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90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days - Season 8 - Episode 08: Please Remain Seated
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00:00:01Previously on Before the 90 Days.
00:00:04We put it there?
00:00:06Oh, what?
00:00:09I may not be able to give you everything you want,
00:00:12but everything you need, you don't have to worry about.
00:00:15Do you think that I'm enough for you?
00:00:18Sure.
00:00:19That's what I need to feel, that I'm enough for her.
00:00:22I really do want this to work.
00:00:25You love me.
00:00:26Of course, baby.
00:00:29I just want the world for your daughter,
00:00:30and I was hoping I could get your blessing to marry her.
00:00:36Well, Forrest, you have my blessing.
00:00:39I'm really looking forward to meeting your parents tomorrow.
00:00:44I feel like Chena hasn't been 100% honest with me.
00:00:48Even though her family needs her help with money,
00:00:51what I've seen, the way they live,
00:00:54it's not the same as what I've been hearing
00:00:56for the last seven years.
00:00:58So I'm really worried that tomorrow,
00:01:00my mother is going to basically flip out.
00:01:05We had that argument, and you called my sister,
00:01:09and you were a little bit unhinged.
00:01:12I mean, you're upset with me, but you ran to other women.
00:01:17I mean, Anna, I love you, but you are a handful.
00:01:20Here we go again.
00:01:22Huh.
00:01:22Yeah.
00:01:23I thought the reason we were fighting so much
00:01:26was because we were in a long-distance relationship,
00:01:29but we're still fighting.
00:01:31What does it say about our marriage?
00:01:37I don't trust Michael.
00:01:39I want you to cut him out of your life.
00:01:42He's just my friend, and he's not trying to make me cut you out.
00:01:47I just get some air, maybe, or some peace.
00:01:54I am shocked that Birkon decides to walk out on me.
00:01:58It absolutely feels like a sight of him that I haven't seen yet,
00:02:02and I really don't like.
00:02:04F*** Michael.
00:02:06The blessing we are getting from my uncle is very important.
00:02:10If your uncle does not give you the blessing,
00:02:12does that mean that we are not getting married?
00:02:15How's this?
00:02:17I have to try to impress his uncle,
00:02:19but what kind of questions are going to be asked?
00:02:22I'm worried I may have to reveal things
00:02:23that I'm not ready to reveal.
00:02:25I don't want to lose Daniel.
00:03:01Yesterday, I arrived at Sheena's family home in the province,
00:03:04and even though the family accepted me,
00:03:08what I've learned is just leaving me confused and bothered.
00:03:17First off, I believed that the entire time I was coming here
00:03:21to save Sheena from horrific, evil monsters,
00:03:24and it turns out her family has this nice, beautiful home
00:03:27and are just normal, caring people.
00:03:30So last night, I tried to talk to Sheena.
00:03:33You have to be honest with me.
00:03:35You described your family as almost like terrible monsters
00:03:39that were stealing from you.
00:03:40Are they just, is this an act for me?
00:03:45No, they're not an act.
00:03:47They're great people.
00:03:48But they're not really great people
00:03:50if they're mistreating their daughter.
00:03:53You don't have to think anything about worry.
00:03:55They gave their blessings to you, even though it's the first meeting.
00:03:59So it's a good thing.
00:04:04I wish her answers were more, you know, answers and not more like dodging around.
00:04:11You know, now I'm left with more questions than what I started with.
00:04:17I feel like I know bits and pieces of the most important parts of the story,
00:04:22but there's still many other things that need to be uncovered.
00:04:26I do believe my mom is going to show up and she's going to see the nice place.
00:04:30She's going to see this, this, and she's going to say,
00:04:33why did you need a bunny in the first place?
00:04:35And she's going to express herself and say exactly what's on her mind.
00:04:40I'm kind of relieved that my mom is coming
00:04:43because she can get the third perspective and see what's really going on.
00:04:47Coffee time, gotta get my coffee time.
00:04:51Sheena's family seems to be under the impression
00:04:53that she's going to financially support them going forward.
00:04:56So I still want to tell Sheena's family that we are cutting them off.
00:05:00And hopefully my mom and Dev can back me up
00:05:03and kind of just get past the big hurdle that is impending.
00:05:10That's a strong cup of joe right there.
00:05:18Okay, Sheen, they should be here any second.
00:05:20Okay.
00:05:22Come on, babe.
00:05:23Okay.
00:05:24Yeah.
00:05:31Are you nervous, baby?
00:05:32Yeah, so nervous.
00:05:35I don't know what's going to happen today.
00:05:38I know Molly will bring up the finances.
00:05:41And it's a conversation that we need to have.
00:05:44But Forrest wanted to impress my family.
00:05:47So he is kinder.
00:05:49I'm quite worried Molly would act not as nice.
00:05:54Oh, yes.
00:05:56Moment of truth.
00:06:01Oh.
00:06:02Oh, boy.
00:06:04Wow.
00:06:06Hey, guys.
00:06:07Wow.
00:06:07Hi, Mom.
00:06:08Hi, Deb.
00:06:09Mm-hmm.
00:06:10This is so beautiful here.
00:06:12Well, thank you.
00:06:13Wow.
00:06:15Wow.
00:06:17Right off the bat, alarm bells are going off in my head.
00:06:24My family is out right now.
00:06:26So come here, guys.
00:06:27I'll give you a tour.
00:06:29Here's the garden and stuff.
00:06:30Man.
00:06:33Sheena's told me that her family runs this struggling bed
00:06:37and breakfast.
00:06:38So I'm expecting something kind of quaint and rough
00:06:41around the edges.
00:06:43We had different kinds of plants here.
00:06:45We have fruit-bearing trees, red palm, orchids.
00:06:48Huh.
00:06:49I don't know this plant, but this is very rare to have flowers.
00:06:53Oh.
00:06:54My first reaction, holy .
00:06:59Sheena, who did your grass?
00:07:01Actually, before when it got this place,
00:07:04it doesn't have anything.
00:07:06So you guys did all of this?
00:07:07Yes, from no scratch.
00:07:12Sheena's expecting me to believe that if they don't take her money,
00:07:16that they're going to starve.
00:07:18I mean, they're living better than Forrest and I
00:07:22back in the United States.
00:07:24This is not adding up at all.
00:07:29And this is the pool area.
00:07:31Oh.
00:07:32Then if it's around the night time,
00:07:34it would have different color, light color.
00:07:36Well, would you look at that.
00:07:40So when do I get to meet your family, Sheena?
00:07:42At dinner?
00:07:43Yes, Mom.
00:07:45OK.
00:07:47I'm definitely going to tell Sheena's family every single thing
00:07:51that Sheena has told me this whole story of the past seven years.
00:07:56And then I want to see how they react.
00:07:58I want to see if they're going to be shocked or if they're part of it or whatever.
00:08:05Yeah, thank you for giving me the grand tour.
00:08:07It's just beautiful.
00:08:08Yeah.
00:08:09Tonight, I will get the truth for Sheena.
00:08:12I think I'm just going to go put my legs up for a bit until dinner.
00:08:15OK, Mom.
00:08:30Is there upper?
00:08:32I wish I can tie it to my waist.
00:08:34You can.
00:08:34Show me.
00:08:36You have to spread your leg.
00:08:38You know, I don't have much waist, so...
00:08:40I don't.
00:08:41You're tight.
00:08:42OK.
00:08:43On the side?
00:08:43Yeah, on the side.
00:08:45I'm looking like a woman already.
00:08:46You look beautiful.
00:08:48Oh, la, la.
00:08:59You have to flourish a little bit.
00:09:01The first one, the inner one is shorter than the...
00:09:04The inner one is shorter?
00:09:06The outer one, yeah?
00:09:06The inner one is shorter.
00:09:09OK.
00:09:12It's OK.
00:09:14So...
00:09:14Beautiful.
00:09:16Look at me.
00:09:17With his other kiss.
00:09:19Mwah.
00:09:21Daniel and I are going today to meet his uncle and get a blessing so we can get married.
00:09:25And...
00:09:26And I'm nervous.
00:09:28I don't know the traditions.
00:09:30I don't know the culture.
00:09:31And I don't know what his uncle is going to ask me.
00:09:33I'm scared I'm not going to get the blessing and Daniel will blame me.
00:09:37You will be the one to hold the wine.
00:09:39OK?
00:09:40When you kneel down there, you give me the wine.
00:09:43I will be the one to present it to my uncle.
00:09:45OK?
00:09:45But I kneel with it first.
00:09:47Yes.
00:09:48I will be kneeling down with you.
00:09:50OK?
00:09:52Good.
00:09:52You give it to me.
00:09:53Then I will hand it to my uncle.
