for the same date.
14:30Mother F!
14:30Are you insane?
14:31The Plaza is our lifelong dream.
14:34Very on brand.
14:36Honestly, the iconic venues like the Plaza, they do book up.
14:40There's only so many good Saturdays in the year, you know?
14:42I had a bride get married.
14:43And the funniest thing was it was a December wedding.
14:46And she told me some lore when we were done with the wedding about how she lost a friend,
14:53which, by the way, does happen with the bridal party.
14:55Sometimes your friendships do get tested.
14:58And she told me that the maid of honor scheduled her wedding for the same day.
15:04And it was not in the wedding.
15:06It didn't come to the wedding.
15:07Now let's watch a scene from the Monsoon Wedding.
15:17Indian weddings are so fun, but they are a whole different beast.
15:22So it is a multi-day affair.
15:24And they are usually 500 plus people.
15:27So it is very expensive.
15:30It is a whole elaborate extravaganza.
15:33I had an Indian ceremony be two and a half hours.
15:36And we have to utilize fire.
15:37It's a whole thing.
15:38Actually, the mother of the bride fainted halfway through that ceremony and pushed over the flowers.
15:43And then we had to stop for a second.
15:44But yeah, they're really elaborate, really expensive.
15:47There's a lot that goes into it.
15:48Probably triple the amount of vendors of a non-denominational wedding of 150 people.
15:54And they're really fun, though.
15:56And the one thing I love about an Indian wedding is we do not shy away from color.
16:01Color is extremely prevalent in the design.
16:04And I love color.
16:12If we're working in a city like Boston, Manhattan, we can't utilize the animals.
16:16And depending on the venue, we can't utilize fire.
16:19So I've had to get a little creative.
16:20You know, we've had people just come in.
16:22They're not on an animal, but there's like a drum playing.
16:26They're, you know, playing them into the space.
16:28So it's still elaborate.
16:30It still feels like a moment.
16:32We're utilizing lots of marigolds if we're in season.
16:35So, well, we can't use elephants and horses in cities nine times out of ten.
16:39So that's just not a thing in a big city.
16:41And also outside of a big city, if it is permitted, you know, animal cruelty, we have to, like, be
16:46careful.
16:46But the one big thing is fire because that is necessary for a ceremony.
16:51And we've had to get creative with people, like, jumping over, like, an LED candle or a stick or something.
16:58Venues don't want to involve anything that's ever a liability.
17:01So we have to get creative with that sometimes.
17:04Now we're going to watch a scene from something very bad is going to happen.
17:07Why don't you try my dress?
17:10That's a great idea.
17:12Oh, my God.
17:12Mrs. Cunningham, that's so kind of you.
17:15I just.
17:20Wow.
17:21And unfortunately, I've seen stuff like this happen where people don't voice how they're feeling and really make it known,
17:28you know, what they want.
17:29And I'm going to need everybody to, all my introverts, to put on their extrovert hat and just really rise
17:36up because the dress is very important.
17:39I have to remind everyone all the time, like, this is your Met Gala.
17:43And sometimes people really get bullied into the dresses they pick.
17:46And I'm just like, why did you do that?
17:48And they're like, like, this person really wanted this.
17:51And I'm just like, what about you?
17:53Mom, you promised I could have Grandma Madeline's diamond bracelet.
17:57Oh, I.
17:58Portia.
17:58You can have it after.
18:01Oh.
18:02Never mind.
18:03It doesn't go.
18:04I'm cringing the whole way through this because it feels like a bad episode of Say Yes to the Dress.
18:09And why are we not just voicing how we feel and being like, lay off.
18:15I don't want to wear this dress.
18:16It happens so much.
18:18And there have been situations where a family member has just become the main character to the point where they're
18:25having conversations with me, the couple,
18:27where they're like, can you interject?
18:29And I'm like, look, as somebody who has no problem standing after their parents, why is this hard for you?
18:35And I'm having to sit here and have hard conversations with someone's dad.
18:37So a good example of this is there was a couple that had the bride's family was paying for the
18:44wedding.
18:44The groom's family was paying for the welcome reception.
18:47And it was a 16th of what we were doing with the wedding.
18:50So it should have been like a cakewalk.
18:53And the groom's family was being so over the top that the bride actually texted me and she was like,
18:58I'm out.
18:59I don't even want to be cc'd on the emails anymore.
19:01Y'all got it.
19:02And then the groom called me two days before the event, like, should I uninvite my dad to the wedding?
19:07Because he's just being so crazy about this.
19:09Like, I'm actually so mad at him.
19:11And I had to use my degree in psychology and give a little therapy to him.
19:15Like, just let it pass.
19:17Like, he's excited.
19:18You know, it's their moment, too.
19:20They're paying for it.
19:21So sometimes they will have big thoughts when they're the ones paying for it.
19:25And you have to kind of be respectful because, like, sometimes I have to remind parents, like, yes, you're paying
19:30for it.
19:30We love you for that.
19:31But this is about them.
19:32Now let's watch a scene from The Wedding Planner.
19:34This is perfect.
19:35You can finally meet Eddie.
19:37Come here.
19:37Eddie.
19:38Eddie.
19:39Come here.
19:40I want you to meet The Wedding Planner.
19:42The two most important people in my life set eyes on one another.
19:46Eddie, this is Mary, The Wedding Planner.
19:48Mary, this is my fiancée, Eddie.
19:51Everyone's always comparing me to this because I'm, like, a younger single woman as a wedding planner.
19:56And people just always want me to be J-Lo and, like, be creeping on people's grooms, which is just
20:01not the case at all.
20:03People always ask me if I would be attracted to a groom or if I've ever been attracted to a
20:07groom because of this movie.
20:08And it's so toxic.
20:09Like, truly, first of all, when I meet people, immediately clients, even if they're attractive, I never, ever think about
20:17it like that ever in my whole life.
20:19But I've got to say, after planning weddings for 15 years, sometimes I'm happy to be single when I see
20:26some of these dynamics.
20:27I'm like, there is a lid for every trash can sometimes.
20:31Hi.
20:35Mary, are you okay?
20:39Mm-hmm.
20:40Yep.
20:40If this were me and this had been my scenario where I knew the groom or I was attracted to
20:45the groom or something had happened before, I would immediately be like, that's old news.
20:51That hat has come off.
20:52I, like, truly don't think about anybody like that.
20:55It's immediate friend zone and nothing more, honestly.
20:58You told me your name was Steve?
21:00It is Steve.
21:01My last name is Edison.
21:02Fran calls me Abby.
21:03It's a nickname.
21:04I have a better nickname for you.
21:05How about calming, cheating, sleazy, something?
21:07If you're thinking...
21:08What I'm thinking involves a machete and a pair of pliers.
21:10This is just so insanely toxic, like a wedding planner stealing the groom.
21:14First of all, after we see some of them involved in the planning process, like, you couldn't pay me.
21:21You know what I mean?
21:22And then sometimes there's dynamics where it's the bride doing everything and I meet the groom the day of the
21:27wedding and I'm like, good luck with that, you know?
21:29And then sometimes I'm like, he's a nice guy, he's supportive, but I'm watching him put up with behavior from
21:35his partner or his parents and be kind of like...
21:38And I'm just like, man up, dude.
21:40So there's never been a scenario and there never will be a scenario where this would ever be realistic.
21:47And I always hate that everyone compares me or asks me, have you seen that movie?
21:51Because sometimes it's the bride and I'm like, babe, what are you trying to ask me right now?
21:55Because he's not for me, ever.
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