00:09:56OK?
00:09:58Lisa is from another country.
00:10:00She don't understand our culture.
00:10:02I have to instruct her on what to do.
00:10:04So she doesn't prefer my uncle.
00:10:07Heads up.
00:10:08Let's try.
00:10:12Sorry.
00:10:19Daniel wants me to have traditional attire to meet his uncle.
00:10:23And I'm expected to learn how to put it on myself.
00:10:26I think I'm going to look like a clown.
00:10:28I can't hear anything because the hair tie is like plastic and it's rattling in my ears.
00:10:34But he's telling me this is Igbo traditional attire and this is what I must wear.
00:10:38So this is going to be pretty interesting.
00:10:41Maybe my bangs should be back.
00:10:47I don't mean to laugh, honey.
00:10:49I just got kicked.
00:10:53All right.
00:10:53Let me try again.
00:10:54Oh, my gosh.
00:10:59What are you doing, baby?
00:11:01It doesn't look too bad.
00:11:03Oh, my God.
00:11:05All right.
00:11:05Can you help me?
00:11:07But you weren't there when the woman was stitching you yesterday.
00:11:10I didn't have a mirror.
00:11:11Where was my mirror to watch her?
00:11:13I had my head and I was holding it.
00:11:15You must help me.
00:11:17Mmm.
00:11:22Oh, my God.
00:11:22Lisa doesn't know how to put on the hatai.
00:11:25Thank God.
00:11:26All these things.
00:11:26I know them from when I was growing up.
00:11:29When my mom was alive.
00:11:31I used to see her when she started and I remember.
00:11:34But I never knew that someday I would be the one to help my girlfriend to tie her up her.
00:11:41You have to make it tight or it's going to fall off.
00:11:49You got this.
00:11:52OK.
00:11:53OK.
00:11:54How do I look?
00:11:54That's good.
00:11:55You look good.
00:12:07I'm nervous.
00:12:09Why are you nervous?
00:12:11Because I am.
00:12:12This is a big deal.
00:12:15I want to impress him.
00:12:16I want to impress him.
00:12:16Impress my uncle.
00:12:17Yes.
00:12:17I want to give a good.
00:12:19I want to put my best foot forward.
00:12:24I'm scared this.
00:12:26And you're not telling me anything except to kneel in front of him.
00:12:29I don't know what he's going to ask me.
00:12:31I will do my best.
00:12:32My uncle will not ask you what you don't know.
00:12:33So don't lie to him.
00:12:35I know.
00:12:35But what you're considering a lie and what I consider a lie might be two different things.
00:12:39I'm from America.
00:12:40My culture is different than yours.
00:12:41Baby, lie is lie.
00:12:47I want to show him that I am willing to go above and beyond to be a good Igbo wife.
00:12:58Igbo wife.
00:13:00Igbo wife.
00:13:01Igbo wife.
00:13:05Igbo wife.
00:13:06I'm trying to be positive about Lisa.
00:13:09Meeting my uncle.
00:13:10But I'm nervous.
00:13:12I told my uncle a little bit about Lisa.
00:13:16But not only her weapon.
00:13:18There are some other things she told me.
00:13:21It is a big, big sin.
00:13:23She told me that she has changed for good.
00:13:25But I want to make sure she's being honest.
00:13:28And I am worried that my uncle will not give us the blessing if she cannot explain herself.
00:13:35And I will have to walk her away.
00:13:45Remember what you promised me, that you're not going to talk to her again.
00:13:50Yeah.
00:13:50I need you to show me that you keep your promise.
00:13:54I've been very concerned ever since it's been watching all this masculinity podcast.
00:14:01They really encourage cheating.
00:14:03Can I see your phone now?
00:14:09So we're going to go meet your friends.
00:14:12I do not think this is an ideal time to meet Memo and Tuba.
00:14:17But part of me really wants to ask them questions.
00:14:20Because there's a lot more I need to learn about BeerCon.
00:14:24Tell me something interesting about BeerCon.
00:14:28I'm sorry.
00:14:29I'm sorry.
00:15:12I've been in the Philippines for a couple of days now.
00:15:14and me and Natalyn are on our way overdue honeymoon.
00:15:20It's a strange feeling to have all these firsts
00:15:23with me and my wife after three years of being married.
00:15:27First time sleeping together, first time eating together,
00:15:31first time waking up beside each other together.
00:15:34And then we had our first in-person fight.
00:15:39So right now it seems like I'm in the doghouse.
00:15:47Okay, she made her side of the bed.
00:15:53Anna, last night things got a little bit tense
00:15:56because I told Anna not to call my sister
00:16:00and vent about our issues in our marriage.
00:16:04Last night during our couple's massage,
00:16:07I am trying so hard to show him a good time,
00:16:11trying to be romantic,
00:16:12but he's always trying to find ways to criticize me.
00:16:18I would rather Anna come to me about our issues in our marriage.
00:16:23Why can't I reach out to his sister?
00:16:25She's my family too.
00:16:27So why can't I confide to her
00:16:30when he can confide to any bitch?
00:16:39What?
00:16:40Are you going to brush her teeth or are you just going to look at me?
00:16:44I mean, Anna, are we going to talk?
00:16:46Talk about what?
00:16:47I mean, about last night.
00:16:49I mean, I apologize for, you know,
00:16:52bringing that up at the wrong time.
00:16:57I want to enjoy the trip.
00:16:59Can we do that?
00:17:05Okay.
00:17:08All right, we're good?
00:17:09Okay.
00:17:10I hope it's all right.
00:17:19Last night, it wasn't just really about him criticizing me.
00:17:26It's way deeper than that.
00:17:29It's about him doing things that's giving me trust issues.
00:17:36Now that I'm in person with my husband,
00:17:39there are things that I question about him.
00:17:42I notice that it's beautiful out today.
00:17:46Yeah.
00:17:47You want to head to the beach?
00:17:48Yes.
00:17:49Okay.
00:17:55But I don't want to waste this moment,
00:17:59especially this is the last day of our honeymoon.
00:18:05What's going on over there?
00:18:07Kayaking?
00:18:09Yeah.
00:18:09And this one is like a bicycle.
00:18:11Yeah.
00:18:12This one is so cool.
00:18:14We definitely going to do these.
00:18:16Are we interested in renting this?
00:18:18Yeah, you can do it, sir.
00:18:20Okay.
00:18:21Have you been in one of these before?
00:18:23No.
00:18:24Are you excited?
00:18:25I'm excited.
00:18:27All right.
00:18:28Woo-hoo!
00:18:29Bye-bye.
00:18:31Going out this way.
00:18:34Woo-hoo!
00:18:35This one is so fun.
00:18:36Yeah.
00:18:36It's so fun.
00:18:39I just love this.
00:18:41Just remember this moment.
00:18:45Look at her face!
00:18:50It's so long.
00:18:52You're like a stork.
00:18:54It's pedaling, aren't you?
00:18:57The aqua bike is a little bit uncomfortable
00:18:59because I'm so tall.
00:19:00I couldn't...
00:19:01You have long legs.
00:19:03Yeah.
00:19:03Here's...
00:19:05This is difficult.
00:19:07Yeah.
00:19:09They're not built for people over six foot.
00:19:14Maybe jet skis next time.
00:19:20Oh, my God.
00:19:21That was so fun.
00:19:25Cheers.
00:19:25Cheers.
00:19:27Come on.
00:19:33It's pretty good.
00:19:34Mm-hmm.
00:19:39So, you know, this is the last day of our honeymoon.
00:19:43Mm-hmm.
00:19:43So we're about to go back home really soon.
00:19:47And you're going to meet my mom.
00:19:50But there's something I want to talk about.
00:19:53Okay.
00:19:55You know what we argued about last night?
00:19:59That was about my sister.
00:20:01Yeah, also because you remind me why I did what I did.
00:20:06Because you talked to this person.
00:20:08I don't want you to.
00:20:12I need to make sure that you keep your promise.
00:20:18Remember what you promised me when you were on the phone
00:20:21before you came down here.
00:20:24That you're not going to talk to her again.
00:20:27Yeah.
00:20:28But I need you to show me...
00:20:31Okay.
00:20:31...that you keep your promise.
00:20:33Okay.
00:20:34So, can I see your phone?
00:20:38Now?
00:20:43Okay.
00:20:46I know that checking Yvonne's phone is bad.
00:20:50I wish I don't have to do that.
00:20:52But having an online marriage,
00:20:54we are not together physically.
00:20:56For me to know what he's really doing.
00:21:01I have been very concerned
00:21:04ever since he's been watching
00:21:06all this masculinity podcast.
00:21:08Because they really encourage cheating.
00:21:13You okay?
00:21:15Yeah.
00:21:17Are you nervous?
00:21:20They really say that
00:21:22if he cheats, it's okay
00:21:23as long as he provides.
00:21:26It really scares me a little bit.
00:21:29So, for my peace of mind,
00:21:31I need to be totally sure
00:21:33that there's nothing going on.
00:21:38Wow.
00:21:57Just going to leave me?
00:22:00You're just going to leave me
00:22:01in a hut in a village.
00:22:01And you are making conversation
00:22:04about Michael person.
00:22:06I hate.
00:22:14I don't care about Michael.
00:22:17You don't care about a lot, do you?
00:22:19No.
00:22:23BeerCon's plan for us today
00:22:25was to make evil eye beads
00:22:27and then go meet his friends,
00:22:29Memo and Tuba.
00:22:30But I'm just
00:22:32really unsure
00:22:35of everything right now.
00:22:38After keeping
00:22:40some pretty big secrets
00:22:41from me,
00:22:42BeerCon has a lot of balls
00:22:44to try to tell me
00:22:46who I can and can't
00:22:47be friends with.
00:22:49I knew that BeerCon
00:22:51had a lot of issues
00:22:52with my relationship
00:22:53with Michael,
00:22:54but to tell me
00:22:56he wants me to cut
00:22:56my best friend
00:22:57out of my life,
00:22:58this is a whole new
00:23:00controlling side of him
00:23:01and it's really
00:23:03concerning to me.
00:23:06You left me sitting
00:23:07in a hut alone.
00:23:10Because I don't like him?
00:23:12Actually, I have nothing
00:23:14in common with him,
00:23:15okay?
00:23:16You both care about me.
00:23:17You have that in common.
00:23:18I think he's more
00:23:20than caring about you.
00:23:22But you always said
00:23:23you trust me.
00:23:24Yeah.
00:23:26You have to trust me
00:23:27on this
00:23:28because
00:23:30man knows man,
00:23:32okay?
00:23:33Step back
00:23:34and see your
00:23:35relationship with him.
00:23:39And so you think
00:23:40he has some sort of
00:23:43intention
00:23:44that's other than
00:23:45just being my friend?
00:23:46Yeah.
00:23:47Exactly.
00:23:48I don't agree.
00:23:50Okay.
00:23:53So,
00:23:54we're gonna go
00:23:55meet your friends
00:23:56and I wanna do that.
00:23:58I would like for you
00:24:00to give me
00:24:00that same respect.
00:24:02So,
00:24:03could you
00:24:03at least
00:24:04at some point
00:24:06be open
00:24:07to meeting him
00:24:08or
00:24:08calling him?
00:24:11You are
00:24:12pushing
00:24:13my will.
00:24:15I'm not
00:24:16trying to
00:24:17push your will.
00:24:17I'm trying to
00:24:18make you see
00:24:19the hypocrisy
00:24:20in it
00:24:21because otherwise
00:24:22it feels like
00:24:23you just get
00:24:24to determine
00:24:24who's important
00:24:25in our lives,
00:24:26in our lives.
00:24:28Okay.
00:24:28I don't wanna
00:24:29talk about
00:24:30this discussion
00:24:31anymore,
00:24:31so...
00:24:37I do not
00:24:38think this
00:24:39is an ideal
00:24:40time to
00:24:40meet Memo
00:24:41and Tuba.
00:24:42But part of me
00:24:44really wants
00:24:44to take the
00:24:45opportunity
00:24:45to meet them,
00:24:46to ask them
00:24:47questions.
00:24:49Especially
00:24:50since the last
00:24:51few days
00:24:51have proven
00:24:53that there's
00:24:53a lot more
00:24:54I need to learn
00:24:55about BeerCon.
00:25:10So,
00:25:10this is my
00:25:11usual table.
00:25:12Maybe we should
00:25:13sit here.
00:25:14Okay.
00:25:15You know
00:25:15everyone.
00:25:16Yeah,
00:25:17I know.
00:25:22So good
00:25:23to meet you.
00:25:25I'm Laura.
00:25:26I'm Tuba.
00:25:27Nice to meet you.
00:25:28No, it was
00:25:29minutes.
00:25:30I'm Laura.
00:25:31Nice to meet you.
00:25:33Even though
00:25:33I am feeling
00:25:34bad about
00:25:35the argument,
00:25:36I think
00:25:36this is the
00:25:37best time
00:25:38for Memo
00:25:39and Tuba
00:25:39to meet
00:25:40Laura
00:25:40because
00:25:41they're
00:25:42the best
00:25:43two people
00:25:44can teach
00:25:45her
00:25:45that
00:25:46I'm not
00:25:46a bad guy.
00:25:48I'm just
00:25:48trying to
00:25:49protect
00:25:49the one
00:25:50I love.
00:25:52I will
00:25:53translate
00:25:53you guys
00:25:54are gonna
00:25:55mix up
00:25:56and
00:25:56I'm gonna
00:25:57ask lots
00:25:58of questions
00:25:58about you.
00:25:59Okay.
00:26:00Yeah,
00:26:01this sounds
00:26:01like a threat.
00:26:02It's not a threat.
00:26:03It's not a threat.
00:26:05Okay.
00:26:07Laura
00:26:07hakkında
00:26:08çok samimi
00:26:09ve cena
00:26:09yakın
00:26:10olduğunu
00:26:10düşünüyorum.
00:26:11Ben
00:26:12Laura'nın
00:26:12yaşına
00:26:13oranla
00:26:13genç
00:26:14göründüğünü
00:26:14düşünüyorum.
00:26:16How
00:26:17long
00:26:17have you
00:26:17known
00:26:18BeerCon?
00:26:19Kaç
00:26:19yılları
00:26:20beni
00:26:20tanıyorsunuz?
00:26:20Üç
00:26:21sene
00:26:21oldu.
00:26:22Three
00:26:23years.
00:26:24Three
00:26:24years.
00:26:25Birkan'ın Laura'yı
00:26:26gerçekten bir şeyler
00:26:28hissettiği için
00:26:29birlikte olmak istediğini
00:26:30düşünüyorum.
00:26:31Ve hala tam anlamıyla
00:26:32hani bir şeyleri Laura'ya
00:26:34tam anlamıyla
00:26:35anlatmamış olabilir.
00:26:36Bu da beni korkutuyor Laura'yı
00:26:38problemler çıkartması
00:26:40açısından.
00:26:42Thank you, sir.
00:26:46Birkan'ın hayatı.
00:26:47She said.
00:26:49Life of Birkan, he said.
00:26:50Now, this is my life, actually.
00:26:52Oh.
00:26:53This is actually what I do
00:26:55every day.
00:26:56This is something for
00:26:57relaxing.
00:26:57It's like medication.
00:26:59I have my tea.
00:27:00I have my shisha.
00:27:01I will be fine.
00:27:03While it's fun to see
00:27:05this side of Birkan
00:27:06hanging out with his
00:27:07friends, it's also kind
00:27:09of eye-opening.
00:27:10He knew everyone when we
00:27:13walked in.
00:27:13He has a regular table.
00:27:15And now I'm hearing that
00:27:16he comes here literally to
00:27:18smoke shisha every day.
00:27:20I mean, he just told me
00:27:22about this massive amount
00:27:23of debt that he has.
00:27:25I feel like he should be
00:27:27doing something more
00:27:28productive with his time.
00:27:31Tell me something
00:27:32interesting about Birkan.
00:27:36That's a new translator here,
00:27:39Nice job.
00:27:48That's why people think I'm tough
00:27:51and I am angry 24-7.
00:28:01But I also like the dark parts
00:28:06and the protective nature.
00:28:12It's a good combination.
00:28:14What?
00:28:16Aslında...
00:28:17Birkan'ın bilinmeyen bir yanı var.
00:28:27Ben söyleyeyim.
00:28:42You know that I want my own kids.
00:28:46So this is the time to talk
00:28:47about it.
00:28:48I can't put a time frame on
00:28:49that.
00:28:50I'm 52 years old.
00:28:52Getting up there in age, so I
00:28:54don't think I'm ready to have
00:28:57another child.
00:28:58What do you want?
00:29:02Oh, my mouth is watering.
00:29:05Oh!
00:29:07I don't know which version of my mom
00:29:09I'm going to get.
00:29:10Am I going to get the nice,
00:29:11sweet mom?
00:29:12Or am I going to get hard-nosed,
00:29:13rock-hard, battle, battle,
00:29:15battle, battle?
00:29:16I want to talk about Sheena.
00:29:17There's been quite a bit of confusion.
00:29:50Baby, I love to see that smile
00:29:51on your face.
00:29:56The lemurs here are kind.
00:29:58You just bring bananas, and you
00:30:00just give them, and you're
00:30:01playing with you.
00:30:03Sound like fun.
00:30:04Do lemurs make good pets?
00:30:06You know, like a cat or a
00:30:08dog.
00:30:08Oh, no, no.
00:30:11That's illegal with you.
00:30:13Oh, it's illegal.
00:30:14Okay.
00:30:16Today, we're taking a boat to
00:30:18Nosy Coma to see some lemurs.
00:30:21This is something that I've been
00:30:23looking forward to, because I think
00:30:25that Madagascar is the only place
00:30:28that you can find lemurs.
00:30:30Here, huh?
00:30:32Here.
00:30:33Also, for a long time, that's the
00:30:36only thing I knew about Madagascar
00:30:38from the movie.
00:30:39So I'm really excited to see
00:30:42them in person.
00:30:43Oh, oh, oh.
00:30:51So cute.
00:30:53Look at the black one.
00:30:54There's three of them.
00:30:56So do they ever come down?
00:30:58Yeah.
00:30:58They run like this, everywhere.
00:31:01And what do they eat?
00:31:02Whatever they see, the fruits like that.
00:31:06Oh, really?
00:31:06They eat all of it.
00:31:07Huh.
00:31:08These lemurs.
00:31:09They're cute and they're strange
00:31:11at the same time.
00:31:14To me, they act similar to monkeys,
00:31:17but they're not as human as, like,
00:31:19monkeys are.
00:31:20They look like squirrel monkeys.
00:31:25Oh, look.
00:31:26There's one right next to us.
00:31:29Hey, man.
00:31:31What's that noise you're making, baby?
00:31:33That's their...
00:31:33Is that their language?
00:31:36I'll take you back.
00:31:39I'll tell you I'm more like a big...
00:31:41You close your mouth and do it like that.
00:31:44Monkey, monkey, monkey.
00:31:46Is it monkey, or what do you say?
00:31:48Maki.
00:31:48Maki.
00:31:49Maki, Maki.
00:31:50Maki, Maki.
00:31:51Yes.
00:31:52You see?
00:31:53Oh, he's looking around.
00:31:54Let's get a picture.
00:31:56Come on, let's get one together.
00:32:02Man, the kids will love this.
00:32:04Yeah.
00:32:05My boys, I miss them.
00:32:08But it'll be worth it if I can bring a step-mommy home.
00:32:13Yeah.
00:32:13I'll be there.
00:32:15I envision that we could have this family unit,
00:32:19just the four of us.
00:32:24You know that.
00:32:26I love your kids, right?
00:32:27But I cannot just, you know, being a step-mom.
00:32:32Like, forever.
00:32:35I want to have my own.
00:32:39I mean, I love kids.
00:32:41But, like, right now,
00:32:44I'm not in a position to have another child.
00:32:47What's the issue?
00:32:52Well, it's...
00:32:54I know it's a hard time,
00:32:55but I know what it is.
00:32:57I know.
00:32:59I took care of my little brother and sister
00:33:01without any help.
00:33:03Like, my dad going to work
00:33:04and only them and me was in the house.
00:33:09And before, when I told you that I want my own kids,
00:33:13then you say,
00:33:14oh, we should talk about it when you're coming here.
00:33:18So this is the time to talk about it.
00:33:22You should decide
00:33:26you want what you don't want.
00:33:30Oh, Trish, I'm not ready
00:33:32to make that decision right now.
00:33:37At this point in my life,
00:33:39I don't think I'm ready to have another child.
00:33:43I'm 52 years old,
00:33:44and I'm getting up there in age,
00:33:47so having another child
00:33:50is going to be, like,
00:33:51starting all over again.
00:33:54And it's hard enough,
00:33:56as it is,
00:33:57dealing with my two little ones.
00:34:00And I haven't even told her
00:34:03about what I did in Columbia.
00:34:07She might not even want a child with me
00:34:09after she finds that out.
00:34:13What do you want?
00:34:16I mean, I'm not totally closing the door
00:34:19on the idea of having a child.
00:34:24For how long you'll be,
00:34:26you'll decide it, like,
00:34:28okay, now I want to have kids.
00:34:30I can't put a time frame on that.
00:34:35I wish he would stop making excuses
00:34:38and tell me what he really wants.
00:34:41I need to know,
00:34:43and it's very important,
00:34:45and not only for me,
00:34:46but for my family.
00:34:48In my culture,
00:34:50it's very important to have kids,
00:34:53and it's not a question.
00:34:57I'm going to take Rick to my hometown
00:35:00in a few days,
00:35:01and I'm worried.
00:35:04If he decided
00:35:06he does not want to have kids anymore,
00:35:08I'm not sure if
00:35:10I will be able to stay with him.
00:35:19I had heard
00:35:21that you guys
00:35:22had been taking
00:35:25all of Sheena's earnings.
00:35:28She told us
00:35:30if she didn't give
00:35:32the money to you guys,
00:35:34that you would threaten her
00:35:36and mistreat her.
00:35:37You forced her.
00:35:40Do you say that?
00:36:00Oh, we got...
00:36:09Okay.
00:36:11Wow.
00:36:14It's not very ripe.
00:36:16Hello.
00:36:17Hello.
00:36:19Mom, Deb.
00:36:21This is my sister Katrina
00:36:22and my dad, Steve.
00:36:23Hello.
00:36:24Hello.
00:36:25This is my mom, Molly,
00:36:26and my dad, Deb.
00:36:27So very nice to meet you, sir.
00:36:29This is Deb.
00:36:30Hello.
00:36:31Good to meet you.
00:36:32Steve, Deb.
00:36:33Steve?
00:36:34Deb.
00:36:34Deb.
00:36:35Yeah.
00:36:36Hi, I'm Molly.
00:36:37So very nice to meet you.
00:36:39It's a pleasure.
00:36:40I'm Katrina.
00:36:41Good to meet you, Katrina.
00:36:43Hi, Forrest.
00:36:43Hey, Pops.
00:36:44How's it going?
00:36:45Yeah.
00:36:47So, Mom,
00:36:47we're just trying to show you
00:36:48on how we make jackboots.
00:36:50That is a knife.
00:36:51Yeah.
00:36:53Tonight,
00:36:54I'm worried
00:36:55about, you know,
00:36:56everything that's going to happen.
00:36:58Anyone want to try?
00:36:58Oh, I sure do.
00:36:59Oh, thank you.
00:37:02I don't know
00:37:02which version of my mom
00:37:04I'm going to get.
00:37:04Am I going to get
00:37:05the nice, sweet mom
00:37:06who loves and cares everybody,
00:37:08or am I going to get
00:37:08hard-nosed, rock-hard,
00:37:10battle, battle, battle, battle?
00:37:12Want to go sit down?
00:37:15Yeah.
00:37:15Oh, yeah.
00:37:16That'd be great.
00:37:16That'd be great, yeah.
00:37:18But at the same time,
00:37:20I'm starting to get kind of
00:37:21tired and overwhelmed
00:37:22with learning new things
00:37:23every single time
00:37:24about Sheena.
00:37:25So, I'm hoping
00:37:27that we can get
00:37:28the truth
00:37:28all out on the table.
00:37:31Oh, look at that.
00:37:34So, these are banana leaves.
00:37:35We use this
00:37:36as a boodle fight.
00:37:37Very traditional.
00:37:39This usually was practiced
00:37:41in the military
00:37:42when they went up
00:37:43to the mountains.
00:37:44Yeah.
00:37:45So, no plates,
00:37:46just the banana leaves.
00:37:47Yes.
00:37:48All the food.
00:37:49All the natural stuff.
00:37:50Yes, it's wonderful.
00:37:52A boodle fight
00:37:53is like a traditional
00:37:54Filipino culture
00:37:56of everyone
00:37:58to eat
00:37:58in one whole giant leaf.
00:38:00So, it's like this.
00:38:01They have to do like this
00:38:03in a line.
00:38:04Ah.
00:38:05I just thought
00:38:06Molly would really enjoy this
00:38:08because she's interested
00:38:09in learning about my culture,
00:38:11especially when it comes to food.
00:38:14Oh, my mouth is watering.
00:38:16We'll just have to put...
00:38:16Ooh.
00:38:17I hope that the boodle fight
00:38:19is the only fight
00:38:20that would happen tonight.
00:38:23Next batch.
00:38:24Next batch, the whole thing.
00:38:26Seafood.
00:38:27Ooh.
00:38:28Oh, my gosh.
00:38:29Those look delicious.
00:38:31Mussels.
00:38:32The big fish goes in the middle.
00:38:34Yes.
00:38:35My first impression
00:38:36of Sheena's family
00:38:37was they're hospitable.
00:38:39They're very welcoming.
00:38:42I mean,
00:38:42I've never quite seen
00:38:44a spread as nice as this.
00:38:46Usually, uh,
00:38:47make a rice ball.
00:38:48Just pick around then.
00:38:50Scoop it in your mouth.
00:38:51Shove it in your mouth.
00:38:52Shove it up.
00:38:53Shove it up.
00:38:54There you go.
00:38:55Shove it up.
00:38:55Shove it on up.
00:38:57Mm.
00:38:58Mm.
00:39:00That be told,
00:39:01that does not line up at all
00:39:03from what I heard
00:39:04about them from Sheena.
00:39:06God, the flavors
00:39:08that just come through.
00:39:09Mm.
00:39:10Mm.
00:39:11Mm.
00:39:13I was under the impression
00:39:16that they were these
00:39:17money-grubbing, cruel people
00:39:20that pretty much
00:39:21locked Sheena away
00:39:22and wouldn't let her out
00:39:24only to go to work
00:39:25and then to hand over her check.
00:39:27That's what I was led to believe.
00:39:32I just want to say
00:39:33this meal that you prepared
00:39:36is just incredible.
00:39:37I'm just so grateful.
00:39:39And you have created
00:39:41such a beautiful home,
00:39:42I must say.
00:39:45It must have been
00:39:46so expensive.
00:39:51But, um,
00:39:52I was actually quite surprised
00:39:54to see how,
00:39:55how it really is.
00:39:56Um, I expected something
00:39:58very different.
00:39:59But you guys made us
00:40:01feel very, very welcome,
00:40:02and I appreciate that so much.
00:40:06Uh, so I wanted to ask,
00:40:09um, are you guys okay
00:40:10with Sheena moving
00:40:11to the United States?
00:40:15Uh, actually,
00:40:17that was already her dream
00:40:18years ago,
00:40:19to work there in the U.S.
00:40:22Oh.
00:40:24Okay.
00:40:25That's interesting.
00:40:29Yes.
00:40:30But, uh, yesterday,
00:40:32uh,
00:40:33Forrest made it clear
00:40:34that, uh,
00:40:36you know,
00:40:36he's a little low
00:40:37on budget also,
00:40:38and so,
00:40:39I don't know
00:40:40what the situation is,
00:40:42you know?
00:40:42So, uh,
00:40:43Actually,
00:40:43let's put Forrest's finances
00:40:45to the side,
00:40:46and I want to talk
00:40:48about Sheena.
00:40:52There's been
00:40:53quite a bit of confusion,
00:40:55and I,
00:40:57I, um,
00:40:59had heard
00:41:00that you guys
00:41:01had been,
00:41:02um,
00:41:03taking the,
00:41:05all of Sheena's
00:41:06earnings.
00:41:10And she
00:41:12told us
00:41:15that,
00:41:17um,
00:41:18if
00:41:18she didn't give
00:41:20the money to you guys,
00:41:22that you would
00:41:23threaten her
00:41:24and be cruel
00:41:26to her
00:41:27and mistreat her,
00:41:31that you forced her.
00:41:37No?
00:41:38Did you say that?
00:41:49If he doesn't give me
00:41:50the blessing,
00:41:51I will have
00:41:51fierce words.
00:41:54You, Dan,
00:41:55don't you know
00:41:55your culture?
00:41:57I'm here
00:41:58to make sure
00:41:59that Lisa
00:42:00is a good woman.
00:42:01It is our
00:42:02tradition.
00:42:03You are not
00:42:04an Igbo
00:42:05woman.
00:42:06Tell me,
00:42:07do you drink?
00:42:08Do you smoke?
00:42:10Are you
00:42:10a practicing Christian?
00:42:11I have not
00:42:12always been
00:42:13a very good Christian.
00:42:28Wow.
00:42:46a lot of photos
00:42:48here.
00:42:49It's all
00:42:50Zoe's photo.
00:42:54My dog.
00:42:57Mm-hmm.
00:42:58Mm-hmm.
00:42:59I was ready
00:43:00to find something
00:43:02to prove
00:43:03that I can't
00:43:04trust him.
00:43:05instead,
00:43:06I found a bunch
00:43:08of cute photos
00:43:09of his dog.
00:43:12And photos
00:43:13of me
00:43:14that I sent him.
00:43:15Actually,
00:43:15lots of photos
00:43:16of me.
00:43:18I'm realizing
00:43:19that maybe
00:43:21I should
00:43:21cut him
00:43:23some slack.
00:43:24But
00:43:24I guess
00:43:26I'm still learning
00:43:27how to trust him.
00:43:30well,
00:43:31for now,
00:43:32I don't see
00:43:33any red flag,
00:43:35honestly.
00:43:37You know,
00:43:38I told you
00:43:38I was gonna stop
00:43:40talking to that person.
00:43:42And I did.
00:43:45I mean,
00:43:46did you think
00:43:47I wasn't
00:43:47telling the truth?
00:43:48I think
00:43:49I never know.
00:43:53So...
00:43:53Well,
00:43:53now you know.
00:43:57It's a little
00:43:59bit offensive
00:43:59that she feel
00:44:01like she needs
00:44:01to look through
00:44:02my phone
00:44:02in order
00:44:03to feel comfortable.
00:44:05Anna's supposed
00:44:05to trust me
00:44:06regardless.
00:44:08She's actually
00:44:08supposed to trust me
00:44:10before,
00:44:11you know,
00:44:12we got married,
00:44:13you know.
00:44:14But at the same time,
00:44:16I watch a lot
00:44:17of relationship
00:44:18podcasts.
00:44:19And one of the
00:44:20hosts,
00:44:21he sometimes
00:44:22makes good points
00:44:23about
00:44:23a little paranoia
00:44:25is healthy.
00:44:27I mean,
00:44:28most women
00:44:29only act right
00:44:29when they feel
00:44:30like they could
00:44:31be replaced.
00:44:33So,
00:44:34I'm not saying
00:44:35go out and cheat,
00:44:37but a little bit
00:44:38of paranoia,
00:44:38a little bit
00:44:39of fear is healthy.
00:44:42Are we good?
00:44:43I do want
00:44:44to trust you,
00:44:45but I'm not
00:44:46going to lie.
00:44:47I'm not
00:44:48still like
00:44:51100%.
00:44:55Mm-hmm.
00:44:58And if you
00:44:58talk to her
00:44:59again,
00:45:00I'm going to
00:45:01break this phone.
00:45:02I don't care.
00:45:05I mean,
00:45:06Anna,
00:45:07just look at it
00:45:08this way.
00:45:08I mean,
00:45:09I passed
00:45:09all your tests.
00:45:10For now.
00:45:12Okay,
00:45:12for now.
00:45:13For now.
00:45:13For now.
00:45:14Do you want
00:45:15to go through
00:45:15my luggage
00:45:15up in the room?
00:45:16Yes,
00:45:17I will.
00:45:17All right.
00:45:20Do you have
00:45:20extra phone?
00:45:22I'm just kidding.
00:45:23Not at all.
00:45:23I'm going to
00:45:24with you.
00:45:25I didn't piss you off.
00:45:49As soon as I go in,
00:45:51do I kneel down
00:45:51before him?
00:45:55Okay.
00:45:56Stop being nervous,
00:45:57okay?
00:45:57Okay.
00:46:00I am in a
00:46:01very uncomfortable
00:46:01situation.
00:46:03I'm sitting next to the
00:46:04man I love,
00:46:05and he doesn't know
00:46:05about me.
00:46:10He doesn't know
00:46:11that I'm still
00:46:11married.
00:46:12He has no idea
00:46:13I've only been
00:46:14with women
00:46:14for 21 years.
00:46:16And right now,
00:46:18I'm feeling scared
00:46:19because I don't
00:46:19want to lie
00:46:20to his uncle,
00:46:21but I don't want
00:46:21to tell him
00:46:22any of my secrets.
00:46:23I want us
00:46:24to have this blessing
00:46:25more than anything
00:46:26in the world.
00:46:27I want to be
00:46:28with Daniel.
00:46:35We're going
00:46:36to do this.
00:46:37If he doesn't
00:46:38give me the blessing,
00:46:39I will have
00:46:39fierce words.
00:46:55Hey.
00:46:57Uncle.
00:46:59What did
00:46:59do you think?
00:47:04Come on.
00:47:06What happened
00:47:06there?
00:47:23I'm here to make sure that Issa is a good woman, before I give them the approval to
00:47:32go ahead and fire it.
00:47:35It is our tradition.
00:47:38Stand up, come and have your seat.
00:47:43Come on.
00:48:00This is the wine.
00:48:07This is the wine.
00:48:13My good lady, how are you?
00:48:15Nervous uncle, I'm very nervous today.
00:48:23Yes, you are not an Igbo woman.
00:48:28I want to know you more.
00:48:29I will ask you some pertinent questions.
00:48:37Tell me who are you.
00:48:40I am Native American.
00:48:43I am part Irish also.
00:48:46I come from a mother who gave me up for adoption at a very young age.
00:48:51I have a family that adopted me and they took very good care of me.
00:48:56I am a hard worker.
00:48:59I make sure I take care of my household.
00:49:01I make sure when Daniel needs money that I take care of his household.
00:49:07Are you a practicing Christian or Christian by name?
00:49:12I am a practicing Christian.
00:49:15I have not always been a very good Christian, but Daniel makes me into a better woman.
00:49:22He makes me into a stronger Christian.
00:49:27Do you drink?
00:49:30I do drink very, not a lot, but I do drink some, yes.
00:49:35Do you smoke?
00:49:37I do not smoke.
00:49:39I have smoked in the past.
00:49:41I have given it up.
00:49:49Are you or were you a lesbian?
00:49:53Do you practice lesbianism?
00:50:00I don't want to make things bigger.
00:50:03Laura is already worried about my finances and my debt.
00:50:09I don't want to make things bigger.
00:50:19Wait.
00:50:20What did she say?
00:50:20Why did she say goodbye like that?
00:50:32What did she say?
00:50:33As day..
00:50:34What do I say goodbye to you?
00:50:35The Tony公하면...?
00:50:35The Tony公uben baby
00:50:36Like I said goodbye at your square worth in the...
00:50:37I was like a question, but the You do not do, he know why the animal喔...
00:50:43Then you shall not let is « commitment her enfer jewel you.
00:50:53What?
00:50:55Go.
00:51:03Because I'm still in debt, we always have to try to find a new way to find money.
00:51:10When I'm not working and I can't find a job, the gambling comes in here.
00:51:16I gamble every day, every opportunity I have.
00:51:21It's what I do for a living.
00:51:24Laura is already worried about my finances and my debt.
00:51:29I don't want to make things bigger.
00:51:37But what?
00:51:40We are beginning to live.
00:51:45Birkan'ın kumara olan düşkünlüğü diyelim.
00:51:49Birkan boşluktayken bir kumar bağımlısı.
00:51:51Birkan boşlukta kaldığı zamanlarda kumar oynayan bir insan.
00:51:56Laura ile bu konuda konuşması gerekiyor.
00:52:19I don't like pressure, I hate it.
00:52:29We can don't do this.
00:52:32Good to know.
00:52:36This is really awkward because the three of them are just having this conversation in Turkish
00:52:42and nobody is translating for me or filling in any of the gaps.
00:52:48This definitely feels kind of off and a little shady.
00:52:53I'm already feeling unsure.
00:52:55And now I definitely think it's possible that he's hiding something else that his friends
00:53:01know about and for whatever reason, no one's telling me.
00:53:06And I don't like that.
00:53:31So we're having a picnic.
00:53:33Is that the blanket we're laying on?
00:53:36Your splash pad.
00:53:37I mean, it's kind of...
00:53:40That would have been better.
00:53:43The splash pad would have definitely been better.
00:53:52Is this what we're going to eat?
00:53:53Yeah.
00:53:55Wow.
00:53:56Fried fish.
00:53:58They put some garlic and ginger and a little salt.
00:54:03And that's what they're stirring in now?
00:54:05Yeah.
00:54:06The ginger and the salt.
00:54:07They mix it up like this.
00:54:09It makes me miss home because we are doing the same thing like this when we are home.
00:54:15Got some nice big ones in here, babe.
00:54:17Mm-hmm.
00:54:18So whatever you catch is on the menu.
00:54:21Yeah.
00:54:23Yeah.
00:54:26Yeah.
00:54:30This type of food stands on the beach are very common in here.
00:54:35I love them since they have fresh seafood.
00:54:39This is how my family prepare food also, lighting a fire and making a barbecue or frying something.
00:54:49So it's nice to have a reminder of home.
00:54:55You want to try?
00:54:56Try what?
00:54:57How to cook it.
00:54:59I don't know anything about...
00:55:00You've never done that?
00:55:01Nah.
00:55:02I've never been fishing either.
00:55:03So I've never dealt with, you know, live fish.
00:55:06I'm going to teach you.
00:55:08And when you are in my hometown, you can do the same thing to impress my family like you know
00:55:12how to do it.
00:55:13I mean, that sounds like kind of a good idea.
00:55:17I'm nervous that Rick is going to meet my family.
00:55:21I hope they will love him.
00:55:24But the conversation we had earlier about kids is making me doubt that it's possible.
00:55:31And also, there are other things working against us that Rick doesn't know about.
00:55:41Is Zoma using it?
00:55:43Yeah.
00:55:46We used to squatting like this for long periods of time.
00:55:50Yeah.
00:55:52What's your problem, Rick?
00:55:53You don't even help.
00:55:55I mean, I'm old.
00:55:56I'm not used to being in this type of position for long periods of time.
00:56:00In my home, you will sit on the ground.
00:56:03Like this.
00:56:04I'm a city boy, baby.
00:56:06You're a village girl.
00:56:08You want to sit on a chair?
00:56:10If there's a chair available, yeah.
00:56:12That'd be nice.
00:56:13What?
00:56:14You complains a lot.
00:56:18So what can I expect when I meet the family?
00:56:21I will ask you some questions.
00:56:23Who are you?
00:56:24What do you want from my daughter?
00:56:27What's your plan for her?
00:56:31I know that this is a big step, and I feel honored that you want to introduce me to your
00:56:38family.
00:56:42And when I'm about the same age as your dad, right?
00:56:45You're older than my dad.
00:56:48How old is your dad?
00:56:50Fifty.
00:56:53But your father does know how old I am, right?
00:56:57Yeah.
00:56:58You haven't told your dad my age?
00:57:01No.
00:57:04Good.
00:57:05I didn't say that you already married twice.
00:57:10I didn't say that you have kids.
00:57:12Oh, strange.
00:57:15My dad, he doesn't want a man older than me, and a man who have a lot of kids, and
00:57:23a man who
00:57:24already been married, divorced.
00:57:28So that's why I didn't tell my dad much about rape.
00:57:33Otherwise, I think my father would just refuse to meet him.
00:57:38But blessing for my dad, it means a lot for me.
00:57:42So what's going to happen to us if your dad doesn't accept?
00:57:49My dad would say, oh, you have to choose then between you and my dad.
00:57:57And if you don't have kids, they won't give the blessing.
00:58:03It's really important to my family.
00:58:08I'm being put in such a disadvantage.
00:58:12She hasn't given her family any information about me.
00:58:16They don't know my age.
00:58:18They don't know that I've been married, have kids, nothing at all.
00:58:22I'm just getting thrown into the lion's den.
00:58:26They really want Trish to have a baby, and that's the part that I'm most worried about.
00:58:33Because at this point, I don't know if I'm ready to make that decision.
00:58:41I just want to go in there and be as open and honest as I can.
00:58:48And, you know, show them that I'm a good person, that I'm a loving father.
00:58:54And then I'm here for their daughter, and I'm going to treat her well and do the best that I
00:59:01can to make you happy.
00:59:06I mean, hopefully that's enough for him to accept me.
00:59:12I know that this trip is very important.
00:59:16I know that I need to meet her family, get to know them, and get to know more about Trish
00:59:21through her family.
00:59:23But I feel even worse about not telling Trish about spending time with my ex in Colombia.
00:59:33I have to tell Trish before we meet her family, and I just don't know how she's going to take
00:59:39it.
00:59:46Welcome to the Alo Alo Bar.
00:59:48We have sweet potato and gulaman, some cheese and corn.
00:59:52I've never had a dessert with cheese and corn in it.
00:59:55Most Americans will find that very weird.
00:59:59This is just a very delicious dessert.
01:00:02It's not like an execution.
01:00:06There's Vianisi.
01:00:08It's an aberration.
01:00:10And it is not in our blood.
01:00:12Uncle.
01:00:13She told me this was one-time sin.
01:00:17You lie.
01:00:20Is she saying the truth?
01:00:32It's a nice night.
01:00:34Yeah.
01:00:40Do you hear those waves?
01:00:42Yeah, I do.
01:00:43It seems like they're louder at night.
01:00:45Oh!
01:00:46My shoes.
01:00:48Ah, f***.
01:00:49Did they break?
01:00:50They break.
01:00:51Ah, f***.
01:00:59Well, you can be my Trish Charming and carry me.
01:01:03In your dress?
01:01:05Like, oh, if you don't want to, that's fine.
01:01:08I mean, I want to, but it's like you're in a dress, though.
01:01:13Well, you're just so, you're the most unromantic I've ever met.
01:01:17Okay.
01:01:18It's like you've never been with a woman before.
01:01:21Tonight is the last night of our honeymoon.
01:01:24And I'm glad that we were able to work through some trust issues.
01:01:28Because after this, we're going to Cavite, where Anna Lynn lives.
01:01:34And while I'm there, we're going to have our vow renewal with our family and friends.
01:01:38And hopefully, that'll be good.
01:01:40Well, I can still walk with one straw, but it's just...
01:01:43You sure?
01:01:44Yeah.
01:01:45I'm not really unhappy that our honeymoon is ending.
01:01:48Because I think the real test for us is day-to-day life.
01:01:54Are we able to live in the same space for long periods of time without trying to kill one another?
01:02:01You know, we'll see.
01:02:03Hey.
01:02:04Is that a hola hola?
01:02:06They have a hola hola set up.
01:02:08Okay.
01:02:09Welcome to the hola hola bar.
01:02:11We have the sweet potato and gulaman.
01:02:15We have purple yam and some cheese and corn.
01:02:19So, okay.
01:02:21Okay.
01:02:21Halo hola is a popular Filipino dessert.
01:02:25Halo hola in English means mix-mix.
01:02:27So, you have to mix all the ingredients together with the milk and ice.
01:03:03It doesn't count unless I put the cheese in it.
01:03:04I wish you will be more open-minded that when I suggest something, you will try it at least once.
01:03:10Just once.
01:03:12I mean, I try almost anything just once.
01:03:15But cheese and corn and ice cream and jelly?
01:03:18Really?
01:03:20Yeah.
01:03:21But I'm willing to accept the challenge.
01:03:23Yeah.
01:03:26So cold.
01:03:28Is it?
01:03:28Uh-huh.
01:03:29But you enjoying it, though.
01:03:31Enjoy it.
01:03:36So we just mix it, right?
01:03:38Uh-huh.
01:03:39All right.
01:03:41Mmm.
01:03:43Oh, my God.
01:03:45Do you realize this is our first hola hola together?
01:03:48Yes.
01:03:49Really nice.
01:03:53All right.
01:03:54I mean, Anna, there's a lot going on in here.
01:03:59But it is good, though.
01:04:01Excuse me, ma'am.
01:04:02Sir, do you need anything else?
01:04:04Ah, yeah.
01:04:05Can we just take a photo of us?
01:04:06Sure, ma'am.
01:04:08We're on honeymoon.
01:04:10It's okay.
01:04:10Is that okay?
01:04:11Yes, ma'am.
01:04:13And one, two, three.
01:04:17There you go, ma'am.
01:04:20I hope you enjoy your hallo hallo, ma'am, sir.
01:04:22Look at that.
01:04:23Yeah.
01:04:24Oh, yeah.
01:04:25That's a good photo.
01:04:28I don't think so, but okay.
01:04:31What's wrong?
01:04:34You know, the face that you're giving me, you look miserable.
01:04:42You know I don't mean to, though.
01:04:44But I don't believe.
01:04:45You don't believe?
01:04:46This is your thing.
01:04:48Whining and being unromantic.
01:04:51Uh-huh.
01:04:52I mean, how am I unromantic, though?
01:04:56Like the faces that I make?
01:04:58Yeah, and then, you know, how you say things.
01:05:04Okay.
01:05:21I mean, I work 15 hours a day, so it's kind of a luxury that you can, you know, keep
01:05:29up with days like that because you're just sitting at home.
01:05:32I don't have that luxury, and I'm just so drained all the time.
01:05:39Some other people are working too, but they don't do that.
01:05:43They still have time to be sweet to their wives.
01:05:47Well, I'm sorry.
01:05:50Maybe I'm just not a good husband.
01:06:01It's frustrating because, for me, this is love.
01:06:04I'm showing up.
01:06:05I'm providing.
01:06:06I mean, I thought that meant something.
01:06:09But Anna, seeing it through the female lens, she has this perception built up in her head that I have
01:06:16to be just over-the-top romance for her living in a fantasy.
01:06:20I don't know.
01:06:21My love language is physical touch and words of affirmation.
01:06:26I always make sure that my partner knows that I find him attractive.
01:06:31But just because you are supposed to provide and protect doesn't mean you always have to have this machismo energy,
01:06:39like you can't show vulnerability.
01:06:41You're still a human being.
01:06:44I am afraid that Jubon is never going to understand me and my needs.
01:06:49He hears me, but he doesn't really listen.
01:06:54I just want you to have just more understanding because what I do is not easy.
01:07:00I mean, is that not romantic?
01:07:02Like, making sure your lights is on because, you know, you're at home and then I'm working.
01:07:08I'm getting tired of this.
01:07:09Yeah.
01:07:12Every time you do something for me, you throw it to my face because you have to remind me that
01:07:17you're the man.
01:07:19That's what man does.
01:07:21I'm not trying to, Anna.
01:07:23I'm just trying to get you to understand, like, what I do is just not easy and I can't remember
01:07:28everything, you know?
01:07:36Anna, why are you so emotional?
01:07:39Something you will never understand because you don't have that.
01:07:46Well, I mean, I'm sorry, Anna.
01:07:49It seems like I can't do anything right around you, so.
01:07:53From now on, I don't want you to give me anything anymore.
01:08:03I will never miss any of my children.
01:08:06Why did you say that, Sheena?
01:08:08Sorry.
01:08:11Your lies are just taking our perfect, happy relationship and just, like, throwing it in the trash can.
01:08:30She told us, if she didn't give the money to you guys, that you would mistreat her.
01:08:41No.
01:08:43Did you say that?
01:08:44No.
01:08:44No.
01:08:45Did you say that?
01:08:48She said that you guys mistreated her if you didn't give her the money.
01:08:53I don't know how to mistreat her.
01:08:55Well, that you called her names and you threatened to throw her out and make her homeless.
01:09:04What?
01:09:08You sure you didn't say anything that would have been...
01:09:12I will never mistreat any of my children.
01:09:16Well, why did you say that, Sheena?
01:09:19Sorry.
01:09:24Why do you feel like you have to lie all the time?
01:09:33I want to admit that I lied.
01:09:39Just to cover things up so I don't want to lose for us because it is hard for me to
01:09:45save money.
01:09:48I'm trying to help you guys because you need all the help, but every time that I want to save,
01:09:53it's not even enough for me to get the visa.
01:09:56I cannot save enough.
01:09:57Yours is so hard for me.
01:10:02It is absolutely insane that Sheena would lie about her family in the first place.
01:10:07It makes no sense, and the hysterical theatrics aren't helping at all to clear any of this up.
01:10:17I'm just disappointed that we got told that we were kind of abusing you.
01:10:22I'm sorry, Bill.
01:10:23I do.
01:10:25And I do awfully apologize.
01:10:34I just don't understand why she would tell us stories that she's given every penny to you guys.
01:10:43Well, actually, she gave it to us, and it's all listed, you know?
01:10:49So when the time she needs it, we can give it back to her.
01:10:56Really?
01:10:58Of course.
01:10:59She's always alone.
01:11:09Sheena, I'm really kind of surprised.
01:11:13Here I thought they were mistreating you and taking all your money, and finding out that they were just borrowing
01:11:19it.
01:11:20It's a way different story than everything you told me.
01:11:24No, I'm sorry.
01:11:28My family need all my help.
01:11:31Thinking of being breadwinner is hard for me.
01:11:35And I don't want to lose you.
01:11:37Because, of course, you told me that they have to save money, that you shouldn't give money to your family.
01:11:44But now I'm feeling even worse, because your lies are just taking our perfect, happy relationship and just, like, throwing
01:11:54it in the trash can.
01:11:55I haven't told you the right things, because I'm worried that you might give up on me.
01:12:08Sheena Brave, I know that you've been trying hard.
01:12:12I don't approve of the stories and keeping everything hidden from everybody.
01:12:16That's not something that was cool, but for years you've been fighting for yourself and sort of, unfortunately, got all
01:12:26mixed up.
01:12:26We knew that she was trying to save up for a visa, but we didn't know how would she even
01:12:32acquire that.
01:12:33She doesn't tell us what's the process.
01:12:37We're not going to guess it.
01:12:39She wasn't really telling us the real truth, you know, what's really happening.
01:12:49Sheen, you need to make sure to say, I'm never going to lie to anybody again, and I will be
01:12:55open with everybody.
01:12:57To everyone, I promise I would never lie again for whatever I said to you guys.
01:13:07I regret for doing everything.
01:13:09I'll do my best to be much more open up to you guys.
01:13:14It hurts to find out that for the last seven years, Sheena had, you know, lied about everything with her
01:13:21family and the money situation.
01:13:23I thought she had more faith in me.
01:13:26But I'm glad that everything is out of the open now.
01:13:29And I hope that we can finally work towards our future.
01:13:36I think I'm going to jump in here, Pops.
01:13:40Let me understand here.
01:13:41So you mentioned that you're borrowing the money, right?
01:13:46Yes.
01:13:48So, how long would it take to provide, you know, if she asked for her money back?
01:13:56You haven't given us, asked us for a certain amount.
01:13:59So we don't, we don't know.
01:14:02I'd say about maybe $4,000.
01:14:09We'll have to check our finances.
01:14:16I was surprised because if they plan to get married, it's a guy who should provide for her.
01:14:24We didn't expect she'd be asking us for that amount, no?
01:14:27Yeah, I was surprised when she said that, when she said that, when she said that, it's painful for us.
01:14:39First impressions, Molly and the stepfather, first impression of us is, of course, it'll be fine soon, no?
01:14:50If she came and said, hey, I can't keep, you know, giving you guys a loan, would you guys not
01:14:56be taking the loan?
01:15:04I think if it's, you know, if it's feasible, you know, that for us not getting any help, we would
01:15:15do that, you know?
01:15:18But I just wish that she talked to us and explained it to us more.
01:15:25See, after all these years, Sheen, we could have just came and did this.
01:15:29Instead of going and, you know, making stories, putting things around about.
01:15:33I lied because I fear of losing him.
01:15:38Sheen, you're going to lose me if you don't.
01:15:40Stop lying.
01:15:42You got to be honest with us.
01:15:43Yes.
01:15:46I'm very, very sorry.
01:15:48And I'm trying to strive my best to work hard for me to save.
01:15:52That's all I wish.
01:15:57I'm relieved that the truth is out.
01:15:59But I'm afraid that Forrest is taking everything he heard tonight at face value.
01:16:05Now, it's just to the point where I got to just say, you need to think about what's happening in
01:16:12this relationship, that all she's doing is lying.
01:16:14And maybe someday, she'll come down the road and tell us some other secret that we don't know.
01:16:19That will tear the relationship apart.
01:16:21I don't trust her as far as I could throw her.
01:16:24But time will tell.
01:16:37If she wants to live with my nephew, she must abide by our culture.
01:16:44There are things we don't practice in our place.
01:16:47Please, tell me the truth.
01:16:51I am so guilt ridded.
01:16:53I just want to be open and honest and see if he'll take me for who I am.
01:16:57Are you okay?
01:17:10Do you practice lesbianism?
01:17:19Daniel told me that Lisa protested lesbianism in the past.
01:17:24I know lesbianism is rampant in America.
01:17:30Here, we don't do it at all.
01:17:33If she wants to live with my nephew, she must abide by our culture and tradition.
01:17:42Please, my young lady, don't be offended.
01:17:47I am not insulting you for lesbianism.
01:17:51It's an aberration, and it is not in our blood.
01:17:56There are things we don't practice in our place.
01:18:03Please, tell me the truth.
01:18:07What the f*** is happening?
01:18:11I am shocked by the question.
01:18:16I don't know what to say about it.
01:18:19My sexuality, being called an aberration, hurts me a lot.
01:18:24I am who I am, and I'm not ashamed of it at all.
01:18:28And I just want to be honest and tell the truth.
01:18:30But I'm struggling inside with what's right and what's not right, and what I want to do, and what I
01:18:35don't want to do.
01:18:36It's an inner battle.
01:18:41I have been with a woman before, yes, sir.
01:18:54You don't practice it anymore?
01:18:57No, sir.
01:19:01It was a fling.
01:19:02It was one time.
01:19:07Do you lie?
01:19:12I think everybody says a fib once in a while.
01:19:15That doesn't make it right.
01:19:18I have lied in the past, but I am not a liar.
01:19:28Is she saying the truth?
01:19:31Tell me.
01:19:32Yes, uncle.
01:19:33She's telling the truth.
01:19:38I am not a liar, uncle.
01:19:41Okay.
01:19:42What I will tell them to monitor you.
01:19:45You make sure you never do that again.
01:19:52Why is your uncle asking me if I partake in lesbianism?
01:19:56Why would he ask me that?
01:19:58I told him that you have done it before, but it was a mistake.
01:20:02Yeah, you told him everything.
01:20:05You told him everything.
01:20:06That wasn't for you to tell anybody.
01:20:07That was between us.
01:20:09No, no, no, no.
01:20:09Yes.
01:20:10I have to.
01:20:10You're wrong.
01:20:11It's my uncle.
01:20:12I don't care if it's the Pope of the Catholic Church.
01:20:14You don't tell anybody.
01:20:15Are you trying to insult him?
01:20:16I'm not insulting anybody.
01:20:17I'm telling you, you don't tell people certain things.
01:20:19My uncle is like father to me, so I have to discuss everything with him.
01:20:23You don't even tell me what you've already spoken to your uncle about.
01:20:26I ask you what kind of questions he's going to ask me, and you're like, I don't know.
01:20:30I don't know.
01:20:31I don't know what to tell you.
01:20:32You don't want me to know, but you want him to know everything.
01:20:36Oh, my God.
01:20:37Yes.
01:20:37Oh, my God.
01:20:40Are you OK?
01:20:43Yes, uncle.
01:20:51I don't want to know.
01:20:54I don't know.
01:21:01I don't know.
01:21:03I don't know.
01:21:09I don't know.
01:21:38I've been hearing from you.
01:21:45And I will give you guys my blessing.
01:21:51Thank you, son.
01:21:54Thank you, uncle.
01:22:09I am thrilled.
01:22:11I have the blessing.
01:22:14But I feel guilty as all hell.
01:22:16Because he kept bringing up the fact, are you a liar?
01:22:20We do not lie.
01:22:22We do not.
01:22:23And that's making me feel guilty because I am lying.
01:22:37Amen.
01:22:38Amen.
01:22:39Amen.
01:22:42I want Daniel, but I have the secret that I've been with women for the past 21 years.
01:22:48I have the secret that I'm married still to a woman.
01:22:52But it's 21 years.
01:22:54It's not a mistake.
01:22:55It's who I am.
01:22:56And I'm so scared he's not going to understand that.
01:22:59Stop crying.
01:23:01Daniel is yours.
01:23:02You are his goal.
01:23:06I am so guilt-ridden because I love this man.
01:23:10And I just want to be open and honest and get this over with and see if he'll take me
01:23:14for who I am.
01:23:15But it's getting harder and harder as the time goes on.
01:23:19I don't know how I'm going to tell him.
01:23:32Next time on Before the 90 Days.
01:23:35I get to be the princess and now in the castle.
01:23:38Now I'll always be a princess.
01:23:39We're on this surprise romantic getaway, but I'm honestly having mixed feelings about it.
01:23:45I'm worried he's hiding more secrets.
01:23:48Can you tell me where your debt came from?
01:23:51Do you want the truth?
01:23:52Yeah.
01:24:03Do you realize everything you said about me since I got here has been negative?
01:24:07It makes me feel like we're never going to get married.
01:24:10We're never going to get engaged.
01:24:11This whole trip was a waste of my time.
01:24:15I'm just at my breaking point.
01:24:17I deserve some answers.
01:24:19Am I the girl that you want to be with?
01:24:23It's glued on to the point where my wig is like bubblegum right now, stuck to my head.
01:24:28I have to take it off.
01:24:30Oh my God.
01:24:32I've been keeping my wig on because I know Daniel loves me with my long hair.
01:24:37I have no idea what he's going to think.
01:24:39But if he's going to marry me, he has to get used to it.
01:24:43Hey.
01:24:46Oh my God.
01:24:48What are you, ladies?
01:24:51All I hear is like, you're just constantly complaining about me all the time.
01:24:57I mean, you tell me I'm a downer.
01:25:00You tell me I'm not romantic.
01:25:02Sometimes I feel like I'm stepping on landmines.
01:25:05I don't know how to navigate around the landmines.
01:25:09I mean, Anna, do you regret, like, marrying me?
01:25:16Baby, there's something I've been keeping from you.
01:25:20Explain yourself.
01:25:22In those five days when you weren't talking to me, I decided to book a trip to Colombia and be
01:25:30with my ex.
01:25:32Shut up.
01:25:33It was a mistake.
01:25:34Shut up.
01:25:37Jesus.
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